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- Kait Tregenza: Hello and welcome back to another episode of Becoming Flame. One of the things that I want to do through the medium of this podcast is help people to understand that the things that come up in your life that appear that are these intuitive nudges that have no place in logic or in reasoning or in things that need to happen in a logical order. present themselves to you and it is your job To identify that intuitive nudge, that whisper, that feeling of the pull as your work and in the reclamation of the feminine, you are not going to start at A and draw a straight line to B. And the more that we do that and validate that straight line pathway from A to B, the more disrelag dysregulation, the more away from our intuition that we become. And so I think the fact that we are in 2026 and women are still unsure of what it truly means to be in your feminine, to be in your path of the feminine, to follow the way, to to start talking when you don't know what you're about to say, to start walking when you don't know where you're going to go, is innately scary. Under And only under the understanding that success happens in a masculine, linear, direct, straight pathway. Because if you are trained equally in the opposite of my feminine intuition, is my pathway to success, my feminine intuition and the unfolding of what occurs. Is my pathway to success, and you are learning, and you are initiated, and you are brought up in a way where femininity and the ever unfolding, ever revealing mystery of that is actually the way you code yourself into safety, into security. into knowing, into trusting, into excitement, adventure, all of those things. That when you're listening to another woman's story about how she got to where she is and she's in love within you can feel the frequency of that excitement, of that adventure, of that unfolding, of that meandering, of that mystery. And you can identify it in somebody else as being uplifting and a frequency of possibility. But when you Are in invited onto that path and you shudder and you pull away and you recoil because it's not clear, because it's not logical, because it's not rational, because it's not known, tested, evidenced. And wanna bring and keep bringing these stories so that we can build bigger, much, much bigger trust in the feminine pathway and feminine involving. And that doesn't have to mean Dancing in a forest in the full moon. It's how do you bring these ways of natural unfolding into your life in every single moment and build the trust, the clarity, and the capacity within yourself. So that we we have these adventurous, beautiful unfoldings and these mysterious feminine mysteries for our own selves. So today is that kind of an episode and that kind of a story. I sat in So a few weeks ago I recorded a podcast and it was more around connecting with your ancestors, your spirit guides, and really bringing that more forefront into your life. And I thought, you know what? I I could I'm busy, I'm a single mom, I have a business, I have a podcast, do all the things. I'm a homeschooler. You know, I got heaps of time, is my point. And but what She was saying in the podcast really resonated of going, this has to be part of our life. This has to be part of our culture, of connecting with spirit guides, of connecting beyond the veil, our ancestors, all of that. And I said very declaratively during and then after that podcast recording, okay, I haven't been listening, I haven't been connected to my ancestors. ⁓ I know there's stuff I'm carrying that's not mine. But there's so much in the day to do. But bring it to me in a way that I can access and that's really clear. And then I forgot about it, as we always do. I mean I didn't forget about it. But I was like, okay, that's done. That's for today. The next day I woke up with my paternal grandfather on my mind really deeply. And I couldn't shake it. That day I really wanted to do certain things. ⁓ and it was a rainy, gloomy, horrible day. And I was like, great. I I have all these things that I want to do on my computer. ⁓ the weather is very permissible for me to to. To just stay at home and do a lot of this work. And my daughter is an amazing self-initiator, and she found something to do. I went to open my laptop to do the things that I needed to do, and my fingers started typing ancestry.com. And I did not know my paternal grandfather's name. He was not a person that anyone, particularly my father, to whom I'm also not in relation with, he never w mentioned his father. He didn't want to mention his father. He didn't want to have anything to do with him. And so I'm sitting looking at Ancestry.com with this big pull in my heart to find out about my grandfather. And I don't even know his name. And I was thinking, okay, how do you look for someone you don't even know how to find? And I honestly can't remember this part of the story, but I think I started ⁓ searching. Now I hadn't seen my my my the parents of my father were significantly older than the parents of my mother because they had ⁓ many more children. my first uncle was born before the war. And Then all of the subsequent children were born after his return from the war. So that's all I knew. I knew that my uncle, my father's oldest brother, was about the same age as my grandparents, about 10 years younger. My maternal grandparents. And I knew his name, I knew my my aunties and uncles' names, although we had never really had much of a relationship with them. I obviously know my father's name. And I even like because my grandmother died when I was very, very young, my grandfather died far before I was born, I'd pieced a little bit enough together to to start with something. And so my so my hands are typed ancestry.com, I was like, okay, I'm not a participation, I can't participate in this search. I don't know enough in my mind. And I just like cleared my field and I said, Where can you be found? And it was the most amazing thing. I started looking up the national. Army archives and the ⁓ So looking up the National Army Archives. And I'm gonna make this really short now. So by clearing my field and saying, where can you be found? Help me to understand what you need me to know. I found him. I found his name. I found his address, his date of birth, his date of death, all of these kinds of things. And I was like, great. I can go back into births, deaths, and marriages. in Australia, a lot of this is free so I went on governmental websites and I found all the information. And my grandfather had come to me so that I could find out about his mother. So my great grandmother. And as soon as I found her name and her story, I burst into tears. It was almost like I had known at some level the pain of this family line and what it carried and what it was opening me into. That I had avoided it years. And now is the time because I was asking, I need to step forward into my biggest role on this planet. I need to have more available power. I need to work with my ancestors instead of ignore them. I need more support. Now is the time. I am no longer doing this alone. It is not correct. It is not my pathway. And I have no further interest in being this soul cog in this world, trying to hold a frequency of purity, of love, of me, of truth, of coherence alone. And I require and I demand ancestral support. But in making that demand, it was very, very available to me to see finally. How much I have pushed that away. Of like the the bloodlines are not pure. There's so much grief, sadness, loss, everything else that everybody's family line has, right? You don't get to this external world that we're living in because we all have fantastic ancestral lineage of ease and pure love, like in butterflies and rainbows, right? So We all have ancestral healing work to do. Now I thought I had done a lot of this, but then when I really held myself accountable to that, I was like, yeah, on your maternal side. And I had been working with my maternal like mother line for a number of years. ⁓ and I had just like ignored, like as in I don't even have a paternal line, as in nothing else came to me. And I was like, okay, well, this is part of the request of having more help, of having more support. You need to actually know these people and you actually need to bring them into your lives and and and and know who they are. And also know what you are carrying. And so my great-grandmother was put into state custodial care at the age of eleven slash twelve. And I was like, ⁓ that's interesting, I wonder why. And then I correlated the dates of her birth with my grandfather. To her just being in her thirteenth year of life. Now we can all have some conclusions or some hypotheses of why that would be or what would have happened to create that reality. And I felt the shame that she and her family and my grandfather carried as a result. My grandfather was put into foster care at birth into another family of the same last name. So they were obviously family relatives. I think that they were like an uncle or an aunt. It's hard to find all of the information. and then they raised my grandfather as if it his own. I don't know what he knew, I don't know what was told to him. these records were only recently unsealed, about 10 years ago, because they keep them sealed for a hundred years. So in 1911. My grandfather was born to a minor and then removed immediately from her. ⁓ I don't know if my biological great-grandmother ever held or saw him. I don't know if they had any relationship of any kind. and he this happened in Adelaide and eventually he made his way to live in Canberra and then later in Brisbane. In 1939, he started voluntary army training. And in 1941, he was dispatched to Malaya, Singapore, this area. In 1942, he was captured as a Japanese prisoner of war in the Chenggi Malaysian ⁓ base camp, prisoner camp, and he was not released there. ⁓ until actually January of Nineteen Forty Six. Which is an interesting date given that we all thought that the war ended in forty-five, that prisoners were not even actually released until six months, possibly more longer. He came back and he found that you know, life had changed, obviously. And he you know had another however many children he had, and then raised them. Had an alcoholic drinking problem and an abuse problem. And like most veterans, ⁓ a real challenge in integrating. And so my grandfather was a product of what is likely rape, and he was a Product of what was immense, torturous, ⁓ Imprisonment in a foreign country in a language he likely didn't understand, and had that happen for him from 1942 until 1946, and then he returned to Australia. ⁓ when he was discharged, he had one baby and a wife, and when he returned, he had two children on the register. It's not clear if. both of those children were his or not. These records are not, you know, easy to understand and don't give enormous information. And then had subsequently more children after that. And then his life was ended by a su a successful suicide. And it was the deepest, deepest sadness that ⁓ that I felt in finding out this story and understanding this life and understanding why I have avoided this for such a long time. ⁓ my father was also deep deeply affected by the chaos and abuse and the violence and the trauma ⁓ in the house that he lived in growing up and didn't know how to heal from that, didn't know how to, you know, retain tools or get help. And like so many ⁓ of the Boomer generation, instead of finding solutions and doing something differently, ⁓ he replicated the same the same life. And so I've got these three generations like sitting in front of me of this deep pain and this deep anguish and this disconnection and this lack of belonging. And so when I sat with my biological great grandmother and I you know I spoke her name and I and I called her to me and she died at twenty-two years of age. So ⁓ i cause of death unclear. but you know what a What a challenging life. If she also committed suicide, which may have even been possible, but she may have, you know, contracted tuberculosis or influenza or knew. You know, there was no ⁓ and there was no further recorded children, so it wasn't clear if she died in childbirth. and so, you know, when I sat there And I called that for me. Can I say? How do Or my great grandmother. We didn't mate until now. Why did you call me? What is it that I can do for you? How is it that I can help you in this moment? And she said, I have been carrying so much shame and so much guilt. It has made me so heavy. And unable to feel any light. I am dense and I am finding it hard to ascend into my full light body. I remain orbiting these darkness. And very scary aspects of low consciousness. And I can see that my ⁓ I can see that what happened to me. has affected. the downline for me. And she showed me that she did have some knowledge or contact with her son, my grandfather. But that she died when he was ten, eleven. And So even if they were to find an opportunity to repair one day, she had already died. And so The impact of her death on my grandfather was felt. And she feels guilty for that. She feels guilty that she's birthed him the way that she did. She feels guilty of what happened to her and the shame she brought to her family, to herself, and that she was this ruined woman before she ever became a woman. And I said to her, No, no, no. No. These are not your bellings. These these are not. No. And I realized she died at 22, she died at 21, whatever she was. She was a child. And so many terrible things happened to her when she before she ever had an opportunity to know herself. She was already thrust into this Definition of self that wasn't ever true. She asked me to help her release from the shame, from the guilt, from the sadness, from the sense of loss and purposelessness. And I took her through some processes that I knew. But at most important, at that point, I realized, hey, hold on. It's not just me and you here. I am supposed to be calling on the wisdom of malls, I still say of mole spirit guides. Of This entire intelligence that exists, it's not my burden to heal you or this line. That's just another God complex that we've put on ourselves of like I'm here to be the savior of this world. No, you're not. No, we're not. It's not up to me to have all the answers to this. It's not up to me to do the full healing for you, for me, on this. And it was like ⁓ my goodness I've been strictly. So controlled in the processes of healing for so long, thinking that this responsibility is all mine, that I am ever-knowing and ever-powerful. And that my role here on earth to be this huge beacon of change for my family line, for myself. for my descendants for all of this stuff that we're here to do to shift the axis of the planet in a particular direction that it all sits on me and it's like it doesn't. It just doesn't. And so in this moment I said Every single power all the love that is All the intelligence that is required here, the brilliance of the systems that I have access to and the help that I am asking for. May it please arrive here in this moment and hold this beautiful soul back into light, you know, give her the healing and the conclusion to this lifetime that she needs that is beyond my capacity. What is not one of yours? And help me too to understand and accept and receive the healing but the wisdom, the knowledge, the upgrades. Let that trickle down and up this line. And for every woman who has had the most audaciously disgusting violations committed against her and been blamed for that, been shamed for that, been ostracized, been vilified, been cast aside, been labelled, disgraced. She had to live with the heartbreak of Being a child, having a child, and knowing that your life is nothing as a result because of it, that you are cast out into obscurity. For the simple act that you were a child and you were powerless in a moment that changed the course of your life and your lineage forever. Please help us in this moment as a collective of women that we are bound together in truth and love and womb, wisdom and connection. To unshackle us from the burdens placed on us by systems of violence, by systems of abuse. That do not punish, that do not reprimand, that do not restore justice, that do not repair, that do not give any form of healing to its victims. And see once again that These atrocities committed against women are atrocities committed against children and that in never speaking them aloud and then not allowing the wisdom that you can help us access in this moment to be disseminated, to be known. And if there's no wisdom, just the alchemy to have never been able to take place, so that for generations one after the other All they tried to do is numb the immense pain, disconnection, separation, and the lack of mothering that they have received. And that it continues generation after generation after generation until a woman like me and a woman like you who is listening to me now. defiantly and lovingly says no this was not her fault and it was not the child's fault who was created from this. How can a child who was created out of love, who grew up outside of love, who has never known love, particularly that of a mother, particularly that of his or her mother? How can that child ever grow up to know what love is or how to love? When that child is labelled a bastard. An inconvenience. Under all the most disgusting names that a child can be given because of the sins of a man. Praying on an innocent child. How many children have actually been damaged by this single one act? And if we take it forward and forward and forward and forward, there are countless And I prayed and I pleaded to the intelligent sources of all that is in these dimensions that we may or may not ever have access into whilst in physical form. To clear the suffering. To release the inference of hate, fear, scarcity, doubt. And I thanked my great grandmother. Because without her I could not be here. Not how I am. Not who I am. And I told her that the resilience that she had is found again within me. Dad. In the face of obscene abuse. I now because of her. Can say no and have and continue to. And I didn't have that capacity without her. I didn't have that coding without her. And that she was simply before her time, but she was seeding an immensely powerful woman at the time that history needed it most. And I felt her and myself. Receive that. Know that. And I had to receive it too. I had to know it was true that I am an immensely powerful woman. And that as I become more powerful, and as I accept more help from my ancestors, I soften. I am not roaring in pain or anger or rage as I tell this story. I am Not resigned? I am not bypassing it. I am not ignorant enough to know that this has not happened to millions of women. And I am not ignorant enough to presume that you, dear listener, have not had some Kind of story like this in your own family line, or even in your own lifetime, your own circles. The rage. of this occurring and being unpunished, unjustified. And irredeemable. is the fire that continues to burn within me not in an outrageous or uncontained way but in a statement of this is why we are here. We have the skills, we have the knowledge, we have. The capacity And it also reminds me that The roadblocks that we sometimes hit in energy, in momentum, in motivation. Are because there is a side door we are required to take. Our biology is not designed to push forward from A to B in a straight line. And so in following the call of I need to do these things in my business today to get X outcome. And when I sit down to know how I am going to do that, what is the way in which That is going to come to me. It is work with your ancestors. It is know your grandfather so that you can know your great-grandmother, so that you can clear this line and have an ally. But also to clear the epigenetic shame, resentment, desire to hide, desire to be unseen and to be small and to be safe. And so my point here in the story and the sharing, I guess, are a few. And so let's summarise them so it's clear. Firstly, your pathway as a feminine creator is not linear. When the intuitive nudge comes, be brave enough to follow it. Be brave enough to know that it is part of the work that you are here to do. problems in your personal life are always going to be the portals through which you open your business, shift your frequency, see a new way for creation for this world. We are not here trying to replicate the same world that we grew up in, that we've inherited, again, just with a different gender in leader. We need to understand that in reimagining a world that is safe for women and children, that thrives, that places womb and creation at the center, is inevitably going to be different to the one we've known. And when you are calling for a different world, you need to disassemble the one you're coming from. And that disassembly happens through your own body, through your own story and through your own life. It's so much less about throwing, you know, fire and brimstone at the castle, at the White House, at these systems of control. It is by changing our own frequency and the access to a higher consciousness through that frequency change that we naturally will gravitate and create that which is in alignment and in coherence to that higher frequency. Wherever you are holding uncompleted, unalchemized stories within your body, within your epigenetics, within your inheritance, in your body, in your mind, in your consciousness, in your reality. You are replicating the likeness of you in your creations. And your creations are going to show you where that discordance, disharmony, disunion, separation is existing. And so anytime now that I go to create something and I get a nudge to look into another window, into another door, I take it. Because it takes an enormous amount of energy to create something that you want to create it in the highest possible frequency that you can. And that's not to say never create until you're perfect. That is definitely not what I am saying. But it is at that point of creation that you get that pull into this sideway door that's like this is available for cleanup first, then create. It will be easier, it will be faster, it will be more connected to your truth. And if we are not listening to our bodies, if we are not in constant communication with them, we will miss that. And we will start replicating the worlds we came from with a slightly prettier aesthetic. That's not why we're here. It is our job to reimagine realities, but until we are clear vessels, our images might be distorted. by our hurts and our pains and our baggages that we are carrying with us. And that leads me to my third and biggest takeaway, which is we are not meant to be doing this alone. Not alone in human form and definitely not alone on the planet. And the more that I have had incredible luck and Privilege, I should say, not luck. The more that I understand the privilege that I've had in this lifetime of nearly forty years of assessing and accessing these different realities, these different timelines and frequency dimensions, the more you understand that really, first of all, nothing on this earth really matters. And it matters a great deal. And finding neutrality in both of those extremes can be so liberating. Because You are a small cog in a huge movement and you don't matter at all and yet it cannot happen without you. It's a wonderful place to come into neutrality on because yes, you are powerful and you are needed and you are here for this. But if you say no, All it means is that you'll miss out of the greatest adventure of your life and the shift won't ultimately happen without you in the way that it could happen. And it may still happen, but your signature won't be there. And you're invited, you are valued, and you are so desired. But if you say no, it's honored and it's okay. What a liberating and free place to be, because you can simply make the choice you want to make then. Come. Be be part of this. You came here for it. You were so excited about it. But if you've got the wrong goal at the center of your life, it will be very easy to say no to this adventure. Because you are not promised glory or fame or riches or success. But you are promised truth. And you are promised the greatest prosperity of your life, which is knowing the fullness of who you are. And The capacities that you have, and the ways that you can start to unlock your human potential and change the course of this planet and humanity forever. You know, I went to do something in my business and met my great-grandmother. And we now have a relationship and She's an ally in my life. This is not the kind of normal stuff that you're going to get in a corporate building. This is extraordinary, this this this journey. You know, the the ability to know that something was holding me back, a shame that I didn't even Know how to name for years, for decades of my life, dissolved through the love that I could see for her, and the ability that I had to ask a higher, divine, universal, cosmic intelligence for help to re-pattern and to reorganize my biology, my cellular structure, my mitochondria, the DNA, the epigenetics. And how that is now recalibrating my frequency, my capacity, my vision for this world. She was a mother before she ever got to be a child. And Yet now that she's released from those burdens and she's able to assume her role back into her light body, she's a divine consciousness of pure, unbelievably pure love. And because she didn't get to give that to my grandfather, and then my father, and then me and my daughter, and it so it goes on, she's flooding it. to me now and she's showing up for me now. This is what exists in ancestral healing, in woo lineage work. She is not this entity or spiritual guide, unknown to me and unnamed. I know her name, I know her story. Her blood created mine. And now I've asked her to help me in my life. Because she never got to help my grandfather, my father, or me. And now she can. And whatever takeaway you take from this very personal episode. Please let me know because the more that we share our stories as women, the more we reclaim our oral History and the more that we reclaim in public the atrocities committed against us and we heal publicly and defiantly through compassion, love, kindness, and deep empathy, not only for the victims but for those who even thought to commit them. Because my biological great grandfather is also the product of a system that didn't have enough love in it, that didn't have enough connection, enough separation. And I think it's really easy to vilify rapists, violators, abusers. But I am also the product of his rape. And knowing that I can put that shame down, alchemize it into the fire, into my fire. And be grateful that he did that, so I exist, but also be defiantly against anyone ever doing those kinds of things ever again, and standing for a world where children are safe. And I don't know the circumstances w of what happened and I don't need to. They haven't been shared with me by her and I won't find them in state papers. But it's not enough to simply love her and be in recipe recipients of her receivership of her love and her guidance and her support. I also need to accept that my biology comes from him, that my beingness comes from him. And alchemize any of those remnant violent abusive tendencies that were definitely passed down to my grandfather and my father, and that I see in my biological family members that are descendants from these line. And also the deep pain that is carried in those bodies and by other family members dealt with that in very unhealthy ways. And it has helped me to understand the enormity and the privilege that my gifts of seeing these things and accessing these things, why was it given to me? And that it was not Don't just call it a privilege. Do the work. Show up and accept responsibility. for being this vessel, being this alchemist, being alive at this time. And for me, I've complained for many years of how much of a responsibility it is. And it's only recently that I realized I don't want the level of burden and responsibility. And so I am asking ⁓ the ancestors that I am here in service of and in and in collegiate, you know, working. ⁓ relationship with to start paying me for my work, for my time, for my energy, for my dedication. Ugh. What a declaration. And you pay me in enormous, abundant, prosperous ways. Because you cannot go to university to do what I do. You cannot learn what I do. I was chosen. I put my hand up and I came here to do it. And I'm guessing so did you. And I'm guessing you haven't been paid. And I'm guessing you haven't been treated so great. And I'm guessing that because you see what you see and you know what you know and you can do what you can do. There have been great consequences for you in your personal three D reality. And I am putting my foot down and I am saying I will continue this work. And I will continue to somehow age backwards compared to my peers and family members. And I will continue to regenerate my cells, my mitochondria, my DNA, my epigenetics, all of the things. I will alchemize. I will receive these codes and I will go where I need to go and do what I need to do. But I will no longer do it alone. And I will no longer do it without compensation, prosperity, abundance, ease, and having not just my needs met, but my greatest and grandest desires. Because when I look at my greatest and grandest desires, they are in service of this earth. They are in service of women. They are in service of children. And they are in service of men, of us all. At the centre they are harmonious desires for a new world order, for peace, for prosperity, and for collective consciousness to wake up and make better choices for themselves. To end wars and famine and suffering and hunger and fake control. So my desires are not mine. They are fundamentally humanitarian and globally good. And so as I shift my own frequency and show up for my own family line and for global recon reorganization. Айцепт. And really continue to open myself to accept and receive help of all kinds, of grandness and of smallness, every single day. And as I do that, I watch the relationships around me shift and change, those who will not exit and those who want to enter my life. And in a very short period of time. It always reorganizes to the highest possible frequency calibration at that time. And then we come to a next level and we do it again and we do it again and we do it again. And It's inspiring and it's how you continue the path. It's how you stay the course. I hope this has been useful and valuable and interesting. And I hope it inspires you to sit down with your ancestors. Or more importantly, just follow the nudge that you personally are given. and if the nudges work with your family line, know that it's accessible to you and easy to you, and you don't need To know how you just need to be willing. Much, much love. And please, please know that you are so loved and so supported. And write in with write in with any questions, with any feedback. Please subscribe. It really helps. and and be sure to like us and leave a review. Much love. Bye.