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Season 4 - Episode 266 - One thing you should ask yourself OFTEN! · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermindset coach, creative strategist, and also happened to
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  be a farmer. This is my chicken coop and I
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  come out here every day to record a podcast to teach
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  distinctions, possibilities, new ways of thinking, and just bring
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  some joy into the world. So welcome to the coop and let's
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  start your day off in a fantastic way.
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  Hey, good morning everybody. Actually we are inside today
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  because I'm freezing and I'm a big baby, so let's just leave it
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  at that. And it's cold here.
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  Colder. Not cold, but colder.
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  Anyway, I often have people ask me if I had to just focus on one
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  thing all day, what could it be? And I laugh because as a human
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  being it's it's really important to know you cannot focus on one
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  thing and one thing only for the whole day.
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  It is next to impossible unless you have been meditating on a
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  hill like a monk for years. You cannot control your thoughts
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  for one thing all day long. It just doesn't work.
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  And when they all say, well, OK, I understand, I understand what
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  you're saying, but can't I just, you know, what's the one thing I
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  want to keep telling myself? Or often you'll see people who
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  quasi coach and say, hey, these are the things you should tell
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  yourself. These are the three most
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  important things that you should tell yourself every morning.
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  Or 8 things that you should tell yourself or whatever the number,
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  the ridiculous number is of things to tell yourself every
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  morning. Here's the thing.
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  Telling yourself something once is once.
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  It's just once. It's going to do something once
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  for a period of time. You tell yourself 8 things.
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  Sure, it might work for a moment, but is it going to
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  continuously work? And often times your brain will
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  immediately argue with it because it has a different
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  agenda, because that's how it's wired.
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  So my experience has led me first hand with myself as well
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  as with my clients to say questions are often better.
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  And when you ask yourself a question, your brain is forced
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  to analyze it because that's what brains do, it analyze.
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  They analyze things. It has one function and it's to
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  respond. So when you ask a question, it
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  has to respond with something. So my favorite question to ask
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  myself is how do I choose to show up?
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  And sometimes it does answer and say, OK, I want to be a bitch.
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  Like I'm just going to be honest with you.
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  Sometimes it does say that when I'm in a situation where it
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  requires me to be a certain way. I can remember when my son was
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  getting picked on in school and I had gone in twice and I had
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  already said, and I tried to be a very nice person and go in
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  there and be like, look, this is happening.
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  I get it. Boys do certain things, but he
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  was tiny and he was in 3rd grade and he was coming home with
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  wounds on his body from this boy that was picking on him.
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  And the night before I was getting him in the bath and I
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  saw that he had this huge wound in the middle of his chest.
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  And I looked at it and I said, how did that happen?
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  And he said he got pinched by another boy.
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  Now any of you who know a little, you know, a little boy
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  at that age doesn't have any meat on his chest and most of us
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  don't. Where you could grab it and
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  pinch it unless you really meant it and you were trying to hurt
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  somebody. And the next day when I went and
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  dropped him off and I walked into that school in order to
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  have a conversation, I asked myself, how are you?
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  How do you choose to show up right now?
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  And the answer was I chose to show up like a bitch because I,
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  they weren't doing something and it was a choice.
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  Now I'm using that as an example because like I've, you've heard
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  me say a million times, all our emotions are useful at certain
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  points in time. I got in there, I did what I had
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  to do. And when I walked out, I changed
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  gears. Now how do I, how do I feel like
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  I want to show up? What's my choice?
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  How do I choose it now and all of a sudden I can switch gears?
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  So for me, the most important question that you can ask
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  yourself in a day is how do I choose to show up?
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  Because it's going to drive you in the direction that you want
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  to go. It's not going to just happen
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  haphazardly because you're choosing it.
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  And if you do need to be in a stronger state, let's just put
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  it that way, whether it's positive or on the darker side,
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  you're going to know it. You're going to go into it and
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  know it. You're not doing it haphazardly.
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  You're making a conscious choice to do it.
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  And that's what this is all about, my friends, choosing
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  consciously how you're going to show up.
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  I, I can't begin to tell you how many times in a day I do this
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  regularly. I haven't any situation that
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  comes up and I'm not sure how I want to handle it yet.
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  I go silent and that's a choice. How do I choose to show up quiet
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  because I, I know that if I run my mouth, I will have to pay the
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  price for that if I'm not in a clear state when I go to do it.
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  So it's all about choosing. And when you ask the question,
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  it's it, it forces you. Now you can change that
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  question, but you have to have in it that word choose because
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  that puts it back in you. It puts it on you.
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  You have to and all those things reside in US and on us to
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  handle. So you can frame it however you
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  want. But my favorite way is how do I
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  choose to show up or how do, how do you choose to show up?
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  Like there's part, sometimes it's interchangeable for me
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  because there's a higher part of me that's asking, well, how do
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  you choose to show up right now? And then there's the part of how
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  do I choose to show up right now?
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  So it's interchangeable, but that's my favorite way of doing
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  it and give it a try. See if it works for you because
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  it works really well for me. All right, my friends, I hope
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  you have a blessed day and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.