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It’s OK to Disappoint Some People · The Daily Writer

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  SPEAKER_00: Hey my friend, welcome to the Daily Writer, where we help writers become authors of their own lives.
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  SPEAKER_00: I believe that a big part of the transition to becoming a fully functioning, healthy adult is realizing that it's totally okay to disappoint some people.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's not only a good thing, it's actually necessary for your growth.
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  SPEAKER_00: In your younger years, you have all kinds of people who put expectations upon you.
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  SPEAKER_00: It might be your parents, siblings, aunts or uncles, pastors, teachers, or some other kind of authority figures.
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  SPEAKER_00: And of course, many of those people are well-intentioned, maybe even most of them.
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  SPEAKER_00: They want the best for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Other people, however, might be projecting their unfulfilled dreams upon you, like the father who constantly yells at his son during little league games to do better because he's living vicariously through his son's performance.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, I've always been really grateful that so many of the people in my life, including parents, pastors, and teachers, have been so supportive of me in my journey along the way.
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  SPEAKER_00: But when I began to build a side hustle while I was teaching at a Christian college, by the way, a side hustle that eventually became a full-time career, I got to confess to you that I really wrestled with a lot of guilt for a long time.
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  SPEAKER_00: Why?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because on some level, I worried that I was really disappointing some people by leaving quote-unquote Christian ministry.
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  SPEAKER_00: But as time went on and I became much more clear about my own goals, I understood that I wasn't leaving a ministry.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was actually expanding my ministry.
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  SPEAKER_00: And in a broader sense, I was expanding my service to the world.
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  SPEAKER_00: And ironically, since leaving that teaching job at a Christian college, I've had just as many spiritual conversations as a ghostwriter, author, and a coach than I ever had in a Christian college setting.
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  SPEAKER_00: Kind of weird if you think about it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, my point here is that when you follow your own path, you will inevitably disappoint some people.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you've got to be completely okay with that.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you're a person who hates conflict and you're a people pleaser, that's gonna be really hard.
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  SPEAKER_00: But it's a prerequisite for being successful on your own terms.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the funniest part about all of this is that you eventually learn a sobering truth, which is that all of those people who you were afraid to disappoint weren't paying that much attention to you anyway.
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  SPEAKER_00: So do your own thing, pursue your own path, and don't be afraid of disappointing some people along the way.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hey, thanks for listening.
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  SPEAKER_00: Keep writing, keep showing up, and I'll see you tomorrow.