Latest / None of Your Business Podcast / Every Child Deserves a Summer

Transcript

Every Child Deserves a Summer · None of Your Business Podcast

• 0:00
  Every rebbie in every classroom, No one's doing it for the money.
• 0:02
  My father's a rebbie. I want to be Rebbie.
• 0:03
  I offered you a job. You did.
• 0:05
  You offered me this mind blowing money to come into the working
• 0:08
  field, but I honestly didn't even consider it.
• 0:10
  I don't think there's any more fulfillment than going to Thomas
• 0:13
  Hassan and you're dancing at his wedding.
• 0:14
  And he turns to you and says, Rebbie, I am who I am today
• 0:17
  because of you. Business or she None of your
• 0:22
  business. Michael, it's the None of Your
• 0:24
  Business podcast hosted by Michael and OSHA.
• 0:26
  You ever been on a podcast? No, Really.
• 0:29
  Yeah, OK. I'm excited then.
• 0:31
  I mean I've seen a few the links one I just saw.
• 0:34
  Yeah. What do you think?
• 0:35
  It's nice. It's, I mean, it's a, it's a
• 0:36
  beautiful organization, obviously.
• 0:38
  Hold on a second, you did not just there's no way you watch
• 0:41
  the entire podcast. I watched the the status,
• 0:45
  whatever a few minutes, but I watched clips of those concerts.
• 0:49
  They did, you know, it's nice. It's just I.
• 0:52
  Had to do with our concert actually.
• 0:53
  We spoke about it here. It was funny 'cause it was more
• 0:55
  like a dinner. Yeah, it was like more couches.
• 0:58
  She. Explained it to.
• 0:58
  Us yeah, couch pool, event tables, events, but they had top
• 1:01
  line entertainment, they had Benny Levine, Tischler.
• 1:05
  I mean they had the real singers.
• 1:07
  It wasn't like I. Love how Tischler is top line
• 1:09
  these days, by the way. Good for him.
• 1:10
  He's Yeah, he stepped it up. Yeah.
• 1:12
  Yeah. To be honest with you, his voice
• 1:13
  is just so amazing that it's just hard not to appreciate.
• 1:16
  It no for sure. Yeah, I was at the Haas concert
• 1:18
  a few years ago and Alvin Freed came on stage and he was like
• 1:22
  blown away from he. He's saying is he rotten?
• 1:25
  You know, and he was like just blown away from, from his mom
• 1:30
  Freed, you know, Tisha wasn't born on when Freed was was.
• 1:34
  But he has an amazing voice. Yeah.
• 1:36
  Right, that was a big compliment.
• 1:38
  I'm not here to promote myself at all.
• 1:40
  People come on podcast for different reasons.
• 1:42
  People have like an agenda. People have like a scuffle
• 1:44
  agenda. They want to get out there, they
• 1:45
  want to get a message out. They want to start a movement.
• 1:47
  They want to do. I'm not any of that.
• 1:49
  I just have an organization that I feel passionate about that I
• 1:52
  care about a lot. And it's not just the an
• 1:55
  organization, it's it's an idea of the Muncie camp when it's
• 1:58
  just really not just an organization.
• 2:00
  It's an idea of that every kid needs to be in camp for the
• 2:03
  summer. So if someone hears this and
• 2:05
  they want to support them as a camp fund, that's great.
• 2:07
  But that's not why I'm here. I'm here because the idea that
• 2:11
  there are kids who spend the entire summer at home doing
• 2:14
  nothing, just smack of fun kids is is a travesty, is a terrible
• 2:20
  tragedy. And, and it's all because of
• 2:21
  financial constraints. That's terrible.
• 2:23
  So if a guy's listening to this in Lakewood, the guy's listening
• 2:26
  to this in the five towns and he knows a kid that's going to be
• 2:28
  sitting at home and he hears this and that kid goes to camp
• 2:31
  and has an amazing summer because of this, then that's the
• 2:33
  message I want to give up. And I'm not here to push an
• 2:35
  agenda. I'm not here to fight with
• 2:37
  anybody. I'm not here to, to do any of
• 2:39
  that. I'm just I'm a Rebbe.
• 2:41
  I care about kids and I care about clinical kids and they're
• 2:45
  from Kite and their overall health and, and growing into
• 2:49
  good people. And I hold that a summer is
• 2:53
  integral in that piece. So that's that's just why I'm
• 2:56
  here. OK, so I'll tell you the reason
• 3:00
  why I asked you to come on here, just so you know, is I love that
• 3:03
  you're running this organization.
• 3:05
  I'm a big fan of people that run organizations.
• 3:07
  I actually make it my mission to have at least once every 4-5,
• 3:10
  six episodes of people that run organizations.
• 3:13
  I feel like it's the core values of who we are as a Jewish
• 3:16
  community, that we support each other and that we fill in those
• 3:18
  gaps. This is an interesting 1.
• 3:20
  So I can't wait to get into it. But the real reason why I asked
• 3:23
  you to be here is because I like finding out the person that
• 3:25
  started an organization, Why did he start it and where did it
• 3:29
  come from? Who is that person?
• 3:31
  You may not think that you have a message or that you have that
• 3:34
  you know, something that you're, you know, you want to share with
• 3:36
  the world, but it'll come out and it comes out probably at the
• 3:40
  kiddush table and it comes out, you know, when you're schmoozing
• 3:42
  with people, walking with them. So that the idea that I have in
• 3:46
  terms of these discussions is, of course, I want to hear about
• 3:49
  the organization and what you do and how you do it and the
• 3:51
  importance of it. But I want to understand you and
• 3:53
  who you are and what it took you to start an organization, what
• 3:55
  the challenges were. What was it like for you when
• 3:57
  you thought about it to the beginning, in the beginning
• 3:59
  process? But first, let me welcome back
• 4:02
  everybody to the None of Your Business podcast.
• 4:04
  I'm your host, Michael Greenfield.
• 4:05
  With me, of course, is our beloved guest, Husky Sherman.
• 4:09
  Welcome to the program. Thank you so much to our
• 4:12
  subscribers, our listeners, our followers, our comments.
• 4:14
  And of course, we can't do this without the Prime Source
• 4:17
  production team. Prime Source does amazing things
• 4:19
  when it comes to marketing, branding, networking, social
• 4:22
  media building. And this is one of our platforms
• 4:24
  that we like to get out there. Unfortunately for you, the
• 4:28
  captain of the team that has been a winner consecutively year
• 4:31
  here, Oshi Schwartz, my Co host is again not here.
• 4:34
  And for those of you wondering, it's just a scheduling thing.
• 4:37
  It's a it's a thing where he's like when you have a celebrity,
• 4:39
  call me. Feels great.
• 4:42
  Yeah, Tusky, I hope that makes you feel good.
• 4:44
  You know, no, ultimately it's you know, it's Friday.
• 4:47
  It's you know, it's a few hours before Shabbos.
• 4:49
  I've done recordings on most of Shabbos, Saturday night.
• 4:52
  And it gets challenging with timing and he's doing a lot in
• 4:55
  terms of the prime source world. And if the schedule works great.
• 4:58
  And if not, you know, I don't mind the one-on-one, to be
• 5:00
  honest with you. And I, I'm actually enjoying
• 5:02
  them because I get to go a little bit deeper and a little
• 5:04
  bit less, less of the theatrics and.
• 5:07
  More intimate. A little bit more intimate.
• 5:10
  Exactly, exactly. That's that's the idea.
• 5:14
  So I'm going to start off with saying Ioffer you a job, true or
• 5:18
  not true? And I'm going to I'm going to
• 5:22
  say it comfortably here because this is a topic that is so
• 5:26
  interesting to me. And it's something that I feel
• 5:29
  like our community in Muncie and Sruli Rozelle specifically, it
• 5:33
  changed the dynamic of schools and systems in terms of teachers
• 5:36
  and Rabaim where he's paying them a wage that makes it worth
• 5:39
  it for them to actually be a teacher.
• 5:42
  I'm Hannah and in fact, I have a friend of mine in Lakewood.
• 5:46
  His name is Kami and I'm going to shout him out now.
• 5:49
  And he is the creator of the most annoying song in the world.
• 5:54
  Do you know the most annoying song in the world?
• 5:58
  No. 1877 Cars for kids. Cars for kids?
• 6:04
  Yes, sure, of course. Rob Edmonds paid him 10 bucks
• 6:06
  for that song. He has a plaque on his wall.
• 6:08
  He's very proud of it. He is a marketing genius, a
• 6:11
  creator of huge, huge dynamic companies that gives Daf Yomi.
• 6:15
  He's he's, I don't know if it's Daf, but he gives Cher.
• 6:17
  Very smart guy, very intelligent guy.
• 6:20
  I use him all the time to bounce ideas off him for branding.
• 6:23
  He he owned a company called Banquest Credit Card Company
• 6:26
  System. He's creating a system for
• 6:27
  Shidokhim where you employ a shotgun.
• 6:32
  Imagine the concept. Your own personal shotgun.
• 6:34
  Your own personal shotgun that works on your behalf.
• 6:36
  And they get paid a regular salary.
• 6:38
  So shatranim get paid a regular salary to do the job as a
• 6:42
  shliach. Of course of Hashem, similar to
• 6:44
  a teacher or mahanek, which is more than just a shliach.
• 6:47
  It's, you know, you're a shliach of a parent, you're a messenger
• 6:50
  of a parent to do the job that we can't do.
• 6:53
  So I have to, I have to get into that.
• 6:56
  Ioffer you a very nice salary package.
• 6:59
  I offered you something that I think would take 10 years for
• 7:02
  someone to get such a package of a salary and you denied it and
• 7:06
  you said no. And you said you wanted to go
• 7:08
  into Henoch and you want to stay in Henoch and you're in a non
• 7:11
  for profit world. Can I ask you how are you able
• 7:14
  to afford to say no? And how could other people who
• 7:16
  want to go in the world of Henoch and that world of
• 7:19
  teaching others and influencing others and opening organizations
• 7:23
  have the confidence to say no to a six figure salary?
• 7:27
  So, so let's we'll go back to how it all started.
• 7:30
  I worked for Michigan Ooth and Camp Clever as a head counselor
• 7:33
  and Michiganoth saw me and we were negotiating my original
• 7:35
  salary. This is like 10 years ago.
• 7:38
  And he just stops me for a second.
• 7:39
  He says, I want to introduce it to my partner, Michael Hindry
• 7:42
  Field and he says you would be amazing in sales and we do sales
• 7:47
  and we do healthcare and we you'd be amazing at that.
• 7:50
  You, you have this neck. And I said, come on, I'm not I'm
• 7:53
  like 26 years old, 27 maybe. I wasn't getting into this going
• 7:56
  into the world. My father's a ready.
• 7:57
  I want to be ready. And you did.
• 7:59
  You offered me this very, very for me for sure.
• 8:02
  It's 27 year old mind blowing money to come into the working
• 8:05
  field, but I honestly didn't even consider it because I have
• 8:10
  a passion to. I grew up in a home.
• 8:12
  My father is can I know is still a Rebbe and Ari crowned in
• 8:15
  Chicago. Ari crowned everyday school and
• 8:18
  it's when you sometimes have a dream that you want to pursue so
• 8:22
  you don't give up on that dream very easily.
• 8:23
  Even when it comes to money and I think every Rebbe in every
• 8:27
  classroom, no one's doing it for the money.
• 8:29
  You know that even with all the help and initiatives and the
• 8:32
  cast they leaves and the bonuses and the bumps and salaries over
• 8:36
  the year, no rebbies in the classroom because he's doing it
• 8:39
  as a financial reason. He's doing it because he has a
• 8:43
  passion to teach Taylor to help kids Dyke to help that kid who
• 8:48
  never had a chance. And when the there's a flutter
• 8:51
  obey him to who are looking for jobs and you'd be surprised.
• 8:55
  You think like you know there's not enough for him to go around
• 8:59
  every year. I can tell you, YSVI can tell
• 9:02
  you other schools that have hundreds of applicants from
• 9:05
  Lakewood people will travel for two hours every day each way to
• 9:09
  sit in front of 2728 kids and teach them Tiger for a salary
• 9:14
  that doesn't pay the bills. Every Rebbe has a second job.
• 9:18
  Every Rebbe has an afternoon job.
• 9:20
  Every tutors tutors a kid lanes is about Curry is something has
• 9:25
  does something else to fill that that void of that financial
• 9:29
  void. But they do it because they love
• 9:30
  it because there's nothing. There's a certain seat book.
• 9:33
  There's a certain feeling that you get that when you in front
• 9:36
  of a classroom and you teach a block of Morrow, you teach
• 9:39
  Mishnah and a kid gets it. And you see a kid who was
• 9:42
  beginning the year couldn't read and now it's Hanukkah time and
• 9:45
  he's reading so confluently because you put in that because
• 9:48
  there's nothing like it. There's nothing like there's no
• 9:51
  there's no better fulfillment. I think in every line of work,
• 9:55
  most important thing is a person should come home and he should
• 9:57
  feel accomplished and fulfilled. And the saddest thing is when a
• 10:00
  guy goes to sleep at night and he looks at his days like what I
• 10:04
  do today. So even if I made money, but I
• 10:07
  think that I don't know. I don't know if that gets old.
• 10:10
  Eventually you want to really have real fulfillment.
• 10:12
  And I don't think there's any more fulfillment than going to
• 10:15
  Thomas Hasna, like dancing at your third grade, Thomas Hasna
• 10:19
  that you kept up with for the last 15 years, 20 years.
• 10:23
  And you're dancing at his wedding.
• 10:24
  And he turns to you and he whispers in your ear and he
• 10:26
  says, Rebbe, I, I am who I am today getting married as a
• 10:30
  healthy kid because of you. And I would look back and said,
• 10:33
  I had you in 3rd grade. And he says, you have no idea.
• 10:37
  You have no idea what you've done for me.
• 10:39
  And my father could tell you stories of endless amounts of
• 10:42
  kids, 10's and he's a lot older than me and he's been through it
• 10:45
  for many years. Kids who tell me I'm only from
• 10:48
  because of you. I'm only keep Shabbos because of
• 10:50
  you. I only be able to be a father
• 10:52
  and be healthy because of you. I mean, everybody could tell you
• 10:55
  these stories. A Rebbe has no, no time
• 10:58
  constraints. There's no such thing as I'm too
• 11:00
  busy for a Talmud. Everybody will tell you they'll
• 11:03
  do whatever they can for every Talmud.
• 11:05
  Where do you find it in the business world?
• 11:06
  So you offered me a job that I'll come into the business
• 11:08
  world, I'll pay my bills, I won't have to struggle.
• 11:12
  But in the end of the day, it's, it's just, I want to this
• 11:16
  fulfillment, this, this idea of teaching, growing and being
• 11:21
  involved in the entire Islam, you know, just to be able to, I
• 11:23
  feel very blessed to be able to get up in the morning, go to
• 11:27
  Shakos and yeshiva, be amongst a bunch of backroom.
• 11:29
  And then my 9:00 to 5:00 is opening tomorrow.
• 11:32
  Wow, that's. Special.
• 11:33
  You know what? This conversation is very, very
• 11:35
  special. It's something that I, you know,
• 11:37
  like you said in the beginning, you thought this is all about
• 11:39
  bowling and about summer camp. It's really not.
• 11:41
  It's really not. That's not what this is about.
• 11:43
  It's about who you are, where we're going.
• 11:45
  So let's break that down for a little bit, if you don't mind.
• 11:48
  I think you're, you were lucky in a way to have that passion
• 11:50
  built inside of your DNA because you grew up in that environment
• 11:53
  you mentioned a minute ago. So and I'd love to explore that
• 11:56
  world of yours, where you're from and all that.
• 11:58
  We'll get that in a second. I'm just let's focus on this
• 12:01
  topic. And I'm doing that because
• 12:02
  someone in the comments and some people have told me in the past,
• 12:04
  stick to that conversation and finish it before you jump to the
• 12:07
  next one. So my ADD is kicking in and it's
• 12:09
  reminding me to do that. So thank you for commenting and
• 12:12
  keep it coming. We selectively listen to those
• 12:15
  that make sense. So as a Rebbe or someone that
• 12:19
  grew up in a Rebbe environment, you, I guess you saw it and you
• 12:21
  felt it with your dad and you saw that, you know, he had been
• 12:24
  inspired by students, etcetera. What, what does the 2021 year
• 12:28
  old, 22 year old do when he doesn't have that?
• 12:31
  He's he's sitting around and he just finished, you know, TC
• 12:34
  America's ratio. It doesn't make a difference
• 12:36
  which school he went to in Israel or what college he just
• 12:39
  finished just because he had to get his degree and they don't
• 12:43
  know what they want to do. So I'm curious from your
• 12:45
  perspective and your experience and all the different teenagers
• 12:49
  and adults that you've seen grow and having this perspective and
• 12:52
  this idea, how do you break it down?
• 12:55
  How make believe I'm the 21 year old coming to you?
• 12:57
  And I'm saying, Rebbe, I need your help.
• 13:00
  I need your help. Please tell me what I should do.
• 13:02
  I don't think I'm passionate about anything right now.
• 13:05
  I just know I want to make money, you know, So like, I know
• 13:08
  I want to support a family. And of course, you know, I, I
• 13:11
  respect and, and I want to learn and I want to, you know, I
• 13:14
  respect the Torah and the values, but what do I do?
• 13:16
  How do I find my passion? What do I do?
• 13:18
  Yeah, so I I would tell Abacha, let's say come back from my soul
• 13:21
  even beforehand. There's no years of your life
• 13:24
  that you can use then the years of high school, Yeshiva,
• 13:29
  Bismetris, even Aries to Seoul for learning innovation.
• 13:33
  Once you have a family and your bills and think there's, you're
• 13:37
  never going to get back to the amount of time that you could
• 13:39
  devote yourself to learning and real learning with no
• 13:42
  interruptions, no distractions. But let's say even a boy, like
• 13:45
  you said, he's coming back from he's 2122 and he's thinking
• 13:48
  about he's thinking about getting a job and he's not the
• 13:50
  best learner and he's his, his dream and his path is not to
• 13:53
  send the best managers all day. I mean, he like again, he has a
• 13:56
  scuffle from his Rebeam to learn and he and he knows that Tyra is
• 13:59
  the ICAR and Tyra and then came he knew, but it's not his
• 14:03
  doesn't give him that enjoyment and fulfillment.
• 14:05
  So, and a lot of about him have this, this issue.
• 14:08
  And I would, what I tell, like tell me them to come to me is,
• 14:12
  is you have to just do something that you're going to go to
• 14:15
  sleep, like I said, and you can feel that you're being
• 14:18
  productive and you're feeling that you having fulfillment and
• 14:20
  you're only going to get there for something that you enjoy,
• 14:22
  right? The old cliche of, of enjoy what
• 14:24
  you do. Don't work a day in your life.
• 14:26
  It's so real. It's so real.
• 14:27
  Rabaim, don't fetch and complain because they love what they do.
• 14:30
  And there's people who I see all the time.
• 14:32
  They come home from work and they're smiling and they go to
• 14:35
  work. And I'm sure you have tons of
• 14:36
  employees who, who have the sentiment that they, when you
• 14:39
  enjoy what you do. So you have to really number one
• 14:41
  thing is look for something that's going to give you
• 14:43
  fulfillment in life. And if it's just going to be
• 14:45
  sales and cold calls and going through and, or any type of work
• 14:48
  that you're going to have to, you have to, I've brought in
• 14:51
  laws who got into different jobs and the main thing they looked
• 14:54
  for was something that they would enjoy doing and something
• 14:56
  that there was growth and something that they felt they're
• 14:58
  working for good people. And from there, they just, you
• 15:02
  know, they were very much they just so the most important thing
• 15:05
  is just do something you're going to love, do something
• 15:07
  you're going to enjoy and, and do something that you're going
• 15:10
  to feel good about yourself. You're going to get married.
• 15:12
  You're going to your wife's going to respect you.
• 15:13
  You're going to respect yourself.
• 15:14
  Your kids are going to respect you.
• 15:15
  What you do, you know, Tati does this Tati, Oh, what's your
• 15:18
  father do? He's, you know, he's even in any
• 15:21
  industry. He's in this, in this industry,
• 15:23
  but he's, he's a Bento. He learns at night, he learns in
• 15:26
  here he goes. Think, think it through.
• 15:28
  Think of who you're surrounding yourself with.
• 15:29
  Think of the people you're surrounding yourself with.
• 15:31
  Think of what line of work you're getting into and
• 15:33
  something that you're going to go home, Shabbos, Friday night,
• 15:35
  you're going to sit down. Everything stops.
• 15:37
  Everything slows down and it's and your family is around you
• 15:40
  and you feel good. You feel good who you are.
• 15:43
  You feel good what you're doing. You're happy with your life,
• 15:45
  you're happy with. You're just content.
• 15:47
  You're just feeling fulfilled. Let's let's rewind.
• 15:49
  I like that answer. Thank you for that.
• 15:51
  I do have a lot of, you know, we can go in deeper into that, but
• 15:53
  you know, we'll save it for another time in terms of how do
• 15:56
  you find out what you're good at, what you like?
• 15:57
  There's also there's a lot of explorations to do, but talking
• 16:00
  to a Rebbe or a mentor or someone that you trust is really
• 16:04
  the number one thing to do is to have that discussion.
• 16:06
  Knowing that you need to be on the path of finding what you
• 16:09
  love is number 1, you know, admitting that and understanding
• 16:12
  it. And I think more importantly
• 16:14
  than the boys and the girls themselves is the parents that
• 16:16
  need to recognize to guide their children towards this path and
• 16:21
  just really reminding them to do with it, right?
• 16:23
  100% I, I parents in my personal opinions, I mean, just as a
• 16:27
  rebbe and I see from yeshivas have for some reason taken a
• 16:31
  step back from parenting. It's like Bokashemi still see
• 16:36
  that some you still see a lot of parents are doing a great job.
• 16:38
  But in today's world, and this goes right into the whole camp
• 16:42
  kids and camp thing is in today's world, there's parents
• 16:45
  who, I mean, I, I heard there was AI saw a, there was a
• 16:49
  parenting class and this lady, she said, what do you want your
• 16:53
  kids to be? And she just opened, left it
• 16:56
  open, open-ended question to the whole.
• 16:58
  And 1st the people were shy and then some successful.
• 17:02
  OK, thank you very much. Anything else?
• 17:05
  Another person said, you know, different answers throughout the
• 17:09
  whole thing. And then finally one lady said,
• 17:10
  happy, I just want my kids to be happy.
• 17:13
  And then the lady stopped the person giving the whole, you
• 17:16
  know, thing stopped. And she said there, that's,
• 17:18
  that's usually the answer I get is parents just want their kids
• 17:21
  to be happy. And nowadays a parent will do
• 17:25
  really anything to make sure that the kids hair just happy.
• 17:28
  But what does happy really mean to get your kid an iPhone or to
• 17:32
  get your kid? Kids come around and they're
• 17:35
  they they struggle with this so much.
• 17:36
  They want to fit in and they want what everyone else has.
• 17:38
  And it's very materialistic world that we live in.
• 17:41
  And they look at everything else is going around the world.
• 17:43
  And parents have such a hard time saying like, no, I'm sorry,
• 17:47
  you can't. The word no has gotten so lost
• 17:50
  and today's and and as even as a Rebbe, like I'll tell a kid, you
• 17:55
  know, you have to do this. You have to review, you have to
• 17:58
  'cause you have to know you have a test coming up.
• 18:00
  But then you have to and I'll get a call from the and the kid
• 18:02
  will say is Rebbe so hard? I can't.
• 18:04
  And I'll try to push him and I'll and I'll learn with him,
• 18:07
  put one-on-one and I'll come to his house, But then I'll get a
• 18:09
  phone call from the mother. I mean, Sherman, I really feel
• 18:12
  that he's too hard for him and it's the other thing.
• 18:14
  And I'm like, you know, it's not too hard for him.
• 18:17
  I, I know he can do it. I, I believe in him.
• 18:19
  I know he could succeed. I know he could stag.
• 18:21
  I know he and the parents like Sherman.
• 18:23
  I, I really feel that, you know, he needs a phone and, and all
• 18:26
  those kids and he needs a moose knuckle coat and he needs a
• 18:29
  Macaji. He needs a car and he needs to
• 18:31
  get his license. And I said, what do you feel
• 18:33
  about it? No, no, I feel, I feel he should
• 18:35
  wait. I thought he should be 1716.
• 18:37
  I think he made it So say no, but he's going to be so unhappy.
• 18:43
  So what you're the parent. What happened to just being a
• 18:46
  parent And in the other side is these kids, it's a new thing to
• 18:51
  go at 1819 years old Terry's so and go to America's and TC and
• 18:56
  these she was used to be first year, second year, third year,
• 18:58
  fourth year yeshiva. Now who sends their kid to 18
• 19:01
  years old Terry's to sell. Go there to sell and just do
• 19:05
  what you trust your kid at 18 to, to go live in another
• 19:08
  country 6000 miles away. It's it's a risky business.
• 19:13
  But parents, I mean, this is the new way to do it.
• 19:15
  But when they come home, like you're saying, at least take
• 19:17
  them by the hand and help them. You've been through you have.
• 19:19
  There's nothing more valuable than experience.
• 19:22
  You know what works and what doesn't work.
• 19:23
  So take your kid by the hand, guide him to what he wants to
• 19:26
  do. But he'll, he's going to push
• 19:27
  back and he'll say like, no, I don't want to yeshiva.
• 19:30
  No, I don't want to do this. I don't do that.
• 19:33
  You're 18, you're 19. What why do you think at 19
• 19:36
  years old you're able to, to just do these things on your
• 19:38
  own, Take a step into your kids life and, and head to sit down,
• 19:41
  have a conversation and say, listen, we feel this.
• 19:45
  This is what this is the direction we're thinking to
• 19:46
  take. I really feel that it's going to
• 19:48
  be great for you. Wow, it's an interesting
• 19:51
  approach. You know, I agree on a lot of
• 19:54
  the concepts of what you're saying, but there's certain
• 19:56
  things that I would say is that sometimes you want your kids to
• 20:00
  just, you know, figure it out. Independence, yes, certain
• 20:02
  things you want to give independence certain things, but
• 20:05
  the world is so crazy and, and the world of technology and, and
• 20:08
  the exposure that the kids are getting out there, it just,
• 20:11
  there's so much, there's so much independence that we're giving
• 20:14
  our kids and we're, we're just taking a step away because we're
• 20:16
  also distracted. I get it.
• 20:18
  But at 18, they're also independent to make their legal
• 20:20
  decisions. They're independent to go to the
• 20:21
  army. They're independent to do so
• 20:23
  many. Things, they're just legal
• 20:23
  things. That's just the number that the
• 20:25
  government put on 18. 18 is the number that we feel 18.
• 20:29
  Think of your kids right now at 18.
• 20:30
  They're such kids. They're they're nothing.
• 20:33
  What they just finished 12th grade.
• 20:35
  You're ready to make legal decisions now You're ready to
• 20:37
  just do what you want. So the government put a, a
• 20:39
  stamp, OK, 18 year olds, they think they know what they're
• 20:42
  doing. Legal.
• 20:43
  What does legal mean? You're a parent.
• 20:46
  We're parents our whole lives. You know, you're, you're, you're
• 20:48
  a parent to 120. He doesn't stop, but you give in
• 20:52
  to the kids own pressure because he decided or she decided, this
• 20:57
  is what's best for me. Step in.
• 20:59
  Just like when you were seven, you wouldn't let your kid do
• 21:01
  something because if you felt it was wrong.
• 21:03
  And just like when you were 12, you didn't let your kid do
• 21:05
  things. But nowadays it happens.
• 21:07
  Parents just decide, listen, I don't know.
• 21:09
  I don't know what you want me to do.
• 21:11
  This is what they want. This is what they were going.
• 21:12
  This is this is what I love. This is what all their friends
• 21:15
  are doing. If you feel it's wrong, it's
• 21:18
  wrong. Obviously you could seek that
• 21:19
  story and you have a Rove and someone to ask.
• 21:22
  But as a parent your kid always look to you for direction.
• 21:25
  Why you stopping now? Why you giving up now?
• 21:28
  Why all the sudden are you taking a back seat to his, his
• 21:31
  or her life? There is a fine transition
• 21:33
  between We've discussed this in the past and I'm going to repeat
• 21:36
  it again because I believe in it so much between rules and
• 21:39
  guidance, right as your kid grows, the certain things that
• 21:41
  you can have to shy away from rules and you have to start
• 21:44
  giving them guidance. But what you're bringing to
• 21:45
  light, which I like a lot is that that guidance never ends.
• 21:49
  And it's something that you don't have to wait for them to
• 21:50
  come to you. I think that's really the
• 21:52
  message here with what you're saying is that don't wait till
• 21:55
  your kid, no matter what age they are, 2530 doesn't make a
• 21:58
  difference. They're they're in trouble.
• 21:59
  There's a problem. Don't only wait for them to come
• 22:01
  to you. That's not a parent's job.
• 22:03
  That's a friend's job for as as a as a parent, it's on you to go
• 22:07
  ahead and offer the. For sure, for sure.
• 22:10
  I mean, my my father would always we would always feel it
• 22:12
  was joke around with him that we would come for pesar sulcus and
• 22:15
  we would know that he's like evaluating you, you know, you
• 22:18
  you're Shalom bias. He's evaluated like.
• 22:20
  He's sizing you. Happy he's totally sizing you up
• 22:23
  like it never and then like when he felt good like everything's
• 22:25
  OK like he's look at all your kids OK you know all silently
• 22:29
  all like what we knew was coming and then if like he would always
• 22:32
  like even on like a walk to show Minha nice car you know has
• 22:36
  everything OK like I noticed it yeah now about Hashem everything
• 22:39
  fine. You know how many times do we
• 22:42
  you know Rahmal has done here about a family that that gets so
• 22:44
  blindsided by you know a kid that that that goes off the
• 22:48
  Derek or a kid and like we never knew we didn't know he was
• 22:51
  struggling with this. We didn't know she was
• 22:53
  struggling with that. We didn't know their their
• 22:54
  marriage was on the rocks. We didn't know what do we need
• 22:57
  to know? I mean, there's, there's,
• 22:59
  there's been evasiveness and, and being a parent, you know,
• 23:03
  check in with your kid, look for the signs, look for the warning
• 23:05
  signs, look for, for that. He's struggling in yeshiva.
• 23:08
  There's so many kids who come to PTA and like really he's, he's,
• 23:11
  he's not doing well. I don't know.
• 23:12
  He comes home. He's so he's so happy.
• 23:15
  Happy is just is just the an outside and external feeling.
• 23:20
  Real happiness comes from successful being successful,
• 23:23
  being accomplished, being fulfilled.
• 23:26
  A kid really having real fulfillment in life and what
• 23:28
  he's doing. And you have to look for that as
• 23:30
  a father, as a mother, you have to really look for that in your
• 23:32
  kid. Is he really hat?
• 23:33
  Is he really happy? Is he really fulfilled?
• 23:35
  It's his confidence as a Rebbe. The number one thing,
• 23:39
  fulfillment, confidence all translates to self esteem and
• 23:42
  and self-confidence and a kid, there's nothing more important,
• 23:45
  as you know, in in the business world.
• 23:48
  I think the thing that you saw in me when when you want to hire
• 23:51
  me and what my she saw on me, what she can do is confidence.
• 23:54
  Is this like, I own this? I got this?
• 23:56
  It's so important in in a kid to grow up with confidence that
• 24:00
  he's sure of himself. That's the thing that Rebey him
• 24:02
  struggle so much that the kid doesn't feel he can succeed.
• 24:04
  He doesn't feel it could be Maslea who told him that.
• 24:07
  Where'd that come from? You know where that came from?
• 24:10
  That came from as a 2 year old, as a three-year old, he wasn't
• 24:14
  getting the attention he needed. He wasn't getting the the love
• 24:17
  that his father never took him outside and played catch with
• 24:20
  him in his backyard, threw the ball back and forth.
• 24:22
  Do you know how precious a father playing catch with a son
• 24:26
  is? It's so much more than his Xbox.
• 24:30
  It's so much more than look what we got here for Hanukkah Yankee.
• 24:34
  Let's go outside and play in the backyard.
• 24:35
  Catch that feeling that a son gets, that my father cares about
• 24:40
  me. I am someone to him.
• 24:41
  I mean something that's confidence, that builds his
• 24:44
  confidence, that builds self esteem.
• 24:45
  I am who I am. My father believes in me.
• 24:49
  My ready believes in me. My mother believes in me.
• 24:51
  That I could grow, I could be great, I could be amazing.
• 24:54
  Kids go through the whole childhood without that.
• 24:57
  Nothing. Father's too busy, mother is on,
• 25:00
  you know, busy with this and that, whatever it might be.
• 25:02
  And we do. Everyone has hectic lives, but
• 25:05
  the confidence that you could give your kid is absolutely
• 25:07
  priceless. You know, I love what you're
• 25:10
  saying and I'm going to say that a lot, I guess, because I really
• 25:12
  love you and for all your values and morals and the way you
• 25:16
  think, it's, it's really refreshing to hear in many ways.
• 25:20
  You know, I, I've said this once in the past also that I've read
• 25:22
  somewhere that someone fixed a stuttering problem for children
• 25:26
  by just teaching the parents how to compliment the kid.
• 25:29
  And that in itself also just shows you that you know, how,
• 25:32
  how compliments build self-confidence and which is
• 25:36
  pretty amazing. And that's an easy fix, meaning
• 25:39
  it's an easy thing for a parent to do instead of walking in and
• 25:41
  finding the challenge that their kid is doing.
• 25:43
  And I'll admit, I went to a parenting class, you know, when
• 25:45
  I was younger and I learned a whole bunch of things that went
• 25:48
  in one ear and out the other. But the very few that stuck,
• 25:50
  that was one big one is complimenting.
• 25:52
  Forget all the Nos, forget all the stop doing that.
• 25:54
  Don't do that. Create rules.
• 25:57
  Of course, you know, understand what's, you know, harming people
• 26:00
  and what's not. But but compliment, compliment,
• 26:03
  compliment. Yeah, no, my, I just want to
• 26:05
  just commenting is so crucial, of course, but just to give a
• 26:09
  tip, when you compliment your kid, it's like, Oh my gosh, your
• 26:12
  your room is so clean. Great job.
• 26:15
  That's great. That's a great compliment.
• 26:16
  It shows you also recognize him. Recognition is amazing.
• 26:20
  But if you could compliment your kid and his core values, like
• 26:23
  wow, you you you said like I know that was probably so hard
• 26:27
  for you, but you stuck through it or or something that the kid
• 26:30
  himself that he sees what he's good at, even even it could be
• 26:33
  in materialistic, it could be sports, but find something that
• 26:36
  your kid excels in and compliment on those those.
• 26:39
  Give me an example. It's like, let's say my, my, my
• 26:42
  son has, let's say, let's say he'll have a hard time sharing,
• 26:45
  right. So it's very easy to compliment
• 26:47
  a kid and just like, oh, you clean your room, you put on your
• 26:49
  shoes, you did great on a test you did.
• 26:51
  But if you find something that he struggles with or something
• 26:53
  that and then he goes in and struggles through that, you see
• 26:57
  him sharing it. Then you come over to your son
• 26:58
  and you don't miss that opportunity to say, wow, Yankee,
• 27:01
  I saw how much you shared. That was amazing you and you
• 27:05
  stressed on him who he is as a person, not he cleaned his room.
• 27:08
  That's not a value of him. You, you as a person.
• 27:11
  That was amazing. You were so kind.
• 27:12
  You said the truth, you said to Ms. you were you did it great.
• 27:16
  You had such tested, you had such kindness, you had such
• 27:18
  sensitivity towards other person.
• 27:20
  A lot of parents missed that that kid has sensitivity towards
• 27:23
  another boy in his class or another boy in in show.
• 27:25
  And they're like, they don't use that as a as a tool, as as a
• 27:28
  tool to to to sell the kid and and really focus on that.
• 27:32
  But if you could really focus on those type of things, the core
• 27:35
  values of a kid that builds his self esteem in a whole different
• 27:38
  way as a person. I like that so compliment the
• 27:40
  values as opposed to just compliments.
• 27:42
  He's a he's a person who Ms. Then he grows knowing that those
• 27:46
  are important, not just to me, not just to the bunch, but to my
• 27:48
  parents. Let me compliment your parents
• 27:50
  by the way, because they obviously did something right
• 27:52
  My. Parents are are are treasures.
• 27:54
  They're. Let let's go there.
• 27:55
  Where did you grow up? Who are your parents?
• 27:57
  Where are they from? My father.
• 27:58
  How many siblings are you? Tell us about your upbringing.
• 28:00
  My father is prime Sherman from Chicago, IL.
• 28:03
  My mother is is Nahama Sherman. She owns a florist, flower shop,
• 28:06
  a gentleman florist in Chicago. I'm one of 11 kids.
• 28:09
  I have ten siblings. Can I know her?
• 28:12
  Five boys, 6 girls and we're the most close knit.
• 28:17
  Can I know her? A family you know to my parents
• 28:20
  are tremendously blessed. They have 11 kids who are all
• 28:24
  the same as me. Tons of a lot of personality.
• 28:26
  We could all be head counselors. We're all involved in summer
• 28:28
  things. One brother's in the head is a
• 28:30
  sleepway camp. Another brother owns a camp and
• 28:32
  other we're all that same girls also my sister owns the camp in
• 28:35
  Chicago. My father was a head counselor.
• 28:37
  So we're all have that outgoing very personable very my my
• 28:41
  grandfather was Rasheed in Saint Louis.
• 28:42
  It's like climbing. He was has she's my uncle.
• 28:45
  So you know you see how she's BB.
• 28:47
  I don't know if you know his brother all very eccentric out
• 28:51
  there lots of fun type of family.
• 28:53
  So I grew up in Chicago. She was threats me.
• 28:55
  I was not a great kid in in school, not behavior wise, but I
• 28:59
  just back when I was in school, there was no, no kid fall
• 29:03
  through the cracks moments. There was no, there was no it
• 29:06
  was sink or swim at my 7th grade.
• 29:08
  Rebbe actually told me. He says you don't bother me and
• 29:11
  I won't bother you. You know, that's where that's
• 29:13
  how I grew up. That was that was the finish
• 29:15
  back in the day, the the good kids would excel, the average
• 29:19
  kids would flow through and the shlafa kids would just sink.
• 29:23
  It was only, you know, 20 years ago or whatever, maybe a little
• 29:25
  more that they noticed how many kids are, are falling through
• 29:29
  the cracks and Korea help and, and, and all this
• 29:32
  extracurricular stuff and how resource rooms and tons of
• 29:36
  resource and, and, and that, that wasn't available in my
• 29:38
  days. The resource room was the room
• 29:40
  you went to when you got thrown out of class.
• 29:42
  That was it. And there was a guy who sat
• 29:43
  there and he said, here, read a book.
• 29:44
  There was no help. There was no, and if you, if you
• 29:47
  sunk you, you sunk and that's it.
• 29:48
  And I went through school and I followed my Rebbe even in 6th
• 29:52
  grade. It was a disaster.
• 29:53
  It was a terrible year and and he was just it was a so
• 29:57
  overwhelmed the whole class called my father TA because like
• 30:00
  I would say, raise my hand tie So they would all like say, oh,
• 30:03
  Todd, it was a disaster. My father never had any of my
• 30:05
  brothers after that, but we grew up in a very warm, extremely
• 30:11
  loving environment. My father was as a Rebbe.
• 30:14
  He did everything with us as boys.
• 30:17
  We took Rd. trips to to Vegas and we did, you know, white
• 30:21
  water rafting in Colorado like we did.
• 30:23
  We do we he he really took the time to acknowledge us and give
• 30:29
  us tremendous love. He would never miss an
• 30:32
  opportunity to to realize something was bothering us.
• 30:36
  You know, there's never a feeling of like my parents don't
• 30:39
  don't know something. And he always told us that
• 30:43
  there's, there's never a time you can't come over to us and
• 30:46
  say something and tell me something.
• 30:48
  And he wouldn't say I wouldn't be upset.
• 30:51
  He said maybe I wouldn't be upset, but but you should always
• 30:55
  come to me and tell me if anything's ever bothering you.
• 30:57
  And he would be very intuitive to see if something was
• 31:00
  bothering us. And if, and again, like we were
• 31:02
  saying before, even now, even I'm, I'm 30 years old and I
• 31:06
  could come home and like I said, my father will, he'll sense a
• 31:08
  sister this, a brother that something, you know, and he'll
• 31:12
  do everything for his kids, anything, anything, anything.
• 31:14
  And we know that we felt that. And that's something that we
• 31:16
  knew from the cradle. Wow.
• 31:18
  So, so take me through your journey.
• 31:19
  You went through school, I went through, you had your
• 31:21
  challenges, spent a lot of time in the resource.
• 31:23
  Room time in the resource room. Wow, playing.
• 31:25
  What was that game? Something Trails?
• 31:28
  I don't know some old game and we then I went to was the the
• 31:33
  Oregon Trail Oregon Trail yes, thank you very good Steph Steph,
• 31:37
  you might have joined the probably a similar resource
• 31:40
  room. I was yes, absolutely and that
• 31:42
  was without trashy, but he Michael, I was right on the
• 31:45
  Oregon Trail yes way back in the the first 3 days of of the
• 31:49
  resource room. Or ping pong.
• 31:50
  No, they don't have ping pong. That's fancy.
• 31:52
  Already. Right, right, That's a sport.
• 31:54
  Or. 1998 or we're moving. You know, we're in the early
• 31:57
  90s. So I went from there to Tulsa,
• 32:00
  Chicago. It's a very difficult year.
• 32:02
  Also, you know, it wasn't an easy year.
• 32:05
  They I was in the lower share of 9th grade.
• 32:08
  It was a hard year. And my parents realized that
• 32:10
  maybe best for me to go out of town just to, you know, go out
• 32:14
  there again, independence, grow a little bit, and I went to
• 32:18
  Detroit. So after you finished 9th grade.
• 32:20
  After finished 9th. Grade realize it's not such a
• 32:22
  great fit. There was a guy, Mayor Kranzer,
• 32:24
  I don't know if you know Mayor Kranz from Detroit.
• 32:25
  He went. He's loves my father.
• 32:27
  He was a counselor. My father was the head
• 32:30
  councillor. Perkaday came in Chicago and he
• 32:32
  said come to Detroit. It's a great yeshiva.
• 32:34
  It's a great place. I went to Detroit.
• 32:36
  Also as a parent, by the way, very challenging to remove a kid
• 32:39
  from high school and move him to another high school.
• 32:40
  It's. Oh, for sure.
• 32:42
  Very big challenge. Yeah.
• 32:43
  It it it's it's very hard from from one year to the next.
• 32:45
  Especially they have to reallocate themselves, their
• 32:48
  friends. Yeah, they're leaving friends,
• 32:51
  making new friends, making new herbaeum.
• 32:53
  Especially now. Kids love to be comfortable.
• 32:55
  They love to be, you know, in a place where they know people and
• 32:58
  they're comfortable. But.
• 32:58
  What do you do in the summers? I was a huge a good Midwest guy,
• 33:02
  a good Midwest counsellor, camper, the whole of Missifta
• 33:08
  program, great, tremendous memories.
• 33:11
  I was that guy who was bawling my eyes out on the bus, you
• 33:14
  know, as they play the alma mater in the background.
• 33:17
  It's just funniest I was I was on the coach bus in the
• 33:19
  bathroom. You know that and and a guy like
• 33:21
  opens the door and I'm sitting there bawling.
• 33:24
  I'm very emotional guy and I like you really made
• 33:27
  friendships. You made real, you know, real
• 33:29
  friendships. Now, as guys, we don't keep up
• 33:31
  over the year, but it was like that first day at camp, it was
• 33:34
  like I never left, you know, the same guys, the same counselors,
• 33:37
  the same people. And that month of of of a good
• 33:39
  Midwest was like it was heaven for me.
• 33:41
  It was like, especially after coming through struggling school
• 33:44
  years where it was like a disaster.
• 33:47
  So this was like freedom. This was, this was, I couldn't
• 33:49
  wait to get on the, the volleyball court, you know, I
• 33:51
  couldn't wait to get there. And, yeah, a guy opens the, the
• 33:54
  bathroom door to go to the bathroom and I'm sitting there
• 33:56
  bawling. And like afterwards, like a
• 33:58
  counselor comes over to me. He's like, is everything OK?
• 34:00
  Like he thought like something happened or something.
• 34:02
  I said, no, I'm just, it's just, it's just sad.
• 34:04
  It's just sad to leave, you know?
• 34:06
  It was just so I loved. I breathed hemp and I went to
• 34:10
  Detroit without yeshiva. It was actually visiting day.
• 34:13
  My father came to camp and he said next you're going to go to
• 34:17
  Detroit. So I went to Detroit.
• 34:19
  Your beauty box is Shiva there, Mary Simpler Box's brother and I
• 34:24
  was there 10th, 11th, 12th, first, second, third, fourth
• 34:26
  year. I became a Detroiter.
• 34:29
  And you know, Detroit also is a family, very, very close knit
• 34:33
  group of guys, guys who I hold as my closest friends, people
• 34:38
  who I even now today we go to the parlor meetings and the
• 34:41
  events and it's just like it's just friendships that are built
• 34:45
  on unreal timing Yeshiva, like, you know, everlasting
• 34:48
  friendships from there. I went there.
• 34:51
  It's a settlement department coming Kaplan.
• 34:52
  So yeshiva it's not around anymore.
• 34:53
  I was there for a year and a half is also hard, hard.
• 34:56
  A year and a half I got there. I had no Deira my first my first
• 35:01
  three days I slept on a floor and someone's deer until they
• 35:03
  threw me out. I really know where it goes.
• 35:05
  Real hard transition into there. It's a soul life.
• 35:08
  I learned deer. By the way, even after four
• 35:10
  years, you were an 18. For sure, it's very difficult.
• 35:15
  Nothing was set up. Guys came.
• 35:17
  Nowadays they have dorms, everything, everything's set up
• 35:19
  for you. But here it's like if you didn't
• 35:21
  hustle and you didn't get a dira, so you got there and you
• 35:23
  were homeless. But in the in the real words,
• 35:25
  you were, you were literally of nowhere to go.
• 35:27
  And I'm trying to make connections and this guy, this
• 35:29
  guy have a bed. This guy finally found the DIRA
• 35:31
  that you know, guys took me in. They I guess they just need the
• 35:34
  money to pay the rent or something.
• 35:35
  Turned out to be a great dealer. Guys left and I like we took it
• 35:38
  over. It was a any Chesco right there.
• 35:41
  So it was a great dealer and it was a year and a half.
• 35:45
  It's nice. I mean there it's so is is is
• 35:47
  beautiful. The thing I connected most of
• 35:48
  ourselves, the people, the people there are just like you
• 35:52
  don't see like tell me the common and every stable and
• 35:56
  every place, you know, chassis and everywhere.
• 35:57
  It's just it's all different lifestyle, it's all different
• 36:00
  culture, obviously. And now it's, I guess that could
• 36:03
  be more American as as as then, but it was still extremely
• 36:07
  special for me. Only because we're talking about
• 36:08
  Israel. Do you have an opinion on the
• 36:09
  whole Israel army learning situation?
• 36:13
  I, I have just, I think the terror opinion, I think it's
• 36:16
  just. Just just say your opinion.
• 36:18
  Yeah, I'm not even saying. My opinion my my scope of
• 36:21
  growing up was always that ancient Mia Catella and and
• 36:23
  there are a bunch of them, I think loves nothing more than
• 36:26
  Terra and he protects Kai. So through the limit of Terra
• 36:29
  and mitzvahs And when you when you learn Terra.
• 36:32
  So then I don't maybe don't even need an army.
• 36:35
  You don't, you don't, you don't need it.
• 36:36
  So how, if you if we're doing the right things and we're and
• 36:38
  we're learning Terra, so then then we'll be safe there, buddy.
• 36:43
  Some tells us that it's I've talked and in in participate.
• 36:46
  That's that's that's what the that's the smear of Terra.
• 36:50
  Now, if you have a buck who's not learning and he is and he's
• 36:53
  Terra, it's not such thing, by the way, as Terry's not for me.
• 36:56
  That's there's no such, there's no such concept.
• 36:58
  Terry's for everybody. Everybody could succeed on their
• 37:00
  own level, maybe in learning, but there's no such thing like I
• 37:03
  tried it. It's not for me.
• 37:05
  Terry's not for me. Maybe he didn't try with the
• 37:06
  right Caruso, maybe he didn't try, maybe he didn't try, but
• 37:09
  Terry's for everybody. Everyone could get a good smack
• 37:11
  and Terry now a guy wants to go to the Army, so go to the Army.
• 37:14
  But now to pull guys out of the base managers to go to the Army,
• 37:17
  that's just it's just it's it's not just to tell you.
• 37:21
  I don't think it's a my opinion. Again, it's not that it's not to
• 37:23
  tear you away. I mean the bunch some loves tell
• 37:25
  you, you know, Tama Terry. Can I cool them and take a real
• 37:30
  guy? Tama Hakama bin Terry was in the
• 37:33
  basement just learning just for seems like political reasons.
• 37:37
  I know just, it seems wrong. I know that's just my, you know.
• 37:43
  Sure, I understand. That's why I grew up.
• 37:46
  That's my grandfather, you know? Yeah.
• 37:47
  I'm not diving deep into the topic, I'm just curious about.
• 37:49
  And again, I don't have strong, like, political views.
• 37:52
  Yeah, I'm just from the optics of it.
• 37:55
  It's like, you know, you have soldiers going into this manager
• 37:58
  and pulling a guy away from a Gemara to go to the army.
• 38:01
  I mean, that's like that's twisted.
• 38:02
  That's in my sense, in my beliefs, the growing up in in
• 38:06
  that he belongs in the mismanage.
• 38:07
  There's no if I cared, let him stay in the mismanage.
• 38:09
  Let him learn. Come every day to to make sure
• 38:11
  he's learning. That's that's you want to make
• 38:14
  sure he's doing something for the country.
• 38:15
  So make sure he's learning. Not a bad idea, by the way.
• 38:17
  You should assign the army a unit to make sure the people are
• 38:19
  just learning, that's all. Smear Saddam unit and they come
• 38:22
  in and if you're you better be because if you're not learning,
• 38:24
  you should one seder. They should have that unit be
• 38:27
  women, by the way, That way, you know, make sure that they'll do
• 38:29
  the job. Oh, no, they're coming.
• 38:30
  We have to be in the. I'm sure they are.
• 38:32
  Yeah, yeah. OK.
• 38:33
  All right. So you went through the Israel
• 38:34
  process? Came back, went to BMG, I was
• 38:39
  there. I actually I'm from the few
• 38:40
  people to knock it into BMG. What?
• 38:43
  I was just going to, I got a WMG, right?
• 38:46
  So what happened was I was supposed to take it for her?
• 38:48
  I'm sorry, we're, we're saying a lot of Jewish words, which is
• 38:50
  good. We have, we just have a, a nice
• 38:52
  good handful of non Jewish listeners that like learning
• 38:54
  about our culture because we work a lot with them.
• 38:56
  So just so everyone knows, BMG is probably the largest in
• 38:59
  America of schools for people to sit an institution of sitting,
• 39:03
  sitting and learning and studying.
• 39:04
  And there's a rule that you can't, you know, date until
• 39:07
  after a certain period of time. And usually everybody gets
• 39:09
  accepted into this institution just for the sake that you're
• 39:12
  learning, so you go there. So they didn't accept.
• 39:15
  Uber's like flow to base managed to cover it to BMG and it was
• 39:17
  like a shock. I got a thing in the mail
• 39:19
  unfortunately, due to the overwhelming applicants.
• 39:23
  The other thing So what happened was I was supposed to take a
• 39:25
  fire and nights and so and when to to alleviate some of the, you
• 39:29
  know, time constraints that they have.
• 39:30
  There's so many hundreds and hundreds of buckram coming back
• 39:33
  the same time taking fires. So they have they would have
• 39:36
  people in there. So who would faher guys who
• 39:39
  would take the test to entrance exam to get in and do you?
• 39:43
  Know how many boys go every year to the school?
• 39:45
  Yeah, it's still hundreds, hundreds.
• 39:46
  Yeah. New new applicants even only
• 39:48
  take after Sukkis and after Pesach, that's when it's open
• 39:50
  for new enrollment. OK, so the but hundreds, yeah.
• 39:54
  So I decided I they were learning Cochem which is a
• 39:58
  learning about. Basemikdus and and different
• 40:01
  things. So I wasn't working for me the
• 40:04
  whole carbonis and and the whole avoiding the basemikdus, that
• 40:07
  whole limit coming from what we normally learn.
• 40:09
  Yeshiva is nauseam Zekin is but those so it's a whole new world
• 40:15
  and it just wasn't clicking for me.
• 40:17
  The whole also learning about what they're learning now.
• 40:20
  And you know, that just didn't work.
• 40:22
  So I decided like I'm just going to learn another Stevo and a
• 40:26
  thing at and I just continued learning about Matsieva Bakama
• 40:29
  bastard the the regular. So this guy's going to get a
• 40:32
  fire and I didn't crack as well. So I just didn't show up.
• 40:37
  I'm like, I don't know, I just figured out what I'm supposed to
• 40:39
  do, go there and tell him like I don't know anything.
• 40:42
  It wasn't going to work. So I just didn't show up.
• 40:44
  So when BMG got like the, the letter like OK, who took a fire,
• 40:48
  who took the entrance exam? And my, my, there's like a 0 NAI
• 40:51
  don't know what was by my name. I don't know.
• 40:53
  So they figured like, OK, he's not coming or he's not getting
• 40:56
  in. I don't know.
• 40:57
  So that was that. So my grandfather, if it's a
• 41:01
  climbman who was in Lakewood, so he made a phone call to Shiva
• 41:08
  and he said don't come to my house.
• 41:10
  I came to his house and I said, listen, I want to learn.
• 41:12
  That's all he asked me you you want to learn?
• 41:14
  I said, of course. He said, OK, go get a Caruso and
• 41:18
  that's it. Next thing I got a phone call,
• 41:19
  the secretary called me come fill out the registration and
• 41:21
  thing and that was it. That was you got it.
• 41:24
  The greatest thing. Then the next step was was I got
• 41:26
  to learn with my grandfather. He had a kill and he we learned
• 41:29
  the Caruso. It was the best two years of my
• 41:32
  life. It was cut short.
• 41:33
  My grandfather was after 71. It wasn't was an old man.
• 41:37
  He had a lot of struggles with health diabetes, diabetic I but
• 41:41
  I I would sit with him by dialysis for hours and just
• 41:45
  learning with him the most special.
• 41:48
  The only regrets I have is like I I wish, like now Bokashama, I
• 41:53
  got stronger learning and better learning.
• 41:55
  So like now to learn with him would have been the quality of
• 41:57
  learning would have been so much better.
• 41:59
  That's the only Karata. That's what I'm saying like as a
• 42:01
  young person, if you have the opportunity now, the years when
• 42:04
  you don't have any Shibuya, you're not connected, you're not
• 42:06
  bogged down with anything, a wife, a kids, a bills and
• 42:09
  Pranosa to take advantage of that learning.
• 42:12
  I didn't I didn't take advantage as much as I should have.
• 42:14
  And it's even when Myra Shiva comes to Muncie, I don't know if
• 42:18
  you know Ari Davis, he lives in so he hosts a parlor meeting and
• 42:22
  Myra Shiva gives a a stickle tell you, he says.
• 42:25
  And I leave crying little tears, real tears of regret of like I
• 42:30
  could have had this for four years, four years, no long that
• 42:34
  is normally shoot him. And and I missed this year
• 42:36
  because it was because I was tired, because I out of sleep,
• 42:40
  sleep and just for sleep, I missed this.
• 42:42
  It's like for nothing. What did I miss this for?
• 42:45
  And you only ever got but you can't you never get that back
• 42:47
  years. You never get time back.
• 42:50
  It's so precious. And and you you have Karata that
• 42:53
  you didn't take advantage of the years and yeshiva that you
• 42:56
  really could have produced. You really could have excelled.
• 42:58
  Wow. OK, so this year's learning my
• 43:00
  grandfather was was really special.
• 43:02
  By by the way, first of all Ari is a good friend so shout out to
• 43:04
  Ari for hosting and always doing good for the community.
• 43:07
  So love you, Ari. Big, big supporter of Detroit
• 43:10
  for sure. And you know, so, so go through
• 43:13
  the rest of the process, then when did you start making money?
• 43:15
  Like when did, when did the realization come to you as a
• 43:17
  person that's going into and being a rebbe and camp and all
• 43:20
  that? Like I got bills to pay.
• 43:22
  So, so really in in when I was still in liquid, I was working
• 43:25
  in a camp. Actually, my whole camping
• 43:28
  experience as making money started from when a friend of
• 43:31
  mine called me up and said the policy in the campus.
• 43:34
  If you're a counselor and if you take a day off, you have to get
• 43:36
  a sub. You can't just leave your bunk
• 43:38
  with no, with no counselor. He says the easiest.
• 43:41
  They were going on a trip, We're going ice skating.
• 43:43
  Could you please just take my bunk ice skating so I don't get
• 43:46
  fired. I got a paycheck at the end of
• 43:47
  the summer, So I said, OK, I'm not doing anything.
• 43:49
  We're still middle as man, but it was the end of this man.
• 43:51
  Late summers, man, slaves, man, I'll come cover you for the day.
• 43:55
  And I went to camp Confiano Napeshi Weber and they're going
• 43:58
  ice skating. So the way I work is I get fully
• 44:00
  involved in anything I do. So I was spent about an hour and
• 44:04
  a half tightening. I don't know if you ever went
• 44:06
  ice skating right. So that wobbly foot, you know,
• 44:08
  it's got to be tight and I'm tightening every kids skate and
• 44:11
  all the council like on the side sitting around.
• 44:13
  Some of them are on the ice ready.
• 44:14
  I'm looking like, how are you on the ice?
• 44:16
  If your kid is your your, your, your camper sitting here with
• 44:19
  with no skates. So I'm kidding him.
• 44:20
  And I must have placed up 150 pairs of shoes of of ice skates.
• 44:24
  My fingers were killing me. And at the end of the day,
• 44:28
  Ashley Weber comes over to me. He says, what's your name?
• 44:31
  I said Fesky Sherman. He said, I need a head counselor
• 44:34
  today. Come work for me.
• 44:37
  I see you have it. You're you're you.
• 44:39
  You know what it means to to to take care of campers.
• 44:42
  He had a three divisions. He had 1300 kids in Camp
• 44:45
  Lakewood. He needed another division head
• 44:47
  next day. That's it.
• 44:49
  I was. I was head counselor, not head
• 44:50
  counselor of that division division, head of of the middle
• 44:52
  division. What a lesson.
• 44:53
  What a lesson in life in general.
• 44:55
  Just get noticed. If, if, if, if you're out there
• 44:57
  and and you're whatever field people notice you when you go
• 45:00
  above and beyond and you care. They see the passion.
• 45:03
  They see that you care. They want it.
• 45:05
  They they want you. And the reality is,
• 45:07
  unfortunately not too many people are like that.
• 45:09
  You said like all the councils are out there, you're tying
• 45:11
  those shoelaces. So, so you're, you've been tying
• 45:14
  shoelaces since. So I've been tying ice skates
• 45:16
  since. Yeah.
• 45:17
  So I was there for three years, then I was 1 sulcus.
• 45:20
  I'm sitting in my Schwar Yell Smith from the Grapevine.
• 45:24
  He I'm in his Sulka and a guy comes with his three kids and he
• 45:29
  has all his three kids in the Shiva Saruvane and I'm just
• 45:32
  singing. I love to sing and we're doing
• 45:34
  all the journeys. We're going through all the
• 45:36
  journey songs. And I'm I'm loving that these
• 45:38
  kids who it's another tragedy are going to grow up without
• 45:41
  knowing the real, the 1234 journeys like just lost.
• 45:45
  But they know all the songs. They know all the journey songs.
• 45:48
  So we're singing word for word and they're loving it and we're
• 45:51
  in the suck and where mom is vibing and it's beautiful.
• 45:53
  And he turns to me and says, you have to be a Rebbe in my kids
• 45:57
  school. And the next day I got a call
• 45:59
  from the principal after he said I asked I need a ready 5th
• 46:03
  grade. I got your name from from this
• 46:05
  person. Can you come down?
• 46:07
  And I took him out a lesson in fifth grade.
• 46:10
  And it turns out there was one of the guy he's called me back
• 46:13
  said you were amazing. It's either you or this other
• 46:15
  guy, but he's coming in from frock way.
• 46:17
  So I don't think he's going to take the job.
• 46:19
  Turns out he took the job. So he called me and says,
• 46:21
  listen, you have talent, You're great.
• 46:22
  And I was fine with that because I was like totally not ready to
• 46:25
  become ready. I was 2625 turning 26 years old,
• 46:28
  so I was ready to go back to BMG learning in Lakewood.
• 46:31
  No problem. He calls me in August and he
• 46:34
  tells me I have to make a second 7th grade.
• 46:37
  There's about four or five kids who need a remedial type of
• 46:40
  class. The 7th grader, he's a legend,
• 46:44
  beautiful sister. And they're not going to,
• 46:46
  they're not going to survive his class.
• 46:48
  He's he's strict. He's and I, he said, would you
• 46:51
  come down to Auruvain, move to Muncie to teach these five kids?
• 46:58
  And he's like, I'm embarrassed to tell you the salary, but the
• 47:01
  most I could give you is $30,000.
• 47:03
  And for me, $30,000 was like, I haven't made, I haven't had a
• 47:06
  paycheck. I never got a paycheck in my
• 47:08
  life. So $30,000 for that Camp CKY, I
• 47:10
  got paid. I think I had $1100 for the
• 47:12
  whole summer. So it was like $30,000.
• 47:15
  That's like, you know, $3000 a month.
• 47:17
  That's crazy money. So I'm like, yeah, I think I can
• 47:19
  make that work. I think I could work it out.
• 47:22
  My wife was obviously thrilled. Obviously, you know the rule
• 47:24
  that all Muncie girls get their wives to move back to Muncie.
• 47:26
  It's just a rule that's that's very, very healthy.
• 47:30
  Just Muncie a Muncie because Muncie is a beautiful place to
• 47:32
  live. We know how beautiful is people
• 47:33
  come here to vacation. So it's like all girls, all
• 47:37
  Muncie girls got their wife, their husbands to come back.
• 47:39
  I I couldn't find an apartment. I put a sign up in my following
• 47:44
  those wine store. Anyone who finds us an apartment
• 47:46
  gets $100.00 gift certificate to the store.
• 47:48
  Someone called they have a day and then I moved into Abe
• 47:52
  stickers basement. The the the mayor.
• 47:54
  I don't know what he does now. Yes, Abe is the mayor.
• 47:57
  Yeah. So it was great.
• 47:59
  I love that we have friends that are the mayors living in a town
• 48:02
  here. This is.
• 48:02
  This way, this is pre mayor days.
• 48:04
  I don't know what he was doing then, but I lived in his
• 48:07
  basement. It was a nice beautiful basement
• 48:09
  until I got off a knock on the door one day and Abe tells me I
• 48:13
  got to leave the fire inspector violations.
• 48:16
  I don't know. Don't say he's a mayor now.
• 48:18
  It was, it was no. He got to fix it up, but at the
• 48:21
  end of the day it was the best thing.
• 48:22
  We moved to Victoria Gardens like old people.
• 48:26
  We were there for two years and then that.
• 48:29
  Then yeah, we moved to where I live now.
• 48:32
  So tell me how this camp thing started.
• 48:34
  So, so, yeah, so the camp started was my first year.
• 48:37
  They were looking for head counselor.
• 48:38
  The year before the head counselor left, he started his
• 48:41
  own camp. So they needed a new head
• 48:42
  counselor. I sat at his table when he was
• 48:44
  still living on court over there off by the college and he liked,
• 48:50
  he liked what I had to offer. I said, listen, I'm I'm a guy
• 48:52
  here. I'll take I'll, I'll take it to
• 48:54
  the next level. You know the camp, let's do it.
• 48:57
  And we haggled, like I said, over the money.
• 48:59
  I think it was over $500.00. But he wanted me, so he's like,
• 49:02
  whatever, let's. Do it.
• 49:03
  There's a new word for for cheap in the world that I keep hearing
• 49:06
  is that people don't like to waste.
• 49:08
  They're waste conscious. They're not they're not being
• 49:10
  cheap. And it happens to be it's true
• 49:12
  in many ways that I've seen people do things.
• 49:15
  I feel like people at the end of the day will just spend money on
• 49:17
  what they think is valuable. And that's really what it is,
• 49:19
  you know, and. For sure.
• 49:21
  The truth is to be honest, because I feel this is a den of
• 49:23
  honesty. The, the situation there wasn't
• 49:26
  about cheap or not cheap. Certain people love to win, love
• 49:30
  to win. So this person I was dealing
• 49:33
  with was, is a winner. He, he loves to win.
• 49:35
  So if I would have said, I want to be paid $6000 and he said
• 49:38
  he'll say let's do 5750, it's not because he can't afford the
• 49:43
  $250. But then he won the negotiation
• 49:46
  and he loves winning. So I learned that over the past
• 49:48
  with this person, it was, it wasn't about the money.
• 49:50
  It wasn't about being cheap. He's not integrity a cheap
• 49:52
  person. He does things.
• 49:53
  He, he, he does things for his family.
• 49:55
  He goes on vacations, he does things.
• 49:57
  It's it's, it's a psychological thing, maybe.
• 50:00
  Yeah. And you also learning to give in
• 50:02
  as part of growth for sure. OK, it's not worth it.
• 50:05
  Let. The person get what they need.
• 50:07
  But there were times that I, I let him have it in the sense of
• 50:11
  like on the flip side of, of winning is you don't understand.
• 50:15
  I told him, I said for $250 I could have come into camp the
• 50:19
  happiest person and I'll come into camp and I'll feel like I'm
• 50:23
  getting my money's worth and I'm not going to take advantage of
• 50:26
  and it's amazing. For $250, you're taking that
• 50:29
  away from me. You don't want your employee not
• 50:31
  feeling amazing the first day at camp.
• 50:34
  I would give him $400.00. I'll tell him, you know what,
• 50:37
  forget 6000. I want you to be happy.
• 50:38
  I want you to come fully invested the first day.
• 50:40
  Here's I'm going to give you 6250, you know, and I said that.
• 50:45
  So he says when you're in the business world, you learn what I
• 50:48
  said. I said that's the way I look at
• 50:49
  it. I said I'll agree with you
• 50:50
  because I don't care about 250 bucks, but I'm coming into camp
• 50:53
  the first day and I'm feeling like I'm not getting what I
• 50:55
  asked for. And how much is the difference,
• 50:57
  $250? I said is that worth it for you
• 50:59
  and he said it's not about that. I said OK I don't care, fine
• 51:02
  let's just do 5750. And it didn't bothers me.
• 51:05
  I'm just thinking it sounded foolish to.
• 51:06
  Me. Yeah, No, it's a general way of
• 51:07
  life in terms of negotiating where you make the person feel
• 51:11
  good about what they're getting versus, you know, winning,
• 51:14
  right. I heard this this morning on the
• 51:15
  conference call with us was like, do you want to you want to
• 51:17
  be right or do you want to get it done?
• 51:19
  Like, you know, do you want to be happy?
• 51:20
  Which one do you, which one do you want, you know, which is
• 51:23
  always a general conversation. So Speaking of being right and
• 51:26
  happy, So the camp fund, so this idea of helping kids go to camp.
• 51:31
  So take me through the process of how that happened.
• 51:33
  So I'm working in camp. I'm seeing the kids in.
• 51:35
  Camp, Of course, you're seeing how important camp is in
• 51:37
  general. I know that even from myself,
• 51:38
  but I see it now I'm living it. I'm I'm running a camp.
• 51:41
  So I see these kids camp and it was over the years I I
• 51:44
  transitioned to a different school called in Muncie here and
• 51:47
  I was 1/5 grader Abbey and it all started on a day about a few
• 51:51
  weeks before Purim. The camp conversations start
• 51:54
  coming up and kids are talking about where you going, where you
• 51:56
  going, where. You're hearing the kids, you
• 51:58
  mean? Yeah.
• 51:58
  The kids are talking about, I'm like marking papers, whatever, a
• 52:00
  few minutes before class and they're talking about they're
• 52:02
  going to this camp, they're going to that camp.
• 52:04
  And there's one kid in the back of the room who is absolutely
• 52:06
  not involved in this conversation and he's just not
• 52:09
  partaking and he's like a schmuck.
• 52:10
  A kid, probably the most popular kid in the class, sports wise.
• 52:14
  Coolness. He was with it, a great kid.
• 52:16
  And I'm looking at this kid and I'm realizing he's totally.
• 52:20
  So I go over him afterwards and I say Yitzhak will call him.
• 52:25
  Where you going for the summer? And he says, oh, I'm, I'm not
• 52:28
  going to camp this year. I'm going to stay home.
• 52:31
  So when you go last year, he said he went to one of the
• 52:33
  popular camps in in Muncie. So you're not going back?
• 52:36
  He said, no, this year my parents got me a hoverboard.
• 52:39
  This is what like the hoverboard just came out.
• 52:41
  I said a hoverboard. What are you, what are you going
• 52:42
  to do? He says, yeah, they told me I'm
• 52:43
  just going to I'll have a hoverboard.
• 52:44
  So I'll go around and I'm like, that's that's ridiculous.
• 52:49
  That's that's, that's terrible. So I called the parents and I
• 52:52
  said, I know, you know, I don't want to get involved or
• 52:55
  anything, but it's like a loved camp last year.
• 52:58
  Like I know he loves camp. I see what type of Kitty is, is
• 53:01
  he not going to camp this year? And it's a little uncomfortable.
• 53:03
  And eventually they said, like, listen to this.
• 53:05
  Just too overpriced and we can't afford it.
• 53:07
  We got him a hoverboard. He'll have a good time.
• 53:09
  He'll go around the neighborhood.
• 53:10
  He loves going on his hoverboard.
• 53:11
  He'll be great and I'm like. My heart, by the way, I'm like.
• 53:15
  This is terrible. You put a kid on a hoverboard
• 53:17
  all summer. That was like and because
• 53:18
  because when they gave him the hoverboard, he was.
• 53:20
  Of course, because. This is what he's going to do.
• 53:23
  And I said, Oh my gosh. So I called up the camp he went
• 53:27
  to the year before. I said, how much does your camp
• 53:31
  cost? They said it's $1800.
• 53:33
  I said if I get this kid, I told him the name.
• 53:36
  If I raise $1800, will you take the, you know, you have room
• 53:39
  because it was late in the game already, like perm time.
• 53:42
  They said he still owes us money from the year before.
• 53:45
  I said, listen, I'm not getting involved in, in, you know, past
• 53:48
  dues. I'm like, if I give you $1800
• 53:51
  and after poor him, will you take him?
• 53:53
  And I said, yeah, we'll make room.
• 53:54
  But but, but no games, you know, no like.
• 53:57
  So I went around poor him just by night, poor him by night.
• 54:00
  And I went to a few houses and I was first of all blown away by
• 54:04
  the the reception I got from people.
• 54:07
  Like I just started telling the story and they're like, they're
• 54:08
  writing checks. You're talking about after
• 54:09
  Magilla laning? After Magilla, it was it was a,
• 54:12
  it was a later that year. It wasn't like this.
• 54:13
  It was earlier you. You you went around collecting.
• 54:16
  Few houses, I didn't even know where I was going.
• 54:18
  People like told me go to this guy, go to that guy.
• 54:20
  I was really just following party buses around Muncie.
• 54:22
  I was like, I had no clue what I was.
• 54:23
  Removed by the way. Yeah, I had like, oh, there's a
• 54:26
  group there. Oh, there's a party there, the
• 54:27
  lights on there, let's go there. And I was by myself, just solo.
• 54:31
  I came to the houses. I scraped together more about
• 54:33
  like two $2200 from going to 10 spots.
• 54:37
  I got him at 2:00 in the morning and like there were still
• 54:39
  parties going on and I finally I got back home.
• 54:42
  I pull out all the cash and fives, 10 small bills, checks
• 54:46
  and it was about $2200 And I called the camp the next day.
• 54:50
  I'm perm the owner of the camp. I said I have the money for you.
• 54:52
  I'll drop it off right now if you want.
• 54:55
  He said you don't drop it off now.
• 54:56
  OK, he has a spot And I called the parents back and I said yes,
• 55:00
  I'm going to go to camp, the same camp he went to last year.
• 55:03
  Don't worry about it's taken care of.
• 55:04
  That was it and I never heard back.
• 55:07
  There's no like the parents called me and they said you
• 55:10
  saved his life. There's none of that.
• 55:11
  It was just the kid went to camp.
• 55:13
  What what did it for me that I realized I have to do this is
• 55:15
  when in September when I saw that kid come back to school and
• 55:19
  you see the kid come in with a glow, with a vibrance with a
• 55:23
  certain ready to learn. I'm ready to, to open my swarm
• 55:27
  again and get back into learning because I just had an amazing
• 55:30
  summer. You see it in kids.
• 55:32
  You see them people. It's so easy to see a kid who
• 55:34
  had a great summer. You don't have to like start
• 55:36
  asking him. And I looked for this kid and I
• 55:38
  saw he had a great summer. I'm not part of that camp.
• 55:40
  I don't know, but you could tell.
• 55:42
  And he had a tremendous year. The next year in 6th grade and
• 55:44
  7th grade, 8th grade, he was able to move forward.
• 55:46
  I never heard from the parents again.
• 55:48
  I maybe the fall is business turned around.
• 55:50
  I don't know what happened, but the next time I realized I got
• 55:53
  to do something. You know, if there's one kid,
• 55:55
  then there's got to be a lot of kids who need this help.
• 55:59
  So again, totally unofficial. I went for him again, I
• 56:01
  collected with under my my Scholes name.
• 56:04
  Like I said, who people who's I make the check out to.
• 56:06
  There's no, there's no, there's no account Muncie camp fund.
• 56:08
  There's no. So I said to make out to my show
• 56:11
  and they, my show was very accommodating.
• 56:13
  They were able to to use their account to, to, to there was
• 56:16
  there was families in my own community.
• 56:17
  They needed the help anyway. And I reached out to some camps,
• 56:21
  summer Baim and a few kids again, who needed help going to
• 56:25
  camp. We helped 5 kids be in camp and
• 56:28
  that we were paying the whole, the whole ride.
• 56:30
  Like these were kids who were sitting at home and now they're
• 56:33
  going to camp 5 kids. We raised about $8000.
• 56:36
  I say we, but it was really, really me and, and, and one
• 56:38
  other guy from my Shoal. We went around and then the
• 56:42
  third year I'm like, listen, why am I spending so much time
• 56:45
  trying to find kids who need help by calling Rabaeum and
• 56:48
  principals and things. There's some fish habits of
• 56:50
  Rockland. They have the list of people who
• 56:52
  need help. They know that families are
• 56:54
  struggling the most. Why not just partner with them?
• 56:57
  And I approached Alan Rosenstack and I said, listen, I don't want
• 57:00
  to put any more financial strength on on top of Chavez.
• 57:04
  I'll do your fundraising. I'll bring in all the money.
• 57:07
  I just want to be affiliated with your with with you with,
• 57:11
  with your program, with what? Your institution, with your
• 57:12
  organization, what you have going on.
• 57:13
  Resources. Yeah, your resources.
• 57:15
  Data your information. Your secretaries, your, your,
• 57:18
  your software, everything that you have.
• 57:20
  You did a JV with Tom Chavez, a joint venture.
• 57:23
  There it is. Yeah.
• 57:24
  So I said and and again, I'll take care of the budget.
• 57:27
  Yeah. So it was like a win, win for
• 57:28
  everybody and. That's what happened.
• 57:30
  So yeah, so we decided. So I was that, yeah, he said no
• 57:33
  problem. You know, there's definitely,
• 57:35
  they're always looking for people, he says.
• 57:36
  But you have to run like, I can't take this on.
• 57:38
  He's told me. I said I got it, I'll do it,
• 57:41
  I'll do it myself. I'm just curious for a second
• 57:43
  and don't jump down my throat for this, but I'm curious
• 57:47
  because it's just bothering me. Ever since you said it, why are
• 57:50
  the schools not responsible to think at least about the
• 57:55
  children going to camp? But it always bothered me that
• 57:57
  schools, you know, throw out kids and then they just like
• 58:00
  don't think about the continuity of the child.
• 58:02
  And that's something that really frustrates me.
• 58:04
  And I think most schools have done a much better job today
• 58:06
  than they used to. But why is it?
• 58:09
  Why is it that camps not on their radar to just figure out
• 58:11
  that every kid should have something to do in the summer
• 58:14
  that's productive? I think when you say schools, I
• 58:17
  don't know if it's, I think we're a bayum.
• 58:19
  Do I think it's on their a bayum's radar?
• 58:21
  They'll they'll know if a kid doesn't have anything.
• 58:23
  No, because the A Bay means that each Rebbe is on their own.
• 58:26
  The school I'm talking about having a functional system.
• 58:28
  Yes, but they're not going to. They can't financially.
• 58:30
  No, no, no. Just to understand, to identify,
• 58:32
  to, to, to, to talk to the parents, to make.
• 58:34
  I don't know. I think they're well aware of
• 58:36
  the of the need for it that a kid.
• 58:38
  Has to be, they're saying. What should they do?
• 58:40
  What? Are they supposed to right I.
• 58:41
  Don't know. Make awareness to it.
• 58:42
  I don't know. The, the thing we're lacking
• 58:44
  here is funds. That's the bottom line.
• 58:46
  It's and there's no camp that's saying.
• 58:48
  I think if a camp rejects the kid and it's not about funds,
• 58:51
  it's about the kid. Like just we don't want your
• 58:53
  kid. Let's see the sleepway camp.
• 58:54
  I think there are Rabin and Manal and and a principal that
• 58:57
  will get involved in the phone call.
• 58:59
  But here it's just like, yeah, we'll take him no problem.
• 59:01
  It's just who's paying. Right.
• 59:02
  And the reason why I guess you couldn't go to the camps to see
• 59:04
  who's not coming in for financial challenges is because
• 59:06
  they don't even apply in the 1st place, right?
• 59:08
  So that's why going to Tom Clay was a smart move.
• 59:10
  That's the whole nother side of the months again, fund is is the
• 59:13
  the the dysfunction of it, which we'll get to in a second.
• 59:17
  But that that is like parents in June and July are calling me and
• 59:22
  I'm like, it's June. Camp starts in a in a two weeks.
• 59:25
  Are you waking up now? But along with the financial
• 59:28
  stress that comes with the family comes a level of
• 59:30
  dysfunction. Usually.
• 59:32
  I mean, they're so bogged down with how we paying our electric
• 59:34
  bill. We don't have time to know where
• 59:36
  Yankees going to camp, you know, and, and the kid suffers from
• 59:39
  that. So now it's June and the kid
• 59:41
  comes home and he's been asking his parents, what's the story?
• 59:44
  What's the story? Where am I going to camp?
• 59:45
  So the the back get into the wall where where's my kid going
• 59:48
  for the next 8 weeks, 9 weeks, 10 weeks.
• 59:51
  And now they're calling me and I'm like, I wish you would have
• 59:54
  just called me a month ago because your kids 15 and he
• 59:57
  wants to go to Romo. Romo's registration has been
• 1:00:00
  closed for 3-4 months already. So what?
• 1:00:04
  How much is it to help you? I don't know me something you
• 1:00:07
  could do. So I would call her by Pfeiffer.
• 1:00:08
  I'll call these camps and I would say, listen, the first
• 1:00:11
  thing they want to hear is that all the finances are like we're
• 1:00:13
  not, we're not we're not going to make ourselves crazy to take
• 1:00:16
  a kid and we're going to chase the money.
• 1:00:18
  So when you call and the first thing you say is listener by
• 1:00:20
  Pfeiffer is a great kid. I wanted to let you know, by the
• 1:00:23
  way, 3600, whatever it is fully taken care of.
• 1:00:26
  I can send you a check right now.
• 1:00:27
  So then he tells me, listen, I was it.
• 1:00:29
  So listen, I'm Monty camp fund. I give you thousands of dollars
• 1:00:32
  every year for different different scholarships and when
• 1:00:36
  you have a relationship with camps, so they're a little bit
• 1:00:38
  more open to listening to you. So I said, listen, one kid a
• 1:00:42
  summer, like usually I'll tell camps, you got it.
• 1:00:44
  You got to take one kid from me. And again, financially covered,
• 1:00:47
  fully covered. So you don't have to chase the
• 1:00:49
  money. You don't have to be busy with
• 1:00:50
  with with chasing who are raw over this.
• 1:00:53
  And that's the other side, getting in the kid, getting in
• 1:00:56
  the kid the. Process, which I'd love to talk
• 1:00:58
  about in a minute. How many kids are you involved
• 1:01:00
  with these days? Last year we helped about 850
• 1:01:03
  kids. What?
• 1:01:05
  Wow. Some some 150 dollars $200
• 1:01:09
  scholarship. You know, it's funny by by the
• 1:01:11
  way, and and I'm, I'm not embarrassed to admit this, that
• 1:01:13
  I go to your bowling thing. I have a team, but she's team
• 1:01:16
  has won many times and you know, we help sponsor it.
• 1:01:19
  I, I, I would never know how many kids you have and what kind
• 1:01:22
  of operation you have going on. That's a lot of kids on the.
• 1:01:24
  First day we had 150 applicants. What what made you do this
• 1:01:28
  bowling thing? And so, and let's talk about
• 1:01:31
  that for a second, because many people that run but not for
• 1:01:34
  profits, and I know that many of our listeners are involved and
• 1:01:36
  not for profits, always wonder what should I do, what kind of
• 1:01:38
  tournament? Like, you know, we created a
• 1:01:41
  volleyball tournament years ago in Muncie, which is phenomenal,
• 1:01:43
  does really well. And it's always difficult to
• 1:01:46
  think of what else can I do besides a pool party with cigar
• 1:01:49
  rollers to get people to come and participate.
• 1:01:51
  So how did that happen? I think you have to do something
• 1:01:53
  that you're passionate about. I was walking back from a fire
• 1:01:57
  station. They were doing a car show and
• 1:01:59
  there's like hundreds of people there and I'm like, they all
• 1:02:01
  came to do just look at cars and they're giving donations and
• 1:02:03
  whatever. So I was walking back with a
• 1:02:05
  friend of mine to my house with my kids and I said why don't we
• 1:02:08
  do this for the then we call the kids in camp, which is a
• 1:02:11
  different organization now, but we said why don't we do like a
• 1:02:14
  car show? No Jews do car shows.
• 1:02:17
  Why don't we do actually? A great idea I I Cam.
• 1:02:19
  Simcha does. They do like the car day, you
• 1:02:21
  know, when all the cars, fancy cars come and they, they come to
• 1:02:23
  camp Simcha like, yeah, but like, maybe I don't know Jewish
• 1:02:26
  cars. So he's like, that's ridiculous.
• 1:02:28
  Whatever He said, let's do something that we we know about.
• 1:02:30
  What do you know about cars? You know, we just saw all these,
• 1:02:33
  you know, Plymouth voyage and he saw all these crazy cars, but
• 1:02:36
  like, we don't know anything about cars.
• 1:02:38
  So he's like, what do you know about?
• 1:02:39
  So I said I'm a bowler, I know bowling, I like the bowl.
• 1:02:43
  So he's like, OK, so let's do a bowling thing.
• 1:02:45
  And we stopped like literally in the street and we're like, does
• 1:02:47
  anyone do a bowling thing? And we knew there was Mayor
• 1:02:51
  Young did the did the volleyball thing, then the Lighthouse does
• 1:02:53
  the volleyball thing. Are you young?
• 1:02:54
  Yeah. And then RCS does the hockey
• 1:02:57
  and. And there's the all.
• 1:02:59
  Sports are taking care. Of there's, there's everything,
• 1:03:02
  right? So, so what's going to, you
• 1:03:03
  know, And then we're like, yeah, let's do bowling.
• 1:03:06
  So we've no one else did it. And it's something that I can
• 1:03:09
  relate to, I think. I think any type of these
• 1:03:11
  things, you have to relate to it.
• 1:03:12
  You can't just say like, let's do whatever, let's do
• 1:03:14
  parasailing. And even though you just don't
• 1:03:16
  know the malacha, you got to be involved.
• 1:03:18
  You have to know, you have to have passion for this.
• 1:03:19
  What's? Your average bowl so.
• 1:03:22
  One seventies, one 80s. I'm not like, you know, 200
• 1:03:24
  bowlers, but. One 80s is not so easy, I can
• 1:03:27
  tell you. But I enjoy it, you know, I
• 1:03:29
  enjoy it every time I did. My family growing up, we always
• 1:03:31
  had money down on bowling. It was always like, you know, a
• 1:03:33
  big thing in my family. So my father's a bowl and my
• 1:03:36
  brothers are bowlers. So it was just something that
• 1:03:38
  spoke to me. You can't run an organization.
• 1:03:40
  You don't. It doesn't.
• 1:03:40
  It's a very kosher form of entertainment.
• 1:03:43
  By the way. Bowling.
• 1:03:43
  I like it. It was, it was beautiful.
• 1:03:45
  So the first year we did it and it was also easy because who are
• 1:03:49
  my teams? The camps, the camps need the
• 1:03:52
  funds, the camps need the scholarships for their kids.
• 1:03:55
  So you, you don't have to raise. It's very hard for let's say I
• 1:03:59
  don't camp clever. If I go to somebody's house and
• 1:04:00
  I say, listen, I'm raising money for the camp clever scholarship
• 1:04:03
  fund to look at you like, isn't that your business, right?
• 1:04:06
  Like what you're so you're raising from your right pocket
• 1:04:08
  to your left pocket. Like what, what are you doing?
• 1:04:10
  You know, it's, it's uncomfortable.
• 1:04:11
  People don't like to do it. So I said here to all the camp
• 1:04:14
  owners, I'm giving you a platform to raise money for
• 1:04:17
  scholarships that you don't have to do that.
• 1:04:19
  Do it through the monthly camp fund.
• 1:04:20
  But help me, help me raise money for the neediest families in, in
• 1:04:24
  your they're going to your camps.
• 1:04:26
  So that was like 10 lanes, you know, out of 24 lanes in New
• 1:04:29
  City Bowl, 10 of the lanes worth of camps, you know, all the
• 1:04:32
  camps that came to join. And then the other ten were
• 1:04:34
  people who just wanted to have a good time, but no one really
• 1:04:36
  knew what it was going to be about.
• 1:04:37
  So I went really over the top like crazy food a lot, live
• 1:04:41
  music. It was it was a real fun night
• 1:04:44
  out, like a ultimate men's night out type of thing.
• 1:04:45
  And people loved it. And the next year I knew it was
• 1:04:48
  great because I think you even told me this.
• 1:04:50
  He says, you know, you did a good job when you call people
• 1:04:52
  next year and they're all back in.
• 1:04:53
  I think you actually told me that after the first year, He
• 1:04:56
  says. Then you know you did a good job
• 1:04:57
  and we made phone calls the next year and we ever want to come
• 1:05:00
  back. My favorite part is when I stop
• 1:05:02
  everybody and I say 100, I want $100 for every strike for the
• 1:05:06
  next 60 seconds and it just gets it gets everyone riled up.
• 1:05:09
  Yeah, it's awesome. It's really awesome.
• 1:05:11
  So that you first year we bought in like $80,000, you know,
• 1:05:14
  $80,000 and we spent like 90. So I only, you know, Toko
• 1:05:18
  Shabbos, obviously they, they said whatever you don't cover,
• 1:05:21
  you're part of, you know, you're part of our families.
• 1:05:23
  So we'll, we'll take care of it. I said I don't want you to have
• 1:05:26
  to take care of anything. So that year though, we did the
• 1:05:30
  registration process all online, a simple job form that you had
• 1:05:33
  to just fill out. We were so flooded because it
• 1:05:36
  was like anyone, anyone and everyone needs help with camp.
• 1:05:39
  It's not like tuition. Tuition you can spread out 12
• 1:05:41
  months, 10 months throughout the year.
• 1:05:43
  You know, you pay here, you pay there.
• 1:05:45
  You even if you're struggling to pay tuition, you make it up this
• 1:05:47
  time because camps are very business oriented as they get
• 1:05:50
  run. That means everything has to be
• 1:05:52
  paid up by March 1st. And the best the camp will do
• 1:05:57
  for you is that you spread it, spread it over three months.
• 1:06:00
  If you apply for that like if you ask the camp can I pay in
• 1:06:04
  payments, they'll they'll work with you.
• 1:06:06
  But it's like March 1st paid in full or your kid loses a spot.
• 1:06:10
  And if you have 4 kids that are going to camp and each camp is
• 1:06:14
  $2000. So more sleepway camp is is in
• 1:06:17
  the $3000 range. Let's say day camps is 18117
• 1:06:20
  hundred. So you need 10 grand after PESA,
• 1:06:23
  after Poram expenses, you need $10,000 to put down by March 1st
• 1:06:26
  for your get to a camp. Who has who has that money?
• 1:06:29
  That's like what the 1% is. Who has that that type of just
• 1:06:32
  money laying around $10,000 for camp.
• 1:06:34
  Very few people. So everyone struggles with this.
• 1:06:38
  So that first year we had like 1000 applications because it was
• 1:06:42
  just online. Everyone just filled out the
• 1:06:43
  thing online. We realized it wasn't going to
• 1:06:45
  work. So we, we, we chose from the
• 1:06:47
  neediest families and we helped them out.
• 1:06:49
  And then from there it was an in person application process.
• 1:06:53
  So that dwindled it down to like 405 hundred people.
• 1:06:55
  And we just grow every year, which is more and more people as
• 1:06:58
  our name gets out there and people need help.
• 1:06:59
  It's just. I have to say thank you for what
• 1:07:01
  you're doing and congratulations on building such an amazing, you
• 1:07:05
  know, system to help, you know, such a need that I guess is just
• 1:07:08
  overlooked. Right.
• 1:07:11
  Every every year, like this time when I start, I wake up in the
• 1:07:14
  morning, I'm like, I'm not doing it this year.
• 1:07:16
  It's so hard to every fundraiser will tell you, you got to bring
• 1:07:20
  in the funds, you got to get the teams, you got to get the
• 1:07:22
  bowling alleys, you got to get the caterer, the music, you have
• 1:07:24
  to get everything involved. It's, it's so much work.
• 1:07:26
  And I'm like, I can't do it. I just can't do it.
• 1:07:30
  It's just too much. And then you remember like the
• 1:07:32
  phone calls of from the Rebbe, from the parents, from the
• 1:07:35
  manal, from the camp owners, for the people that say like, by the
• 1:07:38
  way, you save this kids life, this kid would have been
• 1:07:41
  literally on the streets the whole summer.
• 1:07:43
  Parents call me telling me how even before I sent them, how
• 1:07:47
  their kids struggling and you're this guy.
• 1:07:48
  And if he's not in camp this summer, we're going to lose him,
• 1:07:52
  you know? And, and that's what I take that
• 1:07:55
  deep breath, you know, you stop and you take a step back and
• 1:07:57
  you're like, OK, we got to do this, you know?
• 1:07:59
  You know, we got to make it happen, so.
• 1:08:00
  It's amazing that you have that. I'm curious you have that in
• 1:08:03
  life in general. I mean, because when you have,
• 1:08:05
  when you have a feeling of I can't do this, I can't wake up
• 1:08:08
  now, I can't be busy, but you have those phone calls to hang
• 1:08:10
  on to. It's a big motivator.
• 1:08:13
  What about in general in life? Do you as a as a Rebbe, as a
• 1:08:15
  Mahana? Yeah, for sure.
• 1:08:17
  You understand the concept of anxieties and depressions and
• 1:08:20
  there's. There's every person needs.
• 1:08:24
  I always tell my class the first day of school, there's a there's
• 1:08:27
  a story. I'll make a quick, I mean, I
• 1:08:29
  could say a story for like an hour.
• 1:08:30
  Say this story. Here's a story of of of a bunch
• 1:08:34
  of kids in yeshiva late Thursday night.
• 1:08:36
  So I don't know if you, I'm sure you remember Scott and Todd in
• 1:08:38
  the morning, the phone scams. So we lived off that.
• 1:08:40
  Love the phone scam. Talk to the Freedom.
• 1:08:44
  So they were the best, right? So there's a bunch of boys in
• 1:08:46
  yeshiva who decided they're going to do phone scams and
• 1:08:48
  their idea of fun was they're going to call up on him and
• 1:08:50
  they're going to ask them crazy questions.
• 1:08:53
  The biggest goddio limit in in America.
• 1:08:55
  And if you ask them a question, you move on to the next round,
• 1:08:57
  the. Show this is a thing that you
• 1:08:59
  did. Not me.
• 1:08:59
  No, no, no. There's a story that that that I
• 1:09:02
  heard that. Happened that happened OK,
• 1:09:03
  because I, I, I know these types of things happened still till
• 1:09:06
  today. Yeah, so they, so they put a
• 1:09:08
  bunch of our bottom in a in a paper, put it in a hat.
• 1:09:11
  OK, you're first. It picks it out.
• 1:09:13
  Rebi Solbelski. So the guy, oh, my God.
• 1:09:16
  OK, he goes to the pay phone and Shiva rings.
• 1:09:19
  The Belsky answers the phone leading place.
• 1:09:21
  Sick, right, He says. Why if a chicken crosses the
• 1:09:24
  road on the left side, it still cost you a you know.
• 1:09:27
  So hello. And they're like OK, dog done
• 1:09:30
  it. He hangs up the phone.
• 1:09:31
  He moves on. And.
• 1:09:35
  The next boy goes and it's like Kaminetsky and he asks his if a
• 1:09:39
  cow and a donkey thing, and it's like asking these ridiculous
• 1:09:42
  Silas and again, your Bianca was like you asking they and be like
• 1:09:44
  that's it. Like it was like a four second
• 1:09:46
  timer. OK, you're good.
• 1:09:47
  Hang up right and you made on to that next time.
• 1:09:49
  So comes Yankees turn, let's say right and Yankee get pics of the
• 1:09:52
  thing Remesha Feinstein. And he's like, Oh my God, I am
• 1:09:56
  not calling the to to ask him. All right, you're out.
• 1:10:00
  And Yankee was very competitive kid.
• 1:10:02
  He's not losing this, you know. So he says, OK, I'll do it, I'll
• 1:10:05
  do it, I'll do it. So he gets the pay phone.
• 1:10:06
  He calls and the rabbitson answers the phone rabbitson
• 1:10:10
  Feinstein and says Remesha is sleeping.
• 1:10:13
  But Remesha gets all the time, right?
• 1:10:15
  Life and death situations. Is it is it a life?
• 1:10:18
  Like I'll wake him up. So he's like he's like puts the
• 1:10:22
  phone against his chest and he's like, he's sleeping like, OK, so
• 1:10:26
  you're out. No, it's not.
• 1:10:27
  Oh, he's sleeping. What a wake him up, Wake him up.
• 1:10:30
  Are you nuts? So he takes the phone back.
• 1:10:33
  He says, OK, yeah, can you wake him up?
• 1:10:36
  So OK, one second and there everything goes and wakes up in
• 1:10:39
  my show. And he I don't know, I guess
• 1:10:41
  washes nickel vessel, says he figures it's a Shiloh and Aloka.
• 1:10:45
  And he comes to the phone hello. And the boy asks, is silly
• 1:10:48
  Kasha, you know, if a turtle and whatever and who knows what he
• 1:10:51
  said. Amish is quiet.
• 1:10:53
  He says, I'm sorry, what's your name?
• 1:10:55
  And the boy of course, doesn't want to say his name.
• 1:10:59
  He says so much, says, OK, you don't you don't have to say
• 1:11:01
  name. What will you Shiva you from?
• 1:11:02
  What will you Shiva you calling from?
• 1:11:04
  He doesn't want to say. The boy says, I don't want to
• 1:11:06
  say. He says, OK, OK, what are you
• 1:11:08
  learning? He says I'm learning, Kadushan.
• 1:11:12
  OK, let me let me ask you, Shilin Kadushan, if this kid had
• 1:11:18
  no clue what Mishra was saying. Somebody says get a Gamora and
• 1:11:22
  they're all the friends are like, why are you still on the
• 1:11:24
  phone? You know, to hang out.
• 1:11:25
  He's like, he wants me to get a Gamora.
• 1:11:27
  I don't know. He wants me to get a Gamora.
• 1:11:28
  Like OK, so get a Gamora. So he puts the phone down.
• 1:11:31
  He wants to be as soon as he gets the condition, he comes
• 1:11:33
  back. He says, OK, let's start from
• 1:11:36
  the beginning and she goes through the Gamora.
• 1:11:40
  He says he got the Gamora. Yeah, I have the Gamora.
• 1:11:42
  His friends are like what are you doing?
• 1:11:44
  And he says OK, now look at Rasha, you have rasha.
• 1:11:46
  He says tasis, you learn tasis. I think so.
• 1:11:49
  It says OK, look at tasis. He says OK, you got tasis.
• 1:11:52
  No, I don't really get. Let's do tasis again, Ramesha
• 1:11:54
  says, and they do tasis 4 times. He says, now let me ask you
• 1:11:56
  kasha and tasis. He said ask them a kasha that
• 1:11:59
  you got it. No, 48 minutes.
• 1:12:02
  The guy told me 48 minutes on the phone with Ramesha.
• 1:12:05
  You got the kasha. Yeah, now I got the kasha.
• 1:12:07
  When you're ready, go through this tasis and share.
• 1:12:09
  Ask him this kasha. OK, the guy goes to shear.
• 1:12:12
  The next day the rebbe starts to tysis.
• 1:12:14
  The kid raises his hand. This is the Rebbe's thinking.
• 1:12:17
  What does Yankee want to make me crazy?
• 1:12:18
  Now what let's on this does does Yankee have his up his sleeve to
• 1:12:21
  make me nuts? Finally the Yankees persistent.
• 1:12:24
  You know his hands in the air. I have a costume.
• 1:12:25
  I have a costume. I have a costume.
• 1:12:27
  OK, Yankee, what's your kasha? And he asked him the kasha.
• 1:12:30
  The rebbe's like Yankee. Where do you get the Kasha from?
• 1:12:32
  He says, I got it from Amisha Remesha.
• 1:12:36
  Feinstein says, yeah, this is OK.
• 1:12:37
  I know Yankee doesn't know, probably don't worry much.
• 1:12:39
  Feinstein is, it's amazing, kasha.
• 1:12:41
  He says, yeah, I know. OK, I have to think about it
• 1:12:44
  comes Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday.
• 1:12:46
  He says, I'm slipping your kasha.
• 1:12:47
  Thursday, Friday, Friday comes in.
• 1:12:49
  The rebbe's beaming. He says, Yankee, I have a
• 1:12:51
  turrets to your kasha. And he tells them the turrets,
• 1:12:53
  and Yankee loves the turrets. And he says, OK, I'm going to
• 1:12:56
  try to tell Remotesha the turrets, and I'm trying to get a
• 1:12:57
  thing. And Yankee comes home and he
• 1:12:59
  runs to his room and he's bawling.
• 1:13:01
  He's bawling his eyes out in his pillow, and his father thinks
• 1:13:04
  something happened on the bus and the thing something, and he
• 1:13:06
  comes knocking the door. Yankee, you OK?
• 1:13:08
  And Yankee just keeps saying Remaisha cares about me.
• 1:13:11
  Remaisha cares about me. Remaisha cares about me.
• 1:13:14
  Remaisha cares about me. And he's.
• 1:13:16
  I wasn't always talking about. He says if Remaisha cares about
• 1:13:18
  me, then I have to care about myself.
• 1:13:21
  And that Yankee says he became a red beat.
• 1:13:23
  He's a big we saw him in Lakewood now.
• 1:13:25
  And he said from that moment, he he never felt that anyone cared
• 1:13:28
  about him. Not one Rebbe, not a manal, no
• 1:13:30
  one. No one cared if he was no one
• 1:13:32
  cared if he Steig, no one cared if he was successful.
• 1:13:35
  There was no one in his life that when he got down in the
• 1:13:37
  dumps, he could say, I have to keep going because I know this
• 1:13:40
  person cares about me. And he says that prank, that
• 1:13:43
  phone scam, he saw the moisture that finds him.
• 1:13:46
  The God of our door cared about him.
• 1:13:48
  And he said if there's a person in the world that cares about me
• 1:13:50
  so much that he's going to get up out of bed, he's going to put
• 1:13:52
  up with my jokes in Lutsanas and he's going to care that I'm a
• 1:13:55
  Tsiach, then I have to care about myself.
• 1:13:57
  So when you want to know that a guy gets out of bed and he's in
• 1:13:59
  a dark place and he's not going through Yiddish Kai well, and
• 1:14:02
  he's really suffering and he has no reason to come to Shiva that
• 1:14:06
  day and he has no reason to go with the chakras and he has no
• 1:14:08
  reason. He has to find someone in his
• 1:14:10
  life, whether it's a Rebbe or father, someone that he knows.
• 1:14:14
  I have to do this because this person cares about me.
• 1:14:16
  This person cares that I'm a Tsiach, that I want to do well,
• 1:14:19
  and I have to. If he cares about me, then I
• 1:14:21
  have to. I have to keep up with that.
• 1:14:23
  I have to do well. So I have a father who I know
• 1:14:27
  always cared about me and Herbian who cared about me, and
• 1:14:29
  Rasheeda who cared about me. I was once going through
• 1:14:31
  through. I went through a procedure.
• 1:14:33
  I had to get a MRI and I was petrified what this MRI is going
• 1:14:37
  to show, right? Everyone's been through the
• 1:14:39
  thing. You're waiting for the results.
• 1:14:40
  So I, I get a thing and, and I go to the, to the Hudson Valley
• 1:14:43
  radiology and I'm go through the, the, the MRI process and
• 1:14:47
  Bach Hashem, everything's clean. Everything comes like clear.
• 1:14:50
  But I told, I call Shiva that morning.
• 1:14:52
  I said, Rebbe, I'm going through something.
• 1:14:54
  It's, you know, I'm just going to check it out.
• 1:14:57
  So he says first he gave me because he says it could be 10
• 1:15:00
  things, 9 out of 10, no problem. So you're worried about the one
• 1:15:05
  thing that it might be that you're making yourself crazy
• 1:15:07
  for. Stop worrying so much about
• 1:15:09
  everything. I said, OK, just Davin, you
• 1:15:12
  know, 2:00 in the morning. This is an Abe stickers
• 1:15:15
  basement. I had no service.
• 1:15:16
  So my phone was on like the window sill, you know, the only
• 1:15:18
  place that has service. All of a sudden I hear a crash
• 1:15:22
  and I go my phone's on the floor and it only happened when it
• 1:15:24
  would vibrate. It would shake it off the thing.
• 1:15:26
  And at 2:40 in the morning, I I put my phone back in.
• 1:15:29
  I see a missed call from and he's like no Husky what happened
• 1:15:33
  at 240? He's still thinking he can't go
• 1:15:35
  to sleep until he knows what happened to my results in of of
• 1:15:38
  my he can call me. He can't wait till next morning.
• 1:15:40
  He wakes me up. I'm like, no, everything's good.
• 1:15:42
  He's like, oh, OK, I've got enough.
• 1:15:45
  OK, good night. When you have people in your
• 1:15:48
  life that care about you, it changes your whole perspective
• 1:15:51
  of of of what you live for. You have you, you have the
• 1:15:55
  highest to make them to make to, to live for them.
• 1:15:59
  And as a parent also, you have to install, listen to your kids.
• 1:16:01
  You have to show them that there's nothing more in in my
• 1:16:06
  life that I care about than my kids.
• 1:16:08
  And today, nowadays, right, you know the story with the iPhone.
• 1:16:10
  What would you, what would you want to be an iPhone?
• 1:16:12
  Because my father would look at me.
• 1:16:16
  No, the third grader, I'm first. I'm getting over that story.
• 1:16:20
  That story was. 3rd grade Moto who says.
• 1:16:23
  Wow, That was a great story. OK, the third grade.
• 1:16:26
  Yeah. I, I, I want to tell you
• 1:16:27
  something. I I I'm also an emotional
• 1:16:29
  person. You know, you're in the back of
• 1:16:31
  the bus. I'm not afraid to admit it.
• 1:16:32
  It's an emotional thing that you were saying, but caring about
• 1:16:35
  someone. But but that the concept of what
• 1:16:37
  you're saying, which is resonating with me a lot, is
• 1:16:39
  that when you're going through a challenge to find that person
• 1:16:43
  that cares about you, it's not that difficult if you look for
• 1:16:45
  it, right? If you just make those phone
• 1:16:47
  calls and find those people and find that mentor, that friend,
• 1:16:49
  that brother, that neighbor, that person that you never even
• 1:16:51
  thought cared about you. You said before to reach out
• 1:16:54
  some of them. A lot of times people don't
• 1:16:55
  know. Maybe you're going through a
• 1:16:57
  tremendous struggle and no one knows.
• 1:16:59
  And if you would open, pick up the phone, send out a text like
• 1:17:02
  you're saying, anyone you don't feel comfortable going to a
• 1:17:03
  parent, go to REB. You don't feel, go to the REB,
• 1:17:05
  go to a neighbor, go to a Rob, go to somebody.
• 1:17:08
  You'll be shocked that you'll find that at least this person
• 1:17:11
  now, now this person is struggling with you.
• 1:17:13
  He's in there with you. You're not alone.
• 1:17:15
  The worst place is to be alone. Amazing iPhone people.
• 1:17:17
  OK, Yeah. Sorry, the iPhone is the third
• 1:17:19
  grade teacher who puts the journal today class is going to
• 1:17:23
  be the journal entry is please write down what you want to be
• 1:17:25
  when you grow up. That's the journal entry for
• 1:17:28
  today. And everyone writes A
• 1:17:29
  firefighter and a basketball player and I think and one kid
• 1:17:31
  writes I want to be an iPhone. So the parents said you must not
• 1:17:36
  understood the the the project there.
• 1:17:39
  It's not like what are you dressing up for perm?
• 1:17:40
  This is what you want to be Grow up says no, I want to be an
• 1:17:42
  iPhone. So he asked him, why do you want
• 1:17:44
  to be an iPhone? He says, so that way my parents
• 1:17:47
  could give me the attention and it's and today it's like with
• 1:17:52
  with all the apps and thing, it's like kids get so lost and
• 1:17:56
  parents try and and I myself when I'm doing this fundraiser,
• 1:17:59
  it's like you get so wrapped up to it and people try to keep
• 1:18:02
  their phones in their car and people try to, you know, turn
• 1:18:04
  their phones on silent when they go home.
• 1:18:06
  But there's nothing more like I said before, precious than than
• 1:18:10
  giving that undivided attention when at bedtime, at at in the
• 1:18:14
  summer, playing, playing sports and just that one-on-one the kid
• 1:18:18
  and then your kid will grow up knowing that my father cares
• 1:18:21
  about me unadulterated. Like really, you can't fake
• 1:18:25
  that. It has to be sincere as to be
• 1:18:26
  genuine. And my father, my parent, my
• 1:18:29
  Rebbe, whoever it is in my life, there is someone there that I
• 1:18:33
  have to live up to, that I have to get out of bed for.
• 1:18:36
  And you hope it's apparent, but if it's not, like we said
• 1:18:39
  before, reach out to someone. I have a question.
• 1:18:41
  I have a question for you as a Rebbe.
• 1:18:44
  If you're in your system, you're, you know, your school
• 1:18:47
  and you see another Rebbe, he's just not he's not cut out for
• 1:18:51
  this. And you're like, I don't know.
• 1:18:54
  He, he's, you know, to be, to be a Rebbe is someone that has
• 1:18:58
  confidence, someone that you know, can connect with people
• 1:19:00
  and teach Torah. But it's much more than that,
• 1:19:02
  obviously, right? It's someone that understands in
• 1:19:04
  their DNA they were raised well to know how to respond well, how
• 1:19:09
  to not get angry. You're a Rebbe and you're seeing
• 1:19:11
  it happen, evident next to you. What do you do?
• 1:19:16
  It's tough. It's tough.
• 1:19:18
  I, I would say like it, it, it's even harder in the, in the
• 1:19:20
  business world. You see a colleague who's like
• 1:19:22
  just making mistakes, you know, and you want to just scream at
• 1:19:24
  him and tell him. So you go over them and you
• 1:19:26
  think like in a nice way, you just know, just do it like this
• 1:19:28
  instead of this and everything will be great.
• 1:19:31
  With a Rebbe, your, your classroom is like your domain.
• 1:19:35
  It's like you're, you're the king of that castle, you know.
• 1:19:38
  So for another person to come in and say, don't do it this way,
• 1:19:41
  do it this way, it's like very, it's very personal.
• 1:19:45
  It's very hard Even so, to go over to another Rebbe and
• 1:19:48
  everybody has a style. The hundreds are Herbie right.
• 1:19:51
  Every Rebbe has a certain style that he works with some Rebbe
• 1:19:53
  and restrictor. Some Rebbe are more loose.
• 1:19:55
  Some Rebbe. Everyone has their their steak,
• 1:19:57
  their style that they do usually in manal, a good manal, a good
• 1:20:01
  principal will see it. But there's a certain fraternity
• 1:20:04
  also in Rebbe in the coat in that coffee room, you know,
• 1:20:07
  where a beam just see the struggles of other beam.
• 1:20:10
  I've been in school when I see Rebbe what's called losing the
• 1:20:13
  class. And you lose the class.
• 1:20:15
  That means no matter what you say, the kids will just laugh at
• 1:20:18
  you. Sit down.
• 1:20:19
  It means nothing. Be quiet.
• 1:20:20
  The whole day. You're just doing that.
• 1:20:21
  Sit down. Be quiet.
• 1:20:22
  Can you please be quiet? Can you stop disturbing?
• 1:20:24
  Could you take out your Gemara with it?
• 1:20:25
  And then. OK, everybody say let's go.
• 1:20:27
  Let's start. I can.
• 1:20:28
  Could you please sit down? Could you please stop talking?
• 1:20:30
  Could you get out? Get out.
• 1:20:31
  The other day I have to go to the principal or vice.
• 1:20:33
  I'll be right back. OK, let's start again.
• 1:20:36
  I could you sit. Stop.
• 1:20:38
  Don't throw their band. Fall into that when they lose
• 1:20:41
  the class. And, and you can't teach that
• 1:20:43
  way. And many times a senior Rebbe or
• 1:20:47
  veteran Rebbe will pull it. I got tremendous amount of
• 1:20:50
  experience from, from my father. I, I would call my father
• 1:20:52
  crying, say that I, I can't, I can't teach.
• 1:20:55
  I'm at the worst Rebbe. I come in, they don't listen.
• 1:20:58
  Since you're not the worst Rebbe, slow down.
• 1:21:01
  Try this approach. Try that approach to a point
• 1:21:04
  system. You're being too dry.
• 1:21:05
  You're being you're, you're giving too much.
• 1:21:07
  You have to gain back that authority.
• 1:21:11
  There's a lot of abeim who who So what happens is I think what
• 1:21:14
  you're talking about is sometimes a Rep excuse me, a
• 1:21:17
  Rebbe goes through and he just it's an age thing.
• 1:21:20
  I know a lot of schools they put a certain age limit that after a
• 1:21:24
  certain 65, there's a year to year.
• 1:21:28
  You know, are you are you fit for it?
• 1:21:30
  Because it is nothing. I'll tell you more exhausting
• 1:21:34
  than teaching. It's it's you're standing the
• 1:21:37
  whole time. You're you're flying in the
• 1:21:39
  classroom. It is icon home soaked and just
• 1:21:42
  at a certain age you just can't do it.
• 1:21:44
  You're not you're not connecting to that guy.
• 1:21:46
  You're losing that buck. You're losing that kid because
• 1:21:49
  you don't have the cafes for it. So at that point, I don't think
• 1:21:53
  it should come from a Rebbe because the that Rebbe still
• 1:21:55
  thinks he has it and that Rebbe still thinks like, no, I'm fine,
• 1:21:58
  I'm good. I think some of them do you see
• 1:22:00
  67 year old Baim, we're still knocking, still doing amazing.
• 1:22:04
  That's usually when I will step in and say like, listen, it's
• 1:22:08
  not, it's time to, you know, let's talk about your, let's
• 1:22:11
  talk about your. What's it called the?
• 1:22:12
  Retirement. The the money you get
• 1:22:15
  afterwards, yeah, Pension, let's talk about.
• 1:22:17
  Your exactly I hear. So you're saying if if you
• 1:22:20
  notice something, I guess you would go to the Manaho perhaps
• 1:22:22
  or? I don't know if it's so much
• 1:22:24
  your place, you you maybe to talk, but.
• 1:22:26
  You are noticing though it happens it.
• 1:22:28
  Happens sometimes, but it's usually one incident like a
• 1:22:31
  Rebbe and then the Rebbe will just tell you he lost it.
• 1:22:33
  Like if a Rebbe screams at a kid, you know, and then you're
• 1:22:36
  close enough with the Rebbe because you work with him.
• 1:22:38
  So as a, as a fraternity with this, you go and like, you know,
• 1:22:41
  next time, I don't know if that's works with this kid.
• 1:22:43
  This kid does not respond to being screamed that you got to
• 1:22:46
  take him over by himself privately and tell him this is
• 1:22:49
  the way it has to be. And he'll say like, oh, thank
• 1:22:50
  you so much. OK, I didn't know that that's
• 1:22:51
  the way this kid works with or whatever it is usually it's real
• 1:22:55
  like a novice, a first year, second year Rebbe.
• 1:22:58
  But. What grade are you used to?
• 1:23:00
  What ages of? Kids I did 5th, 7th and in high
• 1:23:04
  school 10th, 12th. You were all over, Really.
• 1:23:07
  OK. Which one is the most
• 1:23:08
  challenging you think? 7th grade by far is every Rebbe.
• 1:23:12
  I think most of them will tell you because there's a lot of a
• 1:23:17
  lot of other things going on, a lot of disturbances, a lot of
• 1:23:19
  distractions. It's a bar mitzvah year, so
• 1:23:22
  there's a lot of focus on the bar mitzvah.
• 1:23:24
  So any bar mitzvah kid, for probably a month and a half,
• 1:23:26
  he's checked out, he's his potato, he's leaning, he's
• 1:23:29
  going. Let's cover this topic for a
• 1:23:32
  minute and then we'll have to wrap up because this is a good
• 1:23:35
  one. And again, as a parent, forget
• 1:23:36
  about the kids perspective. As a parent, so much emphasis on
• 1:23:39
  having to read the Torah and read and learn the Trump.
• 1:23:42
  The things that we forget in two seconds when it's done, we'd
• 1:23:45
  breathe them the potato. What are the things that are
• 1:23:48
  important? Like you're talking about 7th
• 1:23:49
  grade being so important as a parent, can you teach me?
• 1:23:52
  Can you give me some guidance as to where should I emphasize my
• 1:23:55
  my attention to when my kids going through this process?
• 1:23:58
  It's it's gotten much better when I was a verse where I was
• 1:24:00
  like you are you were like the Nebel if you didn't lean your
• 1:24:03
  whole partial and after you and do shuttle and make a see him
• 1:24:06
  like you were like like are you from you know, like what's wrong
• 1:24:10
  with you Now? I think parents are much more
• 1:24:12
  aware of of pushing their kid too hard in this situation,
• 1:24:16
  because parents are aware they're doing it for themselves.
• 1:24:19
  Like I agree, a kid will feel amazing if he nails a, a devout
• 1:24:23
  tell you shuttle leans does left tell you whatever it is, it
• 1:24:27
  could boost his confidence in his in his self esteem
• 1:24:29
  tremendously. He gets up there as the Messiah.
• 1:24:31
  But you know how much pressure and anxiety these kids have at
• 1:24:33
  1312 years old to be Messiah, to say the hydrant, to say his
• 1:24:37
  shuttle. It's not for every kid.
• 1:24:40
  It's not for every kid. Take a step back for a second
• 1:24:42
  and think, am I doing it for myself?
• 1:24:43
  So all my guests see my kid getting up there and what are
• 1:24:45
  they going to say about my kid? Or am I doing it for my son?
• 1:24:48
  Because you're saying he'll learn how to lane a different
• 1:24:51
  way and he'll be a public speaker.
• 1:24:53
  I don't know when it maybe it's not for him, but what is he
• 1:24:56
  going to get out of it? Can he do it?
• 1:24:58
  Because his whole bar mitzvah, I've, I've went over pshettle
• 1:25:02
  with, with Barmista Bochum and they were literally petrified.
• 1:25:06
  And his whole bar mitzvah leading up to star mitzvah is
• 1:25:08
  just one big party of anxiety of am I going to mess up?
• 1:25:13
  Am I going to say the right things?
• 1:25:15
  Going over the pshettle 100 times.
• 1:25:16
  It's his bar mitzvah. The whole thing that you should
• 1:25:19
  think of is am I going to mess up my pshettle?
• 1:25:20
  Am I going to do good at my leaning?
• 1:25:23
  Do what your son is capable of. I have a good friend who does is
• 1:25:27
  a master about Curry. He tells parents this is not for
• 1:25:30
  your kid. He's tone deaf.
• 1:25:33
  He he's doesn't can't get the concepts.
• 1:25:35
  Thank you, whoever that is, by the way, on behalf of the entire
• 1:25:37
  community that sits through with this process.
• 1:25:39
  He he is like, what are you doing?
• 1:25:41
  You're breeding a kid who's just going to come to his bar mitzvah
• 1:25:45
  with tremendous anxiety and you're pushing him too hard.
• 1:25:48
  He'll be fine. Do a shuttle speak a little bit
• 1:25:51
  by the by the by the week by the day thing I.
• 1:25:53
  Have to tell you something a funny story that happened to me.
• 1:25:56
  It's just a it's a my memory is clicking in and I'm like and
• 1:26:00
  when my bar mitzvah was at the hotel and and I was very, very
• 1:26:05
  nervous leading up to the to the Chatel right to the speech.
• 1:26:10
  Anyways, the speech, the paper was forgotten in the taxi and on
• 1:26:13
  the way to the breakfast. I didn't have it anxiety through
• 1:26:17
  the I think that thinking back, that was the first time I had
• 1:26:20
  anxiety in my life and my dad came to me and he goes, I got
• 1:26:23
  you. Don't worry about it.
• 1:26:24
  I'm like, what didn't you got me?
• 1:26:25
  What are you going to do? He goes, don't worry, just get
• 1:26:28
  up there. Thank everyone for coming.
• 1:26:31
  Thank, you know, whatever you got to do, say whatever you're
• 1:26:33
  comfortable. And I got, I went up there.
• 1:26:35
  I said thank him. By the way, he made me say it in
• 1:26:36
  Hebrew. Really.
• 1:26:38
  And the point is that a certain point he go, he got the whole
• 1:26:41
  crowd to start saying say, hey, man, they didn't stop until I
• 1:26:44
  sat down. So I was like planned for him
• 1:26:46
  not to embarrass me that I didn't remember it.
• 1:26:49
  But I remember the anxiety leading up to that speech,
• 1:26:52
  though. And I'm thinking, like you said
• 1:26:53
  earlier, what is that one thing that a parent should think
• 1:26:55
  about? This I'm doing for my kid.
• 1:26:57
  What is that thing? What are we doing for our kids
• 1:26:59
  for the bar mitzvah? Is it delaying?
• 1:27:00
  Do we really need that kid to do that?
• 1:27:02
  Do we really need the kid to have these parties and these
• 1:27:04
  huge things during the week and Shabbos and the gift And right,
• 1:27:08
  So sure. No, a bar mitzvah is is.
• 1:27:11
  It should be a monumental time in a kids life.
• 1:27:14
  He's becoming a bar mitzvah. He matters.
• 1:27:16
  He makes a difference to you. This guy does.
• 1:27:17
  Mitzvahs make a difference and the message gets lost.
• 1:27:20
  It gets totally lost in in the parties and the thrills and the
• 1:27:23
  over the top things and all that, like you mentioned, also
• 1:27:26
  creates A tremendous pressure. So schools try to get on top of
• 1:27:29
  it and it's not limited. You can't do this.
• 1:27:31
  You could do this, but parents don't like to be told what they
• 1:27:33
  could and can't do, especially from the schools.
• 1:27:35
  You could tell me what I should make for my kids bar mitzvah.
• 1:27:37
  I could afford it. I want to do this.
• 1:27:39
  It's this is the old age, you know, Takano weddings.
• 1:27:42
  I should do make a wedding because this because this guy
• 1:27:44
  can't afford it. But for kids, you're dealing
• 1:27:47
  with kids, you're not, you're not dealing with adults.
• 1:27:49
  So the kid looks at what this guy had in his bar mitzvah and
• 1:27:51
  he had a light system and he had a three piece band, 5 piece band
• 1:27:55
  and he had Betty Friedman to come to his bar mitzvah and he
• 1:27:57
  had all these things and what, what's my bar mitzvah?
• 1:27:59
  So now like this, this kid is like embarrassed of probably the
• 1:28:02
  most monumental time in his entire life up until now and
• 1:28:06
  he's hates it. He's he's embarrassed almost to
• 1:28:08
  go to his own bar mitzvah because he's only having
• 1:28:11
  keyboard player and he's only having, you know, sushi and, and
• 1:28:15
  and 1 meat board and he's not having a full, you know, catered
• 1:28:18
  event. So it's like it it's it gets
• 1:28:21
  lost. The message gets lost and the
• 1:28:23
  parents have to realize the kid gets lost.
• 1:28:25
  You're doing it for your kid. This is your kids time.
• 1:28:29
  Focus on the kid, focus on the the nachos that you get from
• 1:28:32
  him. Focus on the Zetas, the
• 1:28:33
  grandparents, the legacy that you built.
• 1:28:35
  Focus on on here is your son who's, who's coming in of age
• 1:28:40
  and, and don't, don't be so stressed and, and what are the
• 1:28:43
  flowers going to look like? And then my parents, my mother
• 1:28:45
  owns a flower shop. So my my father, like we, I grew
• 1:28:49
  up setting up copas, mojitos and and bride bouquets.
• 1:28:52
  This is like my life growing up. I feel bad for my wife.
• 1:28:54
  I never buy her flowers. I said flowers by me is like
• 1:28:56
  money. Like what buy flowers?
• 1:28:58
  That's like ridiculous. So so but they would see like
• 1:29:02
  mothers of the bride crying been days ruined this wedding and the
• 1:29:07
  dead because the pink of the bride of bouquet wasn't exactly
• 1:29:11
  what they had on mind and the the dress and this thing broke
• 1:29:13
  and they like your kids getting married.
• 1:29:16
  Just enjoy the moment of of walking your kid down the hoopo
• 1:29:20
  and stop screaming at the caterer because the sponge cake
• 1:29:24
  came out like this and you thought it was going to be like
• 1:29:25
  that. Like are you really getting lost
• 1:29:27
  in these materialistic like small silly things?
• 1:29:32
  And my father would at even at times pull over like the
• 1:29:35
  Hassan's father or or or a parent and say you don't worry
• 1:29:38
  about anything. I'm I'm going to take care of
• 1:29:40
  you. Please just enjoy your child.
• 1:29:42
  Simple. Please just be present in this
• 1:29:45
  simple and stop worrying and stop caring about other things.
• 1:29:48
  And, and when it regards to to laning and putting all these
• 1:29:51
  things and pressures on a kid, just do whatever your kids going
• 1:29:54
  to come out feeling with the most confident and happy and
• 1:29:58
  self esteem, fulfilledment, happy, real happiness, real.
• 1:30:02
  He looks in the mirror. You know, the, the, the, the
• 1:30:04
  famous from Cool runnings that that you know, the guy stands in
• 1:30:07
  front of the mirror, the bobsledding movie that we we
• 1:30:09
  grew up with, and he stands for the mirror and he tells himself
• 1:30:12
  I'm a bad guy, right? Just want to make.
• 1:30:15
  Sure you describe it though, because I don't remember.
• 1:30:17
  The story is the guy lost loses confidence and he and he doesn't
• 1:30:20
  believe he could do it. And his father tells him that he
• 1:30:22
  has to go to college and he has to, he's not, he's not becoming
• 1:30:24
  a bobsledder for Jamaica. And his father tells him, no,
• 1:30:27
  you're nothing. You're going to be nothing in
• 1:30:29
  your life. And he and he degrades him and
• 1:30:31
  he makes him feel like nothing. And, and his buddy tells him,
• 1:30:33
  stand in front of this mirror and to look yourself in the
• 1:30:36
  mirror and tell yourself how you're the best and the greatest
• 1:30:38
  and the most amazing person. And he leaves the room and the
• 1:30:41
  guy looks himself in the mirror and he doesn't believe it
• 1:30:44
  because his whole life he's been told that he's a loser, he's a
• 1:30:45
  nothing. And he stands for them and he
• 1:30:47
  can't do it. And slowly he builds up the
• 1:30:48
  courage. And at the end, like after five
• 1:30:50
  times, he's screaming, I'm the best, I'm the greatest, I'm the
• 1:30:53
  nothing. And he runs out and he goes out
• 1:30:55
  to his father in the hallway. He was waiting to take him to
• 1:30:58
  college. And he says, I'm not going
• 1:30:59
  anywhere. I'm staying right here.
• 1:31:02
  I'm the I'm the greatest. I'm a bobsledder.
• 1:31:04
  This is what I'm doing in my life.
• 1:31:05
  Get out of here. He's screaming his father and
• 1:31:07
  his father just smacks, he says, but his father realizes it's
• 1:31:11
  like he's passionate and like he built up that confidence.
• 1:31:13
  So at the end of our mitzvah, you want a kid to walk home and
• 1:31:16
  go to sleep that night feeling I'm the greatest.
• 1:31:18
  I am. I was amazing.
• 1:31:20
  My parents love me, my herbaeum love me.
• 1:31:22
  I danced with my javerium. I had an amazing time.
• 1:31:24
  Not did I messed up the leaning not Oh my gosh, I can't put that
• 1:31:28
  mumbled that word in in my I still remember the word
• 1:31:31
  specific. I couldn't say am I permissive
• 1:31:33
  shuttle specific specific and I remember and this is 25 years
• 1:31:37
  later, I'm remembering that that that my permissive shuttle.
• 1:31:40
  I don't remember a word of it. That's the word specific.
• 1:31:42
  Never put the word specific in your kids permissive shuttle.
• 1:31:45
  That's what I remember. Wow, so you got to be great.
• 1:31:48
  Think of the kid. Think of the kid.
• 1:31:50
  What a message? What?
• 1:31:52
  What thank you so much for coming today.
• 1:31:54
  I really appreciate it. I think that what you're doing
• 1:31:57
  is phenomenal. The concept of, of, in general,
• 1:32:01
  of being a Rebbe, what it's like to be successful as a Rebbe and
• 1:32:05
  the concept in general of what it means to, for children to
• 1:32:07
  have access to camp in the summer and building their
• 1:32:10
  confidence and, and all that is just been amazing.
• 1:32:14
  We always like to wrap up with a couple of things.
• 1:32:15
  So first of all, do you have any questions for me?
• 1:32:21
  Yeah, sure. I want to know, do most people
• 1:32:23
  ask you questions? Some people get into questions.
• 1:32:26
  I don't. Steph, have we gotten a lot of
• 1:32:27
  questions? Yeah.
• 1:32:28
  I mean, it happens. Yeah.
• 1:32:31
  It depends on the bucket. You can ask me anything, by the
• 1:32:34
  way. No, nothing's nothing.
• 1:32:35
  How did you? I don't even get to use this, by
• 1:32:37
  the way. I don't get to use the none of
• 1:32:38
  your business line. Yeah.
• 1:32:39
  How did you I know like back in the day, I was still here when
• 1:32:43
  you're we were in the other office.
• 1:32:45
  I came a few times. You had like a guitar in his
• 1:32:46
  office. Like what's it like to to come
• 1:32:48
  into like a a business that we built from from the beginning.
• 1:32:52
  You built it into a beautiful thing.
• 1:32:53
  I see. That's none of your, that's none
• 1:32:54
  of your business. What's the real question though?
• 1:32:57
  What's the core question? The real question is, is we've
• 1:32:59
  talked about a lot about building yeah and building up
• 1:33:01
  things and, you know, working for things, yeah, hard for
• 1:33:04
  things, the. The success, I think in prime
• 1:33:06
  source and to me and, and everything in life, it, it comes
• 1:33:10
  as a shocker sometimes to people.
• 1:33:11
  And I'm a big advocate of it. And that's partnerships.
• 1:33:15
  And to me it's just like a, a marriage and the success of a
• 1:33:19
  marriage is finding, you know, someone that's, you know, fills
• 1:33:23
  the gaps, the, the weaknesses, your weaknesses, their strength,
• 1:33:26
  right. I am a big believer in
• 1:33:29
  partnerships in business. And when people say like, oh,
• 1:33:33
  what a partners, you can do it yourself.
• 1:33:34
  You can make so much more money, you do it.
• 1:33:37
  I'm just the opposite by me, by me, it's I'd rather bring in
• 1:33:39
  more people and get more partners to do it better,
• 1:33:43
  stronger and be more successful. And we'll make it up in the
• 1:33:47
  volume. And let's not forget that God is
• 1:33:50
  the one providing. So ultimately, you know, don't
• 1:33:53
  make it about yourself, make it about others.
• 1:33:56
  And when you make it about others, that's when you get
• 1:33:58
  everything that you need. So that is the concept that I
• 1:34:00
  think that my father instilled in me in general about doing
• 1:34:02
  things together with others and being there for others and.
• 1:34:05
  I mean, I see, I know you're involved in the bowling
• 1:34:06
  tournament, but you do the Lighthouse also.
• 1:34:08
  And like, do other people reach out to you to to get involved in
• 1:34:11
  like every There's the run and there's this run.
• 1:34:13
  Yeah, thank God there are people reach out to you.
• 1:34:15
  Yes. You know what?
• 1:34:17
  I'm in the world of people who reach out, you know, for
• 1:34:19
  charity, but also to create charities and to create
• 1:34:22
  organizations. I like to tell people that if
• 1:34:24
  people call out to you, then then you're that messenger.
• 1:34:27
  There's a reason why they called you and not somebody else.
• 1:34:29
  And, you know, try to get involved as much as you can.
• 1:34:32
  Someone just asked me this morning.
• 1:34:34
  Another shout out to our Shlomo, by the way, shul that helped
• 1:34:37
  change my life for the better. It's they're, they're going to
• 1:34:40
  be doing a, a, a status update on their process of their growth
• 1:34:45
  and their life and so on. They're, they're doing a lot
• 1:34:48
  that shul and it's a great thing.
• 1:34:50
  But someone asked me this morning, how are you so involved
• 1:34:55
  in so many things? Right, that's what I'm asking
• 1:34:57
  you like it's so many people probably reach out to you.
• 1:35:01
  Besides the fact that you're just well known, you also have a
• 1:35:03
  tremendous vibe to you. Like you you're you're a party
• 1:35:06
  go. You're you're a person who gets
• 1:35:07
  things done. You love the the noise.
• 1:35:11
  You get pushed away. Some people shy away from that.
• 1:35:12
  You're you're you make parties happen.
• 1:35:14
  So I can't answer you on that and because that's a whole other
• 1:35:17
  discussion, but the, the the question that I was asked this
• 1:35:19
  morning, which is similar to what you're saying, is how are
• 1:35:21
  you involved in so many things? The answer is, I don't have
• 1:35:24
  Facebook and I don't have Instagram and I don't have
• 1:35:28
  social media. I don't follow politics, I don't
• 1:35:30
  follow the news. And that's really the answer.
• 1:35:33
  And when I'm sitting, you know, quote UN quote, doing nothing,
• 1:35:37
  you know, some people will do the Duff, you know, some people
• 1:35:40
  will listen to music and some people will just scroll and
• 1:35:43
  everyone will do their thing. I'm always thinking, what else
• 1:35:45
  can I get involved with? And it's what else can I do?
• 1:35:47
  So if somebody calls me like I have something for you to get
• 1:35:50
  about, I get excited. Like, what do you got for me?
• 1:35:52
  But I had to learn over the years how to prioritize things
• 1:35:56
  and how to say no. And that's been my biggest
• 1:35:58
  challenge that I think, thank God I've overcome a little over
• 1:36:00
  5-6 years ago and going through probably therapy and working on
• 1:36:04
  myself and not pleasing everybody.
• 1:36:06
  And that was always a big challenge.
• 1:36:07
  But the concept of just like you have time, you want to make it
• 1:36:11
  useful for you to feel good about yourself, just do for
• 1:36:13
  others. And so I'm always looking for
• 1:36:15
  that. Last question for me, where's
• 1:36:17
  the music is that, is that from your father's side, Your
• 1:36:19
  mother's? Side it's my mother.
• 1:36:20
  I grew up with my mother listening to always every air of
• 1:36:23
  Shabbos, always singing along. She loved little children
• 1:36:25
  singing, you know that those little voices, you know the So I
• 1:36:28
  always loved that. I met Rep Shlomo when I was 8
• 1:36:30
  years old. I actually just sent an e-mail
• 1:36:32
  to Nashom Kalabach and I wanted to come on the podcast.
• 1:36:36
  She just came to our Shlomo, actually.
• 1:36:38
  I might get us, she and I don't. Know it won't because it's
• 1:36:41
  music, it doesn't interest him, but but you know, so and I and I
• 1:36:46
  sent her an e-mail. She's like, if you want me to
• 1:36:48
  come on the podcast, send me an e-mail and explain to me why.
• 1:36:50
  And I said I met your dad when I was 8 years old and this
• 1:36:53
  something happened there, something magical happened that
• 1:36:56
  allowed me to connect the spirituality through the beauty
• 1:36:59
  of music. And this is not something that I
• 1:37:00
  made-up. This is Levine.
• 1:37:02
  This is basically make touch. This is, you know, Jews as a
• 1:37:04
  whole of prayer of song, Shira Shira.
• 1:37:07
  And it connected to me. So I think that connection, you
• 1:37:10
  know, when I was younger, my mother and just, you know, and
• 1:37:14
  I, I was hanging out with my friends on the beach in Puerto
• 1:37:16
  Rico 10 years ago and we're sitting around, we're
• 1:37:19
  schmoozing. We're we ran out of
• 1:37:21
  conversation. I don't know if that ever
• 1:37:22
  happens to you. You said it's probably not
• 1:37:24
  right. We're like, OK, I'm like, one of
• 1:37:27
  us should learn how to play guitar.
• 1:37:29
  Like, you know it like. So we went around the room and
• 1:37:30
  like, OK, you're the only guy that cares enough.
• 1:37:33
  So I learned how to play guitar. I just started with the E and I
• 1:37:35
  want to send this message to everybody.
• 1:37:37
  You're musical and you enjoy music.
• 1:37:38
  Start with the letter E. Just get to learn the letter E
• 1:37:42
  and then go to A and then go to D and then go to C and then go
• 1:37:44
  to G and then, you know, 100 Kalaba songs and you can sing.
• 1:37:47
  And that's what happened in my journey of music, so thank God.
• 1:37:50
  You see also just to the point of of every father could have a
• 1:37:53
  relationship with her son. I see the videos of you and, and
• 1:37:55
  how much encouragement you give your son and how proud you are
• 1:37:58
  and his song Kaylee and, and you think that like it's just, I
• 1:38:02
  maybe you don't think, but this is, it's priceless.
• 1:38:05
  What I was talking about before has how he sees his father as a,
• 1:38:08
  as not just an interest, but a loving interest and a cure for
• 1:38:12
  his success and something that they mutually it could, could,
• 1:38:15
  could connect with. And he sees that in you and he
• 1:38:18
  sees how you're giving him that attention.
• 1:38:19
  He sees how you're showing interest in that and it may seem
• 1:38:22
  like I'll just getting exposure to the song Kylie and people
• 1:38:25
  should know who he is and you use a platform to get him.
• 1:38:27
  It's so much more than that. It's it's I love him, I love my
• 1:38:31
  son, I love what he's doing. I care about him and and it's a
• 1:38:34
  beautiful connection through music.
• 1:38:36
  But anyone could have that through anything.
• 1:38:38
  I'm going to take a page out of your book and and we'll wrap up
• 1:38:40
  with this. That's my playing catch with my
• 1:38:42
  son. There it is.
• 1:38:43
  So, you know, I connect through music.
• 1:38:45
  If you connect through volleyball, if you connect
• 1:38:47
  through bowling. Find something that you're
• 1:38:49
  passionate about that interests you and connect to your child
• 1:38:51
  through that. It's amazing.
• 1:38:53
  That's where quality versus quantity comes to play.
• 1:38:56
  I'm not a person that's home every night eating dinner with
• 1:38:58
  my kids, but I am the person that when I see them, they get
• 1:39:01
  all of me, 100% of me. So thank God.
• 1:39:04
  I really appreciate you coming here.
• 1:39:05
  Before I let you go, if you started a podcast tomorrow, who
• 1:39:08
  would be your first guest? My first guest, probably my
• 1:39:13
  brother-in-law. Who's that my?
• 1:39:14
  Brother in law's name is Shelley Lichman.
• 1:39:16
  He's a nursing home owner in Chicago.
• 1:39:18
  He works with Freddie Friedman and Nate Stern and these guys.
• 1:39:22
  Maybe you know these people. You think he'd be willing to
• 1:39:23
  come on? He started a move.
• 1:39:26
  I don't know. We want to call it a movement,
• 1:39:27
  but I don't know if you're involved in the whole thank you,
• 1:39:28
  Hashem against. Are you joking?
• 1:39:30
  Can you turn around right there? Thank you Hashem.
• 1:39:32
  Thank you, Hashem. OK, so he's the antithesis.
• 1:39:35
  He's the other side, really. He is just Laurentia.
• 1:39:38
  He is. He he's not shouting, thank you
• 1:39:41
  Hashem, he's saying just Laurentia.
• 1:39:43
  He has inside the lining of his jackets JLT you know he.
• 1:39:47
  And it's not just like Hashem is the most loving let's.
• 1:39:52
  Get him on. I'm enjoying this already.
• 1:39:54
  My mind's already working. Very successful.
• 1:39:56
  Yeah. And he just, he's like, what
• 1:39:58
  about Terra? You know, you're saying like
• 1:40:00
  Arsalomo, right? So that's like the spitz.
• 1:40:03
  Thank you Hashem. You know, and they and I even
• 1:40:05
  saw like the the status thing that they're going to be doing.
• 1:40:07
  It's all about just connecting to Hashem.
• 1:40:09
  Through comes it's through song, through davening, through a
• 1:40:13
  musical howl. He says OK And then when are you
• 1:40:16
  opening your like what are you opening your your Gemara?
• 1:40:19
  And it gets lost. It's like, and people feel that
• 1:40:22
  no, I'm doing my part. I'm doing my part.
• 1:40:23
  And and I think the, I think the idea is like you're taking the
• 1:40:28
  easy street. You know, tire is hard because
• 1:40:30
  you're not learning to tire because it's hard.
• 1:40:32
  It's not easy to open it tomorrow.
• 1:40:34
  It's easy to sit by a comsit with, with Dolby misels and and
• 1:40:38
  and meat boards and sing. And then you're like, OK, check.
• 1:40:41
  I connected to Hashem. One might say that it's also
• 1:40:44
  easy to turn on and press play and listen to Adafiomishir for
• 1:40:48
  15 minutes and say that you learned.
• 1:40:50
  No, but I'm saying this one might say that my response to
• 1:40:53
  that is, and I can't believe I'm about to say this, this is just
• 1:40:55
  crazy, is that I had a Caruso this morning.
• 1:40:57
  That's what's crazy. And we were learning condition.
• 1:41:01
  And that's my, it's my, you know, shout out to Shirley.
• 1:41:04
  So we learn every Friday morning and I, you know, I don't think
• 1:41:09
  I'd be learning today if not for Arshlomo.
• 1:41:12
  I'm going to come out and say it.
• 1:41:14
  You want to know why I'm saying it?
• 1:41:15
  Because we learnt this morning. Haisha Nikness, Bishwesha
• 1:41:17
  Dracham, I can't believe I'm saying this.
• 1:41:19
  A woman is acquired, not purchased.
• 1:41:21
  You don't buy a woman. Is it acquired, right.
• 1:41:23
  Three ways, with money, with a contract and be a, with a
• 1:41:25
  relationship, with a physical relationship, right.
• 1:41:28
  So he, what he, the way he described it to me is what I'm
• 1:41:32
  going to tell you here. It's not all three.
• 1:41:34
  It's not that you do all three at once in a vacuum.
• 1:41:36
  It's that you start off with Kassif, then you get to start
• 1:41:39
  and then finally you do the epitome of the relationship,
• 1:41:41
  which is the act of, of being with someone.
• 1:41:44
  That is that process of, of being Kona, a woman.
• 1:41:48
  I feel the same thing with Kona of Torah.
• 1:41:50
  If you give to Dhaka, you give charity to someone who's
• 1:41:52
  learning. It connects you to Torah.
• 1:41:55
  If you singing for Fila to connect to the God, it's
• 1:41:58
  connecting you through Torah and then you can that's a Torah.
• 1:42:00
  It's a beautiful thing. It's not meant for everybody.
• 1:42:02
  It's the same thing with the Duff that's given with what's
• 1:42:05
  with Robert Stefanski. You know, it's childish.
• 1:42:09
  It's for second graders. I'm sorry we're not all on your
• 1:42:12
  level of learning right now. I'm sorry that I'm on a second
• 1:42:15
  grade level of learning, but calm down.
• 1:42:17
  There's a lot of us out there, and I'm sorry that I'm not the
• 1:42:19
  person that's just going to RIP open a gamar and Start learning
• 1:42:21
  all day and just learn Torah. It might, I might need to be
• 1:42:25
  inspired by something else in order to get there, and I'm
• 1:42:27
  unapologetic for it. Please get him on the phone and
• 1:42:30
  ask him to come on. I'll.
• 1:42:32
  Tell him to come on for no. No, right now you got to call
• 1:42:33
  him and ask. He's in Chicago.
• 1:42:35
  He's not you. Know does he ever come out here?
• 1:42:37
  Yeah, all the time. Yeah, Then you can ask him that.
• 1:42:39
  Listen, you know, Yossi Green taught me that what we did with
• 1:42:43
  getting him on the podcast is by calling him on the spot and
• 1:42:45
  putting pressure on him. Really.
• 1:42:46
  Yeah. So you're putting your phone
• 1:42:48
  away. I mean, you're not doing it.
• 1:42:49
  I don't. Think he's going to, but I mean
• 1:42:50
  I can ask him. Come on.
• 1:42:51
  OK, I'll ask him. You got to ask him.
• 1:42:53
  You got to ask him. All you got to do is ask, right?
• 1:42:55
  Yeah. Listen, he's.
• 1:42:56
  You miss all the shots you don't take.
• 1:42:57
  That's Oshi Schwartz line. He told me that he's from a
• 1:43:00
  supporter. Is that a Jordan line?
• 1:43:02
  Wayne Gretzky. Thank you.
• 1:43:03
  Steph let. Me see.
• 1:43:07
  By the way, we're in the same industry, so we can talk about
• 1:43:09
  business side of things as well. It would be interesting.
• 1:43:10
  Yeah, for sure not. But the people see if he comes
• 1:43:14
  on, they said. They can't.
• 1:43:16
  Talk. They can't talk right?
• 1:43:17
  Now I guess that process OK, you'll ask him later.
• 1:43:19
  It's fine. Can't.
• 1:43:20
  Talk now. All right, Shelly, We'll be in
• 1:43:21
  touch later. That's pretty cool actually.
• 1:43:23
  What is somebody like AI type of thing picked up?
• 1:43:25
  Yeah, let me see if I connect your call right now, I can.
• 1:43:28
  Tell him I don't have time right now, OK, You know, So please ask
• 1:43:31
  him to join us. It would be, it would be
• 1:43:32
  wonderful. He's in line exactly with what
• 1:43:35
  we're doing here because I'm in the healthcare industry for
• 1:43:38
  sure. He's in the industry.
• 1:43:39
  I love talking about Torah and God and the connections and.
• 1:43:42
  He he, he would. I don't he's would never
• 1:43:44
  disagree with that concept that it's a building and it's a
• 1:43:46
  stepping stone and and it's great, but but get there.
• 1:43:49
  I mean, don't Just Dance around, you know, your your your
• 1:43:52
  Schiebel and and and music and whatever and says and but then
• 1:43:56
  get to the next. Step I get that girl.
• 1:43:57
  I I get that you want to get to the BIA.
• 1:43:59
  I get that you want to get to the point of that's.
• 1:44:00
  Just the Gamar BIA that's just finishing it off.
• 1:44:02
  I get it. It's it's it's it gets lost.
• 1:44:04
  It's like the message is also, and I think you has shown the
• 1:44:07
  the songs. It became like an Ashkafa.
• 1:44:09
  It used to be like it used to be that you want to be a row of
• 1:44:11
  some of the people listen to. It took years to to to get the
• 1:44:15
  authority and get the trust of a killer that wow, this guy's a
• 1:44:19
  rough. This guy has a day out.
• 1:44:20
  This guy could say why does it give a right for every guy with
• 1:44:24
  a phone to become a a motivator in Ashkafa and how to live our
• 1:44:28
  life. So thank you, Hashem comes out.
• 1:44:30
  It's not just thank you Hashem. Let's just be some mayor.
• 1:44:32
  Let's just be it's this is a mahalo.
• 1:44:35
  This is the way to live. And, and it comes with, with
• 1:44:39
  childish, you know, all the, all the songs that are very catchy,
• 1:44:41
  very easy to learn. And then people go around and
• 1:44:44
  like, this is my way of life is just this thing.
• 1:44:46
  I'm like, what, what about, you know, what about the tear?
• 1:44:48
  What about everything else? What about the you want to live
• 1:44:50
  a life open. You know, that was the song that
• 1:44:52
  came out, the Ms. Eden song. Like learn how to learn how to
• 1:44:56
  learn. You want to learn how to learn
• 1:44:57
  open, open, open a mission Bureau.
• 1:44:59
  And and what happens also is that people's like Rasheva's
• 1:45:02
  become, you know, Joey Newcomb, like Joey Newcomb has becomes my
• 1:45:05
  Rove now, right? And Joey Newcomb becomes a
• 1:45:07
  sounding board who gives Joey Newcomb a right.
• 1:45:09
  And I don't mean to sound like Joey was a hailing of the year
• 1:45:12
  and he's a Rebbe, but like, I mean in the in the right to to,
• 1:45:15
  you know, I have anything like Balabatam he sees.
• 1:45:18
  Balabatam, what was your question?
• 1:45:19
  Who gave you on the right to watch?
• 1:45:20
  To to voice his his opinion in in, in even in Hashkova or in
• 1:45:27
  even Tyra. I must have missed something.
• 1:45:29
  Was there a no? No, no, I'm saying Joe Newcomb
• 1:45:30
  is like the father of things like the the.
• 1:45:32
  Yeah, no, with the songs, even the songs are the.
• 1:45:34
  Songs are not just songs. They're not just album free
• 1:45:37
  songs, right? They're not the the Bay.
• 1:45:40
  What's the message of the Bay? Nothing.
• 1:45:42
  It's a song. It's a horror.
• 1:45:43
  What's the message of, of the That's not a message, that's a
• 1:45:48
  sukim. These are messages.
• 1:45:50
  These are, these are I want to be like Joey, I want to be, oh,
• 1:45:54
  what's the mess? Oh, there's a message of, of you
• 1:45:56
  have to be who you really are. And I want to bring a horse to
• 1:45:59
  if I'm bringing, oh, there's a, there's all like all.
• 1:46:00
  Now we're putting out songs with messages and, and I say, oh,
• 1:46:03
  Cher, I'm a millionaire. Like, oh, it's like it's you're
• 1:46:07
  teaching me now. And me, I'm 38.
• 1:46:09
  But my kids get sucked into it and without realizing now they
• 1:46:13
  idolize these entertainers and and 24/6, which is a whole a
• 1:46:18
  platform of just entertainers who who now my kids like, Oh,
• 1:46:21
  who's trending most? Who's the thing?
• 1:46:22
  And instead of we grew up of there were good Dylan.
• 1:46:24
  There was a crime Kanievski. There was there was Schmal
• 1:46:27
  Kamnetsky. There was there was good Dylan
• 1:46:29
  in the world. And these kids are growing up
• 1:46:30
  and they don't even know who who ribbon Schechter was or or these
• 1:46:34
  people or who they know. They they know Susha, right?
• 1:46:37
  That's a travesty. That's terrible.
• 1:46:40
  I mean, this is what they analyze.
• 1:46:41
  Why? Because they're sitting on the
• 1:46:42
  24 six all day and they're looking who's trending, who's
• 1:46:44
  top trending? Who's this, this is who and who
• 1:46:46
  and and not terrible. He's not just a singer anymore.
• 1:46:48
  He's he's he's a Balshita. He's he has a day on what what
• 1:46:52
  it means to live a life of Tyra and live a life of Yiddish kite.
• 1:46:56
  Just sing avant free, just sing MBD.
• 1:46:59
  Just saying the the old singers we grew up with, just saying
• 1:47:02
  they they didn't come out with cheetahs.
• 1:47:04
  They didn't come out with a way to live a life a mahalik or or
• 1:47:08
  think you Hashem movement. They just saying, just saying
• 1:47:11
  you're not a Rashiba, you're not a Rebbe.
• 1:47:13
  I'm gonna I said this once, I'll say it again.
• 1:47:16
  I completely disagree. And the reason why I disagree is
• 1:47:19
  very simple. It's because the kids in the
• 1:47:22
  days that you're referring to that used to idolize Rasham and
• 1:47:26
  Rashaq were the minority. It wasn't the majority.
• 1:47:30
  It was a minority. Today the majority is at least
• 1:47:33
  singing thank you Hashem. So we're not recognizing.
• 1:47:36
  So it's it's it's, it's waking up your neshama.
• 1:47:40
  It's waking up, it's awakening. You're something inside so that
• 1:47:44
  you can learn. So that who's that he?
• 1:47:48
  Thinks that I'm fulfilling my avoidance Hashem by dancing in a
• 1:47:51
  circle with a bunch of. That's on you as a parent to be
• 1:47:54
  a mechanic, your child that thank you, Hashem, is
• 1:47:56
  spiritually awakened, weakening you a little bit so that you can
• 1:47:59
  go learn, so that you can see, OK, what does the words mean?
• 1:48:01
  And by the way, to say that let my people go.
• 1:48:03
  When Mordeheim and David came out with it wasn't thought about
• 1:48:05
  the words. Come on, everybody thought about
• 1:48:07
  words back then. Also what it means.
• 1:48:09
  What's the hash kafa behind it? What is very little hash kafa?
• 1:48:11
  There wasn't hash kafa. Let My People Go was about this
• 1:48:14
  this. Isn't an hash kafa either.
• 1:48:16
  I think that the message is and this you're not the first person
• 1:48:18
  to bring it up. And I love the topic and the
• 1:48:20
  debate because I'd rather be arguing about this than arguing
• 1:48:24
  about what it was 30 years ago, what kids were doing.
• 1:48:26
  Meaning where were they really? Because minority like I said
• 1:48:28
  back then was running after the the Rishi Shiva's who is trading
• 1:48:32
  more cards, Sadiqan cards or baseball cards when we grew up
• 1:48:35
  in those those days. So thank God, in my opinion,
• 1:48:37
  this is what's awakening them. So what I'm saying is OK, so you
• 1:48:40
  know what should happen. Thank you Hashem and JLT should
• 1:48:43
  make a merger and they should do AJV.
• 1:48:45
  That's the answer. Beautiful.
• 1:48:47
  Joey comes out with what's his next song after JLT comes out.
• 1:48:50
  I made this battle, you know, at, at Bakasham, they're waking
• 1:48:53
  up to at least. Beautiful.
• 1:48:55
  You know why? Because Bubba Sally flying on a
• 1:48:57
  on on a on a carpet, not a horse coming to if I bring in.
• 1:49:00
  Because that's what it takes in our society today to wake up our
• 1:49:03
  children. Hanging fruit.
• 1:49:04
  Yeah, it's it's cheap, it's waking them up.
• 1:49:06
  You have a better way than do it if it's.
• 1:49:08
  Skylight, that's what. It is, you know why JLT is going
• 1:49:11
  to make a name for themselves Because of Thank You Hashem.
• 1:49:14
  If JLT would have been a movement without Thank You
• 1:49:16
  Hashem, they would get nowhere in my opinion.
• 1:49:17
  You don't need jail. You don't need JLT.
• 1:49:19
  Sure. So now people are going to start
• 1:49:20
  thinking about JLT. That's my thought, yeah.
• 1:49:22
  Listen, it helps. That's why you have competitors.
• 1:49:25
  Thank you Hashem for Husky, thank you Hashem for, you know,
• 1:49:28
  everybody involved in just talking about how could we get
• 1:49:30
  our children more involved in in connecting and growing.
• 1:49:34
  It's all about that. It's all about the connection
• 1:49:36
  and and and the growth and I love it and I appreciate you
• 1:49:38
  being here. Thank you to all our subscribers
• 1:49:40
  to all our comments. As you can tell if you agree,
• 1:49:43
  you disagree, you like something, you don't like
• 1:49:44
  something, say it. Let us know, tell us.
• 1:49:46
  Somebody asks us on, you know, in the comments, like, you know,
• 1:49:50
  you know why you have to always get celebrities?
• 1:49:52
  I'm like, you know what? OK, fine.
• 1:49:54
  You know. So then she's like.
• 1:49:55
  Just. Remember, she may not be here.
• 1:49:57
  So we'll get him back. You're not just a Rebbe from
• 1:50:00
  Muncie. You are, in my opinion, a
• 1:50:01
  celebrity because I celebrate what you have been doing in your
• 1:50:05
  life. And you're, you're an
• 1:50:07
  inspiration to me and to the people around me.
• 1:50:09
  And you're amazing, amazing energy that when you walk into a
• 1:50:13
  room, you're making an impact just by being there.
• 1:50:15
  And really, I want to thank you. Thank you again to all the
• 1:50:18
  subscribers, to the commenters. Stefan wants me to say something
• 1:50:21
  but I can't hear what it is. What once again fund?
• 1:50:25
  We're going to put our link below to the Muncie Cam Fund
• 1:50:27
  where you can participate in donating.
• 1:50:28
  Unfortunately, when it comes to organizations and people that
• 1:50:31
  come on here, more people that need the organization start
• 1:50:33
  contacting you. Then the people that want to
• 1:50:35
  donate it. I think it would be great if at
• 1:50:37
  least a little bit more of the donators than the people that
• 1:50:40
  need it. So Muncie Cam Fund is the name
• 1:50:41
  of the organization. Get involved.
• 1:50:44
  Look out for those kids that you know you might not know that
• 1:50:47
  they're suffering and that. Would be from Muncie if you're
• 1:50:50
  listening to this and you know what kids not going to be in Cam
• 1:50:52
  reach out to me. I'll make the connections.
• 1:50:54
  I'll call the camp. I'll get someone to get the kid
• 1:50:56
  into the camp. I'll get the money paid for for
• 1:50:58
  the camp a kid. Bottom line is our tag line is
• 1:51:01
  every kid deserves a summer. Every kid deserves a summer.
• 1:51:03
  He has to be in a social tire Dick surrounded by friends,
• 1:51:06
  surrounded by things that he loves.
• 1:51:08
  He has to be in camp for the summer and that's our that's our
• 1:51:10
  goal. I really appreciate it.
• 1:51:11
  Thank you very much for being here.
• 1:51:13
  That's a wrap. Wow.
• 1:51:13
  OK, beautiful.