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33: 7 reasons why you're irreducible (Ask ChatGPT✨) · Soul Salon with Ayandastood

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  When I feel like I'm putting so much pressure on an episode, it's because in a way,
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  I'm equating myself with that episode. I'm saying, if this isn't a good episode,
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  then I am unworthy. But I cannot be reduced to a podcast episode.
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  There are reasons why you are irreducible. Let's get into it. Please internalize that, my love.
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  You are not the stage that you are in. The chapter of the book is not the book itself.
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  We sometimes overly are made to identify with the exact period of our life that we're in now,
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  and just inviting yourself to zoom out and see the whole of it and see, wow,
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  like think of all the things I've experienced and I've lived and think of all the ways I've grown
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  and all the things that I still want to learn. When you are feeling even the difficult things,
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  how can you invite yourself to ask, how is this a manifestation of love?
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  If I'm feeling fear, what am I loving? What do I want to love? That I feel I can't love properly.
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  If I'm feeling hurt and betrayal, how is that love? How is love speaking through me?
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  And do I understand the different languages that love speaks? Beyond the physical dimension,
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  your energy, your magic is so felt in the universe and in other people on earth in ways that you
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  cannot even comprehend. Hello sunshine and welcome back to paradigm shift with I understood.
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  A place where we reframe what is and reimagine what could be. I hope you enjoy today's episode.
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  Let's paradigm shift together. Hello divine being who is magical, who is love,
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  who is a manifestation of love on this planet and how wonderful and glorious is that.
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  Today I'm so grateful to be with you once more. I always feel very nervous, very fearful,
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  very anxious before I bring you these episodes and it's not only immediately before,
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  but it's actually the build up knowing that I need to or I want to produce an episode each week.
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  That's what I want to do. I'm not saying that's what everyone needs to do. I feel there's a lot
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  of suspense that hangs on that because I'm like, ooh, like what is the next one going to be?
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  Will I be able to give what I want to give to it? Will I be able to express the love that I feel
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  through it? Uncertainty can be overwhelming and I think our brains are wired to avoid uncertainty
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  and that is why creativity can be so daunting because it's kind of an ultimate surrender.
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  You don't know what's going to come up. You don't know how you're going to show up and so there is
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  both the fear and the uncertainty and the anxiety of that, but at the same time what does the
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  universe give you? In turn, it's the mystery, it's the divinity, it's the alignment, it's the feeling
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  that you are devoting yourself to something. That is something that I think is really profound
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  devotion, taking us from discipline to something more loving, something that is more about
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  devoting yourself to your audience, to your craft, to yourself, and to that part of you that
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  secretly knows that if I don't devote myself in this way, I will look back and regret it.
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  I will say why didn't I why wasn't I brave with my voice and that's how I feel.
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  Often when I am feeling these feelings of fear or anxiety, I try to shift myself into okay,
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  what if I get throat cancer and I cut one day in my life, I won't be able to speak and I believe
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  my voice is my instrument, my voice is how I connect, my voice is how I manifest my magic through
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  my, those sounds I'm making with my mouth and hopefully use that to uplift and to bring more
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  consciousness and love and healing and also insight and all of the things and connection and feeling
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  to you, to people who I feel like are vibrating on the same frequency as me.
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  I feel like we are seeking in our teachers a consciousness that speaks to our own and we are
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  all each other's students and teachers and so I feel like there's this part of me that speaks
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  to something in you and in others and I want to honor that part and I want to give voice to it but
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  then I remember I'm doing that through the like an actual body that is always and already fragile
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  and I think about the fact that maybe one day I'll lose my voice so I won't be able to speak
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  through my voice that's a very direct example but I try to bring in these alternative possibilities
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  to remind myself that it's not I have to do this episode I have to create this podcast it's I get to
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  how grateful and how lucky I am to be able to do that and to allow myself the freedom and the love
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  to say like you don't have to show up perfectly you don't have to never miss a point or a beat or
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  bring in every single perspective that's ever existed or show up perfectly because I'm always
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  going to show up as a human being which is imperfect which is flawed I have a limited perspective
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  there are things that I don't see or don't know but I'm hoping that I'm always aligned in my intention
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  why am I creating this why do I feel that this is something that needs to be said you know and that
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  intention to me then becomes the bridge the glue or the the actually the mirror between us
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  that we are each other's person you know I'm your other you you are my other me not in an exclusive
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  way in a poly-art relationship since I know you lean on many different voices but certainly we
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  are in a relationship in the sense that there are moments of your life where you will reach for
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  my voice I know this because I do this with people that I follow that I admire I'm like oh I
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  want to feel inspired let me go here ooh I want to feel uplifted let me go here ooh I want to
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  sit in my grief let me go here ooh I want to get inside I want to feel like okay I know a book
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  to read I know where to go next there is something I can do I'm going to go here so I'm reaching
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  full voices and the fact that that person has made their voice available to me what a gift
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  knowing that they carry the fear knowing that they carry the anxiety knowing that they carry
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  within them the fears that our culture has instilled on people who have things to say that
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  go against that culture the fear of persecution the fear of violence the fear of disagreement the
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  fear of criticism the fear of disapproval I mean it's okay to disagree but the idea that you
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  will be rejected the idea that you will be canceled removed drag some I know that each of these
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  voices carries that fear yet they're still offering themselves to me and I think that's so divine
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  and I see myself as part of that circularity of life part of that idea that we are all feeding
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  each other soil from that soil things can grow I love when people say this episode made me have a
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  conversation with my mom this episode made me journal or this episode invited me or inspired me to
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  have a conversation with my mom about something I've been avoiding this episode inspired me to
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  love myself more this episode inspired me to journal just the idea that I'm planting a seed
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  within your soul and you are doing the same in mind because when you feed that back to me or when
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  I feel the energy from you I feel like okay I can keep going I have the energy I have the nutrients
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  this matters to people so I'm continuing to proceed to keep going and so I'm just grateful to be
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  in this ecosystem with you creating life feeding life recognizing what is giving us a
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  liveness and what is taking it away and so this week I had a lot of resistance I think I've
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  noticed something within myself when if I say what the next episode is going to be about I kind
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  of fear that I won't be able to do justice to what I said it would be so there's a lot of
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  things I've said I was going to do another episode on the erotic I've said I was going to do an
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  episode on envy I said I was going to do an episode on being sensitive part two I said I was going
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  to and I'm not saying that I said that and I broke the promise I think all these promises are
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  yet to be fulfilled and I'm excited for that because this is a lifelong I mean I can't say what
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  my lifelong project will be but this feels like something that doesn't have an end point I have
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  so many ideas that I want to give to you so many gifts that I want to bring to you like trying
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  to bring water to the ocean I feel like I'm living my life and I'm trying to collect these flowers
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  and arrange a bouquet of consciousness and wisdom and insight and lessons and offer them to you
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  and it's literally an offering that you can decide whether or not you vibe with and if you'd
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  vibe with it you can put it in a vase and put some water in it and tend to it and protect that
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  energy for as long as it serves you and all flowers they wilt and that's the circle of life
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  they wilt and die and that's divine and precious so I've noticed basically when I announce
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  what the episode is I get a lot of fear and resistance I fear I won't be able to do it justice
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  there's something sacred to me about creativity where I actually love keeping my ideas a secret
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  until they're out in the world because it shifts the energy I don't know if any of you have
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  experienced this way you get really excited to do something and then in your excitement you tell
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  someone you're gonna do it but then because you've told them it almost shifts the energy for you
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  and it makes you feel accountable to doing it for them so that you can see them again and they'll
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  you'll have like an update versus purely being accountable to the connection that you had with
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  that work and I know what all different some people love just sharing I'm gonna do this and I'm
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  gonna do this and I'm feeling so inspired I've noticed within myself I'm more likely to actually
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  bring my manifestations creatively to life when I kind of keep them to myself until they're
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  out there and then talk about them once they're done and what I learned from a neuroscience
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  perspective is this actually tracks to the idea of the dopamine release that idea that when you
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  talk about your ideas you get some of the reward of actually having done them like your brain is
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  imagining doing them and so you less you are less motivated or you have less energy to then go
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  and actually do the thing and I will link to an episode in the show notes that will teach you
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  more about that but today I am gonna honor what I said I would do and I I'm gonna bring you seven
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  more reasons why you are divine and you are irreducible and you are infinite and you have been
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  forced to conceive of yourself in a very finite a very reducible a very reductive way and I think
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  similarly when I feel like I'm putting so much pressure on an episode it's because in a way I'm
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  equating myself with that episode I'm saying if this is if I miss something in this episode or
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  this isn't a good episode then I am unworthy but I cannot be reduced to a podcast episode you know
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  what I mean I'm so much bigger than that and I'm so much more multifaceted than that I'm so much
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  more mysterious than that like I'm am I even you know what I mean I've been diving deeper into the
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  Buddhist idea of anata which is the idea of no self and I'm really fascinated by it and I
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  am just at the kind of tip of the iceberg so I want to learn more before I fully bring it but
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  what's exciting me is it's the idea that you don't have this kind of consistent identity self
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  that you are made to identify with instead you are fluctuating thoughts and feelings and
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  experiences that cannot actually be watered down into oneself and when you do try to over-identify
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  with this single story of being a person I'm not saying you don't exist but the identity self the
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  ego self that that can cause a lot of suffering because it's like the reason why I would be offended
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  that people didn't like the episode is I hold the identity of like I create loving episodes and
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  if someone says oh no I felt I didn't feel loved by this then it's like it's an offense onto my
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  identity rather than a thought a feeling that that person had in response to thoughts and feelings
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  that I shared that on a commentary of my being self because I'm infinite because I'm divine because
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  I'm part of the literal universe and I could never you know none of us could never ever be reduced
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  to anyone given part of ourselves so with that let us get into these seven reasons and as I said
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  on the last episode I wanted to bring Chachi BT into this because I wanted to ensure that I was
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  collecting as many possible factors and really having a more numerical episode where it's like one two
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  three four uh my baby don't mess around so that's what I wanted to do with this one um and yeah so
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  that's what we're doing on this episode is seven reasons why you are irreducible let's get into it
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  number one and of course she's my favorite like she's my favorite I do have a favorite and it's
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  this one and I'm excited to share it with you so number one is your cosmic identity so cosmic meaning
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  related to the universe so with that knowing now what we mean when we're saying cosmic because it's
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  a word that's going to be used a lot just remember it means relating to the universe so you have a
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  cosmic identity you don't just have the identity of whatever role you are playing in the matrix
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  of the society or even the roles you play relationally those are all very part of you if you embrace
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  them and important and you are multifaceted and you get to take on as many identities as you wish
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  but you also have a greater identity or a grand identity that's less tangible that is that you
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  play a role in the cosmic story so what this says is that on a cosmic scale we are not just
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  inhabitants of the universe we are the universe experiencing itself
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  and I think those five words or six words are so powerful and special and inviting we are the
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  universe experiencing itself what does that mean when you are pondering the stars
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  when you can hear the birds are chirping I'm thinking oh the birds are chirping that's a lovely
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  sound how beautiful to feel connected to nature oh I can see some trees are bristling around me
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  oh I wonder what are black holes what is the nature of the universe do we live in an infinite
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  universe in which case they are definitely and certainly other planets where life can exist
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  because it would be infinite you know those types of questions and that pondering those thoughts
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  those feelings whether you experiencing them negatively or positively or neutrally you are
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  part of the universe and then you are experiencing the universe so we are the universe experiencing
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  itself this doesn't mean every thought I have about the universe is the experience of the universe
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  but think about experience experience is very subjective I heard a definition about listening
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  that I really enjoyed in a book called you're not listening and what she says is that when you feel
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  listen to being listened to is the experience of being experienced so you're allowing this person
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  to affect you you're experiencing them and then you're playing that experiencing of them back to
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  them and I'm gonna do oh let me not tell you I almost made the same mistake oh my word I'm not
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  gonna do anything so essentially if we are the universe experiencing itself that experience is
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  subjective I may view myself as very warm and loving and then you meet me and you experience me
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  completely differently from that right because you're having an experience and I also have an
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  experience of myself it's all very subjective so we are human consciousness and not only human
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  because I believe that each sentient being has consciousness fit for their role in the universe
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  fit for their role on earth human consciousness in a way developed so that there could be the
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  self-referential trait of the universe and that's what this is saying I'm not saying that's a
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  definitely true but I think that's a really interesting take on it and I asked for more information
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  on this idea because I found it so interesting and this is what chapter GT said if we see the universe
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  as a vast evolving entity then human consciousness can be viewed as one way the universe has
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  developed to become aware of itself so it's one pathway because otherwise how would the universe
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  understand itself how would it contemplate itself without the mechanism of consciousness
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  so it says when we study the stars when we ponder the mysteries of black holes or marvel at the
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  complexity of life it's the universe exploring and understanding its own nature through us that
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  blows my mind and that's something that I hadn't that's a perspective on the universe that I hadn't
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  understood before or seen before because I feel like I have been so conditioned to view myself as
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  I am subject of my own lived experience and universe is object I am considering the trees I'm
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  considering history I'm considering what happened yesterday but what this is saying is it's
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  non dual it's a non duality meaning there's no subject and object we are both we are both and
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  neither we are interconnected being so what non duality as a school of understanding is non dualism
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  it's a number of philosophical and spiritual traditions that emphasize the absence of
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  fundamental duality or separation in existence this viewpoint questions the boundaries
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  conventionally imposed between self and other mind and body observer and observed and other
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  dichotomies that shape our perception of reality as a field of study non dualism delves into the
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  concept of non duality and the state of non dual awareness encompassing a diverse array of
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  interpretations across traditions not limited to a particular cultural or religious context instead
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  non dualism emerges as essential teaching across various traditions inviting individuals to
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  examine reality beyond the confines of dualistic thinking I think that's so wonderful and profound
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  and beautiful and then what it says on non dual awareness it says it's the non difference of
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  subject and object or it's non duality between subject and object so I can't look at you as object
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  right because non dual awareness is the notion that the observer and the quote unquote things
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  observed cannot be strictly separated but form in the final analysis a whole so it's like one
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  cell saying to the other you are it's we're all part of a whole we are not subject and object
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  we can't strictly separate ourselves from what we perceive it's a beautiful idea and it
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  is a string through so many different traditions like Buddhism Hinduism Taoism I think this is a big
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  difference it's saying between Eastern philosophy and Western philosophy okay so that was a little
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  bit of a deep-pouchure but it's the same it's the same point right it's saying that we have a
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  non dual relationship with the universe we are interconnected with the cosmos all things in the
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  universe are interconnected so our existence isn't isolated or separate rather it's an integral part
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  of the universe's continuous process of evolution and change we are observers we do observe but we
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  also participate and we don't observe with us as much objectivity as we would imagine because of
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  non dualism in this world view and we participate in this cosmic dance contributing to the ongoing
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  story of the universe and this cosmic connection it says speaks to a unity and a shared destiny
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  with the cosmos making us far more than just physical beings we are instead a living breathing
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  part of the cosmic story ever expanding and evolving making us as boundless and infinite as the
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  universe itself the second reason why you are irreducible is related to this it is your inherent
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  divinity at our core each individual possesses a spark of divinity an unquantifiable essence that
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  transcends the physical and material world think of a feeling where maybe you someone in your life
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  has died and then you feel their energy or you think of what they've told you and you feel like
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  okay this person didn't just die in this physical body this person transcends their physical reality
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  and physical dimension I could see this spirit of this person in bite somewhere else and I know
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  not everyone listening to this believes in these things or sees these things it's an offering
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  that you of course can choose to reject this divine aspect of our being often associated with the
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  soul or the spirit is beyond reduction your energy transcends any sort of physical manifestation
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  of that energy it says that this divine dimension or aspect it's like a flame within each of us
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  that cannot be diminished or confined and it represents our eternal ineffable nature that connects
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  to something greater than ourselves manifesting in our capacity for love for compassion for creativity
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  and for transcendence so that's how this divine nature manifests is how is it that we can make
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  things that weren't there before that's magic how is it that we can love someone so deeply that
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  they feel healed not fully but they feel more healed and they were before we met them how is it
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  that we can love someone so much that we feel like time is standing still when we're with them
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  and at the same time losing all track of time that's mystery love has that mysterious dimension to
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  it this divine spark makes us inherently valuable and inherently worthy and inherently irreplaceable
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  standing as a testament to our uniqueness and sanctity as human beings now I know a lot of you
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  may be thinking okay well if we all have this inherent divinity why do people act in such brutal
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  ways towards each other and I think supremacy is the root of all almost trauma on earth in my mind
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  supremacy exists on all scales between one between white people and black people
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  between white people and indigenous people supremacy between nation state and its people
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  supremacy between the colonized and the colonized supremacy between cisgender people and trans people
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  so all of these things so then becomes a question is why would divine beings act in supremacist ways
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  and I think perhaps when we act in supremacist ways that is when we are rejecting the divinity of
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  ourselves because you can't you know if you're enacting mass violence on people you're not being divine
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  and you are rejecting the divinity of the people first and foremost that you are abusing torturing
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  manipulating um stealing from and you've chosen you've decided that something else is higher than
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  their divinity the land that they have them as people to be exploited them as bodies you reduce them
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  you've reduced them you've said you're not divine and that is why dehumanization is a core part
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  of this process because there's something we can recognize as deserving of good treatment in the
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  idea of the human so what do they have to do they have to reduce you to the subhuman to justify
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  and to get people's implicit consent for that harm okay that's an undeveloped thought but there's
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  something there I hope you pick up what I'm throwing I hope you make it more beautiful okay wonderful
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  pressures nice so the other reasons why you are divine why you are irreducible is your interconnectedness
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  with others so our lives are a web of relationships and interactions chachi bt says with others
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  each adding a thread to the intricate tapestry of our experience this interconnectedness enriches us
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  and makes us part of a larger human story transcending individuality and rendering us irreducible
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  to solitary entities so I think that's very beautiful because the reason we're irreduciables
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  because we're not just individual beings we are interconnected being again the non dualism thing
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  self versus other versus interconnected usness you know like I am your other you you are my other me
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  we form each other in a way and it's sometimes very difficult to see where the boundaries between one
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  ends and the other begins that is why we most of our thoughts are about other people what they did to
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  us what we did to them what they'll think what they did think how embarrassing it was to act a
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  certain way in front of them like we're obsessed with each other we're obsessed why because we are
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  each other we are interconnected being we are interdependent we need each other and we also in
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  many ways are each other and it's so sad that we get so shocked when other humans have the same
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  experiences us and I see this on TikTok all the time in it makes me and I experience it as well
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  all the time where am I on my word I never knew other people did that I never knew other people
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  thought that and then it tells me okay so we're having the wrong kinds of there's not enough space
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  like third spaces which is a space that is neither work nor home nor school if you're in school
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  and it's a third place that you can all go to that's purely about communing it's purely about being
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  in community and in this third space you your goal is to be in community with others to connect to
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  love to learn from each other to experience each other and to really have community we don't have
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  those spaces and so with that I think we are very alienated from each other that's not I think we
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  are and with that we then get very shocked that we're very similar to one another and I think that's
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  a deep symptom of our alienation it should not surprise us and it does I continue to be surprised
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  but why it's because like oh wow oh wow I've never had the space to really sit with this with people
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  and so it's shocking to me that they also feel this way and yet I dream of a world where it's not
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  shocking because we know each other and not just the convenient parts that we're willing to post on
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  you know Instagram we know each other's inner worlds because there's nothing more divine and special
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  than feeling truly seen and then truly seeing versus than seeing the illusion that our culture
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  has taught us to over-identified with in each other and in ourselves okay so that is reason number
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  three reason number four is our multifaceted nature so we can't be reduced because we are
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  complex beings with a myriad of emotions thoughts experiences you know talents gifts and desires
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  needs so how can you reduce such a complex and interwoven being to the role they play in the matrix
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  or to what they like doing or to their sexuality or to you can't reduce anyone to anyone given
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  part of their being because we are so much more complex than that because we are so much more
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  intricate and multi-dimensional and often we don't have space to truly explore our deepest passions
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  because of capitalism because of all the constraints because of mental health because of everything
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  but essentially we're multi-dimensional beings often forced to live a one-dimensional reality
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  where we cannot actually bring our full selves to any given part of our lives that's how it often
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  feels okay number five is our capacity for growth and change so how can you reduce yourself to
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  where you are now in life and even then where you are now according to where society has told you
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  should be what you should be doing oh I just turned this age so I should be doing that it's such a
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  misunderstanding of the depth and the profundity the profoundness the magic of the human experience
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  or what it could be in a different kind of world and if that same person is always growing and
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  changing and learning and evolving then they're constantly becoming something else our interest now
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  versus a year ago three months ago what we feel called towards what we feel curious about what's
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  turning us on what's giving us erotic energy and life force what's turning us off you know what is
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  inviting us in and what are we saying yes to and then what are we having to say yes to because
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  of constraints and responsibilities and where we are what are we learning how are we moving through
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  the world it's all growing and changing and so how can you say oh but you're that one thing now
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  you are many more things because you're existing on all these timescales it's not only that you're
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  getting better and better it's that you're spiraling through life and there's no better and there's
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  no worse there's lessons your younger self knew that you need to relearn there's lessons you
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  hope to learn there's all of this just magical evolution happening that cannot be pressured or
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  forced into this linear idea of progress that is so capitalist colonial okay so it says that
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  like a tree we add rings with each passing year symbolizing our depth and our capacity for change
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  making us impossible to reduce to any single stage of our lives please internalize that my love
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  you are not the stage that you are in the chapter of the book is not the book itself the
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  ebb and a flow like we sometimes overly are made to identify with the exact period of our life
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  that we're in now and just inviting yourself to zoom out and see the whole of it and see wow like
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  think of all the things I've experienced and I've lived and think of all the ways I've grown and
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  all the things that I still want to learn and that can bring me back to the like wow I'm infinite
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  I'm irreducible bringing us into that consciousness of like what am I not seeing that is also part of me
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  what am I not perceiving that can make this a more magical experience of myself what is
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  if we see things as a mirror through a lens what is a more loving lens that I could bring
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  okay that relates to reason number six the second last reason which is our unique life experiences
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  so the reason you are irreducible is that if you take all the set of experiences you've had
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  and you put them in the order you've had them and the places you've had them and how and where and
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  who was involved you do have very unique life experiences again it's the paradox the contradiction
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  of you're both unique and very much have a lot in common with others like you're both
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  but the unique set of life experiences and your particular experience of them as in the stories
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  you took from them the lessons what you made of them like someone else could have gone through the
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  exact same events of your life and they might have come up with a complete different response
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  they might have taken different lessons they might have taken and I don't mean better lessons I mean
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  they just different lessons they might have perceived things that happened to you and through you
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  completely differently so you are such a unique combination like prism of experiences of stories
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  of culture of background of perspective and so because of that how could one reduce you to
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  anything even as the world keeps trying to reduce you to how you conform to the Eurocentric
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  beauty standard to reduce you to the lifestyle you're living as according to the Instagram world
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  to reduce you to the job you have the money you make this world is trying to do that constantly
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  I want us to bring us into that consciousness of like they could never understand how actually
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  divine I am and how painful it is that I have to live in a reality that doesn't see me like it never
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  will it will never see the fullness of the magic of you because it doesn't even believe in magic
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  because it needs to suppress the idea of magic for it to continue to sustain a reality that is
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  the opposite of that that is rooted in the imagination the dream the desire of the colonizer okay
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  so you cannot be reduced to any single stage of your life so if you're going through a very
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  impossible or tough stage now what you to remember another stage of your life that you found so
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  difficult and you really struggled and maybe you thought you wouldn't make it through
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  and then I want you to go to that moment where you realized you were out of that feeling maybe it
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  was months or years later where you woke up and you were like it didn't happen instantly you realized
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  consciously wow I'm not in that place anymore I did get through that I did make it through that
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  oh my word it's so easy to just forget that and so if I've experienced that transition before
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  of I'm in the funk I'm in the pain and now I'm on the other side of it and if I'm now in the funk
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  again how can I remind myself I have all the wisdom in me I have all the knowledge in me I have all
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  the and I mean deep sensual knowledge like the feeling the feeling the intuition the sensitivity the
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  responsiveness to overcome this again or to get through this again or to live or to experience this
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  in a different way again because I can't be reduced to the stage because I've been in similar stages
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  and I wasn't I wasn't that stage was I that stage of my life actually that's another question
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  think of a time in your life you were struggling and now say oh I was that struggle and you will hear
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  the illusion of that I was not that struggle you know what I mean I'm not I'm not only that I'm
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  much much more things than that so similarly if you're in that now if you're really struggling with
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  something you are not the struggle itself even though you're deeply experiencing it you are
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  irreducible you are infinite okay now we are at number seven which for my sensitive deep and intense
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  babes you understand okay so this is your emotional depth and empathy you are irreducible because you
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  have this amazing wondrous magical capacity to feel to feel to feel the weight of the world and I
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  know sometimes it's so tough and you wish you could turn it off but you also don't because you know
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  that in that sensitivity in that empathy in that feeling is your humanity is you as a manifestation
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  of love love feels love lets all the feelings in not just the joy and the bliss we know this love
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  lets the heart break in love lets the grief in oh my word when we are grieving someone what are we doing
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  we are loving them in a different manifestation of that love it is because we love them that we
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  grieve them and so they are the same root they're the same they're different faces of the same
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  phenomenon so love feels and so each time you are just remember that when you are feeling even the
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  difficult things how can you invite yourself to ask how is this a manifestation of love if I'm
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  feeling fear what am I loving what do I want to love that I feel I can't love properly
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  if I'm feeling hurt and betrayal how is that love how is love speaking through me and do I
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  understand the different languages that love speaks not physical touch and words of affirmation
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  but disappointment anger joy peace love speaks every single emotional language that is available
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  to it because it's this ultimate reality it's this ultimate dimension it's very powerful it's like
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  the exact like it's kind of like the energetic mirror of the universe is love it's very powerful
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  very expansive very infinite in its possibilities and in its manifestations so the depth of human
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  emotions it says and our ability to empathize to empathize with others adds layers to our being
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  that defies simplification so our emotional lives just make us all the more complex intricate
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  magical our emotions are like an ocean vast deep and capable of both calm serenity and powerful
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  storms making us more complex than what can be superficially observed so all of us to say that
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  through our emotions we become very complex very multifaceted we are not reducible to anything
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  because we have this deep wisdom of our emotions within us and they are very flexible and dynamic
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  and powerful and they take us everywhere and sometimes we wish they just wouldn't wish they just
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  wouldn't because of this emotional wonder and capacity and full spectrum of things that you can
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  feel and that you have felt in your life if you did like a palette or painting and each color
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  represented a different emotion it would be beautiful chaos be beautiful chaos because wow you've
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  lived so much even no matter how old you are you've felt so much and love has spoken to you in
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  so many ways and sometimes love speaks to us through the absence of love and the feeling we get
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  when it's absent the neglect the pain and the disappointment but know that that is a manifestation
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  of our deep desire and deep need as human beings to be loved so that when we are not it is so deeply
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  painful it's existentially destroying because we know that it is at odds with our true nature
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  as love so those were the seven reasons why you are irreducible you are infinite we spoke about
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  your cosmic identity the fact that you are the cosmos the universe experiencing itself we spoke
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  about your inherent divinity this magical mystical property beyond the physical dimension your energy
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  your magic that is so felt in the universe and in other people on earth in ways that you cannot
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  even comprehend and that goes beyond and transcends your physical manifestation and being then we
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  spoke about your interconnected being the fact that there is this non dualism that it's not
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  me and other it's not subject and object but rather we are a web of interconnected being and that
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  is why we spend so much time thinking of each other feeling each other anticipating each other and
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  how can we learn how to see the spiritual beauty of our interconnectedness rather than the pain of
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  it and to really understand that we are our strongest when we recognize that we are the collective
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  we are the collective you are the collective the things you fear the things you feel let those
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  connect you with others let yourself imagine how many others feel that way how this feeling in you
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  is in each of us if you are scared to create it's in each of us if you are grieving it's in each of
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  us if you feel angry it's in each of us okay we are the collective we are mirrors and we are so
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  much more connected than we are disconnected and how can we bring ourselves back to that ultimate
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  reality to that love dimension fourth we spoke about our multi dimensionality our multi faceted
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  nature the fact that we are these complex beings with different feelings thoughts experiences
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  talents memories all of these multi dimensional ways that make it impossible to reduce us to any given
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  one fifth we spoke about our capacity to grow and to evolve and to change and that was really beautiful
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  because we spoke about how we are aspiring growing and learning and evolving that never stops it
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  doesn't really take a break we're always learning something understanding something differently
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  rethinking something deciding something we're always growing evolving and changing it's just not
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  in a linear fashion as the society would have us believe okay rather it is much more intricate it's
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  much more spirally it's thing relearning things it's learning new things it's all the things okay
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  and it's like adding rings like a tree to our wisdom to our knowing to our experience sixth we
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  talked about our unique life experiences and if we take the set of all the experiences memories
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  moments life paths we've taken and we overlay that with the space and the time and the culture at
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  the specific people in our lives who played specific roles we see that we do come to this unique
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  life experience but we have to hold the tension there between the uniqueness of us and the connection
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  with others the similarity with others that we are uniquely different and differently unique you
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  know what I mean and so I don't know if that was actually anyways let's just sit with it because I
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  know you know the desire of the paradox and I'll let you make that what you need it to be and then
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  number last we spoke about emotional depth and empathy number seven we spoke about how we have
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  this deep capacity to feel and if you're listening to this I would imagine that you are a sensitive
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  soul babe you are a feeling soul and you are even though you love feeling you also feel the burden
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  of feeling especially in times like this where so many people are demonstrating how emotionally
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  avoidant and stunted and repressed our society can be such that we're not even allowed to have
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  human reactions to human events okay and so I feel like embracing the fact that you are
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  reducible because you have this incredible capacity to feel and that your feelings shift in very
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  profound ways so you can't be reduced to any given one of them and you can't be reduced because
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  you have this amazing wisdom of your emotional intelligence and understanding within you
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  that is a wrap on today's episode I really hope that you received this I hope that you felt it I
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  hope that you were able to do something fascinating with it I hope it planted a seed in your heart
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  in your soul as I said when I got started I was fearful and anxious and I want to let this
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  episode be what it is I want to share it with you I heard this metaphor that creativity is like a
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  hosepipe that many of us have so many kinks in and we have to basically unblock it so that the water
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  can flow through us but we all have the water we just all have so many kinks and blocks and I'm afraid
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  of being judged and I'm afraid of saying the wrong thing and I'm afraid of being rejected and I'm
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  afraid of being abandoned and I'm afraid of being criticized in a way that feels deeply deeply
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  hurtful like I can't live or survive it and I have all of those fears and I'm sure you have
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  others and more but remembering that each of those block us it's like blocking us from sharing
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  our art from sharing our voice so I always want to just remind you that I feel these things you feel
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  we are feeling them together let us go out into the world and express ourselves as we feel we need to
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  knowing that our time on this earth is limited but also knowing that there are open hearts waiting
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  yearning for wanting to receive what we feel so terrified of sharing I love you so much I hope
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  you have a wonderful week this week and I'm sending you lots of love I'm sending you lots of
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  magic I'm sending you a reminder of your wonderful cosmic power of this divine role that you play
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  in the world I know that it doesn't feel that way but I promise you you matter my darling you are
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  infinitely worthy you are irreducible and this world could never it could never give you a view
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  of yourself that is this true magic that you have why because it needs us to feel that we are
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  reducible because when we are reducible we are commodifiable when we are reducible we are
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  dividable when we are reducible we tend to want to consume more things to make us feel more whole
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  so it all fits into the matrix and the values that they want us to carry to keep reproducing
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  the matrix I love you so dearly have a wonderful week that is all from me for this week see you
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  next bye bye I hope some paradigms have been shifted for you in today's conversation as always if
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  you can please leave a five star rating on apple and Spotify like comment subscribe I love you so
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  so much okay I love you join me on my sub stack links in the comment section go there okay love
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  you so much love you bye