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#281 | Your Permission Slip to Sit Holiday Festivities Out So You Can Protect Your Heart on Your Fertility Journey While Trying to Get Pregnant or Healing From Miscarriage · Finally Get Pregnant Naturally: Holistic Fertility Support To Conceive Naturally and Stay Pregnant After Miscarriage

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  Katie: In this episode, you will discover your permission slip to protect your heart during holiday festivities by choosing exactly how much or how little you take part in.
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  Welcome to the Finally Get Pregnant Naturally podcast, the podcast helping women identify the real reasons you haven't conceived or stayed pregnant so you and your partner can finally grow the family of your dreams.
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  I'm your host, Dr.
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  Katie Wood.
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  Let's dive in, shall we?
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  Katie: So three things you'll gain from today's episode: Why you don't owe anyone your presence at something that feels triggering during this season of life.
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  Katie: You have full permission to choose your own version of the day.
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  Katie: A simple reset for the moment a trigger catches you off guard.
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  Katie: So I wanna talk about how some hard days when you're on the fertility journey, some hard days you can see coming and sidestep around.
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  Katie: You can skip the baby shower.
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  Katie: You can scroll past the baby announcements.
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  Katie: But some of them are a little different because maybe they actually come knocking on your door.
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  Katie: Halloween is a perfect example, and it's just a couple of days away.
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  Katie: Little costumes on your doorstep, on your street, the photos filling your feed of first costumes and family-themed costumes, the quiet ache of picturing what your own little one would have dressed up as this year.
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  Katie: You cannot scroll past your own front door.
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  Katie: And it's not just Halloween.
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  Katie: It's birthday parties, school events, holiday gatherings coming up, gender reveals, any of the moments built around children or growing families that you are expected to smile through.
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  Katie: If your chest tightens at any of them, I want you to know that you're not being dramatic or bitter.
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  Katie: You are grieving something real.
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  Katie: So today is not a practice to just push through it or to show up while gritting through a smile.
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  Katie: Today is a permission slip because you are a woman who shows up for everyone, who does the thing even when it costs her her peace, who does not want to seem like she's making it about herself or to
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  Katie: ruffle feathers or to rock the boat.
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  Katie: But I wanna be the one to tell you, you are allowed to protect your heart.
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  Katie: You do not owe anyone your presence at something that is going to cause you distress.
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  Katie: Opting out of a hard night is not weakness and it is not you being negative.
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  Katie: It's you being wise enough and in tune enough with your body to know what you can hold right now.
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  Katie: So your fertility prescription this week is we're gonna write your own permission slip.
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  Katie: So here's what I want you to do, and it has three small parts.
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  Katie: First, before the day or the event arrives, decide with intention on how you want to handle it.
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  Katie: Do not just let it happen to you.
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  Katie: You get to choose your version.
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  Katie: Take Halloween.
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  Katie: Maybe handing out candy genuinely brings you joy, and you lean all the way in.
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  Katie: Maybe you keep the porch light off, close the curtains, order the takeout, and have the coziest night in with a movie and company who feel safe.
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  Katie: Maybe you're not even home, and the same freedom is yours for any of it.
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  Katie: You can go to the party and give yourself full permission to leave early.
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  Katie: You can send a gift and skip the event.
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  Katie: You can say a simple, "No, thank you," without a single excuse attached.
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  Katie: There is no right answer.
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  Katie: There is only the one that feels right to you and protects your peace.
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  Katie: Second, give yourself permission out loud.
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  Katie: Actually say it.
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  Katie: "Tonight, I am allowed to do this my way.
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  Katie: I am allowed to protect my heart."
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  Katie: Saying it out loud does something that thinking does not.
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  Katie: It anchors your decision instead of it feeling like a guilty secret.
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  Katie: And third, for the moment that it still catches you, because it might, here is your reset.
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  Katie: The moment you feel that wave rise, cross your arms over your chest so each hand rests near the opposite shoulder, like you're wrapping yourself up in a hug.
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  Katie: Then gently tap one hand and then the other, left, right, left, right, nice and slow.
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  Katie: This is called a butterfly hug, and that steady back and forth rhythm is a quiet way of telling your nervous system that you're safe and you're held.
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  Katie: You are literally holding your own heart.
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  Katie: Give yourself 10 or 15 of those slow taps, and then return to the plan that you chose.
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  Katie: You do not have to push through these moments.
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  Katie: You just have to come back to your own permission that you gave yourself.
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  Katie: And if this episode resonated with you today, share it with a friend who may need to hear it too.
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  Katie: And make sure you're following the podcast because I am walking through this whole season right alongside you, and I do not want you to miss what's coming.
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  Katie: You're not alone in this.
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  Katie: So to recap, you are allowed to protect your heart.
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  Katie: You do not owe anyone your presence at something that does not feel good.
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  Katie: You get to choose your version of the day.
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  Katie: Say your permission out loud, and wrap yourself in that butterfly hug whenever you need it.
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  Katie: I'm right here with you this week and in this season, so please be gentle with yourself.
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  Katie: And I just wanna thank you so much for listening.
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  Katie: I hope you have a soft and gentle day, and I will see you in our next episode, released every Tuesday and Thursday.
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  Are you ready to finally discover why you haven't been able to get or stay pregnant?
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  The Ultimate Fertility Blueprint is a quick, insightful quiz designed to reveal your overall capacity to conceive and help you discover potential root causes and areas to address to improve your fertility so you can finally get and stay pregnant.
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  You'll find the link in the show notes.
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  As a quick reminder and disclaimer, this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice.
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  Always consult your doctor or healthcare provider before starting any new supplement or protocol, especially if you're actively trying to conceive or undergoing treatment.