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- There is a specific kind of silence that follows the sound of canvas tearing, and it is the most beautiful quiet I have ever known. It’s not emptiness; it’s space. I’ve been thinking a lot about what we talked about last week in 'How to Write When You Hate Your First Draft.' We spent a good chunk of time reframing that messy middle as something sacred, didn’t we? We called it essential. We called it a love letter to the process. And while I still believe that deeply, there’s another side to this coin that I haven’t quite touched yet. The side where you look at the page, or the canvas, or the script, and you realize it’s not just messy—it’s wrong. Not in a ‘needs editing’ way, but in a soul-level way. And sometimes, the only way forward is to burn the bridge behind you. Today, I want to talk about the relief of destroying a failed painting. Or a poem. Or a scene that just won’t breathe. Because there is a profound, almost physical release in deciding that something is no longer worth saving. Let’s be honest with each other for a moment. As women, as creators, as people who care deeply about our work, we carry a heavy guilt around unfinished things. We’re taught that persistence is a virtue, that if you just push through the discomfort, the masterpiece will emerge. So when a painting doesn’t work, when the colors are fighting each other instead of dancing, when the composition feels stiff and lifeless… what do we do? We keep going. We add more layers. We try to paint over the mistakes, hoping that enough white gesso will hide the truth. But here’s the thing about layers. They don’t hide anything. They just make the weight heavier. You start carrying this dead piece of art around like a stone in your pocket. You feel it every time you reach into your bag. Every time you glance at it on the easel, you feel that tiny tug of shame. Did I waste my time? Did I lie to myself about how good this was going to be? That guilt is exhausting. It drains the color from your whole week. So imagine this. It’s late. The house is quiet. You’re standing in front of the canvas, and you know, with absolute certainty, that it’s not working. Maybe it’s too derivative. Maybe it’s technically proficient but emotionally hollow. Maybe it’s just… sad. And instead of picking up the brush, you pick up the palette knife. Or maybe you just grab the edge of the canvas itself. And you tear it. Or maybe you pour turpentine over it until the image dissolves into a muddy grey soup. Or maybe you take it outside and shred it into confetti. There is a violence in this act, yes. But it’s not angry violence. It’s a cleansing violence. It’s the sound of a chain breaking. When that canvas rips, there’s a snap that echoes in your chest. It’s sharp. It’s immediate. And suddenly, the stone in your pocket is gone. You can breathe again. Your shoulders drop two inches. Your jaw unclenches. For the first time in weeks, you feel light. This isn’t giving up. This is liberation. It’s the realization that you are not defined by what you fail to create, but by what you have the courage to let go of. But why is it so hard to do? Why do we cling to these failures like they’re precious heirlooms? I think it’s because we confuse our work with our worth. In a world that constantly measures us by our output—by likes, by sales, by completed projects—we see failure as proof that we are inadequate. If this painting fails, then I am a failure. So we protect the failure. We keep it hanging on the wall as a reminder of what we need to fix. But that’s a trap. That’s the day job trap, if you will, where we trade our joy for a sense of obligation. We owe nothing to a bad painting. It owes nothing to us either. It’s just pigment and fabric. It has no feelings. It doesn’t care if you destroy it. In fact, it might prefer it. Let’s turn the page on this one. Literally. By destroying it, you are freeing yourself to start something true. Something that actually matters to you, not something that just looks impressive in a portfolio. And then comes the magic. After the destruction, after the cleanup, after you’ve swept up the shards of your ego and thrown them out… you pull out a fresh canvas. It’s blank. It’s terrifying. It’s beautiful. Because now, there is no pressure to be perfect. There is no ghost of the previous painting haunting the edges. There is just you, and the raw material, and the possibility of something new. This is where the real creativity lives. Not in the polished final product, but in this moment of total freedom. When you’ve already destroyed the worst-case scenario, you become brave. You take risks you wouldn’t have taken before. You mix colors you wouldn’t have dared to touch. You write sentences that are wild and weird and alive. Because you know, deep down, that if it goes wrong again, you’ll just tear it up. And that safety net allows you to fly higher than you ever have before. The destruction wasn’t an end. It was the beginning of your best work. I’m not saying we should be careless. I’m not saying we should churn out junk and toss it aside without thought. No, this is about discernment. It’s about knowing when to fight and when to fold. Sometimes, a painting needs more time. Sometimes, it needs a different perspective. But sometimes, it needs to die. And that’s okay. In fact, it’s necessary. Think of it as composting. You break down the old growth so that new roots can find nourishment. Your artistic soul needs that compost. It needs the nutrients of letting go. So today, I invite you to look at your own creative life. What are you holding onto that is dead? What project is draining your spirit instead of feeding it? Maybe it’s a book chapter that’s stuck. Maybe it’s a business idea that feels forced. Maybe it’s a relationship that looks good on paper but feels empty in practice. Give yourself permission to destroy it. To tear it up. To walk away. And then, watch what blooms in the space you’ve created. Grab your bookmark, we’re going deep into the beauty of starting over. I’m Kylie Eden, and I’ll be right here when you’re ready to turn the page. Until next time, be gentle with your mistakes, and bold with your beginnings.