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403. Manifest Your Dream Life with Zoe Marshall Part 2 · Do You F*cking Mind?

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  Speaker 1: Hello, beautiful beans, Welcome to part two of my Zoe
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  Speaker 1: Marshall interview episode. So, as you guys know, this second
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  Speaker 1: part is her answering the listener questions.
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  Speaker 2: So I really hope that you loved part one.
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  Speaker 1: Settle in, get comfortable, and listen to part two and
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  Speaker 1: think about how many of those questions you can actually
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  Speaker 1: apply to your situation and your life. And you're going
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  Speaker 1: to realize that. I feel like hopefully you will realize
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  Speaker 1: that manifesting is definitely more accessible than you probably thought.
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  Speaker 1: And if you break it down the way that Zoe explains,
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  Speaker 1: I think you'll be able to see some changes in
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  Speaker 1: your life pretty quickly. So enjoy and that is all dogger.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, this is one that I.
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  Speaker 1: Think is really good question because let's just go into it.
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  Speaker 1: How to correctly manifest things that I'm not sure about.
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  Speaker 1: So for example, I want a new job or a
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  Speaker 1: different boyfriend, et cetera. So it's like, you know you
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  Speaker 1: don't want this, but you don't know exactly what.
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  Speaker 2: You don't know exactly what it is. It's perfect because
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  Speaker 2: it's the key to manifestation is you're going for the feeling,
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  Speaker 2: you're not going for the thing. So if I could
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  Speaker 2: tell anyone to hijack this whole point, Like the point
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  Speaker 2: of the stories go to the feeling. So the job.
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  Speaker 2: You don't need to know what the job is. You
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  Speaker 2: just know that the job makes you feel full of passion,
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  Speaker 2: that you're around like mighted people, that you're vibing off
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  Speaker 2: each other, that it's a fun workplace, that it feels
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  Speaker 2: like community, that.
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  Speaker 1: You go home and can actually like for the rest.
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  Speaker 2: That you can feel like it sparks you up. It's
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  Speaker 2: that it's not going like, my god, what is that
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  Speaker 2: thing that am I stylist? Am I a doctor? Am
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  Speaker 2: I a dit Like? I think getting out of the
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  Speaker 2: way of what we think it should be. Like love,
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  Speaker 2: you could be queen and not even know you're queer
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  Speaker 2: because you think or your mom has said you need
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  Speaker 2: a tall, dark, handsome guy. Yeah, and you might sink
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  Speaker 2: into the feeling of like what does a beautiful, emotionally
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  Speaker 2: intelligent partner feel like? What does is it? Softness? And
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  Speaker 2: that might be female, it might be male, it might
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  Speaker 2: be fluid, you.
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  Speaker 1: Know, like and people shut out, people cut out so
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  Speaker 1: many good people in their like mis entering their life
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  Speaker 1: a huge one that I hear all the time is
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  Speaker 1: I just can't do the nice guy. It's like, no,
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  Speaker 1: you can't do a doormat.
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  Speaker 2: That's a difference.
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  Speaker 1: You've not had a genuine and I don't even like
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  Speaker 1: the title nice but a good person, just a good guy,
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  Speaker 1: because you think that's boring in your head, you've equated
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  Speaker 1: boring if I'm not, if you're not, can.
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  Speaker 2: I tell you? I can assure you that Tyrone and
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  Speaker 2: Benji the nicest, the best nic human you'll ever meet.
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  Speaker 2: Every person that meets them loves what an amazing person, right,
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  Speaker 2: the nicest, but his my husband is ask his noble shit,
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  Speaker 2: he's got this gravitas.
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  Speaker 1: He's it's not.
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  Speaker 2: It's not dormat energy, but he is like to the
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  Speaker 2: core a good human and it's that energy. If you
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  Speaker 2: don't want someone that is meeting your every need and
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  Speaker 2: like pandering up, like okay, be clear with that, that's okay.
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  Speaker 2: I don't want someone's staunch and a little bit.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but I feel like when you know they were
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  Speaker 1: too nice, so it's like you got it, like what
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  Speaker 1: do you want?
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  Speaker 2: You're not saying, you're not being clear, and you're saying
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  Speaker 2: and stop saying what you don't want. Let's feel into
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  Speaker 2: what you want. Yes, let's focus on all the things
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  Speaker 2: we don't want, all the things that are not happening.
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  Speaker 2: Because as you know your ra system, well, look, you're
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  Speaker 2: the scientist. You look for look for all of the
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  Speaker 2: things to make you right.
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  Speaker 1: And with this question, it's like, can you you know
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  Speaker 1: things you're not sure about the only problem about not
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  Speaker 1: having certainty about something is the fact that this lack
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  Speaker 1: of certainty makes us fixate on our current situation and
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  Speaker 1: not wanting it. It's not that not certain is so bad.
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  Speaker 1: It's that because we don't know exactly what it is
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  Speaker 1: that we want, it often keeps us in. But I
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  Speaker 1: hate the fact that I always have to stay late,
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  Speaker 1: and I hate my boss and I hate hate. So
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  Speaker 1: then you almost like stuck and you can't look out.
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  Speaker 2: So let's flip it for them into a very practical
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  Speaker 2: way if you know everything you hate. This is how
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  Speaker 2: I actually left that psychotic relationship. I did a pros
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  Speaker 2: and cons list, put the cons of the job down right,
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  Speaker 2: then flip it into what do you want? It's everything
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  Speaker 2: that is the opposite of that con right, and then
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  Speaker 2: start sitting in, meditate on visualize. Prime athletes call it
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  Speaker 2: mental rehearsal, get your nervous system, get your neural pathways,
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  Speaker 2: start to play with that that you can have those things.
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  Speaker 2: I remember co creating a job at Kiss FM, and
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  Speaker 2: I really wanted this radio job, and every day I'd
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  Speaker 2: go on this priming walk. A priming walk is like
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  Speaker 2: moving your body to get kind of the nervous system
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  Speaker 2: and the thought it's in the body, and the feeling
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  Speaker 2: right like all combined, thinking it, believing it, this is
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  Speaker 2: my job this and this is where the de lulu
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  Speaker 2: comes in, right, because the scientists can't prove this yet,
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  Speaker 2: they will later. So I am walking around seeing it,
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  Speaker 2: feeling it, thinking how I'm going to be seeing the receptionist,
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  Speaker 2: how I'm going to feel nervous, like being there the
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  Speaker 2: first day, having my radio breaks be critiqued. Then what
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  Speaker 2: I did is I went home. I put it in
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  Speaker 2: Google Maps and I drove there physically. I love that
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  Speaker 2: because I need imagining your commute. I needed my body
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  Speaker 2: to feel how long it takes? Oh my god, am
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  Speaker 2: I going to be like? I needed to feel it
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  Speaker 2: in my body. It. I ended up getting the job,
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  Speaker 2: but also aligned action I had the contacts I was doing.
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  Speaker 2: Do you know what you're also doing the things. I'm
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  Speaker 2: not feeling it, but I am preparing myself that when
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  Speaker 2: I'm in the audition, I fucking nail it because I'm
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  Speaker 2: not nervous. I've prepared and I've primed all parts of
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  Speaker 2: me and my body, mind, soul, nervous system. But I
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  Speaker 2: can do whatever comes. It's kind of like my husband
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  Speaker 2: was now a coach that played NRL for twenty years.
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  Speaker 2: He would be in the shower pre game for so long,
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  Speaker 2: and I'm like, what doing is? Like I was just
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  Speaker 2: rehearsing every I don't actually know what they do in
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  Speaker 2: that game, but like everything and every kick and every
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  Speaker 2: thing right. So even the things that don't go right,
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  Speaker 2: I'm ready for. Yeah. So you're not just priming to
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  Speaker 2: meet the love of your life. Oh so romantic and
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  Speaker 2: I the sex is so great and we're walking along
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  Speaker 2: the beach. No, you're also thinking about we got to
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  Speaker 2: talk about bank accounts. So we're going to emerge like
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  Speaker 2: this is really we have hard conversations. How can we
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  Speaker 2: take it? Complice it? Like? Am I ready? And when
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  Speaker 2: you're like that feels gross? I want to vomit? Okay,
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  Speaker 2: maybe check in? Do I need a little therapy around
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  Speaker 2: do I have a block here? Do I have something
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  Speaker 2: here that I'm not prepared? No, I still want to
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  Speaker 2: be a workaholic, but I really want to have a
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  Speaker 2: baby like talk about I want to meet a guy,
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  Speaker 2: I have a fan like talk about that to yourself,
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  Speaker 2: what do these things look like? Yeel it because they're not.
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  Speaker 2: You're not making it make sense, and.
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  Speaker 1: Then you're able to just and not catastrophized, but rehearsal,
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  Speaker 1: but also you're.
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  Speaker 2: Able to meet the issues. So I knew that for me.
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  Speaker 2: At one stage the podcast was looking at being developed
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  Speaker 2: into a series. I had a newborn baby, my second baby.
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  Speaker 2: I was not ready. This was a great opportunity my
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  Speaker 2: nervous system. I didn't want to not be with my baby.
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  Speaker 2: I'd done that already with my first child, so that
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  Speaker 2: energetically had to be shut down for me. I knew
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  Speaker 2: that if I was in the position where I was like,
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  Speaker 2: all systems go, let's do that. How does a newborn fit?
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  Speaker 2: It makes sense? And for some people it could like
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  Speaker 2: they would just make it work. For me in the
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  Speaker 2: way that it felt successful to mother that child in
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  Speaker 2: that way, it looked different. Yeah, makes sense. So you
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  Speaker 2: take yourself through the whole kind of script that land
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  Speaker 2: it in your gut. It has to be felt in
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  Speaker 2: your body, you know, for you to be one of
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  Speaker 2: the best podcasters in the country, that stretch in your body,
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  Speaker 2: that pull, that growth in your nervous system that develops.
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  Speaker 2: You don't launch, and you're like, I'm number one, like you.
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  Speaker 1: You you develop it, you develop it, and so there's
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  Speaker 1: a part of this.
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  Speaker 2: It's realistic, that's right. Right, It's like I'm living in
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  Speaker 2: that shitty, moldy little apartment. Oh, I want to live
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  Speaker 2: in a mansion. Right currently, I feel like I live
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  Speaker 2: in a mansion. So it doesn't matter if I have
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  Speaker 2: the mansion or not. The next step though, if I'm
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  Speaker 2: making three hundred dollars a week, is not getting the
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  Speaker 2: mansion unless I marry rich overnight. It's like, okay, maybe
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  Speaker 2: the next place is a one better with a little
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  Speaker 2: lounge room. And then it's that feels like the mansion,
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  Speaker 2: and then that feels like it feels like it. I
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  Speaker 2: feel like we're very anappole, like it is. I feel, yeah, no,
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  Speaker 2: it is.
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  Speaker 1: And it's this idea of you know, almost expanding to
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  Speaker 1: So for example, I remember when I switched from paying
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  Speaker 1: three hundred dollars a week rent to four hundred and ten,
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  Speaker 1: which sounds like.
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  Speaker 2: That's a lot when you're you know, paying three hundred.
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  Speaker 1: And I remember being thinking, oh my god, how am
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  Speaker 1: I going to stretch this? But and then I thought, no, no, no, no, no,
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  Speaker 1: my lifestyle will stretch to accommodate this, because it's right.
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  Speaker 1: It's the place I know exactly, It's the place for
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  Speaker 1: me things are going. I'm in an upward trajectory, you know,
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  Speaker 1: will is it?
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  Speaker 2: Yes? That knowingness is almost like a conversation with God.
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  Speaker 2: Do you know what I mean? It is. I've had that.
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  Speaker 2: I've gone into jobs where I knew it was mine,
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  Speaker 2: had no idea, but they're knowing that kind of audacity, right,
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  Speaker 2: That is the part of the process of the priming
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  Speaker 2: of all of the systems that happened before you get
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  Speaker 2: it is it is.
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  Speaker 1: It's this like comfortable knowing and it's not this nervous
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  Speaker 1: energy that sits up here of like oh and I
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  Speaker 1: think that's where a lot of people get caught up
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  Speaker 1: in this whole idea of like manifestation, Oh oh, he's fineancing.
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  Speaker 1: I think that's where a lot of people get caught
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  Speaker 1: up in that where they almost like they have to
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  Speaker 1: have this nervous excitement. But if something was actually happening
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  Speaker 1: to you, you could feel excited, you could feel really happy.
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  Speaker 1: But it's not this nervous like, oh, like it's happened.
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  Speaker 2: It's kind of like, you know how, you'll keep leveling
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  Speaker 2: up in life. The money might get more, this might happen.
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  Speaker 2: But if you started when you had the three hundred
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  Speaker 2: dollars apartment and someone was like, hey, we're gonna give
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  Speaker 2: you fifty grand to two hour, you'd be like, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: what do you mean, Like it would be unbelievable, unbelievable.
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  Speaker 2: It has to be believable. You have to believe you
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  Speaker 2: deserve it. That's why the tagline is manifest life. You deserve.
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  Speaker 2: It has to be anchored and I deserve this. And
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  Speaker 2: the thing is everyone deserves and that.
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  Speaker 1: Is why most people. I think it's like eighty something percent.
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  Speaker 1: It's crazy of people that win the lotto lose it
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  Speaker 1: after eighteen months, no matter the amount, because it's not
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  Speaker 1: believable to them.
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  Speaker 2: They don't deserve it.
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  Speaker 1: If they're like, I'm not a rich person, I've come
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  Speaker 1: into this money. I'm just going to spend whereas people
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  Speaker 1: that have been millionaires self made who've lost it all
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  Speaker 1: can become a millionaire in a couple.
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  Speaker 2: Of years exactly exactly.
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  Speaker 3: So it's like it's just I find that really, and
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  Speaker 3: that's the mind is such an integral part of this process,
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  Speaker 3: as is the body, right, because the mind is kind
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  Speaker 3: of you've got to get out of the way and
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  Speaker 3: then you've got.
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  Speaker 2: To just be in. Yeah, that's right. And also it's fun.
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  Speaker 2: Like I teach people how to do these priming calls
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  Speaker 2: and they're completely delusional and it's about the things that
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  Speaker 2: they want to bring in because we're sparring off each other,
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  Speaker 2: and I'm going to be prompting thoughts. You haven't even
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  Speaker 2: thought about that situation which you want to be bringing forward. Yes,
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  Speaker 2: does that makes sense? Definitely? And I love to live
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  Speaker 2: in this world because things constantly drop in co creations
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  Speaker 2: landing out just like it's so fun. And the things
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  Speaker 2: that don't happen, because let's talk about that, the things
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  Speaker 2: that you desperately want and you've done all of it,
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  Speaker 2: and you've taken the aligned action and you've trusted and
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  Speaker 2: you've landed the abyss. The abyss is the place where
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  Speaker 2: you wait you're so impatient. It's not coming. It's not coming.
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  Speaker 2: Could take months, right, right, and then something else happens,
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  Speaker 2: right the guy just stops texting you back, or the
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  Speaker 2: job doesn't. You don't get the job. You're down to
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  Speaker 2: the final two. And then that happened to me all
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  Speaker 2: the time, right, because I wanted to be an actress,
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  Speaker 2: same babe, And you know what, we're too ethnic. I'm
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  Speaker 2: just going to say, yes, white TV where too ethnic anyway,
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  Speaker 2: So you know, Home and Away, packed to the rafters,
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  Speaker 2: all of it down to the last two show. And
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  Speaker 2: then I was like, I got an audition to do
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  Speaker 2: TV presenting, and I was like, fuck it, I'll go.
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  Speaker 2: I'll be myself. This divine redirection I would never have chosen.
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  Speaker 2: I would never have manifested. But it was me being
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  Speaker 2: open to God universe shifting like this is you into
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  Speaker 2: having the most extraordinary career in the media to now
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  Speaker 2: getting here to be able to do this, Like of
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  Speaker 2: course it was that's right. If I was an actress,
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  Speaker 2: this would never completely different parts. It's a different life.
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  Speaker 2: So you have to trust that. That's the biggest piece
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  Speaker 2: of this, that is what is for you. We'll bind you,
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  Speaker 2: you know, yeah, we don't chase weird trying. I love that.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, yes, I think I've got a whole episode on
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  Speaker 1: that actual statement.
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  Speaker 2: Sense sense.
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  Speaker 1: What is the best way to handle setbacks without feeling
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  Speaker 1: like I'm undoing my manifestation?
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  Speaker 2: A few things. One of them is called a pride list,
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  Speaker 2: so really great, like really great for kind of like
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  Speaker 2: recreating your neural pathways and tracking evidence of the things
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  Speaker 2: that are working. So it could be. And we want
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  Speaker 2: little tiny things. We don't just want number one podcast
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  Speaker 2: in Australia. We want like my friend called today really distressed.
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  Speaker 2: I was able to support her. I am a great friend. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I went for a walk this morning along the water.
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  Speaker 2: I honor my body, and throughout the day you anchor
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  Speaker 2: back to that and you feel it, not just I'm
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  Speaker 2: reading it, You're feeling into your pride list of like, God,
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  Speaker 2: I feel good because then what we're able to do
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  Speaker 2: is sink into gratitude. Gratitude is our shortcut, shortcut to everything.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah right, and we mean the teeniest, teeniest things like
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  Speaker 2: the electricity. We don't know how that is here. That
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  Speaker 2: could be delulu, you know, we get to use it
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  Speaker 2: all of the time. The water that we have access
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  Speaker 2: to for free. It is clean all of the things
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  Speaker 2: like our fingers, like that, the fact that we have
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  Speaker 2: working bodies, anything and everything that is mundane we want
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  Speaker 2: to find the magic in. And so those two are
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  Speaker 2: like really quick shortcuts I would say to getting you
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  Speaker 2: back on track. Yeah, I love that. I love that.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, this is a good one because we're talking about routine.
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  Speaker 1: How can I integrate manifestation into my everyday routine?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. So it's funny because whether you say that you know,
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  Speaker 2: waking up and setting a declaration out of your sleep
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  Speaker 2: state into your you know that kind of OUTFA state
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  Speaker 2: and hijacking your RAS system. Yes, all of this is
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  Speaker 2: co creation. It's not just doing a list of things
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  Speaker 2: you want and like burning it. It's like every step
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  Speaker 2: and you're going to have to create your own bespoke
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  Speaker 2: way of that of how am I living as the
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  Speaker 2: highest version of myself every day? Yeah? Right, So little
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  Speaker 2: things you can do is if you've never meditated, we've
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  Speaker 2: got a heap in there and you'll be able to
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  Speaker 2: access them for free if you're really new, like do
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  Speaker 2: a guided meditation visualization.
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  Speaker 1: I love the one that you say, and I do
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  Speaker 1: this all the time. It's the like the priming walk,
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  Speaker 1: because it's not you're not just sitting in total stillness.
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  Speaker 2: God. Because some people hate meditating, some people hate journaling,
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  Speaker 2: Like I love it all. But even if you can go,
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to like free write for five minutes, right
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  Speaker 2: and just get the shit out of my head, and I'm
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  Speaker 2: going to see for a week if that works for me.
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  Speaker 2: Then I'm going to see if priming works for me,
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  Speaker 2: and then I'm going to see meditating works. Then I'm
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  Speaker 2: going to see if like pushing my body in the gym,
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  Speaker 2: like whatever it is, right, You're going to explore your
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  Speaker 2: version because the co creation is the feeling. If I
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  Speaker 2: am feeling like a gangster that everything works out for me,
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  Speaker 2: It's always happening for me, never against me. And I
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  Speaker 2: know this in my body because everything in my body
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  Speaker 2: is showing me that it all works out every day
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  Speaker 2: because my rat system is working on overdrive to prove
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  Speaker 2: to me that I am right. But I start to
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  Speaker 2: believe that I am right, and then all of a sudden,
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  Speaker 2: I start to meet the world like that every day.
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  Speaker 2: But those little rituals and routines will feel new and different,
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  Speaker 2: and then you'll start to do the ones that you
• 16:50
  Speaker 2: love and like. Even this is a bit different, but
• 16:54
  Speaker 2: like self pleasure and doing things for the sake of
• 16:57
  Speaker 2: just having a hobby or having sex, just creativity, you're fun,
• 17:01
  Speaker 2: or finding ways in which you can stretch yourself outside
• 17:05
  Speaker 2: of the norm which makes you feel or anchored, connected
• 17:10
  Speaker 2: and your best possible self, because all we want to
• 17:12
  Speaker 2: do is be operating from our highest self all the time,
• 17:14
  Speaker 2: all the time.
• 17:15
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and ideally Yeah, I always say if you can,
• 17:18
  Speaker 1: if if you can do something in the morning, that's
• 17:20
  Speaker 1: the just set the time for the day.
• 17:22
  Speaker 2: If you can take like you know that've got to
• 17:24
  Speaker 2: take the morning. It's really and when you have kids,
• 17:27
  Speaker 2: it's really hard because they're their first thing in the
• 17:31
  Speaker 2: morning all of the time, and you'll need to structure
• 17:34
  Speaker 2: things around that. Because I have a lot of mums
• 17:36
  Speaker 2: that are like, how the fuck do I do it?
• 17:38
  Speaker 2: Do you know what? I say, Set the alarm for
• 17:40
  Speaker 2: thirty minutes before they get up, and that might be
• 17:42
  Speaker 2: five thirty in the morning. Yeah, but go to bed earlier.
• 17:46
  Speaker 2: Stop dooms like prioritize that thirty minutes. It will change
• 17:49
  Speaker 2: your life. It will.
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: I have so many people that have written into me
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: saying that's the one change I made mothers specifically, that's
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: the one change I made.
• 17:57
  Speaker 2: Stretch where I've got my metime, time, you journal, you
• 18:00
  Speaker 2: can you can move, you can do such. Thirty minutes
• 18:05
  Speaker 2: is a lot of time before the kids still the
• 18:07
  Speaker 2: time away and then you get back on track. Like
• 18:10
  Speaker 2: I am a better human, my tolerance, my way to respond,
• 18:14
  Speaker 2: everything is better when I've got that buffer and sleep,
• 18:18
  Speaker 2: like start to prioritize the basics.
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, sleep, food, feeling good. That that's a huge,
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: huge difference. How do I manage the fact that my
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: current surroundings slash upbringing are so far from where I
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: want to.
• 18:33
  Speaker 2: Be breach ah so big, so big. The majority of
• 18:43
  Speaker 2: us have inherited beliefs, cultures, networks, communities. We do things
• 18:50
  Speaker 2: this way, you would know South American ways, Ye bog ways.
• 18:56
  Speaker 2: Me Like I was brought up that I wasn't allowed
• 18:59
  Speaker 2: to be, so that just wasn't an option for me,
• 19:03
  Speaker 2: you know, like the whole thing. What if I wasn't,
• 19:06
  Speaker 2: who would I be? Like, honestly, I'm robbed because I'm
• 19:10
  Speaker 2: curious about all of that. Yeah, Like I still am
• 19:12
  Speaker 2: as a forty year old woman that's married twelve years.
• 19:15
  Speaker 2: I'm curious about that, let alone being raised partially Catholic
• 19:20
  Speaker 2: and spirituality and tarot cards are the demon and like
• 19:23
  Speaker 2: all of the things right, it's really hard when you
• 19:28
  Speaker 2: are a human and our deepest desires to belong, our
• 19:33
  Speaker 2: deepest need that we shun so many parts of our
• 19:35
  Speaker 2: truths just to fit in. What I realized was this
• 19:41
  Speaker 2: isn't going to make sense for a lot of people,
• 19:43
  Speaker 2: just like science won't make sense for the wogs. Do
• 19:46
  Speaker 2: you know what I mean? Who says you know?
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: You've got to get to that place where you're like,
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: how do I shake off this?
• 19:55
  Speaker 2: Like it has to be okay with not being okay
• 19:58
  Speaker 2: for them, And that's really hard and that will take
• 20:01
  Speaker 2: as long as it takes for each individual. But I
• 20:06
  Speaker 2: created a community so we could all be weirdos together.
• 20:10
  Speaker 2: I love that you have a community where you can
• 20:12
  Speaker 2: all be widows together. That's right. You have to find
• 20:15
  Speaker 2: your tribe. I built the community because I was alone
• 20:18
  Speaker 2: out there like a weirdo, like a delulu witchipoo, and
• 20:21
  Speaker 2: like I needed people to keep me accountable. I needed
• 20:25
  Speaker 2: to people to celebrate me. I needed to celebrate them.
• 20:28
  Speaker 2: I needed to feel inspired, and I.
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: Feel like the moment you start surrounding yourself with people
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: who look at what you know, because here they're saying,
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: I feel so far from where I want to be.
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: If you start to surround yourself with people that are
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: more similar to where you do want to be, it's
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: so much more realistic.
• 20:43
  Speaker 2: Like I had this woman at an event.
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: Woman she was woman, yes, but she was like twenty three,
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: and she said to me, what do I do because
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: I've got all these big dreams for myself, but all
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: my friends are having kids and getting married.
• 20:55
  Speaker 2: And I said, how old are you and.
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: She said, I'm twenty three. I said, all your friends
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: twenty three? She said yeah, And I said, you need
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: to move to a major city. You need to surround
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: yourself with different people because you're you feel left behind.
• 21:06
  Speaker 2: You're a thetis in life.
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: You know, you are just at the cusp and there's
• 21:11
  Speaker 1: nothing wrong with what your friends are doing. But if
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: that's not where you want to be at this point,
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: but you don't have anyone else's the benchmark you are,
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: and they are going to think that you're behind when
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: it's just based on the bubble that you're in.
• 21:25
  Speaker 2: Change the bubble. I said, move to Sydney. We're all
• 21:27
  Speaker 2: in our thirties and.
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: No one has kids, you know what I mean, Like
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: as an example, you know, just just just look at
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: look at like put perspective can be everything.
• 21:36
  Speaker 2: And I also think that you know what's that statistic?
• 21:40
  Speaker 2: Like you are the version of the seven people. Yeah, yeah,
• 21:45
  Speaker 2: that's right. I never want to be the smartest person
• 21:47
  Speaker 2: in the room. I know. I never want to be
• 21:50
  Speaker 2: like And that's what I found. Remember we're talking about
• 21:52
  Speaker 2: those friends that I was this kind of almost guru.
• 21:54
  Speaker 2: I was this ah person, that therapist that I had
• 21:59
  Speaker 2: to release. It's that part of me feeling valuable in
• 22:02
  Speaker 2: that way. Yea. And so now the people in which
• 22:05
  Speaker 2: I'm surrounded by, and they're all different types of incredible,
• 22:10
  Speaker 2: they make me great. I'm stretched because of them. And
• 22:15
  Speaker 2: if I was in circles that kept me small, which
• 22:20
  Speaker 2: I was for so long, I don't get to live
• 22:22
  Speaker 2: this life if I can't be shiny, or if I
• 22:25
  Speaker 2: can't be too big, because whatever's happening for you, then
• 22:28
  Speaker 2: I have now cuck holded myself and my life. And
• 22:32
  Speaker 2: you have to kind of not kind of you have
• 22:35
  Speaker 2: to be okay with sacrificing those parts. Yeah, big.
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: So basically start looking at how you can change your
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: environment around you so it feels more.
• 22:44
  Speaker 2: And we have them everywhere like you can. Honestly, you
• 22:46
  Speaker 2: can go to a sound bath healing on a Sunday,
• 22:49
  Speaker 2: strike up a comp they're all going to be weird
• 22:50
  Speaker 2: spureau who was in there? Or you could go to
• 22:54
  Speaker 2: whatever it is entrepreneur talking space and meat, you know,
• 22:58
  Speaker 2: like everyone who's starting a business, like they are everywhere,
• 23:01
  Speaker 2: And I think you need to just people that come
• 23:04
  Speaker 2: to our workshops or our events or retreats come alone.
• 23:07
  Speaker 2: They leave with a community, but they come alone. And
• 23:10
  Speaker 2: that's what you have to do. You have to put
• 23:12
  Speaker 2: yourself out there in a completely new environment. It's weird, yeah,
• 23:15
  Speaker 2: and scary, but I think that's what.
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly, when you feel like you're like an outsider
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: in your own current life because you know exactly when
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: you want it, you're not belonging anyway, Yeah exactly, So
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: it's not working for you, a trail to yourself, that's right.
• 23:30
  Speaker 2: How hard that is when you really want something and
• 23:33
  Speaker 2: you think you know what's best for you and you
• 23:36
  Speaker 2: do not ever know what's best for you? Right if
• 23:41
  Speaker 2: that doesn't happen and you're like, what do I do
• 23:44
  Speaker 2: when I'm in this space? Trust? Oh god, it's so hard,
• 23:48
  Speaker 2: but you have to trust that well, it will find you.
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: So I guess it is it's like you do want
• 23:55
  Speaker 1: to take that action, but you also have to know
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: it's like I've done what I can do, and if you're.
• 24:00
  Speaker 2: Desperate, that's repellent. So you have to surrender. You have
• 24:04
  Speaker 2: to get to the bit where you know you've done
• 24:06
  Speaker 2: the stuff and then you let it go. It doesn't
• 24:07
  Speaker 2: mean you can't walk around every day priming for that
• 24:09
  Speaker 2: thing still, but that like I want to, I want to,
• 24:12
  Speaker 2: I want a petulant child will kill any cocreation because sometimes.
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: You end up accidentally focusing on the fact that like
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: I still don't have it, I still don't don't.
• 24:21
  Speaker 2: Know, and that's your feeling, your feeling of lack. You're
• 24:24
  Speaker 2: in the not having this, so you will be presented
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: with not having this, and that's hard. Like, that's why
• 24:31
  Speaker 2: this is a it's like a muscle. Yeah, So I
• 24:33
  Speaker 2: would say surrender, trust and be back in the feeling.
• 24:36
  Speaker 2: That's why the gratitude is always your best friend, because
• 24:39
  Speaker 2: even if you desperately want something, even the thing that
• 24:41
  Speaker 2: you've currently got is going to be incredible, is going
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: to make you feel so good.
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: And it takes you out of that lack and it
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: takes you out of Also it helps you come to
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: terms with if this thing didn't happen. It's not that
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: nothing's going to happen for me, but it's probably gonna
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: be something else.
• 24:57
  Speaker 2: Yes, it's not that it's just gonna be avoid got
• 24:59
  Speaker 2: to be opened for the divine redirect. You can't just
• 25:03
  Speaker 2: negate that the dream man comes. But because he's not
• 25:06
  Speaker 2: a wog and he's got red hair, you're not going
• 25:09
  Speaker 2: to go on the date like you can't end your
• 25:13
  Speaker 2: opportunity because what could you miss out on? It's that
• 25:16
  Speaker 2: divine redirect of Okay, it doesn't look like that job
• 25:20
  Speaker 2: I wanted as a photographer. It's actually a videographer. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
• 25:23
  Speaker 2: that's right, that's right. I'm going to be open. I'm
• 25:26
  Speaker 2: going to have an experience because it's being presented versus like.
• 25:31
  Speaker 2: But then there is a caveat there are tests, and
• 25:34
  Speaker 2: the test comes when you're like, okay, the redhead guys
• 25:38
  Speaker 2: here really like what okay, I'm going to really in
• 25:42
  Speaker 2: my body? Is this a few response or is this.
• 25:47
  Speaker 1: Actually am I settling because my age and whatever and
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: I need to quickly find this person's good enough on paper?
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: Or am I actually feeling a connection here but I'm
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: denying it because it.
• 25:57
  Speaker 2: Doesn't look like this. It doesn't look like and so
• 25:59
  Speaker 2: we we call it a full body fuck yes or
• 26:01
  Speaker 2: a full body fuck no. And that's always going to
• 26:04
  Speaker 2: determine where you go when this divine redirection comes in
• 26:08
  Speaker 2: and you're so stuck and so desperate on it being
• 26:10
  Speaker 2: the woggie guy not the redhead, right, you lose, Yeah,
• 26:15
  Speaker 2: and then you're gonna have to do this whole process again.
• 26:18
  Speaker 2: It could take three years. Yeah, that's right, So go
• 26:22
  Speaker 2: and have that like. That's why stillness is really important
• 26:25
  Speaker 2: in this and not having these kind of dopamine it's
• 26:29
  Speaker 2: distract because when you're sinking into like, all right, this
• 26:33
  Speaker 2: job is the people are amazing, it is amazing. But
• 26:36
  Speaker 2: I actually really wanted this title and it's not that title.
• 26:41
  Speaker 2: I feel so good. I'm gonna go. I'm gonna do it.
• 26:44
  Speaker 2: Do you know that thing? It's like taking the ego
• 26:46
  Speaker 2: out and being embodied, right, that's how we start to navigate,
• 26:50
  Speaker 2: and your whole life will change because you're not in
• 26:52
  Speaker 2: your head. I'm using your head for you, not against you,
• 26:57
  Speaker 2: not against you.
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: So this is a really good question because I'm going
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: to add to the question.
• 27:04
  Speaker 2: That's why it's so good. Well, no, it's a great question.
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: Can we manifest physical things such as money or would
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: it have to be manifesting energy? We we're talking about,
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: you know, the feeling, and feeling does is an energy.
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: But at the same time, what I love about this
• 27:20
  Speaker 1: question is, but I know that I want to be
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: living an X amount of money X amount.
• 27:25
  Speaker 2: Of dollar a year lifestyle. Or if I.
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: Wanted to be able to travel to Europe and do
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: this and do this and blah blah blahah and live here,
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: I know that I would be wanting to earn this
• 27:35
  Speaker 1: much money.
• 27:35
  Speaker 2: Can we do that? You know? Can you? Can? You
• 27:38
  Speaker 2: think that's the amount? I just think, ever being stuck
• 27:44
  Speaker 2: on an amount, what if there was something so much
• 27:46
  Speaker 2: greater that wanted to come, but you're capping it with
• 27:48
  Speaker 2: your amount, even if your amounts three million dollars? Right.
• 27:52
  Speaker 2: The other part of that is sometimes we think things
• 27:56
  Speaker 2: in financial or physical gain and that's really fun. Like
• 27:59
  Speaker 2: I drive the that I used to pretend to drive
• 28:02
  Speaker 2: that's fun. But also when I get in that car now,
• 28:04
  Speaker 2: it doesn't mean anything to me anymore because my identity
• 28:08
  Speaker 2: and my value isn't about my car. Does that make sense?
• 28:12
  Speaker 2: My value supersedes the car. I could be in any
• 28:16
  Speaker 2: car because I know great I am. The thing is
• 28:19
  Speaker 2: when you're thinking about financially those things. So I bought this,
• 28:26
  Speaker 2: I bought that's so funny. My husband and I bought
• 28:29
  Speaker 2: this dream home. Right, huge, nine hundred square meters, cinema, gym,
• 28:34
  Speaker 2: six bedrooms up top, five bathrooms, two living It was huge.
• 28:39
  Speaker 2: I renovated it all dream dream, dream dream. Then we
• 28:44
  Speaker 2: were like, oh my god, this is such a big count.
• 28:48
  Speaker 2: Our kids are too scared to go to the toilet
• 28:49
  Speaker 2: without us because you're so big. I can't find anyone
• 28:53
  Speaker 2: I have to walk through. My bedroom was the size
• 28:56
  Speaker 2: of this plus a loungey. I was scared too big, Right,
• 29:01
  Speaker 2: And we think we want all of the things, and
• 29:03
  Speaker 2: we think we want three million dollars, and we think
• 29:05
  Speaker 2: we want this house, and then you go, hang on,
• 29:08
  Speaker 2: how much tax do I pay? Yeah? And how much?
• 29:11
  Speaker 2: Like no one's actually doing the opposite side of the
• 29:15
  Speaker 2: due diligence. What does it take to live in a
• 29:17
  Speaker 2: really big house. How many times do I have to
• 29:19
  Speaker 2: clean that house? How much furniture do you need to
• 29:21
  Speaker 2: buy for a house, like all of that stuff, right
• 29:24
  Speaker 2: we now have moved that house didn't work. Yeah, And
• 29:27
  Speaker 2: you don't know what you've got until you've got it,
• 29:30
  Speaker 2: which is such a like trickery in society. Get the car,
• 29:34
  Speaker 2: get the man, get the house, get the money. And
• 29:36
  Speaker 2: then you're like, I have to pay so much tax. Yeah,
• 29:39
  Speaker 2: now I'm here, and I'm actually quite stressed, Like can
• 29:42
  Speaker 2: I go to Europe every year? Because to get there
• 29:44
  Speaker 2: I have to work this much? And too do you
• 29:46
  Speaker 2: know what I'm saying versus like I want the feeling
• 29:50
  Speaker 2: of being on the French Riviera. I don't know how
• 29:54
  Speaker 2: much that's gonna cost. I'm just gonna get there, yeah,
• 29:57
  Speaker 2: right right, opportunities things will happen. My cousin has his
• 30:01
  Speaker 2: place in the French Riviera, joining it like it is
• 30:05
  Speaker 2: feeling weird, and that's where the doolulu comes in. I
• 30:08
  Speaker 2: think you can always talk about I would take the
• 30:10
  Speaker 2: financial price off and I would just feel into abundance.
• 30:15
  Speaker 2: Being abundant and feeling abundance is the funnest yep.
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: So instead of getting specific on a dollar amount you
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: want to think of.
• 30:22
  Speaker 2: I think it can cap you how I can experience things.
• 30:25
  Speaker 2: I need this rent, this much for food, this utilities,
• 30:29
  Speaker 2: this for the holidays, this for my fabulous clothes. I
• 30:31
  Speaker 2: do feel like it stunts us right, We're just feeling
• 30:35
  Speaker 2: true abundance, and I like, I can't believe my life
• 30:42
  Speaker 2: and the gratitude and that feeling every day of like
• 30:45
  Speaker 2: this is my home, this is my room, this is
• 30:48
  Speaker 2: my husband. Oh my god, I love him like and
• 30:50
  Speaker 2: I'll just call him and I'm like, yes, being in
• 30:55
  Speaker 2: love with my life makes more love in my life.
• 30:58
  Speaker 2: Does that exactly? Yet? More stunts in more? Yeah, But
• 31:01
  Speaker 2: it doesn't even need to be physical things. I might
• 31:04
  Speaker 2: just feel more connected with my friendship group. I might
• 31:08
  Speaker 2: feel like I have moments where I just want to
• 31:10
  Speaker 2: be a deep service to a friend and be like
• 31:13
  Speaker 2: da da da da da, I'm turning up for you
• 31:14
  Speaker 2: in this way or whatever that makes me feel good.
• 31:17
  Speaker 2: And it's kind of the more you give, the more
• 31:18
  Speaker 2: you get. Like the times when I'm so expressive with
• 31:21
  Speaker 2: how much I adore Tyrone and I'm so affectionate, I'm
• 31:24
  Speaker 2: so it just gets better and better and better, and
• 31:27
  Speaker 2: he's just a man. He's so receptive and then he
• 31:30
  Speaker 2: and it's kind of like, there's no limit to this.
• 31:31
  Speaker 1: But if I get up on the wrong side of
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: the bed and I'm a bit short with him for
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: no real reason, then he's probably going to be more reserved.
• 31:37
  Speaker 2: Then we go our separate ways, and then I think, oh,
• 31:39
  Speaker 2: maybe I haven't ah, but then he ha. You know
• 31:40
  Speaker 2: what I mean. It's nice, but it does. But you know,
• 31:44
  Speaker 2: it's a neuroscientist that preprogramming. Immediately. If you've woken up,
• 31:50
  Speaker 2: bumpedure toe, of course, dogs vomited on the rug, all
• 31:54
  Speaker 2: these things, you have to take hold of your mind
• 31:58
  Speaker 2: and get back exactly, have to reset. It's so easy
• 32:01
  Speaker 2: to spiral. Thank god you bumped your toe because you
• 32:04
  Speaker 2: have all of this. You know, you've got a first
• 32:06
  Speaker 2: aid kid. How lucky are you? Yeah? Your dog vomited
• 32:09
  Speaker 2: house smart is his immune system to purge.
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: Like if you can shift, ye, if you can just
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: pause and think, okay.
• 32:15
  Speaker 2: And like this has already happened. I'm going to be late.
• 32:18
  Speaker 2: People understand all of these things, like take control back.
• 32:24
  Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying. He gets it, He does get it. Yeah, Yeah,
• 32:29
  Speaker 2: I love that.
• 32:30
  Speaker 1: I love that I could honestly, we could talk forever,
• 32:33
  Speaker 1: so we'll probably have to do it like a part nine,
• 32:36
  Speaker 1: ten eleven of this. But thank you, honestly, thank you
• 32:39
  Speaker 1: so much. I can't wait to finish the book because
• 32:41
  Speaker 1: I'm loving it like I was, just like inhaling the book.
• 32:45
  Speaker 2: So I'm so great, fun to be here. Thank you
• 32:46
  Speaker 2: so like this is coming. This is the best part
• 32:50
  Speaker 2: of my day. I love that.
• 32:52
  Speaker 1: Thank you and yeah, same same, same here. I love
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: having and I love conversations more than just this is connection.
• 32:58
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's my biggest drive in life. And if I
• 33:01
  Speaker 2: this fills me up to connect with you and.
• 33:05
  Speaker 1: And the audience and then Habib who's come and sat.
• 33:09
  Speaker 2: And I'm living on purpose.
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's the best feeling. So thank you, honestly, thank
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: you so much everyone. I'll also let you shout like
• 33:16
  Speaker 1: do it, shout out for yourself. But the book is
• 33:19
  Speaker 1: called a Rise Manifest the Life you deserve. It is
• 33:23
  Speaker 1: so fucking good. I mean I haven't finished it, but
• 33:24
  Speaker 1: I'm loving every step of it. Where can where can
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: where else can they find you?
• 33:29
  Speaker 2: I mean it's the book is everywhere, like you know Amazon,
• 33:33
  Speaker 2: big w book to opia all the places and then
• 33:36
  Speaker 2: my handle.
• 33:37
  Speaker 1: Put in your show notes, we'll put in my show notes.
• 33:39
  Speaker 2: Everything's going to be no, no, everything, like, let's just
• 33:42
  Speaker 2: pressure you into doing a TikTok. Now we're going to
• 33:44
  Speaker 2: do a TikTok. So that is all. Guys, Thank you
• 33:47
  Speaker 2: so much for listening.
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: And as always remember, become to yourself, become to your brain.
• 33:52
  Speaker 1: Don't take shit from anyone, and especially don't take shit
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: from yourself.
• 33:55
  Speaker 2: Don't