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Gen Z, Big Decisions, and the Myth of the ‘Right Path’ · All About The Joy

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  Carmen Lezeth: Hey everyone, welcome to All About the Joy.
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  Carmen Lezeth: This is the Private Lounge.
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  Carmen Lezeth: I'm Carmen Lisa, your host.
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  Carmen Lezeth: And this is the aforementioned, is that how you say it?
• 0:10
  Carmen Lezeth: I think so.
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  Carmen Lezeth: I don't even know.
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  Carmen Lezeth: The love of my life.
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  Carmen Lezeth: Is that good?
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  Carmen Lezeth: Is that embarrassing you?
• 0:16
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, like my goddaughter.
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  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, wait.
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  Carmen Lezeth: Juliana.
• 0:21
  Carmen Lezeth: Juliana's in the house.
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  Carmen Lezeth: Hi, Julie.
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  Carmen Lezeth: How are you doing?
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  Carmen Lezeth: I'm good.
• 0:26
  Carmen Lezeth: How are you?
• 0:27
  Carmen Lezeth: We have to tell people what that is.
• 0:29
  Carmen Lezeth: You taught me.
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  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, I'll tell them later.
• 0:31
  Julie: Oh, you do it with me.
• 0:32
  Julie: I painted my nails for you, so I can do this.
• 0:35
  Carmen Lezeth: Well, I didn't paint my nails.
• 0:37
  Carmen Lezeth: So just so you know, it might seem like can you see me okay?
• 0:42
  Carmen Lezeth: It might be a little blurry or whatever, but I'm using a new system.
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  Carmen Lezeth: So I don't know.
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  Carmen Lezeth: I don't know.
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  Carmen Lezeth: We're just testing it out.
• 0:48
  Carmen Lezeth: I know.
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  Carmen Lezeth: You're you're on your are you on your iPad or your computer?
• 0:51
  Carmen Lezeth: My mom's computer.
• 0:52
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, totally cool.
• 0:54
  Carmen Lezeth: Look at you're all smiley.
• 0:55
  Carmen Lezeth: Are you nervous?
• 0:56
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah.
• 0:57
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, so let's just say that we hung out the other day.
• 1:01
  Carmen Lezeth: We had you you took me to lunch for my birthday, and we were at the beach and we were chatting, and then I asked you if you would come on the show, and you said yes.
• 1:11
  Carmen Lezeth: And so I wanted to ask you some questions as the representative of all Gen Z in the world to talk to Gen X.
• 1:20
  unknown: Okay.
• 1:22
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm gonna represent all of Gen X.
• 1:24
  Carmen Lezeth: You're gonna represent all of Gen Z.
• 1:26
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay.
• 1:26
  Carmen Lezeth: So, but we were talking about like making plans because you were 17.
• 1:32
  Carmen Lezeth: I can't believe you're 17.
• 1:34
  Carmen Lezeth: That's just not gonna make some sense.
• 1:36
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm sorry.
• 1:36
  Carmen Lezeth: Well, I couldn't believe like because when we were hanging out, wasn't it like I felt like we haven't seen each other in a while?
• 1:42
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, but I felt like it was like there was no time that passed between us, wasn't it?
• 1:48
  Carmen Lezeth: Just fun.
• 1:48
  Julie: And that's what happens every time.
• 1:52
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah.
• 1:52
  Carmen Lezeth: Why is it like why do you think that happens?
• 1:56
  Carmen Lezeth: I think okay, how many times did I say remember when we were little?
• 2:00
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh my god, I'm such an idiot.
• 2:09
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm in denial.
• 2:10
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh my god.
• 2:14
  Julie: But why do you think it is?
• 2:16
  Julie: I think we just we just click.
• 2:19
  Julie: So when it you always say it's the quality, not the quantity.
• 2:27
  Julie: So I think whenever we see each other, we do have that quality.
• 2:31
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, that's true.
• 2:32
  Carmen Lezeth: I didn't think about that, but you're absolutely right.
• 2:34
  Carmen Lezeth: But it was kind of like, and it's so weird because you and I have disagreements about a lot of things, but it's almost like it's not even that we're avoiding those conversations, it's like we can have those conversations, and then we get right into the jam of the fun stuff, which is like the silly, girly.
• 2:51
  Carmen Lezeth: I kind of love that.
• 2:53
  Carmen Lezeth: And I think it's because I'm not your parent.
• 2:55
  Carmen Lezeth: I mean, I think that's part of it, is that I've always been like the auntie, you know, that's the benefits.
• 3:01
  Carmen Lezeth: So I wanted to talk about one thing specifically because you're in this space right now where you have to make all these plans for your future.
• 3:11
  Carmen Lezeth: And I wanted to know what is like I'm gonna ask you some questions and you can answer.
• 3:16
  Carmen Lezeth: And anything you don't want to answer, I'll just delete.
• 3:18
  Carmen Lezeth: So don't worry about it.
• 3:19
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah.
• 3:20
  Carmen Lezeth: What has been the hardest thing for you about this time in your life?
• 3:25
  Carmen Lezeth: You're about to graduate from high school and you have all of these choices in front of you.
• 3:31
  Carmen Lezeth: What do you think has been the hardest part for you during this time period?
• 3:36
  Julie: Okay, so I think for sure it's been what my steps are directly out of high school because I have a very good idea of what I want to do.
• 3:47
  Julie: Like I know what career and like how I've envisioned my future, but the problem that I've been struggling with is coming out of high school.
• 3:55
  Julie: Where am I gonna go?
• 3:56
  Julie: What am I gonna do?
• 3:57
  Julie: You know that I have multiple plans, and so deciding which one to actually stand by, I haven't even done that yet.
• 4:07
  Carmen Lezeth: Right.
• 4:07
  Carmen Lezeth: And I'm I'm laughing because you have I'm gonna say four.
• 4:13
  Carmen Lezeth: Four ideas.
• 4:15
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, well, we're not gonna discuss what the plans are because I don't want to get in the middle with her and her parents about nothing.
• 4:22
  Carmen Lezeth: I ain't even touching that with a 10-foot pole.
• 4:24
  Carmen Lezeth: But my whole deal was my whole thing was the reason why this came up is because I kept saying to you, like I kept kind of laughing because you have these exact plans of how it's gonna happen.
• 4:34
  Carmen Lezeth: Whatever those three, yeah, I'm gonna say full.
• 4:37
  Carmen Lezeth: Because I'm still hoping for the one that I want her to do to happen.
• 4:40
  Carmen Lezeth: But I'm just saying, like, you have a concrete idea of how, and and and if you choose A, it's gonna be do do do do.
• 4:50
  Carmen Lezeth: And I was like, like, because it never works out, but you know I wasn't laughing at you.
• 4:57
  Julie: No, I know, but yeah, it's like I know what I want and I'm gonna get it.
• 5:05
  Julie: Just need to know how to start.
• 5:08
  Carmen Lezeth: Well, okay, so what is the worst thing that adults are doing besides laughing at you when you're trying to make decisions?
• 5:17
  Carmen Lezeth: But like, what's one of the worst things that maybe not just your parents, but I assume you're talking to counselors and all these other people, advisors or whatever.
• 5:25
  Carmen Lezeth: But even me, I mean, I haven't really this was our first time really talking about your plans with each other without anyone else involved.
• 5:32
  Carmen Lezeth: And I support whatever you want to do 100%, even if two of those ideas I don't love.
• 5:37
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean?
• 5:38
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
• 5:39
  Carmen Lezeth: But what's the worst thing that adults are doing?
• 5:44
  Julie: I don't know, just like instead of trying to be like encouraging, they'll say like all the negatives, and I feel like something you're good at is saying like both sides, like you will see the good and the bad from everything.
• 6:04
  Julie: But a lot of the people I've talked to are just like, no, this is bad, and I don't think you should do that.
• 6:09
  Julie: But this on the other hand, like this other option that you have is good, and that I like more, but like it's me, not you.
• 6:16
  Carmen Lezeth: It's like I'll tell you what I would rather you do, but I'm not gonna tell you not to do the thing that you want to do.
• 6:23
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, right, and I'll support whatever it is you choose to do, even if I hate it.
• 6:28
  Carmen Lezeth: And you know which you you know how I feel about like I think something adults do that I see them do, I mean, it's because I'm not a parent, right?
• 6:37
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm not 24-7 with you.
• 6:39
  Carmen Lezeth: Is that your mama there?
• 6:41
  Carmen Lezeth: Is it just it is she knows she's behind the door, she wants to listen in on our conversation.
• 6:47
  Carmen Lezeth: I think she's walking away.
• 6:49
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh no, she's here.
• 6:50
  Carmen Lezeth: Come here.
• 6:51
  Carmen Lezeth: Just come and say how she's gonna because she doesn't want to be on camera, probably.
• 6:55
  Julie: Yeah, she's sold her PJs.
• 6:57
  Carmen Lezeth: That's all right, that's okay.
• 6:58
  Carmen Lezeth: But I think one of the things I watch adults do, not just to you, but to other kids, is imposing what they want you to do, yes, and at the same time negating what you want to do.
• 7:11
  Carmen Lezeth: Is that fair?
• 7:12
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, that's what I think.
• 7:14
  Carmen Lezeth: What is something you're looking forward to after high school?
• 7:20
  Carmen Lezeth: Whatever choice you make working.
• 7:25
  Carmen Lezeth: Well, you're working now, which is kind of cool.
• 7:28
  Julie: But I'm because I mean, like, if we're talking directly out of high school, I'm already planning on working like full time, and I don't know why.
• 7:37
  Julie: I'm just like excited for that.
• 7:39
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, because you like working.
• 7:41
  Julie: I do.
• 7:43
  Carmen Lezeth: But yeah.
• 7:45
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm just gonna warn you that will end soon.
• 7:48
  Julie: Like, I know when the first two weeks I was working, I was like, I love this, I want to work forever.
• 7:55
  Julie: But then now it's like, I don't know, but I'm still excited because that'll kind of give me a glimpse into the future.
• 8:03
  Julie: Right.
• 8:04
  Carmen Lezeth: But you were talking about, and I love this, like you have your money, you're saving your money, you're you know, you're spending money on classes that you want to take, like you're doing some Pilates or whatever it is.
• 8:15
  Carmen Lezeth: And and I kind of like for me, it's still hard because I still think of you as a little kid, which is I it's it's more of an endearing thing.
• 8:24
  Carmen Lezeth: It's not meant to be like you're not mature, but when I hear you're like, oh no, I'm saving money and I'm doing this, and I it freaks me out, you know what I mean?
• 8:31
  Carmen Lezeth: Because I'm like, no, no.
• 8:34
  Julie: It freaks me out too because I love spending my money.
• 8:36
  Julie: So knowing that I have like a part that I can't use is like no, but I love that you're doing that.
• 8:42
  Carmen Lezeth: A lot of people don't.
• 8:43
  Carmen Lezeth: I I've I didn't do that at your age at all.
• 8:46
  Julie: I mean, yeah, I got my paycheck today and I'm saving that.
• 8:50
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, okay.
• 8:51
  Carmen Lezeth: For the gift that you're buying me on top of taking me out for my birthday.
• 8:55
  Carmen Lezeth: So I'm gonna get that gift when?
• 8:56
  Carmen Lezeth: Are you mailing it to me?
• 8:58
  Carmen Lezeth: Sending a list.
• 8:59
  Carmen Lezeth: Do you feel pressure that you have to take the right path?
• 9:03
  Carmen Lezeth: Whatever that right path is.
• 9:05
  Julie: Yes, yeah.
• 9:06
  Julie: So I think especially in the past at least six months since being a senior, that's like been the time that I'm considering all my options.
• 9:18
  Julie: And I've tried to look at every option, think of the best, think of the worst, see how it can help me out in general.
• 9:28
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, what is the thing that stresses you out the most about your future?
• 9:34
  Julie: What stresses me out is not being on the right path, like career-wise, that because my two options would be being a lawyer or working in marketing, and those are two completely different things.
• 9:50
  Carmen Lezeth: But I said it because they can mesh together, right?
• 9:54
  Julie: I know they can both use like what I'm majoring in, so it's fine.
• 9:58
  Julie: But what stresses me is that I'm gonna pick one of those and then realize I wish I picked the other one, or just not be able to decide and just make the wrong decision.
• 10:11
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, so I'm just gonna tell you when I went to college at UVM, I started off as an economics major, then I was a political science major, right?
• 10:22
  Carmen Lezeth: Because I I came from an industry of people who worked in finance, and then I wanted to be, I thought, like, oh, I I took one class in politics or whatever, and I was like, oh, I want to be a political science major.
• 10:33
  Carmen Lezeth: And then I was like, oh, but theater, I love theater.
• 10:36
  Carmen Lezeth: And then I started taking film classes.
• 10:39
  Carmen Lezeth: So the reason why you bring this up is I made so many changes, and I would tell you that most of my friends started off doing one thing and ended up doing something else.
• 10:50
  Carmen Lezeth: And I ended up because I had made so many changes, I ended up with a degree in English and film.
• 10:55
  Carmen Lezeth: I ended up, though, that's those were my studies.
• 10:59
  Carmen Lezeth: That was not what I started in with.
• 11:01
  Carmen Lezeth: I thought I knew what I wanted to do, and then I was able to experience the world in a different way, that I could find my way back to performing in some way, shape, or form, right?
• 11:13
  Carmen Lezeth: With film and stuff and studying.
• 11:15
  Carmen Lezeth: I mean, I didn't study film in college as a performer, but that was what was leading me to coming back to Hollywood, right?
• 11:22
  Carmen Lezeth: To finding my way back here and then moving out here.
• 11:26
  Carmen Lezeth: I had no intentions when I first went into college thinking that I would end up back where I always wanted to be, because you have all those pressures and weirdness or whatever that guide you the wrong way, or you don't know if it's the right decision.
• 11:41
  Carmen Lezeth: So I guess what I'm saying is, and this is where I know maybe your parents would want to hit me upside the head, but I think you just have to be open-minded.
• 11:49
  Carmen Lezeth: That's why I was laughing, open-minded to the possibility that change is inevitable.
• 11:55
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean?
• 11:56
  Carmen Lezeth: Like you're you might have a that's why I was laughing.
• 11:59
  Carmen Lezeth: Like you might have a focus of what you think is going to happen.
• 12:04
  Carmen Lezeth: And hopefully all the changes you get to make are your choice, right?
• 12:09
  Carmen Lezeth: I mean, that's what I hope.
• 12:10
  Carmen Lezeth: Because sometimes things happen, like, you know, I hurt my hip.
• 12:13
  Carmen Lezeth: I cannot dance anymore.
• 12:14
  Carmen Lezeth: That's not something that was a choice, you know?
• 12:17
  Carmen Lezeth: So I just want you to not be so stressed about the choices you're making.
• 12:23
  Julie: Yeah, I know.
• 12:24
  Julie: I've I mean, I've heard so many stories of people like changing their majors and doing all that.
• 12:30
  Julie: So that's not what scares me.
• 12:33
  Julie: It just like the end result of what career, you know, not not necessarily what I'm studying.
• 12:43
  Carmen Lezeth: Right.
• 12:43
  Carmen Lezeth: But you're gonna be fine.
• 12:44
  Carmen Lezeth: I think what's interesting is how much you've thought about this.
• 12:49
  Carmen Lezeth: And yeah, you know, you don't want to just be a lawyer, you want to be a corporate lawyer, like you're very specific on what it is you want to do.
• 12:57
  Carmen Lezeth: And so I kind of love that and I applaud that.
• 12:59
  Carmen Lezeth: I think what I'm most afraid of is when people put so much pressure on teenagers to make a decision and almost forcing them to do like I see a lot of parents wanting their kids to do things because they didn't do them.
• 13:16
  Carmen Lezeth: You want to give your kids everything you don't have, but if you're not paying attention to what the kid wants, you can't live vicariously through your kid.
• 13:24
  Carmen Lezeth: Does that make sense?
• 13:24
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, yeah.
• 13:25
  Carmen Lezeth: I mean, of course, you're gonna be like, yeah, totally makes sense, totally.
• 13:29
  Julie: No, but I do understand.
• 13:30
  Julie: Oh, am I boring you?
• 13:32
  Julie: No, I every time I yawn, I think about you like how you're gonna say that I'm I'm make you're making me sleepy.
• 13:43
  Carmen Lezeth: I woke up at 5 30.
• 13:45
  Carmen Lezeth: Because you went to your class, right?
• 13:47
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, go ahead.
• 13:48
  Carmen Lezeth: How do you handle it when something you plan doesn't go the way you thought?
• 13:56
  Julie: Um, everything goes my way.
• 13:58
  Carmen Lezeth: No, I'm just kidding.
• 13:59
  Carmen Lezeth: I think you're kind of a go-with-the-flow kind of person.
• 14:02
  Julie: A lot of the time I can do things and it doesn't end up going my way, but honestly, that does push me to get better.
• 14:09
  Julie: Like, I can give an example that in swim, I started swimming my sophomore year.
• 14:14
  Julie: Everyone in swim started when they were like five years old, and I was not good at it.
• 14:20
  Julie: And if I went back right now, I still wouldn't be good at it.
• 14:24
  Julie: But I can say that I'm better now than I was back then, and it's something that I've just come to accept.
• 14:29
  Julie: I think that's like when I'm not good at something and something doesn't go my way, like I've learned to accept it and then like branch out from it.
• 14:38
  Julie: I'm still like trying my best to be active now, and I go to the gym and I go to Pilates, and I'm being active in different ways, and I'm still like training my body and helping me in like different ways.
• 14:48
  Julie: So I think being like, if it doesn't go my way, I can learn from that.
• 14:54
  Julie: And like I didn't start going to the gym until last year.
• 14:57
  Carmen Lezeth: No, but I'm gonna disagree with you on something.
• 14:59
  Carmen Lezeth: Surprise.
• 15:00
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay.
• 15:00
  Carmen Lezeth: Because here's what you're doing that you're leaving out.
• 15:04
  Carmen Lezeth: You were amazing at karate, you're a great skier, right?
• 15:09
  Julie: Well, that's new.
• 15:10
  Carmen Lezeth: I know, but I'm just saying it's kind of interesting, right?
• 15:13
  Carmen Lezeth: That you don't even like you're not even that that may not be your love, but for some reason, I think it's because you had so many friends who were swimmers.
• 15:21
  Carmen Lezeth: Swimming became kind of this weird bar for you that you wanted to excel at it, and then you realize it's not my jam.
• 15:27
  Carmen Lezeth: But you're really a great skier.
• 15:29
  Carmen Lezeth: You were great at karate, even if you didn't love it, you were really good at it.
• 15:32
  Carmen Lezeth: I went to your competition, was very proud of you.
• 15:35
  Carmen Lezeth: But okay, go ahead.
• 15:36
  Carmen Lezeth: I just wanted to throw that out there.
• 15:39
  Julie: Yeah, I mean, yeah, I do agree.
• 15:41
  Julie: Like, also my dirt bikes, like, I've I'm gonna be but but I'm just saying, like, as an example of like something I wasn't good at for a long time, not being good at swim made me think that I wasn't able to be good at anything, and I didn't really realize how much potential I had in different things.
• 16:02
  Julie: Like, even if it wasn't being athletic, I could be good at different things.
• 16:06
  Julie: Like I'm creative or I can read a lot of books and make a lot, yeah.
• 16:11
  Julie: Like I can be all of that and then still be good at that.
• 16:15
  Julie: That doesn't mean I have to be good in every aspect of everything, you know?
• 16:20
  Julie: Like, so it's kind of just realizing what you're good at and what you're not, and trying to work on that.
• 16:30
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, I love that.
• 16:31
  Carmen Lezeth: I love that about you.
• 16:33
  Carmen Lezeth: I think it's really good.
• 16:34
  Carmen Lezeth: It's a hard thing for people to understand that you don't have to be good at everything.
• 16:38
  Carmen Lezeth: There are adults who don't understand that, you know.
• 16:41
  Carmen Lezeth: And you can try things, you try a lot of different things, and then you excel at some of them, and some of them you don't, and then you figure out a way to move through it.
• 16:49
  Carmen Lezeth: And I think you did that very well with swimming.
• 16:51
  Carmen Lezeth: Wait, didn't I donate a lot of money to your swimming club?
• 16:54
  Carmen Lezeth: You did.
• 16:55
  Carmen Lezeth: You did.
• 16:55
  Carmen Lezeth: Well, that won't ever happen again.
• 17:00
  unknown: Wait, wait, wait.
• 17:01
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, we'll tell people later what that means.
• 17:03
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, I didn't know it was both.
• 17:05
  Carmen Lezeth: You can do both.
• 17:07
  Carmen Lezeth: I think I like the one.
• 17:08
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay.
• 17:08
  Carmen Lezeth: All right, all right.
• 17:09
  Julie: I have to do the kissy face.
• 17:11
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't like that part.
• 17:12
  Carmen Lezeth: I think it's weird.
• 17:15
  Julie: We're going like this.
• 17:18
  unknown: Like this.
• 17:18
  Julie: We're going like this.
• 17:20
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, really?
• 17:20
  Carmen Lezeth: This is the old people way.
• 17:25
  unknown: Okay.
• 17:26
  Carmen Lezeth: People gonna be like, this is weird.
• 17:27
  Carmen Lezeth: But this is, I just want you to know, she's telling me what's going on in the Gen Z world.
• 17:32
  Carmen Lezeth: That's what she's just giving me some.
• 17:33
  Carmen Lezeth: But here's the thing like, I kid around with you, but I would never watch me be doing it with all it like in the future.
• 17:40
  Carmen Lezeth: It's like when you see old people trying to be like cool with like it doesn't work, you can't know that.
• 17:46
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, yeah.
• 17:47
  Carmen Lezeth: What do adults misunderstand about Gen Z decision making?
• 17:55
  Julie: I don't know.
• 17:55
  Julie: I feel like as a like as a whole, we've really modernized in a way, you know what I mean?
• 18:03
  Julie: Like us compared to 50 years ago or whatever, like completely different.
• 18:10
  Julie: So I think being in that era of time before and seeing it now is just very different, and you they might not grasp that, but yeah, I don't really know.
• 18:26
  Carmen Lezeth: But like like technology, you mean you have more access?
• 18:28
  Julie: Yeah, I was thinking that when it comes to school, for example, everything's online now, and that's just completely different.
• 18:34
  Julie: You don't have to know everything about it, you know.
• 18:37
  Julie: It's a lot of things.
• 18:39
  Carmen Lezeth: You were doing great the other day.
• 18:41
  Carmen Lezeth: Do you get nervous and you start saying like a lot?
• 18:44
  Carmen Lezeth: No, I just say like, yeah, stop saying I like like no, you don't want to like like you not see you.
• 18:51
  Carmen Lezeth: This is where you pull a shit.
• 18:52
  Carmen Lezeth: I think it's I say uh, and I told you this.
• 18:57
  Carmen Lezeth: I say um and uh a lot, and those are like weird placeholders in our conversations, and so but for you, it's not that like is bad, it's I used to say like all the time too.
• 19:12
  Julie: I say when I'm being asked a question, I don't know how to answer.
• 19:17
  Carmen Lezeth: Right.
• 19:17
  Carmen Lezeth: So just say I don't know how to answer that, and then I don't want to answer it.
• 19:21
  Carmen Lezeth: Instead of being like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like, just cut it out.
• 19:27
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, but you know what?
• 19:29
  Carmen Lezeth: Because here's why.
• 19:30
  Carmen Lezeth: If I do it that many times, you're gonna look like this in the picture.
• 19:33
  Carmen Lezeth: That's why I'm telling you.
• 19:36
  Carmen Lezeth: You know how you see those edits?
• 19:37
  Carmen Lezeth: Like, like, like, like, like, like it's it's too much, and then you're like, there should be like uh you're gonna be self conscious about it.
• 19:47
  Carmen Lezeth: I love it.
• 19:48
  Julie: It should be an app that blurs out words that you don't want to use, right?
• 19:56
  Carmen Lezeth: But you know what?
• 19:57
  Carmen Lezeth: You'll learn to stop.
• 19:58
  Carmen Lezeth: I used to say it all the time, that's why I know.
• 20:02
  unknown: Yeah.
• 20:03
  Carmen Lezeth: It's not a bad thing.
• 20:04
  Carmen Lezeth: It's just part of being a teenager and growing up.
• 20:07
  Carmen Lezeth: I know.
• 20:08
  Carmen Lezeth: Do people know what that means?
• 20:10
  Carmen Lezeth: They don't know what this means either.
• 20:11
  Carmen Lezeth: Right, right.
• 20:12
  Carmen Lezeth: They look the same.
• 20:14
  Carmen Lezeth: We do look the same.
• 20:16
  Carmen Lezeth: Should we tell them?
• 20:17
  Carmen Lezeth: Keep it a second.
• 20:18
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't know.
• 20:20
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't know.
• 20:21
  Carmen Lezeth: It's like September 9th.
• 20:22
  Carmen Lezeth: I think, right?
• 20:24
  Carmen Lezeth: Or 6th?
• 20:26
  Carmen Lezeth: I think it's September 9th.
• 20:28
  Carmen Lezeth: This is gonna be a weird video.
• 20:30
  Carmen Lezeth: I mean, this is gonna be a weird private lounge because people can be like, okay, so we have, okay, so when you were little, and I was younger, not when we were both little.
• 20:40
  Carmen Lezeth: Um, because I've known you since you were born.
• 20:44
  Carmen Lezeth: I think you were two days old when I met you.
• 20:46
  Carmen Lezeth: When you were little, I used to say we were like twins.
• 20:50
  Carmen Lezeth: I forget why we brought it up or whatever, right?
• 20:52
  Carmen Lezeth: And I said we were twins because look at our elbows are exactly the same.
• 20:58
  Carmen Lezeth: That was what we came up with, and so it became a thing.
• 21:02
  Carmen Lezeth: And then we have our our day, our day, and it's in September.
• 21:07
  Carmen Lezeth: That's Carmen and Juliana Day.
• 21:09
  Carmen Lezeth: Or I should say Juliana and Carmen Day, because you should probably go first, but whatever.
• 21:13
  Carmen Lezeth: Well, it's our day.
• 21:14
  Julie: If it's alphabetical.
• 21:17
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, I guess it would be Carmen and Julie Day.
• 21:19
  unknown: Yeah.
• 21:20
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay.
• 21:22
  unknown: All right.
• 21:22
  Carmen Lezeth: Do you think your generation approaches work and life differently than mine did at your age?
• 21:29
  Carmen Lezeth: I mean, I already know the answer is yes, but yeah.
• 21:32
  Julie: Work and life differently?
• 21:34
  Julie: I do think so in many ways.
• 21:38
  Julie: Because I think work was in like teenagehood.
• 21:45
  Julie: It was like more looked on back then, I think, because I know like what do you mean by looked on?
• 21:53
  Julie: It was more like people were working more.
• 21:56
  Carmen Lezeth: Like oh yeah, we we were work.
• 21:58
  Carmen Lezeth: I mean, I was working when I was 12.
• 22:01
  Julie: Like I was gonna say, my dad started working when he was 12.
• 22:04
  Julie: I didn't start until I was almost 17.
• 22:07
  Julie: And no, I was 17, yeah.
• 22:09
  Julie: So it just it starts much earlier, and so it that's very different from now.
• 22:17
  Julie: I think, and especially considering how many laws there are like stopping teens from working young.
• 22:24
  Julie: Okay, that's way before our time though, too.
• 22:26
  Carmen Lezeth: I think I know, but now, like it's just Oh, but you mean now people you mean parents don't want teenagers working.
• 22:36
  Julie: No, it's that.
• 22:37
  Julie: I mean for my school, you can't work until you're 16 because we have to give work permits.
• 22:44
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, okay, you're right.
• 22:45
  Carmen Lezeth: I was wrong.
• 22:45
  Carmen Lezeth: You're right.
• 22:46
  Julie: There's very big restrictions on how many hours you can work, when you can work.
• 22:50
  Julie: So I think that's very different now compared to when you were a kid and you could work whenever, right?
• 22:57
  Carmen Lezeth: Right.
• 22:57
  Carmen Lezeth: Well, I think there's two different things you're talking about.
• 23:00
  Carmen Lezeth: I think this is the difference.
• 23:01
  Carmen Lezeth: I wasn't officially working at 11 and 12 years old.
• 23:04
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah.
• 23:05
  Carmen Lezeth: I was working at like Little Peach, which is like it's a corner store, like 7-Eleven, I guess, here, because I knew somebody who worked there and they would pay me like five or 10 bucks, you know, to put the cans on the whatever.
• 23:18
  Carmen Lezeth: And so it wasn't like an official job.
• 23:21
  Carmen Lezeth: It's not like I was getting social security and money taken out or anything.
• 23:25
  Carmen Lezeth: I mean, I didn't get probably my first real job till I was like 16 or 17 years old, too.
• 23:30
  Carmen Lezeth: But I'm just saying I think the culture is probably very different.
• 23:34
  Carmen Lezeth: Like, I don't remember your mom and dad being like, she's got to start working at 12.
• 23:39
  unknown: Yeah.
• 23:40
  Carmen Lezeth: Like, I think also But you worked for your dad doing bookkeeping.
• 23:44
  Carmen Lezeth: You know QuickBooks better than a lot of people I hire.
• 23:47
  Carmen Lezeth: And I didn't get paid for that.
• 23:48
  Carmen Lezeth: Well, he would say you have a roof over your head.
• 23:51
  Carmen Lezeth: I was gonna say exactly that.
• 23:52
  Carmen Lezeth: He would totally say that.
• 23:54
  Carmen Lezeth: So, you know, in a lot of ways, you were doing the same thing.
• 23:56
  Carmen Lezeth: You were just doing it for your dad and you were doing bookkeeping, which is amazing.
• 24:01
  Julie: Yeah, I do agree on that, but at the same time, it's still like I think we also grew up under different circumstances, and needing a job was more needed than for me.
• 24:14
  Julie: But it's still, I think still in general, there is a big difference in that even I agree with you just for anyone.
• 24:24
  Carmen Lezeth: I think there's also a lot of like on the bad side of it, there's a lot of, and this is not your fault.
• 24:31
  Carmen Lezeth: This is, I think, parents' fault.
• 24:32
  Carmen Lezeth: This a lot of protecting their children from doing anything, you know what I mean?
• 24:37
  Carmen Lezeth: Like we we talked about this in the past, like even just being able to go outside and play or whatever, it's like you know, that's not even an option or whatever.
• 24:45
  Julie: So I think that's very big on safety too, yeah, of just everything.
• 24:51
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, you know, and it's weird because it's my generation of people who are the parents we're talking about.
• 24:56
  Carmen Lezeth: And I think when I was growing up, I think there was the other extreme where we were left alone all the time, we were gone in the morning, we didn't come back till late at night because you know, the lights went down or whatever.
• 25:08
  Carmen Lezeth: It was a very different time, and so it feels like the pendulum went the other way, which is really protective and really overbearing.
• 25:17
  Carmen Lezeth: And so they both have their faults and their pluses and minuses, but I think that's what you're talking about, too.
• 25:22
  Carmen Lezeth: And yeah, same thing with work.
• 25:24
  Carmen Lezeth: I mean, I don't think any of the adults in my life were concerned that I was working at 12 and 13 years old.
• 25:30
  Carmen Lezeth: What matters most to you when you think about your future?
• 25:34
  Carmen Lezeth: Money, stability, passion, or freedom.
• 25:40
  Julie: Okay.
• 25:41
  Carmen Lezeth: Can it be all of those or none of those?
• 25:42
  Julie: Yeah, I think it is all of them.
• 25:44
  Julie: I can go into what like is most most though.
• 25:48
  Julie: I think money is very important because I think especially with how the economy looks, making more money is more important.
• 25:58
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm sad about that, but you're right.
• 26:00
  Julie: Yeah, it's not really about I want to be able to be happy in what I do while making money.
• 26:09
  Julie: And I think the only way I can do that is really working towards it, you know.
• 26:17
  Carmen Lezeth: And look, everybody wants to make money doing something they love, it just doesn't always work out that way.
• 26:24
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, but I want it to work out for you.
• 26:27
  Julie: If I really like if money didn't matter and I got to do whatever I wanted, like I'd be a teacher, but oh my god, that's so sad because you know what?
• 26:37
  Carmen Lezeth: A lot of my friends would say the same thing.
• 26:40
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah.
• 26:41
  Carmen Lezeth: And I I'd be a great teacher.
• 26:45
  Julie: I think I would be too.
• 26:47
  Carmen Lezeth: That's so sad that we don't pay teachers enough money.
• 26:50
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't know.
• 26:51
  Carmen Lezeth: Give them a quality of life so that people like you would want to be teached.
• 26:55
  Carmen Lezeth: See, you'd be an amazing teacher.
• 26:58
  Julie: I know.
• 26:58
  Julie: Like I would drop everything to be a teacher.
• 27:01
  Carmen Lezeth: That's so sad.
• 27:02
  Carmen Lezeth: No, I mean, I think it's great, but that's so sad that we're gonna lose out on someone like what grade would you want to teach to?
• 27:08
  Carmen Lezeth: Little elementary, yeah.
• 27:10
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, see, I knew that.
• 27:12
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, oh Julie, you'd be a great teacher.
• 27:14
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm just I'm just sad about the state of our of our country and the way in which we treat teachers because um I think about all my friends who are teaching, like Billy was a teacher and left because he could make money.
• 27:30
  Carmen Lezeth: Andrea was a teacher, she left.
• 27:32
  Carmen Lezeth: You know, these would be great, great teachers.
• 27:34
  Carmen Lezeth: And now you're saying that.
• 27:35
  Carmen Lezeth: That's so sad.
• 27:36
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm so sorry.
• 27:37
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, no, I'm sorry for us.
• 27:40
  Carmen Lezeth: I think we're losing.
• 27:41
  Carmen Lezeth: But yeah, I love that.
• 27:43
  Carmen Lezeth: And and I I'll say this I hate that money is an important part of it, but yeah, you're not wrong.
• 27:51
  Carmen Lezeth: But I wish the answer had been passion, you know.
• 27:55
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, because in the real world, our passions would be what we would add, but we can't live without money here.
• 28:04
  Carmen Lezeth: You can't live in California.
• 28:05
  Carmen Lezeth: It was so funny because when you were here, you were like, Oh, I wish I lived here.
• 28:08
  Carmen Lezeth: And I was like, if I get a two-bedroom, you know, like, but it's so expensive, everything is so expensive.
• 28:15
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, what are the things you know you want in life, no matter what path you take?
• 28:20
  Carmen Lezeth: A family.
• 28:21
  Carmen Lezeth: So cute, and that's changed since you were like eight.
• 28:26
  Carmen Lezeth: What did she know?
• 28:30
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what was so cute.
• 28:32
  Carmen Lezeth: I remember I don't know how old you were, but you were, I don't know, you were like maybe nine or ten, I don't know.
• 28:37
  Carmen Lezeth: And you were like, I don't want to have kids either.
• 28:39
  Carmen Lezeth: It's like I was still a kid.
• 28:42
  Carmen Lezeth: Like, why are you even thinking of this?
• 28:44
  Carmen Lezeth: I think it was also because of the dolls and whatever, you know what I mean?
• 28:48
  Carmen Lezeth: And now you want a family.
• 28:49
  Carmen Lezeth: I love that.
• 28:50
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, yeah.
• 28:50
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, cute.
• 28:52
  Carmen Lezeth: All right, but you know, we're gonna wait till you become that lawyer and everything, right?
• 28:56
  Carmen Lezeth: We're gonna and I need to meet everyone.
• 29:00
  Carmen Lezeth: There is no one.
• 29:02
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, I just want to be clear.
• 29:03
  Carmen Lezeth: I know your mom and dad have dibs on whatever, but the real deal right here, okay?
• 29:10
  Carmen Lezeth: All right, I'm just saying.
• 29:11
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, what's one thing you've learned about yourself this year that surprised you?
• 29:17
  unknown: Ooh.
• 29:18
  Julie: This year just started.
• 29:20
  Carmen Lezeth: Say in the past 300 and whatever yeah that surprised me.
• 29:24
  Julie: Yeah.
• 29:25
  Carmen Lezeth: Um that's not the right time to use it, is it?
• 29:35
  Carmen Lezeth: It's not the right time to use it.
• 29:41
  Julie: Um, I don't know.
• 29:44
  Julie: Okay.
• 29:46
  Julie: No, because that is a good question, and I do want to figure out the answer.
• 29:50
  Carmen Lezeth: I think something that surprised me the other day is how quickly after we haven't seen each other for a while and we haven't talked, because we used to talk at least, I would say once a week, but then I would see you once a month because we don't live that close to each other.
• 30:04
  Carmen Lezeth: She found out driving home for three hours.
• 30:07
  Carmen Lezeth: Four.
• 30:08
  Carmen Lezeth: It was four hours.
• 30:09
  Julie: I got home at 7:40.
• 30:12
  Carmen Lezeth: That's crazy.
• 30:13
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah.
• 30:14
  Carmen Lezeth: Something must have happened though.
• 30:16
  Julie: I don't, I don't know.
• 30:17
  Carmen Lezeth: No, no, but I'm just telling you that it's usually like an hour and a half at most.
• 30:21
  Carmen Lezeth: I know.
• 30:21
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah.
• 30:22
  Carmen Lezeth: But what surprised me is how easily within I think it was, I don't know, five minutes, we were back to the way it's always been.
• 30:30
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah.
• 30:31
  Carmen Lezeth: And I love that.
• 30:32
  Carmen Lezeth: I love that.
• 30:32
  Carmen Lezeth: And I love it because that to me means we have a real friendship.
• 30:36
  Carmen Lezeth: Because my real friendships, that's how it is.
• 30:38
  Carmen Lezeth: I might not talk to people for years.
• 30:40
  Carmen Lezeth: And the reason why we haven't talked, I just want to let the audience know, is not for any other reason, but except that you were you were being a teenager.
• 30:48
  Carmen Lezeth: You were growing up, you had to do what you had to do.
• 30:51
  Carmen Lezeth: And she's busy.
• 30:53
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't know, she's busy, boy.
• 30:56
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't know, she's busy, but we had a slight disagreement, and I let you do what you had to do.
• 31:03
  Carmen Lezeth: Wasn't that the best way to handle it?
• 31:04
  Carmen Lezeth: Or would you have preferred that I kept No, yeah.
• 31:08
  Carmen Lezeth: Well, no, you I mean, you can we don't have to talk.
• 31:11
  Carmen Lezeth: I mean, I'm just curious.
• 31:12
  Carmen Lezeth: We had a disagreement.
• 31:14
  Carmen Lezeth: I didn't like something she did, and I just let her be.
• 31:19
  unknown: Yeah.
• 31:19
  Carmen Lezeth: But I'm not a parent.
• 31:20
  Carmen Lezeth: What would you have preferred?
• 31:22
  Carmen Lezeth: No, this is good.
• 31:24
  Carmen Lezeth: You don't want to talk about it.
• 31:26
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay.
• 31:26
  Julie: Well, just exactly it's just like what happened was what it was good the way it happened.
• 31:32
  Julie: I think if anything else would have happened, it would have been different now.
• 31:38
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, I think you're right.
• 31:39
  Carmen Lezeth: I think this is interesting for people to hear.
• 31:41
  Carmen Lezeth: Are you gonna be mad if I leave it in?
• 31:43
  unknown: No.
• 31:44
  Carmen Lezeth: I think what's interesting, because I wish a lot of parents would hear this too, is again, it's easy for me because I'm not responsible for you 24-7, so I get it.
• 31:55
  Carmen Lezeth: But I think badgering people over and over and over again and trying to force you to be something you're not, or trying to force you to believe what I believe, or trying to, you know what I mean, is never, it never works, especially when somebody's a teenager.
• 32:11
  Carmen Lezeth: Like I always say to you, you have to figure out whatever it is you need to figure it out.
• 32:15
  Carmen Lezeth: I told you where I stand.
• 32:17
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm a grown woman, I'm not gonna fight with a teenager, right?
• 32:21
  Carmen Lezeth: And I think that gave you the freedom to do whatever you needed to do, but you tell me what you think about that.
• 32:28
  Julie: I think like the it was everything's like handled properly.
• 32:34
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm not trying to make you give me kudos, I'm trying to make you teach people what works for someone like you.
• 32:42
  Carmen Lezeth: It's different for parents.
• 32:44
  Julie: I think for parents, if there is something that goes wrong, the parent should reach out and make sure that everything's okay.
• 32:55
  Julie: Especially even though it's everyone's first time living, I think the parent is older and should have a more mature view on the situation.
• 33:03
  Julie: If the child is being more mature, then there's something wrong.
• 33:10
  Carmen Lezeth: Wait, are you saying that you think you've been more mature than your parents?
• 33:14
  Carmen Lezeth: Be careful how you answer.
• 33:16
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm not saying anything.
• 33:18
  Carmen Lezeth: You think you were more mature than me in this situation?
• 33:21
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm giving advice.
• 33:22
  Carmen Lezeth: Just giving advice.
• 33:24
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay.
• 33:24
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah.
• 33:25
  Carmen Lezeth: No, no, no.
• 33:25
  Carmen Lezeth: You're right.
• 33:26
  Carmen Lezeth: I think sometimes, sometimes adults, I'm not just gonna say parents, but sometimes adults react a certain way to teenagers.
• 33:35
  Carmen Lezeth: And I always say this, forgetting that they were once teenagers themselves.
• 33:39
  Carmen Lezeth: Like teenagers are gonna act like teenagers, they're gonna do that.
• 33:42
  Carmen Lezeth: That's not a bad or a good thing, it just is what it is.
• 33:45
  Carmen Lezeth: You have to figure things out on your own.
• 33:47
  Carmen Lezeth: And my whole thing has always been when you are ready to come to the table, we can have that conversation.
• 33:54
  Carmen Lezeth: And I think that's what we did the other day, which I thought was amazing because it was kind of cool.
• 33:58
  Carmen Lezeth: And there was no like, I'm sorry I did this, I'm sorry.
• 34:01
  Carmen Lezeth: It wasn't that.
• 34:02
  Carmen Lezeth: It was just like, you know what?
• 34:03
  Carmen Lezeth: Right?
• 34:04
  Carmen Lezeth: We didn't do that.
• 34:04
  Carmen Lezeth: It wasn't even, yeah.
• 34:06
  Carmen Lezeth: I kind of think that's what bothers me about parents when I watch, and it's because I don't have kids.
• 34:12
  Carmen Lezeth: When I watch parents and I see them just badgering kids over and over and over again, and I'm like, you're not listening.
• 34:19
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah.
• 34:21
  Carmen Lezeth: In all fairness to parents, it must be really hard to have somebody who's four or five years old, right?
• 34:26
  Carmen Lezeth: Or baby, whatever, and you have to do everything for them.
• 34:31
  Carmen Lezeth: And then they turn into a teenager, and then there's like this clash of like, no, I want to do it on my own.
• 34:36
  Carmen Lezeth: You know, which I think you're gonna experience when you have that family.
• 34:40
  Carmen Lezeth: I can't wait.
• 34:41
  Carmen Lezeth: I can't wait because I'm gonna laugh my ass off, girl.
• 34:45
  Carmen Lezeth: No, I mean I can wait.
• 34:46
  Carmen Lezeth: I can wait a long time, like in your 30s or some.
• 34:50
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, let me be clear.
• 34:52
  Carmen Lezeth: If you could give advice to your 14-year-old self, what would you say?
• 34:56
  Carmen Lezeth: Get off TikTok.
• 34:59
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, really?
• 35:00
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm off of TikTok right now.
• 35:02
  Carmen Lezeth: Are you being serious?
• 35:03
  Carmen Lezeth: No.
• 35:05
  Julie: No, I love TikTok, I'm on it every day.
• 35:07
  Carmen Lezeth: Um, I was on, remember, that's why I when it was musically.
• 35:11
  Carmen Lezeth: Remember?
• 35:11
  Carmen Lezeth: Because you were on it, you introduced me to it, and it was so cool back then.
• 35:15
  Carmen Lezeth: Now it's a lot.
• 35:16
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, no, the real advice I would give is I think just listen to your godmother always.
• 35:27
  Carmen Lezeth: Just kidding.
• 35:28
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, you should make this your logo.
• 35:30
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, okay, go ahead.
• 35:32
  Julie: No, but I think honestly, just staying like true to myself, I feel like okay, that's obviously the most basic advice to give, and I think every person has given that advice, but I truly do believe that because I've gone through a lot of phases in my life, and going through all of them built me to who I am today.
• 35:55
  Julie: If I didn't stay true to that and I didn't be like if I wasn't who I was, then I don't know how I would be now.
• 36:04
  Julie: I think it's just very important that we all trust the timing that we're given, and everything will end up falling into place because back then I was 14 when I was a sophomore.
• 36:21
  Julie: I think back then I was definitely making new friends and being introduced to a lot of new people, and if I saw who I am now, it would have been I don't know if I would have been happier or sad, but you know, I think if I was talking to my 13-year-old self, that would be a little different because when I was 13 I just started high school.
• 36:51
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, because your birthday's at the end of the year.
• 36:53
  Julie: Yeah, yeah.
• 36:53
  Julie: But 13 was a very like, I don't know, that that year I was I didn't really have any friends.
• 37:01
  Julie: I was starting a new school, so I think that's kind of similar to where I'm at now.
• 37:06
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, because you're made it's a it's a change.
• 37:08
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, making a change in your life, you know.
• 37:10
  Carmen Lezeth: So not getting off of TikTok is not what you would tell yourself, but you would tell yourself.
• 37:14
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, no, no, no.
• 37:16
  Carmen Lezeth: I mean, but it you would tell yourself what comes to mind right now.
• 37:20
  Carmen Lezeth: Your 13-year-old self.
• 37:22
  Carmen Lezeth: Just grow.
• 37:24
  Carmen Lezeth: It's gonna be okay.
• 37:25
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, you go, girl.
• 37:28
  Carmen Lezeth: You go, girl, yeah.
• 37:30
  unknown: And listen to your godmother.
• 37:32
  Carmen Lezeth: I think if I could change one thing about our relationship, I won't say it.
• 37:42
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, say it.
• 37:43
  Carmen Lezeth: Say it.
• 37:44
  Carmen Lezeth: No, I can't.
• 37:45
  Carmen Lezeth: No, please say it.
• 37:47
  Carmen Lezeth: I can't.
• 37:47
  Carmen Lezeth: It's controversial.
• 37:49
  Carmen Lezeth: Well, now you have to say it because I don't know what it is.
• 37:53
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm not gonna say it yet.
• 37:55
  Julie: Can you text it to me?
• 37:56
  Julie: No, I think if I would change one thing about our relationship, is that I live by the beach.
• 38:04
  Carmen Lezeth: So you so you live near me.
• 38:06
  Carmen Lezeth: No, you're gonna have to tell me because now.
• 38:08
  Carmen Lezeth: Am I gonna be sad?
• 38:09
  Carmen Lezeth: Is that why?
• 38:10
  Carmen Lezeth: No, I don't know.
• 38:14
  unknown: Okay.
• 38:15
  Carmen Lezeth: But if there was one thing I could change, yeah, I was gonna uplift, but see, you you have to dig down.
• 38:20
  Carmen Lezeth: You see how it is punching down.
• 38:22
  Carmen Lezeth: I I I lift up.
• 38:23
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, that's the difference between you and me.
• 38:25
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay.
• 38:25
  Carmen Lezeth: If I were to change one thing about our relationship, I think is um yeah, it's controversial.
• 38:34
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't want to say it either.
• 38:35
  Carmen Lezeth: You're right.
• 38:35
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't want to say it.
• 38:36
  Carmen Lezeth: No, you're just teasing now.
• 38:39
  Carmen Lezeth: I realize now, like that could be painful.
• 38:41
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't know.
• 38:41
  Carmen Lezeth: No, now you have to.
• 38:44
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh no, oh, see how that feels.
• 38:46
  Carmen Lezeth: Doesn't that feel horrible?
• 38:49
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, okay, better yet, what is one thing that if you could change about your own life, what would it be?
• 38:56
  Carmen Lezeth: If I could change one thing about my life, I'll start with me.
• 39:01
  Carmen Lezeth: I would have moved out to California when I was much younger.
• 39:05
  Carmen Lezeth: I would have done it, I would have come to college here because I love this town so much.
• 39:11
  Carmen Lezeth: That's the one thing I wish I had done.
• 39:13
  Carmen Lezeth: But I didn't know.
• 39:14
  Carmen Lezeth: I didn't know what I didn't know.
• 39:15
  Carmen Lezeth: What about you?
• 39:17
  Julie: I've just asked to be older, so then I already know what I'm doing with my life.
• 39:22
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, that's not how it works.
• 39:24
  Carmen Lezeth: No, absolutely not.
• 39:25
  Carmen Lezeth: That's not how it works, but this is the most exciting time, Julie.
• 39:29
  Carmen Lezeth: I know, I know it sounds weird coming from older people or whatever, but wow man, 17 and 18, this is the fun time.
• 39:37
  Carmen Lezeth: This is this is the good stuff.
• 39:39
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, so okay, do we want to tell everybody what this means?
• 39:43
  Carmen Lezeth: Do we want to?
• 39:44
  Carmen Lezeth: Or we'll it's just a it's just a heart, right?
• 39:48
  Carmen Lezeth: So she was explaining it's a heart.
• 39:49
  Carmen Lezeth: See, it makes a heart.
• 39:51
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, but what's with the kissy face?
• 39:56
  unknown: I don't like that part.
• 40:00
  Julie: It's so goofy.
• 40:01
  Julie: I can't even do it when I laugh.
• 40:08
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, I I'm leaving this all in because it's gonna be so goofy, but I love it.
• 40:12
  Carmen Lezeth: Well, look at it.
• 40:13
  Carmen Lezeth: Thank you so much for hanging out on the private lounge with me.
• 40:16
  Carmen Lezeth: I appreciate it.
• 40:18
  Carmen Lezeth: Look at I always think it's cool to have uh people from a different generation, whether older or younger, on the show.
• 40:26
  Carmen Lezeth: So you didn't even hesitate.
• 40:27
  Carmen Lezeth: You were like, Yeah, I'll do it.
• 40:28
  Carmen Lezeth: I thought you weren't gonna want to do it.
• 40:30
  Carmen Lezeth: Why are you so tired?
• 40:31
  Carmen Lezeth: I woke up at 5 30.
• 40:33
  Carmen Lezeth: I get up every day at 4 30.
• 40:35
  Carmen Lezeth: You're supposed to be like me.
• 40:37
  Julie: What time did you go to sleep?
• 40:39
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, okay.
• 40:39
  Carmen Lezeth: All right, all right.
• 40:40
  Carmen Lezeth: Twins.
• 40:40
  Carmen Lezeth: I went to sleep at midnight.
• 40:42
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, so yeah.
• 40:43
  Carmen Lezeth: And you went to Pilates.
• 40:45
  Carmen Lezeth: And then I'm going to the gym tonight.
• 40:48
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay.
• 40:48
  Carmen Lezeth: Well, don't overdo it, okay?
• 40:50
  Carmen Lezeth: But I love you for doing this.
• 40:51
  Carmen Lezeth: Thank you so much for being on the show.
• 40:53
  Carmen Lezeth: I will edit it so you look good.
• 40:56
  Julie: And um Yeah, because I'm looking a little wrecked.
• 41:00
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, I can't, I don't okay.
• 41:02
  Carmen Lezeth: You're ridiculous.
• 41:03
  unknown: Okay.
• 41:04
  Carmen Lezeth: All right.
• 41:04
  Carmen Lezeth: Everyone, thank you so much for stopping by.
• 41:07
  Carmen Lezeth: I appreciate it.
• 41:07
  Carmen Lezeth: And remember, at the end of the day, it really is all about the joy.
• 41:11
  Carmen Lezeth: Bye, everyone.
• 41:12
  Carmen Lezeth: Thanks for stopping by, all about the joy.
• 41:19
  Carmen Lezeth: Be better and stay beautiful, folks.
• 41:21
  Carmen Lezeth: Have a sweet day.