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Apparently I'm Allowed to Have a Boyfriend · Untraditionally Lala

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  Speaker 1: Hello, gorgeous, it's La La Kent. Welcome to Untraditionally Lala. Hey, babes,
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  Speaker 1: it's all I can't Welcome to the bonus episode of
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  Speaker 1: Untraditionally Lala Tet. How we feeling, buddy, How we feeling
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  Speaker 1: on this Monday? Buddy? Can I tell you? I have
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  Speaker 1: been doing this thing when I have anxiety where I no,
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  Speaker 1: I like, get into my chest and do like a
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  Speaker 1: Tarzan and all of the sudden I can breathe. I
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  Speaker 1: haven't had debilitating anxiety. I did it in front of
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  Speaker 1: Calvin for the first time. I didn't even care he was.
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  Speaker 2: He told you, he said, you gotta just scream yeah,
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  Speaker 2: and you did.
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  Speaker 1: I did, Yeah. I did really well at it. You're
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  Speaker 1: continuing that today's the first day that I haven't really
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  Speaker 1: needed to do it, But to say that I haven't
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  Speaker 1: been in the car doing it. Do you hum? Only
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  Speaker 1: when I get injections, I go, I go whole bunch.
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  Speaker 2: I hum sometimes to so so when she's laying on
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  Speaker 2: my chest, she loves it.
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  Speaker 1: I think that just the the uncertainty of life has
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  Speaker 1: gotten to me, which I've talked about this before, and
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  Speaker 1: you know this that it doesn't happen often, but there
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  Speaker 1: are times where I'm like, we're feeling a bit stagnant,
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  Speaker 1: and I start to panic. This round of things, the
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  Speaker 1: amount of anxiety that I've had. I haven't had this
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  Speaker 1: level since my custody battle, where it's just like I
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  Speaker 1: dread the night because I'm a left with I'm left
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  Speaker 1: with my thoughts. But I'm I'm snapping out of it,
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  Speaker 1: and I attribute it to the Tarzan screaming. Yeah, just
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  Speaker 1: get it out, baby.
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  Speaker 2: Sometimes you gotta scream into a pillow.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. I'm excited for this bonus because it's along the lines.
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  Speaker 1: The other day, Ocean told me that I was allowed
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  Speaker 1: to have a boyfriend because she has four boyfriends at school.
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  Speaker 1: Dislike all of that. I was like, I don't love
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  Speaker 1: the d We're.
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  Speaker 2: Gonna pretend that they're just well they are, they are
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  Speaker 2: just friends that are boys.
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  Speaker 1: Well, then I asked her. I was like, what do
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  Speaker 1: you mean you have four boyfriends? And she was like, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: like this one, this one, this one, and this one,
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  Speaker 1: and I go okay, and so like they know about
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  Speaker 1: each other and she goes, well, yeah, mom, because we're
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  Speaker 1: all friends. They're my boyfriends and I'm their girlfriend. I
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  Speaker 1: was like, oh, like a friend that's a boy and
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  Speaker 1: she was like, yeah, Mom, what else. I'm like, oh, okay, yes, sorry,
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  Speaker 1: we like this age. Yes. I was just so thrilled
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  Speaker 1: that my daughter finally told me I can have a boyfriend,
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  Speaker 1: because for so long she's been like, you can't have
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  Speaker 1: a boyfriend. That means I won't be able to sleep
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  Speaker 1: in your bed. What does that mean for me? Once
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  Speaker 1: she like gave me the approval, I was like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: I like this. That's because now she is sleeping in
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  Speaker 1: her own bed now. She told me that for the
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  Speaker 1: past hold on now, oh for the weekend. I know,
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  Speaker 1: I let her sleep in my bed. She's been crushing
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  Speaker 1: it in her own bed, get herself in, tucked in whatever.
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  Speaker 1: I let her sleep with me this past weekend. Oh
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  Speaker 1: and now Amber is back in town, you guys, So
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  Speaker 1: now she's using to this. She's like, why is Amber
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  Speaker 1: here again? And I was like, you love her. She
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  Speaker 1: just I don't like it at night because I'm supposed
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  Speaker 1: to be sleeping with you. I said, during the week
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  Speaker 1: you have to sleep in your own bed weekends like
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  Speaker 1: party on, she'll come.
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  Speaker 2: When I see her, she goes, guess what t T
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  Speaker 2: I slept in my own bed.
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  Speaker 1: She's very proud of it. Do you make a big deal,
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  Speaker 1: of course, but she said that on Sunday. Yeah, so
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  Speaker 1: she fibbed me. We have to make a big deal
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  Speaker 1: when she tells us cool things. Shame with Sosa is
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  Speaker 1: really into the big deal right now. Yeah, we have
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  Speaker 1: to make a big deal for everything. Yeah, she's really
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  Speaker 1: funny right now. Anyway, Nick Cannon allows his fifteen year
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  Speaker 1: old son to date, but teen daughter is banned. So
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  Speaker 1: I'm a little confused by this, but also not I
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  Speaker 1: think I may have an unpopular opinion. And Nick Cannon
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  Speaker 1: revealed he's okay with his son dating at fifteen years old,
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  Speaker 1: but his twin sister isn't getting the same treatment. There
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  Speaker 1: is a difference when parenting a son and when parenting
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  Speaker 1: a daughter. I am more protective of my daughter. I
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  Speaker 1: one hundred percent agree with him. And I say this
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  Speaker 1: because yes, his son can date.
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  Speaker 3: You.
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  Speaker 1: I think you can control your.
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  Speaker 2: Son's actions and behaviors, like Nick Cannon saying, do not
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  Speaker 2: put a woman in this position. You can't tell your
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  Speaker 2: girl like if you're put like who knows, but you
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  Speaker 2: can you know, you can kind of make a roadway
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  Speaker 2: to your son you can't do that with your daughter.
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  Speaker 2: She's going to be put into positions. But you can
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  Speaker 2: tell your son what positions to put a woman into
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  Speaker 2: feel safe and say comfortable. But you can't like if
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  Speaker 2: he does this, you know, it's a very ital odd thing.
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  Speaker 2: But you can tell your son what to do and
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  Speaker 2: what not to do.
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  Speaker 1: You know. Cardi b spoke about this, and she's been
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  Speaker 1: talking about it on a lot of different podcasts. I
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  Speaker 1: think the one I saw, I believe it was with
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  Speaker 1: Michelle Obama, if I'm not mistaken, but she was saying
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  Speaker 1: when raising her son, she is very much teaching him
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  Speaker 1: that like no.
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  Speaker 2: Means no and respect. And that's where I'm kind of
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  Speaker 2: thinking that. And it's very hard to like if I
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  Speaker 2: had a daughter and I was like, so, he's gonna
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  Speaker 2: probably say this, this, this, this, this, It's like I
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  Speaker 2: have to go through a whole bunch of things of
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  Speaker 2: what he might say to you.
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  Speaker 1: You have to tap into the mind of a shitty
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  Speaker 1: man or a man that like maybe Nick has been
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  Speaker 1: at one point there it is.
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  Speaker 2: And that's where I'm like, Okay, he probably knows that,
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  Speaker 2: and now he's telling his son who not to be
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  Speaker 2: that he was and now his son will have some
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  Speaker 2: you know, a better chance at what he didn't.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe, you know broad I talk. I talk to my
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  Speaker 1: friends who have boys a lot, and I expressed just
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  Speaker 1: with the state of the world, and you know, think
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  Speaker 1: these men in positions of power who still maintain power
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  Speaker 1: after a lot of things have come out about them,
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  Speaker 1: and these women really fighting to not only be heard
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  Speaker 1: but see something done, and for the most part, nothing
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  Speaker 1: is done. So I've spoken to my friends who have
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  Speaker 1: boys and I express, you know, my concern with having girls.
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  Speaker 1: I never expected to be a girl mom. There are
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  Speaker 1: things that I have not experienced that some of my
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  Speaker 1: friends have that a lot of women have experienced at
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  Speaker 1: the hands of a man. And I remember one of
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  Speaker 1: my friends was like, I understand exactly what you're going
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  Speaker 1: through and how that could be scary. She goes, But
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  Speaker 1: I have to say, I am so terrified raising a
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  Speaker 1: boy because I have to teach them about so many
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  Speaker 1: things that are unacceptable. And she goes, And you think
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  Speaker 1: that that would be an easy job, because it just
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  Speaker 1: seems like it would be common sense to like treat people,
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  Speaker 1: especially a woman, with respect and listen to them. But
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  Speaker 1: when I look at a lot of these men, I
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  Speaker 1: sometimes wonder, like what the mom did to make them
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  Speaker 1: think that this was totally okay?
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  Speaker 2: And maybe it's not even what the mom did, it's
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  Speaker 2: what did the mom allow them to get away with.
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  Speaker 1: Or sometimes it's just people are born who they are.
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  Speaker 2: Well, yeah, I mean, there's a lot of people I mean,
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  Speaker 2: I'll just say that are incarcerated that did terrible things
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  Speaker 2: and their mothers are out and that's not a you know,
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  Speaker 2: what their kids did isn't a reflection of who the
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  Speaker 2: mother is.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know. I love what Cardi B said.
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  Speaker 1: Next time I see her, mama tell her that she
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  Speaker 1: raised a bit. I'm all about blaming the mom. I'm like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: your mama didn't finish the job, and I'm certain not
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  Speaker 1: taking over now.
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  Speaker 2: At some point, it's you're a man, and you know
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  Speaker 2: right from wrong, and you shouldn't need your mom to
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  Speaker 2: like you.
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  Speaker 1: I agree, like you raised me. Now I know right
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  Speaker 1: from wrong.
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  Speaker 2: I shouldn't at the age that I'm at, or even
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  Speaker 2: twenty three four or five and being like, but mom,
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  Speaker 2: did I do that wrong?
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  Speaker 1: It's like, what do you even fucking mean? You're an adult?
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  Speaker 1: Why are you going to your mom? Or like yes,
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know, no, but it goes back
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  Speaker 1: also because you know, I'm obsessed with Kay Michelle and
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  Speaker 1: I just caught up on Real House. I was of Atlanta.
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  Speaker 1: It is so good this season. I didn't think I
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  Speaker 1: would like it because I did not enjoy last season,
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  Speaker 1: just because I like what I like. And anytime you
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  Speaker 1: recast pretty much an entire show, it's like, oh, this
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  Speaker 1: is funky, but you've got familiar faces, but you also
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  Speaker 1: have like a dynamic happening that I'm really freaking into.
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  Speaker 1: But Ky Michelle, I've spoken about this song before because
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  Speaker 1: it slaps so hard. Can't raise a man? She talks about,
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  Speaker 1: he's already grown. What do you think you're going to
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  Speaker 1: do about it? You wonder why he acts like a boy,
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  Speaker 1: It's because he wasn't raised right before you. So is
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  Speaker 1: it the mom's fault? I don't know. I'm a mom,
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  Speaker 1: and I certainly hope that when Ocean and sos to
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  Speaker 1: go into the world, they're not like you know what
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  Speaker 1: you because they could roll the tape to your friends
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  Speaker 1: are a huge Yes, they're the biggest influence on your life.
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  Speaker 1: It's what Jomies did. It's just you. You were born
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  Speaker 1: a bitch. You were born a bunch. You were born
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  Speaker 1: a bitch, and you just didn't want to listen. Because,
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  Speaker 1: let me tell you something, I know a lot of
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  Speaker 1: people that were in the rooms at Eastwood Elementary when
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  Speaker 1: they told us to be drug free. A lot of
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  Speaker 1: those people did not listen. Okay, did not listen. Care
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  Speaker 1: Dare Dare the Dare program. Anyway, back to dating, I
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  Speaker 1: feel like my my mom our mom and dad were
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  Speaker 1: very chilling, like do you ever remember mom or dad
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  Speaker 1: saying like you can't date until this time?
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  Speaker 2: No, but I assume they looked at me and thought,
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  Speaker 2: I don't need to worry about him dating anyone, so
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  Speaker 2: we'll just keep it going.
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  Speaker 1: Because you had to sit on books to like past
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  Speaker 1: your driving tests and stuff.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and Dad, here's the one thing about Dad? Then,
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  Speaker 2: I really just have, you know, a bone to pick?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, what is it?
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  Speaker 2: I liked different hairstyles, but he was like, since he
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  Speaker 2: had no hair, he was mister tube.
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  Speaker 1: For a while, we were like, you're going to give
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  Speaker 1: it up? To give up that tube?
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  Speaker 2: Dad Like he would look at me and go, hey,
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  Speaker 2: Houston and then fold it back to down.
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  Speaker 1: I was like, all right, let's just get rid of it. Now,
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  Speaker 1: this is just all right. I don't even know where
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  Speaker 1: I'm going with this anymore. Because he had no hair,
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  Speaker 1: it was like, your hair is amazing.
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  Speaker 2: So I just had this long, stupidushy, curly hair. Then
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  Speaker 2: I looked like a cute tip and my dad just
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  Speaker 2: made me have it because he didn't have hair.
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  Speaker 1: So I looked like a geriatric fuck at school. Because
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  Speaker 1: my dad didn't have hair. You did not look geriatric.
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  Speaker 1: People who look geriatric are usually bald. What are you
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  Speaker 1: talking about? You're making no sense. I think you're upset
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  Speaker 1: that you couldn't do cool things with your what that's
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  Speaker 1: why you have dreads now, right? You did what you
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  Speaker 1: could never do that you wanted to do.
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  Speaker 2: I didn't even want dreads then, No, but I just
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  Speaker 2: like I wanted like a cool like bade on the
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  Speaker 2: top and my dad Dad would go just with all
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  Speaker 2: that great hair while you keep cutting it.
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  Speaker 1: It's like, Jesus, are you trying to live through me? Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: Well he did, he did. It's like when Michelle tells
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  Speaker 1: me she's gonna cut her hair, I'm like, why would
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  Speaker 1: you do that? No, don't do that. I just remember dad,
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  Speaker 1: or when when anyone who has a hairline that low,
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  Speaker 1: and they're like, yeah, I'm in a laser. I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: get rid of the hair. Why do you know how
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  Speaker 1: many neutrapols I'm popping a day.
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  Speaker 2: Dad would come out and just like back in the
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  Speaker 2: day on the patio and he'd bring me my wine
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  Speaker 2: and he'd hand it to me and then he just
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  Speaker 2: did your age or normally No, I didn't, Yeah I
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  Speaker 2: was over age. I was like twenty three.
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  Speaker 1: Oh for age. I like that. This was yeah, I
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  Speaker 1: was very ill, but like a couple of years before
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  Speaker 1: he passed.
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  Speaker 2: But he just looked at me and he'd go, got
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  Speaker 2: great hair, And I'd just be like, what the fuck
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  Speaker 2: is going on?
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  Speaker 1: As he's just bald. I was like, wow, I've never
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  Speaker 1: in my life. Even Brandon, like back in the day,
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  Speaker 1: was like, enjoy your hair while you got it, because
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  Speaker 1: Brandon's okay. But let's talk about this. If you shave
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  Speaker 1: your hair, like you get rid of the dreads and
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  Speaker 1: what if what if Dad doesn't grow back? No, no,
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  Speaker 1: I have to imagine a lot of these are not
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  Speaker 1: even attached to your head anymore. Do you guys want
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  Speaker 1: to see something?
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  Speaker 4: Way?
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  Speaker 1: San? How did we get onto dating and you're the
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  Speaker 1: bone to pick, said, Dad wouldn't let you get a fade.
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  Speaker 1: What the fuck is going on? I don't know, and
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  Speaker 1: I can't even find the dread but it is? Is it? Just?
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  Speaker 1: You know what? Oh? I need a dog laugh. That
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  Speaker 1: is so funny. I don't remember ever telling me another
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  Speaker 1: one broke. That's all she got. Well, she's like Chandler
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  Speaker 1: being's third nipple. No, there's a lot like this one.
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  Speaker 1: She's on her last.
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  Speaker 2: Dad, I'm sorry, but yeah, no, so that's your bone.
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  Speaker 1: He couldn't get a haircut.
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  Speaker 2: I couldn't get a haircut. But that's why I don't
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  Speaker 2: think Dad and mom were like if if you were
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  Speaker 2: worried about you dating, you see your five foot son
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  Speaker 2: and then you see like his friends who are like,
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  Speaker 2: you know, normal built, and they're like, they're getting the pussy,
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  Speaker 2: and my son's fine. I don't need to worry about
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  Speaker 2: him dating.
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  Speaker 1: I think my first boyfriend I carried around his school picture,
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  Speaker 1: Matt Taylor in the fourth grade, and then Matt was
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  Speaker 1: my Matt was like my first boyfriend that we'd like
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  Speaker 1: hold hands and just remember that was in the seventh grade.
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  Speaker 1: He was in eighth grade. I remember guys.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, now talking about this, I don't ever want my
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  Speaker 2: kids today. I remember coming into that, like my little
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  Speaker 2: ass coming upstairs from the basement, just playing video games
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  Speaker 2: with my friends, come inside into the main room, and
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  Speaker 2: her boyfriend at the time is just bleeding from the
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  Speaker 2: phase because they just got in like a huge fire.
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  Speaker 1: I was like, I didn't get it, not you and him.
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  Speaker 1: There was a group of friends, guys got in it.
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  Speaker 1: Took a phone call, went outside when he re entered.
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  Speaker 4: Bloody, bloody white tea, bloody east in passing out, thinking
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  Speaker 4: I'm gonna go downstairs and play Halo again or something that.
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  Speaker 1: Hell, yeah, oh my god, there's a lot of poor dad.
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  Speaker 1: I know. He's like my seventh grade daughter. He was
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  Speaker 1: like begging Matt, the boyfriend, was like begging my mom
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  Speaker 1: not to tell his mom. And then his mom called
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  Speaker 1: my mom and was like, what happened? Yeah, he got
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  Speaker 1: his ass kicked. We're rats over here. Baby. She was like,
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  Speaker 1: why wouldn't you tell me? And my mom was like,
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  Speaker 1: he asked me not to.
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  Speaker 2: Mom's a fucking real one. No, our family is a
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  Speaker 2: real one.
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  Speaker 1: Trust me.
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  Speaker 2: They have done some things and I.
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  Speaker 1: They've kept it on lock. Yeah, because they show.
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  Speaker 2: I do love Mom, and I do think she is
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  Speaker 2: like she'll take him to the grave type bitch. But
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  Speaker 2: also I think she's a type that like she forgot
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  Speaker 2: what you told her type bitch. Oh yeah, she did,
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  Speaker 2: you know, like don't tell anyone, Like twenty minutes later,
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  Speaker 2: she didn't even know what she was told.
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  Speaker 1: You know, it's like she forgot the secret. Oh so
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  Speaker 1: it's a little dory, little dory happening. Oh yes, yeah, exactly.
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  Speaker 1: That Mom was always the one who, like, if I
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  Speaker 1: liked someone, she would we would get in the car
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  Speaker 1: and be like two in the morning and the boy
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  Speaker 1: would come out and she'd pick him up with me
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  Speaker 1: in the car and go drive through Wendy's and we
• 16:18
  Speaker 1: listened to like West Side By t Q. Yeah, it
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  Speaker 1: was like the greatest. It was so much fun. I
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  Speaker 1: just remember Mom's giant car always being filled with tons
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  Speaker 1: of kids. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: That was the other thing, like back in like Junior
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  Speaker 2: was the cool mom. No, she was because we'd be
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  Speaker 2: hanging out at like midnight and then most of the
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  Speaker 2: time all of my friends were sleeping over and they
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  Speaker 2: could like come over, but Lisa, like it would be
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  Speaker 2: like one thirty or two, he'd be like did we
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  Speaker 2: just walk back to your house or something and be
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  Speaker 2: like watch this my mom, and she'd just go, yep,
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  Speaker 2: I'm on my way. She'd fucking make us like breakfast
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  Speaker 2: at three am. She was still a vacuum.
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  Speaker 1: In this bit. Oh yeah, totally. No, she was a gem.
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  Speaker 1: But I think we also had it like that because
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  Speaker 1: we didn't have tight leashes at all, So like I
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  Speaker 1: didn't worry about going and I had a flip phone. Yeah,
• 17:10
  Speaker 1: I got my first phone in like the fourth grade.
• 17:12
  Speaker 2: I got mine in second because you got yours. So
• 17:16
  Speaker 2: I think it was just like a family plan. Yeah,
• 17:19
  Speaker 2: I got like a terrible one that I was already using.
• 17:22
  Speaker 1: It to school. That was what I knew was we
• 17:26
  Speaker 1: didn't have a tight leash. Like I never had to
• 17:28
  Speaker 1: worry if I got asked to a dance. It wasn't
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: some like big to do like sit down and let's talk.
• 17:33
  Speaker 1: It was basically like, you know the fucking rules, Yeah,
• 17:36
  Speaker 1: you break them, you take advantage of the retractable leash,
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: You're never leaving this house again. Yeah, and I knew that,
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: so I never took advantage. Now when I got my
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: high school boyfriend, my dad was obviously very nervous because
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: I was seventeen, my boyfriend was. I was a junior,
• 17:58
  Speaker 1: he was a senior. He went to a different school.
• 18:00
  Speaker 1: I struggled through that period of time in high school
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: because when I was a sophomore, my friends were seniors
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: that I had really gotten along with. They had graduated.
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: I was just kind of lost. My high school boyfriend
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: comes into the mix. He's like my best friend. We're
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: together every single day, we're having sleepovers. Dad was very
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: concerned about that. Mom said, Kent, if they want to
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: do stuff, they're going to do it, then they can
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: do it in a car, they can do it wherever
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: they want. Like it's our job to just teach her, like,
• 18:34
  Speaker 1: be freaking careful. We prefer you not do these things,
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: but things happen, Yeah, please be careful and careful. We
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: were yes, and then we all grew to love that man.
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: And I've never had a functioning relationship since No. He
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: was the only one.
• 18:51
  Speaker 2: You would do so many funny things like Lauren would
• 18:53
  Speaker 2: explode and he'd just looked at everyone, know and just fucking.
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: Riler up more. It was great. He knew exactly how
• 18:59
  Speaker 1: to deal with you, I know. And how sad that
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: I was the same at seventeen as I am right now. Yeah,
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: he might have burnt out. You think I don't know.
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: We'll never know. No, I will never know. Let me
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: tell you. I said going into twenty twenty six that
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: I am opening myself up to being in a relationship.
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: I will not be closed off. I'm not going to
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: try to like set parameters around my life to try
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: and control the situation. Because I was like, when my
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: kids reach this age and I have this going on,
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: this is the goal that I want to reach. And
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: once I reach that my kids are this age, then
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: I'll go out and start dating you. No, I'm just
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: going to let it be.
• 19:41
  Speaker 2: Do you And I know it's very early, and obviously
• 19:44
  Speaker 2: you kind of put the parameters when you know.
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: The child, But do you have.
• 19:49
  Speaker 2: I feel like, like with the Ocean, I feel like
• 19:52
  Speaker 2: when they're fourteen or thirteen, you kind of like they're
• 19:56
  Speaker 2: different there are becoming a little human and you're like, ohy.
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: K, it starts early than that now talking to Amber,
• 20:01
  Speaker 1: it starts like eleven or twelve.
• 20:02
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: The iPads, huh, I think it's more than just the iPads.
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: It's like the schools they go to. We live in La.
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: It's a different freaking beast out.
• 20:09
  Speaker 4: Here in LA.
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: I think it's Actually you're right because she lives in
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: Bozeman and she said it's the same type of thing.
• 20:15
  Speaker 2: I think it's just the way that the world goes
• 20:17
  Speaker 2: and this is where we're at, right.
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I do, Oh yeah, yeah, I don't know how
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: I'm going to be. Yeah. I was gonna say, do
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: you have.
• 20:27
  Speaker 2: A game plan as far as like most people have
• 20:29
  Speaker 2: like an age limit, like no, you can't date before sixteen,
• 20:32
  Speaker 2: and like I think those are great, but like sometimes
• 20:34
  Speaker 2: if I were to look and like, here's still a
• 20:36
  Speaker 2: ocean and she's sixteen, Like, nah, maybe eighteen. You gotta wait,
• 20:38
  Speaker 2: I don't think you're mature right now, like that type
• 20:41
  Speaker 2: of thing. You know, I'm going to play it by year.
• 20:44
  Speaker 2: I have to see how each kid is. I would
• 20:47
  Speaker 2: like to be the parent who is chill and this.
• 20:52
  Speaker 2: These are my expectations. I will give you all the
• 20:55
  Speaker 2: freedom in the world.
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: You are safe with me. And that's another reason why
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: I don't if they end up watching their bump rules
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: one day or whatever it is that I was on
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: my social media googling me, I'm fine with it because
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: They're going to see that their mom has lived some life.
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: When I am talking to you about drinking, how the
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: way you carry yourself in the world, by the way,
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: A lot of these things you just have to experience.
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: That's part of the growing up process. Is you act
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: a damn fool. You're immature. You do things that you
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: shouldn't do, and that's what kind of builds you into
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: the person you are to go out and have children,
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: and then you decide how you want to raise them.
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: I want my kids to know when I'm telling you
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: these things, there is never any judgment. You can come
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: to me about anything in everything. If you have if
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: you are drinking at a party and you're in high school,
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: I know that those things happen. You fucking pick up
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: the phone and you call me. I will not ask
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: any questions. I will be there. Like My job is
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: not to shame you or judge you. It is to
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: provide you with the life life where you feel safe,
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: taking care of and guided. The moment I feel that
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: you are slipping away, I will fuck up your world.
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: That's what it is. Good luck, Ocean, Good luck. What
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: about Sosa?
• 22:16
  Speaker 2: Sosa seems terrified of every shit she doesn't want to
• 22:19
  Speaker 2: do much but cry.
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: Oh, choose me Jah.
• 22:24
  Speaker 2: She had her she was eating this morning eggs and
• 22:27
  Speaker 2: she had her and stuffy.
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and you tried to get it away from her.
• 22:31
  Speaker 2: Oh, I just got it away from her and put
• 22:33
  Speaker 2: her eggs down, and then she did. She was like
• 22:36
  Speaker 2: this for three minutes, and I was.
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: Like, are you all right? Right? When I moved her her?
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: Oh my god, what's going on? Man? Did she get
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: that stuffy back? You fucking better believe it. I know,
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: but I'm trying to teach her that. Like now I'm
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: doing this thing where if I do something to her,
• 22:52
  Speaker 1: I'm like, you got to get over it. You got
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: to get over it. I'm not giving it back to you.
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: And then after like five minutes, I'm like, here's the fun. No,
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: you won't give up.
• 23:03
  Speaker 3: And then it kind of shops her identical to her,
• 23:06
  Speaker 3: but you do that. She's I don't know, man, this kid,
• 23:11
  Speaker 3: she's real. All I want to say at.
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: The end of this bonus is to my parents, good
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: luck out there. I'm sorry you have to endure survival
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: of the fittest put him on you.
• 23:36
  Speaker 2: Back to the point I think I like where I
• 23:40
  Speaker 2: agree with him with who Cannon Cannon Jesus Christ. Oh yeah,
• 23:46
  Speaker 2: the whole reason why we're talking about this, I do.
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: Too, because you control the boy more, and I think
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: that if you have the conversation with the daughter though,
• 23:55
  Speaker 1: if you're like, here's the deal you, this is why
• 23:59
  Speaker 1: I don't want you to date. Let me explain. Do
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: you still feel the need? Do you still like somebody?
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: Do you like him enough that you would feel comfortable
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: with me meeting him, because that's the way I would
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: feel comfortable. How do we come together and be a
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: team to make sure this guy is not going to
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: like mess around on my watch. I'm your dad, I'm
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: your protector. I know how how dudes think, so I'm
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: going to protect you. D yeph Okay, See, I think
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: there's more. I think there's more of a gray to it.
• 24:26
  Speaker 1: Not so he can date, you can't.
• 24:28
  Speaker 2: I think a conversation I guarantee that to be a
• 24:30
  Speaker 2: scary out of context.
• 24:31
  Speaker 1: I guarantee you sat down and.
• 24:32
  Speaker 2: Said I know shitty dudes, and this is why you're
• 24:35
  Speaker 2: not dating. You're the shitty dude that I can actually
• 24:38
  Speaker 2: control and make decent.
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: But what does he say to his daughter that dudes
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: are shitty? And I really can't control other dudes.
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: So right now I'm in protecting mode, and you're not
• 24:47
  Speaker 2: dating dudes because they're shitty and I can't control those.
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: She's just a date behind his back. Well, she's just
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: going to get a boyfriend behind his back. But you
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: don't know that.
• 24:54
  Speaker 2: Maybe now has done it to the point where he's like,
• 24:56
  Speaker 2: you know what, Maybe she has talked to a couple
• 24:58
  Speaker 2: of people and he's like, these are my you don't date.
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: I don't want you dating now. Okay, I don't know.
• 25:02
  Speaker 2: We don't know the full story. And he's got like
• 25:05
  Speaker 2: we'll say, and he is a great father from what
• 25:09
  Speaker 2: I've seen. Yeah, we don't know him, but I'm gonna
• 25:11
  Speaker 2: say if he is as hands on as everybody the
• 25:15
  Speaker 2: internet babies, I guarantee his daughter has a good relationship with.
• 25:20
  Speaker 1: Him as Mariah Carey's kids.
• 25:21
  Speaker 2: Yeah, And I guarantee Mariah Carey is probably in that
• 25:24
  Speaker 2: bitch saying no, I fucking know guys, do you know?
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: And then yes, like I dated your dad, yeah, and
• 25:31
  Speaker 1: that's what we're gonna not have you do.
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: And then your son, you're not going to be your dad,
• 25:36
  Speaker 2: So that's what we're not going to have you doing things?
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: Just got hell is sticky? Now I'm relating on a
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: whole different level. No, my mind is wandering.
• 25:43
  Speaker 2: Oh no, oh no, she doesn't have control over it
• 25:47
  Speaker 2: my mind.
• 25:47
  Speaker 1: Yeah today I do. Baby, we're back. I don't really. Oh,
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: we are so weird.
• 25:53
  Speaker 2: It's been You've been in like a lazy river where
• 25:55
  Speaker 2: they're just bouncing off walls, getting stuck at points.
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: I was disoriented. Can we just let it go now?
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: I want to move on. Oh I've lived in this
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: for two weeks. Same and now I'm over it. And
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: if I'm over it, We're all over it. Like I
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: don't Honestly, I don't even give one shit about it anymore.
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: That's how good I feel today. I went from giving
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: all the fucks in the world to like, Wow, I
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: woke up with not as feeling inside, not existing. I
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: don't even know what you're talking about anyway, Love you guys.
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: Hope you enjoyed this bonus episode. I'll catch you guys
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: again on Wednesday for regular old episode. Remember an Unlikely
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: Affair with Myself and Amber Childers airs every Thursday night
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: at nine pm. Uh it drops wherever you get your
• 26:39
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• 26:41
  Speaker 1: bah bah