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WHEN WOMEN OVER 50 STOP APOLOGIZING OVER WHAT WORKS FOR THEM · Uncluttered and Unfiltered: The Podcast For Women Over 50

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Welcome to Uncluttered and Unfiltered, the podcast urging
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you to let it go and don't look back, with nationally acclaimed
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professional organizer Christine Stone and self-proclaimed Hot
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Damn Mess radio and TV personality Eden.
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Kendall welcome everyone to Uncluttered and Unfiltered with
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a podcast for women over 50 and we are now into our fourth
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season I. Know I can't believe it.
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And we are doing things a little bit differently now to kick off
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this fourth season. We are compartmentalizing, which
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could be a topic in and of itself.
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Yes, the whole act of being able to compartmentalize.
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But what it means for us is we basically have a topic.
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We're going to kick off every show with what's on our radar as
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women over 50. And then we're going to come
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back from a quick break and talk about our topic and then come
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back from another quick break and close it out with some
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organizing tips from professional organizer Christine
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Stone. So that's what we're going to
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do. So that means we're going to
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start. First of all, I should tell you
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what our topic is, though. And our topic is going to be
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about, you know, what works for you, works for you, what works
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for someone else, maybe works for someone else, but it doesn't
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have to be A1 size fits all in this life, not when it comes to
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basically anything. Yep.
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Anything. So let's start out though, with
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what's on your radar and what's on your radar.
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Doesn't have to be what's on my radar and the first one.
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So should I start this week since you start?
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Last week. This Is Not Yours are a little
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more pop culture related than mine have been, only because I'm
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just kind of not in the mix of watching a lot of shows.
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I've got a lot of things coming up I'm interested in, but first
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the dry brushing. I've been going down a rabbit
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hole on dry brushing. Are you familiar with the
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concept? Absolutely, I've been doing that
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too. You have, yes.
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So tell me why you do it, and then I'll tell you why I'm
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looking into starting to do it and what it is.
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Talk about what it is. I just got a regular dry
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brushing thing from a the drug store.
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Something simple. I think I started doing it for
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more like Cellulite, if you want to know the truth.
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Yeah, like mainly on my butt and my legs.
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OK, so. It's basically you're just
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taking a brush. Yes.
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And or it could be a really hard loofah or something like that
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and you're just, and just I read that you're supposed.
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To go upwards towards your lymph glands.
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Yes. Yeah, I've been doing it.
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I I mean, listen, I'm sure if I stuck with it, it would work.
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You know what I mean? Like what?
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Do you mean you just kind of do it off and on?
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I just. Kind of do it off and on, and
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that's not the way you're supposed to do it.
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You're supposed to do it every single day and be very religious
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about how you do it. And I kind of like will remember
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some days before I shower and I'll do it, but then other days
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I forget and then I get out of the shower and I'm like, now my
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skins wet. I want to put my, you know what
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I mean? So I like the concept of it for
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exfoliation though, too. I think that's really a key
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thing. They say it's good for what?
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Lymphatic Drainage. Yes, one.
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Of the things, and I'm not all about that necessarily.
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I really was. Cellulite was exactly the reason
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why I saw it in the first place. I was reading an article about
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how your skin gets a little more dimpled as you get older and
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what are some things you can do about it, and that was on the
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list. And then I went down the rabbit
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hole that we go down nowadays. We ended up being so accessible
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and I learned a little bit about it.
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And then I have a friend who comes on our television show
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regularly. So I reached out to her and I
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said, tell me what do you know about dry brushing?
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And she said everything you want to know.
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I'm obsessed. So she hasn't come on the TV
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show yet. When she does, I'll share it.
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I'll share this segment with everyone.
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But I ordered from Amazon a brush not I think it was $10.
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Yeah, it doesn't have to be expensive.
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Right. And it hasn't arrived yet, so I
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haven't started yet, so stay tuned.
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But that's on my radar for sure. Yeah, I, I, I love that.
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OK, what's on my radar? Arm workout.
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Only arms. I love this so much.
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That's that's why everyone laughs.
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They're like, but what about your legs?
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I'm like, no, we're only doing arms right now.
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People famously skip leg days and you're one of them.
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Yes, I'm one of them. So I got on this whole rabbit
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hole thing of £5 weights, only doing 10 reps but four sets.
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So I said OK, I'm, I'm going to try it and see.
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I can tell you after only four days, I noticed a huge
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difference. So after a couple weeks, I'm
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going to go up and wait because I'm just starting at 5 because
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literally these arms, yes, my job is very strenuous and I use
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my arms a lot, my job. But working out wise, these
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little arms haven't seen much of anything.
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So I had to like work my way into it.
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What I like about it #1 you do in your own house.
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You don't have to go anywhere to do it #2 I only do like 5
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different exercises. So you're not having to do 10 to
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50. I just do like 5 exercises, but
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I do four sets and and why 10 is important to me, which won't be
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to other people. Once I get exhausted, then I
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sometimes throw the towel and so I like to do 1010 right away
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with the next 110 right. Then I get my arms get really
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tired, but if they get tired right away, I'm a wimp.
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I'm like yeah this hurts. I don't want to do it anymore.
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So I tried to start slow and work my way up and so far I am
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extremely pleased. It's for the little bit of work
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I'm doing. So one of the things that drives
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me crazy is that anyone who has anything to do in the fitness
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community that poo poos, what someone else is doing drives me
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crazy. And this is going to feed right
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into our topic we're about to get into here very shortly.
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But I will say this, OK, So I'm a big proponent of women as we
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age, lifting heavier weights because of the hormonal
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benefits. But I'm a much bigger weight of
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doing what you know you're going to do.
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And there's clearly a benefit and I just, and the reason I, I,
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this is so fresh on my mind is I just recorded a segment with
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somebody about weights. And then she asked me about
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something else I do as a workout.
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And it's a circuit training kind of hit kind of place.
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And she was saying how bad that was.
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And I'm like, listen, I'm for anything that has anyone doing
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anything, you know, So I just, I'm not a fan of anyone saying
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that's not good enough. I think that's fantastic.
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You're clearly getting stronger. And you already told me that
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eventually you're going to do heavier weights.
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Oh yeah, I have 8 LB weights already.
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I mean, if you can do 10 of £5 then you can do 8 of 6 lbs and
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then you can do 6 of 10. I mean, there are different
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things, but let's celebrate everybody for where they are and
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if that's just taking a 20 minute walk.
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Yep, that's. Phenomenal.
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Yep. How great is that?
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Yeah, and I mean, it's easy to do too.
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So for a lot of people, if it's not easy to do, they don't want
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to do it right. And so if it's something easy,
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I'm all about it. And that's why I talk about.
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It not easy because you wouldn't be already seeing results if
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this was something that was easy.
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It's hard. You've made it enjoyable.
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I've made it enjoyable. I'll watch or I'll listen to
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music while I'm doing it, or I'll watch videos or something
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like I'll keep my brain occupied while I'm doing it.
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But I have to say, I mean, it's the only thing I've seen myself
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so far sticking to, so I'm going to stick to it.
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I think it's great and I think you're going to love it and
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you're definitely going to see results and there's a lot to be
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said for those high reps and and yeah with.
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Weights I mean. A lot to be said for that, I
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think. And one of the things that's on
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my radar right now and I have so much to learn.
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I, I couldn't even tell you what it is, but it's on my radar.
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Cortisol. Have you been seeing a lot of
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this? Like if you do this and eat that
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and do this and do that, you this, your cortisol will spike.
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And I'm like, what does that mean?
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I don't want my cortisol. I thought it was, what's the
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difference between that and what's blood sugar and what's I
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don't know. So I'm trying to learn about it,
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but that's falls on. I love the descriptive of what's
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on our radar because because it doesn't mean it's something we
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know a lot about. It just means it's something
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that's coming out earlier. It's in there.
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It's in my. Another way to say it would be.
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What's in your algorithm? Right, exactly.
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It's something that somehow keeps coming around into my
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vision. I want to learn more about it
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because I don't quite know what it is.
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So cortisol, that's on my radar. Couldn't tell you more than
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that, but it's there. OK so my next one the Michael
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Jackson movie and the reason why this is on my radar I nobody
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needs to comment on this but I have not been inside a movie
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theater and probably 8 years why the last time we went to a movie
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people were talking so loud and getting up and down and it was
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so annoying that I said to my husband I'm not doing this
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anymore and then COVID hit which just made me think oh good now I
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don't have to do it because you can't do it.
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So anyway, so the Michael Jackson movie is coming out is
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so I'm getting tickets and I'm actually going inside the movie
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theater and I am looking forward to it.
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And the reason why this is on my radar is because when that whole
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allegation came out a few years with that documentary, whatever,
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I was one of those people that said that's it.
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I can't listen to any more of the music.
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I have to, you know, be the person that boycotts this and
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whatever what happened was I was secretly listening to his music
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in my car and I was. We found out last week that you
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secretly were also drinking diet Cokes 6 months ago in your car,
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so we know you have this whole secret life.
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In my car I have a whole secret life going a.
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Whole other world for you in your car.
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So anyway, so you were secretly. Listening.
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I was secretly listening and then all of a sudden I think it
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was like 1 holiday when everyone was in town, Christmas or
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something and his song came on and I had a couple cocktails and
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I started dancing and going Oh my God.
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My daughter looked at me. She goes, I thought you don't
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like him anymore? I go, OK, I've decided and I'm
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going to announce it to the whole family.
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I don't like what he did but I cannot not listen to his me.
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It was almost like a confessional and I realized
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because that was like 3 years ago when I realized that it was
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like life altering for me. Because I think when sometimes
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you're really judgmental about something and then you're like
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wanting to take it back and you realize, no, that's just part of
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growth, that you cannot like something someone's done.
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But if they're an artist and they make music, you can still
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like their music. You don't have to like them as a
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person. And because I never knew him
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personally, that's not a problem.
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So I yes and yes, and I, I would say to that because for example,
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it's very conflicting when it's someone like an R Kelly or a
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Chris Brown or somebody. Who's that's different?
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Or they're alive? It's different, but.
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Well, they're. Maybe because they're alive.
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Yeah, that's true. That's true.
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The ultimate judgement has happened, yeah.
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That's true, you know. God can and it's any artist is
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surrounded by a bunch of other people.
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And if they don't say we when they're talking about their
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music, then it's kind of always bothers me.
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Like I know in the country music you rarely would hear an artist
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say I they always say we like a candy Chelsea or an Ella Langley
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or somebody like that. They'd say, well, we were out on
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tour. We made this album because there
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were a lot of people involved. So you almost you feel like, OK,
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well, I'm supporting the whole production of the music.
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And since Michael Jackson is gone now, yeah, it's not like
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but but I am also very stoked for that movie.
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I mean, the philosophy of it, we could argue all day, right?
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But but I will 100% be seeing that movie.
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Yes, and I'm very jealous that you will have already seen it by
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the time I get around to it. So you'll not.
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Be seeing it like they have were like, you know, one of the hats
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he wore, the black hats, that's what they're serving the popcorn
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in. I already told my daughter I'm
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getting one of those hats with popcorn in it.
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Like she's like, oh, I'm not missing this, I'm coming.
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So anyway, yeah, I mean, you know, a lot of the music, too,
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goes back to our age, which is the 70s, when Michael Jackson
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was just a kid. So he hadn't done anything to
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anyone. Do you know what I mean?
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Like, I want you back ABC, you know, never can say goodbye.
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I mean, those are songs that that's where I was struggling.
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I'm like, I cannot not listen to Michael Jackson.
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I cannot not listen to Off the Wall.
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I mean, that was when I was in high school.
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I mean. Oh.
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Yeah, you got to be starred, Yeah.
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I mean, so I think I, I think I, what I learned is that
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sometimes, OK, this is what I learned.
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Sometimes things aren't black and white.
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Sometimes there is a Gray and I've always been the black or
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white person. It's either black or it's white.
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They're. Literally a Michael Jackson
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song. Yeah, right.
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Exactly. So I think that as you get
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older, sometimes you realize there can be a Gray area.
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You may not want to admit it, but there can be a Gray area.
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So anyway, I'll be seeing that movie.
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You know, I saw the movie when they did his concert when he was
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in the middle of doing that concert, but he passed away.
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Before you know Kenny. Ortega.
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Who is the? After choreographer of it.
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So I mean, I remember going to the movie theater to see that.
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So I mean I'll definitely be seeing this while it's still in
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theaters as well. OK, so here's something else
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that's on my radar, and I can't tell you whether or not it's
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good yet, but hard boiled eggs fried in a frying pan?
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Have you seen this? Hard pull.
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I have to think about this. You cut them in half.
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Okay, you cut them in half. And then you put butter in the
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pan and you fry the hard boiled egg.
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And I haven't tried it yet, but I'm obsessed with it.
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I'm going to try it this weekend.
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Now I haven't seen that I'm in my cheap a chia seed pudding
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phase. Right now, oh, I'm still.
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In that I'm in the chia seed pudding phase where I doctor it
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in a million different ways, like with different fruits,
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honey, coconut flakes. So I'm still in that phase.
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I think I got burnt out on eggs because I was eating so much of
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them that I had to shift my morning routine, you know?
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Anyway, yeah, I would try that though.
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That sounds better to me than just right.
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I mean, I'm excited to try it, so we shall see.
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All right. Do you have one?
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More, I have one more and the reason why I'm talking about
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this because it's springtime and I've been doing a huge outdoor
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reset. And what that means is every
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year at this time, first of all, I went on Amazon and got a
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pressure washer handheld thing and as like 4 different nozzles.
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And when I tell you it's the best money I've ever spent my
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entire life, I have pressure washed everything that I
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possibly can pressure wash in my house.
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And I mean everything outside. I get in this kick every year in
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like end of March, beginning of April, middle of April where I
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have to do a total outdoor reset, meaning pressure after
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washing, cleaning the patio, spraying down the furniture,
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buying outdoor pillows and new beach towels and getting
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everything ready for like the next 8 weeks before it gets
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bloody hotter than you know what in Florida.
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And so this is the thing I've been doing.
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I just got a couple new outdoor pillows from Target that I'm
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excited about and, you know, just really cleaning the outside
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and getting it spring ready. So that's what's on my radar
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right now. OK, well, I'm going to need that
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pressure clean link because I went down this rabbit hole and
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we say the rabbit hole all the time.
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But this is on Reddit. You know, we talk about Reddit
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called there's a whole section of Reddit called pressure.
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I'm sorry, power washing porn. And it all it is is you get to
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watch videos of people power washing things.
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It's amazing. It's amazing.
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They're naked. No.
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Oh. It's just called power.
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Watching porn. No, they're not music.
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They're just. Well, no, I.
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Don't think it just naked pleases me the way a porn would.
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Oh, I get it. OK.
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It's just so pleasing. Like explain that.
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It's so satisfying. It's great you don't understand.
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I have used every different nozzle.
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I've gotten all green green. That's what she said.
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Every got all the green gunk off all like the outdoor stone.
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I mean you don't understand this I.
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I no, I, I think if anyone does, it's me.
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I'm the power washing porn queen.
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I get it. My husband was like, if I only
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knew this thing from Amazon could bring you that much joy, I
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would have gotten it for Christmas.
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That's why I'm interested because otherwise we do have a
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power washer, but it's the big giant gas powder.
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This is. PNL that you put it to the hose
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and it has four different nozzles and one of them is like
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the stream real hard nozzle. It's I'm telling you, you guys,
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I'm going to link it just in case you want it because you,
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you are going to love it. You're going to want it.
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All right, so there it is. That's what's on our radar.
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You guys. We're going to be right back to
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get into our subject, which is basically, you know what you do
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you, I do me and that's that. I like my power washing porn.
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You like? Whatever, we'll be right back.
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Welcome back. We have gone over things that
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are on our radar right now and it's time for us to delve into
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the topic, which was your suggestion.
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So why don't you set it up? The reason why I suggest this
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because I'm on a lot of social media just because of work, so I
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get to see things that are trending and what's going on and
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what people are arguing about. And a lot of it is women
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criticizing other women on oh, you're 60 and you're wearing
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shorts or oh, you, you're older. You should cut your hair or your
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arms are flabby. I wouldn't wear a sleeveless top
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or that makeup's too much, too much.
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You're wearing too much makeup. I've never seen so much
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criticism going on. I, I can't imagine.
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I know you're like me in this way, really writing a comment
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like that, like it just me is so mean and for no reason, like I
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just I don't know. So this brought me on the topic
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because I believe this is how it is in everything you do.
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I see it with organizing. Oh, you can only organize this
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way. If you don't organize this way,
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you're not doing it right. And that is absolutely not true
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because if you live in a 10,000 square foot mansion, you're
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going to organize differently than someone who lives in an
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apartment. They downsize your condo because
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they're empty nester, you know what I mean.
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There is no right or wrong way of doing things in my opinion.
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You know this. This touches almost every part
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of life in dog obedience. Training.
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Yes. Yes.
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I'll post something about progress that's being made with
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a dog obedience trainer. And then you get somebody else
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who doesn't use that system, they use another system and
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they'll say, did you, oh, you know, this, this, it can't be
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right because you're not leading with positivity or even negative
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or vice versa. Or, as we spoke about at the
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beginning of the show, exercise, this isn't a good.
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Gem it. Is a good gem.
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People love to hear themselves express opinions.
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Yes. And guess what?
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Our opinions change so much. How do you know that you're
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going to dig into a topic that you're not going to change your
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mind and flip on anyway? Well, in social media, that's
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what happens. What's popular one week and you
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have to do it this way one week, next week it'll be a totally
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different way. Like with skin care, you have to
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do, you have to use retinol. You have to use right now you
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even if your skin's blistered and peeling and you look like
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crap, you have to use it because this is the gold standard.
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And I'm always like, really, if I look terrible using something,
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I'm not going to continue using it.
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Name with I told you that a few weeks ago.
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I use like this conditioner and hair stuff because everybody
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said, oh, this is the only way your hair will look nice and
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smooth and good. And I look like something like I
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dunk my head in oil. I mean, it was terrible.
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What works for one person, especially when you're over 50,
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does not work for other. Like I just scroll through
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people under like 40 because I'm like, you know, your body's
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different, your face, this is different.
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Your hair is glowing and beautiful.
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Your skin looks amazed. And you know what I mean?
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Like you haven't hit perimenopause, menopause.
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So talk to me when you do and we'll get back to that.
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So I think what I see is just the criticism that there's only
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one way to do something, only one way.
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And if you're not doing it that way, then you're doing it wrong.
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And I just, I don't know about you, but I just think that's
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ridiculous. Well, and is this something that
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you feel like is more prevalent with women?
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And I do, and I'll tell you why I think that it started.
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I started to notice it when my kids were little because women
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want to comment on how other women are raising their kids.
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I've never heard my husband say about one of his friends.
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Well, they're doing this way, they raise their kids or they're
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paying them for good grades, that's not good.
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Or they get allowance versus compensation for chores.
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You know, you never hear a man say that, but you're women and
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that's a generalization. Of course you're going to hear
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some men do that and you're going to hear some women not do
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that. But it does seem like people are
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pretty quick to judge, you know, whether it's beauty related or
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anything. Although the beauty related
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thing, I have to tell you, working in TV, it's pretty
23:05
unbelievable. I see some of the messages and
23:07
the comments that are made about the females here in this
23:10
building and it's really, it's sad.
23:13
It's sad, It's sad and it breaks my heart that other and everyone
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always says women should be kinder to women.
23:20
And you can say that all you want, but it's not happening.
23:25
And it really is frustrating. I feel like people say, well,
23:29
don't take it personally, You know, they're just unhappy in
23:32
their own life. OK, but you can't help it to
23:36
take some things personally, even though you're not supposed
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to. It's human nature.
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If someone says your hair's in your face or get your hair cut
23:45
or cut that makeup get you need new makeup.
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You're not going to just let it roll off your back.
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You're going to be like, hi, should I get new makeup?
23:54
Maybe they're right. And then you start going down
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that whole thing of maybe I need a makeover or what.
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You can't help it. It's just, I don't know.
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And I think social media has, we talk about this all the time,
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but has made it so difficult for women, so difficult.
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So difficult. I was just reading today about
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Meghan trainer. She just cancelled her tour
24:15
because she has a third child now.
24:18
I think she she's been very open about how she used a surrogate
24:21
and people are like, well, she's on all this Ozempic and she
24:24
didn't want to ruin her body. And, and I'm like, the woman is
24:32
trying to also have a family and prioritize her family.
24:35
I just think, how does anyone know what's really going on in
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her life? That's what fascinates me.
24:41
Like how do you know what's going on in someone else's life?
24:45
Unless you live in their house and you're very close to them.
24:48
Other than that, you're not going to know anything about
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anybody. And a lot of times I'll see
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people criticize women on social media and then the woman will
24:58
write back while I was in a severe car accident and I
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disfigured my face, and that's why I had to have plastic
25:03
surgery. And you're like, oh, OK, now you
25:06
should feel bad for criticizing someone because the plastic
25:10
surgery thing is also rampant. I mean, it's like, why did you
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do it? You look better before.
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You didn't need that. OK, I don't know.
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Why would anyone say anything about someone's past appearance
25:23
anyway? And I'll tell, let me give you
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an example of that. Because I had a Pixie haircut
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and I can't tell you how many people are happy to either tell
25:30
me one way or the other. Like, remember your hair was so
25:33
cute when it was a Pixie Or, oh, remember you had that Pixie look
25:36
so much better now and you're not going to make the person on
25:39
the other end of that feel better either way.
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No Splash No will be taken by me as a criticism.
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You're either. Criticizing past me or current
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me. So just so you know, or.
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But also like, I think because you do TV and I have a business
25:57
where I'm on social media all the time, it's it really
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sometimes you just need a break. You're just like, I can't, I
26:05
just want a break and go back to like 1990, you know what I mean?
26:10
When like there was none of this going on and you could just live
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in your life without any criticism and people telling you
26:18
you're doing something wrong or you look ugly or you should lose
26:22
some weight or like I just, you just want to go back to a time
26:26
where everyone minded their own business.
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Yes, let's go back to it was a simpler time.
26:32
Yes, it was a simpler time when people.
26:35
Thoughts. I just couldn't, right?
26:38
Exactly. So anyway, that's that's what I
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have been seeing a lot of on social media is women being
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extremely critical of other women and in all aspects, hair,
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makeup, clothing, their body, their weight, anything, anything
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they could criticize about and tell them they're doing it
27:00
wrong, that they need to be doing it a certain way.
27:03
And I say I just do, you know, do what we're like.
27:07
For instance, a lot of people love crop pants.
27:10
And I'm 52, so if I wear crop pants, I feel like I look even
27:15
shorter than all of my 52. So I don't wear crop pants.
27:18
That doesn't mean I don't like crop pants.
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It doesn't mean someone who's five, 10511 wearing cropped
27:26
pants doesn't look flippant amazing in them because they do.
27:30
It's just do what works for you, whether it's organizing your
27:34
house, what you wear and feel comfortable in.
27:38
I just think we need to get back to a time where we have a way of
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saying this is what works for me in all aspects of my life.
27:47
I love that we took a little bit of time away from what we're
27:50
talking about just to even remind everyone of that.
27:53
And you know, 9 out of 10 before and after videos that I see on
27:56
social media, I'm the before and I will continue to be the
28:00
before. You know, you get like someone
28:02
saying, why would you dress like this when you can just do this?
28:05
And I'm like, right, I am the before and I probably will be
28:09
the before long after I see this video and that's cool with me.
28:12
So. You know, we're all I agree, you
28:13
know? I say that like I believe it
28:15
with every the threat of my core, but in reality you could
28:20
give me 200 compliments and if you give me one criticism, I
28:23
will go to bed that. Night.
28:24
Exactly so. I mean, I can say it till I'm
28:26
blue in the face, but I'm as guilty as the next person when
28:29
it comes to. And also people can say till
28:32
they're blue in the face, women should be kinder to women.
28:35
You can say that all day and all night, but that doesn't mean
28:39
it's going to change or happen. You know what I mean?
28:42
Like I even read in people's comments where they go, well,
28:44
that was mean. You didn't, you guys are cruel.
28:47
You didn't need to say that. And everyone's like, well, it's
28:49
true. I mean, you know where people
28:51
get into it. Put it out there.
28:52
Right. She put it out there.
28:54
So you know, which in a way sometimes I do believe, like if
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you're going to put stuff out about yourself, not anything to
29:04
do with work or whatever, just you yourself, sometimes you do
29:08
have to be open to people being mean because they're not always
29:11
going to be nice. You know, they're not going to
29:13
think the way you think. And that's why, you know,
29:17
sometimes taking a breather or stepping back from it and just
29:20
doing a little bit of a reset in your mind on sometimes does the
29:25
trick. Yeah.
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Exactly some in person, in person, in kindness from your
29:31
friends and. Your friends there's.
29:33
A long way. We're going to take another
29:34
quick break and when we come back, it is our organizational
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tip and we're going to talk about candles and wait to hear
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what Christine has to say about those little.
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We'll be right back. All right, we are back with
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Uncluttered and Unfiltered and this segment is our
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organizational piece. So let's hear what you have to
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say about candles, which I already know.
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So you don't love fragrances, so you're not all about scented
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candles. But now we're going to talk
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about it from a clutter perspective, right?
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Because this is one thing I see so often when I go into clients
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homes. They have candles in the
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kitchen, they have candles in a closet, they have candles in a
30:14
drawer somewhere. They have can't, right?
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They have candles everywhere and they're not using them.
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They look terrible. They're filled with dust.
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They have barely a Wick left, but they don't get rid of them.
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So that's where I come in and I say we are going to take every
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single candle you have, put them in one spot and we're going to
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go through them. And we're only going to keep the
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candles that you really love and you're going to use.
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Because I have to tell you, candles take up a lot of space
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in your home if you have them spread out all over the place.
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So finding an area, whether it's in one drawer of a cabinet you
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have or one shelf, make it one spot and that's it.
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And that's where all your candles will be.
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You will love me for this later down the road.
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Because when you're looking for a candle at the holidays or for
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outside in the summertime, you are going to want to know where
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everything is and you're going to want to replace if you don't
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have something that you need. And we live in Florida, so
31:16
candles are kind of something we have to really still use because
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of hurricane season. So we also have a lot of candles
31:25
in Florida, just so everybody knows.
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So taking them all out, really doing a heavy purge on the ones
31:32
you no longer want, need or use candles that were gifted to you
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doesn't mean you have to keep them.
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If you there's a candle that's still in the plastic that you've
31:41
never used and it's been 3 or 4 years, number one, please do not
31:45
regift it because people can spot a regifted candle a mile
31:49
away. And if you don't love it,
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there's a reason you don't love it, and someone else is probably
31:55
not going to like it either. If there's fragrances that you
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don't like from a candle and you smell it, get rid of it.
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You don't need to keep a candle that every time you light it,
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you get a splitting headache. So keep getting rid of those.
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And then when you decide what you're keeping, keep them all
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together and keep them by like items.
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So if they're candlesticks or if they're votives, whatever you
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have like candles that you're just going to display at the
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holidays, keep them all together so you know exactly what you
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need when you need them. This is something honestly that
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has been, it's something I see so often, especially when people
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are getting ready to move and they can't.
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They're not going to take all these candles with them.
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So now's the time. Let's go through those candles.
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All right, love it. OK, so that's do.
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You have a lot of candles. I have a lot of.
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Candles. Yeah, I knew.
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That's why she was avoiding this subject, by the way.
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I was like OK, well but I will have less candles by the next
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time we talk. How about that?
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OK, that's a deal. I like that.
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But I especially like the regifting part of it because
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some of those candles I'm like, well, I might need it to
33:08
emergency gift. But I will say this, one of the
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great things that I do, I have in my house, and we use these in
33:16
the bathroom, our match books, not match books, but like the
33:19
big boxes, Natural Life makes them.
33:21
They're giant boxes of big long wooden matches to strike a
33:26
match. And I don't know if you know
33:27
this, but if you poop and you light a match and throw it out,
33:30
it immediately gets rid of the scent.
33:32
So we have big giant match boxes in each bathroom and.
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I love how I learned something new every time, even though
33:40
we've been doing this for four years.
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Someone poops, you want to light a match there, you can match.
33:45
We have the matches in All in all the bathrooms.
33:48
And so it's because I bought them in bulk at a Natural Life
33:51
sale, which is not everyone knows that company, but they're
33:54
local here, but they're a national company.
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But they have these really pretty match boxes.
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And if I was going to gift a candle, which now I will never
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be doing, I would include a box that met the matches, which is
34:08
kind of a really nice touch, but I'm rethinking that.
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Yeah, I think and also they even did a Saturday night skit about
34:16
a Saturday Night Live skit about people re gifting candles
34:19
because so many people. Oh, is that the moment where the
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mom getting the candle every time or something?
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Like that. Yeah, they were talking about
34:25
how, oh, look, I got a candle. Yeah, so it's not like you can't
34:31
regift it. But if you didn't like it, in my
34:34
opinion, why would you want to get?
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That's my thing about gifting, by the way, and I've told you
34:38
this before, if I don't want it and I'm not going to like it, I
34:42
don't give it as a gift because not that what I like is what
34:46
everyone should like. It's not about that.
34:48
I just can't bring myself to give somebody something I would
34:51
not enjoy myself. You know that.
34:54
Makes perfect sense. That makes perfect sense.
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All right, so that brings us to the conclusion of this episode.
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So listen, if you received a diaper scented candle for
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Mother's Day, you can let it go. And don't look back.