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Hypnosis for Jealousy or Anger After Relationship Dynamics Change · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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  celebrities, CEOs and even royalty, Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Evans Clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Do you ever feel jealous, angry or insecure in your
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  relationship? My name is Adam and the client I
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  worked with in this particular session had agreed to an open
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  relationship and that open relationship had certain clear
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  expectations and rules to make it work for both sides and that
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  was that. The relationship couldn't be a
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  long term thing. Any other relationship outside
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  of their core relationship had to be short term and feelings
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  couldn't get involved and with them.
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  Their partner changed that and started seeing someone else on a
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  regular basis and that was leading to feelings of jealousy,
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  insecurity and anger. Anger that something had changed
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  that they were doing something that they weren't also doing,
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  that they respected the rules and their partner didn't.
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  Now they didn't want to end the relationship.
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  They wanted to keep the relationship.
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  They just wanted the feelings of jealousy and insecurity and
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  anger to go down. And what this session does is an
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  element of disassociating from the intense states of anger and
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  jealousy and associating into states like acceptance and
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  nonchalance and ambivalence. And the analogy here for this
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  particular client is that they would feel completely neutral if
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  their partner said they want to work out, you know, an extra
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  night a week, they would feel completely neutral with that.
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  But they didn't feel that same way if they said that they
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  wanted to spend some time with someone else.
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  This is all about reconnecting with a an empowering emotion
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  that would work for that individual.
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  Now, although this relates to open relationships and and kind
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  of other people, at the core, it is about accessing and
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  harnessing a resource state that works for the individual.
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  So these dynamics don't have to be going on in your relationship
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  in order for you to feel how you want to feel.
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  But obviously, because it was with a client in this situation,
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  some of the suggestions are quite specific.
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  Some of the emotional or the resource states are quite
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  specific. So ignore any suggestions that
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  aren't relevant for you, hone into the ones that are, and if
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  you like the idea of a bespoke session to deal specifically
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  with your situation, in the description, there's going to be
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  a link for you to schedule a completely free consultation
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  call. We'll have a chat and it might
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  be that we can work together and I help you for your situation.
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  In the meantime, you might find some value from this.
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  It uses principles of nested loops, levels of disassociation,
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  but then also stage disassociation and that is
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  disassociated from a resource state and then associated into a
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  resource state. So I hope you get some value
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  from that. So find a quiet, comfortable
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  place where you won't be disturbed, relax and enjoy the
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  session. Take a deep breath in, and as
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  you breathe in, breathe in that resourceful feeling of calm and
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  relaxation. And as you exhale, feel a sense
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  of release of any tension, any stress, any worries.
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  Start to feel it leave your body as you exhale, each breath
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  taking you deeper and deeper, relaxed.
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  That's it. I want you to feel an increasing
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  feeling of calm and relaxation. And the deeper you breathe, the
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  more relaxed you become. The more relaxed you become, the
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  deeper you breathe. That's it.
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  And as your body relaxes, your imagination awakens.
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  And I want you to imagine a place in nature, perhaps a
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  beach, a forest, maybe the kind of forest with bright, vibrant
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  greens, that specific shade of green that you see in nature.
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  And I want you to imagine there, in that place, there on the
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  ground is something strange, a spiral staircase leading down
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  through the floor. Logically, you know this can't
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  happen. You can't have a spiral
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  staircase there on the floor of nature, and yet there it is.
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  And just allow this to serve the same function as the rabbit hole
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  for Alice in Wonderland. A portal to a place of change
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  and new experiences to make a change in an area that is
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  causing you emotional pain. Imagine standing at the top of
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  that spiral staircase with the idea that it leads down to your
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  own private cinema, a cinema beneath the floor of nature.
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  And as I countdown from 12:50, you will imagine descending the
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  spiral staircase into your own private cinema.
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  And with each step down the staircase, you will find
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  yourself drifting deeper and deeper, relaxed, like you're
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  accessing a different part of your mind where profound change
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  is possible. 10 taking that first step, nine, another step
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  down, feeling more relaxed now loosen your neck and your
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  shoulders, release any tension in your jaw.
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  That's it. 9 becomes 8 even more relaxed.
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  And then seven. That's it.
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  Descending into your own private cinema. 6 and then five, halfway
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  down the spiral staircase. Notice how you can breathe
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  deeper. Maybe you can notice your arms
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  and legs feeling limp, loose or heavy.
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  That's it. And then four, another step down
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  the staircase. 3 deeper still. 2 Little lightness in your chest,
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  almost feel like your head is light, like a helium balloon. 2
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  becomes one and then zero. Just imagine arriving now in
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  your own private cinema. You have this cinema all to
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  yourself and I want you to imagine you pick the most comfy
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  chair possible. They're in that cinema and on
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  the cinema screen. I want you to observe yourself
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  initially in response to a question, maybe a question of
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  something that creates A neutral, even a positive
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  response. Maybe your partner asking it's
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  OK if he works out at a particular time and just see
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  your reaction, calm, neutral, indifferent, nonchalant,
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  unfazed, unbothered. And I want you to imagine
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  floating into the screen and feeling that way just so you
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  know how it feels in response to a question, to feel completely
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  neutral and indifferent and then float back to that comfy chair.
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  And I want you to see a different memory A2 week period
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  where certain questions were being asked.
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  And for that period in time, you were fine with it.
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  And I want you to see yourself like an actress out there on the
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  screen and just see your body language, your breathing, your
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  facial expressions, and in that moment, see yourself with a
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  different internal strategy, a different recipe that for that
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  period of time, things were fine.
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  And that's because the evaluations and the meaning you
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  gave something allowed those feelings.
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  And if you can see yourself on that screen being fine even when
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  a certain question is being asked, let me know by nodding
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  your head. And I want you to imagine
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  floating into the screen, embodying that version of you.
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  Notice how you breathe. Notice the meaning you gave
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  things. Notice a feeling of reassurance.
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  You have the frame. Then there is no threat here, No
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  big deal. Imagine the question being asked
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  and you're fine with it. And if this feels like you're
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  reawakening how to be that way, just notice how you breathe.
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  Notice. Notice what you focus on, the
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  meanings you give things, and if you feel this is a preferable
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  way of handling a situation, irrespective of how long it
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  lasts, let me know by nodding your head.
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  That's it. As you remind yourself, there is
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  nothing you have to do, only things you are choosing to do.
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  But there is a difference between choosing to do something
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  reluctantly and choosing to do something willingly.
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  Choosing to do something reluctantly means you get the
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  worst of both worlds. The thing still happens and you
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  have those disempowering emotions, but when you make the
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  same choice willingly, the thing still happens, but there is an
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  absence of those disempowering emotions.
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  Return back to that comfy chair in the cinema and I want you to
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  imagine either seeing that same version of you.
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  Totally fine. Or if your mind prefers a clone,
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  an identical twin, that would be completely unbothered and
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  unfazed. And I want you to see certain
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  qualities in that future version of you, accepting, confident,
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  unbothered, no need for anger or frustration or anything at all.
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  And I want you to imagine seeing that version of you, cloned
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  version of you, with a different way of thinking, perhaps one
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  week from now. And I want you to see your
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  question being asked and see that version of you completely
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  unfazed, unbothered tone of voice, posture no different than
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  if they were asked if it's OK to go to the gym for a longer
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  workout or try swimming in a new pool.
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  See yourself completely unfazed and what you can see that future
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  version. If you like that, let me know by
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  nodding your head. And then I want you to drift
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  back into the screen one week further.
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  A similar question is being asked.
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  But now imagine from a first person perspective.
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  Imagine being that clone or that version of you that could not
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  care less. It's just information.
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  Maybe it's framed like recreation, something of low
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  significance and certainly no threat as you come to the
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  conclusion that no one is better or worse.
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  They're just different. Nobody can compete with you
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  because you are uniquely you. What you've built over these
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  years would take someone else the same time to build the same
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  thing, and nobody can compete with that.
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  And I want you to imagine that they ask the question and you
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  respond in a way that is empowered, that it strengthens
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  the relationship, doesn't weaken it.
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  It reassures you because there is no secrecy.
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  Things are being communicated. I want you to connect without
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  feeling of if communication is connection, then there is
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  connection. I want you to feel, then, the
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  way of spelling love is TIME. Where does that person spend
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  their time with? And I want you to get a feeling
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  that when you change the frame, the narrative and the meaning,
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  even intense emotions can dial all the way down, giving space
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  for new emotions, empowering emotions.
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  Jump forward a month from now, imagine a similar kind of
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  question and feel how you would feel if it was no big deal.
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  And when you get a sense that you're building, training, or
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  reactivating certain neural pathways that would be useful
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  for you, just imagine your mind rippling through space and time,
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  backwards and forwards. So even thinking about certain
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  things leads you to feel connected, loved, and reassured.
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  Consider insecurities like false friends.
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  Sometimes a false friend would try and stir trouble by putting
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  certain thoughts in people's minds, and you don't need that.
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  So allow those insecurities to have a different meaning and
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  instead remind yourself nobody can be you and nobody can build
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  what you've built. And as you connect with that
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  feeling of self assurance, of self acceptance, then float back
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  into the cinema and just imagine seeing a montage where your
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  relationship gets better and better and better through
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  acceptance, freedom and understanding.
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  It's time to leave this cinema. But you're left feeling more
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  like your clone and less like that insecure, anxious version
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  of you that wasn't serving you anyway.
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  That isn't you. That's your fears, and nobody
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  can build something beautiful when fear takes hold.
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  So leave that fearful part behind.
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  And you leave that cinema empowered, confident, full of
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  self assurance. Nobody can compete with you
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  because nobody is you. Imagine climbing back up that
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  spiral staircase. Finding yourself in that place
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  in nature, but feeling reemerged as that confident, assured
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  version of you. And very soon I will count from
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  1:00 to 10:00 and you will return again as that confident
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  version of you. Being able to turn down the
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  noise of those insecurities and dial up the volume on that
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  version of you that exudes confidence and acceptance.
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  Take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your
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  nose. Just wiggle your fingers, wiggle
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  your toes, connect and calibrate into the here and the now as I
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  now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you.
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  Starting to count 123 waking up 456 more alert 7-8.
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  Open your eyes, open your eyes, 910.
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  Wide awake, wide awake, wide awake.
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  Thank you so much for joining me on today's episode of The
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  Hypnotist. If you've enjoyed this episode
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