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150. Bonus Episode: The Shift Preview Call Day 3 · The Shift Podcast

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Welcome to The Shift podcast where you get to hear life
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And come join us inside The Shift.
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Hey you guys, welcome to day three of the shift preview
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calls. We're so happy that you're here
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and you're joining us today. OK, a few things I want to start
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out with, I spent all day yesterday or not all day
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yesterday, but my second preview call with my shared screen on.
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So I want to make sure that you guys are just seeing me and
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nothing else. If you could put in the chat
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that you can and here you can see me good.
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It is just on me on the screen. And then also I want to make
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this interactive. So feel free, introduce
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yourself, let us know where you're from and what you're kind
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of hoping to get from today on the training.
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That would be awesome. OK, good.
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Thanks Jim. All good.
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Perfect. I'm not going to go a whole
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nother day with just the shared screen on.
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OK, I want to have so much fun on this call.
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This is the last of the three days of the calls and I, I kind
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of want to go rogue a little bit and just kind of get out of the
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stiffness of just doing a training and you guys watching
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that. So I was just on a training last
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week and it was so funny. The lady who was doing the
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training was like, we're going to pump our arms for five
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seconds together. And I was like, OK, so let's do
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that today. I felt like so energized after
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doing it and I was recording some content for you guys
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yesterday for a couple hours and I did this right before and it
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felt so good. So feel free to join me but or
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if you're listening, I feel free to do it as well.
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But I'm just going to put my arms for the 1st 5 seconds.
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You're using my energy. It put me, it puts me in
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momentum. So I want to start out.
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If this is your first day joining us on this training, I
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want to welcome you. I know there's lots of different
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things that you can be doing with your hours, so I'm just
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grateful that you're here. I hope you get some motivation,
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some inspiration, and you really tap into your desires and your
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goals on this call. That is going to be the goal of
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this call for me. My name is Janessa Dean.
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I've been a certified life coach for the last.
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I said I put down four years, but I think it's been about five
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years now. I've coached hundreds of people
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both one-on-one and inside of my groups and my programs, and I
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really have helped them create confidence in creating whatever
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result they want or going for their goals and helping them do
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it in a shorter amount of time. I also run a program called the
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Flight Para Academy. It's for nurses and medics that
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want to specifically get into flight or flight para medicine.
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And I just opened up a new program called The Shift, and
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I'm going to be talking to you about that a little bit later on
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this call. Just a couple things.
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Looks like the chat box is working, so feel free to put
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anything in the chat there, any questions that you might have or
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any answers to the questions that I'm going to be offering
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you guys today. What the call is going to look
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like is very similar. If you watch the other days, I'm
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going to do a small little teaching portion at the
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beginning and then I'm going to open it up for coaching.
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So feel free when it comes to that point.
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There's a raise hand down at the bottom.
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It either says raise hand or react.
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I know some of the versions are a little bit different, so when
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you push that down to the bottom, you can raise your hand
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and we can discuss the questions or you guys can get some
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coaching on what's coming up for you.
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And also today I wanted to open it up.
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We've talked about a couple different things over the past
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couple days. We talked about creating
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confidence and uncertainty on Monday, and then yesterday we
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talked about creating momentum. And so if you guys want coaching
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on any of the past two days or any of these questions today, I
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want to open that up to you guys too.
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OK, any questions about that? I, the videos that I was
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recording for you yesterday, I wanted to talk to you guys about
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this for a second. So for those of you guys who
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don't know, this is my 4th career change.
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And I've been thinking about this a lot lately actually,
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because I used to give myself or have a lot of like, not
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embarrassment, but maybe a little bit of shame about
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changing careers and doing it four times.
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And I'm like, why am I the person who just gets bored after
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three or four years and then moves to something else?
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And what I've been realizing as I've been thinking about all
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these really big identity shifts that I made.
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So I went from a degree in communications with an emphasis
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in broadcast journalism. And then I moved into banking.
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And I did banking for five years.
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And then from banking, I moved into nursing.
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And I have been a nurse for the last, I don't even know how many
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years. And I went into flight nursing
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with that. And then when I was a flight
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nurse, and I did that for about 6 1/2 seven years, I moved fully
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into life coaching and retired from nursing.
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And I think about each of those shifts.
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And I think like now looking at it, I think it requires so much
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resilience, so much courage, so much like just grit to go for
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what you really want and to go all in.
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And I think like, I don't, I no longer think of this as like
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this is my weakness and changing identities.
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I think of this as my greatest gift, Like this is my greatest
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power to have so much resilience, to think about not
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only what I want, but to listen to it, to meet the resistance of
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changing identities and then to have the courage to go all in.
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And really I went all in. I completely retired from
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nursing and went all in on growing my business.
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And the result of that is not only doing a career and living a
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life that I know that I'm meant to be living, but I realize that
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I can create whatever I want if I listen to that whisper and if
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I'm willing to really go through the hard.
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And so I, I want to offer you guys today in the teaching
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portion to be thinking about what you want to create, what
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you know you are meant to be doing on this earth and really
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lean into it. And for this next hour, I want
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to give you guys or offer for you to give yourself permission
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to want what you want and give yourself permission to ask
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yourself, what is it that I desire?
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And in this hour to really think about it and really go for it
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and be all in with it. OK, that's what I want to start
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with before we go into the teaching portion.
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OK, so today I'm going to sum up kind of like everything that we
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talked about the last two days. Today I'm going to talk to you
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about my process that I go through in decluttering my
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brain. I think decluttering your brain
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is so important. As a human, we have thousands
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and thousands of thoughts every day, and the key is the thoughts
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that we spend the most time with.
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That's how we are going to go out there and take actions and
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what we're going to feel and then what we're going to create
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and the results we're going to create.
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So for example, if we're spending a lot of time with
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negative thoughts about ourselves and beating ourselves
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up, that's the result that we're going to create, that we're
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going to create negative thoughts, negative emotions on
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the daily. And here's the thing, before I
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found life coaching, I think I had spent 35 years of my life
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beating myself up and getting to my goals.
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And they worked. It worked.
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But I realized I can beat myself up all the way to my goal or I
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can have compassion and love on myself all the way to it too.
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And which one is going to feel better if I know that I'm the
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person that's going to get there no matter what.
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So this is really what decluttering your brain will
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help you do is help you realize what are the thoughts that
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you're spending the most time with and what are they creating
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for you by spending time and listening to those ones and
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letting those ones be louder. So something that I do every
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morning is I spend time every morning, I like to type things
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out instead of write things or journal things that I know some
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of you guys like to journal. So however, whatever is the way
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that you want to just like get your thoughts out.
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Another thing that I sometimes do is on my phone, I'll go to
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the notes section and I'll just type out everything that I'm
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thinking. So spend time before you start
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in the action of doing whatever is on your To Do List or your
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work or whatever, just typing out or letting out all of your
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thoughts. And what I mean by this is not
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censoring what you're putting down, but just letting it flow
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and letting it go all out without judgement of them.
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And let them freely come out. Even negative, good, bad, ugly,
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everything in between, let it come out.
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In this process, I also like to take myself to the worst case
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scenario. So oftentimes a lot of the
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people that I coach are like, well, I don't I don't even want
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to think about this because then what if this happens and I don't
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want to think about the worst case scenario And I actually
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tell them when our brains offering us that it wants us to
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answer it, it wants us to take it all the way through.
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There is some power in taking your worst case scenario all the
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way through. So I'm going to give you an
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example since I've worked with a lot of healthcare workers and
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1st responders. Some of their biggest worst case
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scenario is their patient coding.
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And I'm like, OK, let's do it. Let's go there, let's have your
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patient code. And they're like, OK, and we
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walked them through the coding patient, what do they do?
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What drugs they do? What are their resources?
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And they're like, oh, that's not so scary, That's not so bad.
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And so I want to offer for you, our brain wants us to go to the
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worst case scenario sometimes. So this is the perfect time to
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do it in the morning when you are spending time getting it all
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out with the worst case scenario.
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We fear going there sometimes because I think we think it's
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going to happen. And what I want to offer you
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guys is if you let yourself go there, you let yourself play it
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all out, there's so much power in that.
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And also you realize that the only thing that you're fearing
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is the feeling of when the worst case scenario happens.
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And sometimes that's fear, sometimes that's doubt,
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sometimes that's imposter syndrome.
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And if we allow it to play all out, then we're like, oh, that's
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the feeling. And also, this is just what it's
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like to feel it. And that's OK.
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It's not going to overtake me. It's when we resist it and we
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push it down, we push down, we push it down, that's when it
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becomes a huge monster. So we want to let it all play
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out so that we can figure out what is that emotion and that we
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can realize, oh, we're not going to die feeling it.
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And we can start to work through it and process through it.
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OK, so something to be thinking about as you're doing this
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exercise. I don't censor anything good,
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bad, ugly thoughts of me. Sometimes just putting him down
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on paper helps me recognize, OK, where is my brain staring me?
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And I want you to be thinking about as you're journaling, as
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you're typing these things out, what feelings are coming up for
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you? What are you noticing?
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What are the thoughts that you're noticing you're spending
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most time with? What are the predominant ones
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that are coming out? And I want you to think about
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what are you spending more time with versus what are the ones
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that are the background noise? So the way I like to think about
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this is I don't go to the zoo anymore because my kids are
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older, but when they were younger, they loved going to the
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zoo. And you know how there's like
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there's certain exhibits where there's a lot more people like
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the monkeys or the lions or the snakes.
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And those are just the ones that I think people fear the most
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too. And so I think about it like
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going to the zoo, your brains walking through the zoo every
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day and it's hearing the monkeys over here and it's hearing the
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lions over here and it's hearing the snakes or the giraffes and
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everybody over here. But what are you spending time
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with? So we could be spending time
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with being like, OK, the snakes are over here.
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I'm really, really, really scared of them.
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And then you could be honing in on them.
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And then that's affecting the rest of your enjoyment of the
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rest of the zoo because you're like, Oh my gosh, I'm really,
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I'm scared of the snakes. I'm scared they're going to
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break loose. And you're noticing that all the
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time that you're spending thinking about the snakes, it's
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having you. It's taking you out of the
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enjoyment of the rest of the day of going through the zoo.
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And So what you want to be thinking about is OK, where is
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your, is your brain chatter going?
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What are the thoughts or the things that it's spending most
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time with? How are you feeling because you
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are spending time with those thoughts.
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What are actions are you taking? What actions are you not taking?
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And oftentimes in the morning when I can catch the negative
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thoughts that my brains offering me, I realize I'm spending a lot
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of time ruminating, meaning spinning and indecision in
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stuck. And my brain likes to tell me
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that's a useful way to spend my time.
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And so it just keeps me there looping and looping and looping.
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But what's great about this, decluttering your brain and
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spending time with all those are the thoughts that my brains
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offering me is that I can see where I have the opportunity to,
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to maybe not get rid of the thought, but put it in the
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background and maybe decide, hey, intentionally, this is the
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thought that I want to be thinking about today.
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This is the thought that I want to be spending time with.
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Instead of spending time with being scared about the snakes
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breaking loose. I want to go over here and I
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want to start enjoying the bird show.
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And then after the bird show, I want to enjoy being able to
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touch the underwater Stingrays and the water over here and this
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creative spot. So what it does is it allows you
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to magnify the ones that are keeping you stuck and then also
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give you intentional thoughts that you can move forward to.
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Give yourself energy, give yourself time, get out of
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indecision, and then move forward confidently for the rest
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of your day. So awareness with all of this is
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going to give you so much power. In the morning, when I have
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awareness of OK, these are the thoughts that I'm having.
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This is now how I want to intentionally go forward.
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It creates very different actions in my day.
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I'm able to have clarity, I'm able to have energy, I'm able to
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have for me, like grit always comes up for me.
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Like that's what I want to generate in challenges.
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I want to generate grit. And if you guys are like me, who
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is an overachiever, A doer, someone who's like chasing like
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growth and leveling up, I really think it's important to generate
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an emotion that's going to help you do that.
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It's going to help you face the challenges.
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It's going to help you go through the hard.
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And I do think we live in a day right now where it's very much
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like, let's live the soft life. Let's be comfortable and
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innately our brain wants to do that too.
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It wants us to be comfortable and to not grow.
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And so I think it really is required to tell yourself like
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this is going to be hard and I can handle the hard and also
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generate the emotion that you know will help you do that.
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And that's where I've really found the ability to be able to
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have joy and challenges, but also to generate grip for my
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life and whatever I'm doing and whatever I'm trying to
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accomplish. And I really, I talked about
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this yesterday, but I really love the journey of the
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becoming. And I think we chase goals
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because of the way that we think it's going to feel at the end.
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But to really be present and enjoy going through it and enjoy
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your present and also enjoy getting there, I think it
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requires you to enjoy the process and find joy in it.
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Find enjoying the challenge. So I want to offer for you guys
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to do that in decluttering your brain.
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It just gives you an ultimate awareness of your thoughts and
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awareness of your thoughts and where your brain is leading you
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and where you want to lead. It is so powerful.
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So I have some questions that I want to put in the chat box now,
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and I'm going to read them out loud for those of you guys who
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are listening in on this replay or who are listening in and
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can't look at the chat box now, I'm going to put them in now.
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OK, question #1 what thoughts have you been spending time with
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this week? And I didn't want to just look
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at today because today might be too early to know what those
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are, but you can look at today too.
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But predominantly this week, what thoughts have you been
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spending a lot of time with? Think about?
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Is there one that like you've been ruminating on or beating
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yourself up with or that's been coming up for you a lot this
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week? Question two, what is the
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feeling that follows that thought?
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So when you're thinking that thought, what is the feeling
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that you have immediately when you when you're thinking it?
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Step 3 or question three, what do you notice yourself doing
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because of that thought? What actions are you taking?
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And then question 4 is what do you notice yourself not doing
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because you're thinking that and you're feeling this emotion?
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And then the last one, this one I added in there.
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I just think it's such an interesting question to ask is
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what would be different about you if you totally got rid of
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this thought and you never allowed yourself to think it
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again? Now, this isn't impossible,
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especially if it's been ruminating with you all week,
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but I just think it's an interesting thought to pose for
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yourself is what would be different about you if you
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totally got rid of this thought and you just were hypnotized and
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never allowed to think it again? OK, those are the questions.
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Who would be brave enough to get some coaching on these?
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And also, if you don't want to come on and raise your hand, I
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mean, I would love for you too, but if you don't want to come on
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and raise your hand, you can put your answers in the chat box as
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well. Again, to raise your hand, just
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go down to the raise, hand down at the bottom and then you can
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put your hand up there and I will promote you to panelists.
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All right, Jim, let's go. Hi, Janessa, can you hear me?
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I can hear you great and I can see you.
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Thanks for coming on. Yeah, hi.
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Jim. Thanks for hosting.
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So yeah, actually, and we chatted about this, but in the
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job search mode this week, I've had two lots of feelings.
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One is anxiety and two is excitement.
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And I bounce between those two sets of emotions.
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And really because, you know, finding a new job is really
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important to me. So, so I think the importance of
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the job has bubbled up in my mind.
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And therefore, on the one hand I get anxious about it because I
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really want the job, and on the other, I also get excited about
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it because it also is a possibility for a new beginning.
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So I, I sort of bounce between those and I.
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I find myself if I can steady myself and lean into the
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excitement, it makes for a calmer experience than just
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leaning into the anxiety. So.
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Yeah. And I would love to be able to
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quote control my mind so I can think about the remember when I
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get excited about things versus and therefore downplay the the
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anxiety. So the anxiety is the snakes.
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The excitement is hanging out with the dolphins.
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Yeah, yeah. OK.
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I love that. I know.
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I wish we had dolphins at most of the zoos, but there really
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aren't. OK, so let's talk about.
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I want to go a step back, actually.
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What is the thought that's giving you anxiety about the job
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search? I think it's just, you know, the
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usual confidence challenge of I can sometimes forget when I've
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done good jobs and I remember when I struggled.
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So it's, I think that's what gives me the anxiety is
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remembering struggles instead of remembering quote successes and
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achievements, you know? OK this is so good because I
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think if we clean up this it'll help you with anxiety.
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So why is remembering the struggles bad or give you
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anxiety? Because I only really have room
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for one set of thoughts at a time when I can swap in and out.
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But if I'm thinking about the struggles, I'm not thinking
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about the positive side of things or, or the six, you know,
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the achievement side of things. Therefore, my, my mind can often
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be clouded around, oh, if I go into this job, it's going to be
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a struggle. And I, I get very preoccupied
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with worrying about the struggles, which are natural
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anyway in a new job versus, you know, being a bit more balanced
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and saying, well, there'll be, there'll be easier parts and
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some difficult parts. Yeah, OK.
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I'm gonna give you an example outside of you and you tell me
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what comes up for you. I think that when you're looking
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at your struggles, it's like such a negative connotation
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around it. But what came up for me when you
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said that is I think we have an opportunity to think of our
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struggles as very differently and not, I wouldn't say just
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positively, but I ran my first half marathon a couple years ago
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with my son. I wanted to do it before he left
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and I signed up for this half marathon thinking, oh, it's
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going to be at the coast, it's going to be beautiful weather,
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it's going to be so nice, it's going to be so enjoyable.
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We got there, the tide was high, it was on the beach and I was
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wet up until my waist almost the entire race.
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It took me like 4 hours to run it and I knew I was way more
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capable than that. And there that was an obstacle
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and that was a huge struggle. And I even told myself after
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running it, I'm never running this again.
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I'm never doing a half marathon again and I look back on that
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and I'm like, wait, now I know so much.
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I know I can do better. I know I can do quicker.
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I know which race now to sign up for, which one not to, and what
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to look for when I'm signing up. And I could look back on that
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struggle and be like, well, that was a complete waste of time.
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I never want to do that again. I'm nervous that this is going
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to happen again. Or I can say wait.
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I have so much more power and control because now I know what
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to look for and what not to look for.
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So what comes up for you when I say that?
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Actually, what I think about is the, like I said, I find some of
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that job search exciting in terms of possibility.
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To your point, what I think about is the struggle is the
23:46
pathway to some of that excitement, because part of the
23:48
excitement is feeling good about actually working through some
23:51
struggle and remembering that and sort of holding those two
23:56
thoughts together. Because I'll give you as we talk
23:58
it through, what I do think about is I don't want to quote
24:03
easy job or a job that I might have done 5 or 10 years ago.
24:05
I'm not interested in that. I could probably go do that.
24:09
That scares me. Actually, that scares me more
24:12
than having something challenging to do, which is
24:15
where I think I would get the excitement to even like, you
24:19
know, as you know, we've talked, but I had a job interview this
24:22
week. It was very exciting.
24:23
It was very different from what I do normally.
24:27
I had to do a lot of prep for it, but I felt good in
24:30
understanding what it was about because I leaned into the
24:34
uncertainty. I didn't get fazed by it, but I,
24:37
you know, I was stressed and I was feeling good and stressed
24:40
and I sort of flip flop between them.
24:41
But I have to remember that those two sometimes go together
24:47
so. Yeah.
24:48
And my hunch is the reason why it's hard to get to the
24:51
excitement is because we have to, I think there's an
24:54
opportunity to make the struggle something that there was growth
24:58
in it and a different level. And so if if we did look at your
25:03
struggles quote UN quote struggles in the past, I think
25:06
we have to make the past better before we can make the present
25:10
or the future better. And so when I say there's an
25:13
opportunity to look back at the past struggles and and look at
25:18
them differently, what kind of comes up for you?
25:22
Yeah, that rings true because again, as you know, I was in AI
25:26
was in a job some years ago and I was might be very
25:30
uncomfortable in terms of what was going on with the company.
25:32
But then I went to the next job and there were similar
25:35
circumstances, but in the next one I'm like, well, that's fine.
25:38
It is what it is. I was just more quote
25:40
comfortable because I've already been through that first round
25:42
and I realized from that first experience, you know, no one was
25:48
going to eat me alive. It wasn't it wasn't that bad at
25:51
the time. I didn't to your point at the
25:53
time, when you're in the middle of it, I'm like, oh, this is
25:55
awful. Then in the second job I
25:58
realized, Oh yes, it two things really.
26:01
I learned from it. Don't put myself in search.
26:04
Bad situations perhaps, but also when I am in difficult
26:07
situations. I, I, you know, I, I can roll
26:11
through them. It's not that bad.
26:13
Yeah. So why do you think that you're
26:14
fearing the struggle now that might come up for you in a new
26:17
job? I would say genuinely, I'm less
26:22
fearful of it than I was. I mean, I have a lot of momentum
26:26
so I but it's really like a 7030.
26:29
I'm 70% excited about a job and 30% anxious.
26:33
It used to be a lot more 5050 or the other way, you know, So
26:36
yeah, I would say, but if we. Just looked at that 30% for a
26:39
second. Why do you think still think you
26:41
have the 30% anxiety about future struggles and a future
26:44
job? He could really be honest with
26:47
yourself. Oh, because there's actually
26:50
yes. Because there's no.
26:54
There's no guarantee. There's no certainty about
26:57
anything in life. So for example, if I go into a
27:00
job that on paper looks great, the people seem really nice,
27:03
etcetera, etcetera. I don't know what I'm, you know,
27:06
at some level I could be walking into chaos or somebody that's
27:10
very pleasant to interview turns out to be very difficult to work
27:12
with. There's no there's no guarantees
27:15
that anything. Now I have to like where you're
27:18
going with this. I have to, I have to have faith
27:21
and confidence in my own ability to navigate difficult
27:24
situations. But I also, I, you know, I don't
27:31
want to walk into something that's that's totally
27:33
unpredictable, you know? That's.
27:35
Because of my need for control. So I think what I'm hanging on
27:38
to is there's always that, there's always that desire for a
27:40
bit of control, which I know is is quite a bit of a fantasy.
27:45
Yeah. OK.
27:45
So this is I think the opposite coaching that I thought, I think
27:50
you thought I was going to give you.
27:51
I really think this is your opportunity to allow
27:54
uncertainty. Yeah, no, I agree.
27:57
I. Agree.
27:57
And to form a good relationship with it because right now it's
28:00
like, I don't want to feel uncertain, so I want to just get
28:02
to excitement so that I can plow right over uncertainty.
28:05
And so I can I have control of my feelings.
28:08
Whereas your real control is going to happen when you just
28:12
stop resisting uncertainty and you're just like, oh, OK, yeah,
28:17
this is. I, I agree that's helpful
28:20
because I will say that, you know, the only thing I can
28:24
guarantee in life is that there is always going to be
28:28
uncertainty. So if there's always going to be
28:30
uncertainty, don't try and don't sweat the energy trying to
28:33
control all that uncertainty. Even with the most quote,
28:36
whatever it is, there's no certainty we're going to wake up
28:40
tomorrow. Everything's going to, you know,
28:41
so like just just go forward and, and embrace or like you
28:46
said, sort of walk through that uncertainty instead of, as we
28:50
talked before, don't try and control or wrestle down
28:53
uncertainty. It's not a, it's not a practical
28:57
thing to do. You can manage it and navigate
29:00
it, but you can't, you can't stop it.
29:03
So therefore don't get anxious about it.
29:04
That's that's the place to get to.
29:06
Yeah, because what happens when you're wrestling and trying to
29:10
control and get out of uncertainty?
29:11
What do you notice yourself doing?
29:14
What I'm they're not doing is not using the energy on the to
29:19
really be my best self or to bring the positive, exciting
29:24
energy to doing new and fresh things and enjoying it because
29:28
we only have, I realize now we have a fixed amount of energy.
29:33
So I can use my energy. It's my choice.
29:36
I can use my energy to enjoy a situation or I can use my energy
29:39
to get, you know, ticked off about a situation.
29:42
It's finite. I can't.
29:44
So better to use it for enjoying it and if I can versus sort of
29:50
like sucking the energy down through the anxiety.
29:53
Yeah, I actually think the avoiding the uncertainty and
29:57
allowing yourself to feel it and trying to control it is what's
30:00
causing the anxiety. Correct.
30:03
There's like a tax to that. There's a cost to avoiding
30:05
uncertainty as it's quite hard work because you have to be very
30:09
like you said, it's like you sort of lose using a lot of
30:13
energy to sort of try and put that uncertainty into a box.
30:16
And that creates anxiety because you can't really, you can't get
30:19
the uncertainty in the box because, you know, Mr.
30:23
uncertainty is like is not clear shape at all.
30:27
I've got a box here, which is my brain.
30:28
No, I want a box. No, no, it doesn't work like
30:30
that. And it that just creates stress
30:32
because you can't get it in the box.
30:34
Yeah. And now that you see it, you can
30:37
lessen you actually have the control of what you do have
30:39
control over is lessening the anxiety.
30:42
And the way to lessen the anxiety is just to allow the
30:44
uncertainty. Yeah.
30:47
And I think you're to the point as well as you have to do the
30:50
reps on this like I am, I'm in a rhythm of doing a lot more job
30:58
searching a lot more interviews than I was.
31:01
So every, every interview isn't isn't so loaded with, you know,
31:08
this could affect me for the next 6 months.
31:09
No. And again, actually part of that
31:14
is, is sort of getting on the bicycle every day and holding it
31:17
lightly, you know, having two or three interviews a week and not
31:20
sweating about, oh, this is an interim I get this month, you
31:24
know, a build. In other words, I'm, I'm the
31:26
anxiety again, it's the anxiety is, is lesser because I'm not
31:31
trying to control this. And again, just get this one
31:33
thing in a box. I'm just rolling with it more.
31:36
Yeah, because the thought that's causing the the anxiety or
31:42
that's causing the uncertainty is I'm not in control or I don't
31:45
have control. And so it's one first, like, oh,
31:49
OK, the thing that I'm trying to resist feeling is uncertainty.
31:53
And if I just allowed it uncertainty to come with me like
31:56
a heavy rock in my backpack and I put it on every morning.
31:59
OK, there's that. And then there's also
32:02
intentional thinking is going to be like, wait, I'm going to
32:06
allow the uncertainty and I put on the heavy backpack, but also
32:10
I am in control and reminding yourself what you do have
32:15
control over. Right.
32:17
And I think that's down to against a bigger convo, but it's
32:19
like you have to acknowledge what is quote inside and outside
32:24
of your control, work on what you can control and ignore what
32:28
you can't. So that's about having good
32:31
boundaries around, you know, and that's the, that I think creates
32:36
the anxiety when you, when you don't get clear boundaries for
32:41
yourself in your head, suddenly everything looks like it's
32:43
uncontrollable, which is not true.
32:46
And the fantasy of trying to control everything is, you know,
32:50
that's part of my personality, but that's not a that's also not
32:53
practical either. Because anything we do in life,
32:56
whatever your role, you could be the president or whatever, you
33:00
know, there's only some which you can, nobody has absolute
33:03
control over everything. So it's it's really
33:05
acknowledging those boundaries and being nimble around and like
33:11
you said, letting quote, letting go of what you can and cannot
33:16
control. Well, and also your thought air
33:19
that your brains offering you is when there's chaos and
33:22
uncontrolled situation, you can't have confidence.
33:26
Yes, yes. OK.
33:27
And so I, I want to offer you that you can and I'm going to
33:30
give you an example as a flight nurse, it's utter chaos in every
33:34
call that I ran, especially ones where there was multiple
33:37
patients, multiple pile UPS, but I was really confident.
33:41
In fact, the more chaotic situations, the more confidence
33:44
I tapped into. And so it is possible for you in
33:48
the chaos, in the uncontrolled environment of all this job
33:51
searching, to have confidence in that.
33:55
Yeah, and I think to your point, it's like it is, it's about
33:59
quickly being aware of what's your zone of influence.
34:01
So to your point, like EMT ING as an EMT bringing, bringing a
34:06
coding patient in, there's a whole, you know, an ER Bay which
34:12
is all ready for triage. So you have to do a good, your
34:15
good job is to get the patients in on the stretcher and get them
34:18
onto the, onto the off the stretcher and get them onto the
34:21
bed. That's really where you'll
34:23
respond, you know, you might be, you might be on a BBM or
34:27
whatever, but once they're off, they're off.
34:29
You let the others take over. You don't control the whole
34:32
situation. And likewise, same in this job
34:36
search. I control how I turn up and how
34:39
I chat and present myself. I don't control how someone's
34:43
going to react on the other end of the zoom.
34:45
And once I recognize that, focus on what I can, focus on what I
34:50
can control. You know, there's plenty to do
34:51
with that. Yeah, yeah, 'cause what's
34:53
happening with the zoo right now is you have the snakes over here
34:55
and you're like, we are just going to avoid that whole
34:58
perimeter and I'm just going to feel anxious about avoiding it
35:01
versus what if we just go to it and we're like, I'm just going
35:04
to have uncertainty and attend to the snake?
35:07
Right. And the last thing I think I'd
35:10
say as well as one has to, I recognize is to your point, This
35:14
is why this coaching work so well.
35:18
The person on the other side of the call has their own anxieties
35:22
and uncertainties about their day or their life.
35:24
It's not like I'm, it's not like everybody, everybody else has
35:28
got life figured out and I haven't.
35:30
Most people are trying to get through it in different
35:32
capacities. So that makes me feel, when I
35:35
can remember that, I realized that's humility.
35:38
I'm just a human like anybody else, and we're all trying to
35:41
figure it out. Right.
35:43
And also I can be anxious and uncertain and still show up
35:46
confident and rock this interview A. 100% and I that's.
35:50
Where I want to take your brain. Yes, I, I genuinely, I would say
35:55
I believe that more than I used to, but more than belief, I
35:58
think I would say I'm beginning to practice action that more
36:03
than I used to. And, and and belief comes
36:05
through. Action doesn't come through
36:06
saying yes, Janessa, yes, I agree you did it.
36:08
Now it comes through actually doing it and doing the reps,
36:13
which is back to the full circle to the start of this
36:16
conversation where you said you have to sort of lean in and
36:22
enjoy the journey. I'm doing the same with fitness.
36:24
It's like I'm, I'm, I used to be wound up about not being able to
36:27
do XY and Z. Now I'm embracing what I can do
36:31
and it's a lot more satisfying. That might get me on the road to
36:34
where I want to get to. Yeah.
36:36
OK. So let's find your belief.
36:37
I have a question for you. OK, tell me what your zone of
36:40
influence is in this job search. My zone of influence is to turn
36:47
up and show plenty of initiative and original thinking about what
36:55
the company I'm interviewing with can do to like, you know,
36:59
drive success as a business. So that's very important part.
37:03
Like rather than turning up and being ready to answer 20
37:05
questions from an interviewer, no, I need a ton up and have an
37:10
opinion, I'll be prepared to share thoughts, original
37:15
thoughts on where I think this business could go and how I can
37:19
contribute to that. That's a different approach.
37:20
It's a more proactive approach. OK.
37:22
What else? And if you could be specific,
37:28
what else is like zone of influence in this job search
37:31
look like for you? Oh.
37:33
OK, sorry, yes. So I think it's the it's to give
37:39
the right to give the into a viewer confidence that I can
37:45
that I'm decisive and I don't hedge things in my decisioning.
37:49
You know, in other words, I don't just come up with three
37:51
different ideas, but I I have conviction and confidence.
37:55
So that's I can influence that and also I have room to drive
38:03
the momentum of the of the interview discussions.
38:06
I, you know, I have, I can influence how quickly they move
38:11
on decisions with me. I think I can have influence
38:14
over now. OK, I'm going to read these back
38:17
to you and then ask you a question.
38:18
Tell me the last one I can influence how quickly they move
38:21
the decision. Yeah, I can.
38:22
I can influence the pace of the interview.
38:24
I think I have more influence over that.
38:26
I've I've had that in the past actually.
38:27
I can, I can, you know, reach out proactively reach out to all
38:31
the people in the company did it.
38:32
I can actually move things along and the companies welcome that
38:35
sometime. Yeah, because the whole point of
38:38
interviews, and this is what I always tell everyone, it's like
38:40
if they brought you to the interview, you already have the
38:42
time and experience. They're just wanting to know who
38:44
you are, what you value in the team, player you are. 100%.
38:48
OK, so I'm going to read these back to you and then ask you a
38:50
question. I asked you what is the zone of
38:52
influence that you have on this job search?
38:54
You said turn up, show plenty of initiative, original thinking,
39:00
have an opinion, share your original thoughts.
39:04
Ask yourself, how can I contribute?
39:07
Give the interviewer confidence. Don't hedge things.
39:10
And I want to word that one a little different.
39:12
Interview with confidence hedge things in my in my decisions
39:18
have room to drive the momentum and influence the pace of the
39:21
interview. Yeah, that's a lot of you did a
39:24
lot of typing there. That's very impressive.
39:26
Well, it's all not spelled right, but you got the decimate.
39:30
Suppress I suppressive. What is it that you have to be
39:34
thinking about yourself to do all of those things in the
39:38
interview? Two things, which is I have to
39:46
believe I can follow up and make that stuff happen when I get in
39:50
there. And the this is exciting.
39:53
I, I think it's that first point.
39:55
You can't fake this stuff. I have to believe that I can
39:58
actually go in and make a difference.
40:00
OK, what does he believe? Who can do that 100% of the
40:02
time? What does that Jim believe?
40:04
What does that Jim believe? Who can do that every single
40:07
time he sits in an interview? What are the what's the belief
40:09
he has about himself? That almost like there's no
40:15
question I can do it. Whatever the problem is that
40:17
gets thrown at me, I can solve it or figure out how to solve
40:20
it. You know, get the right people
40:21
in and da da da. OK, tell me what you think of
40:24
this thought. Whatever the problem is, I'm the
40:27
person to solve it. Yeah, I can.
40:30
I can figure out how to solve it.
40:31
There's nothing without being arrogant, but there's there's
40:33
nothing I can't sort of get the even if I don't can't actually
40:37
solve it in absolute, I can figure out who we need to get to
40:41
to solve the problem. Yeah, I think it's actually a
40:43
little bit of confidence and excitement you're generating.
40:46
100% I think the excitement has to be there because you have to
40:51
be. Again, it's back to energy.
40:54
With problems, you've got to be excited about leaning in to
40:58
solve them. Yeah.
41:00
You know you either bring energy to you know you use your energy
41:03
to avoid a problem. You use an energy to jump in and
41:06
solve the problem. It's and you have to a lot of
41:09
these business problems, you have to you know, give it 100 or
41:13
110% energy to solve the problem.
41:16
And that's very apparent when someone does.
41:18
This is where the hedging is, you know, don't give it 80%,
41:21
give it 100 or 110%. And that's that way you'll
41:25
thrive. You know, but I think the
41:27
excitement comes from the confidence that you lean into
41:30
when you think this. Yes, I agree.
41:32
So I think you what the problem is, you've been having anxiety
41:36
because you're not allowing the uncertainty.
41:37
So allow the uncertainty to just be there with you, carry it with
41:40
you. But then also, you've been
41:42
trying to generate excitement, but it's not excitement you want
41:45
to generate, it's confidence. I agree.
41:48
You can't. You don't try and quote force.
41:51
I keep saying quote, but you don't have force excitement.
41:54
It's like if you have confidence, the joy and the
41:57
excitement comes from something because you, because you
42:01
believe, you have strong self belief.
42:03
And self belief therefore means that you that you can't be
42:08
excited without self belief because the doubt holds you
42:11
back. And any of us have been around
42:17
as long as me you I have plenty of experience in I've got plenty
42:23
of reservoirs of experience to tap into.
42:24
So I can I can either choose to remember that experience.
42:28
I've been solved the problem since I was I got out of school
42:31
2025 years ago. So I either say, wow, I remember
42:35
when I did this, that the other, or I just forget all that and
42:39
go, Oh my God, this is this is going to be an awful problem.
42:41
No, no, no problems that, yeah. And the thing about excitement
42:45
is it's so fleeting. Like we we can tap into it, but
42:48
it's fleeting. So I think confidence is going
42:51
to be the thing. If you generate that, that's
42:53
going to be more long lasting. And the more you lean into
42:56
confidence, the more you double down on the confidence.
42:58
That's when you can experience the excitement.
43:01
I think also you know philosophically as well you have
43:06
to. What I find is helpful is to
43:09
look at problems as a blessing. Like if, if, if I didn't have
43:13
problems, I'd sort of get bored and sit around and like, oh.
43:16
You know 100. Percent but but but problems
43:19
that are thrown and there's like how how lucky am I that I've
43:23
been given this big hairy problem to solve either because
43:26
it's been handed to me or it's sort of blood up in front of me.
43:30
Because otherwise I would just, you know, sit around and I don't
43:35
know, I'd probably want to just be eating gummy bears or
43:36
something. But if you've got a big trouble
43:38
to solve, it's actually to your point and it's back to the the
43:44
growth mindset is, oh, you know, I've got a problem.
43:46
I can not even I can grow. But like, it's exciting to get
43:49
into a problem because it gets every, you know, everyone's
43:54
running and anyone that's on board with it is all running in
43:57
the same direction. So like you said, I mean, you
43:59
know, you think about the most amazing experiences is taking
44:03
very sick patients into the into the ER.
44:07
It's incredible to watch. It's very dignified to be part
44:11
of a team. You might be a small part, but
44:12
to see a whole team to come together is a mind blindly
44:16
humbling experience. So.
44:19
And I also think a thought that I was just thinking about to
44:21
offer you that might be good is I am the problem solver.
44:24
Yeah, 100%. And lean into that.
44:28
Yeah. Because you you fear the
44:31
problems, but you're actually good at solving them too.
44:33
So I think it's like reminding yourself like I am the problem
44:35
solver. Yeah, problems are good.
44:40
They, like I said, they give us, I mean, again, it's a separate
44:43
combo, but like, it it, it, it gives us something positive to
44:46
occupy our brains with. Otherwise, I would ruminate and,
44:49
you know, slide off into, I don't know, eating bad food and,
44:54
you know, sitting around doing nothing.
44:55
Yeah. OK.
44:56
So we're going to carry the uncertainty with us.
44:58
We're going to work on the thought.
45:00
I'm the problem solver and we're going to generate confidence.
45:03
Yeah, no, this is good. And shout out, this program is
45:05
great in terms of like, like you said, this is a lot, so much
45:08
about managing the mind. And you know me, I was many
45:13
years ago as a skeptic, But I do see managing the mind to be the
45:16
key to a lot of this. Oh, totally.
45:18
And you have so much more capability to do it now, like
45:21
freely on your own and catch yourself when you're out of it.
45:24
For sure, for sure. Well, thanks, Jim.
45:27
Thanks for getting coached on that and being willing to go on
45:29
that. Yeah, thanks for having me on
45:31
here, Janessa. Talk soon.
45:32
Bye. Bye.
45:32
You're welcome. OK, so good.
45:37
I hope you guys got a lot out of listening in that.
45:39
I know a lot of you guys are making shifts and job changes
45:42
and career changes or wanting to work a different department, but
45:45
you're like, I don't want to experience the growth and the
45:48
feelings and the doubt and all of those things.
45:50
And again, I just want to emphasize that it's just as hard
45:55
to stay still and to not act on that whisper and what you really
45:57
want to do than to just really go for it.
46:00
You are going to feel doubt and you are going to feel maybe even
46:03
a bigger emotion like regret either way.
46:05
So that was such a good example to get coaching on decluttering
46:09
your brain. I want to invite you guys now if
46:11
you want to take this conversation deeper, if you want
46:14
to have momentum towards what you really want, if you want
46:17
constant support community, and I'm creating a movement inside
46:21
this new group, come and join us inside The Shift.
46:24
Enrollment is going on now. This is going to be a lifetime
46:26
membership life coaching program.
46:28
I wanted to make this not just for professional and not just
46:32
for healthcare workers and 1st responders.
46:34
I wanted to make this for everybody because I really
46:36
believe how we do one thing is how we do everything.
46:39
And I really believe we're always making constant shifts in
46:42
our life, whether it's personal identity shifts, relationship,
46:47
working on time management, building our confidence and
46:50
posture syndrome, or whether it's professional shifts where
46:53
we're changing jobs or we're changing careers like I did 4
46:57
times or maybe unintentionally, we have something happen, we
47:01
have a breakup or a divorce or we lose a family member or have
47:05
a really bad diagnosis. I really think life coaching and
47:09
these tools are going to help support you in all of these
47:11
different aspects and really allowing yourself to find out
47:16
like what are the what are the things you're spending most time
47:18
with and declutter your brain and allow you to process and
47:22
allow you to have power over some of these hard emotions.
47:26
So that's why I created the shift and this life coaching
47:29
program and it's a lifetime membership.
47:31
I'm going to tell you right now everything that includes
47:33
insight. I'm going to show you the member
47:35
portal too as well. Inside the shift, we're going to
47:37
have weekly calls. I love having a weekly coaching
47:40
call every week for 60 minutes every week just like this.
47:44
We're going to do a small teaching portion at the
47:45
beginning and then open it up for workshop coaching.
47:47
Even if you aren't going to be the one being coach, you're
47:50
going to see today, just like today, you're going to get so
47:52
much out of watching other people be coached.
47:55
And you can ask yourself, how is this applying to me?
47:57
What I love about sitting on coaching calls on a weekly basis
48:01
is you tap into that motivation, you tap into that desire and
48:04
then maybe a couple days later you have obstacles come up and
48:08
life starts to happen to you and it starts to fizzle out a little
48:10
bit. But right back you get to that
48:12
7th day and you're like, OK, here's my weekly call again,
48:15
here's my community, here's my accountability, here's my
48:17
support. So I really love integrating the
48:20
every week calls. We're going to be on Thursdays
48:22
at new Pacific Standard Time from now on and we're going to
48:25
get started on April 9th. All of these replays will be
48:28
housed inside the member portal for you to go back and watch the
48:31
videos at any time. So I just in one of the programs
48:34
I was in, watched a video from two years ago and got so much
48:36
out of it. So you can re watch it any of
48:39
those anytime and they're going to go back forever and be housed
48:42
in there. I also like the idea of having a
48:44
private podcast, so I did offer that to this program as well.
48:49
I like to listen to this as I am on the go and sometimes you can
48:53
miss the calls live. And so this gives you an
48:56
opportunity to listen back to it while you're on the go, while
48:58
you're driving, while you're at the gym.
49:02
And this will just really help you capture that desire, that
49:06
momentum, that motivation that you feel, even if you are re
49:10
listening to it. This program is not meant to be
49:12
in the perfect mindset or the perfect student mindset.
49:15
This is meant to help support you with accountability and
49:18
community to tap into. This is meant for one hour every
49:22
week for you to just focus on yourself so that the 167 other
49:27
hours in the week you can have the energy, have your time back
49:31
and focus on the things that you need to get done.
49:33
I really think that we forget to do this, take time to focus on
49:36
ourselves. So this is really what this
49:38
group is going to create for you.
49:39
This also is I'm going to help you with accountability, like I
49:44
said, and then you can tap back into this every week or listen
49:47
to the replay. So I just talked about the
49:49
private podcast. I really think this is
49:50
important. I get a lot out of listening to
49:53
podcast while I'm on my walks or while I'm at the gym.
49:56
It also helps me. I'm an auditory learner, but I
49:58
also like to be in momentum because while I'm physically in
50:01
momentum, I can get my brain in momentum as well.
50:03
So you're going to be able to click on that link and put that
50:06
in any podcast platform that allows you to have a private
50:09
podcast. And then when I upload that, the
50:12
feed and to the member portal by 5:00 PM Pacific Standard Time
50:16
every Thursday, it'll automatically just pop up and
50:18
you'll get a notification that the new replay is out there for
50:22
you. The third thing that I'm adding
50:24
to this is community group chat. I love having a community.
50:28
I think you're not meant to grow alone.
50:30
I think what's created a lot of success for me is having
50:33
community support, having a mentor, and working through
50:35
challenges real time. So in this community group chat,
50:39
you're going to be able to ask questions, share wins, work
50:41
through challenges, be surrounded by people committed
50:44
to growth. I'm going to be sending you guys
50:45
videos and questions from each weekly call inside of there, and
50:50
you're going to be able to tap into that community group chat
50:52
for weekly coaching in between sessions as well.
50:55
I really want to offer for you moving forward intentionally
50:59
means that you're putting yourself in groups with people
51:01
who are doing this and your standards rise naturally when
51:05
you do. I think also being in rows of
51:08
people of where you want to go and who are wanting to have that
51:10
same growth mindset is really important in helping you create
51:14
the success that you want and the results that you want, and
51:16
also helping and supporting other people.
51:18
That's a really big key thing and integral thing of all of my
51:21
programs. So I'm gonna show you the member
51:23
portal and kind of what that looks like inside.
51:27
OK, Hope you guys can see my screen.
51:31
So you're gonna login. When you join, you're gonna get
51:33
your own username and password. You're gonna login to the member
51:36
portal. And right here is a welcome
51:39
video that I made for you guys is gonna explain everything
51:42
about the program. And your welcome letter is going
51:44
to as well. And then on the side you're
51:47
gonna see this is our Thursday call, Thursdays at New Pacific
51:50
Standard Time, same Zoom link every time.
51:52
And then this is a link to our community group chat as well.
51:56
We're going to have the weekly replays in here.
51:58
And then we're also going to take you through the six step
52:00
process of how to make any shift in your life.
52:03
So I've created this process and those of you guys who Join Now,
52:07
you're going to get a be a part of the founders bonus with the
52:09
founders bonus. The first six weeks of this
52:12
group together, we are going to workshop live the six steps and
52:16
you're going to be a part of that live if you join before
52:19
March 27th. And all of those those calls and
52:23
courses will be housed in here as a six step process.
52:26
So I really think it's going to be such a great experience to be
52:30
able to go through my six step process and workshop it live
52:33
together and really get in there and integrate some of the
52:38
processes and things that I've created in there.
52:40
So that is a member portal. Also inside your member portal,
52:44
you're going to see the Shift weekly call replays.
52:47
So this is your private podcast for this.
52:49
As you see in here, I did upload the welcome video.
52:52
So if you'd rather listen to it on the go, you can do that too.
52:55
And then every week you're going to see the new replays and
52:58
episodes in there or any kind of workshops or trainings or
53:01
courses I'm going to house in there too.
53:03
I've been really thinking about adding some good things for you
53:05
guys like time management and creating balance, like just
53:09
workshops just for you guys. And those will all be in there
53:11
for you to watch for a lifetime as well.
53:13
So in the call replays for the private podcast, you can click
53:16
on that link right there. It'll copy that your personal
53:19
RSS link URL link that you can put into any private podcast
53:23
platform. OK, so that is the member portal
53:26
that is a private podcast. I wanted to let you guys know
53:29
why I created this program the way I did.
53:33
Most people try to change their life alone.
53:36
They read books, they listen to podcasts, they ask AI or
53:40
ChatGPT, and they think about what they want.
53:43
But I think what's really important is the application,
53:46
the integration, the accountability, the support, the
53:49
community. Otherwise, our mind's going to
53:52
always pull us back to old patterns and it's going to want
53:55
to prevent us from growing. So the shift's going to give you
53:58
the tools, the space to apply some of these tools and the
54:02
accountability to work through. Like I said, I'm not just
54:05
creating a community, I'm creating a movement.
54:08
So we're not just, I'm not going to just support you and the
54:11
people are going to support you in this group.
54:12
You guys are going to be a part of that support and creating
54:15
that movement as well. And so I want to just point out
54:19
this group, again, is for career changes, relationship changes.
54:23
We're going to talk about money, we're going to talk about
54:24
business decisions, We're going to talk about identity shifts.
54:27
This is going to encompass every shift, both intentional and
54:30
unintentional, that you're making in your life.
54:33
And I want to make this a lifetime because as I talked
54:35
about the beginning, I've shifted it into four different
54:38
careers, and each time it's required a different identity.
54:41
And I'm continuing to shift in and out of what I've wanted,
54:44
especially as I'm transitioning and having my kids move out of
54:46
the house. And so I really wanted to create
54:48
a program that's going to support you and your life in
54:52
every aspect as it continues to happen and as you continue to
54:56
change identities. You are going to get this entire
54:59
lifetime access program for $1200.
55:02
There's a painful option and there is a three monthly payment
55:04
plan option of 400. I'm going to put the link in
55:08
here now to join inside the community group chat and let me
55:12
know in the chat if you guys are joining us or have joined us or
55:15
plan on joining. I want to be look on the lookout
55:18
for you and your name as it comes through.
55:21
And I want to just let you guys know a little bit more about
55:23
this founders bonus. So when you enroll, like I said,
55:26
you're going to be a part of the six step process of creating any
55:28
shift in your life. And we are going to be work
55:32
shopping again. That's starting April 9th
55:35
together and we're going to apply it and integrate it inside
55:38
the calls. I'm going to talk to you about
55:40
the six steps right now to make any shift and these are the
55:43
things we're going to cover the first week.
55:45
If you Join Now, you're going to be a part of that process live.
55:48
So step one is listening to the whisper.
55:50
I'm going to really teach you how to have self-awareness,
55:53
decide, but then also commit. Step 2 is decluttering your
55:57
brain a little bit of what we're talking about today, but at a
55:59
different level. I'm going to teach you how to
56:01
recognize the negative thoughts and emotions that are coming up
56:03
without judgement on them. Step three, we're going to talk
56:06
about creating your vision story on this call.
56:09
We're going to create what your vision story is, redirecting
56:11
what your purpose, your why is, and what your desire is.
56:15
When we are motivated and work by desire, we don't need
56:18
discipline to move us forward to our goals.
56:20
Step 4 is tapping into capability.
56:22
All of us think that we have this ceiling of what we're
56:24
capable of, whether it's energy, whether it's time, whether it's
56:27
money. I'm going to really teach you
56:29
how to grow your capability and your capacity to have more and
56:32
do more. Step 5 is future focus.
56:35
How do we not think about the past, but really focus in on the
56:38
future and pull from the future you to create what you want?
56:41
We're going to create that plan to move forward.
56:43
And then six, we're going to put that plan into action.
56:46
I'm going to teach you how to create action acceleration, not
56:49
only how to create momentum, but how to get in that high value
56:52
cycle of continuing to take action so you don't have to.
56:55
You've worked so hard to pedal that you can keep pedaling that
56:57
bike. So I want to invite you guys
56:59
join us now so that you can get that founder bonus and let me
57:03
know if you do join so I can look for you and look for your
57:06
name as you're signing up. I want to use these last couple
57:10
minutes to answer any questions. So if you guys have any
57:13
questions, put them in the group chat, put them in the chat.
57:18
And so the Q&A so I can see where they're at.
57:21
Let me give you a couple seconds.
57:23
Any questions for anybody who's on?
57:28
OK, if you guys get off today's call and you're like, OK, I have
57:32
a question about the teaching that you taught today or the
57:34
other two days. Or if you're like, I have a
57:36
question about the program, don't hesitate to reach out to
57:39
me by e-mail from this one that you got the Zoom link.
57:42
You can reach out to me on Instagram or TikTok as well.
57:45
DM me your questions or send me a voice memo.
57:48
I answer each and everyone back personally and would happy to
57:51
answer, question or talk you through anything in the program
57:53
that you might be on the fence about.
57:56
That's it. Thank you guys for joining us on
57:58
the preview calls and thank you for everyone who got coached on
58:01
them and is willing to courageously go 1st and I hope
58:04
to see all of you guys inside the shift.
58:07
Bye guys. Yes, thanks Jim.
58:17
If anything in this episode sparked your interest in
58:20
learning to manage your mind and feel better to create confidence
58:23
in your life, come join the Shift.
58:25
We are an entire community that meets together on a weekly basis
58:29
with an ongoing group chat. You can click on the link to
58:31
join in the show notes or DM me on Instagram.
58:34
I hope to see all of you guys inside.