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I don’t care about anything—what’s going on? · Wellbeing Solutions - Ask A Counsellor

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  SPEAKER_00: If you've been sitting staring at a screen or a wall, feeling completely hollow and thinking, honestly, I just don't care about anything anymore, I want you to pause, drop your shoulders and hear this.
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  SPEAKER_00: It doesn't mean there's something wrong with you or you're broken.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's just you're feeling empty.
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  SPEAKER_00: When that total apathy here, our first instinct is to usually panic.
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  SPEAKER_00: We think something is deeply wrong with us, or that suddenly we've turned into this lazy, unbothered person.
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  SPEAKER_00: But most of the time it's actually just your nervous system slamming on the emergency brakes.
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  SPEAKER_00: Think about it like an engine that's been running for way too long and is now overheating and it's gone so long without any maintenance.
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  SPEAKER_00: Eventually, it just doesn't work.
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  SPEAKER_00: It shuts itself off to keep it from completely catching fire.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's what this numbness is.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not the opposite of passion, it's emotional exhaustion.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you've been dealing with high stress, constant demands or emotional weight without enough time to actually recover, your brain stops sending energy to your goals, your spark and your feelings.
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  SPEAKER_00: It isn't a failure of your character, it's a biological circuit breaker tripping because there's simply nothing left to give.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you were wondering how you got here, look at what's been happening underneath the surface.
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  SPEAKER_00: You've either cared too much for too long, most of the people who hit this wall are the ones who have been carrying everyone else, holding things together or managing heavy internal worlds for months without a break.
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  SPEAKER_00: You didn't stop caring because you lost your heart, you stopped feeling because your nervous system just couldn't take any more input.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or you're having the freeze response.
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  SPEAKER_00: When our brains realize we can't fight or outrun what's draining us, we drop into a freeze state.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's an involuntary protective reflex that numb your emotional output so you don't have to feel the crushing weight of everything that's on your plate all at once.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or you may be feeling the invisible load.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes it's the constant friction of everyday life, juggling work, managing sensory or cognitive overload, or just trying to function in a world that's asking way too much of you.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you're sitting in that heavy grey fog right now, here is your permission to slip.
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  SPEAKER_00: Stop trying to force yourself out of it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Trying to muscle your way through burnout or shaming yourself for not caring only drains the tiny bit of energy that you have left.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead, try lowering the bar completely.
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  SPEAKER_00: The first thing to do is drop expectations.
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  SPEAKER_00: Give up on fixing everything today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Acknowledge what's actually happening.
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  SPEAKER_00: My nervous system is exhausted and it's just trying to protect me right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: Two, turn down the noise.
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  SPEAKER_00: Step away from nonessential decisions, close the extra tabs in your brain and reduce the sensory clutter around you.
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  SPEAKER_00: 3.
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  SPEAKER_00: Go back to zero.
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  SPEAKER_00: Forget about passion or motivation.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just focus on the absolute basics.
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  SPEAKER_00: Drinking a glass of water, wrapping up in something warm, or letting your body actually rest without guilt.
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  SPEAKER_00: The thing is, the people and the dreams you care about haven't vanished.
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  SPEAKER_00: They are just waiting safely on the other side of your recovery.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't have to force the spark back on today, just give yourself permission to power on and rest.