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Season 4 - Episode 276 - Are you tackling ‘one thought at a time’? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermindset coach, creative strategist, and also happened to
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  be a farmer. This is my chicken coop and I
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  come out here every day to record a podcast to teach
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  distinctions, possibilities, new ways of thinking, and just bring
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  some joy into the world. So welcome to the coop and let's
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  start your day off in a fantastic way.
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  Hey everybody, good morning. Well, you know what I'm going to
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  tell you, it's secretly it's the evening.
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  I'm trying to tuck all the girls in and of course everyone's
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  arguing about where they're going to sit and I'm standing in
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  the coop waiting for them to pick their spot.
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  So here's an interesting thought to think about.
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  Are you tackling one thought at a time, or are you trying to
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  tackle all your thoughts? I like to refer to this as
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  spiraling because that's when you're trying to tackle all the
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  thoughts at once. And a great way to remember that
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  you're doing that and how bad it is for you is to realize that
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  you're spiraling like a toilet. When a toilet flushes.
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  If you ever watch a toilet flush, it's spiraling.
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  It's just whipping around, whipping around, and that's what
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  your head is doing, which means it's going to suck you in just
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  like it sucks the poo in. And before you know it, you're
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  right down that flusher and you're gone and you're
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  overwhelmed. The way to stop this in a very
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  quick and easy process is to say, what is one thing I can
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  focus on right now? Just one.
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  Pick one thing and focus on that one thing.
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  Don't try to do all of it all at once.
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  And if everything seems to be coming at you and you've had
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  multiple bad things happen all at once and you simply say to
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  yourself, OK, what was the first bad thing that happened?
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  I mean, I've had days like this where it just pig piles one on
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  top of another on top of another.
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  And I have to say, all right, what was the first thing that
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  happened? Could I have done anything about
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  it differently? Could I have handled it any
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  differently? No.
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  OK, then it just happened and I've got to move on.
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  And you, sometimes you just have to go through them one by one.
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  And it and often times it just makes you laugh when you have
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  one of those long days where you're just like, are you
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  kidding me? Really.
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  Something else. And the answer is, sometimes it
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  happens like that. Sometimes our energy is just
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  like that. And sometimes things pile on and
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  that's just what happens. But it's our job to decide how
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  we want to show up with those things.
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  It's our job if we want to take in all those thoughts at the
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  same time or not. And nine times out of 10, it is
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  not. It is just not a good idea.
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  Debriefing yourself with the line of how they happened is
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  great and then tackle them one at a time.
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  Now let's just say it's one doozy of a thing and it starts
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  making you spiral. It was just one thing that
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  happened and it's really making you spiral.
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  Well, guess what? There is a really good chance
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  that that one thing you are now thinking about is making you
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  future pace all the disastrous things that could come from
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  that. So you're just spiraling
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  yourself by thinking about all the things that could happen,
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  not that will happen, but that could happen.
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  And there's a big difference when you start focusing on what
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  could happen instead of what is happening or will happen is it's
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  just going to take you down this nonsensical Rd. that you can't
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  pull yourself out of. So I am a self-proclaimed person
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  who, as you know, if you listen regularly riddled with anxiety,
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  it kind of marries into future pacing and future pacing up.
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  There's a nice plane flying right over my head.
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  It, it just kind of marries into it.
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  And before you know it, here you are dealing with both those
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  things. And again, not fun.
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  Neither of them are fun. And I have to remind myself
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  often that future pacing is not going to help me right now.
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  I like to save my future pacing now for things that are
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  valuable, like planning the garden, goal setting, intention
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  setting, coming up with new recipes, coming up with new
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  ideas, coming up with new ways to shoot photos, coming up with
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  new videos, coming up with new podcasts.
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  My future pacing is all about that stuff.
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  Planning vacations, planning things I want to do with my
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  family, thinking about what I want to put on my Christmas
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  tree. It can go to all of those things
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  and have a really, really good time.
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  It doesn't have to go to the crappy side of putting you in
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  the toilet while you're swirling around like poop in that
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  position. So you have to decide how you
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  want to approach it. One thought at a time is the key
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  for me. Sometimes that one thought at a
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  time is so simple. I think to myself, well, I can't
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  just make it that simple, but yes, you can.
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  Usually you have to remind yourself that when emotions go
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  up, your intelligence goes down. So as soon as that happens, you
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  have a choice. You have a big choice.
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  You can say, all right, I'm being very emotional and I'm not
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  qualified to have these thoughts right now, so I'm not going to
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  let myself. I'm going to calm myself down
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  and then I'll do something about it.
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  Very important, my friends, Very, very important.
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  So one thought at a time. Stay out of the toilet.
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  No future pacing. Unless it's about calming
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  yourself down. Stick with it.
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  I promise this will help. All right, my friends, I will
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  see you tomorrow and I hope you have a blessed day.
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  Bye.