Incompetent Men Are A Nightmare: How Men Get Away With Doing Nothing

Rachel Oates · Oct 9, 2026 · 1h 39m

Let's talk about weaponised incompetence because it's an issue.

0:00 Intro

9:05 The Default Parent

38:24 You Should Have Just Asked...

49:19 It's Not Even A Real Problem!

01:16:58 Women's Standards Are Just Too High

01:30:14 It's Rough On Men Too

01:34:45 Why Even Talk About This?

Sources and Further Reading:

All The Rage: Mothers, Fathers and the Myth of Equal Partnership - Darcy Lockhart

UK: https://amzn.to/4k8gMtc

US: https://amzn.to/4kcir0P

Fed Up: Emotional Labour, Women, and the Way Forward - Gemma Hartley

UK: https://amzn.to/4ddOsDD

US: https://amzn.to/4daJA1T

A Better Share - Morgan…