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Permission to Pursue: Sign Your Own Permission Slip · R.E.A.L. Talk for REAL L.Y.F.E.

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  Welcome to Real Talk for Real Life, where we are realizing everyone is always
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  learning and living your full experience.
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  I'm your host, Coach C, and this is Season 7, Episode 2, Permission to Pursue.
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  Real Talkers, can I ask you something? Whose permission are you waiting on?
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  Seriously, who are you waiting to tell you that you can start?
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  Who are you waiting to tell you that your idea is good enough?
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  Who are you waiting to tell you that you're ready?
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  Who are you waiting to tell you that you have what it takes?
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  Because here's the real talk.
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  You might be the person you're waiting on. And some of us have spent entirely
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  too much time standing at the starting line waiting for somebody else to fire the starting pistol,
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  waiting for the approval, waiting for the applause, waiting for the co-sign,
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  waiting for somebody to say.
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  I believe in you.
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  But what happens when they don't? Do you abandon the assignment?
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  Do you stop pursuing the dream?
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  Do you decide that because they can't see it, it must not be there? Absolutely not.
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  Real talkers, sometimes permission becomes problematic because permission can become passive.
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  We convince ourselves we're waiting for the right time when we're really waiting
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  for somebody else's approval.
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  And sometimes, if we're willing to tell ourselves the truth,
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  asking for permission is really validation-seeking wearing a nicer outfit.
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  Because maybe I'm asking you whether I should pursue it because I haven't completely
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  convinced myself that I can.
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  Maybe I'm asking you whether it's valuable because I haven't fully recognized its value.
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  Maybe I'm asking you whether I'm capable because I haven't completely recognized my own capability.
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  And here's where it gets interesting. Who is they?
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  Who are these people we've given veto power over our vision and why?
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  Now, don't get me wrong. I'm not telling you that the perspectives of your spouse,
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  your partner, your mentor, your sponsor, your family, or other significant people
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  in your life don't matter.
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  Wisdom does matter.
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  Wise counsel matters. Perspective matters.
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  And when your decisions directly affect somebody you're building a life,
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  family, business, or future with, consideration absolutely matters.
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  But there's a difference between consideration and authorization.
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  There's a difference between I
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  value your perspective and I require your permission to believe in myself.
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  Baby, those are two completely different things.
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  You can hear somebody's concerns without handing them your steering wheel.
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  You can consider somebody's perspective without surrendering your pursuit.
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  You can love somebody deeply and still understand that they may not have the
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  wisdom or the vision for something that was placed inside of you.
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  And for my real talkers who share my faith there's something else i want you
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  to catch in first samuel 30 david asked god whether he should pursue what had been taken from him
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  and the answer was pursue he would recover all now i'm not telling you that
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  every single thing you want automatically carries god's stamp of approval that's
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  why discernment matters
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  But I am telling you that there comes a point when you've prayed,
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  you've prepared, you've considered wise counsel, you've examined the risks,
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  and now you have to move.
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  You cannot pray for direction forever and then refuse to walk when one path opens.
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  At some point, pursuit requires participation, and that is where some of us are stuck.
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  We don't need another sign. We don't need another conversation.
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  We don't need 17 more opinions. We need movement.
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  Because permission without pursuit is just potential sitting in park.
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  And Real Talkers, we're not parking through the fourth quarter.
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  We're falling into focus.
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  Remember episode one, release your side of the road.
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  Well, now that you've released it, what are you going to reach for?
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  Because releasing was never supposed to leave you empty-handed.
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  We released so we could redirect. We released so we could reset.
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  We released so we'd have the capacity to pursue what's next.
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  So let me ask you again, whose permission are you waiting on?
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  Because if you've been waiting for someone to hand you a permission slip to
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  pursue the life, opportunity,
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  education, business, healing, idea, goal, or next version of yourself that you
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  know you need to pursue, baby,
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  grab a pen, sign your own permission slip.
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  Here's your fearless homework. This week, we're creating a permission slip to pursue.
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  Take out a piece of paper and finish this sentence.
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  I give myself permission to pursue blank, but we're not stopping there.
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  Underneath it, answer these three questions.
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  1. Whose approval have I been waiting for? Name it honestly.
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  2. Why have I given their opinion so much authority?
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  Is it because you respect them or because you're afraid to move without their
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  validation? There's a difference.
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  3. What is one action I can take in the next seven days that turns permission into pursuit?
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  Make the call, submit the application, research the program,
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  register the business, record the episode, start the workout,
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  schedule the appointment, create the plan.
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  Whatever your pursuit requires, take one measurable step.
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  Then at the bottom of your page write, Permission Granted.
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  Sign your name, date it, and move.
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  Because, real talkers, we're not spending another season asking people to authorize
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  something they were never assigned to approve.
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  Seek wisdom. Use discernment. Consider the people your decisions affect.
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  But don't confuse someone's perspective with your permission.
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  Release the rope. Give yourself permission and pursue.
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  Let go of fear. Live in favor. always decide commit succeed,
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  keep learning keep living this is real talk for real life where everyone is
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  motivation between episodes this is coach c i'll see you in the next one.