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Talk About It Thursday · Black Girl Interrupted Podcast

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  Black Girl Interrupted. Y'all already know how y'all already know howirrupt? What's up?
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  What's up? What's up? What's up? Y'all, it's sure girl.
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  As you're bringing y'all another episode of Black Girl Interrupted, y'all have to
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  bear with me. Let me. Let me just start off by saying,
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  I've missed y'all so much, even though I know I just saw y'all last
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  week. But baby, when I tell y'all, this month has been so
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  busy for me with my baby going into high school, last end of the
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  year, band performances, so that's why y'all have not seen me, and
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  then the fact that work has really drained the life out of me. I'm
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  adjusting to life with Big Daddy being here, but I'm here and I am
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  back. So I wanted to do something a little different tonight, and I
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  think I want to start doing this again. I'm still gonna keep with my
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  mental Mondays and my Wellness Wednesday posts, but tonight I wanted to do something
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  different. I wanted to do talk to me Thursday. So it is Mental
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  Health Awareness Month, as y'all know, and as a person that suffers from
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  depression and anxiety, I definitely want to open up the floor and open up
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  a space for people to come in and just oh, I just want to
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  know what's going on in your everyday life, like what are you feeling?
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  So that's what we're doing tonight, Like I just wanna I just want to
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  love on everybody tonight. That's that's really just all I want to do.
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  I don't have anything specific that I'm gonna talk about tonight, but I just
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  want to love on y'all. You know, I've been getting a lot of
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  text messages from people, and know I have not been responding. My phone
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  has been on do not Disturb, simply because I've had to protect my peace.
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  There are certain people that I have to really kind of decompress from because
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  they could be really draining. And this is not a shot at anybody.
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  I'm not, you know, putting anybody down, but I have I still
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  have to maintain me. You'll get what I'm saying. So if you text,
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  if you've called, and I haven't responded, it's not personal. It's
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  just I have sometimes I have to take time away from me, you know,
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  And once I'm recharged and I'm rejuvenated, then I can get back in
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  and get back into the grooves. So y'all already know how I start my
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  episodes. Heja, Marius, good to see your little brother, Good to
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  see you. Anyone that has stayed with me from the beginning all the way
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  to the end, y'all know how I start my episodes. I always,
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  always, always, always have to do a mental health check in. And
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  with the mental health check in, I just want to know how you're doing.
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  I just want you to drop in the comments and let me know how's
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  your day going, how's your week been, how is your month been?
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  What are you looking forward to next week? What are you looking forward to
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  next month? This is why I do these mental health check ins simply because
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  you never know what a person is going through. You may walk amongst people
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  that are smiling, laughing, joking and playing, but really, deep down
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  they're really hurting. They really could be struggling. So I always like to
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  kick off every episode, no matter what the conversation is about doing my mental
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  health check ins. I'm really stressing it this month because it is Mental Health
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  Awareness Month. Let me go ahead and reiterate that again, and so for
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  this month, we will be talking about depression. We will be talking about
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  anxiety. We will be discussing bipolar disorder. We will also be jumping into
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  schizophrenia and last but not least, suicide. So before we get started,
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  before I do anything, before I proceed and do anything else, I have
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  to encourage somebody. I have to love on somebody. I have to empower
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  somebody. I have to let somebody know that I see you and you're doing
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  a great job, regardless of if you feel you're not doing a good job.
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  I feel like you are. I think you are. And maybe sometimes
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  you just need that person just to say, you know what, I'm proud
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  of you, I love you. You're doing phenomenal. So this is for
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  anyone that is, like I say, standing in the midst of the storm,
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  someone that is going through the ups, the downs, the highs,
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  the lows, someone that is just at their break point, someone that is
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  in the tunnel that just feels like they cannot get to the light. This
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  is specifically for you. So here we're going, and we're going to jump
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  back into talk to me Thursday. Here we go. Where's the wealthiest place
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  in the world. Do you know? It's the graveyard? Because in the
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  graveyard you will find inventions never invented. Business has never erected. Songs never
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  sungs, books, never written, ideas never nurture. People never realized because
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  they never prioritize their dreams. They never made them important enough. The things
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  that are the most important to you are the things that get done. I
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  need you to reevaluate what you're prioritizing in your life. Are the things you're
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  doing each day, the things that are going to move you forward in life,
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  lead you to a happier, healthier, more fulfilling life. Or are
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  you wandering around distracted, caught up in noise and chaos of social media,
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  news or what's happening around you. Your focus, your attention is a laser,
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  and what you point that laser at is what will grow and increase.
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  So I need you to focus on what you are focusing on, be aware
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  of how you are using your attention, and direct it towards where you want
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  to go in your life. You are where you are because of who you
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  are, and if you're going to get somewhere else, you're gonna have to
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  change something. I don't care what happens in your life. I don't care
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  what it looks like. I don't care where you are every single day you
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  wake up. If you're gonna have energy, if you're gonna have passion,
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  if you're gonna have drive every day you wake up, you gotta start with
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  that vision. Every day when I wake up, people say, why are
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  you so excited? Because I have a mental picture of where I want to
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  be. I have a mental picture of what I want to do. And
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  even when I was an abandoned building, I saw that I would not be
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  an abandoned building forever. And I was homeless once. Now hold two homes
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  because all through my circumstance was home as my vision wasn't. The first level
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  is a success in life. The very first level is you seeing it like
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  it's clear to you. You know exactly what you want, you know exactly
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  when you want it, You know exactly what it tastes like. You know
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  what it looked like before you really blow blaw and you get success. You
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  literally have it in the palm of your hand without having it. What does
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  your dream look like? What does it smell like? What does it taste
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  like? What do you want in your health? When do you want financially
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  like? How much money do you want to make a year? How do
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  you want to live. Stop just waking up like an accident. What do
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  you want? And then once you find out what you want, spend the
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  rest of your natural life waking up and going after it. Look at your
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  belief system every single day, stick with it. Don't rush the process.
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  Trust the process. Don't rush the process. Trust the process. Don't rush
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  the process. Trust the process. Stop looking for acclamation, stop looking for
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  somebody the batchel on the back, and you just get up on money and
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  grind could get up on Tuesday, and grind could get up on Wednesday,
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  and grind can get up on Thursday, and grind can get up on Friday
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  and gride. And if you grind, no day is off, no holidays,
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  no snow days, no weekis off, no birthdays. You heard me,
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  and you keep grinding, and you stay persistent, and you locked in
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  or day you're gonna wake up and you're gonna be exactly where you brain your
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  mean. Because it's easy to say I want to be this and I want
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  to do that. Hey I want to be significant, hair well, I
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  like to matter. Hey I want to be a millionaire. Hair I want
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  to drive a Lamborghini. But unless your actions on a daily basis reflect that
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  goal every single time, every single move, every single concepting that you're awake.
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  Your goals aren't really your goals. You're just full of shit, because
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  if you really want it, nothing would stop you. All of the silly
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  things that happened that we let slow us down is related to our lack of
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  hunger and desperation. So how desperate are you for what you want? Everybody
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  wants to wait and pull off the things they truly want in their lives for
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  tomorrow your mystic a place where ninety nine percent of dreams go to die.
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  It's oh, well, you know what I need? You need that much
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  today, It's okay, I'll wait till tomorrow. Tomorrow's gonna be there.
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  No, tomorrow isn't going to be there Tomorrow. Tomorrow, Tomorrow ain't no
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  such thing as to law. We only got today. What I've learned about
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  the greats is that they understand it's a sense of urgency that once the clock
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  goes out, it's a w or a al. You either win or you
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  lose. There's a sense of urgency. You don't have as much time as
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  you think you do, so you got to pick up the pace you walk
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  in too slow, pick up the pace. You move it too slow,
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  pick up the pace. You don't have a lot of time. You only
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  got twenty four hours, so all of your energy needs to go into your
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  goal. Why because I love myself too much to get distracted. I love
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  myself too much not to execute. But I need you to stop just randomly
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  letting stuff happen to you, and I need you to take over your life.
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  And a schedule is about bossing your time. The secret is to make
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  a plan, execute the plan, come obsessed with the plan, and make
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  it your entire life, from the time you wake up to the time you
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  go to bed for twenty fifteen years. It takes dedication, it takes time,
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  It takes effort, It takes obsessive, ridiculous amounts of effort. I
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  just sick. It's tired of people telling me how bad they want it,
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  Y'all know, I really felt like that video was for me, and
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  I just randomly selected a video today. Like I didn't sposifically say, oh,
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  all I want is video, but I just ran. I was like,
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  you know, let me, let me, let me play this one
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  tonight. And I really believe that was for me. But this conversation,
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  you know what, this is about all us. It's not just about me.
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  This is about all of us. This is about everyone that has a
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  goal, has a dream, has an aspiration in life to stay focused,
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  like you gotta get up and you gotta act like you want it, like
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  you got the proof that you want it. We sit up here every day
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  and we talk about the things that we want, but we never put action
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  behind it. So how can we get to the finish line if we're not
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  putting in the world. So tonight it let me take a deep brother,
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  Jamary says mentally, I was tested, but I got the victory. I'm
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  so proud of you. That's a beautiful thing. That is an excellent thing.
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  I love to hear that. I really truly love to hear that.
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  So let's keep going. So tonight is let's talk up. Let's talk about
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  it Thursday. I just want to know what do you what do you what
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  y'all got going on. It could be anything. It doesn't necessarily have to
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  be in regards to mental health awareness. But what do you what's going on?
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  How are you feeling today? What's on your mind? What do you
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  want to talk about? Because I could sit up, I could sit here,
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  y'all, and I can really just give y'all a liundry list of things
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  that I want to talk about. I mean, just these last few days,
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  or let me say, since last week, have been very exhausting and
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  draining for me, not only in a physical aspect but a mental aspect.
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  Let me just first start off by saying, I am very blessed and highly
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  favored to be in a position that I'm in. I let me let me
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  first give honor and praise to God, because without Him I wouldn't be where
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  I am today. So let me let me start off by saying that,
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  you know, but this, this, these last seven days have been very
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  exhausting for me mentally, physically not so much, not so much emotionally,
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  but mentally and physically to the point where my body is tired. But when
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  I tell y'all, I'm forever grateful to be employed, let me say that
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  I'm forever grateful to have a roof over my head, closed on my back,
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  food on my table, My kids are wealth. But my job is
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  when I say it is mentally draining me, and it's it's let me.
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  Let me just say this. It's the lack of support and the environment.
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  Yes, I work from home, and maybe that's a Maybe that's an issue
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  for me because I work from home, but I've been I've been working from
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  home for over four years years now, so I know it's not that but
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  my job. I've allowed what goes on in my job to affect what I'm
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  trying to do. So that video what's for me and everybody else that that's
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  tuned in. But I need a break, y'all. When I say mentally
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  baby, I need a mental break, I need another reset. And I
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  stress this even more because stress will kill you. And I'm not stressing this
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  simply because it's black. It's not black history, y'all. That lets y'all
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  know what my mind is right now. But because it's Mental Health Awareness Month
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  and suicide rates are increasing, mental health issues are going undiagnosed, people are
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  out here suffering, people are struggling and have nowhere to turn. So this
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  is my safe space. You know what. Let me let me back up
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  and repeat this. This is our safe space that I've created for us to
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  give it a vent and talk about what's going on. This is our space.
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  This is where we come in and we just shut out the world and
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  we don't worry about what goes on in the world. We get in here
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  and we just talk. We vibe, and we love on each other.
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  We pour into each other, we empower each other. We and we uplift,
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  we encourage and we push the person to the next level. There's never
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  no competition in this space. So let me let me let me reiterate that
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  this is our safe space. This is a space that I created for everybody
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  to come in where you're safe, where there's no judgment, where we could
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  talk about anything. My love. We get in this space and if you
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  got some shit on you and yes I cuss, if you got some shit
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  on your mind that's bothering you and you need to unload, and you need
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  to say you want to ask, I need the vent. This is the
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  space black girl interrupted. We're dealing with our interruptions, not just black women,
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  but black men. Let me let me repeat that this is not only
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  a safe space for black women, but black men, because I know black
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  men, there's not very many spaces. Let me let me, let me
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  back up and repeat that, there's not very many safe spaces for black men.
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  So Black Girl Interrupted, this this is not just for black girls,
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  but for black men, black boys, black girls, black women. This
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  is our space that I created for us to come in where we're gonna vibe,
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  we're gonna talk, we're gonna laugh, we're gonna joke, we're gonna
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  cry, we're gonna get upset, but we're gonna leave here with with a
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  better understanding. We're gonna leave here with the pressure unloaded and unpacked off of
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  our shoulders, so that way when we get up tomorrow, we know how
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  to deal with the date. This is what I want to talk. This
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  is talk about it Thursday. This is what we're doing tonight on Black Girl
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  Interrupted. So y'all welcome back to let me oh, y'all welcome back to
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  another episode a Black Girl Interrupted. Of course, y'all know it's your girl,
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  ash, your favorite girl from the five zero four, and tonight we're
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  gonna talk about it. What's bothering you? I don't care If it's good,
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  I don't care if it's bad baby, I don't care. If you're
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  going through something with your baby daddy, with your baby mommy, if you're
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  with your job, if it's a best friend, if it's you know,
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  an ex friend, let's talk about it. How can we move on to
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  the next level. How can we go to sleep tonight and wake up feeling
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  less stressed? What can we do? And unfortunately, no, I don't
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  have the winning lottery numbers. I wish I did because I definitely would pass
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  those along because my love beabad. When I tell you, we definitely need
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  it. So Jamera says, no matter what you're doing in your life,
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  it's important to get rest. Rather it exercising or something as simple as reading
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  a book, take care of breaks and get your rest. Man. When
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  I tell you, Jamiris, I really needed to hear that today, and
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  everyone else that's tuned the needed to hear that today because there are a lot
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  of times we don't know what to do. You know, you may talk
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  to you may call your friend and you may talk to them, but you
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  still feel like you're not getting any type of resolution. So that's why we
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  hear tonight, we're gonna talk about it. We're gonna let's let's release.
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  Let's let whatever happened today, Yesterday, Tuesday, Monday, Sunday, whatever
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  happened last week, whatever happened last month, whatever happened last year, Let's
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  leave it all here today because I want us to get up tomorrow and know
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  how to deal with tomorrow and don't worry about what happened today, because what's
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  happened you can't change, but you can't move further to make tomorrow better for
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  you. So that's what we're talking about tonight. You know, y'all again,
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  welcome to another episode. A black girl interrupted. Hey, I'm clapping
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  it up. So I want to start with you, Jamrius. What's going
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  on with you? How are you feeling today? How is everybody feeling today?
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  How are y'all doing today? Because I can really tell y'all an abundance
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  of things, but let me tell let me just really make y'all laugh for
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  a moment. So today I had to So today I left work because my
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  daughter had to take my daughter to the oral surgeon. She's about to get
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  a wisdom teeth pulled in a couple of months. So we're sitting in there,
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  y'all, and it's so hilarious because she's twenty one, y'all, and
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  don't make fun of my baby because she doesn't like this is all new for
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  her. So because she's twenty one, you know, you know, doctor's
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  office, they're like, you know, she's an adult. She has to
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  fill out these forms, So what's in there? And I'm watching them fill
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  out these forms and she's asking me all this information. So if I last
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  day, girl, you don't give give it informs, let me, I'm
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  out. And it's like, it feels so weird because I feel like I'm
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  looking at myself, looking at my twenty one year old child because I remember,
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  you know, when I was on my mother's insurance and I had to
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  do these things. I had to fill out these forms. So I'm sitting
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  and I'm just laughing at her because I'm looking at her and I'm just I
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  can't believe my daughter is twenty one. I can't believe I have a twenty
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  one year old child, a twenty three year old child, and a fourteen
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  soon to be fifteen, And I just look and I'm just like, thank
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  you guys. You know, you've blessed me with some of the most amazing
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  children, you know, so y'all and y'all forgive me, because I do
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  get emotional when I talk about my baby. It's because, oh my God,
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  like my babies are everything to me. They're like my whole world.
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  So we're filling out the form. So, you know, doctor calls us
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  back and doctor you know, comes in does that. You know, they
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  do the X rays and everything. They say, oh, yeah, you
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  know your wisdom teeth, you know, yeah, it's time for them to
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  be pulled. We can see why you're ready to get this done. So
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  we're sitting at the table. You know, they're going over the financials because
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  you know, they gotta let you know how much everything is gonna cost.
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  So the nurse asked her, so when do you want to do the search.
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  She said, oh, I'm going to do it next month. I
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  said, hold out, wait, wait, wait, Now you at a
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  whole tight girl, because we got to work out these financials because I got
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  to pay for this, and then I got to work around, you know,
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  my word schedule, and you got to work around your work schedule.
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  So as we're sitting at talking, I'm just looking at her in admiration because
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  everything that my daughter has been through in the last month, from losing her
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  father to dealing with her depression, balancing school, and just everyday life.
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  I'm so proud of her. And I say all of that to say is
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  that no matter how many obstacles are throwing your way, don't get discouraged,
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  don't give up, Just find a way to go around or get over.
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  And I'm so proud of my daughter. I don't know if she's watching.
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  I know she said she was going to tune in tonight, but Jamari,
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  I just want to let you know that I'm very proud of you. I'm
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  very proud of how you are still standing tall. And your dad has been
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  gone almost two months. It'll be two months on the thirteenth. God,
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  where did that time go. But I'm very proud of her. And I
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  share this with you guys because I want you to know that regardless of where
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  you are, regardless of what obstacles you go through, no matter how many
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  hurdles you encounter, no matter how many weapons form, just know that they
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  will never prosper. Just know that as long as you stand strong in your
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  faith, baby, God is gonna get you through, even on those dogs
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  days. So that's why I just wanted to share that because it was just
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  so funny to me, It was just so cute just to look and see
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  her and to look at how the dynamic of our relationship is evolving. You
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  know. I guess maybe I just love the fact that she needs a mob.
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  You know. So thank you, Jamari for just being you. I'm
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  so so so proud of you, and just know that you're gonna continue to
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  move on and do great and phenomenal things. So I just wanted to share
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  that little story with y'all about my daughter. Y'all forgive me, but so
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  we have a few comments that have rolled in. So Brittany says, boy,
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  I've been waiting on your show. Yes, like I said, I
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  I personally I had to take some time for me. Again, a lot
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  of y'all don't know, or some of y'all do know. Big Daddy has
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  moved to Houston. He is here permanently. He has been here now three
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  weeks. Almost three weeks, yeah, something like that. He's been almost
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  three weeks. So I'm getting adjusted to him being in my space, you
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  know. I'm getting acclimated and adjusted to making our little house a home.
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  So and then still trying to balance work and trying to make sure all my
• 24:33
  episodes and things are done for my podcast. So I really I had to
• 24:37
  put my phone on do not disturb. I had to get Big Daddy sometimes
• 24:41
  some us times, you know, because this is new for him. This
• 24:44
  is different for him. He's moved from California all the way from LA to
• 24:48
  Houston. So he shout out to California, La, La La. Yes,
• 24:53
  y'all, I do want to let y'all know he is repping Cali really
• 24:56
  hard. Kendrick Lamar has has just really done some phenomenal things. But we'll
• 25:02
  say that for the end of the show. So Jamaris says, today I
• 25:07
  feel great. He said, I had a doctor's appointment. I was telling
• 25:10
  them I don't like needles, but I got to get it over with,
• 25:11
  so I was cracking jokes to get me through it. Let me tell you
• 25:15
  something, Love, I hate needles too. But again, I'm tattooed up
• 25:18
  like but I hate needles too. But I'm so glad that today you feel
• 25:25
  great. I pray that tomorrow is even better for you. I pray tomorrow
• 25:29
  that you feel fantastic. I pray tomorrow you feel phenomenal, My love,
• 25:33
  I pray you wake up tomorrow and feel like you could conquer the world.
• 25:37
  So shout out to you. Jamara's Okay, I'm so sorry, y'all.
• 25:45
  I did not mean to get that excited. But y'all just really don't understand
• 25:48
  this woman, Sheila boy. Yet, let me tell y'all something about this.
• 25:51
  This is my girl. This is my sister, like I love her
• 25:53
  so much. And if you need cakes, treats, desserts, y'all go
• 25:57
  holler up, because baby, that's the cake lady right there, this is
• 26:00
  the cake lady. And she says, I'm so proud of your home keep
• 26:03
  striving, Thank you, sir. That means so so so much to me.
• 26:07
  And I'm proud of my nephew and his football. I cannot wait to
• 26:11
  see him playing football. I can I wait to see him in the Big
• 26:15
  League, my love. Oh, I cannot wait. So shout out to
• 26:18
  my sister Sheila, like I don't think y'all understand, Like this is my
• 26:22
  girl, like I love her so so so much. I don't care if
• 26:26
  it's if it's months years that we don't talk. It's like when we see
• 26:30
  each other, it's baby, we pick up like we ain't never missed a
• 26:33
  beat, So I just love Sheila. Sheila is is, She's so phenomenal.
• 26:37
  She's got the biggest beautiful heart. But don't play with her. Let
• 26:40
  me just say that, don't play with her and don't play with her ky
• 26:42
  because that lady, do not play behind up babies and that husband. Okay,
• 26:47
  So just let y'all know. So Brittany says, girl, taking time
• 26:52
  for you is okay, my love, and you deserve it. So many
• 26:53
  blessings have been coming through. I am so proud of you for constantly going
• 26:56
  and striving. I love you past words. I love you too, baby,
• 27:00
  And like the conversation we had on on Friday, because you know,
• 27:06
  y'all, this is a safe space, so I'm always tell y'all what we
• 27:08
  talk about. So y'all pray for Brittany. She has transitioned from Indian Indianapolis
• 27:15
  to Dallas. It's different her and her two babies, so this is an
• 27:21
  adjustment. So she's struggling, y'all. So I do ask all all my
• 27:25
  viewers, everyone that's tuned in, please send some love and prayers. Her
• 27:29
  transition was not so smooth, but just let her know that she's gonna be
• 27:34
  all right. Just let her know that her move was not in vain.
• 27:37
  I will now go into the details of the conversation, but I do want
• 27:41
  y'all just to encourage her. Just let her know that she made a she
• 27:45
  made a big step, and that we're proud of her. That's all I
• 27:48
  want y'all to do. Just just tell her we're proud of you, Brittany,
• 27:52
  because, like I told you, you made a big step. That
• 27:55
  was a major thing. You have a lot of people that stay in certain
• 27:57
  situations, that never leave, that never get out. So I'm gonna tell
• 28:02
  you again, like I told you on Friday, you did a big thing.
• 28:04
  You did a big move, and I'm very proud of you. You
• 28:07
  didn't do anything wrong. Do not let anyone encourage or influence to make you
• 28:12
  feel like you did something wrong, because you did not. You know,
• 28:15
  just know that where your start is not how you're gonna finish. You'll get
• 28:19
  what I'm saying. But if it, whatever you keep doing, you just
• 28:23
  have to stay ten toes down. You have to stay focused, you have
• 28:27
  to stay in tunnel vision. You have to stop letting outside things distract you
• 28:34
  because that things like that can easily throw you off track. And so that's
• 28:38
  what you have to do, okay, So again, I love you.
• 28:44
  I'm very proud of you. And just know you've closed one door. This
• 28:49
  next door is about to open for you. So once this, once that
• 28:52
  other door closes, put a lock on it and don't ever walk back through
• 28:56
  it. Okay. So congratulations to you, Salute to you. You're doing
• 29:02
  a great job. And Happy Mother's Day to you, even though let me
• 29:07
  just say this, Yes, Mother's Day is Sunday, but I salute you
• 29:11
  moms every day because being a mother is a full time job. It's three
• 29:15
  sixty five, three sixty six. If his sleep heer this year is three
• 29:19
  sixty six. But I've never stopped celebrating the mothers. I'll never stop celebrating
• 29:25
  the fathers. But I'm recognizing all the moms, and you're doing a fantastic
• 29:30
  job. I know you don't feel like you are, but I'm proud of
• 29:33
  you. I'm very proud of you. We made it, y'all, we
• 29:37
  did it. But this is not about me. This is about y'all tonight.
• 29:41
  This is talk to me. This is talk about a Thursday. It's
• 29:42
  not about me. It's about y'all tonight. I'm talking to y'all So whatever
• 29:48
  y'all want to talk about, drop it off in the comments. You need
• 29:49
  me to love on you. You need me to pray for you. You
• 29:52
  need me to sing you something that's encouraging, that's empowering, uplifting. I
• 29:56
  love dropping into comments. I got y'all, Sheila says. I love you
• 29:59
  you too, Like I say, Sheila, I'm so proud of you.
• 30:04
  I love how you have set your boundaries. I love how you do you
• 30:11
  and you don't let anybody control what you do. I love that. I
• 30:15
  love that for you. I cannot wait for you to just flourish. I'm
• 30:22
  ready for your your brick and mortar to open because I'm ready for your bakery
• 30:25
  to open. Because bait, when I tell you this girl makes some cold
• 30:27
  cakes. Baby, stop playing with her. Like I say, anybody in
• 30:33
  the Houston, Sugarland, Missouri City, Richmond, Rosenberg, Kady Pearland area,
• 30:37
  you need some cakes, I'll let Sheila boy yet go follow her right
• 30:41
  now on Facebook. Hit her up, hit her up, run up,
• 30:45
  run up her lights. Everything, cakes, desserts. She makes them all
• 30:48
  birthday parties, bar Mitzval's funerals, repasses. Whatever you need. That's that's
• 30:55
  the lady for you. I promise you I would never stay y'all wrong.
• 30:57
  She is a small black business. Please go support and I do this and
• 31:03
  I don't ask for anything in return. I promise you I do not.
• 31:06
  Just please support. Brittan says, your baby said hi to Ashley and they
• 31:11
  love you. Your bad baby got excited to see your face. We'll talk
• 31:15
  about him afterwards because you're not gonna play in his face. But have my
• 31:21
  babies. I love y'all and I'm so proud of y'all too. So back
• 31:26
  to our talk about it. Thursday. I did have a person send me
• 31:30
  a message y'all that will remain anonymous. I will not say the person's name,
• 31:37
  but let me say this to you. I never encourage anyone to leave
• 31:41
  a relationship unless it's abusive. So let me say this to you, my
• 31:48
  love. And again I'm not gonna disclose who it is because they asked to
• 31:52
  remain anonymous. You have to do us best for you. You have to
• 31:56
  do us best for your children and what's gonna benefit you in the future.
• 32:02
  Again, I will never encourage. I will never give anyone advice and say
• 32:08
  leave your husband, or leave your wife, your boyfriend, your girlfriend unless
• 32:12
  it's abusive. Okay. Now it's abusive, Now that's something totally different.
• 32:17
  But you do what's best for you. I love you, I pray for
• 32:23
  you. I stand with you. Whatever decision you make, you know I
• 32:27
  stand behind you one thousand percent. Again, let me reiterate to the people
• 32:30
  that are just tuning in. I do not encourage breakups in marriages or relationships.
• 32:37
  So if you want me to sit up here and say, oh,
• 32:38
  girl, you need to leave him, or boy, you need to leave
• 32:42
  her, I do not do that unless it's abusive. That's the only time
• 32:45
  you will ever see me say yeah, you need to get the hell out
• 32:49
  of there. Okay, So let me just reiterate that. So I love
• 32:53
  you. Thank you so much for reaching out to me. I'll send you
• 32:58
  something on the back, and to keep you encouraged, to keep you in
• 33:02
  power, to let you know that lean on God. That's all I can
• 33:07
  say. You lean on God and your pray, and you ask him what
• 33:12
  move you should make, because you'll move on God's timing, never yours,
• 33:15
  you understand. But I do pray over your situation, all right, So
• 33:21
  back to talk about it Thursday. So I just got a text I really
• 33:30
  just do not let me say this because y'all know Black Girl Interrupted is not
• 33:35
  a space of mess and drama and things of that nature. So I've been
• 33:42
  asked to wait in on this Kendrick Lamar and Drake Beef. I'm only gonna
• 33:50
  say this and I'm gonna keep a pushing Okay, just know I just let
• 34:00
  me let me, let me make sure I say this correctly. I don't
• 34:05
  do well with people that co sign pedal behavior. Let me just say that,
• 34:10
  and I'm gonna leave my comment at that. That's all I'm gonna see.
• 34:15
  I'm not gonna put my views with regards to the Drake and Kendrick Beef,
• 34:21
  although someone was like, I want you to weigh in, what are
• 34:23
  your thoughts a great rat battle? Let me just say that, Okay,
• 34:28
  shout out to La, and I'm gonna leave it at that. I'm not
• 34:30
  going no further into the conversation. Okay. So y'all want to have this,
• 34:36
  this conversation of debate outside of Black Girl Interrupted. Absolutely, But y'all
• 34:39
  know Black Girl interrupt is not a space of mess and drama. So I
• 34:45
  like both. So that's it anyway, So what else is going on?
• 34:53
  Y'all, So let's talk about it Thursday. So, y'all, as as
• 34:58
  many of y'all know, my daughter, my baby girl is in the eighth
• 35:00
  grade. She is now, she's about to move on and she will become
• 35:06
  a high schooler. So okay, so I do have one. So Sheila
• 35:09
  wants to know, how do I feel about the presidential elections? Hmm,
• 35:15
  let me say this. Can we just take a break from having a president
• 35:20
  for about six months? Let us run the country for about six months,
• 35:22
  and then revisit this conversation in six months, because many of y'all know politicians
• 35:30
  they're never really for the people, and not all but some. Okay,
• 35:35
  So let me say this. I'm not a fan of Trump. I'm not
• 35:38
  a fan of Joe Biden, and I'm absolutely not a fan of Kamala Harris.
• 35:43
  And I will say this, and I'll go on, everybody wants to
• 35:51
  be a niggle until it's time to be a niggle, and I'm gonna leave
• 35:54
  it at that. I'm gonna leave it at that. So forgive my language
• 35:59
  for saying that. But everybody wants to be black until it's time to be
• 36:01
  black. And I don't like how both sides are really focusing on the black
• 36:10
  community, how they're trying to hustle us into votes by tennis shoes and going
• 36:17
  into these predominantly black neighborhoods trying to sway the black vote. I don't like
• 36:23
  that, but that's how politicians roll. Again. I just really feel like
• 36:29
  we should really take a break from having having a president. Let us run
• 36:31
  the country for about six months, and then let's sit down and revisit the
• 36:35
  conversation. It's six months, so no, but but really truly, I'm
• 36:40
  not a fan of either side, you know. So again, I'm not
• 36:46
  a fan of Kamala Harris. I'm not absolutely not a fan of Joe Biden,
• 36:51
  and really truly not a fan of Johnald Trump. There are some things
• 36:54
  I will stay I like from both sides. I will say that and not
• 37:01
  to ruffle any feathers, you know, but I really feel like they need
• 37:07
  to take care of home instead of trying to take care of other countries.
• 37:09
  You know, the homeless. Homelessness is increasing in America due to inflation.
• 37:16
  You have people out here that are having to work two, three four jobs
• 37:20
  just to make ends meet, which is taking time away from from family because
• 37:25
  you got to make sure bills are paid. I don't like the fact that
• 37:30
  they're funding wars, you know, but you got people over here that are
• 37:35
  struggling to pay bills. You got people that are losing their homes. You
• 37:38
  got people that are you know, being victim from apartments. You have people
• 37:42
  that are losing jobs and things of that. So I really feel like you
• 37:45
  should take care of the home front. Let's let's take care of home,
• 37:49
  Okay, Let's let's take care of us over here and and worry less about
• 37:53
  those countries. You know, I've seen trillions and billions of dollars that have
• 37:58
  been sent over to these other countries. But you say you couldn't afford to
• 38:01
  cancel student you know, student loan debts, and that's where seventy five to
• 38:07
  eighty percent of the population is struggling right now, is trying to get out
• 38:10
  of student loan debt. You know, people can't get homes, people can't
• 38:14
  you know, get their credit together because these student loans are holding them back,
• 38:17
  and then the ones that they are forgiven. It's a lot of stipulations
• 38:21
  around that. So that's my stance on that. But again, you know,
• 38:27
  I'm not a fan of both, but I really feel like, take
• 38:29
  care of home first, take care of us because we need it. You
• 38:32
  know, you have mothers out here, you have fathers out here that are
• 38:36
  struggling again to pay bills things, and that's not a very good feeling.
• 38:40
  So in tune, it's increasing the mental health awareness. I feel like more
• 38:45
  fund than needs to be put into mental health. I feel like teachers need
• 38:50
  to be paid more as we're seeing an increase of more student teacher violence.
• 38:57
  So that's my stance on that. When it comes to these presidential elections,
• 39:00
  I really feel like they need to focus more on us and less of what's
• 39:05
  going on in other countries. Okay, so thank you for that question,
• 39:08
  Sheila about how I felt about that. Hey, my baby, Mercedes,
• 39:14
  that gonna my girl. How's my girl doing. It's so good to see
• 39:17
  you so tonight we are doing. So, y'all, welcome again to another
• 39:22
  episode of Black Girl Interrupted tonight. I'm doing something a little different. This
• 39:24
  is talk about It Thursday. Whatever's on your mind. I want to know
• 39:29
  how are you feeling? And it doesn't necessarily so let me say this,
• 39:32
  whatever's going on, it doesn't necessarily have to be with regards to mental health,
• 39:36
  it could be a relationship issue. It could be you're pregnant, you
• 39:40
  don't know what to do. You want to beat your baby daddy up.
• 39:43
  I don't know. You want to get rid of your baby mama. I
• 39:45
  don't know. Whatever it is that you want to talk about, drop it
• 39:46
  in the comments. So I'm gonna say this, how are you? It
• 39:51
  is so beautiful to see you. So as I was staying about my daughter,
• 39:55
  So she's fourteen. She's she'll be going to high school next year.
• 39:59
  So she just did her last concert in middle school, her band performance.
• 40:04
  My baby is an honors band, and they got first in their division on
• 40:07
  Friday, so she's very excited about that. She just had her audition yesterday
• 40:14
  for what spot she's gonna be in the marching band by high school. So
• 40:21
  she is waiting to see where her spot is going to be. So y'all
• 40:23
  pray for my baby. Keep her fingers crossed, because child, when I
• 40:27
  tell you, it's about to get even busier for me next year. So
• 40:30
  Brittany says, speaking about teachers, how do you feel about the black teacher
• 40:34
  that is being reprimanded for having all the girls taking their hair down ten minutes
• 40:37
  before school ends huh oh boy, you got Oh my, I haven't heard
• 40:52
  about that. So Brinnan says, so, apparently there's a black teacher that's
• 40:58
  being reprimanded for having all the girls taking his hair down. Oh okay,
• 41:04
  okay, okay, So how do I feel about having Okay, I had
• 41:09
  to slow down and reread the question. So, from my understanding, there
• 41:16
  was a teacher that had four students taking his hair down. Okay, let
• 41:29
  me jump off my soapbox with this one, because I feel all types of
• 41:32
  ways about this. First off, you as a grown man, Okay,
• 41:40
  let me ask, y'all, how old are the girls? Or is this
• 41:44
  a high school? Is this a middle school? Or is this? Is
• 41:49
  this middle school y'all? Or is this high school? Y'all? Let me
• 41:52
  know. So Mercedes says, hey, girl, Skylar is going to middle
• 41:54
  school. I know a girl. Can you believe that? Oh? My
• 41:58
  goodness, can I remember when you were pregnant with girl? I remember everything
• 42:01
  with that baby. I can I believe that my baby girl is girl?
• 42:07
  Her and Chase soon they're gonna be in high school and then we're gonna be
• 42:12
  preparing for prom and all that. So Mercedes says, yes, I seen
• 42:15
  that. She says, it's like four girls taking his hair down. Sheila
• 42:21
  says it's on TikTok. Mercedes says they look like middle school or high school.
• 42:25
  Sheila says she believes it's high school. So let me go back to
• 42:28
  BB's question. First off, this is you know what? This is what
• 42:35
  I mean when I say I sighed, IY A lot of people that COSI
• 42:43
  pedal behavior Because as a grown man, why are you asking four black girls
• 42:53
  that are your students to take your hair down? You know what? He
• 43:00
  needs to be reprimanded. He absolutely does because he had no business. Let
• 43:06
  me say this because I'm a mom. I have two girls, and I
• 43:08
  have a son, and Skyla up Mercedes has a daughter, Sheila has two
• 43:14
  daughters, Brittany has a daughter, and everyone else that I associate with has
• 43:19
  his sons and daughters as well. I absolutely feel like he needs to be
• 43:22
  reprimanded, and I hope he's fired. I hope he's never ever allowed to
• 43:28
  work in another school around children, because to me, that is that is
• 43:36
  pedal behavior, because there's no way, as a grown man that you need
• 43:39
  to have four students or of your students taking your hair down. You can
• 43:45
  go pay there's Salnes out here, sir, that you could go and get
• 43:52
  someone to take your hair now, and those four students that agreed to doing
• 43:57
  that, where are your parents? Where is your mommy and your daddy?
• 44:00
  Because I have a problem with that. I wish baby, let me say
• 44:04
  this. I wish a teacher would ask my daughter to take his hair down
• 44:08
  because he then you want to see me? Because see, then I'm gonna
• 44:13
  have to come to the school and you and you might be a first forty
• 44:15
  eighth episode playing with mine and you will see me in my mugshot like this.
• 44:21
  If you play with mine, I think that's disgusting. And he knew
• 44:24
  better. And that's what I mean. These these grown men praying on these
• 44:30
  young girls. Let me let me run off into this real quick, okay,
• 44:35
  and I again, y'all welcome back to another episode A Black Girl Interrupted.
• 44:38
  We got some new people that are tuning in because I see the numbers
• 44:40
  are going up. So tonight it is called tonight. We're doing talk about
• 44:46
  it Thursday. So we're talking about any and everything. Yes, this is
• 44:51
  mental health awareness. But the common whatever question you have or whatever subject it
• 44:54
  is you want to talk about, it does not have to be with regards
• 44:58
  to mental health awareness does not. So Brittany pulls the question she wanted to
• 45:02
  know. How do I feel about the black teacher that is being reprimanded for
• 45:07
  having all the girls taking his hair down ten minutes before school ends? Y'all
• 45:10
  know how I feel about pedophiles, Okay, And that goes for men and
• 45:15
  for women. I know a lot of y'all. For women. Yeah,
• 45:19
  women are predators too, Okay, And we're gonna we're gonna have that conversation
• 45:23
  next month. But let me speak on this first off, that grown man,
• 45:29
  he knew better to me. You're looking at these girls, looking at
• 45:36
  a different way. You know what I'm saying. You need to be reprimanded.
• 45:40
  I hope you are never ever able to work around children again, because
• 45:46
  that's absolutely pedophilic behavior. I don't care how you try to slice, dice
• 45:51
  and move. That's absolutely disgusting. And I need these students that agree to
• 45:58
  doing this your mind, your dad's whoever, your grandmother, your auntie,
• 46:01
  uncles, whoever you're reside with. A conversation needs to be had because y'all
• 46:09
  need to sit down and have these conversations with your children, because we're seeing
• 46:14
  more and more of this every day. That and what I'm saying is veering
• 46:19
  into Sheila's question, because Sheila says, how do you feel about your baby
• 46:23
  girl going to high school? Because so much has changed in the past couple
• 46:28
  of years. I'm scared for her, and I'm scared for her because of
• 46:32
  situations like this, these teachers. I was just watching on the news yesterday
• 46:42
  a teacher in I can't remember the county here in Houston, but a teacher
• 46:50
  has been arrested for indecent exposure with a child and the parents were not notified.
• 46:57
  This was out of elementary school here in Houston. So for my daughter,
• 47:01
  I'm absolutely afraid for her. I'm more afraid for me because I'm an
• 47:08
  all around up. Some bail money for me, But I'm afraid for these
• 47:13
  children because these teachers, and not just necessarily the teachers, but these men
• 47:20
  and these women in this world are praying on our children. They're praying on
• 47:24
  our babies. I was in Walmart. This was when Jamari was like Jamari
• 47:31
  was like sixteen, fifteen something like that, and we're walking in Walmart and
• 47:37
  these two black men are walking out and I see this black man look back
• 47:42
  and I knew he was looking at my daughter, because who the hell you
• 47:44
  were looking at? And I said, excuse me, he said, oh
• 47:46
  no, no, no, no, I thought you didn't see No you
• 47:50
  didn't thought to think you saw somebody. No you didn't. So I'm very
• 47:55
  afraid for her because I look at my daughter, and my daughter is not
• 48:05
  proportioned like a fourteen year old child. Let me say that, these these
• 48:09
  babies don't look like babies anymore. You have these these these babies with these
• 48:15
  with these young faces and these adult bodies, and these teachers are looking at
• 48:25
  that, even these women teachers you know that are having sexual relationships with fifteen
• 48:32
  and fourteen and thirteen year old kids and they're getting and they feel like it's
• 48:37
  okay. And then you have people that say, oh, well he was
• 48:40
  seventeen or she was seventeen. There's still a child. So I'm absolutely afraid
• 48:47
  of my daughter. But I know Chase doesn't have a problem with coming home
• 48:55
  and telling me what's going on, and I don't have a problem with going
• 48:59
  to the school and handling that. I don't have a problem with bringing it
• 49:02
  to this platform and any other platform to expose this. So I'm scared I
• 49:12
  pray and I ask God just keep my baby covered these next four years.
• 49:16
  I pray keep her covered as she embarks on a new chapter in her life.
• 49:22
  So I'm absolutely afraid. I'm definitely afraid because we see these stories on
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  the news where these teachers are having inappropriate behave inappropriate relationships with students, and
• 49:37
  the schools aren't notifying parents. You got to hear about this from your child.
• 49:43
  Your baby has to come home and tell you this. So y'all just
• 49:46
  keep my bail money on deck. Okay, just keep my bail money.
• 49:52
  So if y'all see me on the news, if y'all see me on America's
• 49:54
  Most Wanted, or y'all see them bring the first forty eight back to Harris
• 49:59
  County, just know I'm gonna be that first episode if you play with any
• 50:02
  of mine. So I'm definitely afraid. I'm absolutely afraid. Mercedes says,
• 50:08
  yes, you know, because I look and school is not school anymore.
• 50:16
  These teachers are getting younger and younger about a day. And then the way
• 50:20
  these teachers dress, you know, they dressed like they're going to the club.
• 50:23
  They dressed like they're getting ready to go to happy hour. That's fine
• 50:28
  and dandy, but I remember, you know, Sheila weak and look back
• 50:31
  because y'all know we're cougars and we look younger than this new generation. But
• 50:38
  teachers acted like teachers. Teachers dressed like teachers were supposed to dress, and
• 50:46
  it was you never heard so much now like you hear about it now of
• 50:52
  inappropriate behaviors with children and teachers. But it starts at home. Parents.
• 51:02
  You need to get more involved. You need to pay attention to your children,
• 51:07
  okay, because these children do show changes and the victims sometimes do become
• 51:15
  the monsters. Okay. So I'm absolutely afraid, definitely afraid. So again,
• 51:23
  y'all, again, I see the numbers are going up. It's more
• 51:25
  people joining in. So tonight is talk about it. Thursday. We are
• 51:30
  talking about any and everything on Black Girl Interrupted. Okay, Like I say,
• 51:34
  yes, it is black y'all. I keep wanting to say, is
• 51:37
  Black History Month? But hell, I guess it is because we're black.
• 51:38
  Every day every day we wake up, it's Black History Month. But tonight
• 51:43
  is just talk about it Thursday. Whatever's on your mind, whatever you want
• 51:45
  to talk about, posting in the comments and let's talk about it. But
• 51:50
  thank you, so much, Sheila for asking that question, because I'm pretty
• 51:52
  sure, like you have Mercedes whose daughter is going to high school, you
• 51:58
  have two are coming out of high school, So how do you feel like
• 52:06
  it's very different? And I'm and I'm very afraid for this, for this
• 52:08
  next generation. Oh and I pray that these kids are protected, they're safe,
• 52:20
  and these schools do right by these children. Because again that story I
• 52:22
  saw yesterday, I cannot remember the school district, but this is at an
• 52:27
  elementary school, y'all. A teacher was arrested or having an indecent relationship with
• 52:34
  an elementary child and the parents were not notified. And I want to say,
• 52:37
  they said this happened in like March or April, and he was just
• 52:40
  arrested this month. So schools, y'all need to get better. Y'all need
• 52:49
  to protect these children, but y'all also need to protect your teachers too.
• 52:52
  M hm. So hold on, y'all, wait a minute. Okay,
• 53:00
  I thought I had another message pop up, so I do want to talk
• 53:06
  about let me, let's let's push off into I just had it, y'all
• 53:14
  in my mind literally just went blank, literally just went blank. Ah,
• 53:20
  So let me, let's say this so I do want to talk about a
• 53:24
  few things that are coming up for a Black Girl interrupted. I am going
• 53:30
  to be looking for guests as I'm so, I am putting a panel together
• 53:35
  of men and women only. This will be a four day of let me
• 53:38
  say this, this will be a five day event where it's men and women
• 53:44
  just having regular conversation. The first two days will be the women talking and
• 53:49
  men you're you're more than welcome to tune in, but they will not be
• 53:52
  on the panel. And we as women, we need to have these conversations
• 53:57
  where we just sit down and we talk about what do we want from our
• 53:59
  world? Men, what do we feel like they could do better, What
• 54:02
  do we feel like we could do better, and not just relationships, but
• 54:07
  you know, just balancing your everyday life. And then the next two days
• 54:13
  will just be the men we women. We will listen. I would just
• 54:15
  be mediating. Of course for the women I will be I will be participating
• 54:20
  in that conversation, but for the men, I would just be mediating the
• 54:22
  conversation because we sometimes we need to listen to the men, you know,
• 54:28
  because they have wants in these and things like that too. And again,
• 54:32
  y'all, this will be a safe space. This will will be very mutually
• 54:37
  moderated, so I won't be picking and saying, oh yeah, you men,
• 54:42
  you're wrong, and I won't be saying, oh yeah, women,
• 54:44
  you're right, and vice versa. But I am looking for people that are
• 54:46
  wanting to participate in this panel and will be talking about not only just relationships,
• 54:52
  but you know, children, your job, as well as mental health
• 55:00
  us. Again, there's always a safe space for women, but I want
• 55:02
  to have a c space for men. I want us women to just sit
• 55:06
  and listen to the men, because men who are just like we do.
• 55:10
  Men have things that they carry on their shoulders just like we do. So
• 55:15
  I feel like it's on It's it's fair when we listen to them. And
• 55:19
  I want the world to see that black men and black women can have healthy
• 55:22
  dialogue without all the no no no no no no no no no no no
• 55:27
  no no no no. You know what I'm saying. And then on the
• 55:30
  last day, we will collectively all come together and just talk about what we
• 55:36
  took away from listening to what the women had to say and what the men
• 55:39
  had to say. So anyone that is interested in participating in that panel,
• 55:45
  please shoot me a email at y'all. Let me, y'all, let me
• 55:51
  get my cairl y'all, let me get my email up. Britty, what's
• 55:53
  what's my email? Baby? What's what's my email? That's my assistant girl?
• 55:58
  Like, I yeah, I don't even know. And that's a shame.
• 56:00
  You know what. Wait, I got it. Hold on, I
• 56:04
  do got it. Y'all forgive me, Brittany. You're not doing your assistant
• 56:07
  job. Girl. You're not doing what you're supposed to do. Girl.
• 56:10
  I'm just teasing anyway, but please shoot me an email to Black Girl Interrupted
• 56:15
  Podcast at gmail dot com if you are interested in being a guest. And
• 56:22
  I am wanting people from the l g B, t q I A plus
• 56:27
  community to participate as well. Okay, so let me say that this is
• 56:32
  for everybody. But again, I'm putting this panel together. This will be
• 56:37
  in June. Again. The email is down at the bottom Black Girl Interrupted
• 56:42
  Podcast at gmail dot com. Again. I am so excited for this,
• 56:46
  for this panel because I want the world to really see black men and black
• 56:52
  women. We can have wonderful conversations without all the old well men am da
• 56:57
  da da and black women Dad not gonna have that here. Okay, So
• 57:01
  if you think this is gonna be a male bashing thing, or if this
• 57:05
  is gonna be a woman bashing thing, go to another podcast with that,
• 57:08
  because we're not doing that over here. Okay, so that is definitely going
• 57:13
  to be the conversation. So Mercedes says, that's gonna be good. Drop
• 57:19
  your email in the comments. Here we go. It is info not be
• 57:22
  a five girl Oh lord, my system, but it is okay, black
• 57:30
  Girl Interrupted podcast at gmail dot com. There is the email on the screen.
• 57:36
  So again, I want men, women and every I want lgbt QUI
• 57:42
  plus community because those those relationships. People that are part of the of the
• 57:50
  lgbt QUI A plus community have issues in relationships too. Whether it's two men,
• 57:54
  whether it's two women, it's a relationship. I don't care homosexual,
• 58:00
  heterosexual, baby. A relationship is a relationship to me, and there's no
• 58:02
  judgment over here because I love everybody. Okay, I love everybody. Let
• 58:07
  me first get that street. That's first and foremost. Number two, there
• 58:12
  will there will again, there will be equal moderation, moderating on both sides.
• 58:16
  There will be equal mediating on both sides. So women, we're not
• 58:22
  getting on here to bash and drag black men and say, oh, well
• 58:24
  black men ain't. No, that's not what we're doing, okay, because
• 58:29
  I'm sick of seeing conversations where they're dragging black men and where they're dragging black
• 58:35
  women. I'm sick of that. Okay. I want to change the narrative.
• 58:38
  I want the world to see that black men and black women can sit
• 58:44
  down cohesively and have beautiful conversations without all stuff and you ain't in it.
• 58:52
  But we're not doing that over here. I'm gonna tell you right now.
• 58:54
  Let me go ahead and put this out here right now. Disclaimer, right
• 58:58
  now, if you decide to be a guest on this show and to participate
• 59:04
  in this panel, and if if any way you get disrespectful with anybody on
• 59:08
  the panel, I will remove you period. Okay, let me put that
• 59:14
  out there right now, because we don't do that over here. If those
• 59:20
  are the types of conversations and that's how you want to conduct yourself, baby,
• 59:23
  gon find you another space to go do that in because like BB said,
• 59:30
  please no, we will make sure that this is a safe space and
• 59:32
  everyone will be respected. Your opinions will be respected, and your opinions and
• 59:38
  how you feel do matter. I'm not gonna allow people to talk over each
• 59:43
  other. That's not what we're doing over here. There's gonna be some order,
• 59:45
  okay, like how your grandmama used to do when you used to go
• 59:49
  to the house, used to have some order. Baby. Don't think I
• 59:51
  won't pull that switch out, and don't think I won't pop your hand with
• 59:53
  it, okay, because that's not what we're doing over here. Okay,
• 59:58
  let me first put that out here. Brittany says no disrespect will be tolerated,
• 1:00:02
  regardless of race, religion, sexuality, etc. I do not have
• 1:00:07
  a definitive date, but know that it will be in June. I'm really
• 1:00:13
  shooting for the end of June. Again, this will be done on a
• 1:00:19
  weekend. This will be done on a Saturday. So we'll do the first
• 1:00:23
  two on Saturday, you know, with the women. We'll do the next
• 1:00:27
  two on Saturday, and then we'll cohesively come together one day through the week
• 1:00:31
  to finish it out where the people, the ladies and gentlemen that participated in
• 1:00:37
  the panel will come together. Because I want to know your takeaways. I
• 1:00:39
  want to know what did you learn, what did you hear? What can
• 1:00:43
  we do better as men? What can we do better as women? You
• 1:00:45
  understand? BB also says please come with the corn because you will not embarrass
• 1:00:52
  her on her platform because of your disrespect. And I'm not gonna allow that
• 1:00:57
  again. I'm gonna reiterate this this panel that I'm putting together. Women,
• 1:01:02
  you will have your moment and you're in your time to speak as well as
• 1:01:07
  the fellas. You will have your time to speak, and then we're gonna
• 1:01:09
  cohesively come together and put our takeaways out. What did you learn? What
• 1:01:15
  did you hear? Because this is it's about comprehension. You understand what I'm
• 1:01:20
  saying. It's about learning and understanding each other without and we're not doing all
• 1:01:27
  that loud talking over here. Okay, take that over to love and hip
• 1:01:29
  hop. Take that to the Real Housewives. Take that to love and and
• 1:01:32
  and whatever. Okay, you'll take that over there because we're not. I'm
• 1:01:36
  not tolerating it over here, because I promise you I will remove you.
• 1:01:39
  And if you have a problem with me, I have no problem with addressing
• 1:01:43
  you directly. Okay, it won't be on camera. We can have we
• 1:01:47
  can have an afterthought conversation. I'm just letting you know that because we're growing
• 1:01:51
  around these parts, then we're gonna conduct ourselves like adults, not like children
• 1:01:54
  throwing temper tantrums. Let me say that. Okay, some of your all
• 1:02:00
  they like the drama and the rye rye and the foods. I don't.
• 1:02:01
  I don't have time for that, and we're not doing that over here.
• 1:02:05
  Because the reason I say we're not doing that is because this is what they
• 1:02:08
  expect us to do. They expect us to pull up to a circus and
• 1:02:13
  act like a clown. This ain't the circus, Okay. This is not
• 1:02:15
  ringing Ringling, Barnum Bailey circus. This is not the Black Universal Souls.
• 1:02:20
  It's not none of that over here. This is Black Girl Interrupted podcasts.
• 1:02:23
  Okay. So that's what I do have coming up for a Black Girl Interrupted
• 1:02:29
  that will be in June. Again. Shout out to everyone that is tuning
• 1:02:34
  in because again I still see the numbers are going up. Thank y'all for
• 1:02:37
  supporting me. Man. Let me tell y'all something. I love y'all,
• 1:02:40
  I really truly do. I thank y'all for everything that y'all do for me
• 1:02:45
  to keep me motivated, to keep me energized, to keep me going.
• 1:02:50
  I appreciate y'all. This means so much to me. Black Girl Interrupted wouldn't
• 1:02:54
  be going the way that it's going if it wasn't for y'all. I also
• 1:03:00
  want to say, I'm still floating on cloud nine from Atlanta, and Baby,
• 1:03:04
  I've been back from Atlanta. What it's been a week? Has it
• 1:03:07
  been a week? Yeah, it's been a week almost two. And I
• 1:03:10
  love the fact that I gained a lot of knowledge and a lot of information.
• 1:03:15
  I've connected with a lot of people that believe in me, and I
• 1:03:22
  cannot let these people down. Not only can I not let them down,
• 1:03:25
  I can't let myself down, and I can't let my children down. And
• 1:03:29
  I absolutely cannot let y'all down. I hold y'all to the highest of the
• 1:03:34
  highest. Let me say that. Okay, y'all are fantastic. Y'all are
• 1:03:40
  phenomenal. Y'all are great, and I appreciate y'all. I love the way
• 1:03:45
  y'all show up for me. Even on them days that y'all days ain't going
• 1:03:51
  too well, y'all still show up. Even on the days that aren't going
• 1:03:54
  well for me, I still show up. And I love the way y'all
• 1:03:58
  just push me. I love the way y'all send me messages and say,
• 1:04:00
  Ashley, I know it wasn't a good day, but I'm proud of you.
• 1:04:03
  I love that. And this is why I do what I do.
• 1:04:06
  I don't do this for likes. I don't do this for abuse. I
• 1:04:10
  don't do this for money. Get them the money is okay, but that's
• 1:04:14
  not what I do this for. I do this because this is why I
• 1:04:16
  enjoy doing I love doing this. I love talking to y'all. I loving
• 1:04:20
  it acting with y'all. I love when we have these conversations and we can
• 1:04:26
  get real and everybody just is like, man, hold up, and they
• 1:04:30
  leave refresh, they leave encourage because I've done exactly what God has given me
• 1:04:34
  the gift to do. So I am applauding y'all. That's what I'm doing.
• 1:04:45
  I'm applauding y'all because we're doing I'm doing this for the people. I'm
• 1:04:49
  doing this for the culture. I'm doing this because as a black woman in
• 1:04:55
  America, they already side i us. You understand. I do this for
• 1:04:59
  the black men because they already side eye you black men. I do this
• 1:05:02
  because I'm tired of the narratives that they paint of black men and black women.
• 1:05:08
  This is why I do Black Girl Interrupted podcast because I want to change
• 1:05:14
  the narrative because we're not everything that you see on TV. We're not everything
• 1:05:19
  that you see on the news. You get what I'm saying. Yeah,
• 1:05:24
  you may see us acting crazy, but not all of us are like that.
• 1:05:29
  So I want to stop categorizing and conglomerating all of us in one circle
• 1:05:34
  and saying all black people are like this. No, we're not a lot
• 1:05:40
  of y'all don't understand why I do this. I do this for the mother
• 1:05:45
  fin culture. Okay, I do this for the people. I show up
• 1:05:49
  because God says, as small as you are and as big as your mouth
• 1:05:54
  is, I know you can get out here and say what I need you
• 1:05:57
  to see. So that's why I get up here, and I do it
• 1:06:00
  every day. I do this every week. This is why I do this.
• 1:06:03
  I don't care about everything else. As long as I've touched one person,
• 1:06:08
  as long as I've made a difference in one person's life, I've done
• 1:06:11
  exactly what God has ordained me to do, and you can never take my
• 1:06:14
  gift away from me. I don't care how much y'all show up, how
• 1:06:17
  you don't show up, if you don't support, if you like common share,
• 1:06:20
  subscribe, God is still going to keep providing and showing up for me.
• 1:06:26
  And I say all of that to say, I pour that message back
• 1:06:30
  to you. I want to know whatever your goals, your dreams, and
• 1:06:33
  your aspirations are you, stop letting people deteroy you from your dreams because whatever
• 1:06:40
  God has ordained for you, man can't take away from you. Stop allowing
• 1:06:45
  the outsiders to dictate your thoughts, your movement, and the way you act.
• 1:06:49
  Stop it. Okay, let me say that. Excuse me, stop
• 1:06:56
  it. Stop letting people that want to reign on your parade keep getting you
• 1:07:00
  wet. Yes, I'm closing this out with a yes, I'm on my
• 1:07:08
  soapbox. Okay, let me say that. I'm on my soapbox. Sold.
• 1:07:12
  Jia Vera says, Hey, Sis, you're amazing and I think you're
• 1:07:15
  amazing too. Like I told you yesterday, whatever you're going through, I
• 1:07:20
  hope it gets better. You are victorious, and I tell you all the
• 1:07:27
  time, stop acting like you don't know that. And I'm gonna leave it
• 1:07:34
  at that. Stop it. Don't make me pull my belt off and hold
• 1:07:41
  your hand up and whoop you in a circle because you know this. I
• 1:07:47
  want everyone that's tuned in. I want everyone to go look in their mirror
• 1:07:53
  or wherever you are, and I want you to stop, and I want
• 1:07:55
  you to say, I'm amazing, I am great. Because some of y'all
• 1:08:01
  don't y'all, some of y'all act like y'all don't know that. Stop it.
• 1:08:06
  And then you got people in your ear that are that are making you
• 1:08:10
  feel like you're nothing. Forget them people. Poor lord, honey, I
• 1:08:16
  just really wish I want y'all to get it together for twenty twenty four.
• 1:08:21
  I want y'all to stop dimming your own lights. I want yall to stop
• 1:08:27
  playing with your potential. What did I tell y'all? I want you to
• 1:08:30
  stop opening letters that just because they're addressed to you don't mean you gotta open
• 1:08:35
  them. Stop it. I'm popping y'all on the hand. Stop it.
• 1:08:43
  Stop acting like you ain't the shit I'm ending. I'm ending this episode on
• 1:08:48
  my soapbox. Stop acting like you're not great. Okay, you fell down
• 1:08:55
  to day, get up. Stop wallowing in it, because you're gonna start
• 1:09:01
  to smell like it you're gonna stink. Get out of the dog. How
• 1:09:09
  can you keep saying you want people to celebrate you, but you sit in
• 1:09:12
  the dark all day? How and we can't even see you? Stop it?
• 1:09:19
  Yes, I'm ending my show like this because I see the greater in
• 1:09:26
  everybody. Everyone was born with a gift. Use it. Stop worrying about
• 1:09:33
  the quantity and worry about the quality. I said this on my last show.
• 1:09:39
  Everybody's so focused on numbers, and everybody's so focused on views and all
• 1:09:44
  of that. You produce quality work. The quantity is gonna come. Stop
• 1:09:53
  it, get up, shake it off, Dust your self off. What
• 1:10:00
  a leo say? Dust yourself off and try it again? How many letters
• 1:10:05
  is it in alphabet? You ain't got to eight. You ain't got from
• 1:10:09
  A to z in one day. A didn't work, You got B,
• 1:10:14
  B didn't work. You got C because guess what AMB has taught you how
• 1:10:17
  to utilize c. AMB showed you what to do differently for C. Okay,
• 1:10:26
  A, B and C didn't work. Get up, because now you
• 1:10:30
  got D because you took from whatever you didn't get in A, you took
• 1:10:34
  it with you to B. A showed you how to handle B, B
• 1:10:39
  showed you how to handle C. C has showed you how to handle D,
• 1:10:43
  and so on and so forth. You ain't got to every letter in
• 1:10:46
  alphabet, so stop acting like you have. I'm sick of it. I'm
• 1:10:53
  sick of looking at y'all wallowing. Sometimes you gotta find out what part you
• 1:11:02
  playing this. I want y'all to do that. I want y'all to handle
• 1:11:14
  that, because let me tell you something, y'all of the greatest gifts ever.
• 1:11:19
  Stop letting people make you feel like you're not So, Mercedes, I
• 1:11:30
  was waiting on this one. So Mercedes says, can we talk about how
• 1:11:33
  the pastor telling that lady the hush? Then he even snapped his fingers at
• 1:11:38
  hurt. He told her the hush. So let me let me give y'all
• 1:11:44
  my thoughts on this. This is not the first time that this lady has
• 1:11:55
  done this in the church, So let's let's start off with that. Whenever
• 1:12:01
  there's a disruption, there has to be order correct if you're if so,
• 1:12:06
  let me say so, if your children are being disruptive, you're gonna tell
• 1:12:10
  them I I I I hush. You're gonna bring some type of order.
• 1:12:15
  Do I feel like what pastor Kion did. Was was proper, Yeah,
• 1:12:23
  because you have to have some order, But you also can't tell people how
• 1:12:30
  to feel when the spirit hits them. But from my understanding, this was
• 1:12:33
  that. From my understanding from the people that attend his church say that she's
• 1:12:40
  like this all that she does this all the time. I remember when my
• 1:12:45
  brother passed away, and this one particular person, she she does it this
• 1:12:53
  that everybody's God. She falls out at everybody's funeral. Okay, it's almost
• 1:12:57
  like she rehearses this. Okay, So at some point you have to bring
• 1:13:02
  some order. But I'm gonna go back to a post that I shared on
• 1:13:08
  my page. If Beyonce it could tell y'all a hushing, y'all listen,
• 1:13:13
  y'all can't be mad to pass the kean. But I will say this,
• 1:13:19
  Do I feel like past the Keyon should have went on Tamar and Hall and
• 1:13:23
  talked about it. No, No, I feel like that should have been
• 1:13:28
  left right there at the church. I don't feel like he should have went
• 1:13:30
  on Tamaran Hall. And again, this is no shade to Tamar Hall or
• 1:13:36
  to pass the key on because I share a lot of his posts, because
• 1:13:41
  he says some of the most phenomenal things that touch That really moved and touched
• 1:13:45
  my heart and really rock my soul and my spirit. But I really feel
• 1:13:51
  like that should have been left right there. I don't feel like it should
• 1:13:55
  have been discussed on a talk show because it's almost like you're bringing embarrassment to
• 1:13:58
  this woman. It's almost like you're richling what she did. Okay, your
• 1:14:02
  total hush, be quiet, you know. Do I feel like the finger
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  snap was necessary? No, because she was not a child, So I
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  feel like as an adult, that could have been handled a whole lot better.
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  But when you're in a church, again, you can't control how the
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  spirit hits a person. You can't control how the spirit moves to a person.
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  But from my understanding, and I have spoken to a person that actually
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  does attend this church, and they did state that this is something she does
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  all the time. You know, if you feel like this woman is a
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  disruption, then maybe you should remove her from the choir. And that's my
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  thoughts on that, you know, as as being a p K a preacher's
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  kid. Again, I didn't agree with the fingersnap and all that because that
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  was not a child, you know, But the hush you know, and
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  I can understand it because there has to be some type of order, you
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  know, when like I say, it's same when it comes to a child.
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  Let's say this says. I like the order absolutely. You know.
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  I won't speak on a church that I used to attend and it was almost
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  like I felt like they were paying people to get up in and and and
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  act crazy in church. So I like the order to you know, I
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  don't mind the you know, if if the if the holy ghost catches you,
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  I don't mind it because I've had moments where I'm just like whoa,
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  where a sermon or or a scripture or something has touched me and and and
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  I felt God moving through me. I felt it and I had the shout.
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  So again, you can't dictate how the spirit moves. But if y'all
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  can sit and listen to Beyonce tell y'all to be quiet, then hey.
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  And that's my thoughts on that. So I was waiting on that when no
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  one messaged me on that one. But I was absolutely waiting on that question.
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  But again, y'all, welcome back to Black Girl Interrupted tonight. We
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  are doing talk about it Thursday. Whatever whatever it is you want to talk
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  about we are, we are bringing it to the forefront. We're talking about
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  it tonight, and I just want to say shout out to y'all because y'all
• 1:16:06
  have baby, y'all have been bringing bringing that heat tonight. Y'all have been
• 1:16:10
  asking some of the most amazing questions it's tonight and getting my stance on that.
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  But yeah, so thank you for that, Mercedes, because again I
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  was waiting on that one to come. But but yeah, it does have
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  to be some order, whether it's in the household, whether it's that you
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  know, your place of employment, whether it's in your relationship, like,
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  it has to be some type of order. Like you can't have anybody just
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  acting irrationally and erradically and out of control. Yeah, like at a daycare
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  of school. We gotta it has to be some type of order. So
• 1:16:44
  you know that that's my stance on it. But uh, if you feel
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  like she's an issueing this is something that she continues to do, then remove
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  her and and you know, but again I did not agree with this this,
• 1:16:59
  you know, going on term and hall and saying you know and talking
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  about it, and because it's all again I felt like, you know,
• 1:17:04
  you would bringing rid of Q to this woman again. You know, it
• 1:17:09
  should have just been left right there. It should have been dead right there.
• 1:17:12
  So whoever shared it on social media, you did that for likes and
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  views. And I'm gonna pray for you, whoever exposed or shared the video.
• 1:17:21
  But I'm gonna pray for you. But again, y'all, and I
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  just I love this. I love this, and I am gonna start doing
• 1:17:31
  this more often, okay, as well as I'm gonna continue doing my mental
• 1:17:34
  Mondays and my wellness Wednesdays. My mental Mondays, I will do those once
• 1:17:40
  a month. My wellness Wednesdays I will still do once a month, and
• 1:17:44
  then we'll do our talk about it on Thursdays. I think I want to
• 1:17:45
  save those that talk about it Thursday for the end of the month, where
• 1:17:50
  we could talk about everything that has happened, you know, throughout the month.
• 1:17:56
  Wait a minute, someone asked me, how do I feel about sex
• 1:17:59
  it red? I'm just gonna buy past that question. Okay, I'm just
• 1:18:04
  gonna buy past that when I'm not gonna respond to that. She just does
• 1:18:09
  what she does. She's not my cup of tea. I'll leave it at
• 1:18:12
  that because I don't shade or tear down black women or black men. But
• 1:18:17
  she's just not my cup of tea. She's not someone I would sit and
• 1:18:19
  listen to every day. So to each his own, God bless I'm old
• 1:18:26
  head, my love, I'm I'm in my mid fortist, I'm in my
• 1:18:30
  late artists closer to fifty. But yeah, give me pop, give me
• 1:18:38
  big, give me some n w A, give me some EMC Wren,
• 1:18:43
  give me some MC like Queen Latifa. That that's more my speed. So
• 1:18:46
  no, I do not these new rappers. I don't understand anything they're saying.
• 1:18:53
  I need subtitles so understand exactly what they're saying. But again, y'all
• 1:18:58
  welcome to talk about it too. Day. I am gonna uh go ahead
• 1:19:02
  and start winding down and bringing this to a close so that way I can
• 1:19:05
  really decompress because I have to call Brittany when I finish this episode because there
• 1:19:11
  are some things we gotta put together for this New Orleans trip. Ma'am okay,
• 1:19:15
  So stay awake and and make sure my baby's all wake so I can
• 1:19:19
  see my baby's on a FaceTime. But I want to end tonight's episode with
• 1:19:25
  something empowering. Yes, y'all, this is Mental Health Awareness Month. Mm
• 1:19:35
  hmm. This gets a little tough for me. But anyone that is struggling
• 1:19:45
  and you feel like you don't have anyone to talk to, you feel like
• 1:19:49
  your life is upside down. I will post here are some resources that move
• 1:19:57
  this banner out of the way. I have posted some links that are African
• 1:20:03
  American and Black specific mental health resources. I do have the Black Emotional and
• 1:20:09
  Mental Health Collective, I do have Black Girls Smile, I do have the
• 1:20:15
  Steve Fund, I do have therapy for Black girls. And then the link
• 1:20:20
  posted is African American Mental Health. I do not want you to struggle alone.
• 1:20:29
  If you are in a space and you need to talk, please reach
• 1:20:38
  out. I would rather you reach out than for me to see a post
• 1:20:45
  that says rip with your name behind it. Mental health is absolutely important and
• 1:20:51
  imperative. Black mental health matters to me and I hope to everybody else.
• 1:21:02
  I know things can get tough. I know the road can look dark.
• 1:21:10
  I know things look dim. I know sometimes you get up and you say
• 1:21:16
  I can't do it. I want you to know your words are powerful.
• 1:21:25
  We have the first start within us and change the way we speak about our
• 1:21:31
  selves and over our selves. The suicide rate is increasing. Do not sit
• 1:21:45
  by yourself and feel like you have no one. Absolutely, do not do
• 1:21:53
  that. Find you a safe space, whether it's a person, a thing,
• 1:22:02
  a place right to help get you over the hump. I do advise
• 1:22:13
  therapy. My goal is to remove the stigma around mental health and the black
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  community because of the things that we've been conditioning, the things that we've been
• 1:22:26
  taught. There's nothing wrong with going to therapy. Okay, there's nothing wrong
• 1:22:31
  with going to an unbiased person that can give you the tools to help you
• 1:22:38
  shovel your way out of the dog. I advocate for it because again,
• 1:22:45
  I would rather see you well than to see an rip behind your name.
• 1:22:55
  I say all of that to say I love you. I pray for you.
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  I can't wait to see you in the light and out of the dog.
• 1:23:09
  You're victorious, you're phenomenal, You're amazing, and most importantly, your
• 1:23:15
  love. If no one has told you today, I love you. I'm
• 1:23:23
  proud of you, and I see you doing it big over there. Keep
• 1:23:29
  up the good work. I'm proud of you. And on that note,
• 1:23:40
  I will bring black Girl interrupted to a clothes and I want to end also
• 1:23:45
  by saying Happy Mother's Day to all the mothers. Whether it's to a child
• 1:23:50
  or whether it's to a pet, You're still a mom, whether you're a
• 1:23:55
  bonus mom, whether you are like a mom to your nieces, your nephew's,
• 1:24:00
  you are appreciated. In my Tupac voice, you are appreciated. And
• 1:24:04
  keep doing the fantastic job that you do and don't let anyone detour you from
• 1:24:12
  where you're trying to go. The finish line is close and this is absolutely
• 1:24:17
  your winning season. Ay, And on that note, don't forget to tune
• 1:24:26
  in. I will be back Monday, y'all. I have to. I
• 1:24:29
  have to bring some things back that I've missed out. Mercedes says, Happy
• 1:24:36
  Mother's Day to everyone. I love that. I will be pulling pictures.
• 1:24:43
  Let me say this, I will be pulling pictures from random people's pages.
• 1:24:46
  I'm going to create a real celebrating women that I think are doing a fantastic
• 1:24:53
  job. So if you're if I tag you in the post, reshare it
• 1:24:58
  because I want to celebrate you. I want you to know that I'm proud
• 1:25:01
  of you and I think you're doing a great job. Okay, and I
• 1:25:05
  love you. I love love love love, love, love, love,
• 1:25:09
  love love. You keep up the good word. So black Girl Interrupted will
• 1:25:13
  be back on Monday. I will be here Monday, Tuesday, and Thursday
• 1:25:18
  because I have to catch up all my episodes because I was like, I
• 1:25:24
  want to do something different today, but no, I'll be back Tuesday,
• 1:25:30
  Wednesday and Thursday. I'm so sorry Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday not Monday,
• 1:25:35
  but do stay tuned for my Mental Monday post. I will be posting
• 1:25:40
  mental Monday. For Mental Monday, I do ask set you check in with
• 1:25:43
  me, let me know how you're doing, let me know how you're feeling.
• 1:25:45
  How was your weekend? You know what, what did you do?
• 1:25:48
  Did you relax? Did you kick your feet up? I just want to
• 1:25:51
  check in with you. Okay, So I will be doing my Mental Mondays.
• 1:25:55
  So Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday, Black Girl Interrupted will be streaming
• 1:25:59
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• 1:26:02
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• 1:26:06
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• 1:26:14
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• 1:26:20
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• 1:26:25
  y'all. I'm even streaming to Africa, y'all. Hm, okay,
• 1:26:30
  give it up for your girl. Give it up for your girl, aid
• 1:26:34
  I'm laughing, but give it up for your girl. I am streaming to
• 1:26:39
  Africa, y'all, so excuse me. Thank y'all so much for loving and
• 1:26:43
  supporting me the way that y'all do. Again, don't forget a thirty pm
• 1:26:47
  Central time, nine thirty Eastern Time. Again. I will see y'all Tuesday,
• 1:26:50
  Wednesday and Thursday of next week, So y'all gonna get three days of
• 1:26:55
  me. Okay, y'all gonna get your girl, even if it's just me
• 1:26:59
  popping on it, checking in with y'all, trying to see how y'all are
• 1:27:01
  doing. Making sure. But again, y'all, this is Mental Health Awareness
• 1:27:04
  Month, so every conversation will be in regards to mental health. There will
• 1:27:09
  be some triggering conversations. There will be some triggering moments, so I will
• 1:27:14
  post the trigger warnings. So come let me know, let's talk about it.
• 1:27:19
  Let's get you over that hump. No, I'm not a therapist,
• 1:27:21
  No, by no means do I You know these are just my opinions and
• 1:27:28
  these are just my life experiences that I just sit down and I continue to
• 1:27:30
  share with y'all. So on that note, I love y'all so so so
• 1:27:34
  very much. Happy Thursday. I pray that everyone has a beautiful weekend.
• 1:27:42
  I will see you guys on Tuesday again. Eight thirty pm Central time,
• 1:27:46
  nine thirty Eastern time. Y'all, take care of yourself, y'all, stay
• 1:27:50
  blessed and be prepared for Tuesday. And don't forget. I want to know
• 1:27:56
  on Monday we checking in, all right, we checking in, So y'all
• 1:28:00
  go ahead and go home. I love y'all. Be careful. Hilo to
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  y'all Tuesday,