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Insights From Tim Storey, Celebrity Life Coach | Living A Life Transformed With Deeper Meaning · Miss Understood with Rachel Uchitel

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  Speaker 1: real conversations in a new language today. Tim's story is
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  Speaker 1: an acclaimed life coach, spiritual advisor, and author. Whether one-on-one
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  Speaker 1: or to large audiences of up to 85,000 people, Tim
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  Speaker 1: is able to connect and have an impact on a
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  Speaker 1: personal level with celebrities, business titans, professional athletes, and children
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  Speaker 1: and adults in war-torn regions. Having traveled to over 75 countries,
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  Speaker 1: Tim has coached Robert Downey Jr., Charlie Sheen, Kanye West,
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  Speaker 1: and Oprah Winfrey, just to name a few. And today,
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  Speaker 1: Tim is going to give us tips, tools, strategies to
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  Speaker 1: turn a setback into a comeback. I'm so honored to
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  Speaker 1: welcome my friend, Tim Story. Thank you so much for
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  Speaker 1: joining me, Tim. I'm so happy that you're here in
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  Speaker 1: lovely Florida visiting.
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  Speaker 2: It's hot in Florida.
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  Speaker 1: It is. Is it hotter than California?
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  Speaker 2: Well, California has been hot for a little while, but
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  Speaker 2: this humidity, I think you have to get used to it.
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  Speaker 2: Or can you even get used to it?
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. I've lived here for a couple months now.
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  Speaker 1: It's really hard to get used to. But on the
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  Speaker 1: flip side, I'm happy to deal with this than the blistering, cold,
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  Speaker 1: dark weather. You know, winter's in New York.
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  Speaker 2: I agree. So I can see why you spend a
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  Speaker 2: lot of time here. Yeah. And so many of our friends, right,
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  Speaker 2: have moved out here.
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  Speaker 1: Right. It's beautiful, and the people are great. So I'm
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  Speaker 1: having a nice time. So you and I have known
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  Speaker 1: each other for a number of years now. I wanted
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  Speaker 1: to pick your brain on how you remember meeting me.
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  Speaker 1: Do you remember?
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  Speaker 2: Yes, of course I do. Okay. Okay, so when I
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  Speaker 2: think about meeting you, I have to go way back
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  Speaker 2: to literally 9-11. because I'm a person that loves to
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  Speaker 2: know what's trending, what's happening. So when I began to
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  Speaker 2: see you pop up in the news as this person
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  Speaker 2: that had lost their fiance, it was such big, big,
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  Speaker 2: big news. And I think that that picture that landed
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  Speaker 2: on the cover of so many newspapers and so many
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  Speaker 2: people saw it of a person that was distraught um
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  Speaker 2: in so much pain really like painted a picture of
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  Speaker 2: 9-11 that was interesting so I started following you then
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  Speaker 2: like as just a person of interest and what an
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  Speaker 2: interesting human being and then we have friends because of
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  Speaker 2: uh the things that we do in entertainment. So I
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  Speaker 2: knew that you were like a legend in Las Vegas
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  Speaker 2: for what you did, right?
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 2: So that's how I knew you. I knew you as
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  Speaker 2: that legend. And then because of what I do for
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  Speaker 2: a living of life coaching people and helping people really
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  Speaker 2: step into their purpose in a huge way, one of
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  Speaker 2: our mutual friends said, hey, I'd like you to talk
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  Speaker 2: to Rachel. She's a really great person. And so that's
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  Speaker 2: how we started dialoguing. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And I remember that I sort of hadn't hit my
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  Speaker 1: rock bottom, but I was heading there and I really
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  Speaker 1: needed your advice. And you just stepped in without knowing
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  Speaker 1: me from our personal relationship. You really just got me.
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  Speaker 1: And I felt like that was something that I hadn't
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  Speaker 1: felt in a long time. I felt very misunderstood. I
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  Speaker 1: felt like people, you know, I'd lost a lot of
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  Speaker 1: credibility and I was kind of lost. And do you
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  Speaker 1: remember that I came to visit you? Were we in Toledo?
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  Speaker 2: Yes. So that is like one of my favorite stories
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  Speaker 2: of all time. Because the way I see you, I
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  Speaker 2: see you like very New York person. Very Las Vegas,
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  Speaker 2: very Beverly Hills, not Toledo, Ohio.
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  Speaker 1: No, but we had the best time.
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  Speaker 2: It was so awesome. So I was speaking for the
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  Speaker 2: Paul Mitchell group because I do a lot of things
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  Speaker 2: with them. And you said, Tim, I only had like
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  Speaker 2: this time frame that I could do this. So you
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  Speaker 2: like flew to Detroit, then took a little plane to Toledo. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: But what an amazing 24 hours of two human beings
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  Speaker 2: talking about, in my opinion, your brilliant life. You're so sweet.
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  Speaker 1: But for me, it was amazing because I got to
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  Speaker 1: see you. get up and speak to this group of
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  Speaker 1: people for the first time in person and connect with
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  Speaker 1: them in a way that was, I really had never
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  Speaker 1: seen that before. I mean, you know, I had gone
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  Speaker 1: to maybe some churches and this was not a religious
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  Speaker 1: or spiritual sermon by any means, but it felt like
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  Speaker 1: that because you, people were so energized. I mean, I
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  Speaker 1: remember walking in the room, people were giving you a
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  Speaker 1: standing ovation. They were just almost in tears because about
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  Speaker 1: listening to what you had to say. And I could
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  Speaker 1: see how you changed the lives of these people, kids, whoever.
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  Speaker 1: And they were... they were there for their business, right?
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  Speaker 1: I mean, you were coaching them just to be better
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  Speaker 1: at doing hair and it was like so inspirational. And
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  Speaker 1: then we had this great dinner. We talked about, I
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  Speaker 1: was thinking of writing a book. You were helping me
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  Speaker 1: with that. So, and then we've gone on to do
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  Speaker 1: a number of things. We have done some interviews together.
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  Speaker 1: We talked about nine 11, like you were bringing up
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  Speaker 1: for Facebook, which was very interesting. And then we worked
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  Speaker 1: with reach TV together and, um, And you continue to
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  Speaker 1: work with them. But that was a really fun interview
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  Speaker 1: that we got to talk about 10... What was the
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  Speaker 1: topic exactly?
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  Speaker 2: It was like 10 questions by 10 different people. And
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  Speaker 2: you were number one, as you should be. But so
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  Speaker 2: my thing with you, Rachel, is I think that this
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  Speaker 2: whole idea of misunderstood, like what a phenomenal title. Because
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  Speaker 2: I think that... You know, if someone just walks in
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  Speaker 2: the room and they see you, they will instantly see,
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  Speaker 2: in my opinion, the beauty. They'll see the grace, the class,
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  Speaker 2: because there's a way in which you carry yourself. So
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  Speaker 2: that is there, but there's also so many layers of you.
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  Speaker 2: There is the compassionate layer. There is the I'm a
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  Speaker 2: good mother layer. There is I care about my friends layer.
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  Speaker 2: And there is this really, really bright lady layer. People
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  Speaker 2: don't understand your educational background. They many times don't understand
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  Speaker 2: what you've done in the past, even in media. And
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  Speaker 2: in hearing your story and talking to you, I'm thinking
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  Speaker 2: to myself, truly this lady has been misunderstood and you've
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  Speaker 2: been put in like the wrong department of who she's
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  Speaker 2: supposed to be. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Well, you know, I think my strength that I've learned
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  Speaker 1: over time is to continually try and figure it out
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  Speaker 1: and reinvent myself. And I have made a lot of
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  Speaker 1: wrong turns to make the right turns and you've helped
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  Speaker 1: me go through a lot of that, but it takes
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  Speaker 1: a lot of education, being in the moment, taking that
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  Speaker 1: step forward, showing up for things, and for me, really
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  Speaker 1: realizing it's okay to fail.
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  Speaker 2: Yes.
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  Speaker 1: And that's why I really wanted to have you here,
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  Speaker 1: because I think that it's a universal feeling for a
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  Speaker 1: lot of people, whether or not they want to admit it, that...
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  Speaker 1: they feel stuck or they feel, and they could feel
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  Speaker 1: stuck by something that's happened to them at event in
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  Speaker 1: their life that they can't get over, maybe a mistake
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  Speaker 1: they made, a job that they're stuck in, whatever it
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  Speaker 1: is for them.
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  Speaker 2: I like what you're saying because it is okay to fail.
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  Speaker 2: And as you know, I have this statement where I say,
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  Speaker 2: sometimes you have to go left before you go right.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And so everybody wants to be right, which is like
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  Speaker 2: to be germane apropos of In the groove, in sync.
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  Speaker 2: So it's like right relationship. Yeah. My body feels right.
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  Speaker 2: You know, everything is right. Everything's aligned. But life is
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  Speaker 2: so much left, rejected, forsaken, where things feel undone. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: But sometimes we have to go left. in order to
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  Speaker 2: go right. And I think that has happened in both
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  Speaker 2: of our lives. And that's one reason that I felt
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  Speaker 2: that I was really listening to you and understanding that
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  Speaker 2: your left was not in any way a permanent place,
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  Speaker 2: but it was a place where you could turn into
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  Speaker 2: what I call a library and a sanctuary, a library
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  Speaker 2: of learning and a sanctuary of going deeper. Right.
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  Speaker 1: So I'm curious, how did you get into this line
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  Speaker 1: of work? How did you get interested in this to
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  Speaker 1: be able to find your purpose and your voice?
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  Speaker 2: So what happened to me is that... being raised in Compton, California,
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  Speaker 2: we had seven people in a two bedroom apartment. You know,
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  Speaker 2: you many times hear these athletes tell these stories about
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  Speaker 2: like being raised in a lower income family and being
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  Speaker 2: raised in a tight situation. But you don't know it
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  Speaker 2: until you're really there.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: So you got to really picture it in your mind.
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  Speaker 2: You got to think of, Kate, a two bedroom apartment.
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  Speaker 2: You got a husband and a wife. Then you have
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  Speaker 2: three daughters and you have two sons. You got to
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  Speaker 2: find a way to do life that way.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Okay. We had one bathroom. But here's the interesting thing
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  Speaker 2: is that my mother was really into discipline. So everything
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  Speaker 2: was always super, super clean. So what she would say
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  Speaker 2: to us is that we might be lower income, but
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  Speaker 2: we're not lower class. So everything was don't do a
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  Speaker 2: half-assed job. That was everything. So we didn't do anything halfway.
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  Speaker 3: Right.
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  Speaker 2: But that type of background gave me a lot of
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  Speaker 2: compassion for the struggler.
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  Speaker 3: Right.
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  Speaker 1: I love the underdog.
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  Speaker 3: Whether it's the up and outer or the quote-unquote down
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  Speaker 3: and outer, So.
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  Speaker 2: That was the beginning of the Tim Story calling is
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  Speaker 2: I love the underdog. So I decided to go to
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  Speaker 2: seminary and I wanted to be like a hip, cool
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  Speaker 2: Mother Teresa. And that's what I ended up becoming. So
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  Speaker 2: I see myself more as a humanitarian first. And then
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  Speaker 2: I get to do all these other things.
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  Speaker 1: Was there something in your life that you would say
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  Speaker 1: as the one thing that you felt was a setback
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  Speaker 1: that you needed to turn into a comeback that really
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  Speaker 1: made you understand all the people that you work with
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  Speaker 1: in the present?
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  Speaker 2: I think no doubt about it. I think that when
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  Speaker 2: my father passed away when I was 10 and we
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  Speaker 2: needed him, he was a key component in that family
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  Speaker 2: because he had energy, he had joy, he had laughter.
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  Speaker 2: My mother was very disciplined and My mother never really
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  Speaker 2: hugged me until she was like 75 years of age.
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  Speaker 2: And when she hugged me, because I threw a big
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  Speaker 2: party for her, and she hugged me and hugged me
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  Speaker 2: too long, it literally threw me off. I'm like, okay,
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  Speaker 2: this is a new one. Like my own mother's showing
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  Speaker 2: me affection. So when my father passed away in a
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  Speaker 2: car accident, but you have to understand the car accident.
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  Speaker 2: He's going through a green light. A man runs a
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  Speaker 2: red light, hits him, and he's instantly gone. which was
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  Speaker 2: such a weird thing because now like the leader of
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  Speaker 2: the family, the joy of the family, the let's go
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  Speaker 2: get ice cream guy of the family is gone. It
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  Speaker 2: felt like a cold garage. So I felt like I
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  Speaker 2: lived in a cold garage for so many years.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. And then after that, you lost your sister as
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  Speaker 1: well in a similar way in a car accident.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: So she, she had two amazing friends that were sisters
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  Speaker 2: and my sister was in the back of They were
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  Speaker 2: going to San Francisco just to be girls and have fun.
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  Speaker 2: They were only 20. And it was foggy. And she
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  Speaker 2: went off the freeway down area. And my sister went
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  Speaker 2: into a coma for eight days. And she died only
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  Speaker 2: two years after my father passing. So I don't say
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  Speaker 2: any of this because I feel sorry for myself. But
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  Speaker 2: it was, as me and you talk about, it was
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  Speaker 2: a life interruption. Yeah. It was a life interruption from
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  Speaker 2: little Timmy from Compton with my high energy and my charisma.
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  Speaker 2: What a challenge to the soul.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, right. Now, so many people get stuck in grief.
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  Speaker 1: So many people cannot get past that trauma. How would
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  Speaker 1: you suggest to people to move forward from that without
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  Speaker 1: feeling like it's not giving the time to grieve for
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  Speaker 1: their loved one, but so that they can step out
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  Speaker 1: of it because it's so debilitating.
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  Speaker 2: Yes. Okay. So here's how it works. So sometimes you
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  Speaker 2: have a promise and the promise dies and then you grieve.
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  Speaker 2: So everybody that's watching right now, they've had a promise
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  Speaker 2: that has died before. A relationship that they thought would
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  Speaker 2: work and it died. Right. Okay. or a business situation,
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  Speaker 2: or a dream that died. When something or someone dies,
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  Speaker 2: it's a proven fact. The grieving process is about two
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  Speaker 2: years where there's a groaning on the inside. Isn't this interesting? Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: So let's say somebody was in a relationship and was married.
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  Speaker 2: And even if the man cheated or did something terrible
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  Speaker 2: and you're like, I'm over him and we're even going
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  Speaker 2: to have a party for it and I'm over, maybe not.
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  Speaker 2: In your mind, you're trying to be, but maybe in
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  Speaker 2: your soul, you're grieving. Right, right. Okay, so you have
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  Speaker 2: the promise, the promise dies, and then you grieve. Yeah. Now,
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  Speaker 2: that grieving part of your life, you better really be
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  Speaker 2: careful because... If you don't handle it correctly, you will
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  Speaker 2: begin to sit in what I call that setback and
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  Speaker 2: settle in that setback. How many of our friends have
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  Speaker 2: we seen that have gone through addiction problems?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Right? Marital problems, challenges in their life, maybe even in
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  Speaker 2: their 30s, and they are sitting and settling in the
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  Speaker 2: grief of their setback. Right.
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  Speaker 1: apply i remember when i lost my father i was
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  Speaker 1: 15 yeah And at the beginning, and listen, I also
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  Speaker 1: lost my fiance, as you know, and it was a
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  Speaker 1: similar process where at the beginning, it was almost easier
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  Speaker 1: because it hadn't settled in yet. And I remember months later,
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  Speaker 1: it hitting me and being in the shower. And it
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  Speaker 1: was probably because I was alone. You know, at the beginning,
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  Speaker 1: a lot of people surround you and they're giving you
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  Speaker 1: attention and they know you need help. But it's later
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  Speaker 1: on when you're by yourself in the quiet of your
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  Speaker 1: home and your mind is quiet that all of a
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  Speaker 1: sudden those feelings can really come back and haunt you
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  Speaker 1: and take over. And what I found is it was
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  Speaker 1: okay to feel those and then try and move on.
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  Speaker 1: But It was very interesting to me that I could
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  Speaker 1: not live in the what if. What if that person
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  Speaker 1: was still alive? I would be in a cab in Manhattan. Andy,
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  Speaker 1: my fiance, he's supposed to be... in the cab with me.
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  Speaker 1: This seat is now empty because he's not here. And
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  Speaker 1: it took me a good year after, like you're saying,
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  Speaker 1: it takes you time to really say, well, wait a minute.
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  Speaker 1: The time I had with him was the time I
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  Speaker 1: was supposed to have. And now for me to grow,
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  Speaker 1: for me to get over this, I'm shutting all these
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  Speaker 1: things out. I need to realize that like, there is
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  Speaker 1: no what if anymore. I need to sort of live.
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  Speaker 2: 100%. And I think that So many people are walking
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  Speaker 2: around grieving, and we don't think it's okay. So we
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  Speaker 2: put on this mask, we put on this energy, our
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  Speaker 2: things are so amazing, mostly in the social media age.
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  Speaker 2: But it's okay not to be okay.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And I really teach that in my life coaching. Sometimes
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  Speaker 2: you got to tell people that, you know, if they say,
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  Speaker 2: how are you doing? Just to say, I'm doing okay.
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  Speaker 2: I'm working through things, but I'm doing okay. And then
• 19:35
  Speaker 2: some silly people will say, well, every day is beautiful.
• 19:38
  Speaker 2: Every day is amazing. You know what? Life is beautiful,
• 19:42
  Speaker 2: but there are things that cause us to grieve. Yeah.
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: Oh, absolutely. You know, one of my favorite, sort of
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: passages from Cahil Gibran's The Prophet, I don't know if
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: you've ever read it, was about joy and sorrow. And
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: I have a tattoo down my back and it says,
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: without pain, happiness has no meaning. And I truly believe
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: that you have to feel one side of the pendulum,
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: the negative, the pain, the the guilt, the grief, whatever
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: it is, to be able to feel the same extent
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: of the happiness and the joy.
• 20:15
  Speaker 2: So that's so, so powerful. So let me ask you
• 20:17
  Speaker 2: a question because of the idea that you would love
• 20:21
  Speaker 2: that passage so much you would put it on you, okay?
• 20:25
  Speaker 2: Do you think that you've come through most of the
• 20:28
  Speaker 2: pain and now have come into a different place, or
• 20:32
  Speaker 2: do you feel like the pain is always kind of lingering?
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: I mean, the pain is... lessened, but I think it's
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: always lingering. I feel like, and maybe it's not lingering,
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: but it's something that I remember, right? So it's something
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: that's in me. It's in my bones, the loss, the pain,
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: the whatever it is for me. So I remember it.
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: And to be able to remember it and feel it,
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: I can feel the extent of the other side. So
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: I mean, I'm getting through that negative. I'm always working
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: through it. But I appreciate now being in it and
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: sort of marinating in that because you learn your biggest
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: lessons from being in that. So if I forgot what
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: it was like to be in pain, I wouldn't be
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: able to experience the joy.
• 21:18
  Speaker 2: But I love that. I think that's part of your
• 21:20
  Speaker 2: growth because if you look at how people wanted you
• 21:25
  Speaker 2: to be, okay, be the pretty girl. Be the fascinating person, right?
• 21:31
  Speaker 2: So when they're inviting you to a....
• 21:48
  Speaker 4: Number one based on volume sales data. To verify, contact info.ireland.bayer.com.
• 21:53
  Speaker 2: Party or to go on a yacht or to go
• 21:56
  Speaker 2: to another country, even if it's your girlfriends. Yeah. They're
• 22:00
  Speaker 2: looking for a certain version of you.
• 22:01
  Speaker 3: Sure.
• 22:02
  Speaker 2: Make sense?
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 22:03
  Speaker 2: So there's a song, because I know you like music,
• 22:07
  Speaker 2: older song, Billie Holiday, called Good Morning Heartache. Here You
• 22:12
  Speaker 2: Are Again. It's such a powerful song that Diana Ross
• 22:18
  Speaker 2: ended up redoing for a movie called Mahogany, Our Lady
• 22:21
  Speaker 2: Sings the Blues. But in this song is a lot of,
• 22:26
  Speaker 2: is so much truth because sometimes even me with all
• 22:30
  Speaker 2: my optimism, I wake up and I kind of think,
• 22:35
  Speaker 2: oh shit. Yeah. Like truly, I think to myself, man,
• 22:39
  Speaker 2: that sucks that my father passed like that or that
• 22:42
  Speaker 2: sucks that that happened. And I have to work through
• 22:46
  Speaker 2: it in my own mind and in my own soul.
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: Right. So the other thing that I need to remember
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: and I've learned through the years is the quote, this
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: too shall pass. A lot of people think that just
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: means like you're going to get through the hard times.
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: So don't worry. There'll be an end to this. For me,
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: it means even the good times are going to pass.
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: So when you're in them, you have to be present
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: in them, soak them up, learn from them, enjoy them
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: because that moment will pass and you will have another
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: hard time or you will have another lesson you have
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: to learn. And so many people... I think are stuck
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: in their phones, their faces down, they're not present. And
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: being present in the moment to me has been so
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: helpful to get me through my hard times because I'm
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: focused on myself. I like how you're thinking.
• 23:31
  Speaker 2: And what you're saying with this idea of this too
• 23:33
  Speaker 2: shall pass. So when you were little and you were
• 23:36
  Speaker 2: going through all the challenges that we've talked about before,
• 23:39
  Speaker 2: did you see your life that it could be as
• 23:43
  Speaker 2: good as it became? I don't know. So I'm really
• 23:47
  Speaker 2: asking you this question. Did you visualize that I'm going
• 23:51
  Speaker 2: to travel the world, I'm going to do big things?
• 23:53
  Speaker 2: Because you went through so much conflict at such a
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: young age.
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: I think as a young child, you know, it's interesting
• 23:59
  Speaker 1: because I'll ask my daughter what she wants to be
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: or what she sees for her life when she was
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: really little. I said, what do you want to be?
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: She said, I want to be a tomato. I mean,
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: they don't know what they're saying. Now she says she
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: wants to be a surgeon because she's 11. Now she
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: watches Grey's Anatomy. This is like her big thing. The
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: world is her oyster, kind of, right? But when things
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: start to happen to you, you're this little crystal ball
• 24:23
  Speaker 1: when you start out, and then it gets dirty with
• 24:25
  Speaker 1: life experience. I think when I was younger, sure, I thought...
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: Everything that I want can happen. You read these books
• 24:31
  Speaker 1: about the princess and the prince and everybody's saving you
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: and blah, blah, blah. Then as you get a little older,
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: and I'm still talking about young, things will happen in
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: your life and you think, oh, this will never happen
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: to me. I won't find the prince. I won't be
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: able to travel the world, whatever it is for that person.
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: is the dirt that covers that crystal that you once
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: thought could happen, you don't see it being a possibility anymore.
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: And that's taken, I'm 48 now, it's taken my life
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: to realize you can rub that dirt off. You can
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: start over.
• 25:04
  Speaker 2: You can.
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: And it's so powerful to me.
• 25:06
  Speaker 2: You can reset, no doubt about it, which is what
• 25:09
  Speaker 2: you have done in your life. In my opinion, in
• 25:14
  Speaker 2: knowing you for this time now, I see a new
• 25:17
  Speaker 2: vibrancy that's in you. And I think one of my
• 25:21
  Speaker 2: favorite sides of you is you as the parent. When
• 25:25
  Speaker 2: I see you like out with your daughter and I
• 25:28
  Speaker 2: see you, you know, you brought in someone to teach
• 25:31
  Speaker 2: her how to dance and you would do the TikTok videos.
• 25:35
  Speaker 2: So goofy, yeah. I mean, it's so awesome. Like a
• 25:37
  Speaker 2: side that a lot of people don't know about you.
• 25:40
  Speaker 2: But what we were talking about is this idea of,
• 25:44
  Speaker 2: We have momentum and then we have these setbacks. So
• 25:48
  Speaker 2: when most people have a setback, they take a step back.
• 25:53
  Speaker 2: So watch. They have a setback, then they take a
• 25:56
  Speaker 2: step back. And if you're not careful, you keep taking
• 25:59
  Speaker 2: step backs, you'll find yourself so far away From who
• 26:03
  Speaker 2: you're really supposed to be.
• 26:05
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: And I think so many people don't even know who
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: they're supposed to be or don't know who they are
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: because they're so influenced by the environment around them, by
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: people they're associating with, with all the social media and
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: all the smoke and mirrors of what success is, what
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: happiness is. And I think that really contributes to people
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: not feeling happy. So for the people that are listening,
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: that I really want to let them kind of reap
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: the benefits of your knowledge.
• 26:32
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: I feel like, I mean, you've obviously interviewed some of
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: the biggest CEOs, some of the biggest celebrities. Isn't it
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: true that even no matter how much money you have
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: or how popular you are, you feel misunderstood or you
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: feel like there's something you're missing?
• 26:50
  Speaker 2: Have you found that? 100%. So there was a time
• 26:53
  Speaker 2: that for the sake of a talk I was going
• 26:56
  Speaker 2: to give, I started asking high profile people, if they
• 27:01
  Speaker 2: felt like their life was not that great, even though
• 27:06
  Speaker 2: we thought it was great. And all 20 said that truly,
• 27:13
  Speaker 2: I almost feel like I'm an imposter. Because I suck
• 27:19
  Speaker 2: in certain areas, but I'm not allowed to act that way,
• 27:23
  Speaker 2: say that, be that way. But secretly, I feel that
• 27:28
  Speaker 2: pain of I'm a bit of an imposter. So I
• 27:31
  Speaker 2: would say that from all the people that you know
• 27:33
  Speaker 2: that I work with, that 100% that they feel this way,
• 27:39
  Speaker 2: but I think even more so because their life is amplified.
• 27:43
  Speaker 2: So imagine your life not being great, and you go
• 27:47
  Speaker 2: down Sunset Boulevard, and you see a big billboard of
• 27:51
  Speaker 2: yourself saying, for a new movie that's coming out, but
• 27:53
  Speaker 2: you know that your life is not good.
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: Right. And, you know, I, like, you know, a lot
• 27:58
  Speaker 1: of celebrities and the common theme there is that people
• 28:01
  Speaker 1: put them on a pedestal for whatever they're known for, right?
• 28:05
  Speaker 1: Whether they're an actor or they're a model or athlete.
• 28:08
  Speaker 1: But at the end of the day, they're just like
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: you and I. They take the trash out. They go
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: to the bathroom. They have issues with their parents or
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: with their significant other. And they almost can't admit to
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: that or they're hiding that from the people that put
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: them on the pedestal because they don't want anyone to
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: know that there's anything wrong. And that could be so
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: much more suffering than, you know, the everyday person who
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: can be out there and just say, oh, my life
• 28:31
  Speaker 1: is awful. I'm in this shitty job and how do
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: I fix this? You know, so sometimes it's even harder.
• 28:37
  Speaker 1: But for the people that are listening that feel like
• 28:40
  Speaker 1: they're stuck, whether it's a big stuck, like they are literally,
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: they cannot function or they're just in a dead end
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: job or they're in a dead end relationship. How do
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: you get them from the place of living in that fear,
• 28:52
  Speaker 1: if that's what's making them stuck, to taking that... step
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: out of it.
• 28:56
  Speaker 2: Okay. So number one, I think most people do feel
• 28:59
  Speaker 2: stuck like right now. Yeah. So part of it is
• 29:02
  Speaker 2: a statement that I make. If you don't do something
• 29:05
  Speaker 2: with life, life will do something with you. Okay. So
• 29:08
  Speaker 2: really think this through. If you don't do something with
• 29:11
  Speaker 2: life and you're assertive, life will do something with you.
• 29:16
  Speaker 2: Life will push you around. Yeah. And then you find
• 29:19
  Speaker 2: yourself in a relationship where you're like, how did I
• 29:22
  Speaker 2: wake up next to this person? Or in a body
• 29:25
  Speaker 2: that you don't like, in a job you don't like,
• 29:27
  Speaker 2: in a city you don't like. So what do I
• 29:29
  Speaker 2: do now that I am stuck? Okay. Go back to
• 29:33
  Speaker 2: that Bono song. You got to get yourself together. You
• 29:37
  Speaker 2: got stuck in a moment and now you can't. get
• 29:40
  Speaker 2: out of it Rachel most people are there yeah And
• 29:45
  Speaker 2: so what do we do?
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: And there's so much fear of how to take that
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: step because that's comfortable.
• 29:50
  Speaker 2: Exactly. Yeah.
• 29:52
  Speaker 1: And it's getting out of that comfort zone. And that's
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: the biggest fear, I think, for most people.
• 29:56
  Speaker 2: Okay. So the first thing you do to get unstuck
• 30:00
  Speaker 2: is you have to become awake.
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 30:03
  Speaker 2: What do I mean by awake?
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 30:05
  Speaker 2: If you were to study the word awake, which I
• 30:07
  Speaker 2: have like for years, it basically means to be conscious,
• 30:11
  Speaker 2: to come back. But I believe that we are kind
• 30:15
  Speaker 2: of sleepwalking through life most times. That's why people say,
• 30:20
  Speaker 2: To me, I can't believe I'm already 23. One of
• 30:22
  Speaker 2: my friend's daughters said that the other day. I'm like,
• 30:25
  Speaker 2: is that old too? She goes, oh my God, Uncle Tim,
• 30:28
  Speaker 2: I'm 23. She goes, where have I been? And so
• 30:32
  Speaker 2: I think people sleepwalk through life. And so number one,
• 30:36
  Speaker 2: to get unstuck, you have to wake up. Unfortunately, it's
• 30:41
  Speaker 2: usually a crisis situation. That does that to somebody.
• 30:45
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 30:45
  Speaker 2: It's something that went wrong in life. Does that make sense?
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: Yes, 100%.
• 30:49
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: It's shaken them out of that. stability kind of, even
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: though it's unstable, but it's, it's shaken them out of
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: that ability to not make a choice to move forward.
• 30:59
  Speaker 2: Right. And something usually dramatic that wakes people up is
• 31:02
  Speaker 2: not usually they watched a podcast or they went and
• 31:06
  Speaker 2: saw a motivational speaker, right? Usually the aha moment is
• 31:10
  Speaker 2: coming through some kind of tragic thing taking place. So
• 31:14
  Speaker 2: number one, to get unstuck, you have to become awake.
• 31:17
  Speaker 3: Mm-hmm.
• 31:17
  Speaker 2: Secondly, you have to take inventory. So watch how difficult
• 31:23
  Speaker 2: this is. When I think of inventory, I have to
• 31:26
  Speaker 2: look at someone's mindset. What is the strength of your
• 31:30
  Speaker 2: mind and the clarity of your mind? I think most people,
• 31:34
  Speaker 2: when they're stuck, their mind is not that clear. That's
• 31:38
  Speaker 2: why they do silly things over and over and over again.
• 31:43
  Speaker 2: Date silly people over and over and over again. You've
• 31:47
  Speaker 2: seen that in some of your friends.
• 31:48
  Speaker 1: Lives, right? Of course, or make bad decisions because they
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: think it's just going to negate the other decision, but
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: they're not looking forward to say, okay, wait, what's a
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: better path to get over there? They're just taking the
• 31:59
  Speaker 1: easy way out, and these are a lot of.
• 32:00
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• 32:20
  Speaker 1: Wrong terms, don't you think?
• 32:22
  Speaker 2: 100%. So you have to take inventory, which is a
• 32:26
  Speaker 2: very difficult thing to do. So the way I do it,
• 32:30
  Speaker 2: I will tell somebody that I'm working with, on a
• 32:32
  Speaker 2: scale of 1 to 10, let's rate yourself. And I'll
• 32:35
  Speaker 2: say mindset, scale 1 to 10. Most powerful man I
• 32:38
  Speaker 2: coach will say like, mindset is a six. You're like, really?
• 32:42
  Speaker 2: You're running a $ 700 million company and your mindset's a six? Yeah,
• 32:47
  Speaker 2: I'm under so much pressure. I'm not thinking right. I'm
• 32:51
  Speaker 2: having challenges at home. And that's a lot, a lot
• 32:56
  Speaker 2: of pressure on somebody to be at a higher level.
• 33:00
  Speaker 2: So I will have them grade themselves on the mindset,
• 33:05
  Speaker 2: the physical side, their spiritual, whatever that is, their connection
• 33:09
  Speaker 2: to whatever, their job, their finances, their relationships, their family,
• 33:17
  Speaker 2: but also their social life. And again, most high profile
• 33:21
  Speaker 2: people that I do the one through 10 on taking inventory,
• 33:26
  Speaker 2: their scores are like in the middle, five, six. We
• 33:31
  Speaker 2: see them at 10, right?
• 33:34
  Speaker 1: How much of it has to do with sort of
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: getting rid of the people that are around you that
• 33:42
  Speaker 1: are enabling this bad behavior and surrounding yourself with like-minded people.
• 33:47
  Speaker 2: Okay, so you just hit my point number three. Oh, okay.
• 33:50
  Speaker 2: That's how good you are. My gosh, life coach to
• 33:53
  Speaker 2: the stars, Rachel. Okay, so how to cut people out
• 33:57
  Speaker 2: of your life, because sometimes you need to, as you say.
• 34:01
  Speaker 2: That you have your first level, which is the acquaintance.
• 34:06
  Speaker 2: Second is friends and family. Third is the green room.
• 34:10
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 34:11
  Speaker 2: Okay? So it's me, you, and Oprah speaking at a
• 34:14
  Speaker 2: big conference. Can you imagine it?
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: Amazing.
• 34:16
  Speaker 2: Love it. Okay, so they're going to say, Rachel, there's
• 34:18
  Speaker 2: your green room. You can put seven people in there,
• 34:22
  Speaker 2: and we have all the things you like, all the snacks.
• 34:23
  Speaker 2: You know how this works. Tim's story. There's your green room,
• 34:26
  Speaker 2: all the snacks. Oprah, you and Gail can go there.
• 34:30
  Speaker 2: There's all the stuff that you guys want.
• 34:32
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 34:33
  Speaker 2: That's the green room. The green room, you better watch
• 34:36
  Speaker 2: who's in there. Because in your green room is where
• 34:40
  Speaker 2: you share your secrets. In your green room is where
• 34:44
  Speaker 2: you can gain strength. Or lose strength. This is so powerful.
• 34:50
  Speaker 2: I think too many people have allowed people in their
• 34:54
  Speaker 2: green room that have no business hearing their secrets. Okay.
• 34:59
  Speaker 2: So if me and you were going to go travel
• 35:02
  Speaker 2: and I was about to go speak to 30,000 people,
• 35:05
  Speaker 2: one thing you will always see about me is, you
• 35:08
  Speaker 2: know this about me anyway, I can be very focused.
• 35:10
  Speaker 3: Mm-hmm.
• 35:11
  Speaker 2: I don't want people in there that are sapping my strength,
• 35:15
  Speaker 2: sapping my energy, right? Saying, are you nervous? Wow, the
• 35:20
  Speaker 2: crowd doesn't seem that excited. Are you nervous? Tony Robbins
• 35:24
  Speaker 2: just spoke. He did so well. Are you nervous now?
• 35:28
  Speaker 2: I don't need that. I need people that are going
• 35:31
  Speaker 2: to stir me up. Yeah. that are really people that
• 35:34
  Speaker 2: are on my side. So we have to push people
• 35:37
  Speaker 2: back from our green room, take them back to friends
• 35:41
  Speaker 2: and family, and then bring them all the way back
• 35:44
  Speaker 2: to the acquaintance. There should be very few people in
• 35:47
  Speaker 2: your green room. Wow.
• 35:48
  Speaker 1: Okay. That's amazing. So speaking of something like that, you've
• 35:53
  Speaker 1: worked with Kanye West before.
• 35:55
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: What's going on with him?
• 35:57
  Speaker 2: Yeah. So I think, number one, I love him like
• 36:01
  Speaker 2: a little brother. So we met on an airplane in 2006.
• 36:05
  Speaker 2: And at that time, he was big, but he wasn't
• 36:09
  Speaker 2: as big as he was about to become. Okay. So
• 36:12
  Speaker 2: I got to know an innocent, more innocent version of
• 36:15
  Speaker 2: Kanye and literally got to see the genius nonstop from
• 36:21
  Speaker 2: 2006 to the present. Mm-hmm. I think that it's like
• 36:26
  Speaker 2: you say in life that there are seasons. And there's
• 36:30
  Speaker 2: no doubt about it that after his mother, Donda, passed,
• 36:33
  Speaker 2: who was very kind to me and I would consider
• 36:35
  Speaker 2: a friend of mine. I was at her funeral. I
• 36:39
  Speaker 2: think that something happened to him that triggered him. and
• 36:44
  Speaker 2: challenged him. And I do think that he will be
• 36:48
  Speaker 2: wise enough to continue to seek the help that he
• 36:52
  Speaker 2: needs because we all need to seek help at one
• 36:56
  Speaker 2: point or another. So I love him like a little
• 36:59
  Speaker 2: brother and I'm looking forward to his comeback.
• 37:02
  Speaker 1: So do you think that that trauma, obviously that gave
• 37:05
  Speaker 1: him a setback and he may still be stuck in
• 37:08
  Speaker 1: that and he doesn't realize, but with someone like that,
• 37:10
  Speaker 1: how much of their sort of genius... is about being
• 37:15
  Speaker 1: in that setback because you create music and you do
• 37:17
  Speaker 1: all this stuff, but then it also can trigger all
• 37:20
  Speaker 1: sorts of mental issues.
• 37:21
  Speaker 2: Yes. Actually, that is a great statement that you make
• 37:25
  Speaker 2: because they look at people like John Lennon and they
• 37:29
  Speaker 2: say that he was always kind of in a state
• 37:32
  Speaker 2: that was interesting. Same with David Bowie in the early years.
• 37:36
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 37:37
  Speaker 2: Prince, very much so.
• 37:39
  Speaker 3: Yeah, right.
• 37:40
  Speaker 2: So you're saying something that is so true.
• 37:42
  Speaker 1: And they say comedians, too, are some of the most
• 37:45
  Speaker 1: depressed people, which you would never know.
• 37:48
  Speaker 2: So I think that you can have that kind of
• 37:56
  Speaker 2: creative– where you're in a place of being undone, but
• 38:03
  Speaker 2: I think it's the chaos that creates the problem. And
• 38:08
  Speaker 2: so I think for Kanye, I think with all his
• 38:11
  Speaker 2: friends who love him, because I've talked to so many
• 38:15
  Speaker 2: people that... you know, everyone would know their names, that
• 38:18
  Speaker 2: love him so much that are celebrities, but yet he's
• 38:21
  Speaker 2: kind of shut them out for a season. He's got
• 38:24
  Speaker 2: to let those people back in the green room because
• 38:26
  Speaker 2: the chaos is not good. Yeah. And that's what's causing
• 38:29
  Speaker 2: the challenge.
• 38:30
  Speaker 1: I want to ask you about that. Do you think
• 38:32
  Speaker 1: that chaos is a lot of the problem that everyday
• 38:35
  Speaker 1: people can find in their life because there's too much
• 38:38
  Speaker 1: chaos around and they need to find a place of
• 38:40
  Speaker 1: peace to understand how to find their purpose?
• 38:43
  Speaker 2: 100%. So what happens is that I wrote this book
• 38:49
  Speaker 2: called The Miracle Mentality, which is about thinking bigger. And
• 38:53
  Speaker 2: I say in this book that people usually live in
• 38:55
  Speaker 2: these stages, the mundane, which so many people are caught
• 38:59
  Speaker 2: in the mundane, where they could think, I'm marrying the
• 39:02
  Speaker 2: person of my dreams, and then five years later, it's
• 39:06
  Speaker 2: very mundane, which is very normal, very regular. So people
• 39:11
  Speaker 2: live in these stages, and that is the mundane, the messy...
• 39:16
  Speaker 2: The messy means disheveled. We've met a lot of people
• 39:19
  Speaker 2: that are messy in their mind and in their movements.
• 39:22
  Speaker 2: You have the mundane, the messy, but then you have
• 39:24
  Speaker 2: the madness. That madness is that state that we're talking
• 39:28
  Speaker 2: about now, but there's a lot of people... watching right
• 39:30
  Speaker 2: now you are in a state of madness right there's
• 39:34
  Speaker 2: so much going on right right so many images so
• 39:37
  Speaker 2: many thoughts and you have to find a way to
• 39:40
  Speaker 2: come down from that madness.
• 39:41
  Speaker 1: Right Something that I love that you talk about is
• 39:45
  Speaker 1: something that has really resonated with me, but something happens
• 39:49
  Speaker 1: in your life, whether or not you've created that or
• 39:51
  Speaker 1: it's been put upon you, where they are stuck in
• 39:56
  Speaker 1: the what happened, right? They're stuck in that event. And
• 39:59
  Speaker 1: they go through life as a discount version of themselves.
• 40:02
  Speaker 1: Talk about that thought process and how to get out
• 40:05
  Speaker 1: of it.
• 40:05
  Speaker 2: I love... I feel like you have done... The remake
• 40:10
  Speaker 2: of the discount version of yourself because you're using that
• 40:14
  Speaker 2: on certain interviews and it's so you. Yeah. Please continue
• 40:18
  Speaker 2: to talk about that.
• 40:19
  Speaker 1: But I love that concept because it really resonates with me.
• 40:22
  Speaker 2: So I think that what happens is that someone can
• 40:26
  Speaker 2: be riding high in life and then they have that setback.
• 40:31
  Speaker 1: That interruption.
• 40:32
  Speaker 2: That life interruption.
• 40:33
  Speaker 3: Mm-hmm.
• 40:34
  Speaker 2: And now they become a discount version of themselves. Now,
• 40:39
  Speaker 2: when you think of discount, think of going into a
• 40:43
  Speaker 2: nice department store and you've been marked down, but you've
• 40:50
  Speaker 2: been marked down again and maybe marked down the third time.
• 40:54
  Speaker 2: So when I see discount version of yourself, I don't
• 40:56
  Speaker 2: even see a single markdown. I see somebody allowing themselves
• 41:01
  Speaker 2: to continually be marked down in life. Mm-hmm.
• 41:05
  Speaker 1: And then how would you suggest to people that are
• 41:08
  Speaker 1: feeling like that or that resonates with to take that
• 41:11
  Speaker 1: first step to move into their second act, to get
• 41:14
  Speaker 1: out of being stuck in that first act?
• 41:16
  Speaker 2: Yes. Okay. So one of the ways to do that
• 41:20
  Speaker 2: is somehow, some way you have to find your value again.
• 41:27
  Speaker 2: Where's my value now? who knows that I'm valuable? Is
• 41:32
  Speaker 2: it an old friend? Is it a school teacher? Is
• 41:35
  Speaker 2: it my mother? Do I have to go find my father?
• 41:38
  Speaker 2: Who knows that I'm valuable? So this is what I
• 41:42
  Speaker 2: do when I coach people and they say, Tim, I
• 41:45
  Speaker 2: feel like I'm stuck in that place. And I said,
• 41:48
  Speaker 2: we need to find somebody who knows you're valuable.
• 41:52
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 41:52
  Speaker 2: Isn't that powerful?
• 41:53
  Speaker 1: Yes.
• 41:53
  Speaker 2: Very. Like somebody that doesn't see you as just Rachel or,
• 41:58
  Speaker 2: who has been in all these headlines and who is
• 42:02
  Speaker 2: this person that now has this amazing podcast. But she's
• 42:08
  Speaker 2: little Rachel at 11 with big dreams.
• 42:10
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 42:11
  Speaker 1: Who has the ability to shout like you like to
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: talk about.
• 42:14
  Speaker 2: Exactly.
• 42:14
  Speaker 1: Tell people about that concept because I love that too.
• 42:16
  Speaker 2: Man, I love the shout. And you see it in
• 42:19
  Speaker 2: your daughter that like when you have your daughter and
• 42:23
  Speaker 2: her little friends over, You never have to come into
• 42:26
  Speaker 2: kids' rooms that are having fun. Itching.
• 42:29
  Speaker 3: Burning.
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• 42:48
  Speaker 2: Fun and say, you know, pump up the volume. Right.
• 42:51
  Speaker 2: Because they're shouting. Yes, right. It's more like, okay, girls,
• 42:54
  Speaker 2: let's bring it down a notch. You know, it's almost
• 42:57
  Speaker 2: one in the morning. Yeah. Okay. So I say that
• 43:02
  Speaker 2: life starts with a shout. Even when a child comes
• 43:05
  Speaker 2: out of the mother's womb, there's a shout. Kids on
• 43:08
  Speaker 2: the playground, there's a shout. Yeah. Man, I see little
• 43:11
  Speaker 2: kids at the airport and their parents look so miserable
• 43:14
  Speaker 2: and the kids are just like feeling it. They're shouting,
• 43:17
  Speaker 2: they're dancing, they're skipping. But life can knock the shout
• 43:21
  Speaker 2: out of you.
• 43:22
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 43:22
  Speaker 1: It really can.
• 43:23
  Speaker 2: It can damn knock the shout out of you, but
• 43:26
  Speaker 2: you can get your shout back.
• 43:29
  Speaker 1: Yeah, right. So, and how would you suggest for people
• 43:33
  Speaker 1: that are older that don't want to be skipping down
• 43:35
  Speaker 1: the street to find that in themselves?
• 43:38
  Speaker 2: I have the perfect answer you're going to love. Okay,
• 43:41
  Speaker 2: just like we can trigger ourselves into a bad place,
• 43:45
  Speaker 2: I trigger myself every day into a good place. So
• 43:48
  Speaker 2: I'm going to give you a couple of my ways.
• 43:51
  Speaker 2: I love Motown music because it reminds me of Little
• 43:56
  Speaker 2: Timmy from Comptons.
• 43:57
  Speaker 1: Amazing.
• 43:58
  Speaker 2: So this morning already, I listened to Motown music. So
• 44:02
  Speaker 2: I listened to... Stevie Wonder. I listened to the Supremes.
• 44:06
  Speaker 2: I listened to Smokey Robinson. I listened to the Jackson five. Okay.
• 44:10
  Speaker 2: Before they were the Jacksons and then Michael Jackson. So
• 44:13
  Speaker 2: seven days a week, Rachel, I trigger myself with motel music.
• 44:17
  Speaker 2: I promise you.
• 44:18
  Speaker 1: I love that.
• 44:18
  Speaker 2: So that brings the shout back.
• 44:20
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 44:21
  Speaker 2: So instead of waking up and going, oh my gosh,
• 44:25
  Speaker 2: I love being me, but I'm scheduled from seven in
• 44:28
  Speaker 2: the morning to 10 at night. Right. Cause that could
• 44:31
  Speaker 2: be overwhelming. I instantly trigger myself. When I hear that music, Rachel,
• 44:38
  Speaker 2: it takes me back. Okay. So if I wanted to trigger,
• 44:41
  Speaker 2: trigger little Rachel with music, what would we be playing?
• 44:46
  Speaker 1: That's easy. That would be wham. George Michael. It would
• 44:50
  Speaker 1: be Michael Jackson.
• 44:51
  Speaker 2: I love it.
• 44:52
  Speaker 1: And Whitney Houston. Those are my, that takes me back. Okay.
• 44:56
  Speaker 2: Let's think wham for a second. Okay. Cause those guys
• 44:59
  Speaker 2: were both handsome.
• 45:00
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 45:01
  Speaker 2: And, So if you heard a Wham song, It would
• 45:06
  Speaker 2: trigger you in what way? Make you feel what? Make
• 45:08
  Speaker 2: you feel? Happy.
• 45:09
  Speaker 1: I mean, I would just probably start singing along. I'd
• 45:12
  Speaker 1: bob my head.
• 45:13
  Speaker 2: Okay. You know?
• 45:14
  Speaker 1: And I feel like I probably would stop thinking about
• 45:17
  Speaker 1: what I was doing.
• 45:18
  Speaker 3: Yes.
• 45:18
  Speaker 1: And I would, like, goof around. I would get goofy.
• 45:20
  Speaker 3: Yes.
• 45:20
  Speaker 2: You know what I mean? Okay. So I trigger myself
• 45:22
  Speaker 2: through music. Mm-hmm. Because we're talking about how to get
• 45:25
  Speaker 2: your shout back. Yeah. Another thing I teach even, like,
• 45:28
  Speaker 2: super powerful people, I say, what were your favorite shows
• 45:32
  Speaker 2: when you were a kid?
• 45:34
  Speaker 3: Mm-hmm.
• 45:34
  Speaker 2: Did you like cartoons? And almost every person will say yes.
• 45:39
  Speaker 2: And I'll say your assignment for this week is I
• 45:43
  Speaker 2: want you to watch several episodes of The Flintstones or
• 45:48
  Speaker 2: I Love Lucy. And they go, Tim, that's a dumb assignment.
• 45:52
  Speaker 2: And then they come back and they go, whoa, you're good. Right.
• 45:55
  Speaker 2: I watched I Love Lucy and it triggered me back. To, like,
• 46:00
  Speaker 2: happier days.
• 46:01
  Speaker 1: Right, right. Okay, so that's a good assignment for people.
• 46:05
  Speaker 1: What are some tangible daily routines you would suggest for
• 46:09
  Speaker 1: people that they can get started on tomorrow to sort
• 46:13
  Speaker 1: of get them in a more calm, peaceful mindset to
• 46:16
  Speaker 1: get out of being stuck?
• 46:18
  Speaker 2: Okay, so, and out of this... messy madness state.
• 46:23
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 46:24
  Speaker 2: So I would say this, I really do believe in
• 46:27
  Speaker 2: the whole Brene Brown, Oprah Winfrey gratitude side of life. Okay.
• 46:34
  Speaker 2: And you're into this too.
• 46:35
  Speaker 1: Yeah, totally.
• 46:35
  Speaker 3: Okay.
• 46:36
  Speaker 2: So I like to really wake up and think of
• 46:42
  Speaker 2: several things I am just grateful for. Okay. And I
• 46:46
  Speaker 2: do little things like I'm breathing. Then I put my
• 46:51
  Speaker 2: feet off the bed. I'm like, I can get up.
• 46:54
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 46:55
  Speaker 2: It's like I'm looking for the little things. Okay.
• 46:58
  Speaker 1: By the way, I want to say something on that subject.
• 47:00
  Speaker 1: A lot of people don't realize how grateful they should
• 47:03
  Speaker 1: be for their health.
• 47:05
  Speaker 2: Yes, 100%.
• 47:05
  Speaker 1: I think that's something that as we get older, we realize.
• 47:10
  Speaker 1: And I mean, I'm grateful for my health. And I
• 47:15
  Speaker 1: feel like you don't have to wait till you're 80
• 47:16
  Speaker 1: to say things like that.
• 47:17
  Speaker 2: You have so hit something that is like awesome because
• 47:21
  Speaker 2: I told a friend yesterday, I said, I remember when
• 47:24
  Speaker 2: old people would say to each other, At least you're healthy.
• 47:27
  Speaker 1: Right. And you would roll your eyes like whatever.
• 47:30
  Speaker 2: What are they talking about? Yeah. Who's not healthy? Right.
• 47:33
  Speaker 2: But you're right. In the gratitude list, it should be
• 47:37
  Speaker 2: that you woke up, that you're healthy enough. Yeah. Right.
• 47:42
  Speaker 2: Or I'm getting healthier. So I think the gratitude idea
• 47:46
  Speaker 2: is one. The other thing that I do on purpose,
• 47:49
  Speaker 2: and you know that I'm a good texter. Yeah. Is
• 47:51
  Speaker 2: that I will text five people. Every morning, something positive. Oh, wow.
• 47:57
  Speaker 2: Five people every morning. something positive.
• 48:01
  Speaker 1: I love that.
• 48:01
  Speaker 2: And it, and it even throws off some of these
• 48:03
  Speaker 2: really powerful men that we know because they're not used
• 48:06
  Speaker 2: to that. Like another man saying, Hey, just thinking about you.
• 48:10
  Speaker 2: Hope you have a great day. Life is good.
• 48:13
  Speaker 1: Right. And then do they say what's wrong?
• 48:15
  Speaker 2: Yes. And one guy, one guy like three days ago said,
• 48:18
  Speaker 2: is everything okay?
• 48:20
  Speaker 1: God, that's so great.
• 48:22
  Speaker 2: So I think the gratitude, but I think that to
• 48:24
  Speaker 2: me that is like, showing my gratitude forward or paying
• 48:30
  Speaker 2: it forward. And so I really like this idea of
• 48:34
  Speaker 2: like that power text. Do you like this idea?
• 48:36
  Speaker 1: I love that idea. And you're also giving to other
• 48:39
  Speaker 1: people without being asked to. And that has a lot
• 48:42
  Speaker 1: of power, you know, to be able to pay it forward,
• 48:45
  Speaker 1: so to speak. We've been talking about a lot of
• 48:47
  Speaker 1: things that are, we're stuck in our mind, but what
• 48:50
  Speaker 1: about people that are stuck in addiction? Whatever that may be,
• 48:54
  Speaker 1: whether it's love addiction to drugs, to sex, whatever it is,
• 48:58
  Speaker 1: but those are diseases. So how would you suggest getting
• 49:02
  Speaker 1: out of that kind of problem?
• 49:04
  Speaker 2: Number one, I'm talking to a master because I'm not
• 49:10
  Speaker 2: friends with Dr. Drew like you are. I mean, you know,
• 49:13
  Speaker 2: like everybody in the addiction space and you've done such
• 49:17
  Speaker 2: a deep dive. And in my opinion, you've helped a
• 49:20
  Speaker 2: lot of people in this space. And I think that
• 49:23
  Speaker 2: that's part of what this podcast is about is also
• 49:26
  Speaker 2: helping people understand That are even stuck in addiction.
• 49:29
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 49:30
  Speaker 2: I like to look at it this way. When I'm
• 49:32
  Speaker 2: working with somebody who is struggling with addiction, which I
• 49:35
  Speaker 2: have a lot of clients struggling with addiction, I'm not
• 49:38
  Speaker 2: looking for them to be cured.
• 49:40
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 49:40
  Speaker 2: To be cured. I want you to be better. Yeah.
• 49:44
  Speaker 2: If you think of being cured, you're going to get
• 49:46
  Speaker 2: super frustrated. Right. Don't you think so?
• 49:49
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 49:49
  Speaker 1: And it's also a lot of work and it seems
• 49:51
  Speaker 1: way far out there.
• 49:52
  Speaker 2: Way far out. But you can get better in a day.
• 49:56
  Speaker 2: Then you can get better the next day.
• 49:58
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 49:58
  Speaker 2: And then you can feel better the next day.
• 49:59
  Speaker 1: And it's about choices.
• 50:01
  Speaker 2: 100%.
• 50:01
  Speaker 1: And making that being in the moment, like we talked
• 50:04
  Speaker 1: about before, and making the choices to do what's right
• 50:07
  Speaker 1: for you.
• 50:08
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 50:08
  Speaker 1: I also have come to see that a lot of.
• 50:12
  Speaker 1: Things that help addicts or myself included, is realizing the problem,
• 50:19
  Speaker 1: realizing what is so hurtful to me or upsetting that
• 50:23
  Speaker 1: someone needs to be in whatever addiction they're in. And
• 50:26
  Speaker 1: once they can... acknowledge that, be educated in themselves of
• 50:31
  Speaker 1: why they choose to do that or what they're feeling
• 50:34
  Speaker 1: that they go to the drugs or the other human
• 50:38
  Speaker 1: that they're associating with, that can be really helpful.
• 50:41
  Speaker 2: Yes. And I think that that's where the power of
• 50:43
  Speaker 2: partnership comes in. And there's a statement you're going to love.
• 50:47
  Speaker 2: When you're deceived, you don't know you're deceived because you're deceived.
• 50:53
  Speaker 2: So we both know a lot of people that are
• 50:56
  Speaker 2: deceived because Presently.
• 50:58
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 50:59
  Speaker 2: Yeah. But they don't know they're deceived because they're deceived.
• 51:02
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 51:03
  Speaker 2: So sometimes it takes a real green room friend to
• 51:07
  Speaker 2: shake you a little bit and say, this is really
• 51:10
  Speaker 2: not you. Right. You know, you really shouldn't be up
• 51:14
  Speaker 2: to this. Right. And the power of partnership. is so
• 51:19
  Speaker 2: important in that, in shaking somebody a little bit and
• 51:23
  Speaker 2: letting them know that that's not the best version of them.
• 51:27
  Speaker 1: Right, right. So what would you say, for people listening,
• 51:30
  Speaker 1: is the one thing that is the most important, out
• 51:32
  Speaker 1: of all these things we've talked about, how they could
• 51:35
  Speaker 1: get started today, making the right decision towards a new path?
• 51:39
  Speaker 2: I think you have to get tired of being tired.
• 51:43
  Speaker 2: So it's almost like somebody who starts to feel like
• 51:45
  Speaker 2: they're gaining energy you know, five pounds, and then it
• 51:49
  Speaker 2: went to 10 pounds and then it's 15 pounds. I
• 51:52
  Speaker 2: want you to feel tired of being tired.
• 51:56
  Speaker 1: Right. And what would be an assignment that you would
• 51:59
  Speaker 1: give them? That's a tangible assignment that they can say, Oh,
• 52:02
  Speaker 1: I'm going to do this.
• 52:03
  Speaker 2: Okay. So I want, I want them to be aware
• 52:07
  Speaker 2: of what the heck is happening to their life.
• 52:09
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 52:09
  Speaker 2: So if they If they go to the restroom at
• 52:13
  Speaker 2: a restaurant and they look at themselves and go, what
• 52:17
  Speaker 2: the heck? I look bloated. I drank 13 days in
• 52:21
  Speaker 2: a row. Don't forget that picture and get to the
• 52:26
  Speaker 2: point where you really don't like it. I think most
• 52:30
  Speaker 2: people really change when they get tired of being tired
• 52:35
  Speaker 2: and they say enough is enough. It happened in your life.
• 52:38
  Speaker 2: It's happened in my life where I just said, I'm
• 52:41
  Speaker 2: not going to be like a lower income person from
• 52:45
  Speaker 2: the inner city and blame people because my father passed away. No,
• 52:50
  Speaker 2: I'm going to get the hell up and out. And
• 52:53
  Speaker 2: become very assertive and have the fight. Yeah.
• 52:56
  Speaker 1: And I think it's important for people to remember not
• 52:58
  Speaker 1: to be discouraged because they think they're so far in
• 53:01
  Speaker 1: one direction.
• 53:02
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 53:02
  Speaker 1: Because it just takes a day at a time to
• 53:05
  Speaker 1: move forward. The weight will come off. The bad friends
• 53:08
  Speaker 1: will dissipate. You know, like all these things you can change.
• 53:12
  Speaker 1: And even if you feel so far gone, you can
• 53:16
  Speaker 1: always get back to being who you are.
• 53:18
  Speaker 2: So one of my favorite characteristics of who you are
• 53:22
  Speaker 2: is that you are a fighter. Okay. And you have
• 53:26
  Speaker 2: to be a fighter if you're going to make it
• 53:27
  Speaker 2: in this world. Yeah. Because you have the sight to
• 53:30
  Speaker 2: a great life. Everybody has a sight. Like, oh, my God,
• 53:32
  Speaker 2: I see it. It's going to manifest. Probably not. Because
• 53:35
  Speaker 2: you've got to have the sight, but you have to
• 53:38
  Speaker 2: have the fight.
• 53:38
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 53:39
  Speaker 2: You have to have that grit, right?
• 53:41
  Speaker 3: Yes.
• 53:41
  Speaker 2: That you just go, boom, I'm getting back up. Someone's
• 53:44
  Speaker 2: trying to sue me, but I'm going to get back up.
• 53:46
  Speaker 2: Someone's trying to lie about me, but I'm going to
• 53:48
  Speaker 2: get back up. That's a characteristic that is so deep
• 53:52
  Speaker 2: inside of you, but it's so essential to be the
• 53:57
  Speaker 2: person that you're supposed to be.
• 53:59
  Speaker 1: And I think that's really important because I really have
• 54:01
  Speaker 1: come to depend on myself for that fight. A lot
• 54:04
  Speaker 1: of people, I think, depend on other people to build
• 54:07
  Speaker 1: them up or to give them the answers. even to
• 54:09
  Speaker 1: go to a therapist and have them give them the answers.
• 54:12
  Speaker 1: I've found that what works best for me is when
• 54:15
  Speaker 1: I have the fight for me and I, I put
• 54:18
  Speaker 1: it all in myself and I'm not taking other people's
• 54:21
  Speaker 1: advice and doing just that. Like all of that helps,
• 54:24
  Speaker 1: but you have to stand on your own two feet
• 54:26
  Speaker 1: and make those decisions.
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  Speaker 2: I like that. And that's part of taking inventory where
• 54:29
  Speaker 2: people take inventory and they say to themselves, you know,
• 54:33
  Speaker 2: inside of me is resilience, right? There is something inside
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  Speaker 2: of me that wants to bounce back.
• 54:39
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 54:40
  Speaker 2: And then I can do this. It's a Whitney Houston
• 54:43
  Speaker 2: song that says, I didn't know my own strength. I mean,
• 54:47
  Speaker 2: how many times have you been there where you're like, oh, man,
• 54:50
  Speaker 2: I'm kind of overwhelmed.
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  Speaker 3: Right.
• 54:52
  Speaker 2: But then. That fight came in you. It's like, I
• 54:55
  Speaker 2: didn't know my own strength. So for all you that
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  Speaker 2: are watching right now, you don't know your own strength sometimes,
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  Speaker 2: but the strength really is there.
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  Speaker 3: Right.
• 55:03
  Speaker 1: And how important do you think forgiveness is of yourself,
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  Speaker 1: but of other people too, to be able to move
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  Speaker 1: forward and let go of some of those chains that
• 55:13
  Speaker 1: hold people back?
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  Speaker 2: So what a great question. So watch. If you don't
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  Speaker 2: forgive and forget and go forward... So what? Forgive, forget,
• 55:24
  Speaker 2: go forward. You will retain, continue to remember, and you
• 55:30
  Speaker 2: will continue to regress. So it's a choice. You have
• 55:35
  Speaker 2: to forgive, forget, and go forward, or you're going to
• 55:38
  Speaker 2: continue to go back.
• 55:40
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 55:41
  Speaker 2: You have to learn to forgive other people.
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  Speaker 1: Okay?
• 55:44
  Speaker 2: Doesn't mean you bring them back to your green room. Yeah. Okay?
• 55:48
  Speaker 2: But you really need to learn to forgive your own self.
• 55:52
  Speaker 2: I have learned to forgive my own self. Right.
• 55:54
  Speaker 1: It's such a powerful thing to know. Because even for me,
• 55:58
  Speaker 1: I have issues where I, you know, I'm stuck with
• 56:02
  Speaker 1: not forgiving other people for what I feel like they
• 56:05
  Speaker 1: did to me.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 56:06
  Speaker 1: You know, and I have to make it about me.
• 56:09
  Speaker 1: I have to take responsibility for my stuff. And I
• 56:11
  Speaker 1: think that's really important for people to realize. Stop putting
• 56:14
  Speaker 1: the blame on other people.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And forgive, move on. And sometimes it's about forgiving yourself. Mm-hmm.
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  Speaker 1: And people, you know, have... placed way too much blame
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  Speaker 1: on other people when they should be looking within.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 56:26
  Speaker 2: And I think also, Rachel, that if you look at
• 56:28
  Speaker 2: the people that have hurt us in the past, I
• 56:31
  Speaker 2: don't think a lot of them were healthy people. Yeah.
• 56:34
  Speaker 2: And so it's this idea of hurt people hurt people.
• 56:37
  Speaker 2: And so why do I want to wish somebody bad
• 56:42
  Speaker 2: when they're already spiraling? If you really took inventory of
• 56:45
  Speaker 2: who's hurt you in the past, it's hurt people hurting people,
• 56:49
  Speaker 2: even if they had a lot of money or had
• 56:51
  Speaker 2: a lot of power. Yeah. They're still hurt people, but
• 56:55
  Speaker 2: isn't it a beautiful thing to be more healthy as
• 56:59
  Speaker 2: we are now? Right. Right. More awake, more aware. Yeah.
• 57:03
  Speaker 2: Going forward, being so excited about what's next.
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  Speaker 3: Yep.
• 57:08
  Speaker 2: Because as you know, I always teach this. We go
• 57:10
  Speaker 2: through recovery and discovery at the same time. Right. I mean,
• 57:13
  Speaker 2: the beauty is who knows what's going to happen by
• 57:16
  Speaker 2: the end of this year for both of our lives. Right.
• 57:19
  Speaker 1: And I think that's really important to get into about
• 57:22
  Speaker 1: how people can have a purpose now, but then in
• 57:26
  Speaker 1: a year it could be a different purpose. And there's
• 57:28
  Speaker 1: always a chance to keep renewing, growing, coming up with
• 57:31
  Speaker 1: different ideas that make you a better person. For you,
• 57:34
  Speaker 1: where do you see things going in the future?
• 57:36
  Speaker 2: I think that for me, you know this term. A
• 57:40
  Speaker 2: friend of mine said recently, Tim's story plays with house money.
• 57:46
  Speaker 2: So I think that what I have been allowed to
• 57:51
  Speaker 2: do and become is so beyond my own expectations. 78
• 57:56
  Speaker 2: countries of the world, speaking to as high as 85,000
• 57:59
  Speaker 2: people at a time, and the things that I get
• 58:01
  Speaker 2: to do. So I feel like I'm playing with house money.
• 58:04
  Speaker 2: So to me, I want to go even more after
• 58:08
  Speaker 2: the underdog. Yeah. So my new things as I've been
• 58:12
  Speaker 2: going into a lot of orphanages, but I've been doing
• 58:16
  Speaker 2: something really interesting in going to a lot of mental
• 58:18
  Speaker 2: institutions because that's where a lot of people think they're
• 58:22
  Speaker 2: just finished.
• 58:23
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 58:24
  Speaker 2: Hell no, they're not.
• 58:25
  Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah.
• 58:26
  Speaker 2: I go in there and I'm seeing results.
• 58:28
  Speaker 1: Oh, I love that.
• 58:28
  Speaker 2: I tell them funny stories, interesting stories. I play music
• 58:32
  Speaker 2: that I think they're going to like. And some of
• 58:35
  Speaker 2: the people that are working there start to weep and
• 58:37
  Speaker 2: they go, oh my God, this guy has never responded
• 58:41
  Speaker 2: to anybody. Wow. Because they're still a human being and
• 58:44
  Speaker 2: they're still alive.
• 58:44
  Speaker 1: But they've been labeled for so long. And a lot
• 58:47
  Speaker 1: of those people play into that label because no one's
• 58:49
  Speaker 1: believed in them. And that is so amazing that you
• 58:52
  Speaker 1: go in there and give them a chance to Heck yes.
• 58:54
  Speaker 1: To connect with you when so many people have just
• 58:56
  Speaker 1: given them up and thrown them in these places.
• 58:58
  Speaker 2: Yeah, so this is what I'm after. I mean, I
• 59:00
  Speaker 2: get to do all these little fancy things that I
• 59:02
  Speaker 2: get to do, but I'm really going after the underdog
• 59:06
  Speaker 2: like never before because I can afford to do it.
• 59:10
  Speaker 2: I can make time to do it. And so to me,
• 59:13
  Speaker 2: that's what I want to do. My vision is to
• 59:16
  Speaker 2: see other people's vision come to pass. That's what I
• 59:19
  Speaker 2: want to do.
• 59:21
  Speaker 1: So lastly, I just want to ask you, what would
• 59:23
  Speaker 1: you say is the most misunderstood thing about where we
• 59:28
  Speaker 1: are in our lives that people can say, all right,
• 59:31
  Speaker 1: you know, how can I get out of this? What's
• 59:34
  Speaker 1: misunderstood about me? And where can we go from here?
• 59:37
  Speaker 2: I think that part of the big problem of the
• 59:42
  Speaker 2: misunderstanding of life is this ideal of what we think
• 59:48
  Speaker 2: life is supposed to be like. It's an ideal.
• 59:51
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 59:52
  Speaker 1: And success, probably, too.
• 59:53
  Speaker 2: And success. So it's like this. Let's say you're in
• 59:56
  Speaker 2: fifth grade, and then we're like, oh, my gosh, it's
• 59:58
  Speaker 2: going to be awesome. It's summertime. No school for the
• 1:00:03
  Speaker 2: whole summer. Okay? That's what you think for maybe the
• 1:00:07
  Speaker 2: first week. But then maybe you start missing your friends. Yeah.
• 1:00:11
  Speaker 2: Or maybe your parents are working, and you're finding yourself
• 1:00:14
  Speaker 2: at home. So it's not how you thought. Yeah. So
• 1:00:18
  Speaker 2: I think this idea of life... You said it so
• 1:00:23
  Speaker 2: perfectly in the middle of the interview. Life is seasons.
• 1:00:27
  Speaker 2: It's winter. It's spring. It's summer. It's fall. But it's
• 1:00:33
  Speaker 2: all beautiful. Right. So getting realistic, I'm very realistic about life.
• 1:00:39
  Speaker 2: I used to be a jogger. Now I'm a fast walker.
• 1:00:43
  Speaker 2: I'm realistic.
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 1:00:45
  Speaker 2: OK? So when I was younger, I would run forever.
• 1:00:49
  Speaker 2: Now I walk forever. And it's just reality. Yeah. Yeah.
• 1:00:54
  Speaker 1: And I think that's really important what you said is
• 1:00:56
  Speaker 1: that there are different seasons. It's okay to have ups
• 1:00:59
  Speaker 1: and downs.
• 1:00:59
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 1:01:00
  Speaker 1: There are new days. Every day is a new day.
• 1:01:02
  Speaker 1: Every day you can make a choice. And the greatest
• 1:01:06
  Speaker 1: setback can give you the greatest comeback. And no one
• 1:01:09
  Speaker 1: is down and out.
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 2: 100%.
• 1:01:11
  Speaker 1: And everyone deserves a second chance.
• 1:01:13
  Speaker 2: You are an amazing comeback coach.
• 1:01:16
  Speaker 3: Thank you.
• 1:01:16
  Speaker 1: Well, I'm learning from the best. So where can people
• 1:01:19
  Speaker 1: connect with you so that they can either go to
• 1:01:21
  Speaker 1: one of your sermons, one of your events, or even
• 1:01:25
  Speaker 1: work with you one-on-one?
• 1:01:26
  Speaker 2: So timstory.com.
• 1:01:28
  Speaker 4: Okay.
• 1:01:29
  Speaker 2: So you guys will put it there. Yeah, of course. Timstory.com,
• 1:01:32
  Speaker 2: and you'll see what we're up to. So I'm on tour.
• 1:01:36
  Speaker 2: There's a group called Aspire that I'm doing like a
• 1:01:40
  Speaker 2: lot of cities with them now. They have large crowds,
• 1:01:43
  Speaker 2: so I enjoy that. And then I speak for a
• 1:01:45
  Speaker 2: lot of other events, so I enjoy that. Great. So timstory.com.
• 1:01:49
  Speaker 1: And your Instagram is?
• 1:01:51
  Speaker 2: Is Tim Story official.
• 1:01:52
  Speaker 1: Got it.
• 1:01:53
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 1:01:53
  Speaker 3: Yes.
• 1:01:53
  Speaker 1: So everyone can follow you there. Do you look at
• 1:01:56
  Speaker 1: your DMs? I do. Do people reach out to you?
• 1:01:58
  Speaker 2: Yes. Yes. I look at my DMs, but I have
• 1:02:01
  Speaker 2: to say this because you know how much I love you. Yeah.
• 1:02:03
  Speaker 2: I'm so proud of you. I'm so proud of what
• 1:02:05
  Speaker 2: you're doing with this podcast.
• 1:02:06
  Speaker 3: Thank you.
• 1:02:07
  Speaker 2: Great name.
• 1:02:08
  Speaker 1: Thank you.
• 1:02:09
  Speaker 2: And it's working. You're changing lives.
• 1:02:11
  Speaker 1: Thank you. I appreciate it. Well, I owe a lot
• 1:02:14
  Speaker 1: to you. It's such an honor that you made this
• 1:02:16
  Speaker 1: trip for me. So I really appreciate it. I hope
• 1:02:18
  Speaker 1: that all of our listeners and watchers will get something
• 1:02:20
  Speaker 1: out of this and contact you if they need extra help.
• 1:02:23
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