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39: the wisdom of feeling lost · Soul Salon with Ayandastood

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The Western mind wants to overemphasize what can be known,
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so as to assert dominance on an unknowable reality.
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Hello sunshine and welcome back to paradigm shift with I understood,
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a place where we reframe what is and reimagine what could be.
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I hope you enjoy today's episode.
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Let's paradigm shift together.
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Hello divine being.
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Hello soul siblings.
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I missed you.
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Welcome, welcome back.
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I am so grateful and excited to have you with me here today.
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And I just always love coming back into this space.
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Thank you for receiving me and thank you for listening or watching.
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Today I'm so excited to talk to you about something that has really been in my heart recently.
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And that is this idea of the wisdom of being lost.
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So if you are feeling lost in your life, you're feeling like
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you're deeply confused.
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You don't know why you're here or what you're meant to be doing.
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Or there's this huge gap between the life you feel you're meant to be living
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and the life that's accessible to you.
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Anything that resonates with you on this plane or dimension of being that is
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the feeling of being lost, the feeling of being in that deep state of confusion,
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of lack of knowing, I want to really invite you into a different perspective
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on this state of being.
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So first I want to say that in the Western imagination, in the colonial consciousness,
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there is a huge amount of weight placed on knowing.
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When you are feeling lost, you are actually in a very deep form of consciousness
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that the Western imagination will not invite you to see as such because it privileges
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knowingness, the state of knowing, and a very particular way of knowing
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as the highest form of being.
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So whenever you are in a state where you are acknowledging what you do not know
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and that there is so much you don't know what to do, who you are, where to go, right?
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You feel less than because you've grown up in a consciousness that has told you
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to put on a pedestal this state of control, dominance over your reality, clarity,
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direction, all of this language.
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When truly you are in a deeper connection with the universe if you are feeling lost
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because you are acknowledging that the unknown is so much greater than the known
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that will always be true.
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We live in an infinite universe.
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There is so much we cannot know.
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The paradigm tells us that this is something that we should be ashamed of.
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If you're lost, I'm telling you you are in deeper connection and truth
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with the state of the world and the universe.
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Okay, I love you.
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So what the colonizer came and said was I think therefore I am.
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So equating beingness, ontology, with ability to think, to have this cognition.
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And we know that in the West, people's how people are treated and regarded
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in the social hierarchies that Western imagination has created and has protected and maintained
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are really rooted in the fact that if you have access to knowledge, especially the kind of knowledge
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that you can only gain in elite spaces and institutions, you are put on a pedestal.
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You are seen as being worthy of having more privileges, more access and even more personhood
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and that the colonizer, the whole process of colonialism deeply involved saying that we,
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the white people are the thinking ones, especially the white man.
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You, the indigenous are the savages.
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You don't know anything.
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You don't think, you know, you don't have cognition.
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They did brain studies.
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They said as black people, as brown people, your brains are not as developed.
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There's this whole frenology, which is basically this false pseudo science of studying
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and mapping the brain.
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In fact, the idea of high brow and low brow actually comes from that race of science
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and just speaks to how they weaponize the paradigm of science to serve their own ends.
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The whole paradigm of science and of scientific knowledge,
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while it obviously offers so much, and I'm not anti-science, but I am anti the weaponization
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of science against other dimensions of knowing and being, things like spirituality,
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things like mysticism, things like animism, this idea that in the West it's just understanding
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that only humans are basically full of aliveness and potential ways.
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In a lot of indigenous cultures, there's this idea that even the trees are speaking to us,
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that the leaves are bristling in a certain way with aliveness, with animism, with character,
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with personality.
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We may even name a tree or name a plant or a rock and feel the energy of that rock.
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And to the Western mind, that sounds completely ridiculous, right?
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But even that notion of ridicule and the notion of what is absurd is obviously shaped by this
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consciousness, this colonial consciousness.
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So with that, we know that knowing and the ability to know and the state of knowing
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is privileged in this world, because even if you are not listening to this from the West,
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as you know, the way that imperialism and all of these structures have worked and white supremacy
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and the exportation or the export of Western ideals to the global self has happened,
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that we are all influenced by this paradigm of understanding, that if you know things,
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you are in a higher state of being.
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So then we come to the state in our lives where we feel lost, we feel like we don't know which way
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to go, we feel like we don't know who we are, we don't know who we were supposed to be in this
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world, and we feel like we are living in a lesser than state of being. Why am I so lost?
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Why don't I know which way to go?
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And yet if you really think of this infinite universe and how unknowable so many things in the
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universe are and how even in the paradigm of science, they learn one thing and then they say,
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oh no, we were wrong. You know what I mean? There's always this deepening of knowledge, meaning
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that the state of knowledge we thought we were in actually wasn't as knowing as we thought it was
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at the time. So what that means is that when we feel lost, we're actually coming into a deeper
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state of consciousness. Why? Because we really don't know. You know, we really don't know that the
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universe is full of the unknowable and the Western mind wants to overemphasize what can be known
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so as to assert dominance on an unknowable reality, so as to assert institutionalization and
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frameworks and understandings and rankings and order and hierarchy on a chaotic world.
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And so how that affects us on a deep spiritual level is when we don't know, when we feel lost,
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when we feel like, what the fuck am I doing? You know, what am I even doing? You know, I feel like
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this often where I sometimes feel very lost. But what I want to invite us into is this feeling of like,
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what do we actually receive in terms of wisdom? Because everything has the both and the yin and
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yang. The universe, fire can make us warm or it can burn our house down, right? Water can nourish us
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and replenish us and hydrate us or it can cause a complete flood. So everything happens in this
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delicate balance and when it's out of balance, we feel the sense of chaos and disorder. So when we
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feel lost, it's not just like being lost is a terrible thing and we should feel ashamed or we
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should feel wrong or like we are living a kind of less than state. It's really that there's also
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something the universe gives to us when we are in that state of being lost. So if we think of it
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in terms of give and take, which of course is making a dual when it's really much more complex
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than that, while we may feel like we've lost the stable ground beneath our feet, what have we
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gained? We've gained this kind of deeper connection to the absurdity, the expansion, the discovery
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available in the universe. When you lost, you don't know which way to go. You feel like, how can I
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know what to do? And yet, how true is that? How can any of us know what to do? Many of us are living
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according to a kind of false clarity. And again, in the Western imagination, clarity, direction,
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all of these words are a structure, are seen as higher, better, more valuable, more worthy of
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living a life. And so when we find ourselves without direction, just kind of spinning in a circle,
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not knowing, lost in the forest, not knowing which way to go, we feel less than. But what I want to
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remind you is when you don't know which way to go, you are in touch with the wisdom of the fact
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that we don't know which way to go. Because even that person who's living according to their five
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year plan, what happens? Life happens because life does not go according to plan. So there is a false
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kind of clarity that also can be a kind of illusion. I know exactly why I'm here and I know exactly
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what I'm doing and I know exactly what, you know, drives me. And then we hear these stories,
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something happens. Suddenly people are like, I don't know who the fuck I am. Like I literally,
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the rug has been pulled out from under me. So what I want to say is let's use this image of being
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lost in a forest. What do you gain in that state? There is background noise. I love you. Okay, we're
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just going to vibe because we are part of a shared world and we don't get to control the sounds
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of the sides of the anything. Okay. So and again, the West is also obsessed with idea of control.
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So when we think of being lost, look at what the sound gave me an entry point. When we think of
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being lost, we think of this lack of control. And again, the lack of control is associated to the
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savage. They can't control themselves. Look at their bodies. The idea of anti-blackness and
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anti-facness is that it's this notion of like this being that cannot control themselves. They are not
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as disciplined. They are not as ordered. They are not as structured. They are not as controlled
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as the white man, right? So anything that is associated to the lack of discipline, to the lack of
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control is seen as a lesser than state of being. It's seen as unworthy of being celebrated or even
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being acknowledged. So when we are lost in the forest, what do we gain? Okay, so it's confusing.
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We're in the state of despair. We're like, oh, my word, I'm scared. I don't know which way to go.
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I'm maybe it's dark. I don't what if what if something comes and finds me? What if there's a threat
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that's coming my way? And our imagination in the state of consciousness goes to the worst.
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We project our worst fears onto our surroundings. We project our worst fears onto each other.
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So if we think to ourselves, oh, no, like, what am I going to do? I'm never going to find my way.
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We've all felt, I mean, I'm sure at some state in your life, you've felt both
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spiritually lost, spiritually lost, and also physically lost, okay? So when we are lost in the
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forest, we don't know which way to go. And our imagination is imagining the worst because we can't
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cling to anything. We can't say, oh, no, I've walked this path a hundred times. And so there is no
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security. And that's the whole idea, Alan Watts has booked the wisdom of insecurity that it's
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actually much more wise to say that you cannot fully, you know, you'll, you'll always feel anxious
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if you try to seek absolute security because absolute security is against the nature of life.
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That actually all life is kind of a form of anxiety. And when you're in that state, you're actually
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in a very wise state. So when we're lost in the forest, what happens next, okay? We pick away,
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because we have to, we feel this, I mean, I mean, if I need to go home, I need to go home. So I
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pick away. And if I pick away, then typically what happens is I discover something along that way.
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And that is the kind of counterbalance. What I said about water, both drowning, but also
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nourishing. I think being lost, it both confuses us, but it also gives us this opportunity to
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discover. And that's a big reframe that I've been really inviting in is I'm not lost. I'm discovering.
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I'm discovering exactly what I need to know. In order to walk the path, I feel I'm meant to be walking.
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You cannot discover if you are on as much, let's say, if you are on this certain and this
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tried and, you know, trusted path. Yes, there may be surprises that enter the path. There could be a
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hyena that comes or a parrot that comes, life will always give us options to discover. But when
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we are lost, we're in this cracked open state of absolute discovery. And the coolest thing about
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that state is what it allows us to be open to. What do I mean by that? You must be familiar with
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the saying when the student is ready, the teacher appears. So in the context of being lost, what does
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that mean? When we are lost, we are seeking the ones that could be humans, teachers. It could be
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a certain approach to nature. It could be a habit. It could be a dance. It could be a practice. We are
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seeking the ones that will find us. So we are in this vulnerable state of openness where we are
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sort of seeking the medicine that's going to help us feel more whole and more found within this
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new version of ourselves. So what has opened up is possibility. And let me just take us through this
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for a second. In the West, there is an understanding of linear time, but in indigenous cultures,
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and I don't want to homogenize them, but I'll just use that framing for now. In anti-colonial
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consciousness, there is this understanding of cyclical time and there is this understanding
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of birth and death in life. Okay? So that we are actually not just dying on the day that we
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physically die, but in fact, we are always and already dying and being born. What does that mean?
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When we are lost, we are grieving this date of consciousness or the relationship to reality
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or the relationship to self we used to have. Why are we so lost? Why is it that on Sunday we
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were fine and then on Monday we feel lost or in February we were fine and then in March we feel
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lost because we cannot relate to our lives, to our reality, to everything around us the way we did
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in February. We are literally, we've constituted like a new being. Now things that we used to tolerate
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are intolerable. Now things that we used to find clear are confusing because we have become a
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kind of new being. So there's been a death of a certain consciousness. Why? Because how can we
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feel lost if not that? If not, there's something that used to be true for us that is no longer true.
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So there's a death, but what do I say nature gives and takes? So there is a birth. There is a
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rebirth happening. Each time we are lost, we are being reborn, cyclical time. And what happens when
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we are reborn? Think of a baby. They can't do anything. All they do is cry. Okay, I love babies.
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That's not to, but what I mean is, okay, they can do so much. Love you babies. You're the best.
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But basically what I mean by that is there are so many things you can now do that you no longer,
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that you used to not be able to do. So you can walk. You had to learn how to walk. Or if you can't
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walk, you can talk. And you had to learn how to talk. You can conceive of your reality in a
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certain way. You had to learn that. You know what the color red means in the collective consciousness.
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You had to learn that. So there's, you were lost, but it opened up the possibility to be reborn.
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And in that rebirth to find the teachers you needed to learn the things you needed to learn to
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live a life. Okay. And in that case, the teachers were everyone around you. And so now when you find
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yourself lost, that part of you is, there's a part of you that's dying. And it's very strange to
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people who have not grown up with the conception of death in life. It's like, wait, no, how can that be?
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And also in the West in mind, there is the shunning of death. And so there's this lack of understanding
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of how to really grapple with death, how to grieve death collectively. There's cultures where you
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grieve death altogether for many days, singing, dancing, crying together. There's a collective grieving
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process. I think I learned that in Judaism, there's like a seven day process of grieving, right?
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So there's like these, all these different cultures that are really rooted in an understanding
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of death as part of life, but also as us being able to hold that death and that grief together.
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So now when you are lost, something has died. I'll offer you that. It's an invitation. We can see
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what resonates and what doesn't. But something is also being born, a new self or a new relationship
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to self or a new relationship to reality, a new relationship to truth is being born. Why is it
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that when we learn something really shocking, like a paradigm shift, we can never see the world
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again. And sometimes we feel so isolated because the people around us still see the world, you know,
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that other way. And now we're like, this is intolerable. I can't see the world that way anymore.
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I can't participate in these things anymore. I can't say these things or listen to these things
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anymore, even if I was never saying them, it's enough. Why? Because the version of me who was
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able to put up with this or who even didn't even know there was something to be put up with has
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died. And another being has been born. Okay. So in that rebirth comes all the opportunity to grow
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and to learn, but it's deeply uncomfortable. You can just picture how natural that is, though,
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as a process. Think of nature, any sort of being that's cracking into the next phase, whether it's
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an egg cracking open or kind of this caterpillar cracking into a butterfly. We can see that metamorphosis
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has a bit of pain in it. Like they don't really look comfortable. They're usually like,
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like there's like crying babies cry. There's a lot of like screeching. It's a painful process,
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right? So something that old self, the version of the being that was comfortable in the egg,
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that version has to die because now the egg is cracking open. So now it's the rebirth,
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but that is painful. The version of us that was in the womb and like cruising there is has died.
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And now what has been born, the version of us that must enter the physical world and live in that
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world and contend with the stresses and the joys of that world. And the fact that they don't yet
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have all the lessons they need to fully be in that world, you know? And so it's actually a very
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natural process that that feeling of being lost is deeply uncomfortable, but it's also part of the
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cycle of birth and rebirth of death and rebirth, right? The phoenix is rising from the ashes, a new
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phoenix, but because we haven't really been given the space to see this as a perfectly natural
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and a perfectly even beautiful process, we feel and also I will say because we carry this emotion
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on our own. So typically if we think of being lost in the forest, ideally we would be together
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navigating space and time and helping each other navigate the the discomfort of the unknown.
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Because when we were hunting gatherers not like we always knew what was coming our way, right?
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There were lots of threats that could come our way and things like that. Ideally because we were
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living in these collective tribes, we were holding that discomfort together and that's there's
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that incredible essay by Dr. Ayesha Khan who writes the cosmic Anarchy sub-sac that we can actually hold
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any emotion as difficult as it may be so long as we hold it in community, so long as we collectively
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grieve, so long as we collectively fear, so long as we collectively can hold space, we actually have
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all the wisdom within us to hold very painful emotions. The problem is in the way that the world
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is constructed, most of us are holding those things on our own. So when you're lost, instead of you
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being like, oh wow, you know, we are lost, you feel lost independently and because the Western
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imagination, and I know I keep bringing this up, it's because I think it plays a big role in shaping
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just how we conceive of the self even if we don't have in the West, but that also may be my bias
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as someone who like has been in the US for 10 years, and I will say that that bias lives in me
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uncomfortable, but yes, here we go, but that is really the perspective or part of my purpose I think
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is to frame things in terms of what the colonial consciousness has done and what we can hope for
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in response, and I'm not alone in this at all, to the Western mind, the self is the most important,
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is like the God-like figure of the society, all actualization must be achieved through and by
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the self, all realization of potential must be happened through the self, you must become your
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highest self, you must become your best self, right? The self is really placed on this pedestal,
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so because of that, when we feel like in some way, it's like versus the collective, right? Like we're
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not all up at night, like oh no, what happens if the collective doesn't realize it's well-being
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goals, you know, it's really about what if I don't achieve my health goals, and obviously we're all
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very different, but that's just what a lot of cultural messaging, we are receiving, and because
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of Western Germany, that's just a lot of the cultural messaging the world is receiving is this
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projection of this kind of self-obsession and self-development and self-realization,
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rather than the self as part of a whole, the self as part of a collective, the self as a
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reflection of the collective, and so the self feeling a certain way as sort of a symptom of a
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deeper wound within the collective consciousness and the way that the society is structured, so
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when we feel lost and we feel we feel this on our own, we feel that we're kind of failing because
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we are doing this and we because we are going against the essence of self that we've been taught
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to elevate, which is the self that's confident and knowing, knows where they want to go, knows
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what they want to do, knows their purpose in life, has a lot of knowing energy, confident energy,
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and even if they're not actually able to access true confidence, they must fake that confidence,
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right? Because it is embarrassing, it is shameful, it is unacceptable and intonrable to position
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yourself as unknowing or unconfident in this world, okay? That's been given. So when we feel
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lost and we're carrying that feeling of being lost on our own, there's this even deeper shame
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because we're failing in a sense at our job or role of being a certain self and knowing who that
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self is, what that self is doing and so on and so forth. So I think that's very important as well.
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I want to really emphasize the beauty of what I was saying around the fact that when we're lost
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we're open to teachers. A lot of these breaking points where we become a new self or a new
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iteration of being where we start to be in the world differently, it comes from the fact that in
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that state of being lost we are cracked open. So what are we doing? We're searching for different
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things, we're looking for different kinds of voices, we're looking for different kinds of music,
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we're looking for different kinds of podcasts, we're relating to ourselves and to the world a bit
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differently because we're seeking something else because a new self has been born and so with
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that I think it's really beautiful because some of us, some of our favorites works or podcasts,
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we found in the state of feeling lost, I'll give an example. I remember feeling so lost as to because
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I worked in the corporate world and then I was like, this is not my purpose and then I was like,
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what am I meant to do next? And I started listening to Sahara Rose's podcast, The Highest Self
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and I had lots of synchronicities like this where the right teacher was arriving for me to help
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me unfold into who I was always meant to be and that, I'll link to that podcast below, it's a beautiful
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resource, she's incredible, I love her and I love her energy and I just know we're going to collaborate
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in some way someday, it's just divine unfolding, I already know it's happening, but essentially
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it's just a, if I hadn't not only felt lost but had the awareness to know I was lost and to do
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something to, in a sense, be found, I wouldn't have found her podcast because I wouldn't have had
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the consciousness not like that was seeking her podcast. So yes, that old self died, but the
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self that was born was seeking different lessons, was seeking different teachers and was seeking to
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relate to reality in a different way, okay? And I think that is so beautiful because when we are
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lost, we crack open to each other, like we are ready to surrender to each other, have you ever had
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that feeling where you just listen to someone and you like, take me, I'm yours, as in I'm surrendering
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to your point of view, I'm surrendering to this journey you're taking me on, not to say I'm just
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going to completely like copy everything that you think, but really it's that I'm so open and I'm
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so lost that what and I trust your frequency, I trust the energy that you emit and that you are
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radiating into the universe, I trust your intention, I trust your experience, so I'm going to surrender
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and in the worst again, very unpopular to surrender must be fighting, must be in control,
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must be dominating versus this idea of surrender, right? Surrendering to what is, surrendering to
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a teacher that you believe in, not in like a cult leader, follow away, but more in a deep love
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and appreciation way of like, I'm ready to receive, I've been giving and giving and giving and
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I want to receive, I've been stressing in my own consciousness, what if yours is the key that can
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unlock something that was already within me? So when we are open in that way, it's really,
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really beautiful and I think when you have a whole culture or society that acknowledges that
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they're lost, they are seeking different kinds of knowing and that is the spiritual awakening we
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are witnessing and we've been witnessing for these years, is people have recognized something is
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wrong with how I'm living, something is wrong with how I'm feeling, something is wrong with how I'm
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being made to relate to myself and to want to all of you. So what do we do? We go on YouTube or
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we go to talks or we speak to friends and we are seeking different answers. So that's why now in
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the collective consciousness, we are so much more spiritually wise and it's really a return
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back to our original wisdom, you know, as beings of this earth that we are actually deeply intuitive
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and wise beings that have in many ways been alienated from some of that wisdom as it has been
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denigrated by colonialism and by power structures that want to reduce our reality to the most
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sterile version of it so that capitalism can thrive because when what does capitalism make gods out
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of money, status, celebrity and the self, right? So we always need gods and there's actually no way
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that we can relate as human beings to the world without them and by gods I mean like deities,
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goddesses, we need something to worship. That is why people are so obsessed with celebrities. We as
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human beings, we cannot relate to reality without putting our faith in something and I guess you
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could say there are atheists, yes, however, and that is fair. Okay, I'm trying to get better at
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like accepting that I also sometimes there's atheism which is the idea of not believing in any
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higher power. I think that is valid and true and it contradicts what I just said which is fine
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because embrace the contradictions and the truth is a paradox and so what I think though in
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reaction to that is the culture has gods even if individuals don't oh she brought it back okay
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the culture has gods we live in a society that has gods even if it claims even if you live in a
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country that claims to be secular the god could be the way that you know the government is structured
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or the idea of a president like why should they even be a president the god could be the notion
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of the elites okay the notion of whose voice we just feel like oh I must listen to them it could be
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I think that the main god is like celebrity and status money wealth all of those things are gods
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that we are all either worshipping or made to worship we want to be closer to the divine
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whether or not we believe in a strict construct we want those transcendent experiences it's deep
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that's also the role of spiritual beauty is to bring us closer to that feeling of expansion of
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the ethereal of the absolute like of the sublime the sublime is a part of human life it always has
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been it always will be why have all peoples adorned themselves not only in beads and colors and
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the beautiful jewelry and face painting and henna beads and from South Africa to India to Nigeria
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to Colombia to Mexico right to native peoples to black peoples across the diaspora African-Americans
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like Aboriginal people in Australia Chinese people Korean people everyone of those of those
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cultures if you go back or even today there is a beauty practice rooted in the culture right and
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that could be physical adornment it could be music it could be incense it could be drums it could
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be singing together and harmonizing beauty is a deeply spiritual practice and Jessica DeFino
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who's substack is the unpublishable this idea of industrialized beauty versus spiritual beauty
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is something that I learned from her and I have a podcast episode on that and I think that's
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such a powerful idea that rather than this transcendent spiritual mystical kind of beauty divine kind
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of beauty that's accessible to everyone in a world that's not rooted in harm and hierarchy and
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violence in the way we were meant to live that was accessible and now it's being packaged and sold
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in this kind of way that like you can't buy what actually what beauty actually is you know what I
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mean it and that's confusing because in this world you can but in the in the looking at this world
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through the lens of a different kind of consciousness you beauty is not something that can be packaged
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in a serum bottle and sold beauty is a deeply spiritual practice and spiritual relationship to
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each moment and how we can make it more beautiful and how we can connect to each other through beauty
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so I don't know how I got there but essentially when we feel like we are lost and we feel like we
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are in the state of not knowing we are open to each other's beauty because there's a beauty in
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how someone sings a song and then now suddenly we're open to that right so we're opening ourselves up
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to new voices to new understandings and so we we have to understand both the death and the
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rebirth because if we only grieve or mourn or if we only feel the complete like what the fuck the
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confusion but we don't see like whoa that's so wise of course I'm confused I'm living on a
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floating rock nothing is what it seems the world feels like it's crumbling at all times and yet
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I must continue to proceed to keep going I have this consciousness that knows life could be different
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but I can't fully access that difference in this reality it seems I feel scared of even the things
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I desire things don't feel as possible as I wish they did there's all these reasons to feel very
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lost right and so I think it's just knowing that in this cycle even the people who you see who
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look so confident and so clear on their lives they will cycle into the feeling of being lost because
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it's part of the human cycle it's not avoidable is if you are an aware person if you're in a state
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of deeper awareness you will feel the full spectrum of what this life has to offer you and being
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lost is one of them is one of them and it creates the contrast because when we do find ourselves
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in the desired state of being maybe we do really seek a kind of knowing like a kind of living our
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purpose living our truth that knowing that we are alive in the way that we feel like our
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aliveness is meant to be shared with the world then it's only through the contrast of knowing we
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were lost that we actually are able to fully experience and receive the state of feeling found
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or feeling at home you know the feeling of coming home to ourselves if you were always home
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you wouldn't even be home because you wouldn't have a concept that there was something else right
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it's just like how you never think I'm on the universe because where else would you be
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so we need that contrast to bring us into that sharper understanding and reality so if you are
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feeling lost this is just your reminder from the universe from the cosmos okay which we are all
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the universe experiencing itself okay I'm reflecting something channeled and I wanted to
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share it with you because I hope that it can help you just know that you are number one you are
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not alone okay I know it feels like you're feeling this they're carrying this on your own I want
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you to use your imagination and think of how many people on this dear planet earth feel lost at
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this moment and just breathe with them hmm we're so lost gravy cry it doesn't have to be that you're
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smiling it's not a pleasurable feeling but just acknowledging that my love it I'm so proud of you
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it takes such an awareness and such a commitment to being honest with yourself and radically
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truthful to admit that you are lost especially in a culture that demonizes that state
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so know you are not alone try to find the collective consciousness in the feeling even if you're
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carrying it on your own and number three ask yourself the daring question of what is this state
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inviting me into what can I tap into or access in this state of being of feeling lost of feeling
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deeply confused deeply uncertain that I actually wouldn't have been able to or felt invited to
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if I had felt the opposite because the universe is always inviting us into things always the bird
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that is chirping is inviting us to take a moment and listen the trees that are bristling
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inviting us to take a moment and contemplate the tree or be with the tree feel the tree relate to
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the tree that stranger who smiles at us and we quickly look down at our phones they're inviting
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us into a moment even if it's a moment of connection when someone reaches out to you they're
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inviting you into an opportunity that they see for both of you when someone creates something
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a movie a podcast a TikTok they're inviting you to watch it that's literally an invitation
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they know a lot of people will not watch it they know a lot of people won't listen but they're saying
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hey you're invited here it is here I am on your for you page of life here I am on your algorithm
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of life I'm here and if you want to participate if you want to feel moved be with me on this journey
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so we're always being invited and even when we're lost because the universe cannot exist without
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this multiplicity complexity it's more than duality but essentially it cannot just make you lost
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and leave you there are shame you are always being invited to experience something deeper beneath
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that discomfort or through that discomfort that you wouldn't necessarily have seen as possible
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or felt invited into without that particular frequency of being so what are you being invited to
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through the feeling of being lost at this time I want to leave you with that question and I want
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to say to you I've been feeling lost and I sat with that feeling and I was invited to create this for
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you so what a gift what a joy that we get to live in this reciprocal and beautiful relationship
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where our life's experiences can become or can be channeled into our deepest and most loving
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and most hard connected creations I love you so much I hope that you enjoyed this journey I'm like
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checking that it didn't sometimes my laptop's like storage full and I'm like what what like
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literally are you kidding me I can't I can't give that again it's not in me and yet it is and
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yet it was and yet it will be okay I love you so daily I hope you enjoyed this offering from
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our consciousness we are the collective welcome home babes welcome home and I'm sending you lots
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and lots of love don't forget to remember that being lost is a juicy experience as uncomfortable
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as it is it's full of juice and we need to invite ourselves to really experience and be in that juice
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because we will not always be lost it's just not how the universe is we will experience another state
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because the universe can only be experienced through contrast so that is why we kind of have
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this cycle through life so I'm I'm just saying to you that you will not be lost forever and
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that you are being invited into so many different perspectives dimensions experiences so there's
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many examples of this I wonder a time in your life where feeling lost actually led to that breakthrough
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because we love a breakthrough here this is why it's a paradigm shift you know what I mean and so
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I just am manifesting that for you that you are just unfolding and that life is here to be
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experienced not just the feelings we've been taught are good or the states of beings we've been
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taught are good and acceptable all of it belongs all of it is meant to be felt and experienced now of
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course that is in the purest sense I don't believe that in this hierarchical is like colonial
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consciousness capitalist and unsafe and gender unequal and gender violent and you know all of
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those things world I don't think that's meant to be experienced all I mean is this the the
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range of being states that you're experiencing are part of the universe like they they're all here
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and so it's inviting you to really be in that feeling be in that experience feel it in your whole
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body if it's safe for you so that you can release it also that you can alchemize it or understand it
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in a deeper way I love you so dearly I'm sending you all the love and I'll see you next week
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remember you are love and you are loved okay and what you seek is seeking you what you desire is
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desiring you okay I promise you I love you so much I will see you next week bye I hope some
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paradigms have been shifted for you in today's conversation as always if you can please leave a
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bye