Latest / We Talk Back / For The Love Of Tambam
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- 0:00Speaker 1: Hoping and we talk back where we encourage you to
- 0:02Speaker 1: hustle hard, laugh, ladder, and always keep it cute. So
- 0:05Speaker 1: grab your coffee, cocktail and crown because it's about to
- 0:09Speaker 1: go down. Talk talk.
- 0:13Speaker 2: We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion to
- 0:17Speaker 2: talk back.
- 0:21Speaker 1: Hey, y'all, is your girl a J holiday? What's up? Team?
- 0:24Speaker 3: Damn?
- 0:25Speaker 2: Hey y'all, I love y'all. I love you too. AJ.
- 0:28Speaker 2: This is love week, This is Valentine's Day.
- 0:33Speaker 1: Love y'all. We had a really really lit show this week.
- 0:38Speaker 3: Anyway, I might fuck around and get me so dick
- 0:44Speaker 3: in five twenty four was real slow.
- 0:50Speaker 1: How was the weekend? Did you watch the super Ball?
- 0:54Speaker 2: I did? I had so much fun watching it. I
- 0:56Speaker 2: watched it by myself. But let me tell you what
- 0:58Speaker 2: I did. One of your favorite people from the Breakfast
- 1:02Speaker 2: club came by here and was like, oh, I got edibles.
- 1:07Speaker 2: You can take one. It just makes you calm, It
- 1:09Speaker 2: just mellows you out. I was like, girl, I don't
- 1:11Speaker 2: like edibles because you just never on high. You just
- 1:15Speaker 2: hide too long. She was like, girl, this ain't gonna
- 1:17Speaker 2: do that. I took that, but if you could not
- 1:22Speaker 2: tell me, I was not on the field with kitchen lamar.
- 1:27Speaker 1: The thing with edibles is that you just don't know
- 1:29Speaker 1: what the real dosage is, Like you really don't know
- 1:31Speaker 1: how much whatever whatever it is, if it's a shroom,
- 1:34Speaker 1: some shrooms or teach see, like, you don't know how
- 1:37Speaker 1: much is in a fucking like how much do I
- 1:39Speaker 1: take of this? The whole one half of it a piece?
- 1:43Speaker 1: So you gotta micro everything, girl.
- 1:45Speaker 2: I was it was coming in waves, and you know
- 1:48Speaker 2: how I forgot. I took it and I was in
- 1:50Speaker 2: here and it was just like halftime was about to start,
- 1:52Speaker 2: and I was like, what is that up right now?
- 2:01Speaker 2: And I did not fall asleep till like four in
- 2:03Speaker 2: the morning. I was up all night. I called every
- 2:06Speaker 2: nigga I ever knew in life my FaceTime, all of
- 2:08Speaker 2: what you're doing, bitch, I'm watching the Super Bowl?
- 2:11Speaker 1: What are you doing on the phone calling people?
- 2:16Speaker 2: I was like, it's boring, it's boring, you're losing. What
- 2:19Speaker 2: are you watching for? Still like talk to me, stupid.
- 2:26Speaker 1: We actually went to a Super Bowl party my my
- 2:30Speaker 1: guy and one of his childhood friends had like a
- 2:32Speaker 1: really nice setup outside crab legs oysters. I did bring
- 2:37Speaker 1: a plate. Also, these little low appetizer little things I'd
- 2:42Speaker 1: be making out of King Hawaiian rolls. But it was good.
- 2:45Speaker 1: It's a hit, yes, and she was lit. So now
- 2:49Speaker 1: y'all know my ravens did not go to the Super Bowl, Okay,
- 2:52Speaker 1: but I definitely was rooting for the Eagles, and I
- 2:55Speaker 1: kind of already knew they was going to win. Something
- 2:58Speaker 1: about the ego and the mayor and the place we're
- 3:01Speaker 1: at right now, you know what I'm saying. I just
- 3:02Speaker 1: knew because all this shit is scripted as far as
- 3:06Speaker 1: I'm concerned, especially sports. I don't know if the script
- 3:10Speaker 1: had in it for Patrick Mahomes to lose this fucking
- 3:14Speaker 1: bad but I kind of expected it nonetheless. But it
- 3:18Speaker 1: was lit. Man. I did have a shroom me yesterday
- 3:21Speaker 1: as well. I had alcohol. I was actually doing too
- 3:25Speaker 1: fucking much yesterday and I could not go to sleep
- 3:28Speaker 1: last night. I woke this nigga up like hey, like
- 3:30Speaker 1: a baby, like I can't go to sleep. That wasn't
- 3:34Speaker 1: the best, so antsy like a crackheabitch from yes, because
- 3:39Speaker 1: I guess because I took it too. Usually when I
- 3:41Speaker 1: take shrooms, it's either like really early or like in
- 3:44Speaker 1: the evening, like where I still have time to like
- 3:47Speaker 1: settle down. But I don't know why I was feeling
- 3:50Speaker 1: so anxious, and then I I don't know. I don't
- 3:53Speaker 1: even know what type of Shuman was, just pop and
- 3:55Speaker 1: shit because people got it. That's what you shouldn't do.
- 3:57Speaker 1: Somebody shouldn't be able to just put anything on your.
- 4:00Speaker 4: You know what.
- 4:01Speaker 2: We both did that last night. Because I don't take edibles.
- 4:04Speaker 2: I just was like, oh, I'll take it. I'm in
- 4:06Speaker 2: here by myself. I'm chilling watching the super Bowl. And
- 4:09Speaker 2: I was going to go to a party, but I'm
- 4:11Speaker 2: glad I didn't because I would have been paranoid.
- 4:15Speaker 1: Out there, tripping out and.
- 4:16Speaker 2: It's it's now here, right exactly, tripping out looking stupid.
- 4:23Speaker 2: It's no here, and I'm not a snow girl. I
- 4:26Speaker 2: realized I'm not built for me, So like when it
- 4:31Speaker 2: was time to go out, because I agreed to go
- 4:33Speaker 2: to a party, and then once it got time to go,
- 4:35Speaker 2: I was like, I'm gonna order me a little small
- 4:37Speaker 2: pizza to come here and be okay with that. But
- 4:41Speaker 2: I did enjoy the suit. I mean, we knew that
- 4:44Speaker 2: Philly was going. You could feel it. You could feel
- 4:47Speaker 2: it before it came that they they had the momentum,
- 4:50Speaker 2: they had the energy for it, you know, and I'm
- 4:52Speaker 2: happy for them, you know so, But it was not
- 4:57Speaker 2: a good game, you know.
- 4:58Speaker 1: Like it was.
- 4:59Speaker 2: Typically super Bowl is a formidable opponent. It's good to
- 5:02Speaker 2: the end and they scratch tooth and nail, fight tooth
- 5:05Speaker 2: and nail to win at the end. But this was like,
- 5:09Speaker 2: y'all at least put some points on the board. So
- 5:11Speaker 2: y'all not blown out completely. Don't embarrass your coach at
- 5:15Speaker 2: this point, you know so, But yeah, Kendricks, I love
- 5:20Speaker 2: kendricks performance. I thought it was good. I enjoyed myself,
- 5:24Speaker 2: but I was on drugs, so I don't know if
- 5:26Speaker 2: it was that or if it was really that good.
- 5:28Speaker 2: But I really had a great time. It was very black.
- 5:32Speaker 2: It wasn't a it was just a black. It was
- 5:36Speaker 2: a apparently it was a d I halftime show. Y'all
- 5:42Speaker 2: out exactly well, very very very I.
- 5:50Speaker 1: Yeah, litten. So I don't know what's gonna happen with
- 5:57Speaker 1: Wish your boy Tom Brady, because Tom Brady actually called it.
- 6:00Speaker 1: I think I think that he was on this what
- 6:05Speaker 1: is he? Where does he host? Tom Brady is on
- 6:07Speaker 1: one of the like the sports commentary shows, and he
- 6:10Speaker 1: was saying basically, how basically the referees we have been
- 6:14Speaker 1: winning the games for the Chiefs for a long time,
- 6:18Speaker 1: like calling fucked up plays on the other team and
- 6:21Speaker 1: stuff like that. So we didn't see that last night.
- 6:24Speaker 1: They had a lot of things called on on the Chiefs.
- 6:26Speaker 1: So I don't know if somebody pulled a rug somewhere.
- 6:28Speaker 1: And this is coming from a cheater, okay, because we
- 6:30Speaker 1: know that Tom Brady was flattening footballs and all types
- 6:33Speaker 1: of shit. Yeah, he had going on. So even if.
- 6:39Speaker 2: The refs, what did the cheat y'all got to catch
- 6:41Speaker 2: the ball or what mother God may help us out,
- 6:47Speaker 2: help the ref at all.
- 6:50Speaker 1: So let's just get in the stupid internet.
- 6:53Speaker 2: Did you see the guy who ran out on the field.
- 6:56Speaker 2: He had a gaza, he he ran more yards.
- 7:01Speaker 5: Than the cheap.
- 7:03Speaker 2: Right.
- 7:05Speaker 1: I didn't see it during the show, but I saw
- 7:07Speaker 1: like the after like people posting about it. Right, Yeah,
- 7:11Speaker 1: I feel like that's something Kendrick Lamar probably actually orchestrated
- 7:15Speaker 1: the part of the show. Yeah, I feel like it,
- 7:17Speaker 1: because I mean, I don't think people are publicly standing
- 7:20Speaker 1: with Palestine enough. A lot of people are scared to
- 7:23Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, because it's like, Israel is
- 7:24Speaker 1: our daddy as far as concern shit, ley'all, don't come
- 7:28Speaker 1: for us. I know Riverside is owned by your niggas,
- 7:30Speaker 1: but please don't come for us. But I am always
- 7:34Speaker 1: gonna be against the annihilation of any people like we
- 7:37Speaker 1: experienced that as black people in America.
- 7:40Speaker 2: Did you see in the audience? Uh it lit up
- 7:43Speaker 2: and said warning wrong wrong way. No, it was a flat.
- 7:47Speaker 2: It happened real fast, if you want.
- 7:49Speaker 1: I saw the game over at the end.
- 7:51Speaker 2: That's all the same things, the same thing, but it
- 7:53Speaker 2: was during the show it said warning wrong way.
- 7:56Speaker 1: Interesting, I'm gonna have to there's a.
- 7:59Speaker 2: Lot of subliminal and I usually.
- 8:01Speaker 1: Watch for that. You know, I was on the shroom,
- 8:03Speaker 1: so my head was down half the time. I was
- 8:05Speaker 1: missing little pieces of stuff and I usually.
- 8:07Speaker 2: Don't watch for that, but I was unedible. So he
- 8:13Speaker 2: was zooming in right goodness? Is that our first then?
- 8:19Speaker 1: Yeah, that's why I was like, let's get into super
- 8:21Speaker 1: internite news so we could talk about Kendrick go Mar's performance,
- 8:24Speaker 1: which was not stupid internet news. But you know, it's
- 8:27Speaker 1: a segment where we talk about the happenings around the world,
- 8:30Speaker 1: so I personally give my own take. I did enjoy
- 8:35Speaker 1: the performance. I do wish I heard some more of
- 8:37Speaker 1: the other popular songs, what I mean, But he has
- 8:39Speaker 1: newer album, has a newer album now, so you don't
- 8:42Speaker 1: want to give that a little bit more exposure. And
- 8:44Speaker 1: people are saying like, oh, he shouldn't have given so
- 8:46Speaker 1: much like energy to the whole Drake shit. But the
- 8:51Speaker 1: song they not like Us means to me write more
- 8:55Speaker 1: than a Drake beef I'm saying. I feel like it
- 9:00Speaker 1: speaks to a lot more, just like you know, for
- 9:03Speaker 1: Black Americans period. You know what I'm saying. These people
- 9:06Speaker 1: ain't like us, but they be borron from our culture
- 9:08Speaker 1: all the time. Right, But when it actually comes time
- 9:11Speaker 1: for y'all to stand up for black people, y'all be
- 9:14Speaker 1: mia right.
- 9:16Speaker 2: It's you know what, Listen. I still love Drake. I
- 9:20Speaker 2: don't care what nobody say. I still love Drake. I
- 9:22Speaker 2: don't turn my back on people I love just because
- 9:24Speaker 2: the world don't fuck with him like that. No more.
- 9:27Speaker 2: I still love Drake. I feel so bad for him.
- 9:30Speaker 2: I feel so I mean, I understand, you know, he
- 9:33Speaker 2: brought a lot of this on himself, and I get that,
- 9:36Speaker 2: so I can't, like, I can't say Drake is absolutely
- 9:40Speaker 2: right and everybody else is wrong. You know, No, I
- 9:42Speaker 2: can't sit here and say that I don't understand how
- 9:45Speaker 2: this came about, you know, I do.
- 9:47Speaker 1: It's definitely some back off of shit we don't know, right,
- 9:50Speaker 1: some grimy shit he had to have been doing to
- 9:53Speaker 1: a lot of people.
- 9:54Speaker 2: Right, because Carla, is you getting my nigga? But Drake
- 10:01Speaker 2: so slim now, he looked like he'd been taking those zimpics.
- 10:03Speaker 2: He's so slim and like he on his Australian tour,
- 10:07Speaker 2: And I just I felt really bad because I just
- 10:09Speaker 2: try to put myself in people's shoes all the time
- 10:14Speaker 2: before I condemn them. And I try to imagine. Could
- 10:17Speaker 2: you imagine the super Bowl, the.
- 10:22Speaker 1: Most televised.
- 10:24Speaker 2: In the United States, Yes, and it's a dis song
- 10:29Speaker 2: for AJ.
- 10:31Speaker 1: Like our a.
- 10:32Speaker 2: Tam TAM's fat, No TAM's fan no case. Everybody's singing that.
- 10:37Speaker 2: Oh my god, I don't know how I would be
- 10:40Speaker 2: able to. You got to be a strong individual to
- 10:43Speaker 2: like it's.
- 10:44Speaker 1: A lot of That's why I don't even like big
- 10:46Speaker 1: events like that anyway, Like to actually be in attendance
- 10:48Speaker 1: because it's the energy of the people that's making shit happen.
- 10:51Speaker 1: Everybody's saying this thing. So he really like he used
- 10:55Speaker 1: the energy to people to demolish that Nigga's career for sure. Man,
- 11:02Speaker 1: I just he.
- 11:04Speaker 2: Was the most stream person in twenty twenty five so far.
- 11:06Speaker 2: You know, he gave us fifteen summers of good music.
- 11:09Speaker 2: You can't deny what he has done for hip hop.
- 11:13Speaker 2: You know in the culture, everybody loved drinking Toil last year.
- 11:17Speaker 1: You know, I introduced Drake to a whole office of
- 11:20Speaker 1: people for sure when he first came out, Like I
- 11:23Speaker 1: was bumping Drake that his mixtape. Yeah, like I know,
- 11:27Speaker 1: I put a lot of people on the Drake. So
- 11:29Speaker 1: I've been listening to Drake for a long time. But
- 11:31Speaker 1: I also have always known and said, what Tammy, He's a.
- 11:35Speaker 2: White man that infiltrated hip hop.
- 11:37Speaker 1: That's who Drake is. He studied hip hop like a
- 11:40Speaker 1: college course. You know what I'm saying, And this is
- 11:42Speaker 1: what I'm This is why I feel like they not
- 11:45Speaker 1: like us is bigger than the Kendrick Lamar and Drake
- 11:48Speaker 1: beef because these people come in and they study us
- 11:52Speaker 1: and even like black women, like why we can't make uh,
- 11:56Speaker 1: I mean some people do like sexy Red and all
- 11:59Speaker 1: of them like that is a type of black women,
- 12:01Speaker 1: right that exists. Right, all of us can't really make
- 12:05Speaker 1: money being who we are a lot of the times.
- 12:07Speaker 1: But somebody else can come in and costplay like you
- 12:09Speaker 1: sent me that video with and I saw that. I
- 12:12Speaker 1: always wondered, like what the fuck it, Gazella, just don't
- 12:15Speaker 1: wrap an Australian accent, like why are you cosplaying a
- 12:17Speaker 1: black woman? But they get to do it, and they
- 12:20Speaker 1: get to places that black people can't get to just
- 12:23Speaker 1: being themselves.
- 12:25Speaker 2: Sometimes I be feeling like uh, and y'all might get
- 12:28Speaker 2: mad at me for saying this, but remember I love y'all.
- 12:30Speaker 2: Don't beat me up to.
- 12:31Speaker 1: Remember I don't give a fuck. Go ahead, Tom.
- 12:37Speaker 2: I Sometimes I feel like white gay men cosplay black.
- 12:40Speaker 1: Women all the time the same way the black men do.
- 12:44Speaker 1: You know? You know what I'm saying, Like I feel
- 12:46Speaker 1: like they.
- 12:47Speaker 2: Know what I mean, a black man that identifies as
- 12:50Speaker 2: a woman.
- 12:52Speaker 1: They all borrow from black women. Like nobody's trying to
- 12:56Speaker 1: act like the white girl, even the Asian gay guys.
- 12:59Speaker 1: It's like we are the black female, Yes, listen, we
- 13:04Speaker 1: all to gods on earth, and I'm gonna keep saying that,
- 13:06Speaker 1: like we are the prototype. That's why we we have
- 13:10Speaker 1: to take responsibility a lot of times in our community.
- 13:13Speaker 1: We gotta be the ones to fix things. That's why
- 13:15Speaker 1: we get blamed when things go wrong. Who people blame? Well,
- 13:18Speaker 1: would God let this? Yes, we are the gods on earth,
- 13:21Speaker 1: so we got to fix all the things. It's just
- 13:23Speaker 1: it is what it is, y'all. Y'all want the responsibility,
- 13:25Speaker 1: and not because black women really never had a choice
- 13:29Speaker 1: but to be her.
- 13:30Speaker 2: Well, we need to fix. We got to start with
- 13:32Speaker 2: fixing ourselves and that start with taking them little skirts
- 13:35Speaker 2: with y'all ass hand.
- 13:39Speaker 1: Why I mean, I guess maybe we put too much
- 13:41Speaker 1: emphasis on that in American culture, But I mean someplace
- 13:44Speaker 1: else it might be okay for your ass to be
- 13:46Speaker 1: hanging out, Like I mean, we we wore things like
- 13:49Speaker 1: that at some point, right. We didn't always, we weren't
- 13:52Speaker 1: always covered up. We worshiped to just tell it Akuchi.
- 13:56Speaker 1: People still do that in other cultures in Africa. Like
- 13:59Speaker 1: we were putting too much emphasis on it.
- 14:02Speaker 2: Okay, I'm tired of seeing it.
- 14:04Speaker 1: That's just the culture.
- 14:05Speaker 2: I just said it three episodes in the row.
- 14:09Speaker 1: What you go going on? Okay, so did you know
- 14:11Speaker 1: what you.
- 14:12Speaker 2: We got to talk about Serena out there cript walk
- 14:16Speaker 2: she ever did, because we know we've been watching her
- 14:18Speaker 2: cript walk for many years and it's never been this student, but.
- 14:21Speaker 1: It always looked, you know, so much, so I didn't
- 14:24Speaker 1: realize it was her initially.
- 14:25Speaker 2: She hit that last night that had some hey, that
- 14:29Speaker 2: step was back by some get back.
- 14:31Speaker 1: Yes, absolutely absolutely listen.
- 14:36Speaker 2: Sizza and Serena used to fuck with Drake like there
- 14:40Speaker 2: was so many he had on the necklace with the
- 14:42Speaker 2: little A minor on it, like and it was so icy.
- 14:45Speaker 2: It was so icy.
- 14:47Speaker 3: I was like, oh, I did get Drake, I feel
- 14:50Speaker 3: And the way Kendrick looked Kendrick is such a fucking
- 14:54Speaker 3: camera yes byeball like I'm talking to you, nigga, Yeah
- 14:59Speaker 3: you Drake Aubrey, I'm talking to you, smiling like yeah.
- 15:03Speaker 2: And I know he kind of like, damn, how long
- 15:05Speaker 2: we go keep talking about me?
- 15:07Speaker 1: He wanted to be over.
- 15:09Speaker 2: Yeah, he ready to you want damn move on? I
- 15:12Speaker 2: know he glad the super Bowl is gone. I feel
- 15:14Speaker 2: like you feel like that is the culmination of everything.
- 15:17Speaker 2: And now he can. Drake needs to get back to
- 15:20Speaker 2: making songs like God's what's it called what God's Love? No,
- 15:29Speaker 2: God's God did the one, the one he was talking about,
- 15:37Speaker 2: you know in the video he was giving up back
- 15:40Speaker 2: and gave all those people free stuff, families and all
- 15:42Speaker 2: that stuff.
- 15:43Speaker 1: I didn't see that.
- 15:44Speaker 2: You know that song. I can't think of it right now.
- 15:49Speaker 2: Songs like Marvin's Room, songs like that make for women, right.
- 15:55Speaker 1: Yeah, because when Kidrick said that I don't like tough,
- 15:58Speaker 1: Drake like's song that niggas wave our hands and dance
- 16:02Speaker 1: like to that.
- 16:04Speaker 2: That's what we wanted. Yeah, and that's where we got lost.
- 16:09Speaker 2: That's where we got lost.
- 16:10Speaker 1: Yeah, because he gained too much power. Like I I've
- 16:13Speaker 1: heard that artists can't even come out of Toronto unless
- 16:16Speaker 1: they go through Drake. And you kind of see that
- 16:18Speaker 1: what people the Weekend got from up under him. Tory
- 16:22Speaker 1: Lanez had to circumvent that nigga and blew up without him,
- 16:25Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. But they beefed for a while.
- 16:28Speaker 1: Whatever happened to the dude is going up on a
- 16:30Speaker 1: Tuesday where he at you know, Yeah, so Drake is
- 16:36Speaker 1: on some mob ship because I'm reading this book right now.
- 16:43Speaker 1: It's basically about power, and it's not like the power
- 16:47Speaker 1: that people it's called the Art of Power. It's not
- 16:51Speaker 1: like the power that money and things bring. Right, It's
- 16:56Speaker 1: like compassion, you know what I'm saying, Like the real power,
- 16:59Speaker 1: where real power comes from love. And I feel like
- 17:03Speaker 1: a lot of times, once you gain so much notoriety,
- 17:05Speaker 1: so much money, like that shit kind of go out
- 17:08Speaker 1: the window and people you really get to see who
- 17:10Speaker 1: people are when they have the money to be that
- 17:13Speaker 1: that villain, you know what I'm saying. So, like I said,
- 17:15Speaker 1: there's some things we may not see in the industry
- 17:18Speaker 1: that Drake is done. We may not know about it.
- 17:20Speaker 1: I think we get little little hints. You know. Look
- 17:23Speaker 1: how he's using the judicial system right now trying to
- 17:27Speaker 1: sue Kendrick. He didn't sue Kendrick directly, but indirectly. You
- 17:32Speaker 1: go around and you suing them people, them.
- 17:34Speaker 2: Folks, that's his white side. That's what that Yeah, that's
- 17:39Speaker 2: how because you know that's how they that's what I'm sorry,
- 17:42Speaker 2: that is the only side.
- 17:43Speaker 1: He knows though, because that's who raised him.
- 17:45Speaker 2: But we should take a page out of that book
- 17:47Speaker 2: and start fistfighting motherfuckers and start taking him the court.
- 17:50Speaker 1: Oh I'm on it. Yeah, yeah, that's my type of time.
- 17:53Speaker 1: But you know, I think I'm a whole attorney without
- 17:56Speaker 1: a degree anyway, So there's that part.
- 17:59Speaker 2: Girl. Did you see le Angelo Ball? Did y'all see
- 18:04Speaker 2: lee Angelo Ball over the weekend with his new girlfriend
- 18:09Speaker 2: parading her around New Orleans after NICKI just dropped the baby,
- 18:15Speaker 2: like the baby two months old and.
- 18:18Speaker 1: They already have another child together, right yeah.
- 18:21Speaker 2: Yeah, And you know this woman was thinking that they
- 18:23Speaker 2: were gonna get married, and now she's decided that he's
- 18:27Speaker 2: done with that family and he's starting, he's going off
- 18:31Speaker 2: to make a new life, and he don't give a fuck.
- 18:33Speaker 2: He parading a new girl around all over New Orleans
- 18:37Speaker 2: and she's just happy because it's her turn. And that
- 18:41Speaker 2: shit hurt my feelings to see.
- 18:43Speaker 1: Yeah, you see, So he has a black girl now,
- 18:45Speaker 1: and the black girl then calls Nicki baby racist because
- 18:48Speaker 1: she uses the N word apparently and she's not black.
- 18:52Speaker 4: Mm hmm.
- 18:55Speaker 1: Yeah, I saw the tweets, I saw the commentary over
- 18:58Speaker 1: the weekend. I just it's just hurt for you know,
- 19:00Speaker 1: it's just your turn, girl, your turn gonna come up.
- 19:02Speaker 1: You gotta be careful how you treat people. That lady
- 19:04Speaker 1: is in a very, very vulnerable state right now. I
- 19:07Speaker 1: saw a clip and I had been meaning to go
- 19:10Speaker 1: watch the full episode. Nikki Baby and lean Angelo Ball.
- 19:17Speaker 1: They were on Jason Lee's podcast or show. Yeah, they
- 19:22Speaker 1: were on Hollywood Unluck, and you know, they were talking
- 19:26Speaker 1: about you know, legacy and building and family and all
- 19:29Speaker 1: that stuff, and it sounds like she's ready to get married.
- 19:31Speaker 1: This girl she has this is her third child now right.
- 19:35Speaker 1: I believe she has one older child from somebody else.
- 19:38Speaker 2: Oh, I don't know, yeah too, because.
- 19:41Speaker 1: I don't remember. I didn't even realize they were together
- 19:43Speaker 1: because I thought she was with somebody else when she
- 19:45Speaker 1: was on the show before.
- 19:49Speaker 2: But how old is that man? He's a young man
- 19:52Speaker 2: and she's thirty four?
- 19:54Speaker 1: Is she only thirty four?
- 19:57Speaker 2: Well that's her stage age.
- 20:00Speaker 1: She I could have sworn she been around for a while.
- 20:04Speaker 1: I feel like she's close to the forty. Yeah, And
- 20:08Speaker 1: he's like, you know, she on a on Hollywood Unlocke.
- 20:11Speaker 1: He was saying shit, like you know, she know what
- 20:13Speaker 1: time it is, Like we talk about it, and he
- 20:15Speaker 1: was like, I want to get married at some point
- 20:17Speaker 1: and she's like in the next two years, and so
- 20:20Speaker 1: we talked about it, and he's he never once said
- 20:23Speaker 1: to her.
- 20:24Speaker 2: I just something about trying to get a young man
- 20:28Speaker 2: to marry you is just he's so young, and he's
- 20:31Speaker 2: very successful. He making music, mature sports and yeah and immature.
- 20:36Speaker 1: You know, so I really can attribute you know, how
- 20:41Speaker 1: he's treating her to his new claim to fame with
- 20:43Speaker 1: the rap song.
- 20:45Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying.
- 20:47Speaker 1: So stupid.
- 20:48Speaker 2: I like that song, man, he said, hena hit the Corner.
- 20:52Speaker 1: It's old, it's dated. It's a new, dated song.
- 20:56Speaker 2: It sounds old, but it don't hit. It don't sound
- 20:59Speaker 2: like it hits.
- 21:01Speaker 1: But it's still not a great song. Right for him
- 21:05Speaker 1: to just now all of a sudden, you just rap star,
- 21:08Speaker 1: and you're treating this girl who probably puts some money
- 21:10Speaker 1: behind because she had all the things.
- 21:13Speaker 2: How many are you in this era? How many rap
- 21:18Speaker 2: stars got songs that are huge that aren't great? Think
- 21:23Speaker 2: about it. A lot of these stars aren't really lyrically.
- 21:27Speaker 1: I don't even know the songs right out here. Don't
- 21:31Speaker 1: listen to that ship.
- 21:33Speaker 2: Yeah, so that don't in our in this society, you
- 21:37Speaker 2: don't really have to have talent in music to make
- 21:40Speaker 2: good what is deemed good music. I agree because that song,
- 21:44Speaker 2: oh baby girl, I love you, you my everything. That
- 21:50Speaker 2: song is not good, but I love this. You know
- 21:57Speaker 2: it's just sad.
- 21:58Speaker 1: Now my favorite shit is get it sex sye. Now
- 22:00Speaker 1: that's affirmations. Girl. You know that ass super fat min
- 22:06Speaker 1: lion Dough, I'm his favorite hole.
- 22:13Speaker 2: I don't know if that's an affirmation. I don't know
- 22:19Speaker 2: when we started calling ourselves whole so freely.
- 22:21Speaker 1: Like that, I know, I mean we would say it
- 22:23Speaker 1: on the phone with our homegirls, but not like to
- 22:25Speaker 1: the world right.
- 22:27Speaker 2: That was just like very proud horse. And I just
- 22:31Speaker 2: didn't see that coming.
- 22:32Speaker 1: From like young Miami. I'm a whore. I respect holes though,
- 22:36Speaker 1: you know, I respect holes. I love the holes. I
- 22:38Speaker 1: respect horse and holes. I respect the women who charging.
- 22:44Speaker 2: I just charging. It was just a slipwalk. We've been
- 22:48Speaker 2: going downhill, That's all I was saying.
- 22:52Speaker 1: All right, y'all, So listen, I saw this post on
- 22:55Speaker 1: social media, y'all, just just bear with me a second. So,
- 23:00Speaker 1: and this probably could have been a dumb bitch story,
- 23:03Speaker 1: but we'll keep it in stupid internet news. But so
- 23:07Speaker 1: I saw this post where this girl. She was trying
- 23:12Speaker 1: to ask, you know, the internets if she was wrong
- 23:15Speaker 1: or not. So she tweeted, she said, so, my mom
- 23:18Speaker 1: is living with my fiance and I for the time being,
- 23:21Speaker 1: and last night she went through his phone to prove
- 23:24Speaker 1: to me that all men cheat and found messages between
- 23:27Speaker 1: him and a woman sending selfies and she put like
- 23:30Speaker 1: the crying emoji. Should I be mad at my mama
- 23:34Speaker 1: forgetting in my business or my fiance? What do you think, Tammy?
- 23:37Speaker 2: Why is it an or situation both? Because why are
- 23:41Speaker 2: you ruining my fantasy? Like if I'm living in La
- 23:45Speaker 2: La Melane, let me be here, like I feel like,
- 23:47Speaker 2: let's shit find me. I don't go like at my age,
- 23:50Speaker 2: I don't go looking for shit. If it's meant for
- 23:52Speaker 2: me to find out, it's gonna come find me. And
- 23:54Speaker 2: then also mad at your fiance because why are you
- 23:57Speaker 2: sharing selfies with this woman? You know?
- 24:00Speaker 1: Yeah? Why did my mom have anything? Even? Fine? Yeah
- 24:03Speaker 1: that part So I am personally more mad at the mom. Okay,
- 24:08Speaker 1: I have questions. I want to know why to fuck
- 24:10Speaker 1: your mama living in a house with you and your
- 24:12Speaker 1: fiance and where's her man right? And why is she
- 24:15Speaker 1: intentionally sabotaging. I feel like this, if I never had
- 24:20Speaker 1: any inkling that my man is doing anything right, I
- 24:23Speaker 1: feel like that's love. That's actually real love where you
- 24:27Speaker 1: don't find shit out ever, you never feel anything to
- 24:31Speaker 1: the point like we get married, like I'm happy, I'm in,
- 24:34Speaker 1: I'm I'm in bliss right now. And hey, you're fucking
- 24:39Speaker 1: raggy ass, lonely ass mom, litter yourehouse and disturbs the peace.
- 24:47Speaker 1: You don't want to see her happy?
- 24:48Speaker 2: Yeah, we know all.
- 24:52Speaker 1: Yeah, I guess she was like trying to prove her
- 24:54Speaker 1: that her man ain't that ain't him. That is not
- 24:57Speaker 1: your job to do it, you know what I'm saying.
- 24:58Speaker 1: I can see if maybe you call him doing if
- 25:01Speaker 1: you saw him doing some shit and that was your
- 25:03Speaker 1: way of exposing him, that still wasn't right. You should
- 25:06Speaker 1: just come and say, hey, I saw him doing such
- 25:08Speaker 1: and such and such. You know, you don't create a
- 25:11Speaker 1: conversation is crazy, like how did how did you get
- 25:14Speaker 1: his phone?
- 25:15Speaker 2: Right?
- 25:16Speaker 1: She might be fucking him right.
- 25:18Speaker 2: You need to go, Mama, You need to go. I
- 25:21Speaker 2: love you, Mama. I'm gonna help you find somewhere to
- 25:23Speaker 2: go with my sister because.
- 25:26Speaker 1: She about to go over there and ruin the sister marriage.
- 25:29Speaker 1: Where is your man? This is why I don't like
- 25:31Speaker 1: mama's This is work.
- 25:33Speaker 2: I don't like mamas mamas.
- 25:39Speaker 1: I only like mamas who are in healthy relationships with
- 25:42Speaker 1: their husbands. Those are the moms I like. Those are
- 25:45Speaker 1: the sisters I like. Don't come over here with that
- 25:47Speaker 1: broken bullshit and ruin in my relationship. You want me
- 25:51Speaker 1: to be just you and me in the house. That's
- 25:53Speaker 1: what you want, right, You know what I'm saying, She
- 25:56Speaker 1: probably was, Imagine imagine your mom being that person looking
- 25:59Speaker 1: at you from the corner you looking at from the
- 26:01Speaker 1: corner of their eyes, like looking at you and your man,
- 26:03Speaker 1: like how can I fuck this up? And it may
- 26:05Speaker 1: not be even like intentional, like in her brain, But
- 26:09Speaker 1: some people are just that nasty, right, Like this is
- 26:13Speaker 1: just their normal setting. This is just the type of
- 26:17Speaker 1: shit they do. I don't like.
- 26:19Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm looking at everybody sideways because mam, why are
- 26:22Speaker 2: you You don't enjoy seeing me this happy? You need
- 26:26Speaker 2: me to be crushed for whatever reason.
- 26:27Speaker 1: Yeah, I could never do that to her.
- 26:29Speaker 2: Mom is proud. I just want you to give you
- 26:31Speaker 2: some perspective on reality. No, I cannot mean to do
- 26:35Speaker 2: it to be hurtful or harmful. She just was trying
- 26:38Speaker 2: to see the bitter truth that does exist sometimes, but
- 26:42Speaker 2: that ain't your.
- 26:43Speaker 1: Place, right and where they smashing or just frightenizing, you know,
- 26:46Speaker 1: because I don't feel like if I see this nigga fratnizing,
- 26:51Speaker 1: I'm not gonna say fratenizing. It's just not okay in
- 26:55Speaker 1: my relationship. I'm going I'm not gonna go that far
- 26:57Speaker 1: and say like he can't talk to nobody and he can't. No,
- 27:00Speaker 1: I'm not doing that.
- 27:02Speaker 2: I don't listen. I'm never going through your phone. Yes,
- 27:05Speaker 2: I don't have the time or the energy or the
- 27:07Speaker 2: bandwidth for whatever is in there. That's your business, and
- 27:10Speaker 2: I want the same respect. Yes, don't go through my ship.
- 27:13Speaker 2: Go through your ship. You know that's it.
- 27:16Speaker 1: Yeah, So what.
- 27:17Speaker 2: I'm supposed to I will never do to me knowing
- 27:19Speaker 2: about something in your phone. I will never fucking up.
- 27:22Speaker 1: I enable niggas to be on some bullshit because I'm
- 27:25Speaker 1: not doing it. First of all, I'm not ruining my Monday,
- 27:28Speaker 1: I'm not ruining my weekend. I'm not fucking my day
- 27:30Speaker 1: up by going through your phone. When I go through
- 27:33Speaker 1: a nigga phone, my ship is packed, I'm leaving you.
- 27:36Speaker 1: I'm actually looking for a good reason to get the
- 27:39Speaker 1: fuck out of there. I have I have, I want
- 27:44Speaker 1: to say.
- 27:44Speaker 2: I do, I don't, I ain't doing it. Then once
- 27:46Speaker 2: I'm ready to go, I don't need a reason. I'm
- 27:48Speaker 2: just out, you know, Like, once I'm in that space,
- 27:51Speaker 2: I don't need to give you no valid like, oh
- 27:53Speaker 2: I found this in your phone.
- 27:54Speaker 1: It's extra little push.
- 27:55Speaker 2: That's whatever it was. Already was enough concerned. I'm already
- 28:01Speaker 2: packed my ship. So I want to I only and
- 28:06Speaker 2: I only can say that because of experience. I have
- 28:10Speaker 2: ruined my own day. I have ruined my own week
- 28:14Speaker 2: by being nosy. Mind your business. Mind the business that
- 28:18Speaker 2: pays you, and your business is your peace and your happiness.
- 28:21Speaker 2: Don't go looking for ship.
- 28:22Speaker 1: And if the business is paying bills, definitely mind your
- 28:25Speaker 1: fucking business. Girl inside, bitch, get this nigga through the moments. Okay.
- 28:32Speaker 1: You need him to be satisfied to write them checks,
- 28:36Speaker 1: you know, especially if it's responsible. Man, he got you
- 28:38Speaker 1: on auto draft. Bitch, you want all the draft niggas up, No,
- 28:43Speaker 1: not me, okay, y'all. So this week it's not a
- 28:49Speaker 1: lot of tab bab y'all so fucking lit. I'm so happy.
- 28:52Speaker 2: It's so fun. I can't believe we're doing this ship.
- 28:58Speaker 1: We could have came up with a jingle for the
- 29:00Speaker 1: love of Tam Damn.
- 29:03Speaker 2: Like, y'all, we're about to interview some guys to be
- 29:11Speaker 2: my me and my ma and my man. I hate
- 29:13Speaker 2: it had to come to this. This is kind of like,
- 29:15Speaker 2: I'm embarrassed. Are you really no?
- 29:21Speaker 1: This is gonna be fun.
- 29:25Speaker 2: I need a balloon pop. I'm just gonna we're gonna
- 29:29Speaker 2: add some balloon pop. All these niggas is trash. But
- 29:33Speaker 2: these men were hand picked, so I mean from the
- 29:37Speaker 2: people that slid in the d M saying that they
- 29:39Speaker 2: wanted to participate. They were hand picked, so hopefully they're
- 29:43Speaker 2: good candidates. I'm gonna be mad if you pick me
- 29:46Speaker 2: some trash agent.
- 29:48Speaker 1: Okay, y'all listen. You gotta listen to the show and
- 29:51Speaker 1: what we need from you, and we'll actually put the
- 29:53Speaker 1: post up. We need y'all to pick out of these
- 29:55Speaker 1: three guys, right, who do y'all think. Now it's kind
- 29:58Speaker 1: of too late for value times, but who do y'all
- 30:01Speaker 1: think Tam should take on a date or date that's
- 30:09Speaker 1: what it is. Let's take her on a date, like
- 30:12Speaker 1: who should Tam at least do one date and hopefully
- 30:15Speaker 1: it turns into forever.
- 30:17Speaker 2: I want forever, all right, So I want y'all to
- 30:22Speaker 2: pick the best suitor out of the three guys. I
- 30:25Speaker 2: need y'all help. So let's get into it.
- 30:34Speaker 1: All right, y'all. So we have the first contestant for
- 30:39Speaker 1: the love of Tam Bam this week for Valentine's Day.
- 30:44Speaker 1: Y'all were trying to find Tam a big man. Okay,
- 30:47Speaker 1: you want a big dog. So we have Jordans on
- 30:51Speaker 1: the show this week. Go ahead, Tam, you want to
- 30:53Speaker 1: you want to date?
- 30:55Speaker 2: Into it? Contested number one. This is my life, y'all.
- 30:59Speaker 2: This is not a I mean, it's a joke, but
- 31:00Speaker 2: it's not a joke, you know what I'm saying. Like Jordan's.
- 31:06Speaker 6: Yeah, I'm definitely taking it serious.
- 31:08Speaker 2: Okay, I'm glad to hear that. Tell me, my co host,
- 31:12Speaker 2: a little bit about you.
- 31:15Speaker 6: As y'all know, my name is Jordan. I'm a Midwest
- 31:18Speaker 6: kid born and raised. Uh and yeah, I'm looking to
- 31:25Speaker 6: see a smiling person.
- 31:27Speaker 2: Okay, Jordan's all right, tell us what you do?
- 31:31Speaker 6: Oh, so I actually have a couple of companies that
- 31:35Speaker 6: I started with my brother. So we have a restaurant,
- 31:37Speaker 6: we have a trucking company, and we also have another
- 31:40Speaker 6: restaurant that's in the works right now.
- 31:43Speaker 1: Okay, so we have as an entrepreneur uh on for
- 31:48Speaker 1: the love of tam bam. Sounds good.
- 31:51Speaker 6: And I have a day job as well.
- 31:53Speaker 1: Okay, you Jamaican, right, nah man.
- 31:57Speaker 6: I'm just I'm inspired to leaders a little better than
- 32:00Speaker 6: I got it.
- 32:02Speaker 2: Okay, Jordan, how old are you?
- 32:04Speaker 6: Thirty seven?
- 32:06Speaker 2: Okay, that's a good age.
- 32:08Speaker 1: Mm hm, y'all know telling you ob g y n
- 32:11Speaker 1: old bitch, get your young niggas. Okay, yeah, yeah, stop.
- 32:22Speaker 6: Crazy. I love it.
- 32:23Speaker 1: I love it all right, George. My first question is, Jordan,
- 32:28Speaker 1: do you have any children?
- 32:30Speaker 6: I do?
- 32:31Speaker 1: Okay, I.
- 32:34Speaker 6: I have a daughter. She's ten.
- 32:35Speaker 1: Are you Oh that's I mean, that's a big age,
- 32:37Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, a lot of people don't
- 32:39Speaker 1: want to start all over. Are you interested in having
- 32:42Speaker 1: any more children?
- 32:44Speaker 6: I mean, I'm definitely open to the conversation. I don't
- 32:48Speaker 6: want to feel like I'm fortunate or anyone or but
- 32:50Speaker 6: for me, I love my daughter and I think more
- 32:53Speaker 6: kids will be a blessing.
- 32:57Speaker 2: Okay, all right, let's see I wrote down some questions.
- 33:03Speaker 2: What is something that you've learned from a past relationship?
- 33:11Speaker 6: A big thing I learned is a lot of relationships
- 33:14Speaker 6: are defined by how your life is in that moment.
- 33:18Speaker 6: So it's the lens that you walk into when it's
- 33:19Speaker 6: the only lens you'll be able to see through unless
- 33:21Speaker 6: you dedicate yourself to some type of growth. But also,
- 33:26Speaker 6: you can't fix someone. They have to want to fix
- 33:27Speaker 6: themselves or be better, because not everyone is broken just
- 33:32Speaker 6: because you're not compatible in that moment, so not necessarily fixed.
- 33:35Speaker 6: But they got to want more than what they walk
- 33:38Speaker 6: into the relationship with because everyone should be a ball.
- 33:42Speaker 1: Absolutely. So what are some of your non negotiables in
- 33:46Speaker 1: a relationship? Like, let'sten, maybe name like the top three
- 33:51Speaker 1: non negotiables, because I think when you're in a relationship,
- 33:54Speaker 1: you kind of you got to get into relationships and
- 33:57Speaker 1: know what you don't want in the next one.
- 33:59Speaker 6: So exactly, I think I don't really have non negotiables,
- 34:03Speaker 6: but there are some Like I'll meet some people when
- 34:06Speaker 6: I'll be at like a fork in the road and
- 34:07Speaker 6: I have to choose for me this I can handle
- 34:10Speaker 6: this or I can't, But just don't be a trash
- 34:13Speaker 6: ass person.
- 34:14Speaker 2: Don't be a trash ass person and the ass because.
- 34:20Speaker 6: I think in this day and age we understand, like
- 34:23Speaker 6: especially where the country is at, like, just be a
- 34:25Speaker 6: decent human. I think as long as you can meet
- 34:29Speaker 6: me in spaces with grace, I think we're good. But
- 34:34Speaker 6: someone that just comes in expects you to fit perfectly
- 34:39Speaker 6: as the piece into their missing the missing piece into
- 34:41Speaker 6: their puzzle. That doesn't really allow you space to be yourself,
- 34:46Speaker 6: your rights. You're wrong to ups your downs while taking
- 34:50Speaker 6: all that you're giving and only returning what they feel
- 34:53Speaker 6: like they feel like giving. I think that that sucks
- 34:56Speaker 6: in a relational aspect.
- 34:59Speaker 1: So that's a trash that constitutes as a trash ass person.
- 35:03Speaker 6: Well trash ass people there's they are. They have no
- 35:07Speaker 6: glass ceiling, so it could be all the way up.
- 35:10Speaker 6: But I'm just saying, like I just want someone to
- 35:12Speaker 6: meet me like at a human level and just really
- 35:15Speaker 6: just be a decent human, be the person that your
- 35:18Speaker 6: parents raised.
- 35:20Speaker 1: Okay, that's fair some humans, right exactly? So how important
- 35:29Speaker 1: is that, like to you? How important is like someone's
- 35:32Speaker 1: uh family background? How important is that to you now
- 35:36Speaker 1: in a relationship at thirty seven, because you know, in
- 35:38Speaker 1: the twenties and may not even be thinking about that
- 35:39Speaker 1: type of shit, right, but now it's like who in
- 35:43Speaker 1: a nutthouse in your family.
- 35:45Speaker 6: It's it's real, it's real, and it's it's very hard.
- 35:49Speaker 6: Y'all should do a little segment about how you segue
- 35:51Speaker 6: into that conversation on first, second, third dates, because it's
- 35:54Speaker 6: something that a lot of people don't really had a
- 35:57Speaker 6: conversation about. And I've actually learned hard way that dna
- 36:02Speaker 6: Is is strong, like as much as you don't believe
- 36:06Speaker 6: she gonna be like her mom or auntie or whatever,
- 36:08Speaker 6: like take notes take notes.
- 36:11Speaker 2: For real, or like their father.
- 36:15Speaker 6: I mean I ain't really dated no girls or anything
- 36:17Speaker 6: like their daddy's.
- 36:18Speaker 2: But no, I mean as as me as a woman,
- 36:22Speaker 2: like you have to look at the man and see
- 36:24Speaker 2: how much is he like his own father? You know?
- 36:28Speaker 6: True? And I've always been taught that women look at
- 36:31Speaker 6: men based on character and see how they handle their
- 36:34Speaker 6: mothers and they can kind of tell how they may
- 36:36Speaker 6: handle them, but definitely the fathers. But it just depends too,
- 36:40Speaker 6: because I mean, I do believe that the apple doesn't
- 36:42Speaker 6: far fall from the tree, but hopefully that tree was
- 36:45Speaker 6: in his life growing up too, so you can have
- 36:48Speaker 6: an understanding. Because I feel like there's black people at
- 36:50Speaker 6: times like we're disconnected from that family tree somehow and
- 36:55Speaker 6: we don't actually have those answers. So we kind of
- 36:57Speaker 6: moved through life searching for or who we are and
- 37:02Speaker 6: photos and just random things that we shouldn't have to.
- 37:06Speaker 2: Yeah, this is true.
- 37:07Speaker 1: Absolutely.
- 37:08Speaker 2: What's one thing that most people would be surprised to
- 37:10Speaker 2: know about you?
- 37:12Speaker 6: Country music?
- 37:14Speaker 1: You like country music?
- 37:16Speaker 6: Heah, yeah, I fuck with country music. But it's like
- 37:22Speaker 6: that cool it's that cool ass country music. And the
- 37:25Speaker 6: way that it happened. I was in college from scholarship,
- 37:29Speaker 6: and I stayed kind of close to home, like an
- 37:32Speaker 6: hour and a half away, and I had this little
- 37:34Speaker 6: geo prism and in the winter, like I was too impatient.
- 37:38Speaker 6: I just wanted to get on the road and get
- 37:40Speaker 6: back to my people, so I wouldn't let the car
- 37:43Speaker 6: went up. So I had the little you know, you
- 37:46Speaker 6: had to see the players with the little you take
- 37:47Speaker 6: the face off and everything. So so for the first
- 37:53Speaker 6: like forty five minutes of a ride, you can only
- 37:55Speaker 6: get whatever station that you could get the signal for
- 37:58Speaker 6: and it was sports country. So I started listening to
- 38:01Speaker 6: countries like, damn, these people they have been through some
- 38:03Speaker 6: ship too, Like I kind of rock with it.
- 38:10Speaker 1: Okay, I used to like country music too. I'm growing
- 38:13Speaker 1: like so yeah.
- 38:16Speaker 2: Yeah, some good old country music.
- 38:18Speaker 6: And y'all see what that grammy just did?
- 38:21Speaker 2: Yeah right, shout out to be all right?
- 38:24Speaker 1: Yeah you like so you like shabootsy chaboozy, shaboozy. You
- 38:31Speaker 1: have my grandmothers and movies and all types of ship.
- 38:35Speaker 1: Shaboozy is that what it is? Or sho boots boozy?
- 38:41Speaker 2: You don't know who that is?
- 38:42Speaker 5: Nah?
- 38:43Speaker 6: See I rock with Sam Hunt.
- 38:46Speaker 1: Oh he t have a real country ship, not.
- 38:47Speaker 6: Even like the Rascal Flats.
- 38:51Speaker 2: Rascal Flats, Okay, you like the Dixie Chicks.
- 38:55Speaker 6: I ain't really hit, but I heard a couple of songs,
- 38:57Speaker 6: but I can't say that I got him on my
- 38:59Speaker 6: title Dixie Chicks.
- 39:00Speaker 2: That's my karaoke I do goodbye earl. Listen to that song,
- 39:04Speaker 2: so you know not to.
- 39:05Speaker 6: Play bye yo yo. Okay, say, let's I got you?
- 39:12Speaker 1: So, what's your idea of a perfect date? If you
- 39:16Speaker 1: were to win this contest and be able to take
- 39:19Speaker 1: big tan Bam out on a night around town.
- 39:24Speaker 6: I honestly feel like a perfect date is a mixture
- 39:28Speaker 6: of intention and spontaneity. So you know, I want to
- 39:32Speaker 6: see you, but the goal is to get to know
- 39:34Speaker 6: you better. So wherever we end up, hopefully it's somewhere
- 39:36Speaker 6: that you're comfortable you can try some new things. Because
- 39:38Speaker 6: I always feel like first dates should involve first whether
- 39:42Speaker 6: that's first time trying a new dish, a new location,
- 39:46Speaker 6: a new area of town, first case, you know what
- 39:50Speaker 6: I mean. Like, I feel like it should be something
- 39:52Speaker 6: that flows. But I also think too with first dates.
- 39:55Speaker 6: For me personally, I always feel like I want to
- 39:57Speaker 6: be in the presence of somebody that it's playful, and
- 40:00Speaker 6: I'm big on trying to get to the I feel
- 40:03Speaker 6: like people, when you're in good company, you want to
- 40:06Speaker 6: pay for it. But I'm the kind of person that
- 40:09Speaker 6: likes acting like a little bit of posaster shit. So
- 40:13Speaker 6: I might find a waiter. Yeah, Like, I find a
- 40:17Speaker 6: waiter and be like, yo, let me pay for this
- 40:18Speaker 6: in advance, and then I come back to the table
- 40:20Speaker 6: and try to get you to downe and ditch with me,
- 40:23Speaker 6: just to see how you kind of respond to it.
- 40:29Speaker 1: I'm a doer, but I'm talking about you to my homegirl,
- 40:32Speaker 1: and I'm a pay on the load leaving out.
- 40:35Speaker 6: But then if you if you try to pay on
- 40:37Speaker 6: the road, they're gonna be like, he already took care
- 40:39Speaker 6: of it. Then you're like, damn, I see what it
- 40:41Speaker 6: was this nigga?
- 40:42Speaker 2: Know how I broke my foot? I hope you know
- 40:44Speaker 2: that I can't run.
- 40:46Speaker 6: Oh damn, we're gonna have I just need to need
- 40:49Speaker 6: you to slide to the bathroom about ten minutes early.
- 40:52Speaker 6: Since you got the low key the little you know.
- 40:53Speaker 1: I mean, that was good, though that's not like a good,
- 40:58Speaker 1: very good first date. I like the fun.
- 41:00Speaker 2: Yeah, me too.
- 41:01Speaker 6: I appreciate you. I mean, if you want to see
- 41:03Speaker 6: what it's really like, tom Ban, you know what you
- 41:05Speaker 6: gotta do.
- 41:07Speaker 2: Okay, Well we're gonna see. We got a couple more contestants,
- 41:09Speaker 2: but so far, so good, Jordan.
- 41:12Speaker 6: I appreciate it, and I wish them the worst of luck.
- 41:17Speaker 1: God.
- 41:18Speaker 6: How tall are you tall enough?
- 41:23Speaker 2: Okay? So what that means? I'm five four?
- 41:26Speaker 6: Oh, well you're gonna be looking up to me five
- 41:29Speaker 6: to two. I'm six one.
- 41:32Speaker 2: You are you're six to one? Okay, that's right, what
- 41:37Speaker 2: do you want to accomplish in the next five years?
- 41:42Speaker 6: Man? Travel more Honestly, I think I want to touch
- 41:46Speaker 6: feet to earth on the continent.
- 41:49Speaker 2: On what continent?
- 41:51Speaker 1: The continent Africa?
- 41:52Speaker 2: Africa?
- 41:54Speaker 6: Yeah, the Motherland.
- 41:56Speaker 2: And that's your that's the only thing you want to
- 41:58Speaker 2: accomplish in the next five years, or that's just one of.
- 42:01Speaker 6: Your that's the top thing, that's the top thing I
- 42:04Speaker 6: want accomplish. I feel like as far as goes with me,
- 42:08Speaker 6: I live very comfortably right now, So I don't have
- 42:10Speaker 6: a lot of monetary goals or career goals. I think
- 42:13Speaker 6: everything that I kind of set in place and the
- 42:16Speaker 6: way that I move in life, I think I've kind
- 42:18Speaker 6: of set myself up in a position to kind of
- 42:19Speaker 6: reap those benefits almost kind of like residually. So now
- 42:23Speaker 6: it's more about being intentional or not looking back at
- 42:27Speaker 6: my life and saying what would I have done or
- 42:28Speaker 6: what should I have done? But what should I do next?
- 42:31Speaker 6: And then definitely creating more opportunities for my daughter to
- 42:34Speaker 6: just see the world different than I have the opportunity too, and.
- 42:40Speaker 1: Like that nigga slick that boy good. Yeah, in therapy,
- 42:45Speaker 1: you know what they'd be like you know, before you respond,
- 42:48Speaker 1: you know, repeat what the person says so or ask questions.
- 42:51Speaker 1: So what I'm hearing you say though, until you slid
- 42:53Speaker 1: that last little piece in that you want to travel,
- 42:56Speaker 1: you can do all these things. I know my friend
- 42:59Speaker 1: wants to be married at some point, right I also
- 43:01Speaker 1: my friend wants to have a child. That's what I
- 43:06Speaker 1: was looking for. Like hearing you know like that you're
- 43:09Speaker 1: even interested in possibly being a husband.
- 43:13Speaker 6: Absolutely, I feel like my goal in life is to
- 43:17Speaker 6: be a great husband and even better father. So but
- 43:20Speaker 6: when you ask me that question, I can't really respond
- 43:22Speaker 6: to that because I don't have that lady next to
- 43:24Speaker 6: me right now, so I can only speak on life
- 43:27Speaker 6: through this lands right now. But I would love to
- 43:28Speaker 6: have that kind of be a part of that, Like
- 43:31Speaker 6: I mean, obviously might not be traveling to the Motherland
- 43:33Speaker 6: unless you want to start the first five years there,
- 43:36Speaker 6: which could happen. I mean, I'm really expact ready right now?
- 43:43Speaker 2: Are you ready to get out the Country's what's the
- 43:46Speaker 2: most spontaneous thing you've ever done?
- 43:49Speaker 6: My life is spontaneity. I jumped on a flight and
- 43:55Speaker 6: moved to la on twelve hours notice two hundred and
- 43:59Speaker 6: fifty dollars and three bags fifteen years ago. So yeah,
- 44:05Speaker 6: I think. I think spontaneity is just like you believe
- 44:08Speaker 6: in that your version of life in that moment matters
- 44:11Speaker 6: and it's worth it. I see then, how you speak
- 44:14Speaker 6: to people, how you walk up and introduce yourself, just
- 44:18Speaker 6: how you show up. I think everything is life is
- 44:21Speaker 6: about how you react to life.
- 44:24Speaker 2: Okay, you've been answering these perfect I know, I mean
- 44:29Speaker 2: it well.
- 44:31Speaker 1: I feel like I feel like these people want to
- 44:33Speaker 1: show up, like how we would want a man to
- 44:36Speaker 1: show up. You got it. You gotta really got some though.
- 44:40Speaker 2: I got another one more question for you, Jordan, So
- 44:44Speaker 2: what would you say is your greatest flaw?
- 44:50Speaker 6: My greatest flaw not enough time? Sometimes I think I
- 44:59Speaker 6: would say, I think that the path I'll set myself
- 45:04Speaker 6: for sometimes I don't always prioritize myself, and I think
- 45:09Speaker 6: it's a black man. We kind of live a life
- 45:11Speaker 6: that kind of forces you to endure, and I think
- 45:15Speaker 6: sometimes that gets in the way of our blessings, in
- 45:18Speaker 6: the way of our health, in a way of our peace.
- 45:23Speaker 6: But I try not to be a bad person, so
- 45:26Speaker 6: I don't really look for my flaws. I'm definitely not perfect.
- 45:29Speaker 6: I might tell you I'm gonna call you back or not,
- 45:32Speaker 6: but I'm one text message away to remind me, like, hey,
- 45:35Speaker 6: you forgotten, I'll jump on the phone. But I don't
- 45:39Speaker 6: really have anything that I'm like, Yo, I want to
- 45:42Speaker 6: change this about me or this this is my fatal
- 45:47Speaker 6: flaw type vibe.
- 45:49Speaker 1: Hmm hmm. Interesting. So my last question is if your
- 45:55Speaker 1: ex had to describe you in one sentence, what would
- 46:00Speaker 1: they say?
- 46:01Speaker 6: Depend on which ex. But they all love me still,
- 46:03Speaker 6: so I think it would be good. Like I feel
- 46:08Speaker 6: like a lot of my exes I met at a
- 46:10Speaker 6: great time in their lives, but I just wasn't ready
- 46:13Speaker 6: for mine within my time. But I don't even I
- 46:18Speaker 6: hate that. I don't remember this movie, but y'aver did
- 46:20Speaker 6: y'a ever watch that movie where every girl got married
- 46:24Speaker 6: after they dated this dude. That was pretty much the
- 46:28Speaker 6: premise of the movie. I forget what it was.
- 46:29Speaker 1: It was like, it wasn't a swindler?
- 46:32Speaker 4: Was it.
- 46:36Speaker 2: Swindler?
- 46:37Speaker 1: All of them bitches is married as asked to again,
- 46:39Speaker 1: scammed up?
- 46:40Speaker 2: No, they got married dated him, they would marry somebody else,
- 46:44Speaker 2: they would find their husband.
- 46:46Speaker 6: Yeah, it was crazy.
- 46:47Speaker 2: I feel like I saw that movie.
- 46:49Speaker 6: So that's how my life has been with my exes.
- 46:51Speaker 6: Like all my exes are happily married, like I celebrate them.
- 46:54Speaker 6: I tell them happy anniversary, and I'm so proud of y'all.
- 46:57Speaker 6: Like so, actually, my my ex if they listening, would
- 47:01Speaker 6: definitely calling and co sign me. Like, yo, Jordan's who
- 47:04Speaker 6: he is, So you.
- 47:06Speaker 2: Don't have nothing nothing bad about you? You're perfect.
- 47:10Speaker 6: If this sounds perfect, I mean I definitely know I
- 47:12Speaker 6: ain't perfect, but I definitely believe that great husband materials.
- 47:20Speaker 2: It would be like Jordan is a nigga. Nobody knows
- 47:23Speaker 2: Jordan is a narc.
- 47:25Speaker 1: He believe.
- 47:30Speaker 2: You're not in nobody's story.
- 47:33Speaker 6: No, actually I'm not. And I have set up some
- 47:36Speaker 6: nights to like ask myself like, damn, are there any
- 47:39Speaker 6: people that were like not co signing? And I kind
- 47:41Speaker 6: of racked my brain trying to find that person, and
- 47:44Speaker 6: they don't exist because I actually treat people like I
- 47:46Speaker 6: would want to be treated everybody somebody's daughter.
- 47:48Speaker 1: So I actually I actually actually called some x's one
- 47:54Speaker 1: time because you don't remember how Clubhouse used to be
- 47:57Speaker 1: real lit and they were playing one of the rooms
- 47:59Speaker 1: that was and it was playing a video from like
- 48:01Speaker 1: YouTube basically saying all women crazy type shit, right, So
- 48:08Speaker 1: the dude was challenging all the women in the room, like, Okay,
- 48:10Speaker 1: we need we need to talk to y'all. Last couple
- 48:12Speaker 1: of exes, Like, none of my exes, even the fucking craziest,
- 48:16Speaker 1: had anything really crazy to say about me. So it's possible, Jordan,
- 48:20Speaker 1: is what I'm getting to. It's possible.
- 48:22Speaker 6: You know. I appreciate you meet me in the middle
- 48:24Speaker 6: road on that.
- 48:25Speaker 1: What's your sign though, before you get out of here.
- 48:28Speaker 2: Sagittarius Okay, Sagittarius Okay.
- 48:32Speaker 1: I like Sagittarius. Sagittarius be tricking a little bit. Like
- 48:35Speaker 1: the men, they're gonna they're gonna spend some money on you,
- 48:37Speaker 1: tam I'm gonna tell you that right now. They're generous.
- 48:42Speaker 1: I'll say that, thoughtful.
- 48:44Speaker 2: Any last thing you would like to say to leave
- 48:46Speaker 2: a lasting impression.
- 48:50Speaker 6: Whoever wins your love, that's that's the real champion. It's
- 48:55Speaker 6: an honor to be able to be in consideration. I
- 48:59Speaker 6: feel like I shot best shot and uh, happy early
- 49:04Speaker 6: Valentine's Day.
- 49:05Speaker 2: Thank you, Jordan.
- 49:07Speaker 1: I like Jordan's for sure, Jordan, this is great.
- 49:10Speaker 2: Thank you so much. For joining us, and we'll definitely
- 49:13Speaker 2: be in contact because we're gonna let our listeners decide
- 49:16Speaker 2: who gets a date with me.
- 49:19Speaker 6: Oh wow, for sure? For sure? Yeah and if and
- 49:23Speaker 6: if you Yeah, for sure. I'll just keep an eye
- 49:26Speaker 6: out for that.
- 49:27Speaker 2: Okay, all right, y'all, Okay, you too.
- 49:32Speaker 1: All right, y'all. So that was our first contestant, Jordans.
- 49:36Speaker 1: We'll be back after this commercial with our second contestant.
- 49:40Speaker 1: Y'all stay tuned, all right, y'all, So we are back.
- 49:49Speaker 1: This is we talk back.
- 49:51Speaker 7: Uh.
- 49:52Speaker 1: For the love of Tam Bam. This week for Valentine,
- 49:56Speaker 1: we are trying to find her a date. Okay, so
- 50:00Speaker 1: we do have contestant number two. His name is Nico.
- 50:05Speaker 1: Introduce yourself. Nico to our listeners.
- 50:09Speaker 4: Thank you for having me. My name is Nico from
- 50:12Speaker 4: the b X, New York b X. All Right, I
- 50:15Speaker 4: don't think you guys need any other contestants. I mean,
- 50:17Speaker 4: get rid of number one. If I'm number two, let's
- 50:19Speaker 4: cancel number three. I mean there's nobody better, so forget.
- 50:26Speaker 1: I like that energy, Nico.
- 50:28Speaker 2: Nico, what's b X, I don't know what that is?
- 50:31Speaker 4: That is the BRONX, I mean b X I mean,
- 50:34Speaker 4: it's so synonymous with New York, but it is from
- 50:37Speaker 4: the Bronx, the dirtiest barrow in New York City.
- 50:39Speaker 1: All right, from Brooklyn. I heard they be stealing a lot.
- 50:42Speaker 2: We don't do that.
- 50:43Speaker 4: That's what bok Brooklyn is. Boo, as you compare to
- 50:49Speaker 4: the Bronx, We're still hood in the Bronx.
- 50:52Speaker 2: Oh well, listen, I'm in Brooklyn.
- 50:54Speaker 4: But you like hood niggas because I'm a little hood.
- 50:57Speaker 2: Oh yeah, you know what. I'm not opposed to a
- 51:00Speaker 2: little hood. So okay, okay, tell us, all right, what
- 51:06Speaker 2: do you do for a living, Nico.
- 51:09Speaker 4: Well, I'll drive forklifts, right, but I'm not just an
- 51:12Speaker 4: average forklift driver, right, So when trucks pull up the
- 51:16Speaker 4: big construction sites, I'm the guy that pulls all of
- 51:19Speaker 4: the wood, all of those heavy materials that come off
- 51:22Speaker 4: the truck for big skyscrapers. So I'm a big time
- 51:27Speaker 4: forklift driver. Okay, all right. This is not no little
- 51:31Speaker 4: warehouse taking pallettes off the you know, the little shelves
- 51:35Speaker 4: over there. I'm talking decent money. I mean, depends on
- 51:38Speaker 4: what you think decent money is.
- 51:40Speaker 1: So you helped rebuild a trade center.
- 51:43Speaker 4: Not the trade Center, but other buildings in New York City, absolutely,
- 51:47Speaker 4: a few big ones.
- 51:48Speaker 2: So you can work with your hands.
- 51:50Speaker 4: Oh man, I can work with my hands, my mouth,
- 51:54Speaker 4: you know, my feet.
- 51:55Speaker 7: All that.
- 51:58Speaker 1: I had with that I don't do. Yeah, that wasn't
- 52:02Speaker 1: one of my questions, but yeah, might as well.
- 52:05Speaker 4: Yeah, listen, I'm trying to within how many how long
- 52:08Speaker 4: is this interview here?
- 52:11Speaker 1: As long as guy, I got a.
- 52:15Speaker 4: Lot of lengthy time, right, So I'm trying to give
- 52:22Speaker 4: you the true version of who I am within these
- 52:25Speaker 4: few minutes. So ask me anything.
- 52:28Speaker 2: What's your idea of the perfect first date?
- 52:31Speaker 6: Oh?
- 52:32Speaker 4: Perfect? Faith? See, my perfect first date isn't traditional. You know,
- 52:38Speaker 4: in most cases, a guy wants to take you out
- 52:41Speaker 4: for dinner, a movie, and all that sort of jazz.
- 52:45Speaker 4: So because I also did I tell you guys, I'm
- 52:48Speaker 4: a chef as well in the evening, so I drive
- 52:50Speaker 4: fork lifts at night and I work at a restaurant
- 52:54Speaker 4: in the evening. I don't it's a pretty known restaurant
- 52:57Speaker 4: in New York City, so I don't want to put
- 52:58Speaker 4: it out because I don't want people to know where
- 53:00Speaker 4: I work. But I'm also a chef at the restaurant,
- 53:04Speaker 4: so I'm seeing all that to say that my perfect
- 53:07Speaker 4: evening is you coming over to my place and me
- 53:10Speaker 4: cooking dinner. Fee And I know, I know you're gonna say, hey,
- 53:14Speaker 4: you know, I don't know you. You could be, you know,
- 53:16Speaker 4: a serial killer. I'm tired of hear that, you know
- 53:18Speaker 4: what I mean, Like, listen, let's let's jump. Let's get
- 53:21Speaker 4: out of the box, all right and do something a
- 53:23Speaker 4: little different, take some risks and date it.
- 53:26Speaker 2: What would you cook for me?
- 53:28Speaker 4: So my go to dish would be sea.
- 53:33Speaker 1: Bass I love sassi.
- 53:36Speaker 4: Che laine, sea bass wraw caught you.
- 53:39Speaker 1: Know, no farm raised from costco.
- 53:41Speaker 4: Right, yeah, ohh so you know you know, but it's
- 53:47Speaker 4: about It's about how you cook it and season and
- 53:49Speaker 4: all of that.
- 53:51Speaker 1: Okay, you a chef girl, he'd be lifting.
- 53:55Speaker 2: Yeah, come on, wrong, chef, I can.
- 53:58Speaker 4: I'm trying to tell you tech too, So you know,
- 54:01Speaker 4: two tech?
- 54:02Speaker 1: What's your nationality? Because you sound like a my boss
- 54:04Speaker 1: a little bit.
- 54:06Speaker 4: I'm half black and half Italian. It's funny you say that. Okay, Okay,
- 54:12Speaker 4: my family has sides to the Geneviech family. But he
- 54:14Speaker 4: don't want to get into that.
- 54:17Speaker 2: So I guess this hold on no, let me ask
- 54:20Speaker 2: you this before you ask that. Is your mother black
- 54:23Speaker 2: or your father?
- 54:24Speaker 1: That's important? Now, that's important.
- 54:25Speaker 4: My father's brought my mother's a child.
- 54:29Speaker 2: So you kind of drakish white.
- 54:33Speaker 4: No, my father is black. You're usually more of what
- 54:37Speaker 4: your father is if you're a young man.
- 54:39Speaker 1: Now, Okay, are your parents so together?
- 54:43Speaker 5: No?
- 54:43Speaker 4: Absolutely not. I don't think my mom and my dad
- 54:46Speaker 4: were ever together.
- 54:48Speaker 1: Okay, so your mom is a side bitch. Excuse me,
- 54:50Speaker 1: I'm sorry your mom raised you. She didn't mean that, like, no,
- 54:57Speaker 1: we're just trying to understand the family dynamic.
- 55:00Speaker 4: My mom was kind of a bitch sometimes, all right,
- 55:02Speaker 4: So I'm not offended.
- 55:03Speaker 7: But but she she may do what she had, and
- 55:08Speaker 7: I think she thought she was in a relationship with
- 55:10Speaker 7: my dad, you know, but she's so happened to be
- 55:13Speaker 7: the side bitch.
- 55:14Speaker 4: Without knowing.
- 55:16Speaker 1: As long as she's not an habitual side bitch.
- 55:18Speaker 4: I mean no, no, that was that was her first
- 55:20Speaker 4: and last side bitch, you know. Extravaganza.
- 55:22Speaker 1: Okay, you know, we talk about gender roles a whole
- 55:26Speaker 1: lot in the black community. I don't know what Italians do,
- 55:30Speaker 1: but do you believe in traditional gender roles in relationships?
- 55:34Speaker 1: Or do you prefer a more modern approach like fifty
- 55:37Speaker 1: to fifty.
- 55:39Speaker 4: Well, I grew up in that. I grew up in
- 55:42Speaker 4: a black household, like even though you know, my dad
- 55:45Speaker 4: wasn't always there, right, so, but my mom grew up
- 55:49Speaker 4: I mean my mom, she we grew up in the hood,
- 55:53Speaker 4: in the Bronx, so it wasn't I didn't grow up
- 55:55Speaker 4: around Italians so to speak. So gender roles are important,
- 55:59Speaker 4: but I do that we have to grow as a society.
- 56:02Speaker 4: And if women want to be considered equal and want
- 56:07Speaker 4: to you know, you don't want want equal pay and
- 56:12Speaker 4: all that sort of jazz which they they've you know,
- 56:15Speaker 4: a lot of them have earned that right and deserve it.
- 56:19Speaker 4: Then and you, if you can bring this to the table,
- 56:22Speaker 4: then we have to change, you know, the tradition, and
- 56:25Speaker 4: women have to call up some of that bread too.
- 56:29Speaker 2: So so no, you don't believe, No, in.
- 56:33Speaker 4: Some instances, for example, I don't. I do think that
- 56:39Speaker 4: a woman should be the one to cook and clean
- 56:43Speaker 4: more so, but if the man is going to ask
- 56:46Speaker 4: for a woman to bring some money to the table,
- 56:48Speaker 4: then he has to chime in and help out with
- 56:50Speaker 4: those things as well. You know, it can't be just
- 56:53Speaker 4: one side, so I feel you.
- 56:55Speaker 2: Okay, that's fair.
- 57:00Speaker 4: Your chef, I'm doing all the damn cooking.
- 57:01Speaker 1: Anyway, that's a plus. Yeah, I can cook them.
- 57:06Speaker 2: Yeah.
- 57:07Speaker 4: Yeah.
- 57:08Speaker 2: What's something you've learned from past from the show you've heard?
- 57:12Speaker 4: I've heard, Yes, of course I watched it. How can
- 57:14Speaker 4: I not watch the show all the time? I'm loving,
- 57:16Speaker 4: madly in love with you?
- 57:17Speaker 6: So on.
- 57:19Speaker 2: Okay, what's something you learned from past relationships?
- 57:24Speaker 5: Oh?
- 57:24Speaker 4: I mean that's a broad question. I mean, can you
- 57:28Speaker 4: be more specific? I've learned so many things from relationships.
- 57:32Speaker 2: Is your greatest takeaway?
- 57:33Speaker 4: My greatest takeaway from a past relationship is I would said, Yeah,
- 57:43Speaker 4: my greatest lesson would be to give poor a little
- 57:49Speaker 4: bit more into yourself, you know, a little bit more
- 57:53Speaker 4: than that I've done in the past, and being in relationships,
- 57:57Speaker 4: you know, whereas the boys and pour it into the personal.
- 58:02Speaker 1: Home given a lot, I understand that. Yeah, I think
- 58:05Speaker 1: we can not.
- 58:06Speaker 4: Really getting a hundred percent right maybe like seventy eighties.
- 58:10Speaker 1: You're not trying to punish my friend, are you. You're coming?
- 58:15Speaker 4: I mean, listen, it's going to be a better version
- 58:17Speaker 4: of me.
- 58:20Speaker 1: Because you've learned from those things.
- 58:22Speaker 5: Man.
- 58:22Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, because she's gonna want the best version of me.
- 58:25Speaker 4: The best version of me is somebody that you know,
- 58:28Speaker 4: if I care about myself a little bit.
- 58:31Speaker 1: So, what's like, what's the toxic trait from one of
- 58:34Speaker 1: those exes that you secretly love? Like, what isout really
- 58:40Speaker 1: love and a partner?
- 58:42Speaker 2: Oh?
- 58:42Speaker 4: Man, that's a good question because, to be honest, toxicity
- 58:47Speaker 4: is subjective. You know what I'm saying.
- 58:49Speaker 1: What people, That's what I'm saying. So like, say, for instance,
- 58:52Speaker 1: you know some people are like, oh, my man, ain't
- 58:54Speaker 1: crazy about me like that I don't want him, And
- 58:57Speaker 1: I'm like, nah, bitch, that's retarded, I don't want that.
- 58:59Speaker 4: Yeah, No, I honestly I like for my lady to
- 59:02Speaker 4: be a little possessive at times, like a little extra jealous,
- 59:08Speaker 4: like ready to fight a bit, but not really you
- 59:11Speaker 4: know what I'm saying, Just like, get all hype and
- 59:13Speaker 4: act like act like you fucking care, and you know
- 59:16Speaker 4: what I'm saying, You need to show me that you're
- 59:19Speaker 4: a little jealous. If you ain't about that action, then
- 59:21Speaker 4: I don't know.
- 59:22Speaker 2: So you like you want me to slap you a
- 59:24Speaker 2: little bit, Yeah.
- 59:25Speaker 4: A little physical where the fuck you going like little
- 59:29Speaker 4: don't go crazy, you know, but little abuse meant a
- 59:33Speaker 4: little mini abuse.
- 59:35Speaker 1: Okay, I like that.
- 59:37Speaker 4: I could take it. I'm strong.
- 59:40Speaker 2: Where do you see yourself in the next five years?
- 59:44Speaker 4: Well, right now, I have six children, right, so my
- 59:47Speaker 4: goal has always.
- 59:48Speaker 2: Been to have met that question in the beginning.
- 59:51Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, so listen, listen, I'm forty seven years old,
- 59:56Speaker 4: even though people say I look like I look thirty.
- 59:59Speaker 4: So you know, I've had quite a quite a few years,
- 1:00:03Speaker 4: you know, with the opportunity to make some kids. So
- 1:00:05Speaker 4: I did that. I take it full advantage of that.
- 1:00:08Speaker 4: And but just so you know, it's only two baby mamas,
- 1:00:12Speaker 4: all right, because I know you were thinking, oh my god,
- 1:00:14Speaker 4: this guy has five baby mamas. It was two baby mamas.
- 1:00:19Speaker 4: And I take care of all of my kids, but
- 1:00:21Speaker 4: I really want ten kids, honestly, So support no no, no. Me,
- 1:00:27Speaker 4: Me and my two baby mothers. We get along phenomenally,
- 1:00:30Speaker 4: and I take care of the kids without the government
- 1:00:34Speaker 4: being involved because I know how to pick my baby mamas.
- 1:00:37Speaker 4: You know, I'm saying.
- 1:00:39Speaker 1: So you're a breeder, is what I'm hearing.
- 1:00:42Speaker 4: Yeah, something something in that short because and I want
- 1:00:44Speaker 4: to keep breeding. So five years from now, I want
- 1:00:47Speaker 4: to have four more.
- 1:00:51Speaker 2: Children, Oh my god.
- 1:00:53Speaker 4: And I'm gonna I'm gonna kind of go off at ten. Listen,
- 1:00:55Speaker 4: I gotta spread my seed and leave a lineage on
- 1:00:58Speaker 4: this earth there, you know what I mean. And hopefully
- 1:01:00Speaker 4: Tammy would be the one to give me the four
- 1:01:02Speaker 4: kids that I want. Yeah, you know, he's inspired me.
- 1:01:07Speaker 4: He's inspired me.
- 1:01:12Speaker 2: Do you want a wife?
- 1:01:17Speaker 1: Oh shit?
- 1:01:19Speaker 4: So I mean, why do we have to follow the
- 1:01:23Speaker 4: tradition of wife and husband?
- 1:01:26Speaker 6: Right?
- 1:01:26Speaker 4: Like, I'm not Christian, so I don't you know, I'm
- 1:01:30Speaker 4: not going to be at a church, you know, with
- 1:01:32Speaker 4: a priest trying to marry. So I figured, I don't
- 1:01:35Speaker 4: think we need marriage. Marriage. To me, it doesn't hold anyway.
- 1:01:39Speaker 4: I think I can be loyal and very given to
- 1:01:43Speaker 4: a woman without being married.
- 1:01:48Speaker 1: So what if Tammy can't give you these four kids? Right,
- 1:01:51Speaker 1: you know, because we are women of a certain age.
- 1:01:54Speaker 1: I'm not saying that she may not be able to
- 1:01:55Speaker 1: give you too, but a whole four Well, listen, what
- 1:01:59Speaker 1: are you planning? Would you then have these other kids
- 1:02:02Speaker 1: by somebody else, possibly in relationship?
- 1:02:04Speaker 4: Yeah? Absolutely, see you think the way I think I
- 1:02:07Speaker 4: love how you think?
- 1:02:08Speaker 7: You know?
- 1:02:09Speaker 4: So I mean, we're really progressive. We're living in a
- 1:02:13Speaker 4: progressive world. And if you love a person and you
- 1:02:16Speaker 4: know something that is deeply or she deeply watched, right,
- 1:02:19Speaker 4: allow it to be so just to surrogate mom, somebody
- 1:02:22Speaker 4: that's willing to get pregnant and we'll raise the kids ourselves.
- 1:02:26Speaker 4: Now another thing, and they have a lot of drugs
- 1:02:28Speaker 4: out here that will make make women have twins, will
- 1:02:31Speaker 4: help women have twins. Right, so maybe Tam could just
- 1:02:34Speaker 4: do two pregnancies, twins and twins four. I think she can.
- 1:02:38Speaker 4: She can bang that out. Tam looks strong, like like
- 1:02:41Speaker 4: a woman that may you know what I'm saying.
- 1:02:45Speaker 1: Are you a Hebrew Israelite?
- 1:02:48Speaker 4: No?
- 1:02:48Speaker 1: No, no, not okay, just asking.
- 1:02:52Speaker 4: I mean no, no, that I'm not. I mean, if
- 1:02:56Speaker 4: she's open to it, like it's something I will put
- 1:02:59Speaker 4: off the table. But right now I don't have the
- 1:03:02Speaker 4: energy for more than one. I'm getting older. I mean,
- 1:03:07Speaker 4: I haven't got to that place yet where you don't
- 1:03:09Speaker 4: need any any help. But you know, I'm not no
- 1:03:14Speaker 4: spring checking.
- 1:03:16Speaker 1: It works, is what I'm hear.
- 1:03:17Speaker 4: Works perfectly fine. I'm dreading the day that it doesn't.
- 1:03:21Speaker 4: But you know, hopefully Tim could keep it working.
- 1:03:25Speaker 1: We might need to ask about blood pressure. Maybe we
- 1:03:27Speaker 1: should have told the contestants to have a blood pressure cuff.
- 1:03:32Speaker 4: And my blood pressure is great right now.
- 1:03:36Speaker 2: I don't know if I have any other questions?
- 1:03:39Speaker 1: Do you ag? I guess that's it. Okay, we go.
- 1:03:48Speaker 2: Lighting up over there.
- 1:03:50Speaker 4: I need to lighten up.
- 1:03:51Speaker 1: You said, yeah, what are you are?
- 1:03:52Speaker 5: You?
- 1:03:52Speaker 1: Are you smoking?
- 1:03:54Speaker 6: Yeah?
- 1:03:55Speaker 4: No, I smoke marijuana. So I'm soaking a little, a
- 1:03:58Speaker 4: little pre roll right now.
- 1:04:00Speaker 1: A great match.
- 1:04:01Speaker 4: What does it? Is it my voice sound like I'm
- 1:04:02Speaker 4: a smoker.
- 1:04:03Speaker 1: No, no, no, I heard you like flicking the I was
- 1:04:05Speaker 1: just asking because you know, I think that I don't know.
- 1:04:07Speaker 1: For me, cigarettes would definitely be like an.
- 1:04:11Speaker 4: I've never smoked a cigarette?
- 1:04:13Speaker 2: Yeah, cigarette never.
- 1:04:15Speaker 4: So listen, let me ask Tam some questions really quick.
- 1:04:18Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying. If I'm trying to make
- 1:04:20Speaker 4: my not wife but baby mama, you know you know
- 1:04:26Speaker 4: what I'm saying. What do you want out of relationship
- 1:04:29Speaker 4: to a husband?
- 1:04:31Speaker 2: I want to Yeah, so.
- 1:04:34Speaker 4: I would I would have to really budge and fall
- 1:04:36Speaker 4: into that to that society's tradition, you know.
- 1:04:40Speaker 2: Not necessarily. Society is just mine for him. You know,
- 1:04:44Speaker 2: I want to be a wife. I don't want to
- 1:04:46Speaker 2: just be a longtime girlfriend.
- 1:04:48Speaker 4: Or would tell me what makes a difference? Right outside
- 1:04:53Speaker 4: of like, because you can buy you can purchase property
- 1:04:55Speaker 4: together without being married. Right, two people are gonna be
- 1:04:58Speaker 4: able to deed. You guys can obviously live in the
- 1:05:01Speaker 4: same household, have children, live a fruitful life without you know,
- 1:05:06Speaker 4: some paperwork saying that you guys are marriage. So you
- 1:05:09Speaker 4: give me a perfect example what makes a difference.
- 1:05:13Speaker 2: It's not just about the paperwork. For me. I come
- 1:05:15Speaker 2: from a Christian home and I want my union ordained
- 1:05:20Speaker 2: by God. That's important to me. You know, I got you.
- 1:05:24Speaker 4: I respect it. I respect religion.
- 1:05:27Speaker 1: They can technically be ordained by God. But what happens
- 1:05:31Speaker 1: now in society is where the courts have to also,
- 1:05:36Speaker 1: that's part of it. Can you be married without the courts? Yes, yes,
- 1:05:41Speaker 1: God we do it that way.
- 1:05:42Speaker 4: Like So I'm Muslim, just so you know, not an
- 1:05:45Speaker 4: israel life, but I am Muslim, So I'll be willing
- 1:05:49Speaker 4: to marry a woman in an the Islamic center right
- 1:05:53Speaker 4: with the iman there, but not through the state, not
- 1:05:57Speaker 4: with the paperwork. So that's that's all dained by God.
- 1:06:01Speaker 1: And everything else.
- 1:06:04Speaker 2: But you say, like you you know you listen to
- 1:06:07Speaker 2: the show, but you have had to have heard that
- 1:06:10Speaker 2: I eat bacon.
- 1:06:11Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean that was what those are one of
- 1:06:13Speaker 4: the things that was a deal breaker. But I said
- 1:06:15Speaker 4: to myself, once time spent some time around me, right,
- 1:06:19Speaker 4: and she feels my energy in my disposition, I'll get
- 1:06:22Speaker 4: her to stop eating bacon, and no time, so you'll
- 1:06:26Speaker 4: be a turkey bacon eater within three months. No fuck
- 1:06:39Speaker 4: on my fork.
- 1:06:40Speaker 2: Okay, it's strict around here.
- 1:06:42Speaker 1: All right.
- 1:06:43Speaker 4: So you living and die by some bacon?
- 1:06:45Speaker 2: No, no, no, I'm not you know, that's it's I
- 1:06:48Speaker 2: could get rid of it, honestly.
- 1:06:50Speaker 4: Okay, all right. My last question to you, Tam, how
- 1:06:52Speaker 4: long do you.
- 1:06:53Speaker 2: Feel I thought we were in the nigga's house he interview.
- 1:06:57Speaker 4: Listen, I'm taking over the show, all right, that's it.
- 1:07:00Speaker 4: So I want to know how long is there a
- 1:07:03Speaker 4: certain amount of time that it would take for you
- 1:07:06Speaker 4: to give up the buns after dating somebody?
- 1:07:08Speaker 1: Okay, that's enough.
- 1:07:10Speaker 4: I mean, that's that's a legitimate question. I mean, what's
- 1:07:14Speaker 4: the time period before you feel like, oh, I'm comfortable
- 1:07:16Speaker 4: enough to be intimate with a man. I don't think
- 1:07:18Speaker 4: that's an unreasonable question. We're adults here.
- 1:07:23Speaker 2: Okay, I'll answer this question. I was going to hang
- 1:07:25Speaker 2: up on you, but I'll answer the question. I don't
- 1:07:28Speaker 2: think there's a timeline, you know. I go off the energy,
- 1:07:32Speaker 2: So whenever the energy feels right, that's when it will happen.
- 1:07:37Speaker 4: I respect it. I lived by those rooms as well.
- 1:07:40Speaker 2: Yeah, there is no right time. But you know, out
- 1:07:48Speaker 2: of all the things that you could have asked you
- 1:07:50Speaker 2: wanted to know about.
- 1:07:52Speaker 4: Yes, I'm a very person. I'm sorry, very blunt.
- 1:07:56Speaker 1: What's your what's your about it? Oh?
- 1:08:00Speaker 5: Bye?
- 1:08:00Speaker 1: Let's hang up on this nigga right, let's hang up
- 1:08:03Speaker 1: on as Italian right now?
- 1:08:09Speaker 3: They really really yeah, go ahead, this was really good.
- 1:08:13Speaker 2: You're seemed like a great guy. And we're gonna let
- 1:08:16Speaker 2: our listeners decide who they choose for me, so we'll
- 1:08:20Speaker 2: see what happens next.
- 1:08:21Speaker 4: Sounds good to me, Bang on me, Go ahead, A Jane.
- 1:08:25Speaker 1: Nico Nico Nico. I don't know, man, it sounds like
- 1:08:30Speaker 1: you signed up for a cult of some.
- 1:08:32Speaker 4: Story tam would be safe. So I got a feeling
- 1:08:36Speaker 4: the agent is gonna be on my side. The rest
- 1:08:39Speaker 4: of the guys have done, so go ahead. And picked
- 1:08:41Speaker 4: your choice. I'll be ready when you you know, when
- 1:08:43Speaker 4: you call them already.
- 1:08:45Speaker 2: All right, all right, we appreciate you.
- 1:08:52Speaker 1: All right, y'all, we are back from break and this
- 1:08:56Speaker 1: week's episode is for the love of tam Bank. All Right, y'all,
- 1:09:00Speaker 1: we are back from break in. This week's episode is
- 1:09:05Speaker 1: for the love of Tam Bamon. We are back with
- 1:09:07Speaker 1: our third contestant, mister Willie.
- 1:09:11Speaker 2: What's your last name?
- 1:09:13Speaker 5: Williams?
- 1:09:14Speaker 1: Williams, Willie Williams.
- 1:09:17Speaker 2: Willy Williams is crazy.
- 1:09:20Speaker 1: It's easy.
- 1:09:21Speaker 5: Yeah, don't forget it. Don't forget it.
- 1:09:25Speaker 2: Tell us a little bit about yourself, WILLI.
- 1:09:27Speaker 5: Oh, okay, cool. You know, I'm forty years old, I'm
- 1:09:31Speaker 5: out of Georgia. I'm in it prior military. I have
- 1:09:38Speaker 5: one child, you know, right now, just living enjoying life,
- 1:09:42Speaker 5: looking for my lady.
- 1:09:43Speaker 4: You know what I mean?
- 1:09:44Speaker 2: Okay, interesting, Willie? All right?
- 1:09:47Speaker 1: Are you? Are you looking to be married within the
- 1:09:49Speaker 1: next four to five with in the next one to
- 1:09:53Speaker 1: two years. Let's just feed this up a bit, you know,
- 1:09:55Speaker 1: because we forty.
- 1:09:56Speaker 5: Yeah, absolutely absolutely, I think you know right now? Yeah, yeah,
- 1:10:00Speaker 5: I'm forty for sure. I'm I'm just real intentional, you know,
- 1:10:04Speaker 5: my next few moves are very intentional. So I would
- 1:10:07Speaker 5: love for it to turn out in that situation. I
- 1:10:10Speaker 5: don't want to rush nothing, but yeah, it's very possible.
- 1:10:13Speaker 5: I could be married if I find that right person.
- 1:10:16Speaker 5: You know, if Tam Bam ought to act right, we
- 1:10:18Speaker 5: might be able to do that.
- 1:10:20Speaker 2: You know, I know how to act, okay, actually taking
- 1:10:23Speaker 2: acting classes right now.
- 1:10:25Speaker 5: Yeah, I believe it.
- 1:10:31Speaker 1: What's what's your love language? I know a lot of
- 1:10:33Speaker 1: people have a combination of them, but what uh what
- 1:10:36Speaker 1: would you say your love languages?
- 1:10:38Speaker 5: You know, I do like physical touch, you know, that's
- 1:10:42Speaker 5: that's always a plus. You know, I don't know, man,
- 1:10:47Speaker 5: I would say yeah, but I mean for me, you know,
- 1:10:49Speaker 5: I don't want to just stick to what people say.
- 1:10:51Speaker 5: I think for me, a real big is communication. You know,
- 1:10:54Speaker 5: we could talk through a lot of stuff like that's
- 1:10:56Speaker 5: important to me because it, uh, if we choose each other,
- 1:11:00Speaker 5: that we choose each other, but we can't communicate, it's
- 1:11:02Speaker 5: a problem. So you know, effectively communicating, that's my that's
- 1:11:06Speaker 5: my love language.
- 1:11:08Speaker 2: What are your deal breakers, Willie?
- 1:11:11Speaker 5: Oh? My deal breakers?
- 1:11:13Speaker 2: Uh?
- 1:11:15Speaker 5: Yeah, So a woman that doesn't have emotional intelligence, you know,
- 1:11:19Speaker 5: she gets all upset and no accountability. It's real big
- 1:11:23Speaker 5: no accountability. That's just that sucks, you know what I'm saying,
- 1:11:26Speaker 5: Like you always feel like you have fault. You know,
- 1:11:29Speaker 5: that's not that's that's why.
- 1:11:31Speaker 1: So you experienced a lot in your previous relationships.
- 1:11:34Speaker 5: Yeah, that's something I experienced a lot of women period.
- 1:11:37Speaker 5: To be honest, you know, taking is a winner. But yeah,
- 1:11:48Speaker 5: na I think and then if she's not funny, you know,
- 1:11:53Speaker 5: I need that to be able to sit back and laugh.
- 1:11:55Speaker 5: So she ain't funny. She always serious, taking these jokes
- 1:11:59Speaker 5: too serious, and we ain't gonna make it. To be honest,
- 1:12:02Speaker 5: we ain't gonna make it.
- 1:12:04Speaker 2: That's that's actually important to me too.
- 1:12:06Speaker 1: Okay, Yeah, but you know what sometimes with women, like
- 1:12:10Speaker 1: the jokes was funny until they became your girl. Yeah,
- 1:12:13Speaker 1: your jokes ain't funny no more.
- 1:12:14Speaker 5: That's always my problem, okay, Jay always and that's what
- 1:12:18Speaker 5: I don't like, you know. So we'll see how that
- 1:12:21Speaker 5: works out. We have to give it back to the street.
- 1:12:24Speaker 5: She getting these attitudes. We had to get up out
- 1:12:28Speaker 5: of here.
- 1:12:29Speaker 2: What's your hitting talent?
- 1:12:30Speaker 5: Will uh? I could do the helicopter.
- 1:12:37Speaker 1: Na, I mean I didn't act the last I kind
- 1:12:42Speaker 1: of did, but we didn't get any visual.
- 1:12:46Speaker 5: I play a couple of instruments. I play a couple
- 1:12:48Speaker 5: of instruments. You know, I don't know that's really hidden,
- 1:12:50Speaker 5: but you know that's my thing.
- 1:12:51Speaker 2: I like to play a couple of instruments.
- 1:12:53Speaker 1: Yeah, women, musicians.
- 1:12:57Speaker 5: What's hey say that again?
- 1:13:00Speaker 2: What's your perfect date idea? Like, if you were taking out,
- 1:13:03Speaker 2: where would you want to take me?
- 1:13:06Speaker 5: I think it would be, you know, let's see, I
- 1:13:09Speaker 5: would I would like to go get something to eat, obviously,
- 1:13:12Speaker 5: you know, let's get that out the gate, get some
- 1:13:15Speaker 5: real nice, real nice plate, and then I would think, uh,
- 1:13:20Speaker 5: I want to do a comedy show. I think a
- 1:13:21Speaker 5: comedy show would be pretty dope, sit back and have
- 1:13:24Speaker 5: some good laughs, and then uh ended with a couple
- 1:13:27Speaker 5: of drinks somewhere in the lounge, you know, and then
- 1:13:30Speaker 5: at the end of the night, you know, a little cuddle,
- 1:13:32Speaker 5: nothing crazy, you know, a couple of booty rubs in
- 1:13:36Speaker 5: the night with we ain't got to do too much
- 1:13:38Speaker 5: after that.
- 1:13:41Speaker 1: Okay, what's what's your favorite black movie couple? And why?
- 1:13:49Speaker 5: Hmmm? Well, you know I got too because one is
- 1:13:54Speaker 5: a movie I'm gonna just rock with, you know, I
- 1:13:55Speaker 5: gotta rock with Love Jones. You know what I'm saying. Okay,
- 1:13:59Speaker 5: that's my first one and the second one. I'm gonna
- 1:14:01Speaker 5: have to say. It's not a movie, but it's a show.
- 1:14:03Speaker 5: I'm gonna say, Issa and Lawrence from Insecure rock with them.
- 1:14:08Speaker 5: You know, it's ups and downs. I think that's the
- 1:14:10Speaker 5: closest thing to the modern love with you know, social
- 1:14:14Speaker 5: media and all that shit included. You know, I think
- 1:14:17Speaker 5: that one. I like that one. I like them too.
- 1:14:20Speaker 2: Okay, did you say you wanted more kids?
- 1:14:22Speaker 5: What's y'all's favorite black couples.
- 1:14:25Speaker 1: I mean I would say Love Jones too, you know,
- 1:14:28Speaker 1: because I just feel like that's a lot of people's story.
- 1:14:30Speaker 1: It's just that situation, ship complicated, you know what I'm
- 1:14:37Speaker 1: saying back and forth?
- 1:14:39Speaker 2: Yeah, a lot of people.
- 1:14:41Speaker 1: I mean, that's it's a little toxic. And I think
- 1:14:43Speaker 1: that people like toxicity and they don't want to admit
- 1:14:45Speaker 1: to it though. It's like a sixth love language. A
- 1:14:48Speaker 1: lot a lot of people just don't recognize they actually like,
- 1:14:52Speaker 1: we don't like it too easy, gotta be a little
- 1:14:54Speaker 1: little thunder, Yeah for sure.
- 1:14:57Speaker 2: I don't know if that's mine. If I don't be honest,
- 1:15:01Speaker 2: they're not black people. The notebook.
- 1:15:04Speaker 5: Okay, but.
- 1:15:07Speaker 2: It's such a beautiful story. He just loved her so much,
- 1:15:09Speaker 2: their whole life to the end. You know, it was
- 1:15:12Speaker 2: a beautiful story. It had his ups and downs too.
- 1:15:15Speaker 2: You know.
- 1:15:15Speaker 1: Maybe maybe he can bring you to Charleston to go
- 1:15:18Speaker 1: to Cypress Garden. You know that that's that uh water scene.
- 1:15:22Speaker 2: Mm hmm, that's where it was. Are you familiar with
- 1:15:25Speaker 2: South Carolina.
- 1:15:26Speaker 5: Willie, No, I mean not really. I try to stay
- 1:15:31Speaker 5: from that area, but I'll pull.
- 1:15:32Speaker 1: Up for you, you know, date location. Okay, I'm just
- 1:15:35Speaker 1: giving you some hints. Big Wooly.
- 1:15:37Speaker 5: I appreciate and appreciate the oop. I appreciate that.
- 1:15:43Speaker 2: What do you think how do you handle disagreements?
- 1:15:48Speaker 5: That's a good question. Like I said, I think communication
- 1:15:52Speaker 5: is huge, So uh, I would want to definitely, like,
- 1:15:56Speaker 5: we need to get to the route. But whatever it is,
- 1:15:58Speaker 5: that's number one. You might be lashing out because it's
- 1:16:02Speaker 5: something else from last week and it's reminded of or
- 1:16:05Speaker 5: something like that that we didn't speak about. So I
- 1:16:08Speaker 5: want to sit down and get to the route. And
- 1:16:10Speaker 5: I think once we actually put it on the table,
- 1:16:13Speaker 5: you tell me how you feeling. I'll tell you why
- 1:16:15Speaker 5: I feel a certain way about this. I think we
- 1:16:16Speaker 5: should be able to move on, you know, and I
- 1:16:19Speaker 5: think it should be something that lingers, because then it
- 1:16:22Speaker 5: turns into more. You know, let's just get it over
- 1:16:25Speaker 5: and knock it out, go to bed angry. Well, you know,
- 1:16:30Speaker 5: I mean, I don't know if it's a you know,
- 1:16:35Speaker 5: everybody says that I don't want to go to bed angry,
- 1:16:37Speaker 5: but sometimes, you know, you might need a couple of
- 1:16:39Speaker 5: extra hours before we actually had this conversation because of
- 1:16:42Speaker 5: a we might be still fuming over it, and you know,
- 1:16:46Speaker 5: it could be a misunderstanding. But if we need to
- 1:16:50Speaker 5: go to bed, you know, as long as I get
- 1:16:52Speaker 5: to hold you, you know you ain't you can be upset.
- 1:16:54Speaker 5: As long as I can hold you, we'll we'll talk
- 1:16:56Speaker 5: about it in the morning.
- 1:16:57Speaker 2: So I gotta say this. Really, if I'm said, please.
- 1:17:00Speaker 5: Don't touch me, oh you don't want me to touch.
- 1:17:03Speaker 2: You, I'm gonna want you to touch me.
- 1:17:05Speaker 5: You don't want me to touch you for sure?
- 1:17:07Speaker 2: Okay?
- 1:17:07Speaker 1: So are you are you to type like for me?
- 1:17:09Speaker 1: Like I need to calm down first before we can
- 1:17:12Speaker 1: have the station. But then some people want to do
- 1:17:14Speaker 1: it right now, Like, no, you can't walk away with
- 1:17:16Speaker 1: yes right now.
- 1:17:17Speaker 5: Yes. See that's what I'm saying. See that's aggressive, Like
- 1:17:19Speaker 5: that's what I mean. I would like I'll let it sit.
- 1:17:22Speaker 5: But I don't want you walking around slamming doors, you know,
- 1:17:25Speaker 5: walking like doing all that shit either, you know, So
- 1:17:27Speaker 5: let's sit down and if you need a minute, I'll
- 1:17:29Speaker 5: give you a minute, you know, sit down and watch
- 1:17:31Speaker 5: you some housewives. I don't know what you're watching these days,
- 1:17:34Speaker 5: you know, they take get your mind right, and then uh,
- 1:17:37Speaker 5: you know, come back with some food or something to
- 1:17:39Speaker 5: sit back and eat, and you know, then I talk
- 1:17:43Speaker 5: with you gently. You know, you got to start it
- 1:17:45Speaker 5: out like that. I'll set the tone and see how.
- 1:17:46Speaker 1: You respond and into the mask. Did you say you
- 1:17:49Speaker 1: wanted more kids?
- 1:17:51Speaker 5: Uh, I'm open to it. M Okay, you know I'm
- 1:17:56Speaker 5: open to it. I wouldn't say yes to say no.
- 1:18:00Speaker 5: You know, I think we got to be on the
- 1:18:01Speaker 5: same page with that because right now I'm thinking legacy.
- 1:18:04Speaker 5: You know, I'm business minded. So if if it happens,
- 1:18:09Speaker 5: it happens. If not, you know, we'll we'll see what happens.
- 1:18:13Speaker 2: What's your go to karaoke song?
- 1:18:16Speaker 7: Uh?
- 1:18:17Speaker 5: South side, little kiky on what.
- 1:18:30Speaker 4: Snip it?
- 1:18:33Speaker 5: When y'all hear it, get up and do it.
- 1:18:38Speaker 1: If an ex had to describe you in one sentence,
- 1:18:41Speaker 1: what do you think or what would you say? They
- 1:18:43Speaker 1: would actually say about you?
- 1:18:45Speaker 5: Ship It depends on the X, but so you know,
- 1:18:53Speaker 5: I would think they would say I was funny. You know,
- 1:18:56Speaker 5: I'm a provider, you know, a pleaser, okay, and heads
- 1:19:05Speaker 5: charl you know it might be a little stubborn sometimes,
- 1:19:07Speaker 5: So I think those are big things they would say.
- 1:19:11Speaker 2: Okay, what one quality you admire most in other people?
- 1:19:20Speaker 4: Uh?
- 1:19:20Speaker 5: These days, if somebody can just you know, being kind
- 1:19:23Speaker 5: you know, like I guess like because you know, everybody's
- 1:19:26Speaker 5: having a different kind of day. So if I run
- 1:19:28Speaker 5: to somebody and you just got an attitude or you
- 1:19:30Speaker 5: know you're coming off nasty, like you just never know
- 1:19:34Speaker 5: who you're talking to. So you know, if I'm walking
- 1:19:35Speaker 5: with you, and especially my lady, we're out somewhere, I've
- 1:19:39Speaker 5: been with people that just got a little like like
- 1:19:43Speaker 5: a little snap to them. Aunt of time talking to people.
- 1:19:46Speaker 5: You know, I don't like ther so uh, being kind
- 1:19:49Speaker 5: of people because you know, you put out what you
- 1:19:52Speaker 5: want in return. So that's what I like.
- 1:19:54Speaker 1: So would you say that's like a green flag that
- 1:19:56Speaker 1: would like make you instantly? Yeah, you're you're absolute person passion.
- 1:20:01Speaker 5: Yeah, if she's people are smile when they see her
- 1:20:04Speaker 5: and you know, because of her energy, and that makes me,
- 1:20:07Speaker 5: you know, want to be around them more too.
- 1:20:10Speaker 2: So Willie, what is it about me that you liked
- 1:20:12Speaker 2: that made you want to participate in this?
- 1:20:14Speaker 5: You know, I mean, you know, first off, I was
- 1:20:16Speaker 5: physical is already there, beautiful, you have a very beautiful smile,
- 1:20:21Speaker 5: you know from what I've seen on the shows and her.
- 1:20:26Speaker 5: You know, you like to make jokes, you know, and
- 1:20:29Speaker 5: I can help you with that. I think I can
- 1:20:31Speaker 5: help you touch up some of these jokes, you know
- 1:20:33Speaker 5: what I'm saying, which is not wrong with that, but uh,
- 1:20:36Speaker 5: those things stood out to me, you know what I'm saying.
- 1:20:38Speaker 5: Black and beautiful, you know, and you do got a
- 1:20:41Speaker 5: little you know, you got some cheeks back there as well. Absolutely,
- 1:20:48Speaker 5: absolutely there all positive things, but you know that's from
- 1:20:52Speaker 5: from Afar. I have to see what it's like in
- 1:20:54Speaker 5: real life as far as you as a person. So
- 1:20:58Speaker 5: that's what peap my interest.
- 1:21:02Speaker 2: Thank you Willie for noticing m.
- 1:21:06Speaker 1: Thank you for noticing this ass.
- 1:21:09Speaker 2: I was talking about my smile, ye, smile, absolutely all right,
- 1:21:17Speaker 2: if you were stranded on a desert island, a deserted island,
- 1:21:20Speaker 2: and you could bring only three things, what would they be?
- 1:21:26Speaker 5: And by myself.
- 1:21:29Speaker 1: Know if y'all were stranded, you and town.
- 1:21:33Speaker 5: Mm hm oh that's a good question.
- 1:21:36Speaker 2: Mm.
- 1:21:39Speaker 1: We're trying to see if you're a nigga who knew
- 1:21:41Speaker 1: how to chop. Would Okay?
- 1:21:47Speaker 2: Uh, I'm gonna tell you my three things so then
- 1:21:49Speaker 2: you can base yours off of what I'm already bringing.
- 1:21:52Speaker 2: All right, you bring some pussy, I'm joking.
- 1:21:55Speaker 5: All right, you got to stay warming, and I got
- 1:21:59Speaker 5: to stay warm, and I.
- 1:22:00Speaker 2: I'm gonna bring a lighter. We need fire, all right,
- 1:22:04Speaker 2: for sure because if we boil any water, we can
- 1:22:07Speaker 2: survive off of it. And the cell phone beach, we
- 1:22:12Speaker 2: gotta calls somebody to get us out of here.
- 1:22:15Speaker 5: Yeah, for sure. Uh yeah, I would definitely bring a knife,
- 1:22:20Speaker 5: you know what I'm saying, so we can be at
- 1:22:22Speaker 5: a chop. Like you said, I need to you know,
- 1:22:24Speaker 5: ax or something to get be able to build something
- 1:22:26Speaker 5: for us that's off the rip.
- 1:22:27Speaker 3: Uh.
- 1:22:28Speaker 5: You already got the fire, so I'm gonna have to.
- 1:22:31Speaker 5: I'm gonna bring a gun, you know, just in case
- 1:22:33Speaker 5: something else I need. I got a rifle. I'm ready
- 1:22:36Speaker 5: to go, just in case we need to shoot something.
- 1:22:38Speaker 5: I ain't really trying to chase no food down, you know,
- 1:22:40Speaker 5: I'm trying to shoot it down and let you cook it.
- 1:22:43Speaker 5: And then, uh, I'm gonna bring a blanket. You know
- 1:22:46Speaker 5: what I'm saying. That's a thorough So when I build
- 1:22:48Speaker 5: this little tent, we could be you know, we can
- 1:22:51Speaker 5: be bundled up after you cook for us.
- 1:22:54Speaker 1: Okay, so he's in traditional roles. You know you're you're
- 1:22:57Speaker 1: gonna be good.
- 1:22:58Speaker 2: Yeah, let me know. I'm gonna cook. But that's fine.
- 1:23:01Speaker 5: I don't mind, man, Absolutely, we'll be all right.
- 1:23:05Speaker 1: Well, my last question is what is black love to you?
- 1:23:15Speaker 5: Black love to me is just mandatory, you know. Uh.
- 1:23:18Speaker 5: I think that, Uh it's how we'll like prevail in
- 1:23:23Speaker 5: the years to come. I think it's so mandatory. It's
- 1:23:25Speaker 5: like as far as legacy, not just individual just legacy
- 1:23:30Speaker 5: as a whole for black people. You know, when I
- 1:23:33Speaker 5: talk to a lot of friends, now, there's so many
- 1:23:35Speaker 5: of us that aren't married, you know, or a lot
- 1:23:40Speaker 5: of us don't even want to be married, you know.
- 1:23:41Speaker 5: So I know that if I think about just black wealth,
- 1:23:47Speaker 5: I think that's a key and a key component for
- 1:23:51Speaker 5: us in the future. But also I just think it's
- 1:23:54Speaker 5: just like, you know, just black love just looks so good.
- 1:23:57Speaker 5: If it looks like it's it's just you know, I
- 1:23:59Speaker 5: ain't been in it so long, but it's just it's
- 1:24:02Speaker 5: just where I want to be.
- 1:24:03Speaker 7: You know.
- 1:24:03Speaker 5: It feels like home when I'm in there. It's like, oh, yeah,
- 1:24:06Speaker 5: I'm good, this is this is a good feeling.
- 1:24:09Speaker 2: How long ago was your last relationship?
- 1:24:11Speaker 5: Man, it's been a while, you know, maybe it's you know,
- 1:24:14Speaker 5: like maybe like six years. You know, she.
- 1:24:16Speaker 1: Asian or something. Was she outside of the community, she
- 1:24:19Speaker 1: was born, she was one.
- 1:24:21Speaker 2: If you ever dated outside of the community, Uh yeah, yeah.
- 1:24:26Speaker 1: I have better.
- 1:24:28Speaker 5: Oh, I think that's on an individual basis. You know
- 1:24:33Speaker 5: what I'm saying.
- 1:24:35Speaker 1: You just got that fire, Okay, I heard it was
- 1:24:38Speaker 1: different gut, like a little curve to it or something.
- 1:24:40Speaker 5: Yeah, they got they got that bush too. They got
- 1:24:42Speaker 5: a different kind of bush. It's thick as hell. Yeah,
- 1:24:49Speaker 5: it's a lot going on down here.
- 1:24:51Speaker 2: Relaxingly, come there.
- 1:24:53Speaker 5: Yeah, she got be going out memory life, right, just tell.
- 1:25:00Speaker 2: Us one last thing that you would want us to remember.
- 1:25:04Speaker 2: You buy our listeners to vote for you.
- 1:25:07Speaker 5: Oh oh, they're voting over here, all right. I mean
- 1:25:12Speaker 5: I'm clearly the choice. I'm the one, you know. It's
- 1:25:15Speaker 5: these other dudes. They cool, They kind of the dude
- 1:25:17Speaker 5: you like you. Oh yeah, he was nice, but he
- 1:25:20Speaker 5: really didn't leave that effect on me. That's that's what
- 1:25:22Speaker 5: WILLI is gonna do. You know what I'm saying, Big Daddy,
- 1:25:25Speaker 5: Willie is coming through. Baby, I got you. You know
- 1:25:27Speaker 5: what I'm saying. Nah, But really, it's just gonna be
- 1:25:31Speaker 5: a good time. It's gonna be a great life. It's
- 1:25:33Speaker 5: gonna be the life that you really dreamt about. You
- 1:25:35Speaker 5: know what I'm saying.
- 1:25:36Speaker 1: That's come on, Willie. Okay, we know them dreams. You
- 1:25:40Speaker 1: know we love fairy.
- 1:25:41Speaker 5: Tales absolutely absolutely.
- 1:25:44Speaker 1: This is amazing.
- 1:25:50Speaker 5: Thank you, will all right, Well listen, y'all have a
- 1:25:52Speaker 5: great day.
- 1:25:53Speaker 1: Beautiful you for joining.
- 1:25:57Speaker 2: Yeah, that was so much fun. You're all right, that
- 1:26:00Speaker 2: was fun. I did enjoy it, and for the most part,
- 1:26:05Speaker 2: all of them seem okay. I mean that middle one
- 1:26:08Speaker 2: was a little different, but all of them, like, you know,
- 1:26:13Speaker 2: nice guys.
- 1:26:15Speaker 1: Yeah, I uh I actually like, Yeah, number two, I
- 1:26:22Speaker 1: don't know about that dude. Man, he just sellbody your
- 1:26:24Speaker 1: eyes and the jammis one somewhere in the Bronx. It
- 1:26:27Speaker 1: doesn't sound appeasing.
- 1:26:31Speaker 2: Yeah, I know he's gonna fill me up with kids
- 1:26:33Speaker 2: and then leave me. Yes, that's what I think. I
- 1:26:36Speaker 2: don't know. But contested one and three.
- 1:26:40Speaker 1: They were pretty nice. Now, so I think our listeners
- 1:26:44Speaker 1: they're gonna have a tough time deciding. I don't know.
- 1:26:47Speaker 1: I don't know which one I would pick for you.
- 1:26:50Speaker 1: They both sound pretty good though.
- 1:26:52Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe I just go out with all three of them.
- 1:26:55Speaker 2: No listen recording. Everybody picked, y'all. So we're gonna put
- 1:27:01Speaker 2: the post up. It should be up by the time
- 1:27:03Speaker 2: you've heard this. Go ahead and slide in the d
- 1:27:07Speaker 2: MS and tell us who is it? Is it Jordan's,
- 1:27:09Speaker 2: is it Nico or is it Willie?
- 1:27:13Speaker 1: Thank God me, big Wille Big You saw that post
- 1:27:18Speaker 1: was like Niggain't nobody ever called you? LA said no
- 1:27:24Speaker 1: nigga ever never. But I cannot wait, okay for the
- 1:27:29Speaker 1: results for today's show. Anyway, you guys, we gotta do
- 1:27:34Speaker 1: this more often. If you don't. If these these guys
- 1:27:36Speaker 1: don't work out. We might have to do this quarterly
- 1:27:39Speaker 1: until you get you a nigga.
- 1:27:41Speaker 2: Right and now just gonna go on a date and
- 1:27:43Speaker 2: see how it goes. You know this is fun though,
- 1:27:47Speaker 2: are y'all? Oh, let me tell y'all this. I can't
- 1:27:51Speaker 2: see any of these men. I can't see them, So
- 1:27:55Speaker 2: it's just based off of what they're saying, you know.
- 1:27:58Speaker 2: So y'all getting this say anything I'm getting. I know
- 1:28:01Speaker 2: you're gonna be like, we can't see these niggas either,
- 1:28:03Speaker 2: can I? So I see them, AJ seed them. I
- 1:28:06Speaker 2: haven't seen them, but I didn't want it to be
- 1:28:09Speaker 2: just about or even about how they look. I wanted
- 1:28:12Speaker 2: to be about who they are.
- 1:28:14Speaker 1: So oh, what is that? Love us blind? Love us blind,
- 1:28:18Speaker 1: for the love of Tam Bam, for the love of
- 1:28:21Speaker 1: Tam Bam, the Love is Blind edition period.
- 1:28:24Speaker 2: So let's see all.
- 1:28:26Speaker 1: Right, Y'allso if you enjoyed this episode, y'all, tune in
- 1:28:28Speaker 1: every Thursday on a Black effect Ieheart radio app or
- 1:28:31Speaker 1: wherever you get your podcasts. This is your co host
- 1:28:34Speaker 1: AJ Holiday two point zero on Instagrams kicking Tam and
- 1:28:39Speaker 1: it's Tam Bam.
- 1:28:40Speaker 2: And even if I don't love any of these guys.
- 1:28:42Speaker 2: I love y'all. I love y'all, love.
- 1:28:44Speaker 1: Them too, You love all other strangers.
- 1:28:46Speaker 2: Just love the no I mean if I don't like,
- 1:28:48Speaker 2: fall in love, if I fall in love with them,
- 1:28:52Speaker 2: I love you guys. I'm in love with y'all already.
- 1:28:55Speaker 2: Happy Valentine's Day.
- 1:28:57Speaker 1: Happy Valentine's Day. We hope y'all bitches listen. Hopefully our
- 1:29:01Speaker 1: niggas ain't waste all any money on some poulais. You
- 1:29:03Speaker 1: saw young t t.
- 1:29:06Speaker 2: This remember speaking now.
- 1:29:10Speaker 1: Uh. It never holds your heart.
- 1:29:14Speaker 2: Never holds your heart.
- 1:29:17Speaker 1: This is by