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Good Fathers Don't Get Enough Credit · Blind But Now I See

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And I'm starting like my daddy. Another episode of the blambin i s Podcast.
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Street. We are whoof in the studio the producer of the Blambanca podcast.
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And it's the father Day special. I got my son in the studio.
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He came looking like any type of thing because he had to come with me
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today. Well, we ain' even gonna put him on camera. But it's
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Father's days. Something that people don't embrace, something that people don't really cherish
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because they know the one bad apple out the tree. Everybody put us all
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You never know who I'm or bring out. And that's pretty much we're gonna
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get locked into this episode with See you ain't even a fault so you can't
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even say happy father data wilf. You know, but you're probably be a
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father to a lot of people don't even know it the world. But yeah,
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that's heavy or in the future, you know what I'm saying. Yeah,
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in the future, but you got niss nephews, nephews. Damn yeah,
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not yet, but your father to the people when you're talking and listen
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to your podcast. I mean, you know, I definitely would love to
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be father one day. For sure. I want like five of them.
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Yeah. I got two my step daughter, she's my stepdaughter, but I
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still call it my daughter though it's it's two enough for you. Nah,
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I still want more? Yeah how much mm hm. Back in the days,
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I alwayn would have wanted a kid in every state. But you would
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you would have wanted a kid in every state back in the day. Why
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I said, I know, I have my basketball player, my tennis player,
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my hockey player. I'm gonna have it all to Nick Canner out what
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I was, But nah, I changed my idea. And once you see
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how expensive they really is. But kids is a blessing those people. I
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wanted to say, We're gonna shout out Za Maya and Tayana my two kids.
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Tiana, congratulations, she graduated last week. She walked across that stage
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high school. It was definitely a beautiful moment, especially when you see that
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you invest in all these time into these kids. It's like you can patch
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yourself on the back, like you proud, because it's like, damn part
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of that growth in them, like you, part of that that's still when
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they walk acrost stage is like you walking across the stage too. The mornings
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when you're calling to wake the kids up, when you talking to them about
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getting to school on time, and you talk to him about doing their homeworks
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and they can beat the best and you keep pushing them like that. That
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makes you feel good as a parent, especially as a father. Let's put
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that out as a father because they don't give the Faulthers credits too much.
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And my child's out there like the school calls. They know they got that
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reminder that they talk about, oh school clothes. Or I'm like, all
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right, it's a war ceremony. I'm like, here, tell me about
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the war ceremony. He might he might not be getting ship and then he
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just come out the front like who ain't getting no awards and put all the
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wards in my hand. I said this that damn I talked to his own
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on the road for the past eight years. So that makes me feel like
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I'm really doing a good job as a father. And in the case of
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that, I would have to think Jimmy Felder, the man my grandfather that
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stepped up being the father, I feel like it's not enough credit I can
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really give him. He made me the like he put the strength in me.
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He taught me the values of being a man, how to move like
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a man, how not to be no slouch, how to stand on your
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own two feet, how not to depend on nobody to take care of you.
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Like he put that in me. Then I gotta take my step father.
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He told me how to shoot my first basketball. I mean he gave
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me that outlook of the streets and then how nothing kept it real with me,
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kept it a buck. I love that supersed shout out to you that
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I had my godfather, big oh, rest in peace to him, Like
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since I was little, we was making pizza, all right. He was
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one of those hands on dads, like we made pizza. I used to
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put hot dogs on that shit and everything else. But like we used to
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like just the value of like money, like not wasting money and not doing
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different ship. Like all three men put different things in me. And it's
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like when they say it takes a village to build a child, that shit
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is real. I had a lot of male figures inside me, like Mike,
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I've the ball, But my cousin shout outs to him like showing like
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he just don't care if something ain't right. He not scared to jump out
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there and try something. He went from a union job painting bridges, I
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mean I paint bridge painting hotels and big corporate office just leaving it all behind
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and open up his own barbershop and never looked back. So that that that
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put that entrepreneur in me, Like damn, like you just gave up a
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whole career job consistent, check consistent when you all unemployment, this, that,
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and the third to say fuck that, I'm opening up my own barber
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shop and running strong with that ship. Shout out to me here on Marcus
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up right, get your hair cut. He in the heart of the Star.
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You know they do the straight razors and all that. Then you're gonna
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get some labs in there too. Shout out to my homie Josh section Ay
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that being there and all like, you're definitely gonna get some labs. But
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to say that, to say this, you gotta be a real damn idiot
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to not want to be in your kids like because you're missing something every day.
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Every day. I never know what I'm gonna wake up to my kids.
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And then it's like when people like how many kids you got, like
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I got too, but I feel like I got shit sick eight. I
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got my sister for kids, her two twins that every time they ring the
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bell, they calling my name for me to come downstairs to pick them up.
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And I'm like, damn uncle christ too. Old, but I go
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downstairs and get them. My niece Chloe when she's acting up and I putting
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on her place and I'm gonna put my hands on. I'm just talking to
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her, but her reactions the way it is, it's like, damn,
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my presence is like I'm her uncle, but that father presence when she heard
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my voice. I gotta do right. My nephew Josiah, when I call
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him and I put it in him like you could beat anything you want to
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be. You could pass this test. Don't think you can't do it.
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And I do little shit like on testing times, I go in there with
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my son math test, I'd been like, what's one plus one? So
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what's two plus two for? What's four times? For sixteen? S?
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Nigga in the seventh grade going to eighth. But just some little things to
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show him like I'm confident in you. I know you got this. I
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call my niece like all right, spell ree, spell Matt, spell cat.
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She in fifth grade or fifth, sixth grade, the sixth grade,
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but I know those baby words, but I know she got it. I
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do that to allder kids to show him, like, nah, y'all my
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future when I can't walk, no, more and I can't do so I
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know they gonna take care of me because I'm taking care of them. And
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I mean, my father wasn't in my life like in the whole time.
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He came in late, but he taught me a very valuable lesson. It's
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like and people hold on to bad moments and don't take it in as everything
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is a teachable moment. But my father showed me. He taught me a
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valuable lesson that's not to run on my responsibilities. He taught me not to
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leave behind what I what I created. He taught me to stand up and
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be a man to my son. I feel like he taught me way more
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than what he could have done. And I don't got no ill will towards
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my father. Love him, love him and all that shit. I never
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disrespect him as a man. I see him in the streets. I give
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him the most respecting world as a man. Why because like for me to
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hold on to what he's done in the past, I'm not gonna grow,
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I'm not gonna hell. I ain't gonna be no good to my kids,
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like my kids gonna be damage. If I'm damage over what he did in
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the past, that's powerful and then it comes from somewhere else because at end
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of the day, I don't know what he been through. Maybe he didn't
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look at Maybe his father wasn't it for him, and he didn't take what
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I took from him out of his father. Nah, we gotta we gotta
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be stronger. My son is not going to be a victim to the streets.
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My son ain't gone look to the streets to be his father. He's
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not gonna run with the gangs and feel like he needs to be loved.
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I tell my kids I love him every day, and I'm gonna continue telling
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them. Shit, I still go in there and play with him. I
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still like my son older now. So it's like thirteen, I smacked my
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son and now he's like a yo, and I'm looking like a yo,
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like I change your pample? What you mean a yo? Literally said,
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hey, yo, what you're doing man? Like I change your pamp?
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I washed you up? What you mean a yo? But it's like I'm
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near to see the moments he talking about females and all that, Like I'm
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near to this witness this shit. That's why I sat there and said twelve
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years ago for me to still be mad that I'm been adult, I'd be
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a damn fool because I'm seeing a lot, even being in the dark with
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these kids, like laying on the couch and he just coming in here like
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for all them. I'm like, yeah, I think I'm going through puberty.
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He said that. I said, what you mean, you think you're
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going through puberty? And I said, I got here down there, and
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I'm just like, oh my, I ain't ready for this ship. Wasn't
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ready. I wasn't ready for this ship. It's like I still see them
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as a kid. I still see him as babies, because you feel me
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like babies, Like I still look at them as they wanted to and all
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that this thing, or they like, oh we gotta go get a broad
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and all lound like I change the subject. I don't want to hear that
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ship. I still look at them as them little kids that's running around in
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this set. Now they got mouths on them. They man, I ain't
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preparing for this one going to high school and the next one right behind it.
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I ain't ready for this ship. A moment ago, it sided like
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a moment ago you said something like, you know, you gotta be a
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real idiot to not want to raise your kids. That's a fact. What
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you can you explain a little bit more like what you mean by that?
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A real idiot don't don't raise their kids. Yeah, it's different versions to
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this shit, right, So I look at it like you could walk past
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a kid knowing that that's your kid and don't want to stand up to be
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that father. Or you know you slept with that girl, you know this
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a possibility to be your kid and you running from it. Now, if
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somebody come to me and tell me, oh, this is a possibility,
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this is your kid, I'm gonna ask him what arm they want to take
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the blood from? What cheek y'all want to swave? Because if this is
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my kid, I want to be there to raise it. I don't want
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to. I'm not running. I'm not duncking no responsibilities. Some fathers,
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it's different. It's different levels of fathers. Some people it's financial fathers.
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The financial fathers, the ones that feel like if they give the kid money,
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they did it, they did their job. But what about the love.
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I take the love over the money any day. Sometimes, like I'll
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be thirty four years old this year. Sometimes I wish I had. Sometimes
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I used to wish I had that love for my father just but then I
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thought it, maybe he don't know how to love me. Maybe he just
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know how to throw money. And it's like, do you get mad at
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that shit? Because then I could have took that same trauma and just been
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throwing money at my kids and that would have been that yeah generation, yeah,
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like just keep passing that keep passing. I don't know how his father
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treated him. I don't know how his father father treated him. But I
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broke the curse. Why because I helped my kid with them projects. I'm
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at them with war ceremonies, I'm at them graduations. I haven't missed not
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one. I sat there. When the teacher call, I get on his
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ass. N I don't. I don't raise no slouches. I teach my
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son you don't. Don't depend on no woman sending you. You want to
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teach you how to wash your own clothes, Ima, teach you how to
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cook. I'm gonna teach you not to depend on nobody. You a man
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before anything. Any excuses of why you can't do shit, just the excuse
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that I mean, you selling yourself short to be less than what a man
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is supposed to be. Get a family. You spot to carry your family.
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I made a lot of mistakes in life, but a real man is
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an nigga that gonna go in the passage to correct it, just so the
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future could be brighter. A lot of people scared it and run away and
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feel like this is what it is. Whatever my father shout out to t
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rock him. He see me, keep apologizing, He'll tell me he loved
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me, this, that, and the third or I'm gonna do this like
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he pretty much promised to give me the world, But you can't give me
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the word at thirty four, Like that that's over. I'm old enough to
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make my own money. I'm old enough to do a lot of shit.
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You trying to make up the time that you miss I appreciate that. But
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put all that time that you have left into your grandkid. That's your second
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chance right there. You missed out on me. Go for your second chance,
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Your second chances your grandson. So for a parent who kind of dropped
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the ball on raising the kid that they helped give birth to, you think
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that they second chance is with the grandchildren. Second chance older with the grandkids.
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It's but so much you could do. Can't teach me how to shoot
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a basketball. You can't tell me what's right from wrong. I'm a grown
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ass man. Now. You can't change my papa. You don't gotta babysit
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me. You don't got to pick me up from this. You don't gotta
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put your grandkid. That's the second life right there. You do right by
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him. That make up all the makeup everything you did to me. You
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shine it to him. You know who his grandfather is. Life, life
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goes on. I can forgive a lot of people hold onto memories and none
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of that shit. Nah, that's my pop, So he created me.
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How can I be mad at that? It just he wasn't He just wasn't
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that man and stepped up to try to raise me. And then it's like
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not saying him, but just in general, who's to say if your father
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is really certain faults that left, who's the same. If they was in
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your life, your life would be what it is today. Sometimes it might
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be a good thing. They not in your life. I feel some people
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that's not like pretty much, what I'm saying is some people not ready to
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be a father. They into the streets. The life is robbed around that.
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Why would I want to bring that around my kid, How do you
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know when you're ready to be a father? I know I was ready to
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be a father the first time I seen him come out there with Jina.
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When I seen him, I'm like, damn, that's me. He cry
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and I held them. I'm I saying, looking around, it's like at
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that moment, I said, there, I got to change my life.
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M funck standing on the corners, fuck running around doing all this other shit.
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Na get a job. I want to. I want to do the
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EMT test for that. For him, it's like, nah, this this
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is the right thing, cause it's like me letting the streets raised my son,
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or me letting another man raise my son was not happening. Not happening.
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Knowing that somebody putting their hands on my child doing this, like I'm
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rarely hands on my child. For another man to do that shit, that
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shit makes me a sucker. Yeah, I went. I went. I
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couldn't live with my life. I couldn't live with myself to do that.
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Plus seeing that what my grandfather did to make sure I had my step Pap
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did, I'm not gonna make sure what I created. I'm not gonna give
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him that same treatment, but just even better sometimes I feel like like I'm
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cheating them due to the fact that I can't see because I can't do a
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lot of things that I want to do it with them, like teaching him
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how to drive, teaching him how to shoot his first basketball, a lot
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of ship. But then I think about it, like I really ain't missing
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that because man, him go to the basketball court. You play basketball.
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We do a lot of ship, and it's like you be playing basketball,
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Hell yeah, how you be doing that? I got I think I got
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videos of it. Man playing ball. One time I dropped them more than
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little crossover and it's like, nah, yeah, I used to play heavy.
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Let's drop the egg. Let's send me that videos that we can drop.
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I'm gonna see. I'm going I'm gonna go on YouTube. I mean,
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I'm going on Facebook and get get it. We really play basketball.
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I rode dirt bikes with him. His dirt for Christmas I bought. Man.
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I think I broke my thumb, my pinky, but he got it
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going though. It's like I never try to miss a beat with them.
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My daughter, I'll be on the phone talking to her and it's like she's
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sitting like, let me tell you what happened. Oh they ghetto. They
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ratchet, and I laugh and I sit and talk. But it's like a
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right cool I'm the closest thing to her best friend that she feel like she
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could sit and talk to me about things like this. So when something serious
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happened, I feel like I've been an ed and a voice to her that
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she would come to me and talk to me about when she when she in
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her darkest moments, and I could give her the answers that you need.
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Like I try to keep a boundary with being a friend to my kids,
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my nieces and my nephews and being their parents and being their uncle. Is
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a nah as a father, as a uncle to tell you when your ass
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is wrong. But then I'm on a friend flip side. I'm gonna tell
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you what you could have did better. I'm a guide you through because I
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ain't gonna let nobody else try to guide you through it and lead you down
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a dark path, not when I'm here and I can avoid it and stop
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it. Which I felt a lot of like growing up. It was like,
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damn, if I had my father would have been different. I had
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my father would have been different. But then it's like those I feel like
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those shits be excuses because it's like I had father figures, so I wasn't
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missing nothing. My grandfather was in them stadiums when I was playing basketball,
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My stepfather was, my cousin, bought me my first basketball, bought me
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my first air phone posit. So it's like what I really was missing.
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It's just that feeling of how it feels to have that fall and I never
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want my kids to feel that that feeling again. Like, yeah, your
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father was around growing up, Yeah, he was around. My dad spent
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a lot of time in another state, but my dad was always in my
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life for sure. He made sure his presence was always there to the best
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of his ability. You know, my dad, I grew up in Texas,
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So my dad, he lived in Texas for a while obviously that's where
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he met my mom, and then he went to Indiana where his family was
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at because he needed to get on his feet. You know, my dad's
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paying child support two kids. You know, life was just kind of eating
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him alive. So so it was it was a situation that it was like
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out of his control. He pretty much made that move to survive. Yeah,
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he made them move to survive, and I think that's a hard choice
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to make as a father. Yeah, to leave the state that your children
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at. But my dad was like his head was completely underwater when it came
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to finances, like and so he made the best decisions. But he was
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always in my life though in the situation I thought I respected though, yeah,
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because it wasn't a situation where he just said fuck y'all, you're not
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not at all. It's like, let me get right, but I'd be
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back. Yeah, I'm gonna make sure my presidence, no matter how many
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miles away, I'm gonna make sure my presidence be known. A lot of
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fathers aren't like that. It's true. A lot of people. A lot
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of fathers used the excuse the baby mother ran to do away, and a
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lot of fathers was like just different excuses that at Yeah, I feel like
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money don't raise kids. Love do morals do? Principals do raise kids?
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Like money plays a big part as long as you got love and you put
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morals and like values into your kids. Man, I feel like the money
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part, you're gonna figure it out. That's why. That's how I really
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feel. With a lot of situations like I don't know, baby ain't gonna
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like, baby mother, do make you want to just say, let's put
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that out there? But not your kids? You know, some baby mother.
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You sit there gotta scratch your head like what the fuck did I do?
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Like yo? Like when they curse you out, they like YO,
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like what like yeah, that shit give you headaches? But another fucked up
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thing though, I don't know, maybe you can even pull it up.
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Father's Day is the twentieth holiday that's celebrated. Bullshit, it's theth twentieth holidays
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celebrated, So it's nineteen holidays before Father's Day that's celebrated. Now that's backwards,
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niggas would be jo be Dad's twenty four to seven. It's holidays up
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there. I never even heard of literally, Christmas number one. Okay,
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cool, we know that's celebrated. Mother's Day number two? Really Mother Day?
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Wait? Wait wait wait wait wait wait skirt, hold on, hold
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on number two, Mother's Day. Mother's Day is the second second? What
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number two to what holiday that's celebrated, like the most celebrated under Christmas?
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Christmas number one, Mother's Day number two, and Father's Day is number It's
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holidays that our neve heard of. Christopher Columbus before holiday, before Father's Day.
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That's the clip Halloween. Halloween came in number six. Nah, ghost
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and goblins came before of us. Nah. Nah, so we we worshiping
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ghosts and goblins and demons and shit and not father of us and not fathers
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though, Oh, June teen ft to be in front of us too,
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if it ain't already. You see, June teeth is like one of them
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ones where it's like, okay, maybe June teenth maybe, but then even
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then it's like, what what really is? What's what comes before being a
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parent? That's what I'm saying. They got Valentine Day before us to Day's
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Giving. Yeah, Thanksgiving, I put thingsgiven one thousand saying Father's Day,
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I mean Thanksgiving, Christopher Columbus, Saint Patrick. How the fuck is all
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these holidays before us? I'm like, what, it's holidays that I never
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even heard of? On there, I said, what the fuck is this
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number twenty? They got Father's Day and then our Mother's Day came. It
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was so many ads, so many commercials. Get your mother, it is,
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get your mother. I ain't seen not one Father Day commercial. I
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went on a rank yesterday for Father's Day, and people like, oh you,
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what's wrong with you? Nah? We don't get love. Don't get
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love. Wow, that's some ship. They had a holiday. I said,
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what holiday is this? Never even heard of this. But it's before
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Father's Day. And then one year Juneteenth and father Day was on the same
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year. People forgot it was Father's Day, Mother's Day and Father's Day.
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That should be number one, bro, because at the end of day,
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it ain't no Christmas with our mothers and father know nothing. There ain't no
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Thanksgiving, what mother It ain't no constules with our mothers and fathers and we
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number twenty. Yeah, that's insane. Come on, Bet and then Curt
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Like Mother's Day, it's roses on every corner though, oh god, it's
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baskets on every corner. It's commercials. Every time you turn it, it's
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a commercial pop up get your mother the it's a cell on beds, it's
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a cell on TV. I ain't see not one of them for Father's there.
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Why do you think that is? They don't give a fuck about fathers.
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Why do you think that is? I feel like it's a stereotype Like
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me personally, I feel like they the way shit is like mothers is I
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feel like people put mothers at the top of the list because they feel like
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the mothers is always stuck with the kid. The father got freedom, the
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father got room to breathe. But what about the mothers that's not ship and
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the father holding it down? The single fathers with the kids, Yeah,
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we're not giving them enough credit. What about the fathers that's really in tune
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into their kids' lives, They're not giving them enough credit. But do you
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think though, to challenge the situation, Usually people will say that was advocate,
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but we don't fuck with that niggas, So that's to challenge the situation.
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Do you think that might be because overwhelmingly the mothers are showing up at
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where the fathers are not. I can't really say that for the simple fact
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because it's like I've seen a lot of great fathers. That's I feel like
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it's more father showing up than mothers. Now. But we know, but
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we But at the same time, though we do know a lot of a
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lot of the homies, you know what I mean, what the pops is
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just literally non existent, you know what I mean? Like, honestly,
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I think I know more situations where the Pops is not around than it is
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than it is, and Mone's is the opposite. I know every nigga around
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me is hands on with their kids, deal with their kids, go to
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jail for their kids, but they didn't on child support. They're still holding
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it down for their kids. This generation, for this generation, that's a
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fact, homies. I didn't seen niggas struggle that they still holding it down
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for their kids. Like shout out them, like my cousin showing his big
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mother was in this situation, whatever the case may be, he held his
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son down for the whole year, struggle with it, but he held it
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down for the whole year, and they complained about it. Right. I
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used to call them a man and a half because he the man, the
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son of the half. Yeah, my son Larry Love take care his kids.
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I'm saying, kay, take his kids. I'm saying a don't got
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kids, but his girl kid is his kid. Like so it's like some
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big will congratulations. His first Father's Day, he celebrated congratulations. Like up
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in the row, my Saint Castro kid got in a car accident, a
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car hit, a broke a leg. He in the hospital. So like
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this generation of fathers is stepping up. Yeah, this generation is different though
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for sure, Like I don't know one quote unquote dead be dad that's like
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came up with me in age. We went to school together, even if
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I don't really know them that well, but they appears though I don't know
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nobody who just like, yeah, I'm out this kid, how can you?
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Like, how can you do that? And that's how I say you.
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And I feel like this generation like really changed the game with a lot
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of shit. So it's like, while we're not getting the credit before we
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wrap up, we got like two minutes left before we hear thirty, but
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before we wrap up, damn. I mean this this might be a weird
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question, but when it comes to your house, is your son my son
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thirteen be fourteen January be fourteen January coming up soon? Do you ever think
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about your like your grandchildren? Oh yeah, you think about that, think
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about it like I ain't rushing that shit. Yeah, I take your time
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player, which I know he going to drag his feet because he loved,
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he loved clothes, he loved he loves to spend money. So to break
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that ship down, yeah, like me has to be in the fall is
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like I gotta break my money down. I got a daughter that might need
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son. I got my son, I got myself, and I got bills.
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So when it comes to being a father, what do you think is
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the most important thing you could teach your son. The most important thing I
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could teach him is the values, the principles of being a man. Yeah,
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don't be no slouch. Don't you gotta target on your back already.
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Don't give them another reason to try to put you under them jails. I
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did the dirt, so you don't have to stand in your two feet.
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Don't put your hands on no women. Be respectable when you go outside.
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You're not only representing me, you represent yourself. Let people know that you're
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not just one of those black kids that just walk in the streets with no
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education. I'm teaching like niggas, stay tall even though he feel like he
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Malcolm X's already, but still stay tall. Always keep your head up,
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never down, your chests out, even when you're in the worst situation,
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the bad situations, your father always there, whether you're right or wrong.
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Your father always there, And I want I'm gonna teach them to do the
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same for his kids. That's the realist thing I think a parent could ever
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tell a kid, I think my mom told me the same thing, like
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whether right or wrong, Like you might be wrong, you might have fucked
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up, Like, yeah, you fucked up, But I'm man. You're
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jumping that water. I'm jumping right behind you. The savior. You my
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child, You came from me. You're a generation, and you're gonna create
29:08
more generations. I'm gonna stop you if I feel like you're general you fucking
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up the generation, the curse, like if you're trying to curse our generation,
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and I'm definitely gonna stop you and make sure you're going down the right
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path. I'll give fucking you sixty years old and I'm eighty. I'm gonna
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always be that father to you. Yeah, Like, and that's I feel
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I'm a stand on even my daughter. I'm a teacher. Be a woman.
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Respect yourself. No man ain't gonna respect you unless you respect yourself.
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A man gonna treat you the way you want to be treated. So if
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you want to be there treated like a whole, trusted belief, he's gonna
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make sure his team is there to make sure you feel like a treat like
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a bitch, or he gonna treat you like a bit that's how I feel
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like a lot of men think I'm gonna treat you the same way you respect
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yourself. But if you you come in and you show you that you're standing
29:52
on business, you don't need no nigga to depend on you and none of
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that shit. A niggain't gonna never try to play. You're gonna come to
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correct me you wish, and when when it's all sitting down, you can
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say and say, you see, no kids, we're staying toll. My
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name is powerful, so and that's how we're moving on this episode. Happy
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Father's Day to all the real fathers out there. Don't never know, no,
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never let nobody tell you that you're not a father. Whether you got
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your money not right, whether you don't got the time, you're still a
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father. And Happy Father's Day to you, bro. I really appreciate I
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haven't even had a moment to tell you I appreciate that. I definitely appreciate
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that. Ye, even though you know my son went to the store,
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didn't buy me nothing for chip, no juice, Hold on, hold on
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YouTube, mm hmm, Hello, Yeah, what questions you got for me?
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I don't know you ready for high school? Yeah? Next year gonna
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be your year. No slacking, no, no me talking all right,
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and we could be playing sports because we ain't gonna let that height go to
31:12
way sit I hope, so question, you're a king? Yeah, every
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day you walk out the house, is your crown on your head? That's
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all I needed to know. M hm, and we out. This is
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another episode of the Blamin I see podcasts each and every Wednesday. You could
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tap in with us. We ain't gonna know where we're here to the end.
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Well, thank you appreciate this episode. And we out.