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COUPLES THERAPY - Payton and Kadeem's anniversary! · Johnjay & Rich On Demand

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  Speaker 1: Broadcasting live across the world right now. This is the
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  Speaker 1: John Jay and Rich radio program.
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  Speaker 2: Today.
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  Speaker 1: Kadem and I have officially been married for one week,
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  Speaker 1: and a lot of people are asking a lot of questions.
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  Speaker 1: I posted on our what it was just a laugh.
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  Speaker 1: I was just laughing because it's kind of crazy considering
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  Speaker 1: the situation.
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  Speaker 2: To be married to me.
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  Speaker 1: No, I definitely want to be married to I feel
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  Speaker 1: like this has been my whole plan since I met you.
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  Speaker 2: Anyway, get this man to marry me continue.
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  Speaker 1: No, But basically I posted on the John Jay and
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  Speaker 1: Rich Instagram account to see if anyone had any questions
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  Speaker 1: for us. And we have a couple and I thought
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  Speaker 1: it was pretty fitting that we had the couple's podcast
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  Speaker 1: this week because we can basically debrief and yeah, I
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  Speaker 1: feel like we need to let everyone know that didn't
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  Speaker 1: listen to a show live, or that didn't catch the
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  Speaker 1: podcast or didn't see anything online that went viral, which
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  Speaker 1: was super dope. But basically, Kadem and I decided to
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  Speaker 1: scrap our big wedding plans that we had in October,
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  Speaker 1: and we decided to text our closest friends and family
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  Speaker 1: and get to Vegas in two days and get married
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  Speaker 1: at the Drama Wedding Chapel, which is basically in partnership
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  Speaker 1: with A twenty four in the movie The Drama and
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  Speaker 1: Zindaia crashed our wedding. Okay, so we're gonna go through
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  Speaker 1: some of the questions that you guys gave us wedding recap.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like we kind of just did that. But
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  Speaker 1: Altahim was also our DJ. She's from the band Teim,
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  Speaker 1: so that was super awesome. It was really cool though.
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  Speaker 1: They hung out with us for about twenty minutes, took pictures, and.
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  Speaker 2: We posted a story time on our Instagram as well.
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  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, you can go see it. We made like
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  Speaker 1: a joint Instagram account. It's at deem and pay e
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  Speaker 1: e M and p A Y. Anyways, questions, have we
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  Speaker 1: started planning our honeymoon yet? No, No, we haven't even
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  Speaker 1: really thought about honeymoon plans. I don't necessarily think we're
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  Speaker 1: in like the biggest rush to get it done. I
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  Speaker 1: think firstmoon, we don't have to go on a honeymoon,
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  Speaker 1: but we should go on a honeymoon. I think we
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  Speaker 1: want to move out of my grandma's house before we
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  Speaker 1: do that. That's where our money is going to a
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  Speaker 1: house we'll have a honeymoon in our living room when
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  Speaker 1: we buy one. Okay, this one, I feel was like
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  Speaker 1: a little TMI. But did I wear on these under
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  Speaker 1: my dress? And the answer is no, I didn't. And
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  Speaker 1: I am not a letterloose kind of girl. I do
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  Speaker 1: not ever go not in commando. That's the word. I'm
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  Speaker 1: not a girl that goes commando. But I had to
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  Speaker 1: in this dress because you could literally see everything. Next question,
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  Speaker 1: are we gonna have a big wedding in October? No?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, no, that was the point in doing in Vegas
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  Speaker 2: because saving so much money.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. So basically all that money that we were saving
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  Speaker 1: to put towards the wedding is going to go towards
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  Speaker 1: the house that we hopefully buy in the next couple
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  Speaker 1: of months. But no big wedding in October. But we
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  Speaker 1: will do like an open house celebration, probably out here
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  Speaker 1: in Arizona, and then probably went out in Portland too,
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  Speaker 1: where Kadem's family is. Maybe maybe we'll see though, but
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  Speaker 1: we'll definitely celebrate with you know, the people closest to us.
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  Speaker 1: Do you feel any different, Kadeem now that we're married, Well,
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  Speaker 1: the ring hurts my finger, that's not what the question was.
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  Speaker 1: The question was, do you feel any different?
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  Speaker 2: My finger feels different, Okay, because it hurts.
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  Speaker 1: So that's why you're not wearing it?
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  Speaker 3: Are you wearing?
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  Speaker 1: And also my ring is huge, That's why I got
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  Speaker 1: the band that I got so I don't have to wear. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: but this is my or ring that's different and I've
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  Speaker 1: actually been that was rude. I have all of the
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  Speaker 1: aura I was in vogue, but I don't necessarily feel
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  Speaker 1: any different now that we're married. I'm really excited, it's
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  Speaker 1: really fun, but don't necessarily feel any different per se.
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  Speaker 1: I think we will once we move out of the house,
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  Speaker 1: but we'll see. The next question was if I was
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  Speaker 1: happy with my hair and my makeup on our wedding day,
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  Speaker 1: and a million times yes. It was actually kind of
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  Speaker 1: crazy because I had reached out to the girl that
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  Speaker 1: did my makeup maybe less than forty eight hours before
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  Speaker 1: the actual wedding, and she came through. Luckily, my wedding
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  Speaker 1: was earlier in the morning, so she was able to
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  Speaker 1: come at like six o'clock, but I had just met
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  Speaker 1: her for that first time. We didn't do a trial
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  Speaker 1: or anything. So if you're getting married in Vegas or
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  Speaker 1: you need to make up artists in Vegas. Glam by
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  Speaker 1: Ammo is who I went to. She was the best
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  Speaker 1: and killed it. As for my hair, yeah, I was
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  Speaker 1: really happy with my hair. Actually, my matron of honors
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  Speaker 1: big sister is who did my hair. She's been doing
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  Speaker 1: my hair since I was like eight years old, so
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  Speaker 1: it was only fitting that she came out to Vegas
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  Speaker 1: and she did it. So I felt really happy. That
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  Speaker 1: was super sentimental for me. How much did our Vegas
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  Speaker 1: wedding cost is the next question? I want to say,
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  Speaker 1: probably with all of like the wedding, Well, the wedding
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  Speaker 1: costed zero dollars. The wedding costed zero dollars, but getting there,
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  Speaker 1: the hotel, gas, that kind of stuff obviously was a
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  Speaker 1: little bit more money. But as for wedding florals, photography, videography,
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  Speaker 1: zero zilch saved so much money there, so we're super
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  Speaker 1: excited about that. Kadem next question, where do we see
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  Speaker 1: ourselves in five years?
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  Speaker 2: That's a question for me.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, Well, hopefully with all this social media stuff going
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  Speaker 3: on right now, we can expand that and be somewhere
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  Speaker 3: different than we are now.
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  Speaker 2: In the social media space, we're.
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  Speaker 1: Definitely trying to lean into like the content creation couples, vlogs,
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  Speaker 1: stuff like that sop, you.
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  Speaker 2: Know, telling her that for about three years, but no,
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  Speaker 2: no one.
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  Speaker 1: Listens to me. I listen. I just it's hard when
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  Speaker 1: you do that for a living and then you come
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  Speaker 1: home and then want to have to do it again.
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  Speaker 1: Like it's truly a difficult task I feel. I mean,
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  Speaker 1: I don't think those are excusive, but actually I feel
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  Speaker 1: like we should let them know a little bit of
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  Speaker 1: the tea. So we kad Eve and I started a
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  Speaker 1: YouTube channel like a couple months ago, but haven't really
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  Speaker 1: been active on it because I don't know. I have
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  Speaker 1: all the cameras, I have all the equipment to do it.
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  Speaker 1: I just quite honestly am lazy when it comes to it.
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  Speaker 1: But when Kadem and I decided that we were gonna
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  Speaker 1: go and get married this weekend in Vegas, we decided
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  Speaker 1: we were going to do a vlog and that if
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  Speaker 1: we were going to kind of look at this as
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  Speaker 1: a content creating space, that when we get back home,
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  Speaker 1: we really got to go all in. And it's actually
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  Speaker 1: been really fun. Our joint Instagram account, our first post
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  Speaker 1: had seven point two million views.
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  Speaker 2: But you because you've been calling me.
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  Speaker 1: Annoying, Well, you're just it's not that you're annoying. It's
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  Speaker 1: just that you're persistent.
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  Speaker 2: Trying to get it done, and you're not persistent, and
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  Speaker 2: you very forget, and you don't do things unless you're
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  Speaker 2: being told to do them.
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  Speaker 1: I know, I know. That's why I'm not even mad
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  Speaker 1: at you. Like, yeah, it's annoying, but like I'm not
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  Speaker 1: mad you feel me. Okay. The next question, what do
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  Speaker 1: we look forward to a marriage? Kids? Yeah, kids for
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  Speaker 1: sure for Kadem, I'm really excited about that too. That
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  Speaker 1: was one of the big things for me, Like I
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  Speaker 1: always wanted to get married before I had kids.
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  Speaker 2: And.
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  Speaker 1: I know Kadeem has been trying to knock me up
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  Speaker 1: for years. Okay, but I get it. And I'm actually
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  Speaker 1: really excited to see Kadem as a dad because he's
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  Speaker 1: just so good with kids. Like my nephew's sweat him.
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  Speaker 1: They like him more than they like me, which is
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  Speaker 1: actually really annoying.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, I think anybody in our life that in
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  Speaker 2: both of our lives like.
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  Speaker 1: You. Honestly, that's probably valid. You're just You're just lovely dabe,
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  Speaker 1: aren't you. Okay? The next question, I feel like this
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  Speaker 1: is from one of the foot fans. The question is
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  Speaker 1: does Kadeem suck my tails? Do I? No, he does.
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  Speaker 1: I've been trying to put my feet in his face
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  Speaker 1: so that he doesn't. He says, my feet stink.
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  Speaker 2: Their feet are stink.
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  Speaker 1: They don't stink. It's just when I wear my air Force.
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  Speaker 2: It's not just when you wear those stink every single
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  Speaker 2: day when you come home.
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  Speaker 1: I low Ky, do have stinky.
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  Speaker 2: They're always clamy and like they just smell sour.
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  Speaker 1: I think, I okay, chill. I think I just need
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  Speaker 1: to like invest in better socks.
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  Speaker 2: No, it's just your feet. You can't do nothing about
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  Speaker 2: it but wash them when.
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  Speaker 1: You get home. Yeah, I do have. I do be
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  Speaker 1: having to wash my feet when I get home.
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  Speaker 2: Low Key, Well, you don't do it unless I tear
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  Speaker 2: you because you like walking around with well, unless I wear.
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  Speaker 1: Like flip flops during the day, Like, I'll come home
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  Speaker 1: and wash my feet because they're dirty. I don't want
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  Speaker 1: to get into bed with dirty feet.
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  Speaker 2: But you walk around the floor, walk around outside.
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  Speaker 1: With no shoes. I don't walk around outside with shoes.
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  Speaker 2: I mean you don't walk around outside, but you.
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  Speaker 1: Will only if I active. Okay. Last question and I'm
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  Speaker 1: actually curious on your thoughts on this. Why was my
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  Speaker 1: friend so pressed?
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  Speaker 2: On the air, I'll answer this because you've answered this enough.
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  Speaker 2: I don't want to be mean or anything, but I
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  Speaker 2: just feel like she's she's miserable.
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  Speaker 1: You think so, and I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: I don't like that you even keep explaining yourself to
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  Speaker 2: her because she's she's mad that you're not understanding that.
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  Speaker 2: She doesn't think you understand where she comes from. But
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  Speaker 2: it's not about her. It's not about that, and she's
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  Speaker 2: not understanding nothing you said. You're saying, but it's your moment.
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  Speaker 2: But so like, I don't like that you keep going
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  Speaker 2: back and forth with her about that, and honestly, to me,
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  Speaker 2: she's cut off to me.
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  Speaker 1: So yeah, And for those that don't know, on the
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  Speaker 1: air on Friday, I got into it a little bit
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  Speaker 1: with one of my friends, someone who's been in my
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  Speaker 1: life for a really long time. But we got into
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  Speaker 1: it because she wasn't in the twenty person count that
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  Speaker 1: we had when we decided to get married in Vegas.
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  Speaker 1: Even though she is in my bridal party, not really well,
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  Speaker 1: I mean she is, she wasn't one of my bridesmaid
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  Speaker 1: she was a part of the bridal party. She was
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  Speaker 1: going to the batch party, she was going to be
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  Speaker 1: involved in all wedding festivals party.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, potank period, Stop saying that, because you're just making it,
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  Speaker 2: making it worse.
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  Speaker 1: But she I there was probably about half of the
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  Speaker 1: girls in my wedding that I didn't tell I was
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  Speaker 1: going to get married, but the other half were actually there.
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  Speaker 1: And they were there because we had originally planned to
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  Speaker 1: just go with our friends. We weren't going to have
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  Speaker 1: our family or our parents come originally, but we kind
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  Speaker 1: of switched that up last second.
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  Speaker 2: Mind you, and she we had a twenty people limit.
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  Speaker 2: I had four family members there, actually three and one frame.
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  Speaker 2: So like for her to act like that, it's like,
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  Speaker 2: I don't have no more else to say about it.
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  Speaker 2: You need to stop explaining yourself to her and about
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  Speaker 2: about the situation.
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  Speaker 1: I just I just feel like, I don't know, I
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  Speaker 1: feel bad we should have ended. I mean, I just
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  Speaker 1: feel bad. But anyway, so I get it, But I
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  Speaker 1: feel like married life has been really good and really
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  Speaker 1: fun for us. We're actually about to go head out
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  Speaker 1: to go get some dinner to celebrate. But yeah, good
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  Speaker 2: Also, ye'all don't got to just follow her on Instagram.
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  Speaker 2: Y'all can follow me too. Like she has about twenty
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  Speaker 2: one thousand followers, I have about twenty five hundred.
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  Speaker 1: Plug your Instagram.
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  Speaker 2: Therew me some love too. They see my Instagram. I'm
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  Speaker 2: all over your Instagram.
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  Speaker 1: It's at Kating Strickland. Is there a threepen? No, just
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  Speaker 1: at Kitting Strickland.
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  Speaker 2: Like, come on, it's getting ridiculous. I know it's private
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  Speaker 2: and everything, but I accept everybody. Matter of fact. I'm
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  Speaker 2: gonna make it public.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, thanks, I think people will like that. I'm gonna
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  Speaker 1: make it all right.
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  Speaker 2: Well, I'm in the public eye now that you are.
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  Speaker 1: I'm kind of loving this energy. You're coming out of
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  Speaker 1: your shallow a little bit. You're letting the people know
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  Speaker 1: why you're so great. All right, I can't toot your horn,
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  Speaker 1: come on, okay, anyways, we will catch you guys, in
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  Speaker 1: a couple of weeks for another couple's podcasts, Okay, Love You, Bye,