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Season 2 - Episode 4 - Keeping your focus on the outcome · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places for chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  Ooh, well today it's a little bit of a distance because it's
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  the porch. You can hear Raven off in the
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  distance, still dark and pouring here.
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  So in order to be on time with this, I wanted to say I'm
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  getting it out and doing it from the porch.
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  Today, we are talking about getting the, the, the people in
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  your life, aligned with the goals that you are setting.
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  So sometimes when we go about setting goals, And intentions
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  for the year, but obviously, the people around us are not on
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  board with this. If there's somebody in your
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  house, that's not taking on the same level of commitment to it
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  that you might be or the same type of things.
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  Like for instance, if you say, I'm going to go ahead and I'm
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  going to do dry January and I'm not going to have any alcohol in
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  January at all and you start talking about that to people
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  telling them that you may or may not get resistance from it.
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  Meaning somebody's like well why are you doing That that seems so
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  silly. Why can't you just have a drink
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  on a Friday night? And it becomes a battle of wills
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  sometimes within houses. If someone's quitting smoking,
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  it's a really difficult thing. If you are in a position where
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  you're attempting to really study and someone you know in
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  your family does not like that you're taking time away from
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  something else because you're studying or trying something new
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  You know, it's there's a there's always an awkward period of time
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  where when one person shifts the rest of the dynamic inevitably
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  has to deal with the shift and there's always this push back
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  that comes in one way or another.
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  Not might not be blatant. It might not be someone saying
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  it to you but you can feel that there's a difference.
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  I'm hoping that most of you that are listening or in situations,
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  where, you know, your family is super supportive and they're
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  like, go for it. It's kind of like, when I go to
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  write a book, my, my husband, and my son, and we just kind of,
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  like, I'll get it. And we know that for that period
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  of time because I write them quickly the way that I do them
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  and they just come out all at once, but they know that's going
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  to be an intense month of me pouring into whatever it is that
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  I'm doing or just like this past week.
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  I had a very big goal the week between Christmas and New Year
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  to swap the girls Coupe out. Out.
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  And there was a lot that had to be done and I went down a rabbit
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  hole. I didn't talk to anybody, I was
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  super focused. I tiled the floor inside the
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  scoop, I painted the inside entirely.
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  I was moving stuff around for them in the yard changing their
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  whole patterns. Everything had to be done but
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  because it was cold, everything had to be broken out into
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  different time. Frames it and and Had the
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  freeze. It was a very complicated
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  project which was supposed to only take a couple days ended up
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  taking seven days, it was a lot and I had planned you know this
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  in the middle of what was supposed to be a quote-unquote
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  vacation. So I had to allow for the
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  resistance that was going to come up in myself about doing it
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  this way. I had to just like we talked
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  about yesterday but I also had to realize that this affected
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  other people. And what I was doing affected,
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  my husband and an affected, my son, and fortunately, I have a
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  really great support staff and I support things that he's doing.
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  He's working on one of his big projects and that will be coming
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  up or I'll be helping him when his stuff arrives in two weeks.
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  So we give and take, but oftentimes, you're not in a give
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  and take situation. So I want you guys to be
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  prepared one for the disruptions, like we talked
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  about in the last couple days and too.
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  If somebody's pushing back, if someone doesn't like something
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  that you're doing, don't make them wrong for not liking it,
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  don't make it about them. Stay focused on the fact that
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  this is your goal, your intention, you keep it in your
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  orbit, don't take it outside of that and make them wrong for not
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  giving you support. Because what does that do to
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  you? It takes you off Target, it
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  takes you takes all your energy and your focus off of what you
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  want to create, and it Turns it around and says, okay, I'm going
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  to focus on what's wrong and I'm going to make blah, blah, blah,
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  whoever that might be wrong for not supporting me.
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  No, we don't even know at this point in time if you're going to
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  stick with it quite frankly. So why make it all about them?
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  You're all of your attention, your intention, your energy
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  should be going right to the point of achieving the intention
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  and the outcome. It should not be on making
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  someone else. Wrong pushing them in a
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  direction, any of that it should.
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  All on the outcome. So you do what you need to do to
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  take care of yourself. You don't make them wrong, you
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  say, I appreciate where you're you're going with this.
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  I appreciate your input. And I really have to focus on
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  this because this is important to me, I, you know, and you find
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  a ground in your head where you can stand not in Anger, not in
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  frustration, not an irritation, but in commitment to yourself.
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  And then when they see that you're really, He committed over
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  time and that period of time can be two days or it could be two
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  weeks or could be two months, but once they see it and they
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  see how it's affecting you in a good way, nine times out of 10
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  people will shift in, they'll say, wow you were really right
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  to do that and if they don't that's a whole different story
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  where you get to decide, you know.
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  Okay. Do I want to re-engage this
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  conversation with them and really talk to them about why
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  this is important to me again or you can stay run.
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  The path, right? Where you are, but the point is
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  don't allow anybody else to come in and burst your bubble.
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  At this point focus on, you don't allow the attention to go
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  away from what you want to make happen and are making happen.
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  So I hope you guys have a very blessed day.
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  I hope this was helpful and I will see you all tomorrow from
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  the chicken coop, for sure. No rain tomorrow.
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  Alright, have a great day guys. Bye.