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Episode 74 - You Minding Your Own Business When Everything Falls Apart. · You Minding Your Own Business

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Speaker 1: Hello, Hello, Hello, welcome to you Mind your Own Business.
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Speaker 1: I'm your host. God It's Asha Mary. I'm gonna thank
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Speaker 1: It's been a rough week and I'm gonna get into
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Speaker 2: I am Asha Mariama.
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Speaker 1: I am a certified recovery, healing and recovery, addiction and
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Speaker 1: mental health practitioner. It's all about helping people with their
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Speaker 1: paths and their journeys and their purpose to a new
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Speaker 1: embedter them through self discovery. I help people.
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Speaker 2: When it comes to you mind and your own business.
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Speaker 2: And I didn't realize that this.
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Speaker 1: Was going to become a financial healing and recovery podcast
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Speaker 1: until I lost my job. I wasn't expecting that, but
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Speaker 1: here we are, and I'm really surprised that it turned
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Speaker 1: out that way because originally, when I did this podcast,
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Speaker 1: it was about you mind and your business as a whole,
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Speaker 1: not just financially but also mentally, psychologically, emotionally, spiritually. But
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Speaker 1: when I lost my job and then losing my father
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Speaker 1: and then trying to figure out what the next chapter
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Speaker 1: of my life has been, it turned into financial recovery.
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Speaker 1: And then I started getting guests on my podcasts that
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Speaker 1: were very successful, people that had journeys of ups and
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Speaker 1: downs financially that I ended up bringing on my podcast.
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Speaker 1: And so that's what it turned into. And I wasn't
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Speaker 1: expecting that, but I'm very thankful to every guest that's
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Speaker 1: did pre conversations with me. I will be reaching out
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Speaker 1: to everybody about scheduling a time that works that's convenient
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Speaker 1: for them, and for those of y'all who are not
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Speaker 1: available at this time, the door is always open. I
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Speaker 1: am somebody that I'm always welcome to bring back guests,
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Speaker 1: and I'm also welcome to when they're available, they can
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Speaker 1: always come. And what's funny about my pre conversations, they
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Speaker 1: always turn it into actual podcast episodes. But I still
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Speaker 1: want to do a part two with them because of
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Speaker 1: the fact I want to go more in depth in
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Speaker 1: what we talked about. So you should be receiving emails
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Speaker 1: on Monday, and I need to explain to everybody what
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Speaker 1: has been going on and why I have not been
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Speaker 1: able to reach back to people that have been guested
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Speaker 1: on my podcast that I haven't done the second parts with.
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Speaker 1: For those of y'all who don't know, I lost my
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Speaker 1: father in February, but I've also been going through some
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Speaker 1: health issues and as you can hear in my throat,
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Speaker 1: there's an issue with something either being stuck in my ear,
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Speaker 1: stuck in my nose, or stuck at my throat, and
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Speaker 1: I got to go to an ear's, nose and throat
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Speaker 1: doctor put un Fortunately, I do not have insurance because
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Speaker 1: I lost my job February, I mean January ninth of
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Speaker 1: this year, and I have been able to find a
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Speaker 1: job since then. And it's really hard to apply for
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Speaker 1: medicaid when they're saying there's certain stipulations you have to
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Speaker 1: have in order to get Medicaid. But also I just
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Speaker 1: needed to more. I need people to understand that losing
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Speaker 1: a parent is like the hardest thing in the world.
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Speaker 1: And we're still dealing with some things financially for my father,
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Speaker 1: so it's really been a lot. And then I'm transitioning
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Speaker 1: now into building businesses and brands as well. So really
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Speaker 1: I just needed a break from everything, all of it.
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Speaker 1: And I'm hoping that each guest understands that that's why
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Speaker 1: I haven't reached out to anybody. I just.
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Speaker 2: I just couldn't do it. Honestly.
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Speaker 1: It was like I was in this slump and I
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Speaker 1: stopped everything. My jewelry business, my podcast, my my coaching business.
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Speaker 1: I stopped everything everything. And that's what I wanna talk
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Speaker 1: about today. When something happens that stops everything and puts
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Speaker 1: everything on pause, not forever, but just it makes you
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Speaker 1: have to just reflect and rev and reevaluate, so that's
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Speaker 1: what I had to do. So my father passed away
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Speaker 1: February twelfth. I lost my.
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Speaker 2: Job January ninth.
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Speaker 1: I knew in December that I was losing my job
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Speaker 1: and I was trying to find another job. And this
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Speaker 1: was around the time that a lot of people saying
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Speaker 1: that since they had lost their jobs, they hadn't been
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Speaker 1: able to find any other job, and that AI was
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Speaker 1: the ones that were going through the applications and deciding
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Speaker 1: who they were going to contact. I had a lot
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Speaker 1: of people contacting me from other countries wanted me to
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Speaker 1: work as far as contracting now from twenty sixteen all
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Speaker 1: the way up to present, and I had maybe one
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Speaker 1: or two jobs that were permanent. But when I was
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Speaker 1: working in billing, Don't get me wrong, I love billing,
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Speaker 1: I love building. I love everything about billing I do.
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Speaker 1: I love doing posting payments. I loved being in credentialing,
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Speaker 1: being able to credential you know, providers. I loved being
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Speaker 1: able to fix claims and you know, making sure everything
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Speaker 1: was correct because I'm one of those people, an admin person.
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Speaker 1: But I'm gonna tell y'a'm a story of how I
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Speaker 1: got there and how my journey with my jobs led
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Speaker 1: me to building my own business and brand. I was sixteen.
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Speaker 1: My first job was McDonald's and I hated it. I
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Speaker 1: worked fast food for a number of years and then
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Speaker 1: I hated it, and so I ended up working Impure
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Speaker 1: later and working through Megaphorest. So my first staffing company
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Speaker 1: was Megaphorest. When I was working in warehouses, hated that
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Speaker 1: as well. And then I decided to go back to school.
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Speaker 1: And I got pregnant when I was twenty one and
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Speaker 1: had my son at twenty two. Found out he was autistic.
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Speaker 1: That changed everything. And then two years later I was
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Speaker 1: on my way somewhere stopped and there was no thing
7:55
Speaker 1: where you could turn to turn. Somebody hit me a
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Speaker 1: car extremely hard. I was in rested to the hospital
8:03
Speaker 1: on the way home. Instead of my son's father driving
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Speaker 1: the car, I had to drive the car to get
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Speaker 1: back home with a neck brace and got hit again
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Speaker 1: not even eight hours right after I left the hospital,
8:17
Speaker 1: all my way to take my son to school. So
8:21
Speaker 1: imagine getting into one horrible accent and then getting into
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Speaker 1: another one not even eight hours later. My life wasn't
8:36
Speaker 1: the same since after that I was in physical therapy
8:41
Speaker 1: for almost about two years and then I started. Then
8:46
Speaker 1: I found out I started working on Fort Brag and
8:51
Speaker 1: I worked at a Mexican restaurant as a shift manager,
8:56
Speaker 1: and then I was also working another the pizza restaurant,
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Speaker 1: where I slipped and fell and I hurt my back,
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Speaker 1: and that's when they told me I couldn't work manual
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Speaker 1: labor jobs anymore. I was done after that. Then I
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Speaker 1: started doing daycare, and one daycare, it was snowing and
9:20
Speaker 1: they wanted me to come in and I said I
9:22
Speaker 1: was not coming in because it was snowing, and I
9:26
Speaker 1: slipped and fell off the porch. And I've done that
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Speaker 1: like three times and messed up my back even worse
9:31
Speaker 1: than what it already was. And that's when my life
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Speaker 1: changed forever. So I decided. So for years I wasn't
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Speaker 1: able to work at all, but luckily my son had
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Speaker 1: an income and luckily I was on Section eight, so
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Speaker 1: I was actually gonna okay for a while. But then
9:56
Speaker 1: it was to a point where they put me in
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Speaker 1: a bowling alley, and this is where everything changed. I
10:04
Speaker 1: was working for a bowling alley and I was having
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Speaker 1: chronic pain, really really bad. And I remember when I
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Speaker 1: had right before I got ready to leave that job.
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Speaker 1: I had went.
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Speaker 2: And bent over to pick up some bowling balls my back.
10:24
Speaker 1: I don't know what happened, but I felt something change
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Speaker 1: in my back, and so I told my ex to
10:29
Speaker 1: take me to the to the emergent to the urgent
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Speaker 1: care so they could check my back because I didn't
10:34
Speaker 1: want to go to the emergency room. So we went
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Speaker 1: into the urgent care and they told me that I
10:40
Speaker 1: would have to go to the hospital to get or
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Speaker 1: my doctor to go get some tests done for my back.
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Speaker 1: They really didn't do anything. When I was standing there
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Speaker 1: getting ready to pay, I couldn't feel my legs. I
10:53
Speaker 1: couldn't move and if I had let go, I would
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Speaker 1: have failed. It. Took me to the hospital. The hospital
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Speaker 1: had me there for almost about two weeks. I was
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Speaker 1: at the hospital. They couldn't find what was wrong. And
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Speaker 1: that's when a blood doctor came and told me, for
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Speaker 1: some reason I had their blood was not flowing through
11:14
Speaker 1: my legs like they were supposed to be. It still
11:18
Speaker 1: happens like this morning that happened. I woke up and
11:21
Speaker 1: my legs felt numb, and what I do is I
11:28
Speaker 1: put something on it to basically get circulation. Sometimes I'll
11:33
Speaker 1: have Charlie horses and it hurts really bad, but it's
11:37
Speaker 1: better than what it was. But I know, I got
11:39
Speaker 1: an exercise, but that's I won't talk about that on
11:43
Speaker 1: my Happier Ye leads to a Healthier Youth podcast about
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Speaker 1: my health. But after that happened, I realized that I
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Speaker 1: could not work manual labor or any jobs like that.
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Speaker 1: So I tried to apply for Social Security. Told me
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Speaker 1: I couldn't get Social Security. I was still able to
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Speaker 1: work administrative jobs. So I decided to apply for some jobs,
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Speaker 1: and no. I started doing daycare. Started doing daycare. And
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Speaker 1: that was okay at first until they told us we
12:21
Speaker 1: couldn't teach kids, until these parents started being trifling. Till
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Speaker 1: these parents started to think that they had a right
12:29
Speaker 1: to talk to me any kind of way. You know,
12:31
Speaker 1: we couldn't tell them how their children were doing certain things.
12:35
Speaker 1: And then when they told us that the no child
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Speaker 1: left behind thing, where whatever their interpretation is of what
12:42
Speaker 1: it is is what it is. It's like saying, Okay,
12:47
Speaker 1: we had doodles and we had things, and we taught
12:49
Speaker 1: them how to write, we taught them certain things. Nope,
12:52
Speaker 1: they learned through play. That was the curriculum. When that happened,
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Speaker 1: I stopped doing daycare and then I decided to go
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Speaker 1: to school to do medical billing, and so I went
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Speaker 1: through Millermont. I got st my degree in medical billing
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Speaker 1: and Coding, but I did not take the test because
13:13
Speaker 1: I didn't think I was ready for it and I
13:16
Speaker 1: did not have the books at the time, so I
13:20
Speaker 1: did it without the books because something happened with my books,
13:23
Speaker 1: but I didn't take it, so I didn't get the certification,
13:28
Speaker 1: but I still was able to bill. So I got
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Speaker 1: my first job in twenty twenty fifteen. So I was
13:34
Speaker 1: working in customer service for AT and T and through
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Speaker 1: a staff and company. My first staffing company that I
13:41
Speaker 1: worked through was through AT and T. I did really
13:44
Speaker 1: well at AT and T, but I wasn't getting paid enough,
13:51
Speaker 1: and I wanted something that was gonna pay me more
13:53
Speaker 1: to be able to pay my bills and take care
13:54
Speaker 1: of my baby. And plus I wanted to work where
13:57
Speaker 1: I could get off and be able to be with
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Speaker 1: my child by the time he got out of school
14:03
Speaker 1: at least by five o'clock, because he was getting out
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Speaker 1: of school at three, so my dad would go and
14:09
Speaker 1: pick him up and he would take him. He would
14:12
Speaker 1: be at the house to talk at home. So that's
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Speaker 1: when I started doing medical building. In twenty fifteen, got
14:20
Speaker 1: my first job. Everything was cool at first, and then
14:23
Speaker 1: that's when the bullying started. I was bullied and it
14:28
Speaker 1: was like, one day I couldn't get my hair done. Now,
14:33
Speaker 1: mind y'all, I have hair loss, mind you. I lost
14:36
Speaker 1: my hair when I was thirteen because it was pulled out.
14:39
Speaker 1: A girl pulled my hair out instead of using weave
14:42
Speaker 1: glue movie, she literally pulled my hair out and my
14:44
Speaker 1: hair was literally pulled out, so I had a ball
14:47
Speaker 1: spot on top in the back of my head. I
14:49
Speaker 1: was supposed to get my hair braided done that day
14:52
Speaker 1: and the girl couldn't do it, so I wasn't able
14:56
Speaker 1: to get my hair done. So I had put a
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Speaker 1: scarf on my head to you know, So I let
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Speaker 1: her know that what the situation was and that I'd
15:05
Speaker 1: be wearing a scarf because I couldn't afford to get
15:08
Speaker 1: a wig or anything, so I had to wear a scarf.
15:12
Speaker 1: Nobody knew my circumstance. Nobody knew anything. So they pulled
15:16
Speaker 1: me into an office and said, you know, you don't
15:19
Speaker 1: dress like you know a certain way. I would wear
15:23
Speaker 1: a business casual, but I would wear like long sleeve shirts.
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Speaker 1: They were professional. But I don't wear tight clothes because
15:32
Speaker 1: of the pain, you know, circulation wise, because of what
15:36
Speaker 1: happened in twenty twelve. So I could not wear certain clothes.
15:43
Speaker 1: But instead of them trying to understand that, they pulled
15:46
Speaker 1: me in an office and talked about me and made
15:49
Speaker 1: me cry. And so my manager heard what was going
15:52
Speaker 1: on and she was upset. She pulled me into the
15:55
Speaker 1: office and said, you know what, I'm sorry about that.
15:59
Speaker 1: And that's when I knew I had to leave right
16:02
Speaker 1: at that point, because I knew how this was going
16:04
Speaker 1: to turn out. So I decided to start looking for
16:07
Speaker 1: another job. Plus, it wasn't it was like ten dollars
16:11
Speaker 1: an hour, which wasn't that much more than what I
16:14
Speaker 1: was making at the staff and Company for AC and C.
16:20
Speaker 1: So I got another job that paid a dollar more,
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Speaker 1: which was eleven dollars twelve dollars no eleven on twelve
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Speaker 1: thousan an hour. I went there and then I left
16:28
Speaker 1: that job, and then it was it was it was
16:32
Speaker 1: the best thing I could have done. Then I worked
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Speaker 1: the other job, and at first it was cool, but
16:36
Speaker 1: as always you got people that you know, when you're
16:39
Speaker 1: in an office and everybody can see you. It's like
16:45
Speaker 1: certain things we weren't allowed to do, Like we couldn't
16:47
Speaker 1: talk to the doctors about certain things, and like, for example,
16:53
Speaker 1: if they were to build with unspecified codes, for example,
16:57
Speaker 1: they weren't gonna pay them. And instead of them telling
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Speaker 1: the doctor that I worked for what was going on,
17:06
Speaker 1: they just didn't say anything. So one day I went
17:09
Speaker 1: back there and I had a conversation with him and
17:12
Speaker 1: told him everything that was going on, everything, and he
17:17
Speaker 1: was like, I didn't know all of this was going on.
17:19
Speaker 1: I said, everybody tells us not to talk to you.
17:22
Speaker 1: And I came back here because there was two kids.
17:25
Speaker 1: One had a wingworm on his face and the other
17:29
Speaker 1: one had asthma issues. And so I told them how
17:33
Speaker 1: many patients had been turned away because of the fact
17:36
Speaker 1: of them not having medical records. So when he found
17:40
Speaker 1: that out, he did his research himself, him and his wife.
17:45
Speaker 1: And this is run around the time I was getting
17:46
Speaker 1: read to leave because I didn't appreciate the way I
17:49
Speaker 1: was being treated, and so I would go to work
17:53
Speaker 1: and everything and give it one hundred percent. But the
17:57
Speaker 1: way that I was treated, I just left. And that's
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Speaker 1: the one thing about me. If I feel like I'm
18:03
Speaker 1: being booed, I'm leaving a job, that's just it. I'm leaving.
18:07
Speaker 1: So I was there like a year and I left,
18:11
Speaker 1: but he thanked me for everything. He didn't want me
18:14
Speaker 1: to leave. To be honest, he didn't and told me
18:17
Speaker 1: if I ever decided I want to go back, I could,
18:20
Speaker 1: but I could not go there with that certain person
18:23
Speaker 1: that just kept messing with me that I just didn't
18:25
Speaker 1: want to be there. So I left. So the next
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Speaker 1: job that I had after that, throughout the years has
18:32
Speaker 1: been from doing everything that is a billing to credentialing,
18:38
Speaker 1: to revenue cycle to accounts receivable. So it has been
18:46
Speaker 1: the same issue. It has been some type of bullying
18:50
Speaker 1: because one thing about me is I'm very thorough about
18:53
Speaker 1: doing my job. And when people get caught up when
18:56
Speaker 1: somebody knew coming out and they find things that are
19:01
Speaker 1: and a doctor or a clinic is losing millions of
19:04
Speaker 1: dollars and you find it, Oh, they don't like you
19:07
Speaker 1: after that, especially when you're finding problems that they should
19:11
Speaker 1: have found, when people that have been there longert should
19:15
Speaker 1: have foulded a long time ago. I would find certain
19:18
Speaker 1: problems and then that's when people started not liking me
19:22
Speaker 1: because I found like issues with shots that could have
19:25
Speaker 1: been done that now were past timely filing, and so
19:32
Speaker 1: I got sick. This is what happened. In November of
19:34
Speaker 1: twenty seventeen. I got really sick with a stomach virus.
19:39
Speaker 1: A doctor gave me medication and I started not to
19:41
Speaker 1: take it. I wish I didn't, and I took it,
19:45
Speaker 1: and then the next thing I know, I felt like
19:47
Speaker 1: I was going to die. And it's like one of
19:50
Speaker 1: the scariest times of my life because I was really
19:55
Speaker 1: debating on should I go to the hospital or should
19:58
Speaker 1: I not? And I was like, Lord, I got so
20:02
Speaker 1: much I gotta do. I don't tell you nothing for granted,
20:05
Speaker 1: which I don't. I just want a second chance. God
20:08
Speaker 1: gave me that. God I said, go to sleep, and
20:10
Speaker 1: I went to sleep, and I woke up and I
20:12
Speaker 1: felt a thousand times better. But I didn't think that
20:16
Speaker 1: medication was gonna mess up my driving. Months later, twenty eighteen,
20:24
Speaker 1: that's when everything changed. I went to my mother's house
20:27
Speaker 1: that day and hit the back of my neck, and
20:30
Speaker 1: then when I left, I don't know what happened, but
20:33
Speaker 1: I ended up having a panic attack on the way home,
20:37
Speaker 1: and so at first I thought it was nothing. You know,
20:41
Speaker 1: I said, I'm gonna go ahead and make it home.
20:43
Speaker 1: The next thing I know, it happened again, and then
20:45
Speaker 1: I had to literally pull over. I thought I was
20:48
Speaker 1: having a heart attack, didn't realize it was a panic attack.
20:51
Speaker 1: I calmed myself down. I got home and I said, okay, well,
20:54
Speaker 1: if it gets worse in the morning, I'll I'll go
20:57
Speaker 1: ahead and go to the emergency room. But when I
21:00
Speaker 1: got in the car, I couldn't even drive with the street.
21:04
Speaker 1: Couldn't even drive literally up the street. That's when everything's
21:08
Speaker 1: in my life. As I know, it was never the
21:10
Speaker 1: same sense. But I say that to say that was
21:16
Speaker 1: the part of my journey where I should have known
21:19
Speaker 1: then to start building my business and my brand when
21:22
Speaker 1: that happened. But instead I ended up doing remote jobs
21:27
Speaker 1: and a lot of staffing companies were calling me and
21:31
Speaker 1: I worked staffing jobs, and you know, it was cool,
21:36
Speaker 1: I would meet production, but really, to tell you the truth,
21:42
Speaker 1: most of the time when we called they would say,
21:45
Speaker 1: we're not paying it. They wouldn't pay it because the
21:49
Speaker 1: provider wasn't credentialed for the services provided, or they weren't
21:55
Speaker 1: getting paid because they were not credentialed with the facility,
22:01
Speaker 1: or they weren't paid because the codes were not within
22:06
Speaker 1: their specialty, or Medicaid or Medicare doesn't cover them. They
22:10
Speaker 1: needed medical records. We would send the medical records. They
22:13
Speaker 1: would say, these ant the medical records we would need.
22:16
Speaker 1: So it really was a lot and the job that
22:21
Speaker 1: I was at when I worked permanent, the issue was
22:25
Speaker 1: they were moving from place to place, meaning that they
22:29
Speaker 1: would work for Change health Care far as a hospital,
22:33
Speaker 1: and then they would change to another company and then
22:38
Speaker 1: change with another company. And I remember when Change Healthcare
22:41
Speaker 1: ended up getting hacked and there was a breach. We
22:46
Speaker 1: were out of work with no pay for four months.
22:49
Speaker 1: Four months without pay, no unemployment, no nothing. That's the
22:54
Speaker 1: scariest thing in the world to be in limbo and
22:57
Speaker 1: not know what to do and not get get paid.
23:00
Speaker 1: Luckily we had some of us had income taxes, but
23:04
Speaker 1: still we didn't get reimbursed. Some time we were out
23:06
Speaker 1: of work and we weren't and so we ended up
23:09
Speaker 1: going back to work. I ended up working for this
23:12
Speaker 1: other company and it was cool, but it was less
23:16
Speaker 1: than what we were. And then I kept getting jobs
23:20
Speaker 1: where it was they would create a position and then
23:25
Speaker 1: because the other person had an issue with it that's
23:27
Speaker 1: been there longer, my position would end up being taken
23:30
Speaker 1: away from me. So to have the rug being pulled
23:34
Speaker 1: from up under you, or to be bullied at a job,
23:38
Speaker 1: or to go through being overworked, or you know, you
23:44
Speaker 1: want to go on vacation and camp because you only
23:47
Speaker 1: can use PTO, where back in the day, if you
23:50
Speaker 1: had salary, you were able to take as many vacations
23:53
Speaker 1: you wanted to. Because you had salary, You're gonna get
23:56
Speaker 1: paid no matter what, regardless of what you would get paid,
24:00
Speaker 1: and you were entied of the benefits, and the benefits
24:02
Speaker 1: were better in the early nineties than they were then.
24:07
Speaker 1: But the last two jobs I've had, no that was
24:10
Speaker 1: a straw that brought the camel's back. And then when
24:13
Speaker 1: I went after a sets coat, I lost my job
24:16
Speaker 1: because they decided to spread lies about me and I
24:18
Speaker 1: lost my job. So because of that, I said I'd
24:21
Speaker 1: never wanted to work for nobody no more. And that's
24:24
Speaker 1: when I made the decision to build a business and brand.
24:28
Speaker 1: This last time was Astraway brought the camel's back for me.
24:32
Speaker 1: And what I would say is it was something that
24:36
Speaker 1: I was in a journey of when I lost my job.
24:39
Speaker 1: When I was going after that sets coat, they kept
24:42
Speaker 1: calling and texting and supposedly it was because I accidentally
24:46
Speaker 1: showed my badge. How can you fire somebody because of
24:50
Speaker 1: a badge, especially if the if what they're doing has
24:54
Speaker 1: nothing to do with anything that is negative. But that's
25:01
Speaker 1: what happened, so it is what it is. But having
25:07
Speaker 1: your own business, having something that is of your own,
25:11
Speaker 1: you work for yourself, unless you have stockholders, stakeholders or
25:16
Speaker 1: you know, investors, and that's something different. But when it's
25:19
Speaker 1: just you and you're running the company, you get to
25:24
Speaker 1: do what you want to. You ain't got to worry
25:26
Speaker 1: about what somebody says or what somebody thinks, and you
25:29
Speaker 1: just do what you feel. But now that I'm doing
25:33
Speaker 1: travel agency, now you know I'm learning about the cruise ships.
25:38
Speaker 1: But what made me decide to do that? Because if
25:44
Speaker 1: I'm going to be traveling, whether it's business or personal,
25:48
Speaker 1: I might as well get paid to do so. And
25:53
Speaker 1: since I've been doing two cruises and now I got
25:55
Speaker 1: a third, now I got a fourth and a fifth one.
25:59
Speaker 1: Why not get paid for you know that? Why not?
26:04
Speaker 1: But one is an invitation that I'm going to in
26:07
Speaker 1: October and the other one is in January, and then
26:12
Speaker 1: I'm going to Greece for fourteen days along with that
26:15
Speaker 1: first one in October. But God led me to that
26:21
Speaker 1: decision when the fact that somebody can take your job
26:25
Speaker 1: from you all because something that they put they sense
26:32
Speaker 1: is crazy to me. And then it's like you're putting
26:35
Speaker 1: all these applications in and you're trying to find a
26:38
Speaker 1: job and nobody's calling you. You go to interviews and
26:41
Speaker 1: they say they want another candidate, and now the DEI
26:45
Speaker 1: is off table. Far as for African American people, it's
26:49
Speaker 1: definitely gonna be harder for them. And then what's crazy
26:52
Speaker 1: is when you do get a job, they want to
26:53
Speaker 1: pay you less than your last job. And then when
26:57
Speaker 1: they find out you made twenty four dollars an hour,
27:00
Speaker 1: they don't wanna pay you. That's crazy. So all I
27:10
Speaker 1: can say is is the transition was interesting. But I
27:17
Speaker 1: remember when I started buying my jewelry business was the
27:20
Speaker 1: first thing I started before I started doing coaching, And
27:24
Speaker 1: I remember I bought a bunch of beads and a
27:26
Speaker 1: bunch of stuff which I'm about to start doing now.
27:29
Speaker 1: I'm about to go through it over the weekend, as
27:32
Speaker 1: far as all of my beads and stuff and also
27:36
Speaker 1: my coaching. But I started podcasting in twenty sixteen. I
27:41
Speaker 1: did not think for a million years my podcast would
27:43
Speaker 1: end up where it is, where I have guests on it,
27:47
Speaker 1: and so up until January ninth of this year, right
27:53
Speaker 1: when I found out about me losing my job. In December,
27:55
Speaker 1: I said I was not working for nobody no more,
27:58
Speaker 1: and I said I had to figure out a way
27:59
Speaker 1: to be able to make this happen. I wasn't expecting
28:03
Speaker 1: my father to pass away February the twelfth. I wasn't.
28:08
Speaker 1: It was not something that none of us saw coming.
28:12
Speaker 1: But in December I made plans and I said, I'm
28:14
Speaker 1: gonna take the next six months that if I do
28:17
Speaker 1: get a job, it's not going to be permanent, it's
28:19
Speaker 1: gonna be temporary. And I said that I was going
28:22
Speaker 1: to work on the jury. I was gonna work on
28:25
Speaker 1: the website and getting the website done. As matter of fact,
28:27
Speaker 1: I'm about to do domain for the jury. Matter of fact,
28:32
Speaker 1: today I have a week's account that I can basically use,
28:38
Speaker 1: but I gotta I'm about to do a domain where
28:41
Speaker 1: I could be able to get a domain for not
28:43
Speaker 1: only my coaching business but also my jewelry business, and
28:48
Speaker 1: the podcast will be connected to the coaching business. So
28:53
Speaker 1: whatever that name is going to be, that's what I'm
28:56
Speaker 1: going to attach to it. And then it was like
29:01
Speaker 1: all of a sudden when I started my jewelry business.
29:05
Speaker 1: This was around the time I was being intact still
29:08
Speaker 1: by the people that were running the sex cote. I
29:11
Speaker 1: was really excited about doing jewelry because the woman that's
29:14
Speaker 1: daughter I helped get back from that sex colt, she
29:17
Speaker 1: was getting ready to start doing jewelry and so she's
29:20
Speaker 1: the one that taught me into doing it because she
29:22
Speaker 1: said it's easy, and you can design it the way
29:26
Speaker 1: you want to design it, so on and so forth.
29:28
Speaker 1: So that's what I started doing. I even got an
29:30
Speaker 1: Instagram page where I posted some of the stuff I
29:33
Speaker 1: had from the jewelry business and everything, and I also
29:37
Speaker 1: have a waste account where I put everything on there.
29:40
Speaker 1: So I was really excited about that. And that's the thing.
29:45
Speaker 1: When I get my pop my website done for the
29:50
Speaker 1: jury and the coaching because I'm trying to connect them
29:53
Speaker 1: both under one name, but they're two different companies but
29:56
Speaker 1: just under one name, so they're separate, but people can
30:02
Speaker 1: still see both. But the coaching and the jury and
30:07
Speaker 1: all of the products and services will be on the
30:11
Speaker 1: jewelry business, and the coaching, the podcast, webinars, seminars, trainings,
30:18
Speaker 1: and all of that will be on the coaching side
30:22
Speaker 1: of it. And then my travel agency, I'm with somebody else,
30:27
Speaker 1: so I'm affiliated with somebody else, but I do have
30:30
Speaker 1: my own travel agency business, so that is to somebody else,
30:33
Speaker 1: so I don't have to worry about that part of it.
30:36
Speaker 1: So I'm happy about that. But I was sick, y'all.
30:46
Speaker 1: I was in the house, in and out the hospital
30:48
Speaker 1: from twenty twenty two all the way to now, I
30:52
Speaker 1: would say, until I moved out of my old apartment
30:55
Speaker 1: in twenty twenty four. I was in the hospital at
31:01
Speaker 1: least about ten times those years I was there. Kind
31:09
Speaker 1: of find out it was mold that was making me sick.
31:13
Speaker 1: I started feeling a little bit better, but I was
31:17
Speaker 1: on the third floor, and you know, being in chronic pain,
31:22
Speaker 1: it was kind of hard trying to get up and
31:24
Speaker 1: down the steps. Still wasn't able to drive, and then
31:27
Speaker 1: I started back driving a little bit, and then it
31:30
Speaker 1: happened again. I don't know why it happened, but I
31:33
Speaker 1: think something is stuck in my ear that just pressing
31:35
Speaker 1: against a nerve, and that's why it's happening. But we're
31:40
Speaker 1: still working on that. And then I had to have
31:43
Speaker 1: a colonosophy where they told me that they found scarring
31:47
Speaker 1: and there's also a cyst that's in my abdomen that
31:50
Speaker 1: they have to decide if and when they're gonna move
31:52
Speaker 1: it or what they're gonna do with it. So those
31:55
Speaker 1: are the two things I'm currently dealing with. But I
31:58
Speaker 1: was all excited about taking six months to build the
32:03
Speaker 1: jewelry business, the coaching business, and this was before the
32:07
Speaker 1: travel agency thing, but that came right after my father
32:11
Speaker 1: passed away. But when he passed away, it shut everything
32:15
Speaker 1: down everything because I was not here when he passed away.
32:23
Speaker 1: He walked outside. Next thing, you know, my mother didn't
32:26
Speaker 1: realize he had came to the house and he was
32:28
Speaker 1: found unresponsive in the backyard and she wasn't able to
32:33
Speaker 1: get to him where they could do CPR. So the
32:36
Speaker 1: people came. They did CPR and pronounced him dead at
32:39
Speaker 1: six something. That evening everything stopped. You know, now it's
32:46
Speaker 1: I lost my job. I just signed my lease because
32:50
Speaker 1: I was hoping I was gonna get another job while
32:52
Speaker 1: I was down there, and I said the following year,
32:54
Speaker 1: I was gonna move into a two bedroom and I
32:56
Speaker 1: was going to have enough money because hopefully my business
33:00
Speaker 1: gonna started popping up out the end and hopefully being
33:03
Speaker 1: able to drive and finally get down to what's wrong
33:07
Speaker 1: and everything. And it didn't happen like that. So when
33:12
Speaker 1: I came back here, I had to move back from Florida,
33:16
Speaker 1: and that was in April, and then I had to
33:19
Speaker 1: get situated. We're still going through my father's house. I
33:22
Speaker 1: still gotta go through everything. Matter of fact, this weekend,
33:26
Speaker 1: we're gonna go ahead and go through everything that's in
33:29
Speaker 1: that living room and figure out what we're keeping and
33:32
Speaker 1: what we're getting rid of, and then the upstairs will
33:35
Speaker 1: be the last part that we do, and then have
33:37
Speaker 1: somebody just come and then take all this stuff up
33:39
Speaker 1: out of here. And we still gotta go out there
33:41
Speaker 1: in the garage. I was just gonna tell us, let
33:45
Speaker 1: just let them take everything, because you know, at the
33:48
Speaker 1: end of the day, I just want to get rid
33:50
Speaker 1: of it all. I mean, because most of that stuff
33:52
Speaker 1: is stuff that my dad just kept in everything because
33:57
Speaker 1: I think he was going through dementia. So everything kind
34:01
Speaker 1: of stopped. It was like being in limbo, and it
34:06
Speaker 1: was like the pain started coming back. It was like,
34:10
Speaker 1: I'm dealing with my father's estate. I'm dealing with trying
34:14
Speaker 1: to be there for my sister and my mom. I
34:16
Speaker 1: relocated from the life that the place I really wanted
34:21
Speaker 1: to be and where I was happy at and had
34:23
Speaker 1: to uproot and come home to be there for my mom.
34:26
Speaker 1: And some people would say they probably wouldn't have done it,
34:29
Speaker 1: But my mom's also going through things with her stomach,
34:32
Speaker 1: so I did not just want to abandon her, you know.
34:36
Speaker 1: I wanted to make sure that she would be able
34:38
Speaker 1: to manage on her own if I was to decide
34:40
Speaker 1: to go back to Florida. But I alreadither take her
34:43
Speaker 1: with me and bring her down there. But I was
34:47
Speaker 1: not going to abandon my mother. That just wasn't going
34:50
Speaker 1: to happen. And to have to uproot your life and
34:54
Speaker 1: then all the money I spent to move here, the furniture,
34:58
Speaker 1: all of that, you know, it's still in the stilling storage.
35:02
Speaker 1: It's just a lot. So those things were my priorities
35:07
Speaker 1: these past few months, you know, and then we saw
35:10
Speaker 1: him on Father's Day, and you know, it just has
35:15
Speaker 1: been surreal. And I still got to talk to lawyers
35:19
Speaker 1: about the house and things like that. As matter of fact,
35:21
Speaker 1: I do that today, talk to a lawyer. My friend
35:25
Speaker 1: gave me a phone number. So it's really been a lot.
35:29
Speaker 1: So to all the people that I have post conversations
35:32
Speaker 1: with that have heard this podcast, I need you all
35:34
Speaker 1: to understand that I'm just getting back to the swing
35:37
Speaker 1: of things. I really am. I'm really just getting and
35:42
Speaker 1: I'm still some days like I don't want to do anything.
35:45
Speaker 1: And then not only that, social media has been my
35:49
Speaker 1: whole entire existence and my only way of communicating with
35:53
Speaker 1: people since twenty seventeen. So I'm trying to break myself
35:59
Speaker 1: of the first and that I do. I pick up
36:00
Speaker 1: my phone, see what's going on on social media, and
36:03
Speaker 1: then half my day is gone because right now, you know,
36:08
Speaker 1: I'm in the beginning stages. So I'm trying to deprogram
36:11
Speaker 1: myself of that so I can get up, exercise, go
36:17
Speaker 1: for a walk, come back exercise. I got my an
36:20
Speaker 1: exercise bike downstairs. I gotta tread me al I'm about
36:23
Speaker 1: to get So it's really hard when your life has
36:30
Speaker 1: been in limbo even before this, or your life is stagnant,
36:35
Speaker 1: or something happens where you know, and then being diagnosed
36:40
Speaker 1: with post traumatic slave disorder. I mean it was a lot, honestly,
36:45
Speaker 1: But now I'm at a place where the person that
36:52
Speaker 1: went through all of that trauma, the person that had
36:55
Speaker 1: low self esteem, low self worth, little self value because
36:59
Speaker 1: of abuse. I'm trying to come to terms with that.
37:06
Speaker 1: And a lot of people don't even know what post
37:07
Speaker 1: traumatic slave disorder is, and they really don't, but it
37:15
Speaker 1: is something where when you were born or when you
37:18
Speaker 1: were younger, you were treated very badly and you were
37:24
Speaker 1: made to be a slave, meaning that a sibling could
37:30
Speaker 1: be the favorite, or you went through some type of trauma,
37:34
Speaker 1: or you were told that you weren't good enough, you
37:36
Speaker 1: weren't worthy, or you were supposed to be a boy
37:39
Speaker 1: and you were a girl. That type of trauma. But
37:43
Speaker 1: it's trauma we don't talk about. And I found that out.
37:47
Speaker 1: And also I had spiritual you know, wait on me
37:54
Speaker 1: that was causing my health issues, and so I really
37:57
Speaker 1: had to figure things out spiritual and mentally, psychologically, emotionally,
38:03
Speaker 1: and I am about to get back to my spiritual
38:06
Speaker 1: matter of fact today, That's what I'm gonna do, is
38:08
Speaker 1: get back into my spiritual the Bible, getting back into
38:13
Speaker 1: the scriptures of the day, reading a chapter on that scripture.
38:20
Speaker 1: So I'm starting with that, and then I still have
38:24
Speaker 1: people that I have conversations with that I'm still having,
38:29
Speaker 1: so those are gonna happen. They have taken my mind
38:33
Speaker 1: off what has been happening. But to everybody who I've
38:37
Speaker 1: done pre conversations with and I have not reached back out,
38:40
Speaker 1: I do apologize. But if you still have the calendars
38:45
Speaker 1: and you're still interested in doing those post conversations, then
38:51
Speaker 1: by all means you can just go ahead and schedule.
38:55
Speaker 1: If you don't, email me and let me know. But
39:00
Speaker 1: I will be sending some thank you emails to some
39:03
Speaker 1: people because I need to to say thank you for
39:06
Speaker 1: taking the time to reach out. So it's not that
39:08
Speaker 1: I haven't, it's just grief is something that's different, and
39:17
Speaker 1: grief isn't just somebody dying. Sometimes it can be the
39:22
Speaker 1: death of a job, sometimes it can be the death
39:24
Speaker 1: of friendship, it could be the death of yourself, but
39:29
Speaker 1: a part of you dies and something is newly born.
39:34
Speaker 1: And so through this a new version of me is born,
39:40
Speaker 1: is newly born. I don't say reborn because I'm not
39:44
Speaker 1: going back to what was, but trust me, I'm getting
39:50
Speaker 1: back through swinging things slowly I am, and I mean
39:56
Speaker 1: just the fact that I do a course a day,
39:59
Speaker 1: you know I'm achieving something. If I do a podcast
40:04
Speaker 1: today or all my podcast today, I achieved something. That's
40:08
Speaker 1: the way I look at it. Baby steps. But it
40:12
Speaker 1: hasn't been easy though, No, But I wanted to talk
40:17
Speaker 1: about this because there's probably millions of people going through
40:20
Speaker 1: the same thing of whether you lose your job and
40:24
Speaker 1: you've been out of work for months, what's gonna happen?
40:27
Speaker 1: But the main most important thing was my faith in
40:30
Speaker 1: God does not waver because of it. And God understands
40:35
Speaker 1: that I'm going through this phase of trying to not
40:41
Speaker 1: like sometimes my phone will get extremely hot, and that's
40:45
Speaker 1: how I know that something is telling me get off
40:49
Speaker 1: your phone and go do something. So it's really one
40:52
Speaker 1: of those things where I am breaking habits. It's one
40:57
Speaker 1: of those things where I'm breaking that I ain't of
41:00
Speaker 1: abuse and the words I'm not good enough, I'm not worthy,
41:04
Speaker 1: I'm not deserving getting it at my head even though
41:10
Speaker 1: I went through it. But still but I am good
41:18
Speaker 1: and happy. So like I said, you know, I gotta
41:26
Speaker 1: take things one day at a time, one step at
41:27
Speaker 1: a time. But sometimes, you know, your sleep can get
41:32
Speaker 1: messed up, and my mind has been Like last night,
41:37
Speaker 1: I was trying to go to bed early and my
41:41
Speaker 1: nose got really to the point where I couldn't breathe
41:46
Speaker 1: and do my nose. It was not congested, because that's
41:51
Speaker 1: not what's going on, but it was where it was
41:55
Speaker 1: swollen and I had to do nasal can congestion to
42:01
Speaker 1: open it up. And I was up the since o'clock
42:05
Speaker 1: this morning. So I'm still trying to work on sleep.
42:12
Speaker 1: I'm still trying to work on, you know, how to
42:17
Speaker 1: cleanse myself of internally, heal myself, how to go about
42:26
Speaker 1: these new journeys, and still work on the old goals
42:30
Speaker 1: that I have. So it's really a lot of balance. Honestly,
42:36
Speaker 1: I have a calendar that I'm about to sit down
42:38
Speaker 1: over the weekend and figure out what my schedule is
42:42
Speaker 1: going to be for what time I'm going to get
42:44
Speaker 1: up every day, what time I'm gonna get up and
42:47
Speaker 1: start my day, what day I'm what time i'm gonna
42:49
Speaker 1: go take a nap, and what day i'm gonna do,
42:53
Speaker 1: what time i'm gonna do other things. So today's podcast day,
42:58
Speaker 1: So I got like five podcasts of the day to
43:00
Speaker 1: make up for the ones that I did not do.
43:04
Speaker 1: But I do have an episode with miss Amy Kemp
43:08
Speaker 1: that I will be posting for Monday. So I'm excited
43:13
Speaker 1: about that one because she and I talked about women
43:18
Speaker 1: in business and even jobs and the balance between being
43:24
Speaker 1: a wife, being a mother, and yourself and it was
43:29
Speaker 1: a really good pre conversation and I'm hoping that we
43:31
Speaker 1: continue that conversation because I really want to get more
43:36
Speaker 1: in depth with that. But it was a really good
43:38
Speaker 1: conversation that I wanted to post, and these pre conversations
43:42
Speaker 1: have been so informative that I want to continue those
43:46
Speaker 1: conversations because my podcast isn't an interview type of thing.
43:52
Speaker 1: That's not what it is. It's a conversation. Because here's
43:57
Speaker 1: the thing. I can get Bill Gates and talk to
44:00
Speaker 1: him about certain things all day, but if they specialize
44:06
Speaker 1: in what they do, nine times out of ten if
44:09
Speaker 1: you let somebody talk, they're gonna answer all your questions anyway.
44:15
Speaker 1: So if I know the questions, is that I know
44:17
Speaker 1: what the conversation is going to be about. So I
44:22
Speaker 1: look at what's being sent to me, what it is
44:25
Speaker 1: about the person, and that's what we speak on and everything.
44:30
Speaker 1: And if they ask me questions, that's completely fine. But
44:35
Speaker 1: it's a conversation type of you know, type of converse,
44:40
Speaker 1: you know, so it's not an interview form. It's more
44:43
Speaker 1: so you know, tell me about you your journey, what
44:48
Speaker 1: you how you got here, your ups and downs, and
44:52
Speaker 1: you know how you got from you know, this place
44:57
Speaker 1: to this place based on what your bios said. Then
45:01
Speaker 1: we talk about, you know, how what they're doing is
45:08
Speaker 1: now what they what their path actually was meant to
45:12
Speaker 1: be financially. Some of the people that you've heard on
45:15
Speaker 1: this podcast have been through ups and downs, failures, success, failures, success.
45:23
Speaker 1: But that's what people need to hear because people think
45:26
Speaker 1: that CEOs got it made. They think that CEOs don't
45:32
Speaker 1: have to work. And don't get wrong, some of them
45:35
Speaker 1: come from families that have money, like one of my
45:40
Speaker 1: guests did. But like he said, he also, you know,
45:46
Speaker 1: molled lawns, and also through newspapers and work, you know,
45:52
Speaker 1: just to have the experience of it all. One of
45:55
Speaker 1: my guests that I had on here talked about how
45:59
Speaker 1: both humans his girlfriend have businesses and how they now
46:05
Speaker 1: have to balance between that and making time for each other.
46:09
Speaker 1: So being a CEO or business owner, don't think that
46:17
Speaker 1: once they become that they don't work, because there's a
46:20
Speaker 1: lot of decisions that have to be made, and sometimes
46:25
Speaker 1: they may have to fly to each facility make sure
46:28
Speaker 1: everything is running okay. Sometimes they'll pretend to be employees
46:33
Speaker 1: go in there just to see how employees act. So
46:38
Speaker 1: you know, it is about putting people in place and
46:43
Speaker 1: making sure that it can run itself. But that doesn't
46:47
Speaker 1: mean that that that that supervisor or that manager, or
46:53
Speaker 1: that CEO or the owner of that company or president
46:56
Speaker 1: or whatever you want to call it is not work
47:01
Speaker 1: because they are a lot of CEOs back in the
47:05
Speaker 1: day they did they actually built the company and actually
47:08
Speaker 1: worked everything. So no how to go in there and
47:11
Speaker 1: work everything. Some don't, So nothing ventured is nothing gain.
47:17
Speaker 1: I would say it like that, But you know, can
47:22
Speaker 1: the process be grueling, especially when you're the one making
47:26
Speaker 1: the product yourself? From hand by hand. That's different. Like
47:30
Speaker 1: if you're an engraver and you're engraving something and you
47:34
Speaker 1: may do it four or five times before you get
47:36
Speaker 1: it right, you never know, But that person wouldn't know.
47:42
Speaker 1: If you're making jewelry, for example, that takes a lot
47:45
Speaker 1: of time, so it can be time consuming, but it's
47:48
Speaker 1: worth it when you see the end result. So it
47:59
Speaker 1: just takes time. So that's why I wanted to do
48:03
Speaker 1: this podcast in that way, because you know, I want
48:07
Speaker 1: people to learn about social media. I want people to
48:10
Speaker 1: learn about marketing and the importance of even as a
48:16
Speaker 1: content creator, you being able to have that because if
48:21
Speaker 1: you look at Costanet, he's now backstreaming again. But like
48:26
Speaker 1: I said, some people try things and they don't work
48:30
Speaker 1: out the way it's planned and they go back to
48:33
Speaker 1: what's familiar. But you have a lot of people on
48:35
Speaker 1: social media, TikTok in particular, that ain't making no money.
48:41
Speaker 1: They're getting gives but no money, and that's because it's
48:50
Speaker 1: just crazy. But like I said, you know, we all
48:55
Speaker 1: right now are going through crisis right now, even the
48:58
Speaker 1: rich and wealthy, everybody's going through a crisis, housing crisis,
49:04
Speaker 1: homeless crisis, Medicaid, Medicare crisis, so security crisis. But here's
49:11
Speaker 1: the thing. If you have one hundred thousand dollars, you
49:14
Speaker 1: can go anywhere and become a citizen as long as
49:18
Speaker 1: you have a business. As long as your business can
49:20
Speaker 1: contribute to that country or benefit that country, you can
49:24
Speaker 1: be there. But you want it where you're secure. But
49:31
Speaker 1: then there's also something else we have to talk about too.
49:35
Speaker 1: Should you be married and you're on a journey of
49:38
Speaker 1: trying to build something only if that partner is building
49:43
Speaker 1: with you, but you also got to build with them.
49:47
Speaker 1: It can't just be one person that makes any other person.
49:49
Speaker 1: Doesn't one person doing well the other person feels small.
49:54
Speaker 1: So it's a partnership. It's a partnership. But yeah, I
50:12
Speaker 1: just wanna come on head and just talk about that.
50:15
Speaker 1: But I appreciate y'all for taking the time to listen
50:18
Speaker 1: to the podcast, And I'm sorry that I haven't been
50:22
Speaker 1: able to reach out to the guests that have been
50:23
Speaker 1: on the podcast. I do apologize, but this has been
50:28
Speaker 1: a journey of s of self reflection becoming this new
50:33
Speaker 1: person that I'm becoming. But I'm easing my way back slowly.
50:38
Speaker 1: But like I said, I will be sending emails Monday
50:40
Speaker 1: to everybody letting them know that I appreciate them, and
50:46
Speaker 1: I want to say that on the on this podcast,
50:48
Speaker 1: that I appreciate everybody that's been on the podcast, every
50:51
Speaker 1: person I've learned something from on whatever podcasts I do.
50:57
Speaker 1: So I'm gonna end this by breaking down how the
50:59
Speaker 1: con conversations go. Number One, there's no questions. It's just
51:04
Speaker 1: a conversation. You send me questions, but it's gonna be
51:08
Speaker 1: in a conversational form, so the question will be within
51:12
Speaker 1: that conversation, and so when the person answers it, they're
51:19
Speaker 1: gonna answer everything associated with that question. So a lot
51:24
Speaker 1: of times if you let people talk, which I do,
51:28
Speaker 1: you're gonna get the answers that you want. And so
51:31
Speaker 1: like with mister Stevens about his book, I didn't really
51:35
Speaker 1: have to do too much talking because I like to
51:38
Speaker 1: give my actual guests the floor and because of it,
51:45
Speaker 1: it will they will answer the other questions associated with
51:49
Speaker 1: that question. So they'll answer it for me. And I
51:53
Speaker 1: noticed that, and so that is the way I do things,
51:56
Speaker 1: because if it's something I don't know nothing about, I
51:59
Speaker 1: want them to explain it as thoroughly as possible. I
52:03
Speaker 1: don't want you to feel like you have a time
52:06
Speaker 1: limit on how long you get to speak, because you don't.
52:10
Speaker 1: But if it's something where I might cut in because
52:14
Speaker 1: I might add something additional to it, then I will
52:17
Speaker 1: do that. The are pre conversations are thirty minutes to
52:20
Speaker 1: about an hour, and then the post conversation is an
52:23
Speaker 1: hour to an hour and a half. I just won't
52:24
Speaker 1: to let people know that. But this works because number one,
52:30
Speaker 1: the first conversation is a free for all. It's more so,
52:34
Speaker 1: it's not perfect. I don't want it to be, but
52:38
Speaker 1: what I wanted to be is real. I want it
52:42
Speaker 1: to be where my guests know you personally as a
52:45
Speaker 1: person and your personal journey. The second part is how
52:51
Speaker 1: that and your financial what you do now come together
52:57
Speaker 1: and how that helps people. So everybody got to everybody
53:00
Speaker 1: got a story. So even when Bill Gates, I would
53:03
Speaker 1: do the same thing their childhood, what they've been through.
53:08
Speaker 1: A lot of times people start businesses because they came
53:11
Speaker 1: from nothing. Some people came from something and they're doing
53:14
Speaker 1: it to rebel So there's a story there. But once
53:18
Speaker 1: we get into what they do, they will incorporate that
53:22
Speaker 1: and I want them to but the second part of
53:25
Speaker 1: it goes a lot more deeper and more detailed, like SEO.
53:28
Speaker 1: For example, the guy that I talked to about SEO.
53:32
Speaker 1: So I need you to understand that we'll be talking
53:35
Speaker 1: about SEO a little bit more because a lot of
53:37
Speaker 1: people don't know what that is. But really the first
53:40
Speaker 1: part is just their story. Are just us talking randomly
53:45
Speaker 1: to figure out what the topics are gonna be, And
53:49
Speaker 1: then I will send them an email and say, based
53:52
Speaker 1: on the conversation we had, we're gonna touch on what
53:56
Speaker 1: you actually do, how it benefits other people, what they
54:00
Speaker 1: can learn from the conversation. So it's really a learning
54:04
Speaker 1: thing because the one thing about healing, healing is about knowledge,
54:08
Speaker 1: intellect and being intell being intellectual, that's just something that's important.
54:14
Speaker 1: So I just wanted to stress that so every guest
54:18
Speaker 1: does not have to worry about it being where it's
54:22
Speaker 1: stuffy or it's a bunch of questions, because I really
54:26
Speaker 1: want to give my audience the person to be able
54:31
Speaker 1: to be as descriptive as they can be. I don't
54:34
Speaker 1: want to be where they're confined and to where they
54:37
Speaker 1: cannot be themselves. I want it where their knowledge of
54:43
Speaker 1: what they do shines because I want you to go
54:49
Speaker 1: to them far as products and services, and I will
54:52
Speaker 1: also attach their information, their email addresses. I will attach
54:57
Speaker 1: all of that into the emails because all of these
55:00
Speaker 1: people can help you in some way when they come
55:02
Speaker 1: to business, and you can learn from these people because
55:07
Speaker 1: by having someone that's been through it, you already know
55:10
Speaker 1: what you're preparing yourself for and then you can decide
55:13
Speaker 1: whether you want to deal with it or whether you don't.
55:15
Speaker 1: So that's just how I wanted to do those conversations.
55:21
Speaker 1: But now there's some questions in the middle of it all.
55:26
Speaker 1: But pretty much, once you ask the question, the question
55:32
Speaker 1: itself will answer the other questions pretty much. So if
55:38
Speaker 1: you ask one question and you let the person talk
55:42
Speaker 1: and then you'll say, well, before you continue, I always say,
55:47
Speaker 1: before you continue, let me ask this question. But for
55:51
Speaker 1: the most part, I've learned how to do that. But
55:54
Speaker 1: that's a skill that I've learned to do. But I
55:58
Speaker 1: never thought in a million years I'll be doing conversations
56:00
Speaker 1: with people. I never thought that a million years. But
56:05
Speaker 1: I'm appreciative. But to do a podcast and you don't
56:11
Speaker 1: know the person and you're just doing for me, no,
56:17
Speaker 1: because Number one, I want to show people that a
56:20
Speaker 1: pre conversation can turn into a podcast. It always does,
56:25
Speaker 1: but you're seeing something that's natural. There's no questions. It's
56:30
Speaker 1: just tell me about you, tell me about you, your
56:34
Speaker 1: journey and how you got here, no introduction, nothing, It's
56:38
Speaker 1: just a conversation. The second one is my name is
56:42
Speaker 1: such and such. This welcome to my podcast. I have this,
56:46
Speaker 1: and I have such and such. I say a little
56:48
Speaker 1: bit about the person, but then again, you've already know
56:51
Speaker 1: about the person because the pre conversation tells you about
56:54
Speaker 1: the person. But somebody who's just hearing it for the
56:56
Speaker 1: first time, because it might be weeks later, it might
56:59
Speaker 1: be a few months later, then that's when I'll do
57:02
Speaker 1: the intro. But if it's like a couple, like the
57:04
Speaker 1: week after that, I won't because you know, you'll know
57:08
Speaker 1: who the person is because their intro is themselves. Who
57:13
Speaker 1: what what better way than that? And and most people
57:17
Speaker 1: they appreciate that because now you know how their conversation goes,
57:23
Speaker 1: You know how your conversation goes, you know what questions
57:26
Speaker 1: are going to be asked, what the topic is gonna be,
57:30
Speaker 1: and then from there it's just a free fall. Now's
57:33
Speaker 1: it and it's not something they have to be prepared for.
57:37
Speaker 1: And let me explain why I do that. Because this
57:41
Speaker 1: person been doing this for a number of years, then
57:44
Speaker 1: they're the expert. I'm just the person that's listening. So
57:49
Speaker 1: I'm like my audience, so I'm learning from you. But
57:55
Speaker 1: at the same time, whenever I think my audience would
57:58
Speaker 1: want to know is what I'll bring up. But no,
58:01
Speaker 1: it's a conversational thing. And then sometimes they'll come back
58:05
Speaker 1: for a third thing, like missus Stevens is coming back.
58:08
Speaker 1: I have to he wants to talk about his new book,
58:11
Speaker 1: so he's coming back. So some of my some of
58:14
Speaker 1: the people, if they have new things, they're welcome to
58:17
Speaker 1: email me say I would love to come back on
58:19
Speaker 1: I got something new that I have that I would
58:22
Speaker 1: love to introduce to your art. I'm open to it.
58:25
Speaker 1: I am because keeping those relationships are very important, and
58:29
Speaker 1: they just are. So it's not just about them being guessed.
58:34
Speaker 1: It's more or less about having them for networking or
58:39
Speaker 1: whatever the case may be. Cause who knows, I might
58:42
Speaker 1: reach out to one of them and say I need
58:45
Speaker 1: your advice on seos and they'll say, oh, okay, I
58:48
Speaker 1: can help you with that could you never know? So again,
58:54
Speaker 1: you know, it's just good to be able to just
59:00
Speaker 1: have the freedom to be comfortable. So once they tell
59:04
Speaker 1: me about them and once we you know, learn our conversation,
59:09
Speaker 1: then sometimes I don't post them all. For the most part,
59:14
Speaker 1: I have and they've done pretty well because Miss Thane
59:18
Speaker 1: I love him, and Stacey and Miss Shonda and Melissa
59:25
Speaker 1: and mister Williamson and all of these people that I've
59:31
Speaker 1: had on my podcast, I'm eternally grateful for them even
59:35
Speaker 1: taking the time to do it, and that means a
59:38
Speaker 1: lot to me. I'm very appreciative of the guests I
59:41
Speaker 1: have on. But I need to make it clear. I
59:44
Speaker 1: have ten podcasts, ten ten podcasts, not just one. So
59:51
Speaker 1: some people reach out to me and they'll say, well,
59:53
Speaker 1: I don't think I'm a fit. But what you don't
59:56
Speaker 1: know is I have ten podcasts. You don't know which
59:59
Speaker 1: one I'm putting it on until I send it to you.
1:00:02
Speaker 1: And then when I send it to you, I send
1:00:05
Speaker 1: the L the l listening version of it, and I
1:00:08
Speaker 1: also do if we do it on Zoom, the video
1:00:10
Speaker 1: version of it. I send both to you so you
1:00:14
Speaker 1: can put on your podcast. But I post it first
1:00:17
Speaker 1: before I send it to you. That way you'll know
1:00:19
Speaker 1: it's there, and then they can also promote it, which
1:00:22
Speaker 1: I appreciate. So again, there are ten podcasts. You don't
1:00:28
Speaker 1: know which one I'm gonna put it on. That's nothing,
1:00:31
Speaker 1: so I have to make that clear too. So I
1:00:34
Speaker 1: just wanted to do this right quick before I get
1:00:37
Speaker 1: ready to start my day cause I probably gonna end
1:00:39
Speaker 1: up taking a nap because I have not been to
1:00:40
Speaker 1: sleep since sis is one. But I want to do
1:00:44
Speaker 1: this podcast because, you know, I wanted to let everybody
1:00:48
Speaker 1: know what has been going on and how I'm doing
1:00:53
Speaker 1: and how losing my father has changed and me losing
1:00:57
Speaker 1: my job have changed my whole correctory of my life.
1:01:03
Speaker 1: But I'm getting there. So it's a process, but you know,
1:01:07
Speaker 1: it takes one day at a time, but I appreciate
1:01:10
Speaker 1: the support. I appreciate all of you. I will be
1:01:15
Speaker 1: getting back to normal because next week I will be
1:01:18
Speaker 1: talking about travel agency. I will be talking about the
1:01:23
Speaker 1: very beginning when it comes to deciding how to go
1:01:27
Speaker 1: about your business and what all you're gonna need because
1:01:32
Speaker 1: a lot of people don't understand even with content creating,
1:01:38
Speaker 1: there are things you need and I don't think nobody teaches,
1:01:41
Speaker 1: especially with content creators, marketing, SEO, website, substat you know, podcasting,
1:01:52
Speaker 1: the different apps you can use. You know, a lot
1:01:56
Speaker 1: of people just know about YouTube, Instagram, they know Bigo,
1:02:00
Speaker 1: they know about Twitch, they know about TikTok. But there
1:02:05
Speaker 1: are other ones that are international. But we definitely are
1:02:10
Speaker 1: gonna talk about that too, and also about you know,
1:02:16
Speaker 1: losing jobs and things like that. And if you have
1:02:19
Speaker 1: a story and you want to come up on my
1:02:22
Speaker 1: channel because you have a story to tell, I would
1:02:26
Speaker 1: love to not only have professionals, I would also have
1:02:29
Speaker 1: love to have people that are really losing their jobs,
1:02:33
Speaker 1: that have really had struggles and really bringing your stories
1:02:39
Speaker 1: to life, you know, from a different perspective. So I
1:02:44
Speaker 1: would love to not only have professionals on here, but
1:02:47
Speaker 1: also people that are really going through it right now.
1:02:52
Speaker 1: So I just want to say thank y'all for doing this.
1:02:55
Speaker 1: I appreciate y'all. I love y'all, and until next time.
1:02:58
Speaker 1: I will see y'all next time. My eyes