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INTERVIEW: Dr. Alfiee Talks Mental Wealth ExpoAlliance, Social Media Influence, Family, Love, Therapy + More · The Breakfast Club

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  Speaker 7: We fresh off the fourth annual Mental Wealth Expo couldn't
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  Speaker 7: do it without doctor Alfre Breeland Noble, doctor Alfrey Breeland
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  Speaker 7: Noble was absolutely positivity, the brains behind the whole operation.
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  Speaker 7: She puts everything together. Okay, all I do is answer
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  Speaker 7: a couple of text messages.
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  Speaker 2: Here and there, tell people about the event. It seemed
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  Speaker 2: online it was amazing, the conversations with great people left
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  Speaker 2: with a lot of great wisdom. So tell people how
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  Speaker 2: it got together and how that she came.
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  Speaker 4: So first, I'm just gonna say, Tyrees, That's what I'm
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  Speaker 4: gona say. Tyrese like turned it out. But I think
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  Speaker 4: overall it's Charles's vision born out of Charlottmagne I heeart
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  Speaker 4: the Mental Wealth Alliance. I just helped put things together, facilitate. Yeah,
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  Speaker 4: I just helped facilitate. And really, you know, it's our
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  Speaker 4: fourth annual event. It's a day of people coming together.
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  Speaker 4: They get to see celebs and influencers and people with
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  Speaker 4: lived experience talking about black folks mental health and all
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  Speaker 4: of our mental health. And I think, really it takes
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  Speaker 4: a while to pull it together because you got to
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  Speaker 4: coordinate schedules, you got to figure out what are the
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  Speaker 4: topic areas. You know, this year we had some being
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  Speaker 4: a little different and intergenerational mental health panels. We had
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  Speaker 4: people from Gen X and millennials and Gen Z talking
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  Speaker 4: about it, and then we had the men's panel, the
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  Speaker 4: women's mental health panel, you know, healing in the public eye,
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  Speaker 4: and then we ended it all together with mister Jason
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  Speaker 4: Wilson and Tyrese and so it was just it was phenomenal.
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  Speaker 4: You had vendors, booze. There was just so many opportunities
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  Speaker 4: for people to find different ways to tap into their
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  Speaker 4: mental health and healing.
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  Speaker 7: It was interesting to see even when you talk about
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  Speaker 7: intergenerational panel like Khaleve Foster point guard to Duke University,
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  Speaker 7: he was on that panel.
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  Speaker 1: Who else was on that panel.
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  Speaker 4: With Morgan Noble who has used to be my daughter
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  Speaker 4: going on a student at Howard University, Mahmoud Kether, He
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  Speaker 4: was just all of them were so powerful and it
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  Speaker 4: was moderated by your buddy Elli Ellia Conney.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah, that was an interesting conversation because another thing I
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  Speaker 7: noticed this year it was a lot more young people there.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, yes, it was, and I think, you know, young
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  Speaker 4: people are the ones driving the conversation. You know, we
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  Speaker 4: old heads, I feel like we're kind of following in
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  Speaker 4: their footsteps, but they're the ones who are really pushing us.
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  Speaker 3: To talk about these things.
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  Speaker 4: And so with that panel, I also want to shout
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  Speaker 4: out doctor Jude Joseph who was on that panel. It
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  Speaker 4: was wonderful to get the young people's perspective right because
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  Speaker 4: I feel like a lot of times young people feel
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  Speaker 4: like we talk at them, yes, we don't talk with them,
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  Speaker 4: and we don't listen. And so we had an opportunity
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  Speaker 4: yesterday do all of that to really listen, particularly that
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  Speaker 4: intergenerational panel where was a lot of young people on there.
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  Speaker 5: That's crazy.
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  Speaker 6: I had a conversation with my grandmother yesterday and I
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  Speaker 6: was like, Mama, why do you always talk at me?
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  Speaker 6: And like why are you always coming from me? Like
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  Speaker 6: why can't we just like talk? And then we started
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  Speaker 6: talking and I realized, like that's her way of showing up.
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  Speaker 5: She doesn't mean it to be harmful.
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  Speaker 6: And then I started thinking like, well, maybe this is
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  Speaker 6: why I'm always so defensive because I'm used to that.
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  Speaker 6: I was like, man, it's some, but you know older
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  Speaker 6: people too, It's like you always feel like you don't
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  Speaker 6: want to be disrespectful right when you say certain things.
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  Speaker 3: So I think is your background Caribbean at all?
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  Speaker 5: No, not that I know, but I get that all
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  Speaker 5: the time.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, well, I think it's like some of it is,
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  Speaker 4: you know, like my dad's a baby boom where my
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  Speaker 4: dad's eighty two shouts out to my dad, and there
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  Speaker 4: is something about that generation. I always tell people they
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  Speaker 4: were like surviving. Yeah, they couldn't thrive, and so to
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  Speaker 4: get to their the big ages they are now and
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  Speaker 4: to be asked to kind of take a step back
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  Speaker 4: and listen. You know, they grew up children are seen
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  Speaker 4: and not heard. Yes, you know what I mean, Like
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  Speaker 4: you don't talk them as you're spoken to, and so
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  Speaker 4: I think it's hard for them to make that transition.
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  Speaker 3: It's not impossible. My dad has really.
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  Speaker 4: Made a transition, but you got to have a will
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  Speaker 4: for that, and a lot of times people just don't.
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  Speaker 3: I don't think they know how to do it.
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  Speaker 2: And not only that, I also feel like they came
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  Speaker 2: from my dad is eighty two yeah as well, and
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  Speaker 2: they came from an age where they didn't have help.
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  Speaker 1: They just had to get through it.
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  Speaker 2: You know, they had kids, they had families to take
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  Speaker 2: care and you got to think that.
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  Speaker 3: Was heavy into the racism or exactly.
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  Speaker 2: So you know, my dad still feels a certain way
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  Speaker 2: about certain groups of people, because he's just like, they
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  Speaker 2: didn't pretty much beat me up my whole life, So
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  Speaker 2: how do I turn and say, hey, I like this
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  Speaker 2: person now. But they still had to make sure that
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  Speaker 2: there was food on the table and that things were
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  Speaker 2: taken care of, so it was a lot harder.
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  Speaker 7: But nobody on the panel was talking about that this week,
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  Speaker 7: and I cannot remember who it was right now, but
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  Speaker 7: they were talking about how oppression leads to deepress.
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  Speaker 3: Oh that was my food, my move, yes, ok, okay,
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  Speaker 3: he was coming for it.
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  Speaker 4: The brother's Egyptian and he was like, really, I think
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  Speaker 4: people really resonated with that because you heard the whole
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  Speaker 4: audience be.
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  Speaker 3: Like, oh, you know what I mean.
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  Speaker 4: Because we don't talk about that, And just like you said,
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  Speaker 4: it's like all of that stuff is coming at you constantly.
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  Speaker 4: And I always think about something I heard doctor Julianne
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  Speaker 4: Malveo say years ago that black people are always in
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  Speaker 4: this state of doing mental calculus.
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  Speaker 3: Is this the battle i'mon fight? Is this the battle
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  Speaker 3: of I'm on fight? Was that racist? Was that not racist?
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  Speaker 4: And so imagine, just like you said, you're dealing with
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  Speaker 4: all of that, but you still got to go to work.
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  Speaker 1: You still got to.
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  Speaker 4: Pay these put food on the table, put food in,
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  Speaker 4: you know, close on your kids back.
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  Speaker 3: You still have to try to make progress in your career,
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  Speaker 3: but you.
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  Speaker 4: Are constantly being weighed down with all this stuff, and
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  Speaker 4: you don't have any help. For that generation, nobody was
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  Speaker 4: telling them to go get therapy, and we Gen X
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  Speaker 4: and our generation early, nobody was telling us. But then
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  Speaker 4: people like you got out there and started talking about
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  Speaker 4: it and created this expo so people can know it's okay.
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  Speaker 4: Like Carson always says, it's okay to not be okay,
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  Speaker 4: that's right.
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  Speaker 7: And you know, Elliot Connie said something this weekend too.
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  Speaker 7: You know, we're only as sick as our secrets. My
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  Speaker 7: dad is seventy something years old. When I started talking
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  Speaker 7: about my experiences with anxiety and depression and being on
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  Speaker 7: my healing journey, that's when he told me that he
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  Speaker 7: was going to therapy two and three times a week,
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  Speaker 7: that he had been on ten to twelve different medications
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  Speaker 7: throughout his life, that he tried to kill himself thirty
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  Speaker 7: plus years ago. So some of us, some people in
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  Speaker 7: our lives, were doing the work. They didn't want to tell.
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  Speaker 1: Nobody that's true.
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  Speaker 4: I didn't even think about that, But you know, I
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  Speaker 4: think about what tools did they have and how much
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  Speaker 4: better are the tools that we have now, you know
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  Speaker 4: what I mean? Like I think about the number of
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  Speaker 4: times I talked with patients, older patients when I ACTRA
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  Speaker 4: treat patients, and they would come in and say that
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  Speaker 4: they had to kind of hop between therapist because they
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  Speaker 4: would get in and start talking about the racism and
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  Speaker 4: discrimination that they experienced, and people just didn't really.
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  Speaker 3: Know what to do with it.
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  Speaker 4: It was hard for them to have the conversation with
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  Speaker 4: him because that wasn't their experience. And so, you know,
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  Speaker 4: your dad was fortunate that he had places he could go,
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  Speaker 4: but so many people, even if they wanted to do
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  Speaker 4: the work, they couldn't find anybody. They didn't even know
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  Speaker 4: where to look. And I think people even now still
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  Speaker 4: have a hard time. That's why the expo is so important,
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  Speaker 4: because it gets you on your journey.
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  Speaker 2: Now, would you you know one thing I was thinking
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  Speaker 2: about the expo and I'm online. I see a lot
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  Speaker 2: of people having mental breakdowns online right, And some people
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  Speaker 2: say sometimes it's good because they're able to express their feelings.
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  Speaker 1: But I always have a problem with that because I always
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  Speaker 1: feel like.
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  Speaker 2: Sometimes that will be used against them when they try
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  Speaker 2: to do something else, you know. So how do you
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  Speaker 2: feel about people using that their social media because some
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  Speaker 2: people just feel like they just need to be free,
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  Speaker 2: they just need to let things go. So what's your
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  Speaker 2: thoughts on that.
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  Speaker 4: I think we have to be careful. I think you know,
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  Speaker 4: it's not always about intention, it's about impact, right, So
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  Speaker 4: you may get on put all that stuff out there,
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  Speaker 4: it's out there forever. And that's what I try to
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  Speaker 4: remind people. You know, ten years from now, do you
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  Speaker 4: want somebody looking at that twenty years from now? And
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  Speaker 4: so I don't want to get in the space where
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  Speaker 4: I say you shouldn't express your feelings publicly because that
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  Speaker 4: sort of pushes people into the closet, like around stigma.
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  Speaker 4: But at the same time, I think we have to
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  Speaker 4: be mindful of how we share our stories. I think
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  Speaker 4: a little twist on what you said, so let me
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  Speaker 4: answer the question directly. I think it has to be
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  Speaker 4: put in context. If you're comfortable with your story, right
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  Speaker 4: then I and you know the consequences, potential consequences, then
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  Speaker 4: maybe you should share it. But the little twist I
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  Speaker 4: put on it is. We also have to be careful
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  Speaker 4: about the people we love and sharing stuff about them
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  Speaker 4: without their permission.
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  Speaker 3: Do you know what I mean?
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  Speaker 4: Because I'm not talking about if somebody has beat you
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  Speaker 4: down and traumatized you. That's a different story. But I'm
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  Speaker 4: talking about if somebody wasn't the kindest to you, or
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  Speaker 4: wasn't the best to you, or didn't treat you as
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  Speaker 4: well as you thought you should be treated, or maybe
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  Speaker 4: they had their own experiences. And what I see a
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  Speaker 4: lot of people do is talk about this is my experience,
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  Speaker 4: but then this is my loved ones experience. I'm like,
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  Speaker 4: did you check with them if it was okay? If
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  Speaker 4: you'd be putting their business, you know, on front street
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  Speaker 4: like that? And so I really think it's I would
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  Speaker 4: like to see. I don't think I've ever said this publicly.
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  Speaker 4: I would like to see people who are going to
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  Speaker 4: be mental health advocates have a little bit of training
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  Speaker 4: on how do you share your story right in a
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  Speaker 4: way that it doesn't become trauma porn. I think a
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  Speaker 4: lot of times with us, as black people and people
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  Speaker 4: of color, people like to hear us tell those stories
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  Speaker 4: because it sort of feeds the narrative, and so I
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  Speaker 4: think we have to be careful to not allow ourselves
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  Speaker 4: to fall into the trap of feeding the narrative by
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  Speaker 4: controlling our stories in a way that allows us to
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  Speaker 4: be comfortable with it being out there over time.
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  Speaker 1: We had a panel about that this weekend.
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  Speaker 7: It was a technology panel, and one thing Razma said
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  Speaker 7: on the panel was that he wants to see people.
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  Speaker 1: He wants to see social.
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  Speaker 7: Media get back to being used as a tool to
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  Speaker 7: connect humans. Yes, he was like, you know, it's not
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  Speaker 7: connecting people anymore, it's actually dividing us. Like he wants
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  Speaker 7: it to be something that can actually connect us again.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I think he.
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  Speaker 4: Makes a good point, And I think I don't know,
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  Speaker 4: you know, I don't get too much into the algorithm
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  Speaker 4: algorithms and that type of thing, but I will say
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  Speaker 4: that what I see is the algorithms seem to uplift
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  Speaker 4: the stuff that's more right.
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  Speaker 3: So if it's like.
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  Speaker 4: If somebody's calm and cool and like really on their
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  Speaker 4: healing journey and that's all they talk about, that's not
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  Speaker 4: the stuff that pops up in my feed as much.
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  Speaker 4: It's the stuff where people like I saw this video
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  Speaker 4: yesterday and it was literally just a sister walking out
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  Speaker 4: of her house with this with these nice clothes on.
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  Speaker 4: And they had two different captions. The caption where she
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  Speaker 4: said I got dressed today hardly had any views. Then
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  Speaker 4: there was another captain to say, yeah, they becoming for
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  Speaker 4: me when I look like this when I step out
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  Speaker 4: the house, and it had thousands of views, And I
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  Speaker 4: kind of feel like that's what somewhat what social media does.
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  Speaker 4: So I teach young people you have to learn how
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  Speaker 4: to curate what's in your feed, right, If the stuff
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  Speaker 4: don't make you feel good when you're scrolling, you have
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  Speaker 4: to mute or start unfollowing some of those accounts because
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  Speaker 4: if you follow that stuff, that's all you're gonna get,
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  Speaker 4: and it does tear it the thread of connection, right,
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  Speaker 4: It makes it harder to be connected to people because
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  Speaker 4: you're always doing comparisons.
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  Speaker 1: But what about right now?
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  Speaker 7: Because you know, like, do you feel mental health has
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  Speaker 7: been addressed enough during the election cycle? Because people have
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  Speaker 7: to be tuned in, right, Yeah, you gotta be too,
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  Speaker 7: because you want to know what's going on.
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  Speaker 1: But then a lot of this stuff can stress you
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  Speaker 1: out too. All of this stanses me.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, So I don't think we talk enough about the
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  Speaker 4: importance of caring for your mental health in these like
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  Speaker 4: difficult news cycles. So you know, we got multiple wars
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  Speaker 4: going on, conflicts all over the world that we're constantly
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  Speaker 4: bombarded with. We have this contentious election cycle, and it's
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  Speaker 4: not I won't get into the politics, but I don't
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  Speaker 4: feel like it's contentious all the way around. I feel
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  Speaker 4: like it's coming from one direction. And like you said,
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  Speaker 4: people want to be informed. You need to be informed
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  Speaker 4: so you can vote right. You need to know how
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  Speaker 4: to vote. So it's hard to find that balance between
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  Speaker 4: I need to consume this so I'm an informed voter,
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  Speaker 4: but I also can't get overwhelmed by all the horrible vitriol.
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  Speaker 3: And negative stuff that I see.
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  Speaker 4: Like I'm just thinking about the Haitian community and just
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  Speaker 4: all that they've been through, so I think about us,
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  Speaker 4: you know, it's other black folks. So again, it's one
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  Speaker 4: of those things where I feel like, if we can
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  Speaker 4: teach people how to go into the news in ways
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  Speaker 4: that don't I don't negatively impact them. So one of
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  Speaker 4: the things I say to people is, don't allow the
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  Speaker 4: news to just be fed to you. You have to
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  Speaker 4: choose how you interact with the news, right, So maybe
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  Speaker 4: you need to read something instead of watching the twenty
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  Speaker 4: four hour news cycle, or you need to pick things
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  Speaker 4: like stay tuned or some of these other social media
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  Speaker 4: agencies where they give you the news all the headlines
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  Speaker 4: in three minutes. That could be enough, right, Or you
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  Speaker 4: get on a website to learn about the candidate's platform.
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  Speaker 4: So you're right, we don't talk enough about how to
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  Speaker 4: help people take care of their mental health and an
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  Speaker 4: election cycle, but it's really important that we do.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I wanted to ask you about love, right, do
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  Speaker 2: you think that love is a lost form in relationships
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  Speaker 2: that's really affecting people's mental health? And what made me
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  Speaker 2: think about that is a young lady I can't remember
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  Speaker 2: her name. She was doing an interview and they asked
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  Speaker 2: about the relationship and she was like, do I look
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  Speaker 2: like the type of girl that will pay fifty to fifty?
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  Speaker 2: Like look at my looks? Right, lnicle And everything was
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  Speaker 2: based on looks. And I feel that hurts people, especially
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  Speaker 2: young people's mental because when they hear things like that.
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  Speaker 2: I think a lot of times I think a woman
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  Speaker 2: might say, well, how come my relationship is not like that?
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  Speaker 2: I'm fishing for that relationship could be a reason that
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  Speaker 2: women or men as well are single because they're looking
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  Speaker 2: for something that is not there or doesn't exist. It's
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  Speaker 2: almost like they're looking for the wrong thing, and I
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  Speaker 2: think that can cause a deeply depression.
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  Speaker 1: Do you see that a lot?
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  Speaker 3: We're talking to the younger generation at all.
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  Speaker 4: I see so my daughter's here, Morgan's here, she knew
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  Speaker 4: I was gonna do it. She started grinning. And Morgan
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  Speaker 4: is twenty. And I see some of this through the
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  Speaker 4: conversations that I had with her and like her peer group. Also,
• 13:36
  Speaker 4: because I running a coma project, I talked with young
• 13:38
  Speaker 4: people a lot my nonprofit, and I think I don't
• 13:41
  Speaker 4: think the concept is new. I think what's new is
• 13:43
  Speaker 4: that we get we're feded constantly so you can see
• 13:47
  Speaker 4: it much more readily.
• 13:48
  Speaker 3: I think that's always been there, right.
• 13:49
  Speaker 6: I grew up with people My grandmother literally be like
• 13:52
  Speaker 6: he got to bring that check home, or you shouldn't
• 13:54
  Speaker 6: be dating him.
• 13:54
  Speaker 5: Like yeah, and that comes from my grandma, Like yeah.
• 13:56
  Speaker 1: So's your grandma young Miami. Your grandma did not say you.
• 14:03
  Speaker 6: My grandmother from as long as I can remember, would
• 14:05
  Speaker 6: always be like a man should be bringing your da
• 14:07
  Speaker 6: tech and my mom used to be like, if you're
• 14:10
  Speaker 6: dating someone he doesn't have a job, you don't date him,
• 14:13
  Speaker 6: and he's not allowed in his house.
• 14:14
  Speaker 7: By the way, I agree with that because I feel like,
• 14:17
  Speaker 7: you know, with dog, because men's you know, men be like,
• 14:20
  Speaker 7: what does the woman bringing to the table. Women are
• 14:22
  Speaker 7: harder table, Like everything you're doing, you're doing to impress
• 14:25
  Speaker 7: this woman. You're wearing these nice clothes, youre getting this
• 14:27
  Speaker 7: jew We had this conversation, you're getting this jewy. You
• 14:29
  Speaker 7: want to drive a nice car because you want to impress.
• 14:31
  Speaker 3: But not to a woman, not to the point where
• 14:32
  Speaker 3: woman is saying that's the only way you can get
• 14:35
  Speaker 3: with me.
• 14:35
  Speaker 1: Correct.
• 14:36
  Speaker 4: Yeah, So I think it's I think it depends on
• 14:39
  Speaker 4: how you look at gender roles. I'm not even gonna
• 14:40
  Speaker 4: get into all that, but I do think there's something
• 14:42
  Speaker 4: to be said for the concept of who qualifies for love,
• 14:47
  Speaker 4: like who deserves love and what love looks like.
• 14:50
  Speaker 3: Love is not the stuff.
• 14:52
  Speaker 4: One of the things I love about Jason Wilson is
• 14:54
  Speaker 4: he talks about you know, we talked about it this weekend,
• 14:57
  Speaker 4: is like the constraints that we put ourselves under that
• 14:59
  Speaker 4: we I don't have to like he calls it with
• 15:01
  Speaker 4: it like emotional incarceration, I think, he says, and I think,
• 15:04
  Speaker 4: to your point, and be what some of it is?
• 15:07
  Speaker 4: This is me, This is not talking about that person.
• 15:10
  Speaker 4: My perspective is if you are comfortable with who you are,
• 15:15
  Speaker 4: somebody bringing you stuff is not the thing that's going
• 15:18
  Speaker 4: to sway you in a relationship. Right. And my mom,
• 15:21
  Speaker 4: she's deceased, but she used to say, two halves don't
• 15:24
  Speaker 4: make a hole in a relationship. You want two whole
• 15:26
  Speaker 4: people to come together to form a whole relationship. And
• 15:29
  Speaker 4: so I think it's really about do I love myself
• 15:32
  Speaker 4: enough to know? And I always tell people I'm worthy
• 15:35
  Speaker 4: exactly as I am, And I don't want to get
• 15:37
  Speaker 4: like all metaphysical and hokey, but it's true, I'm worthy
• 15:41
  Speaker 4: as I am. And so I want a partner who
• 15:43
  Speaker 4: also feels that he, she, or they are worthy as
• 15:46
  Speaker 4: they are. And if both of us are coming to
• 15:48
  Speaker 4: the relationship with just a little bit of that, I
• 15:51
  Speaker 4: think it helps us get around some of that.
• 15:54
  Speaker 3: You got to buy me this. I ain't paying on.
• 15:56
  Speaker 4: Fifty because what's wrong with paying fifty to fifty? Like
• 15:58
  Speaker 4: you're getting to know each other and.
• 16:00
  Speaker 7: I'm not saying they gotta be money or superficial. I'm
• 16:02
  Speaker 7: just saying that a woman is going to be giving
• 16:04
  Speaker 7: herself because that's what she's given right physically, mentally, spiritually, emotionally,
• 16:08
  Speaker 7: she's given you her like you and her body. All
• 16:10
  Speaker 7: of that type of stuff cuts some grass or something
• 16:13
  Speaker 7: he takes, you know what I'm saying.
• 16:15
  Speaker 3: But is it he giving up himself too? Yes, just
• 16:18
  Speaker 3: by showing up. Yeah, so you know it's he can
• 16:23
  Speaker 3: so that if they can both show up.
• 16:25
  Speaker 4: I'm not saying it's easy, but remember if in order
• 16:28
  Speaker 4: for both of them to show up, they both got
• 16:30
  Speaker 4: to know a little bit about themselves. How many of
• 16:32
  Speaker 4: us go through life with these blinders on, like blind
• 16:35
  Speaker 4: to ourselves, like we don't know who we.
• 16:37
  Speaker 2: Are who self love comes into play perfect that you
• 16:40
  Speaker 2: said that, So I got a friend right now?
• 16:42
  Speaker 5: That on your face it's from his head.
• 16:45
  Speaker 2: Oh, I got a friend right now. That's dealing with
• 16:47
  Speaker 2: every time this person talks to somebody, everybody says you
• 16:51
  Speaker 2: need to work on yourself. And it's not the first time.
• 16:56
  Speaker 2: It's not that there because she's living it out. Okay,
• 17:00
  Speaker 2: So now as this, so every time she talks to
• 17:03
  Speaker 2: a gentleman. The gentleman says you need to work on
• 17:05
  Speaker 2: yourself before you.
• 17:05
  Speaker 1: Could come back here.
• 17:06
  Speaker 5: Not every single time the guys are saying this.
• 17:10
  Speaker 6: I had two guys said faith, But let me tell
• 17:14
  Speaker 6: you something. One of the guys, his situation is so
• 17:17
  Speaker 6: messed up. He uses that to not have a real
• 17:20
  Speaker 6: conversation about where.
• 17:21
  Speaker 3: He is for rest deflection.
• 17:23
  Speaker 5: So it's like, I hear you, but like we need
• 17:25
  Speaker 5: to work together.
• 17:28
  Speaker 6: I was gonna when you mentioned when you asked, Charla Magne,
• 17:32
  Speaker 6: isn't the guy showing up to That struck me because
• 17:35
  Speaker 6: I feel like a lot of my friends and what
• 17:38
  Speaker 6: I'm realizing about myself is that I wasn't raised as
• 17:41
  Speaker 6: a woman to really see a man as a person
• 17:43
  Speaker 6: that has to show up. I was raised as a
• 17:46
  Speaker 6: like a woman that just a man is there and
• 17:48
  Speaker 6: he's like this like structure, but like he's not a person,
• 17:51
  Speaker 6: not even a check, but just like he has to
• 17:54
  Speaker 6: fight off the bad people, you know what I mean.
• 17:56
  Speaker 6: But now that my little brother is getting older, it
• 17:58
  Speaker 6: made me realize, like, and how many times they like
• 18:01
  Speaker 6: there are some self accountability moments, but how many times
• 18:04
  Speaker 6: am I not seeing this man as a person yes.
• 18:07
  Speaker 6: So I wanted to ask you because I see that
• 18:09
  Speaker 6: you're married, yes, prior to your marriage, and like where
• 18:12
  Speaker 6: you are now your marriage, where did your mental health
• 18:15
  Speaker 6: stuff come into play? Where like you went and actually
• 18:16
  Speaker 6: did the work and you saw the difference.
• 18:18
  Speaker 3: Girl, to ask the hard question more than good night.
• 18:24
  Speaker 5: Learning.
• 18:25
  Speaker 4: Okay, So I've been married twenty two years. We've been together,
• 18:29
  Speaker 4: Thank you, thank you. I take that in we've been together.
• 18:34
  Speaker 4: I'm not gonna do the math since ninety five? Long
• 18:36
  Speaker 4: time should doctor Richard?
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: One years together?
• 18:40
  Speaker 3: Thirty one? Thank you? Beautiful?
• 18:44
  Speaker 4: So okay, in a nutshell before, I'm just gonna be
• 18:49
  Speaker 4: very transparent. I was very unsure of myself and made
• 18:55
  Speaker 4: some mistakes, kissed quite a few frogs, and we put
• 18:58
  Speaker 4: it like that. And I think my journey changed when
• 19:03
  Speaker 4: I just got to I kind of got like Fantaylo Hamer.
• 19:05
  Speaker 4: I got sick and tired of being sick and tired.
• 19:06
  Speaker 4: So I was like, I gotta do something different, and
• 19:07
  Speaker 4: this is my feel. So some of it started when
• 19:09
  Speaker 4: I was in grad school. I started seeing stuff, you know,
• 19:11
  Speaker 4: and just learning things and applying them to myself. And
• 19:14
  Speaker 4: then I think I got to a point where I
• 19:16
  Speaker 4: was like I can do better than this, Do you
• 19:19
  Speaker 4: know what I mean? I don't have to put up
• 19:21
  Speaker 4: with foolishness. And I would always think ahead and think
• 19:25
  Speaker 4: I have to be with somebody that when we have children,
• 19:28
  Speaker 4: I want the children to see a healthy relationship because
• 19:30
  Speaker 4: that's what I grew up with. I saw a very
• 19:32
  Speaker 4: healthy relationship between my parents up until the point my
• 19:35
  Speaker 4: mom died. And so I think it is I had
• 19:39
  Speaker 4: to make a decision that I wanted it to be different,
• 19:40
  Speaker 4: and then I started to do the work. So I'm
• 19:42
  Speaker 4: gonna shout out my psychologist, doctor Maya McNeely. She was
• 19:45
  Speaker 4: the person who really started to help me. It was
• 19:47
  Speaker 4: like right after I got married, but even after marriage.
• 19:50
  Speaker 4: One of the things I wanted to talk about at
• 19:52
  Speaker 4: the expo yesterday that we didn't get to was this
• 19:54
  Speaker 4: concept of do we know as people black people how
• 19:58
  Speaker 4: to receive love?
• 20:00
  Speaker 3: That was my struggle.
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: It came up during your panel, but to get it.
• 20:05
  Speaker 4: Off, Yeah, and so I'm gonna put Jason on blast. Jason,
• 20:08
  Speaker 4: I want to have that conversation one day publicly. But
• 20:10
  Speaker 4: so in a nutshell, what I had to do was
• 20:12
  Speaker 4: recognize that I knew how to be present.
• 20:15
  Speaker 3: I knew how to give to people. I didn't know
• 20:17
  Speaker 3: how to let people give to me.
• 20:18
  Speaker 4: Like my daughter will tell you, I still have a
• 20:20
  Speaker 4: hard time accepting help. So I think it's once I
• 20:23
  Speaker 4: decided I wanted things to be different for me, then
• 20:27
  Speaker 4: I had to decide, like, sort of what's the destination.
• 20:29
  Speaker 4: I wanted to be a help. It sounds really kind
• 20:31
  Speaker 4: of corny, but I wanted to be a healthier version
• 20:33
  Speaker 4: of myself because my mom was always drilling into me.
• 20:36
  Speaker 3: Two holes make a whole relationship.
• 20:38
  Speaker 4: Don't come into a relationship as half a person, right,
• 20:41
  Speaker 4: So that's what it was for me. I had to
• 20:42
  Speaker 4: figure out how to be a whole person. And the
• 20:44
  Speaker 4: things that helped me were doctor McNeely, mindfulness, meditation, exercise,
• 20:49
  Speaker 4: and I'm not big into journaling, but at the time
• 20:52
  Speaker 4: I would do. I have like multiple journals. So I
• 20:55
  Speaker 4: hope I'm answering your question, but that's what I did.
• 20:57
  Speaker 4: I had to work on me.
• 20:58
  Speaker 7: I think we should have a round table discussion about,
• 21:02
  Speaker 7: you know, do we really know how to receive love?
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: Because I think you know, I always say.
• 21:07
  Speaker 7: Your first, last, and best love is self love, right,
• 21:11
  Speaker 7: A lot of people don't have that the way they
• 21:13
  Speaker 7: need to. That's where the impost syndrome and stuff comes
• 21:15
  Speaker 7: into play. And that's why, like people can give you
• 21:17
  Speaker 7: a compliment and you feel uncomfortable, like yes, because.
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: You don't even see yourself in that way.
• 21:22
  Speaker 7: So I think that is worthy of a discussion because
• 21:24
  Speaker 7: I think a lot of people deal with that more
• 21:26
  Speaker 7: than more than they may.
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: They may hold you to it.
• 21:29
  Speaker 4: We gonna do that because it's just important and it
• 21:32
  Speaker 4: was for me it was revelatory. I recognized at some
• 21:35
  Speaker 4: point in the last three or four years, do you know, Alfa,
• 21:38
  Speaker 4: do you know how to be still and let things
• 21:41
  Speaker 4: come to you and just receive them. So when you said,
• 21:44
  Speaker 4: like how long we have been together, when you put
• 21:45
  Speaker 4: the number out there and you say congratulations, I had
• 21:48
  Speaker 4: to stop myself because oh yeah, whatever, okay, but that had.
• 21:51
  Speaker 3: To take it in. And I think it can be
• 21:53
  Speaker 3: hard to take in.
• 21:54
  Speaker 4: I know for me sometimes that stuff can be hard
• 21:56
  Speaker 4: to take in because it's like I'm afraid it's gonna
• 21:58
  Speaker 4: go away. So when I take in the good stuff,
• 22:01
  Speaker 4: how long is that good stuff going to last? But
• 22:03
  Speaker 4: that's because I'm anxious. So that's the anxious mind.
• 22:06
  Speaker 2: Not only that, because I have a hard time with
• 22:07
  Speaker 2: that as well, like a hard time like when my
• 22:09
  Speaker 2: wife she has to stop me and tell me something,
• 22:12
  Speaker 2: and it's almost like I'm like, Okay, that's good, now
• 22:14
  Speaker 2: let's keep it moving exactly. But I think that's also
• 22:16
  Speaker 2: because we've been conditioned to provide and protect.
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: For so long.
• 22:22
  Speaker 2: It almost, I don't want to say it feels like
• 22:24
  Speaker 2: a sign, a feeling of weakness, but it's almost like,
• 22:26
  Speaker 2: all right, thank you, But I want to give my
• 22:28
  Speaker 2: family to love. Now y'all don't love me. I want
• 22:31
  Speaker 2: to love y'all. And when they love me back, it's
• 22:33
  Speaker 2: almost like a right. But now how your dad?
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: You know what I mean.
• 22:36
  Speaker 2: But it's difficult. But I don't know why it's difficult.
• 22:39
  Speaker 2: I really don't know why.
• 22:40
  Speaker 4: It's also vulnerability. How if you're the provider, if you're
• 22:43
  Speaker 4: the person doing everything, if you're Jason talks about this,
• 22:46
  Speaker 4: If you're worth, part of your worth comes from providing,
• 22:50
  Speaker 4: if you're taught, and it's not just men, right you
• 22:52
  Speaker 4: think about being.
• 22:53
  Speaker 3: Are you the oldest child?
• 22:54
  Speaker 5: I'm sitting here like the oldest child. Yes, that's how
• 22:56
  Speaker 5: I feel like me.
• 22:57
  Speaker 6: You have to accomplish all the time because it you
• 23:00
  Speaker 6: just programmed that way, Like if you're not solving a problem,
• 23:02
  Speaker 6: you think, there's what are you told?
• 23:04
  Speaker 4: You told look out for the younger ones, right, So
• 23:06
  Speaker 4: you can't look out for the youngest if you have
• 23:08
  Speaker 4: your stuff together, right, And like the other thing you
• 23:09
  Speaker 4: were saying about, like you don't want to disappoint your elders,
• 23:12
  Speaker 4: that's the other thing. You're the oldest child, you have
• 23:14
  Speaker 4: to perform. So I think when you're always in that mode,
• 23:18
  Speaker 4: it's hard to be vulnerable because you can't be vulnerable
• 23:21
  Speaker 4: and get your stuff done. At least that's how we feel.
• 23:24
  Speaker 4: And so we have to.
• 23:24
  Speaker 3: Find that balance. Again.
• 23:26
  Speaker 4: I'm gonna go back to Jason. You gotta find that
• 23:28
  Speaker 4: balance between recognizing that your worth is in your presence.
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 23:33
  Speaker 3: I didn't make that up, right, I've heard that. I
• 23:35
  Speaker 3: think you.
• 23:35
  Speaker 4: Ona Bezant was the first person I heard say that.
• 23:38
  Speaker 4: But that's where your worth is. So if you can
• 23:39
  Speaker 4: start from my worth is I'm here, We're all everybody
• 23:43
  Speaker 4: in this room. Our worth is the fact that we
• 23:45
  Speaker 4: got up and we got here today. That's our worst.
• 23:47
  Speaker 3: You don't have to do anything for it.
• 23:49
  Speaker 4: I think for me, once I understood that, it made
• 23:53
  Speaker 4: it a little bit easier to be vulnerable because in
• 23:55
  Speaker 4: my vulnerability, I'm not losing my power.
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's your TDJ said.
• 24:00
  Speaker 7: Even if you don't think you're worthy, rest in the
• 24:03
  Speaker 7: fact that God knows your.
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: Work, you know. I think that's that's what you know.
• 24:07
  Speaker 7: We talk, we have these conversations about mental health. That's
• 24:09
  Speaker 7: part of it too, right, Like you have to be
• 24:10
  Speaker 7: spiritually healthy as well. I think that God is a
• 24:13
  Speaker 7: is a missing factor and a lot of people's lives.
• 24:16
  Speaker 3: Yes, they have no faith. You gotta have faith in something.
• 24:19
  Speaker 4: I believe you have to have faith in something bigger
• 24:20
  Speaker 4: than yourself, because otherwise, how do you make sense of
• 24:23
  Speaker 4: so much of the stuff that happens in the world.
• 24:25
  Speaker 3: You I feel like you can't.
• 24:27
  Speaker 7: I just feel to have a daughter that's also following
• 24:31
  Speaker 7: in your footsteps in a lot of ways. But just
• 24:33
  Speaker 7: I mean, just turned out to be a phenomenal person.
• 24:35
  Speaker 3: You know, she's awesome.
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: She is that's all we want, right, I got four daughters,
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: that's all I wanted.
• 24:40
  Speaker 4: And I met the oldest. She's she's the bomb. She's
• 24:42
  Speaker 4: she's on her way. But she got a wonderful mama.
• 24:45
  Speaker 4: You have an incredible wife. I you're welcome. She's just
• 24:48
  Speaker 4: a lovely human being. It feels like that I can
• 24:53
  Speaker 4: receive easily. It feels like I got because it's performed performance.
• 24:56
  Speaker 4: I help do, help create, right, But she had to
• 24:58
  Speaker 4: take it and run with it. And so so one
• 25:00
  Speaker 4: of the things I respect about Morgan so much is
• 25:02
  Speaker 4: Morgan teaches me stuff all the time. She's like, mamma,
• 25:06
  Speaker 4: did you eat, Like when we were in the green rooms, like, mamma,
• 25:08
  Speaker 4: did you drink the water? Drink some water, mommy. So
• 25:10
  Speaker 4: she's like a caretaker, but she also takes care of herself.
• 25:14
  Speaker 4: I was so proud of her on that stage yesterday,
• 25:17
  Speaker 4: went on the intergenerational panel when she talked about, you know,
• 25:21
  Speaker 4: like you don't have to always be struggling as black people,
• 25:24
  Speaker 4: we get this narrative that is struggle, struggle, struggle, and
• 25:27
  Speaker 4: you all all did things so your little brother and
• 25:30
  Speaker 4: your kids they don't have to struggle, and so why
• 25:33
  Speaker 4: would you gravitate toward that? But her mentor one of
• 25:37
  Speaker 4: my friends, mister James Sample, he's awesome. He went to
• 25:39
  Speaker 4: Howard as well. He taught her, you know, your parents struggled,
• 25:44
  Speaker 4: so you don't have to. So I don't want you
• 25:46
  Speaker 4: to struggle.
• 25:46
  Speaker 3: And she talked, she relayed that to the group.
• 25:49
  Speaker 4: That made me so proud. So it is incredible to
• 25:52
  Speaker 4: have two kids, my son Myles turn eighteen yesday, have
• 25:54
  Speaker 4: birthday mouths. To have two kids about to be both
• 25:58
  Speaker 4: Howard Bison at you, you know, and having them be good, productive, healthy,
• 26:03
  Speaker 4: emotionally well young people. That's a gift, right And that's
• 26:07
  Speaker 4: not all me, like you said, that's that's from up.
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: There, Morgan. Did you have a choice. Did you have
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: to go to Howard? Did y'all have to do in mouth,
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: have to go to out or you had a choice?
• 26:14
  Speaker 3: Okay, I did you apply to tell you?
• 26:17
  Speaker 4: Okay, See she had a choice, was going to Howard,
• 26:21
  Speaker 4: But she had a choice.
• 26:25
  Speaker 7: Now what's next for the mental wealth ext boat, Cause
• 26:27
  Speaker 7: I feel like we do this every year. Yeah, I
• 26:29
  Speaker 7: feel like there's other things we should be doing throughout
• 26:32
  Speaker 7: the year.
• 26:32
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 26:32
  Speaker 4: So one thing we hope we're gonna be able to
• 26:35
  Speaker 4: do is I don't I'm just praying on it. I'm
• 26:38
  Speaker 4: hoping it's gonna happen. Do more than one.
• 26:41
  Speaker 3: That's my hope.
• 26:42
  Speaker 4: And my hope is that we get to honor somebody's
• 26:45
  Speaker 4: hometown with one of them.
• 26:46
  Speaker 3: I'm hoping we'd be able to do that.
• 26:48
  Speaker 7: Yeah, we've been talking. I mean, you know, the baby
• 26:50
  Speaker 7: was there at the Mental Wealth tex Bowl this year.
• 26:52
  Speaker 7: He wanted to be a part of it. He launched
• 26:53
  Speaker 7: a baby care and this, yes, and so yeah, we've
• 26:55
  Speaker 7: been talking about doing something in the Carolinas. Yeah.
• 26:57
  Speaker 4: So yeah, that's right because he's North Carolina. Yeah, we
• 26:59
  Speaker 4: used to live in North Carolina. So that's one thing.
• 27:01
  Speaker 3: I think. The other thing is we're going to continue
• 27:03
  Speaker 3: to get bigger.
• 27:05
  Speaker 4: We have some ideas already about what kind of panels
• 27:07
  Speaker 4: we want to have, and so we're going to be
• 27:09
  Speaker 4: reached out. We're gonna start reaching out to people soon
• 27:10
  Speaker 4: to try to get on people's calendars early. Our talent
• 27:14
  Speaker 4: to bring it. We're going to be reaching out to
• 27:16
  Speaker 4: more vendors. I think we could have, hopefully fingers crossed
• 27:19
  Speaker 4: a few more vendors at the at the venue and
• 27:22
  Speaker 4: have more opportunities for things like breathwork and yoga and
• 27:26
  Speaker 4: meditation in some of the breakout rooms and shar are
• 27:29
  Speaker 4: we just going to continue to follow your vision for
• 27:31
  Speaker 4: the for the expo.
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  Speaker 7: Absolutely, And you know one thing that we don't do,
• 27:33
  Speaker 7: we don't you know, we are a nonprofit organization, you know,
• 27:36
  Speaker 7: mentalwealth Alianes dot org. We don't we don't, we don't
• 27:39
  Speaker 7: do enough. We don't tell people that they can donate.
• 27:41
  Speaker 4: Yes, and we we really want people to do. It's
• 27:43
  Speaker 4: so easy. You can follow the link in bio on
• 27:46
  Speaker 4: the Instagram page for the Mental Wealth Alliance. You can
• 27:48
  Speaker 4: go to the website. Uh, there are QR codes on it.
• 27:51
  Speaker 4: It is so easy, and you know, it sounds like begging,
• 27:54
  Speaker 4: it kind of is. But you have to understand that
• 27:57
  Speaker 4: money that you donate goes to helping put things together
• 28:00
  Speaker 4: like the expert where you're given to thousands of people,
• 28:04
  Speaker 4: and just trying to support everybody's investing in their mental wealth.
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: So everybody in free, you know, like like we don't
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: charge for the mental health.
• 28:11
  Speaker 4: That's it and that costs money. So if they invest
• 28:13
  Speaker 4: in the Mental Wealth Alliance, the Mental Wealth Alliance can
• 28:16
  Speaker 4: help invest in their mental wealth.
• 28:17
  Speaker 5: That's right, and they can't.
• 28:18
  Speaker 6: There's the content from the events online and you can
• 28:21
  Speaker 6: watch the conversations.
• 28:22
  Speaker 4: It will be there's a lot on the Instagram page
• 28:24
  Speaker 4: Mental Wealth Alliance, shar Tyrese, myself, some of the talent.
• 28:28
  Speaker 4: We've all been posting stuff and eventually it's going to
• 28:30
  Speaker 4: be on the YouTube page.
• 28:32
  Speaker 5: You said, Tyree said it off. What what was the
• 28:33
  Speaker 5: conversation he was just Well.
• 28:35
  Speaker 4: The one thing he did that kind of had me
• 28:37
  Speaker 4: cackling was he ripped the counter, the timer, he ripped
• 28:40
  Speaker 4: it out the not he didn't destroy. Yeah, he took
• 28:42
  Speaker 4: the clock off the floors, like I ain't paying attention
• 28:44
  Speaker 4: to that clock.
• 28:45
  Speaker 3: And he was just very transmit.
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: Like literally unplugged.
• 28:48
  Speaker 4: Yes, he kept looking at him like that clock ain't right.
• 28:51
  Speaker 4: We need you more time. He was hilarious. But I
• 28:52
  Speaker 4: think one thing that he did that really moved the
• 28:55
  Speaker 4: crowd at the end, it was a great way to end,
• 28:58
  Speaker 4: was he kind of encouraged people by saying, like, if
• 29:01
  Speaker 4: you have something that you want to do right that
• 29:04
  Speaker 4: maybe is gonna help the world, you need to go
• 29:05
  Speaker 4: do it. And he talked about what his thing was
• 29:08
  Speaker 4: that he does, but he was really kind of pushing
• 29:11
  Speaker 4: people to go out and contribute. And I'm not gonna
• 29:15
  Speaker 4: say it like he said it, because you know, family friendly,
• 29:17
  Speaker 4: but if you're not going to do it, then step
• 29:20
  Speaker 4: to the side and let somebody else come do it.
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 29:23
  Speaker 7: Well, whether it was a phrase he had, it was
• 29:24
  Speaker 7: a I'm the problem, or if you the problem, if
• 29:27
  Speaker 7: you have a problem, if you have a problem, do
• 29:29
  Speaker 7: something about it, because he was like, so many people nowadays.
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: Don't really be having a problem.
• 29:33
  Speaker 7: They just either want to be a part of the conversation,
• 29:35
  Speaker 7: right or they just want to jump in on the
• 29:37
  Speaker 7: jokes on social media.
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: But if you actually have a problem, do something about it.
• 29:42
  Speaker 3: Yeah, So that was it. It was a good way to end.
• 29:45
  Speaker 2: Well, thank you for joining us this morning.
• 29:47
  Speaker 1: That's right. How do they follow you, doctor Affe?
• 29:49
  Speaker 3: How they follow me?
• 29:50
  Speaker 4: Okay, you can follow me a couple of places. The
• 29:52
  Speaker 4: main one is Instagram, d R A L F I
• 29:55
  Speaker 4: E E. Doctor Alfie, I'm everywhere, I'm on LinkedIn, I'm
• 29:59
  Speaker 4: on on Facebook, uh and my website doctor alfree dot com.
• 30:03
  Speaker 7: And follow the work she's doing with the a Coma
• 30:05
  Speaker 7: Project as well, like you know, like tell them a
• 30:07
  Speaker 7: little bit about the COMA.
• 30:08
  Speaker 3: Okay, so thank you for that quickly.
• 30:10
  Speaker 4: The Coma Project is a mental health five on one
• 30:12
  Speaker 4: C three nonprofit and we are about three things, raising consciousness,
• 30:17
  Speaker 4: empowering people, and changing the system of mental health for
• 30:21
  Speaker 4: young people of color. Where we center and amplify young
• 30:24
  Speaker 4: people of color, and we also talk about the intersections
• 30:27
  Speaker 4: queer young people of color, young people of.
• 30:29
  Speaker 3: Color with disabilities.
• 30:30
  Speaker 4: We want all of our young people of color to
• 30:32
  Speaker 4: do better in life. We do research, programming, outreach, We
• 30:36
  Speaker 4: support the Mental Wealth Alliance with the Expo every year.
• 30:39
  Speaker 4: We just do all kinds of cool stuff.
• 30:41
  Speaker 2: We appreciate you for joining us again. Absolutely, I'm sure
• 30:44
  Speaker 2: you could see Ada Hampton home coming because I'm sure.
• 30:46
  Speaker 3: Oh God, I love my HBCUs.
• 30:50
  Speaker 4: I'm just gonna say that, shout out, shout out all
• 30:51
  Speaker 4: of them, miss all love Hu and Hu all day.
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: There you go.
• 30:54
  Speaker 2: It's Doctor Alfree Breeling Noblest, the Breakfast Club, come morning,
• 30:57
  Speaker 2: Wake that ass up in the morning.
• 31:00
  Speaker 1: First Club.