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John Okafor's Daughter, Chioma Okafor, Ends Her Marriage After 9 Months Over 'Little Lie' · DidiLawren

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  Hello and welcome back to my channel.
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  My name is Larissa with defect and this is bound to it lorenza.
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  How are you all doing? A hope?
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  You're doing great for today's episode.
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  We'll talk about Nollywood actress.
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  Chiama Okafor. Now, chiama or car for if you
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  don't know is the daughter of John who careful also known as
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  mr. Abu so a few weeks ago we just
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  sitting there minding our business chomo.
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  Careful posted a video on to talk that way.
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  Went viral on actually the whole social media platform where she
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  posted the story of first of all.
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  She said, she she she married in February and then she was kind
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  of trying to tell her love story.
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  So Jamal Crawford said she met her husband now ex-husband.
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  Anyway on Tick-Tock disarray talking, the fell in love two
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  weeks later. They are going to meet our terms
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  and z bar when they met he proposed.
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  She accepted the proposal. Immediately, my think, after two
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  months, They carried out their Court wedding.
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  Now, she was posting the video to invite people to her
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  traditional marriage, which according to her is scheduled
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  for the 28th of December this year, which is next month.
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  Basically, when trauma made a video, a lot of people were
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  thinking trauma, you made this guy, two weeks later he proposed
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  to you. Like how How can, you know,
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  somebody in just two weeks? I mean the guy was based in the
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  US or is based in the u.s. So people were kind of thinking,
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  okay, you just started talking to this guy, two weeks and he
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  proposed and we accepted like the families when I will involve
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  during the wedding and because it was just like a whirlwind
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  romance. I mean, she is young.
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  Trauma is an early twenties or mid-20s whatever the situation
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  is, but she is young. You get that a lot with young
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  impressionable people, you know, jumping into things I really do
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  this anyway. Trauma has come out now to see
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  that her marriage has ended because her husband lied.
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  I mean, let's just go back. Went to my posted that.
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  She met him and married him after two weeks.
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  People were like trauma. This is too early.
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  Like, there's no way you can know somebody.
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  After two weeks like there are so many things, you don't even
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  know about this person. According to German, she said
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  that she that was talking to her calling, to calling on the
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  phone, almost every hour, even when he was at work.
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  He was always calling her to check out how she is.
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  Like she has never felt loved the way she fell in love with
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  him, like he was so loving and he was so caring.
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  Like, she has been a really according to Joe much has been
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  relationship with people. Who do I even living in the same
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  house bow? They didn't even pay half G
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  attention that this guy that was living in the US, was paying to
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  her. So she felt that this is a
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  person. This is our soul made to
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  Montgomery to the man. So that was the explanation that
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  show my give to people who we are trying to find out why she
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  would jump into marrying somebody after two weeks,
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  especially when that person is not even in the same.
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  Tenant with her. A lot of people defended, how
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  they said that you can lose somebody for 10, 11 years and
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  still don't know who they are. Like there is no manual for
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  where you meet people because some of them actually said that
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  for her to have met this man on Tick Tock.
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  This, there's good definitely going to be breakfast served.
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  Now, if you don't know breakfast, breakfast is actually
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  a heartbreak Nigerians in refer to breakfast as heartbreak.
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  So they were saying that she Will soon get served?
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  Like, there's no way this man is it is something that people just
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  felt there was something wrong with a full grown man.
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  Getting married to her after two weeks, like a lot of who said
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  this is not, this is not normal people living in America came
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  into their defense, they set up some people just, you know, me
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  some within 24 hours, they look to Vegas and they get married
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  and they lived happily ever after that.
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  You don't really know these things.
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  Things like there's no way you can miss somebody date for 11
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  years and still don't know who they are.
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  So a lot of people had like different things to say about
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  that. Relationship cha was very
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  adamant. She went on BBC, ebo, to kind of
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  defend our relationship to kind of defend has tons.
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  She said that this man has been very loyal, he has been very
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  good to her. He came to Nigeria to see how
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  she is. She has been to the US, see him
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  and You will untick talk all over to talk making videos and
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  if you actually look at the man, you know that this is not a
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  young man. I mean if you take care of
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  yourself, you can be 45 and still look, you know, in your
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  face has to be honest. Because even now 40 is the new
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  20, so everybody is taking care of themselves now.
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  So it's not like then that you see somebody that is 40 and
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  you'll be like, oh my God, yet this person is 40 anyway.
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  After all, those defending that came from trauma and her fans
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  defending her saying that you can never tell with these
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  things. People are, like, there is no
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  way you can know, basic things like, basic family information
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  about this person, if you've only known them for two weeks,
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  there's no way you've met their mother.
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  There's no way you've met their sisters, especially when that
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  person is, when you married them, you guys were not in the
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  same. You did not go to visit their
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  family before you got married to him.
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  So, the debate was going on. There are some people Who is
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  voting to a man. There are some people who are
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  saying that this is a mistake, she's going to regret it and all
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  that even beside was dragged into the whole thing.
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  They said, why would you allow your daughter to get married
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  without you being present? But at the end of the day, the
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  traditional marriage was shadowed for 28th of December
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  next month you do, traditional marriage is very grounded in
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  Tradition and very detailed. You're not just going to show up
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  with one or two people to say. That you're getting married to
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  two that they are daughter. That is not going to happen.
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  You're going to bring your parents, you're going to bring
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  your siblings. You're going to bring your kings
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  man, what a traditional merits happened.
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  So, I think during the process of all these things, according
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  to trauma the the model of the guy actually told her thoughts,
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  her son was married with three children.
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  I mean, three adults. Children.
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  So, the Bells Are Ringing for Chama.
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  Anyway, trauma came out and said that her marriage of nine months
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  as ended because the man told a little lie, I was like a little
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  lie. I mean, I post at that because
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  the title was he told a little lie and I'm like thinking, at
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  least one lie, how can you end a marriage because of little lie,
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  but I was patient enough to read the details of what she said and
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  the it'll I turn out to be that this man was married with three
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  children and according to the story, This Way adult to like
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  Teenage children, three teenage daughters that he had, although
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  he is divorced, but he never mentioned it to her.
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  And according to trauma, she said, you know, when they were
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  making all this, you know, Tick-Tock videos that somebody
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  whispered it to her, she actually confronted him and he
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  denied this whole human being, In denied, the marriage, and
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  having three children, and the fact that she said it was a
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  small lie. I was like, what would you
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  classify as a big? If first of all, I should also
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  mention that he lied about his age for him to have had three
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  teenage daughters. I mean, even if you got married,
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  when he was 18, which is unlikely, he would be in his 40s
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  like mid 40s, at least mid 40s, so we don't know what he told
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  her. Maybe he told her his 33 is one
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  of the things that people don't really take into account.
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  Is anybody living it most people, especially men traveling
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  to Diaspora? They lie about their age.
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  When they are processing their passport to travel, they always
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  lie, like 6 B, take out six seven years from their real age
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  like okay, somebody is 33 on their passport, just know that
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  up. And he's either 4500, you know,
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  early 40s, that is. So if you look, if somebody is
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  living in Desperate, especially men and you look at their
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  passports, and your passport is saying, 3335 my sister, just
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  attend. Yes to that age.
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  That is the real age. I don't know.
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  Sometimes it's even a disadvantage for them because
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  you see some of them who are now in their 70s, still working.
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  They cannot retire. Not because They are not of age,
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  but because they are documents said that there are still all
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  of, you know, employable age. So they cannot retire.
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  They cannot receive pension because they are their ages is
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  ten years younger than what? They actually are.
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  So I think this was one of the situations where she looked at
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  is passports and he, if he's telling her that, oh my God, I
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  am 33 years old and she pick up his passports and he the pass.
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  Process that you three. She is likely going to believe
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  that anybody end of the day trauma is saying that she's no
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  longer married because he told his small lie, but that's more
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  like, I think this is where the problem is, because she's saying
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  that she has already filed for divorce.
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  She cannot forgive that small lie and I'm sitting down
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  thinking, am I am I being punked?
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  Or like how, how is that? Small There is nothing small
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  about a man in full grown adult. In his 40s.
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  Denying his yok denying, his ex-wife.
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  I can understand, you know, if you were married before and you
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  are not the marriage and you don't even want to associate
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  yourself with that person. That is understandable.
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  But when you deny your flesh and blood three, Young adults, just
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  because you want to marry somebody who is probably five
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  years older than your children that I think is a very big
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  problem. Like it is an issue and it's not
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  a small lie. It's a massive lie because if
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  somebody can deny their flesh and blood you can deny your wife
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  like I use. Listen, that's your business.
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  More denying your children. It took his mother to actually
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  Tell her that my son has three children.
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  You can imagine like what it took for her to come out and say
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  that, because obviously he must have told her not to say
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  anything, but she couldn't keep that to herself and she had to
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  tell your mother. This guy is married or was
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  married with three children. My three lovely grandchildren.
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  It's not a small lie. Why I'm sorry, are I refuse to
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  accept that? All I can say is, people like
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  the aspirins especially men in the Aspera, he lies as neutral.
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  It's really the going back to Nigeria to and get married. 90%
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  of them are cooking up. So they are building castle in
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  the air for you and then you're going to get married to them and
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  then realize I think not. Sense of people murmuring people
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  in diaspora, especially the man even the women because there's
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  this perception of people living in the Aspera.
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  Because when you want to come to Nigeria, they always look their
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  best. Like somebody who had worked all
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  year round taking up extra shifts, saving up money, using a
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  credit card to buy tickets. Going shopping to get new
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  clothes because If you're in the UK, like people don't really
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  care about clothes or less, you're going to a party.
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  Like, there are some people who care about the wedding dress,
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  don't get me wrong or majority. The average people in the UK,
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  you always are in jacket. So nobody cares about what is
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  underneath. Some people do care or I think
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  majority of people don't even care if you work in an office
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  with, they don't care things that they way, you're thinking,
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  you know, you think you're in danger Coming to the UK, you're
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  going to be wearing all these things coming.
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  You quit to look old in your face.
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  I remember when I started walking, I really went shopping,
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  you know, change my wardrobe and then remember my manager
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  approached me and said yes, we know that this is a formal
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  environment or do you have jeans?
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  Honestly, I will also show Shocked because all do, I could
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  see that everybody was dressing casually but I just in or not.
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  I just saw this as an office. I need to dress for more after
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  that De Amor. He just read my sweats and I'll
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  come to the office. Everybody will be looking at
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  each other. So my point is nobody really
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  gives a hoot about your dress. It is when people are going to
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  Nigeria The by all these things to look good to make an
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  impression. But at the end of the deep, the
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  people you're trying to impress are looking at you like, okay?
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  Yes, this is your daily life. This is how you live daily.
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  This is how you dress, this is how your life is.
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  So when you're not marrying them and they're coming into your,
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  your, you know, space and they're not what they think.
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  Their perception of you doesn't match the reality that they are
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  seen, that becomes a problem. I understand that she's saying
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  that she just found out according to her, somebody told
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  her, but she chose to believe her husband, so I don't know.
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  It took the mother to tell her that her son has been married
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  with Children for her to finally agree because he denied when she
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  asked him, I don't know, it's just crazy.
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  I mean, if somebody sending you all, I'm 32 years old and you
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  realize that that person is actually 45 years old.
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  Would you still go ahead with our marriage?
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  Or if somebody is telling you, I've never been married.
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  I've never had children and then you get my recent them and you
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  realize that they've been divorced and they have three
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  adult children, would you still go ahead without marriage or
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  better? Still would you marry somebody
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  you met after two weeks? That is I mean there's no manual
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  to these things. You can I know of people who
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  came back for Christmas Mets, you know, they are soulmates or
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  Mets, their wives enemies that word Mets, you know, ladies got
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  married to them within the space of two weeks and they have lived
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  happily ever after. So I don't think he has to do
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  with meeting somebody for two weeks and then that was a
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  problem, you know, some people said they met on Tick-Tock like
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  how can she meet somebody on Tick Tock, marry them in two
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  weeks and Have a happy life. You know, we cannot predict
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  these things. You can know.
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  Somebody, in fact, the pope can introduce somebody to you and
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  you and the pope will not even know who the person is that
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  true? The true character of that
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  person. So it doesn't really it's just,
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  I have come to the conclusion that my edges.
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  Look, it is look if you're lucky to find the one that makes you
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  happy. If you know be happy, if you
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  you're lucky and you find the one that is lying every day.
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  The one that light, you want that denied an entire family and
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  then you see that that is, it's more like that.
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  It's not a small lie. I wish to my all the best I
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  believe that she was blindsided, although there is no way like
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  there are red flags for her to say that somebody actually told
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  her. About his family, but she chose,
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  these are the issues. We see the red flags, poor.
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  We choose not to believe them, or we choose, not to act on
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  them. So, regardless of how you think
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  somebody blindsided you, there's always that reasonable doubt.
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  There's always that information or information molested data
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  that you've come across for. Maybe you Have not added like me
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  in its the jigsaw puzzle. You need to put them together to
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  be to be able to understand what it actually is.
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  But yeah you can take you nine months to get the truth, you can
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  take you nine years together truth.
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  You can take it even 11 years. I mean Tokamak in what dated had
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  eggs for 11 years? 11 years guys they got married.
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  Only fossil found out that he actually got somebody else
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  pregnant. Or there are no manual to this
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  thing's just I think everybody should just live in the moment.
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  If you see somebody, even if it's two days marry the person.
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  If you're happy for two days, marry them.
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  The world's them keep you moving this life?
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  Now, you know, it's it's it's it is what it is.
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  I wish them all the best. I mean, she is young.
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  She is very hard-working. I think our dad is trying To
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  help us to get over it because they are posting regularly, you
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  know, doing skits together, which is very good to see that
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  he is trying to cheer her up while she deal with this
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  difficult situation. So that's the love to say, don't
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  want marry someone you met on to talk after two weeks miss their
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  family before you married. So thank you very much for
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  watching today's episode, please like like like and share.
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  Thank you very much. Bye.
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  Bye.