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Season 4 - Episode 131 - Happy Mother’s Day! · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermindset coach, creative strategist, and also happened to
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  be a farmer. This is my chicken coop and I
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  come out here every day to record a podcast to teach
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  distinctions, possibilities, new ways of thinking, and just bring
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  some joy into the world. So welcome to the coop and let's
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  start your day off in a fantastic way.
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  Hey everybody, happy Mother's Day.
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  Today we are talking about the fact that you may hear some
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  Thunder off in the background. Just in case you're hearing
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  something. We have a rock and storm going
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  on. It's raining and it is wonderful
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  because we need the rain. However, you might hear loud
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  Thunder in the background. In any event, talking about
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  Mother's Day now, however you celebrate Mother's Day, whoever
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  you are, this is one of those times where I always sit and
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  pause and I think to myself how much I personally feel that I do
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  and it goes unnoticed. And now I'm going to speak
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  personally for myself because I think it's important to not
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  project in this situation. But I, I think I could say
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  fairly safely that I might be hitting some nerves with
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  everybody else as well as a, as a mom of two, one who's out of
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  the house and now a mom herself and one who's a teenager and
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  someone who's, you know, married, but still the person
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  who handles the house. I'm air quoting as I say that
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  there are endless numbers of things that I feel like I do
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  that go unnoticed and I have to question myself sometimes when I
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  say OK, I have to do something and I feel a certain way about
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  it and I get myself worked up about the fact that I don't
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  think anybody notices and I feel hurt by that.
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  I want people to notice what I'm doing.
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  I am a self-proclaimed Gold Star girl.
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  I want the gold stars. I want people to say, hey, thank
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  you, hey, great job. It doesn't matter where it comes
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  from in the world. I just like it because I grew up
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  that way. I grew up having that be the
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  case. So I was told when I did
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  something really great, my dad and mostly my dad, my mom would
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  say it every so often, but my dad was heavily into that, that
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  reward based strategy. So I would constantly have it
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  and it, it was wired into me. So what happens when you move
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  forward and you have your own world and you have your own life
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  with your own things and your own people, and you're not
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  getting that? Or maybe you weren't even raised
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  that way and you never had that, but you still want it.
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  What do you do? Because you know, how many
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  things do you go about your day and do and no one even sees it
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  because it's just so automatic for you?
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  Like, I think my animals, my dogs would be dead if it wasn't
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  for me because no one would pay attention that they hadn't eaten
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  or that they didn't have water in their bowl, among many, many
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  other things. I can tell you it is very, and
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  that's a small fraction of it. All the plants in the house
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  definitely would be dead. I know that no one would think
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  to water them. My list when I go away are on 11
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  by 17 sheets of paper and they're so big to take care of
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  all the little things. I'm not even sure laundry would
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  be done the right way because I don't know that anyone actually,
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  you know, take would take the time to sort it.
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  So here's my point. What do you do?
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  What do you do when you feel that way?
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  What do you do when you know nobody is celebrating that?
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  Well, you can be upset, and many of us do, and I've done that
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  before. I want people to, you know, say
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  thank you. I want people to acknowledge the
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  effort I'm putting in. But when they don't, what do we
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  do? And this is something I had to
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  learn and thought it would be the perfect day to share it on
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  Mother's Day. So The thing is you've got to
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  regularly celebrate yourself, but you don't have to do it in a
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  way that's you know, you can do it in a profound way.
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  You can go ahead and say I'm going to take myself on a date
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  day. And that is an outstanding thing
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  to do for yourself. I did one for myself this past
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  Friday. I took myself out.
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  I went to a date, I got a massage.
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  I was very excited about doing that.
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  Now, the massage was not so great, but that was the person
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  who was doing it. Whatever, doesn't matter.
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  I still did it and I was extremely happy I did it and it
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  felt great. But I'm talking about throughout
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  the day, giving yourself those little gold stars, literally
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  giving yourself gold stars if you have to.
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  For many years, I used to put gold stars right into my log of
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  the things that I accomplished for the day.
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  And I would put gold stars on it, and they made me feel great
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  whenever I did it. So you may want to consider
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  doing that. I'd stop doing that when I
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  stopped having those big books that I would put it in.
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  And now I just sit there and say, OK, I pause and I tell
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  myself thank you. I actually say the word thank
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  you to myself, which I found had a profound effect.
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  And I would pretend even still, like, you're out gardening and
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  I'm talking to the plant. And I'm like telling the plant
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  that I'm so excited for it. And then I'm like, oh, so you're
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  welcome. And I say you're welcome
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  pretending the plant said thank you to me because I can feel
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  that anything I choose to with my imagination.
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  Now, this may sound crazy, but I'm telling you it works.
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  So know that today this person, the person that I am, is sending
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  you all a huge thank you for being here and for all that you
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  do and all that you bring into this world.
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  Because I know somewhere if you're listening to this, you're
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  adding good energy into this planet.
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  So thank you. Thank you for caring for
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  something, thank you for loving something, and thank you for all
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  that you do and thank you for being here with me.
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  I hope you all have a blessed day and I'll see you all
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  tomorrow. Bye.