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#HURDLEMOMENT: What Will You Let Go of in 2020? · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hey, Hurdler's Emily a body here checking in with another
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  Speaker 1: installment of Hurdle Moment from Hurdle, a podcast that talk
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  Speaker 1: to everyone from entrepreneurs to top CEOs and athletes about
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  Speaker 1: how they've gotten through tough times hurdles of sorts by
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  Speaker 1: leaning in to wellness. God, I just feel like there
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  Speaker 1: isn't enough time to do all the things I want
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  Speaker 1: to do lately.
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  Speaker 2: Can I get a name? Man?
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  Speaker 1: This week, I am going to be talking about the
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  Speaker 1: things we want to let go of going into the
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  Speaker 1: new year.
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  Speaker 2: Now.
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  Speaker 1: I can't take all of the credit for this subject.
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  Speaker 1: I went to a really awesome event of sorts I
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  Speaker 1: guess you could call it last week here in New
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  Speaker 1: York City, and that was called Medi Club. I will
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  Speaker 1: link to Medi Club in the details to this episode. Basically,
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  Speaker 1: what Medi Club is is a bunch of New Yorker
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  Speaker 1: getting together not just to meditate, but to communicate, to
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  Speaker 1: open up, to understand that it's.
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  Speaker 2: Okay to be vulnerable in front of other people.
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  Speaker 1: And there's just no better way to describe the once
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  Speaker 1: monthly meeting than special. At Medi Club, every month, someone
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  Speaker 1: gives what they call a share, and this month the
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  Speaker 1: share ended with a prompt posed to the attendees, which
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  Speaker 1: was what do you want to leave behind or maybe
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  Speaker 1: walk away from in twenty twenty. Now. It's so funny
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  Speaker 1: because I thought to myself, if this was two years ago,
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  Speaker 1: in twenty seventeen, I would have given you someone's name
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  Speaker 1: right like an ex boyfriend. But this year I did
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  Speaker 1: a lot more soul searching and I felt as though
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  Speaker 1: the answer that I came up with was satisfying, and
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  Speaker 1: I'm excited.
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  Speaker 2: To share it with you. Guys.
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  Speaker 1: I just want to throw a note in here. The
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  Speaker 1: holidays can be stressful and chaotic. Work is winding down
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  Speaker 1: for the year. You're probably trying to do everything at once.
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  Speaker 1: If you're anything like me and tackle what feels like everest,
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  Speaker 1: I want you to know that you're not alone, that
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  Speaker 1: we're all feeling a little bit stressed. I know I
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  Speaker 1: certainly am, and that we're going to make it through.
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  Speaker 1: The light is at the end of the tunnel. And
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  Speaker 1: if the new year December thirty first, January first is
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  Speaker 1: good for anything, as you know, it's the perfect time
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  Speaker 1: to start fresh, So no need to.
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  Speaker 2: Wait until jan one to jump start change.
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  Speaker 1: To feel inspired right now is just as good, So
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  Speaker 1: take a deep breath, let it out. I remember that
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  Speaker 1: we've got this at Emily Body at Hurdle podcast.
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  Speaker 2: And with that, let's get to hurdling. What do I
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  Speaker 2: want to let go of in twenty twenty?
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  Speaker 1: Like I said, it would be a lot easier just
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  Speaker 1: to say I want this person out of my life,
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  Speaker 1: or maybe something aesthetic like I want to lose a
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  Speaker 1: certain amount of weight.
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  Speaker 2: But you know me, my goals are a little bit
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  Speaker 2: more self development friendly.
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  Speaker 1: And so while I was sitting there inside of Escape
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  Speaker 1: where they held the med Club event, I was thinking
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  Speaker 1: about the things that make.
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  Speaker 2: Me frustrated, and what I realized was.
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  Speaker 1: That one of the biggest things that I felt held
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  Speaker 1: me back in twenty nineteen was self doubt. Right, we
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  Speaker 1: go through these periods where we set goals and we
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  Speaker 1: strive for them, and sometimes and aiming for these big,
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  Speaker 1: lofty ideas, we get scared and intimidated and almost second
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  Speaker 1: guess what we are capable of. The reality is And
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  Speaker 1: what I've seen this year is when I shoved self
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  Speaker 1: doubt to the side, I was truly able to reach
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  Speaker 1: for my full potential now. Of course, first and foremost
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  Speaker 1: a great example of this is with my t for Chicago.
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  Speaker 2: When I ran the.
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  Speaker 1: Chicago Marathon this year, I was including more speedwork than
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  Speaker 1: ever in my routine. I was hitting paces that I
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  Speaker 1: had never hit before. And that's because I stopped believing
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  Speaker 1: that I was just this one type of runner. I
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  Speaker 1: stopped believing that I was only capable of running as
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  Speaker 1: fast as possible at an eight minute mile, for example.
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  Speaker 1: When I stopped doubting myself, when I allowed myself to
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  Speaker 1: reach for more, that is when I accomplished more, and
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  Speaker 1: it was this really beautiful unlock for the things that
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  Speaker 1: I wanted outside of running as well. Think about your relationships,
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  Speaker 1: maybe even with dating, when you stop doubting what you
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  Speaker 1: have to offer, what you have to bring to the table,
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  Speaker 1: when you open yourself up and be authentic to who
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  Speaker 1: it is that you really are. Oftentimes when we're busy
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  Speaker 1: wondering am I good enough? Am I successful enough? Am
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  Speaker 1: I pretty enough? Is my body okay? Not even a
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  Speaker 1: question we should be asking ourselves. Right When we have
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  Speaker 1: these thoughts and allow in that negativity, it doesn't exactly
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  Speaker 1: set you up to find promising, uplifting relationships. What I
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  Speaker 1: will say about my last serious relationship back in twenty
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  Speaker 1: seventeen was that when I met this person, I was
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  Speaker 1: going through a time that I was feeling really empowered.
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  Speaker 1: I was really just getting my feet under me when
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  Speaker 1: it came to my freelance writing business. I remember showing
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  Speaker 1: up to that first date and my photo was in
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  Speaker 1: a magazine spread, and I was super amped about that.
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  Speaker 1: I was just not necessarily looking for anything. I was
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  Speaker 1: in a really good place with who I was. And
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  Speaker 1: so many times when I've sat down on a date,
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  Speaker 1: whether it was that date or another date, I come
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  Speaker 1: to the table with this understanding that I really want
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  Speaker 1: to be the best version of myself, and that in relationships,
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  Speaker 1: I want to meet someone who also feels that same way.
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  Speaker 1: I don't want it to be a fifty to fifty
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  Speaker 1: split where I need that person to be a better me.
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  Speaker 2: I want to be good.
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  Speaker 1: I want them to be good and together, well, then
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  Speaker 1: maybe we have the opportunity to level up. Anyway, I
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  Speaker 1: feel like I'm getting a little bit rambly. Basically, the
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  Speaker 1: point of this discussion, the point of all of this nonsense,
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  Speaker 1: the point of these words, is that in twenty twenty,
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  Speaker 1: I want to let go of this self doubt. I
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  Speaker 1: want to truly believe and I mean that with so
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  Speaker 1: much of my heart that I am capable and I
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  Speaker 1: am worthy. Now, I know it's not something that just
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  Speaker 1: happens overnight, but it can happen with the power of
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  Speaker 1: writing things down, saying things out loud, positive affirmations. Every
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  Speaker 1: day before I walk out of my apartment, I'm staring
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  Speaker 1: at them right now. I look at these two post
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  Speaker 1: its on the door. One of them says you can,
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  Speaker 1: you will to good. The second one says you are kind,
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  Speaker 1: you are capable, you are worthy, You've got this and
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  Speaker 1: so so when you start to say these things to yourself,
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  Speaker 1: when you truly do the work to believe that you
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  Speaker 1: have a lot to offer, that's when we have the
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  Speaker 1: opportunity to let go of that self doubt. Now, one
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  Speaker 1: other thing I definitely want to leave behind in twenty
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  Speaker 1: nineteen is I want to let go of this idea
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  Speaker 1: that I feel like I have to do it all now.
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  Speaker 1: Kind of like Therpie in a way, I feel as
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  Speaker 1: though I have to do it all sometimes because maybe
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  Speaker 1: I don't have the means to find someone else to help.
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  Speaker 2: Me do it.
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  Speaker 1: But the reality with that statement is that if I
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  Speaker 1: feel as though I don't have the means that just
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  Speaker 1: might be because I'm not prioritizing it or I'm not
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  Speaker 1: solution oriented. So I want to let go of feeling
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  Speaker 1: like I have to do it all. I feel like
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  Speaker 1: this is something that whenever I have dinner with a girlfriend,
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  Speaker 1: we totally commiserate on.
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  Speaker 2: You don't want to feel weak, you want to feel capable.
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  Speaker 2: You want to feel like you've got this right, and
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  Speaker 2: I can totally sympathize. The reality is is that sometimes
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  Speaker 2: you have to say no. Sometimes you have to think of.
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  Speaker 1: What your big goals are, what your values are, and
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  Speaker 1: when opportunities or situations arise that make you feel like
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  Speaker 1: you need to say yes, take a step back and
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  Speaker 1: ask yourself, where does this align with what it is
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  Speaker 1: that I want?
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  Speaker 2: Where does this align with my ultimate goals. It can be.
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  Speaker 1: Something as simple as someone asking you if you want
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  Speaker 1: to grab a drink after work when you know that
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  Speaker 1: you have laundry and errands and work and god knows
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  Speaker 1: what else to do before your head. It's the pillow.
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  Speaker 1: If you grab a drink with this person, then you
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  Speaker 1: probably won't be going to bed until maybe eleven thirty
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  Speaker 1: when it's all said and done, and then you have
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  Speaker 1: an early morning to the next day. Your day is
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  Speaker 1: going to start off on the wrong foot because you're overtired.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, one thing just waterfalls into the next, and
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  Speaker 1: before you know it, you're asking yourself, why did I
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  Speaker 1: say yes in the first place. So let me be
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  Speaker 1: the person tell you it's okay to say no. It's
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  Speaker 1: okay not to do it all instead of doing everything.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes it's just so much better. And this is a
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  Speaker 1: lesson that I am learning to.
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  Speaker 2: Focus on a few things, to give a few things
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  Speaker 2: your full undivided attention, and most importantly, not get down
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  Speaker 2: on yourself for needing to dial it back. It is okay.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes in these instances where I feel like my world
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  Speaker 1: is crumbling around me, I look at myself in the
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  Speaker 1: mirror and I just remind myself that I am doing
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  Speaker 1: the best I can with what I have, and that
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  Speaker 1: is enough.
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  Speaker 2: So this is what I want from you.
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  Speaker 1: I want you to ask yourself, what is it that
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  Speaker 1: you want to like go of going into twenty twenty?
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  Speaker 1: What is it that you want to leave behind this year.
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  Speaker 1: It's a really, you know, thought provoking question because I
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  Speaker 1: think so often what we do is we ask ourselves
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  Speaker 1: what is it that we want to go for what
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  Speaker 1: is it that we want to obtain?
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  Speaker 2: But it's okay to let go. It feels really good
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  Speaker 2: to shed, and so shud away. Write it down.
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  Speaker 1: Tag me on Instagram, send me a DM. Let me
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  Speaker 1: know what it is that you are trying to break
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  Speaker 1: free from and understand that it might not be something
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  Speaker 1: that happens right away or overnight, but putting it into
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  Speaker 1: the universe, writing that one or two or maybe three
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  Speaker 1: things down, it's the first step towards something good. And
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  Speaker 1: that's it for now. Another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys
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  Speaker 1: next time.