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Self-Worth Isn’t Earned: 12 Things That Don’t Define You · A Capture Deep Vibs A Positive Space For Inspiration And Embracing Of Heart

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  [SPEAKER_01]: Hey, Psych2vours, and welcome to another video.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Thank you all so much for the love and support that you've given us.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Enabling us to make yet another exploration into everyday psychology.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: So, let's begin.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Loving yourself may sound simple, but we all know how hard it is.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Sometimes, it can be a roller coaster ride between being happy with yourself and wishing you could change.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: There are so many things that affect your image of yourself, and some of them may not be good.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Things such as the media set false expectations and ideals.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: It can be a long journey to accepting this.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: But it's worth it.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: We made this video to remind you that you should never give up on loving yourself because you deserve it and you're worth it.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: So, here are 12 things that do not determine yourself worth.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Number 1.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: You're achievements.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Can you relate to loving yourself so much when something goes well?
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  [SPEAKER_01]: But the second something goes wrong.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Your self-worth immediately takes a plunge.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Whether it's your grades, your job or your sport.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: It's easy to base yourself worth on what you accomplish.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: But how much your worth does not depend on your achievements, especially when it comes to competitions.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: You can control your competitors, so you don't need to blame yourself when things don't go your way.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: You are more than just a bullet point list of all of your accomplishments.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: You're a complex person with a personality, hobbies, and so much more than your achievements.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: And it all makes you worth it.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Number two, your income and job.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Are you second guessing your career?
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Do you often think of switching your job?
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  [SPEAKER_01]: While your job plays a big part in your lifestyle, it does not determine your worth.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: People who have less money aren't lesser than others, like society and the media sometimes portrays.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Your job and income are sometimes the results of your situation.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: There are so many factors that influence them, like location, the economy, and competition.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: So they aren't really a reflection of who you are.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Number 3.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Your childhood.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Do you avoid thinking about your childhood?
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Do the memories make you uncomfortable?
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Your childhood may shape a lot of things about you, but it does not determine your worth.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: It's a phase, well, on its way out, and you mustn't let it overwhelm you.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Your rough childhood does not define who you are.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: After all, you have no control over who your parents are, and you're not responsible for their choices.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: It may take some time to accept this, but your past does not define you.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Number four, your level of education.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Much like your income, your level of education is also the result of so many factors.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: One of the biggest factors when it comes to deciding whether to go to college and where is how much money your family has.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: You can't change how much money your family has or the location of the schools you want to go to.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Therefore, you don't need to feel bad if you don't have a higher level of education.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: It doesn't mean you're less intelligent or worth less than those who do.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Do you constantly stress about how others see you?
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Are you constantly trying to live up to their standards?
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Other people have no way of knowing who you truly are.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: While family and friends may have a good idea of it, only you fully know yourself.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Knowing this, yourself worth isn't based upon others limited and sometimes biased opinions of you.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: You cannot control what other people think, nor how they act.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Similarly, don't base your value upon something completely up to others.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Trying to please others will ultimately lead you to being miserable.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: They'll try not to stress yourself out with other people's opinions, even if it is difficult.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Number 6.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Other people's achievements.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Do you compare your achievements to other people's?
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  [SPEAKER_01]: It's okay because everyone does that occasionally.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: It's so easy to look at what you've done and compared to someone else's achievements, especially when the internet gives you access to everyone's amazing lives.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: It may be hard to internalize, but what other people do doesn't define you.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: You can't control others, so the only thing you can do is try your best.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Regardless of the result, trying your best is enough.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: After all, everyone is different with varying skill sets and experiences, so it's no use comparing to a completely unique people.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Number seven, your appearance.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Are you unhappy with some physical feature of yours?
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Is there anything you wish you could change about your appearance?
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Chances are, the answer is yes.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Almost every one wants what someone else has, which is the sad truth, especially living in today's society.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: It can be so easy to compare yourself to other people and all the gorgeous models on TV.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: But try to remember that what you look like doesn't determine how much you're worth.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: You've probably heard it before, and we know how hard it is to accept and internalize, but it's true.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: You don't need to feel bad because you might not look the way the people on the TV do.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Because everyone is beautiful in their own unique way.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Number eight, your relationship status.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Are you still looking for the one but it seems like everyone you know is getting hitched?
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Nowadays, there's so much pressure to have a significant other and the picture-perfect relationship.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: It can feel as if you constantly need to be pursuing someone out of fear of being a desperate, lonely, single.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: However, there's nothing wrong with being single.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: It doesn't make you less of a person because it means you're taking more time to focus on yourself than what you want to do.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: You will only go for it when it feels right.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: While a relationship may be nice, it's not something you need to have to be valued.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: 9.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: The number of friends you have.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Do you value quantity over quality when it comes to friends?
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Or is it difficult for you to keep up with your circle of friends?
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Having more friends doesn't measure what kind of person you are.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: If you only have a few, it doesn't mean you're not sociable or kind, but it means you have a specific taste in people.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: which isn't about thing.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Your invest in finding friends who understand and care about you.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: On the other hand, having more friends doesn't mean you're shallow and only interested in popularity.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: It means that you're friendly and open to new people.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: The number of friends you have doesn't say anything about yourself worth.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Rather, it's the quality of your friends that really matters.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: 10.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Your social media status Are you an avid scroller?
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Do you post on social media habitually or occasionally?
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  [SPEAKER_01]: With the amount of emphasis on social media, the world seems to revolve around how many likes you get.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: There is so much pressure to have a picture perfect aesthetically pleasing life.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: However, your worth is not measured by how many people like your posts.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Social media is for sharing parts of your life and forming connections with people.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: So while getting likes may give you satisfaction, it doesn't determine yourself worth.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Social media should be fun and uplifting, not a tool to gain validation.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: You are valid and worthy, regardless of your social media status.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Number 11.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Your age.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Both old and young people are often judged due to their age.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: People may think all young people are reckless and selfish, while all older people have their whole lives figured out.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: But your age doesn't control your personality, hobbies, likes, dislikes, and so much more.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: It's not a reflection if you are, so it doesn't determine your worth.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: After all.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Number 12.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Your decision to have children.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: There's a lot of societal pressure to have children in order to contribute to society.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: But having children is completely your own decision.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Not having children doesn't make you less worthy than others who do, because it's a major decision that affects you most of all.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: So it should be up to you.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Remember, your decision is valid and valued either way.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: In the end, you're the only one who determines yourself for us.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Not anyone or anything else, whether it be money, family or friends.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: It may be hard, but just try to remember, that you are more than any single aspect.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: We hope we will give you insight into some of the things that you shouldn't base your worth on.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Do you use any of these things to measure yourself worth?
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  [SPEAKER_01]: If so, that's okay.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: We've all been there before and we're here for you.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Leave a comment down below and share any experiences and thoughts you have as well.
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  [SPEAKER_00]: Thanks for watching, and we'll see you soon.