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Why You Should Start Speaking A Blessing Over Your Kids Every Day (And How To Do It) with Annalisa Barraza · The Family Teams Podcast

• 0:00
  I think for one, raising daughters and being a mother, the emotional aspect behind our identity is really strong. So what we feel tends to be what we are if we're not grounded in truth and we're not grounded in Christ. And the emotions that we feel towards a circumstance or an experience have a lot of control over who we are.
• 0:25
  Hi, welcome to the Family Teams Podcast. Our goal here is to help your family become a multi-generational team on mission by providing you with biblically rooted concepts, tools, and rhythms. Your hosts are Jeremy Pryor and Jefferson Bethke, and we can't wait to chat about all things family. Thank you.
• 0:44
  Hey everybody, welcome back to the podcast. We're really excited to have you guys on this episode where we get to feature Annalisa Barraza in the book that she has recently published. It's called, You Are Because He Is, Speaking the Life, Death, and Resurrection of Jesus Over Our Children. And there are several really amazing things about Annalisa and the connection through family teams. One of them is that she has been working for us for, how long has it been, Annalisa?
• 1:14
  Four years, almost five. Wow, yes. Almost five years, almost from the inception of this version of Family Teams. Annalisa's been helping us with everything you can possibly imagine. Lots of events. We've got to do major events we've been able to put on. Lots of customer service, lots of stuff behind the scenes. And so we're really excited to get to dive into this part of Annalisa's talent stack, which is...
• 1:41
  Very considerable. She has written an awesome book, and we're really excited to get you guys exposed to it. And I love, Annalisa, just how this idea of speaking blessing over our children, really crafting language for them, for their identity. So April and I are wanting to just explore a little bit, first of all, where the idea for the book came from. I'd love for you to just kind of walk through. What's the big picture of the book? And then we can get into the story a little bit.
• 2:11
  Yeah, for sure. So this book was birthed from a young mom, me. I was 23 when we had our oldest, and she's about to turn 11. But as a young mom navigating motherhood for the first time, and I was really overwhelmed, and I didn't have this foundation of really
• 2:31
  who I was. And I had kind of bits and pieces that have been given out to me through my parents and our family. But really the whole picture to raise girls in this, I didn't have. And I was struggling in that. And one night I just was like, you know what? I'm going to say to you what I need to be said to me right now. And I'm just going...
• 2:55
  to think that the Lord is going to do these things and give this to me too. And so I spoke these things to our oldest and I have never stopped. And so we have four girls now and I've never stopped saying these things to them. And over time, the Lord would refine what I was saying. He would speak truth through his word of where this comes from and why I can speak these things in truth.
• 3:23
  and stand on these things. And I've grown to own them. And so this book is really the kind of product of that and the prayer and the explanation to our girls as they get older, like, hey, we say this to you every day, but this is why, and this is where it comes from. So good. That's really interesting. The reality is that when you start having children,
• 3:47
  it's almost like you have a whole nother opportunity to form your identity. You know, it's like you get to dive into what are the things that I know, especially I think this is one of the most hidden or underrated elements of mothering and fathering is having a deep empathy for yourself as a child at the same period and what you needed. The people that have a really...
• 4:12
  close connection with that. Really? Like they're able to remember, they're able to give that to their children. And I love that you're like, okay, this, what would I have spiritually needed at this stage? Okay. Let me craft that specifically for you. And you know, the double blessing is going to be that I will also be receiving that as well. So, and that's awesome. April, I'm curious, like, what do you think about that? Like your thoughts on that?
• 4:35
  Yeah, I feel like the act of speaking truth over your children is so powerful. And because we can also speak death over them. We have a choice of how we use our words, and they greatly impact us.
• 4:50
  children and we've been greatly impacted by what we were told or what we've what's been spoken over us and so I think and and we'll get into specifically some of the the um blessings that you spoke over your kid or speak over your kids but I think that you know that element of needing to believe it yourself is so true like when when you have kids it takes that kind of thing to the
• 5:15
  you know, maybe I don't like to eat vegetables, but am I going to let my kids go through life without eating vegetables? I'm gonna have to rethink that, you know? So it's like, we think about that with food and we think about that with maybe sporting activities or something like that. But do we think about these deeper like character traits or identity blessings? So I think it's really powerful tool and a mother's tool belt.
• 5:40
  Yeah, man. Well, Annalise, I'd love you to speak a little bit maybe to the big picture behind the book. This idea of why is identity so important, particularly for daughters? I've certainly seen that. We have four daughters. So it seems like a uniquely...
• 6:00
  critical thing to ground uh young daughters in their true identity um but i'd love for you to speak to yeah why why why do you think that is and and as you think about your childhood and what you're doing with your daughters like help us understand how you came to to really see the importance of identity
• 6:21
  Yeah, I think for one, raising daughters and being a mother, the emotional aspect behind our identity is really strong. So what we feel tends to be what we are if we're not grounded in truth and we're not grounded in Christ. And the emotions that we feel towards a circumstance or an experience have a lot of control over who we are.
• 6:47
  And I experienced that firsthand as a new mom, right? Thrown out in the trenches of newborn life and realizing that. And I think that's probably looking back at it. That is probably why I had this really big reflection of I have no idea who I am because you're feeling all of these emotions you're experiencing. Yeah.
• 7:10
  way crazy hormone levels and it's all over the place. And so when my emotions were all over the place, all of a sudden my identity was all over the place.
• 7:20
  And so I think raising daughters, that's really important. Like, I want them to understand that you're going to feel certain ways in certain circumstances. And while our feelings and emotions are vehicles that can point us towards the truth, they don't dictate the truth and they don't dictate who we are. And so I really wanted to give them this idea.
• 7:43
  foundation of you can feel this in a moment, but it doesn't mean that's who you are. Like you can feel scared and you can feel broken and you can feel these things and that's okay, but it does not dictate your identity. Christ does.
• 8:01
  Man, yes, that is so powerful. It seems like the gospel and the culture are going in opposite directions in this area. So I think because there is such a lack of identity, people aren't getting their identity from their family. They're not getting their identity, you know, from their gender.
• 8:21
  They're not getting their identity from their faith. And so they're walking around wondering constantly who they are. But inside of them erupts these incredibly authentic, unbidden reactions emotionally. And they're being told to look inside to find out who you truly are. And what they find are unbidden emotions, unbidden desires.
• 8:49
  And it becomes virtually impossible for somebody to not identify with those emotions and desires if they're trying to find an authentic grounding for their identity. And they're being told the only way to discover that is within. And so now you've completely trapped a young woman.
• 9:08
  into believing she is her emotions, right? And that reality, I think, then is like a prison. So, because how do you really escape from that? The fact that these emotions are unbidden doesn't necessarily mean that they're a deeper part of your identity, but you do have to then have something somewhere else to find that. Otherwise, I don't know how you avoid this trap. So yeah, I'm curious to have what either of you think about
• 9:38
  How has this challenge kind of become like more intense for young women today?
• 9:46
  I mean, I would say I just keep thinking about my dad because he was very into this. When I was a teenager, it felt like kind of a new thing that was coming out that was like, you need to go and you need to find yourself. And he was so like, what? What are they talking about? What do you mean you need to find yourself? I'll tell you who you are. I can tell you who you are.
• 10:09
  And so he would take time to really kind of unpack it. And a lot of times it was through stories of our family. Like, this is where you come from. You're like your grandma in this way. I see your grandpa in you when you do this, you know? And so he was able to pass out on from like a familial identity kind of a thing. But I feel like what women are dealing with this day and age is so...
• 10:37
  the enemy's after us, you know? And so he's trying to attack our identities that are at the core, you know, like our gender, our even just like being a wife and being a mother, those roles are under attack. And to live these things out is to come against like societal norms, it seems like it's becoming. And so we're raising up arrows and,
• 11:04
  warriors. You know, our children are arrows in the hand of a warrior, whether they're a daughter or a son. And so what does that mean for a daughter? So I think that, you know, identity has, we're almost afraid to speak our identity, a female feminine identity over a daughter, because of where our society has been taking the feminist movement has taken us and all of that.
• 11:36
  Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. It's gotten a lot more challenging. Yeah. And at least I'm curious what your, how you experienced that or think through that.
• 11:45
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• 12:16
  Yeah, I would agree, April. And I think, too, especially hearing the story about your dad, the facade is that we, as in culture, right, culture doesn't want to be told who we are.
• 12:33
  And where Christ says, no, I can tell you who you are. But the reality of that facade is that someone is telling our kids who they are, whether it's culture or friends or their sports teams or the government. And all of these entities are speaking identity over all the children all the time, right, whatever they're exposed to. And so I think that's kind of,
• 12:59
  To really kind of hit that baseline, like, hey, we have to agree that there is identity being spoken over our kids, over us as mothers, over fathers, from lots of different places. So it's really as a mother...
• 13:14
  I want to speak identity over my children, over my daughters. I want my husband to speak identity over his daughters. And so I think that that kind of gets a lot of pushback. Like, oh, like you said, you have to let them figure it out. But they're really not figuring it out. They're hearing lots of other voices. And then they're piecing these different voices together. And all of a sudden that becomes their identity and that shaking ground. And I think the change in that is...
• 13:43
  your reactions and how you emotionally respond to things. So if you have this identity that is based in culture or society, you become your reactions or your responses, right? So now I am responding to a circumstance and that is now my identity, right? Now I am scared of X, Y, and Z. This puts me in a place of fear. So that is who I am.
• 14:10
  Whereas Christian identity and Jesus says the opposite. Like I, my reactions are controlled by my identity. Like this is my cornerstone. And so now I can respond and react accordingly to these circumstances that are put around me. And I think it's a shift that should be happening. Yes. That's really powerful.
• 14:34
  Yeah, I think it's such so good to call out that the very people who are saying, figure this out on your own, look inside, are feeling filling their minds and hearts with movies, stories, music, music, lyrics, marketing campaigns, advertisements, all kinds of messages to try to tell them who they are.
• 14:56
  And then when they find that these emotions are being conditioned by a lot of the things maybe they're seeing on social media or in these videos, or then it's, it's seen as authentic. It's like not exactly authentic. It's been, it's been deeply like ground into you.
• 15:13
  I think one of the things I think, especially as you're describing, Annalisa, like, okay, I'm having this fear come up inside of me. Is that who I am? Part of what I think you are given in the gospel and in the scriptures is like in Greek, they call it a telos, which is sort of like a...
• 15:33
  A purpose. Like you see what you're aiming for, what this is for. And so you think about like an infant, they're terrified of everything, right? Is that who they are? No, because you can see inside that infant, like we know who they are born to be. They're born to become. Mm-hmm.
• 15:49
  you know, a woman, a mother, and where they're going to be in maturity. And so if they identify with something, a fear that they have when they're two, that then they have when they're 30, that's not necessarily a good thing. But how would you know if you didn't think about
• 16:06
  what they were designed to become, who they were designed to become. Like what, what does that identity look like? What does it look like for them in, in their, in who God originally has created them to be. And so if you don't have divine revelation telling you what, what your telos is, what you're, what you're aiming at, what you're, what you're really becoming,
• 16:24
  then it does become impossible to know which of these emotions to identify with. Is this a childhood emotion? One of the things that Paul says is that when I was a child, I thought like a child. I lived like a child. I felt like a child. But when I became a man, I put aside childish things. He saw this clear distinction between what it was like to be a boy and a man. And it was critical to know the difference so that he could know what to throw off.
• 16:49
  But if you're never told what you are to be, what does it mean to be a godly woman or a godly mother? Then you don't know what is childish and what is a part of that ultimate identity that God is designing and is helping you become. And so it's not surprising with this kind of
• 17:09
  philosophy of life that people are kind of stuck in the past or stuck in a, in a kind of a very immature young version of themselves, um, because they don't know how to mature out of that. And so what we need is like some direction, blessing, clear, uh, identity markers for this. And so Annalise, it seems like, and I'd love for you to talk a little bit about kind of the strategy behind
• 17:33
  like how you put this book together. There's different, you know, qualities and, you know, maybe you can give some examples and how that works, like how having crafted, you know, specific language around these identities, how that works on someone.
• 17:48
  Yeah. Each chapter of Naguk is based on a word I say to the girls. So whether it's brave, worthy, whole, I want to talk about gentle too, because that came to mind as you were talking about this. I feel like that's a really good example of what you were saying, Jeremy. Yeah.
• 18:08
  But putting this book together, I pulled from experiences in Scripture and put them together and said, hey, these are some practical ways that you can live this out. Here are some practical ways to see the Scriptures come alive. And my goal for each chapter was to center it around the gospel. So if nothing else...
• 18:30
  after you're done with that chapter, you heard the gospel. If nothing else, because that's where our identity is, that's the center of it. And so when I was talking, I was like, Lord, if nothing else, if someone reads this, they get the gospel. And that was kind of the baseline for me. Yeah.
• 18:47
  But as you were talking, I think of, I wrote a chapter called Gentle, and one of the examples I give is when we were kids, we would have this huge Christmas Eve get-together at one of the aunts' houses. And I come from a Hispanic family, and so it was huge. And I don't know if any of you have, like, older Hispanic women friends or are in that community, but...
• 19:14
  They are loud and there's a lot of noise and there's a lot of banging going on. There's like really aggressive hugging. And I took that example and I turned it into the example of gentle, given the scriptures. Like you don't have to, you're not defined by those things. Those women were still very gentle to me. And they were still because there was identity that was rooted in Jesus. Yeah.
• 19:43
  And so I think that is a good example of how you can take something like, hey, you don't just because you are maybe a little more aggressive than the person next to you, than the woman next to you, or you parent different or you mother different and you don't want to own gentle relationships.
• 20:00
  Jesus gave us the very spirit that allows us to be gentle, that gives us that characteristic, which means that characteristic is not based on how hard my hugs are or how wowed I am.
• 20:16
  Yeah, so good. There is a feminine way to think about these things. And I think that, yeah, the problem, the reason why I think this is so difficult for modern women is that there has been this sort of cultural shift that's been created by feminism, which has seemed to be, hey, we're going to equalize men and women and require women to compete with women.
• 20:42
  and try to become, you know, with men to try to become a better man. And so a lot of these characteristics need to be nested inside of motherhood. And once they're inside of motherhood and sort of purged of sort of this androgynous nature, like, no, there is a female motherly way to express gentleness. And it's going to have a range that's unique within femininity.
• 21:08
  that gives tremendous freedom. You don't have to compete with men. You don't have to let men set the standard for what gentleness is. It doesn't exist necessarily within that spectrum. It's its own thing. And you see this in ancient cultures. I love that you're calling it out, Annalisa, like in a Hispanic culture where there hasn't really been infected with these kinds of ideas. You see it very uniquely lived out in that culture. And it isn't
• 21:32
  It isn't necessarily something that looks or feels, you know, both masculine and feminine. It's just the way that women, you know, the spectrum that is unique inside of motherhood or inside of femininity. And yeah, I think that when we're parenting, fathering and mothering daughters—
• 21:51
  For them to get to see that, that's such an incredible advantage, just to be able to be in a multi-generational family and see that whole spectrum within your family, to see the mothers and grandmothers and the way that they live out these character qualities. That's such a powerful picture. Well, I'd love to hear other examples too. I know that, April, you were kind of diving into Annalise's book, and I'm curious too for you if there's anything about
• 22:20
  this approach. And when you think about like, how, how might a mother use this? Cause it, one of the things I love about the book is it's, it's such a great tool. It's like this, this is, this helps you lead a daughter into the gospel in a very simple way. So how would you imagine a mother using this with her daughters?
• 22:39
  Well, I'm not sure it's just for daughters though, right, Annalisa? I mean, I know you only have daughters, but I do feel like you could use this for sons as well, at least the concept for sure. Maybe you would have different blessings for them, but I feel like just...
• 22:58
  My experience would tell me that Annalisa, 20 years from now, you would be able to write this, either write this book differently or write an additional book with what you've learned. And so I would encourage moms, like wherever you are right now.
• 23:18
  to be okay with it. Like there's not something you have to have figured out. You are figuring it out along the way and that's okay. So if you're, you know, if this is kind of a new concept for you, you're like, wait, my youngest is three. I haven't even done this. Like being, it's okay to start now. You know, I think the first time I ever even realized I was speaking identity over my kids
• 23:39
  Um, my youngest was probably seven or eight or something. Um, and so I had, I wasn't even thinking about it in that like, uh, format or something. And so speaking blessings, speaking words of truth, um, over them, I think is really powerful. And I know that some, sometimes that where I've entered into this with my kids is,
• 24:03
  in like spiritual battle, when they're doing like spiritual battle, sometimes what you're observing from them is not just like a behavior issue. You can tell there's something else going on and helping them get to the bottom of what that is. A lot of times it involves scripture reading and like speaking the truth, speaking the truth, speaking the truth. And so through that process, you find things in scripture, like Annalisa has some scriptures in here that are
• 24:28
  We'll back up what she is saying. So I'm not just like pulling this stuff out of the air. Like, I feel like you should think this. It's like we need to, you know, have scripture as our foundation for speaking the truth over our kids. Can I refer to the chapter Brave?
• 24:51
  We transition into that one. So it's your first one, right? First chapter? Yes. Chapter one. Yeah. Chapter one. I really like how, well, I really like that that is something that you thought to speak over your kids. And I think that, you know, one thing I'll say is like, as you, sometimes the behavior you're seeing in your kid is not.
• 25:19
  you know, brave, like you're seeing them cry out of fear. You're seeing them react out of something else. And so to say, you're brave, almost sounds like you're lying kind of because they're not like acting brave in the moment. And so that might feel, if you're not used to this idea, this concept, um,
• 25:38
  realizing that part of speaking the truth over them is like, that's part of what identity is. It's like, I'm speaking this over you because it is. It's not because of what you feel like right now in this moment. And so I like your, your chapters give examples of like falling down and getting a skinned knee or, um,
• 25:58
  I can't remember exactly some of the other ones right now, but just the idea of these practical things that you're dealing with when you have like a three-year-old and a four-year-old. So I really like how you do that. It brings it to life. But do you want to kind of unpack the brave? Like what you hear? Be sure to leave a rating and review for this podcast wherever you use streaming.
• 26:23
  Yeah, yeah, I'll unpack. I'll read a little bit. I have chosen a little part of it. I'll read a little bit and just give a little context because there are, I pull from examples of my own motherhood, but like you said, April, it's not just for children.
• 26:39
  kids, but it was also geared towards mothers. And I also pull from my childhood and from being raised by two incredible parents who just did everything they could to give me a beautiful life. And so examples they have done growing up too that I took as an adult right after the fact and was able to see, hey, that's a kingdom concept. That's identity. I'm not sure.
• 27:04
  um yeah i'll read the scripture that i use for brave this one's really close to my heart actually which is probably why it's chapter one they are they all are are all close to my heart but brave um specifically because i like i can close my eyes and remember the example i give in the book um like it was yesterday um but i'll read the scripture and then i'll talk a little bit about how we walk this with our girls practically
• 27:29
  And David said, 1 Samuel 17, verse 37.
• 27:46
  And I'm going to read an example I gave in the book for myself. I start with my kids and then I walk through because this also is geared for mothers. And if just you don't know who you are in Jesus. So I want to give that example. But a little bit of backstory. There was a time in my life when I was born.
• 28:05
  walking I was pregnant with our fifth child so our fourth girl right after having um our son who was born stillborn and so really believing that I was brave was really hard for me um for obvious reasons but that was really hard and so I want to set the stage because that's going to give you how I walk this out practically and how I walk this with our girls out practically and so I'm going to read you a little bit from the book.
• 28:34
  I'm going to give you my example right now in this moment, which if you keep reading, you'll get more insight on. He delivered me through the pregnancy of our oldest. He delivered me through the pregnancy of two more. And he will deliver me through the pregnancy of another. We can remember what our father brought us through and speak that truth in our moments of fear.
• 28:55
  The truth is that we don't have to live in that struggle or fear anymore because we have been delivered. We can remember how he delivered David, the shepherd, and the paw of the lion, the bear, and the Philistine, made him a king, and brought him to a place to allow our Messiah to come forth.
• 29:14
  That's just one example I use from Scripture. Really, I love making Scripture come to life. They're stories that should be coming to life for us. But really, the application is always kind of, how do I apply this? I want to be careful with how I apply it. But that one was very simple for the girls and I. To say, hey, David was facing Goliath and was terrified. And the first thing he does is like...
• 29:42
  recount how God saved him before. And so that can also be a strategy where we can own brave. I can recount what the Lord has delivered us from before and use that now to step into something very fearful that I'm facing now.
• 29:59
  So good, man. Yeah. I think, I think that it's so important that we understand how scripture is used to become kind of an architecture for the way that we think, the way we feel like this whole thing started with, you know, the fact that, you know, we, we have these, uh, identities that are being kind of thrust on us and how do you combat that? How do you make sure that what you're saying?
• 30:24
  receiving is clean, is from the Lord. And I think that that's the whole purpose of scripture. But what you just did, Annalisa, in that chapter was, you know, taking directly these scriptures and the patterns that they're describing and bringing them into your life.
• 30:40
  you know, weaving them into your story and then giving that to yourself and to your children. You know, that process of making scripture kind of like bringing it into that thing that speaks and declares the truth about who I am and what is true about this topic. I mean, that's...
• 31:00
  Those are like seeds. And we talk about like, you know, what is, what is kind of the essence of, of motherhood in terms of like how you shape your children, like, like what you just did there, what your book is designed to do. It seems that like, this is the getting into that essence, like to speak those things, but to do that in a way that weaves together the truth of scripture and the stories that are.
• 31:24
  um, that are happening around them. Um, and so, so that, that's an example for you of like, how it wove, you know, wove into your story. Um, I love, I love to hear a little bit too about like, in terms of your kids, how, how do you, and, and if somebody were to, you know, use this book as kind of a tool in motherhood, how might they use this in a, um, you know, on a regular basis or, and in this,
• 31:48
  It does seem like it's almost like also instructive in that it could be a pattern for how they might be beginning to do what you're doing here, right? You're kind of demonstrating something as well.
• 32:00
  Yeah, I think first and foremost, the first example I give in the introduction is just we speak these things very direct and very to them every night. And now they're getting to the point where they start by looking us in the eye and then they get a little bit older and you can tell when they're starting to get other influences, which has been a really cool thing, which I'm sure you guys can speak to as well, but much better than I can.
• 32:27
  But I'm starting to notice where they're like, okay, they're really taking this in now, right? It's not just like, oh, mom and dad are looking at me like eye to eye. It's they're really taking this in now. And so that's the first thing that I lay out is just, hey, you can just speak these things. Like you are brave. You are beautiful. You are bold. Like you can speak these things to your children just very intentionally. Yeah.
• 32:51
  But then there's also those, I lay them out in the chapters, ways that you can, one, be example to your kids, but also little ways throughout your day that you can really give your kids this identity. You can really show them that they are worthy. You can really show them that they are whole. Yeah.
• 33:13
  And so there's lots of very practical ways sprinkled throughout your book of, hey, you're a mom, but this is also how you can show your kids that this is who they are, whether that's through in the one of the chapters I give an example of sharing. And I had a friend respond like I had I just expect my kids to share and that's it. Whereas I lay out a different approach and sharing.
• 33:42
  kind of laying the framework. And one of the things I say in that chapter, actually, it's the chapter of WISE, is that it's the little moments every day that really lays the foundation. It's those little expectations that you expect your kids to do and you hold them to it, right? I'm holding my kids to the standard. Jeremy, like you said earlier, like I'm holding them to the standard.
• 34:09
  But I'm going to hold them to the standard while also helping them and speaking to them from this place. And so I think that's important. I think that those little moments of, you know, that seem small to us, but when they're crying or they skin their knee or they're having a hard time with a sibling, those, the things that you say and the things that you do really speak identity to them in those moments. And it's those little moments where,
• 34:34
  When come the big moment, you can say, no, you're wise. And I can trust that in you. And I'm going to give you an opportunity here to exhibit that. Or you are brave. And I am going to call that out in you right now, even though it's the worst possible time to call it out because you don't feel brave. But I'm going to do it because we have set the foundation. And we have done this in our everyday.
• 34:57
  I love that. Okay. Yeah. Yeah. What are your thoughts about that? I love that. Just as a, like a practice, especially starting it so early. So when they are facing those other stories, it's like, um, there are, there's already this amazing, like, like, like almost fortress of strength that you've already built before the, you know, the enemy comes to them.
• 35:25
  Yeah, I think that they go, like the first 10, 11 years, you're doing so much of this. You're just identity speaking over them. And it's so important to speak the truth, even if they don't even understand what that word means, or they're not, they're just kind of saying it rote. And then there comes this season of like them forgetting everything you've taught them. And not really, but just like, it's like,
• 35:53
  no, no, no, no. Remember, you're brave or you're wise. And that thing you just did was foolish or whatever. And you did that foolish thing out of fear. So your fear of man, the way that we set a foundation is just really important. And I think that's a lot of what this is, is very foundation ring. It's very important. Yeah.
• 36:18
  Man. So good, Annalisa. Well, thanks so much for giving us and so many others this tool. Let's make sure y'all know how to get this. Where's the best place for people to pick up the book?
• 36:31
  You can pick it up on Amazon. It's super unique. There it is. So Annalisa Barraza, B-R-R-A-Z-A-U-R, because he is, speaking the life, death, and resurrection of Jesus over our children. So yeah, grab that on Amazon. April, you had a copy. Annalisa, you have a copy? So people can see the cover. So if you guys are looking at this on YouTube, you guys can see what it looks like there. Awesome.
• 36:55
  Well, thanks so much again, Annalisa, for taking the time to share this with us, for taking the time as a very busy mom who she's in a military family. Joey, her awesome husband, is serving the military. She's raising her daughter. She's working for family teams, and she's writing a book for all of us. Wow. It sounds like a lot when you say it like that.
• 37:18
  That's all I know. I'm sure there's other things, but those are the things I know that Alisa's a part of. So anyway, thank you so much for taking the time to talk to us today and for writing this awesome book. Yeah, thanks for having me. This was so fun. I appreciate it. Absolutely.
• 37:34
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