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Rabbi Moshe Haber -Teshubah: The Gift of Return and Reconciliation 9.7.25 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  An idea, the number one book on the topic of change in the
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  Jewish world is called Shahrit Shuva.
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  Shahrit Shuva was written by Robert Arbini or not Arbini now
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  as a Rishon for many years ago. And every word, literally every
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  word that he writes specifically in the 1st chapter is something
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  that can be analyzed and and and dealt with and focus on for
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  days. I remember back in the Shiva in
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  Edison years ago and Rabbi to give an entire class on one
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  line. So on Friday I got delivered to
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  my door. Didn't realize this till Shabazz
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  started. My brother-in-law I would join
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  Missouri wrote a explanation of Pirush on Shadeta Shiva.
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  I got delivered to my door. So I was wondering as far as I
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  said open up, check it out see how he probably put our friends.
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  He's very smart, but did he write?
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  He literally took line by line and expounded out in an
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  incredible way, unbelievable way.
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  I cannot imagine how much work and everybody put into this
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  unbelievable. So I want to analyze a couple of
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  lines that he explains and Chadetta Shiva.
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  The opening of this book starts with these words he said when
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  you're talking about the Shiva, the concept of change may not to
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  vote. I should hit Eva Shamit Barack
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  and below. One of the great things that God
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  gave us is giving us a path out is giving us a path to change.
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  So in this Pirosh, he explains why open up when you're talking
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  about this idea of change. Why open up with the fact that
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  it's a gift? Why isn't it so important to
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  talk about the fact that it's a tova?
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  It's a good thing that God gave us this is like this just give
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  you an explanation. He says we have a constant
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  Hakarata tov right. I'll expand a little bit
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  Hakarata tov the idea of recognizing the good How
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  important as a Jew is it to be a personal as Hakarata tov how
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  important Joe Tippy top item. In fact, your name, my name, our
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  name represents that you D is Hoda is thanks is Hakarata Tov
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  how cut out the dove is a tippy top item is top on our list of
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  characters to recognize and appreciate the good that others
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  do for us and also to appreciate the good that God does for us.
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  In fact, yesterday's past rather he read we said one of the
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  nations we do not accept back into our people, which means a
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  person from this nation cannot convert.
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  They can try as much as they want.
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  They cannot marry. One of us is our nation of
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  people who did not display proper Akratov to the Jewish
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  people, who was it? A monomov?
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  Because we took care of them years ago.
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  Ramavina took care of Lot and family.
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  They come from Lot, and they did not display proper Akratov to
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  the Jewish people. Hundreds of years later, while
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  we were in the desert, we wanted to go to travel to their land.
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  They said no. So they didn't show proper
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  Akratov in their DNA, in their genes is the wrong makeup.
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  Goodbye out of our people. They can try as much as they
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  want. They cannot join.
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  Why? Because if you have that DNA,
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  you're not a Jew. That's the mindset.
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  So that mindset means that having Proka, Proka Tov is
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  number 1. I know you know, if you have a
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  guy that you, you helped, if you have a person that you do them a
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  favor, there's something good for that.
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  And they don't display out Kurata Tov, They don't
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  appreciate it. It bothers you all the hire
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  somewhere recently who am I help pretty much I was involved in
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  something pretty good for him and he did something that was
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  complete knock knock out of talk.
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  Let's just say that total disregard and I had a hard time
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  accepting it because if someone does something for you normal
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  basic character is a show of appreciation.
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  It's the essence of a Jew and that's important for the topic
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  of the Shuva. How, how does that relate to the
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  Shuva? Because when you realize that
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  God gave us a great gift, God gave us a gift to get out of our
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  situation. He gave us an ability to
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  completely change and ignore our past and our history.
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  It's an unbelievable thing. A person does a small crime in
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  this country and they chase them down and they keep it on their
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  record where they used to be. They keep it on the record,
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  right? It's on their way for life, and
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  in Torah, according to the cause of the teshuva, a person can
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  wipe away his past in a complete way and totally wash it away,
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  and it's an unbelievable gift. When you go in with the mindset
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  that is a gift, you have the hakarata tov bakhta Hashem.
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  You appreciate what God gave you and you don't take it for
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  granted. If you recognize the idea that
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  being able to change your ways and just say to yourself, you
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  know what? I have this character trait of
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  anger. I'd gotten angry in the past
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  very often. I've said sometimes the wrong
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  thing, but if I'd like to, I can just completely wash it away.
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  If I do a little work, I can wipe it away.
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  That idea, that concept is an unbelievable world changing
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  concept that God gave us a gift that I can take what I had and
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  get rid of it and wash it away just like this.
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  It's unbelievable. And when you have Hakarata tour,
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  when you appreciate the gift, the unbelievable gift of the
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  Shiva, when you really recognize it, like a Jew is supposed to
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  always recognize as gifts. The next step is you appreciate
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  it, you recognize it, then you work with it.
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  Have you realized the gift that you have of all that God has
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  given you? Specifically when it comes to
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  the topic of the Shiva, you're prone to use it more, to utilize
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  it more. If you really appreciate the
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  gift. If someone tells you every year
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  you come around this time of year and I tell you, you can do
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  the Shiva, you can change your ways.
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  All right, cool. Very nice.
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  And if I tell you that it's a crazy gift, I think Imran tells
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  us that the angels wanted to stop.
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  Angels had a hard time with this gift.
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  It's such a great gift, right? To Shiva.
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  It's such an unbelievable. It's going against everything
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  the world is built on to Shiva. The idea of being able to wipe
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  away your past, especially if we have a Torah that's so built on
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  so much, built on the foundation of judgment and built on
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  righteousness and built on an exact science, and then all of a
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  sudden you have this idea of the Shuva, which is complete
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  contrast to the existence of the Torah.
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  There is no greater contradiction to the basic idea
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  of our Torah and the idea of the Shuva, correct?
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  Because the Shuva means no judgment, so to speak.
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  The Shuva means seems to mean there's no punishment if a
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  person follows the right process.
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  And that's a complete contrast to how it's with us simply.
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  And that's shows how great the gift of the Shiva is.
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  Now here's the process. Have you absorbed how great the
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  gift is? Naturally, you're inclined to
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  realize that gift. If I told you I have $1,000,000
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  by your door, All right. If I told you I have a lot of
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  money by your door, you're going to use it.
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  It's a gift. It's yours.
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  Keep it, enjoy it. What's automatic response?
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  Grab it and don't let. Don't leave it by the door.
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  Don't let someone else take it. It's $1,000,000 by my dorm to
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  use it. If I really absorb this concept
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  that the Shuva is a gift, I really recognize what proper
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  Hakata tov just how lucky I am to be given the ability to wipe
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  away my past to completely get rid of all negative things I've
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  ever done and start anew. If I really see it as a gift,
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  I'm automatically inclined to utilize it.
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  Why would I leave that by my door when it's a gift for the
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  taking? Why let someone else pick it up
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  when I can use it? I I completely have the power to
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  start anew so long as I recognize that it's a tova.
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  Serrari Mizrahi says that's why Shahid to Shiva starts with the
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  words may not to a vote. It's a great one of the greatest
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  gifts we have is the concept of the Shuva, because when you see
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  it as a gift, you're more inclined to tap in to use it, to
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  enjoy it, to milk it. I told you have a free vacation.
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  It's a free vacation. You can use it.
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  You can go with it. You can go to take your wife
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  away, go with your family, take yourself, go ahead and have a
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  good time. You're going to use it.
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  It's free, by the way. It's going to expire.
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  You give you a free vacation. You got one month, You're going
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  to figure out your work schedule to be able to go on that
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  vacation. I don't care what the boss says,
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  you're going to go because it's a free gift.
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  How can I let it go? And that is true with every area
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  when someone give you something that's free.
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  And the same thing is true with the chivaw.
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  It's hard to emphasize enough just how great this gift is.
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  The idea that a person can be saddled with a history that he
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  wishes he can get rid of or with parts of his life they regrets.
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  He spoke last night about the fact, like I told you, people
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  got angry from time to time, all right?
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  And they're embarrassed by people say the wrong thing and
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  they wish they could have it back.
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  People do a wrong act and they wish they never did it.
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  And here you have on a civil platter a delivery telling you
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  take this and go with it. You know what you're going to
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  do. If you focus on property, you
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  can take it and run with it because it's a free gift.
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  That's the idea of the Shiva. It's a tovah.
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  One of the points I want to tell you on the idea of the Shiva.
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  And that is the words that he says.
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  The way, the way this rabbi shouted the Shiva gets you to to
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  Shiva to change. He says God prepared for you a
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  path to take you, to elevate you mittor pahat masahem villanous
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  MI Park bisham to bring you up from our lowly actions and to
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  escape Park fisheram, which basically means the vadnais or
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  the wrongness of our our misdeeds.
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  So God gave you ability to lift you up from your sins.
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  I want to tell you a very important point.
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  I'm going to close at this point.
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  Tishuva, the word for tishuva means return.
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  Why is that the word return? How is the word?
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  It should tell me change, clean, cleanse.
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  Why do you use the word return? It's a very important point
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  Whenever someone thinks about something that they might have
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  done wrong. The issue with making a mistake
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  is not only the mistake. The issue of making a mistake is
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  a distance that it causes. And that means when a person
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  doesn't even wrong, right? Let's use the example of anger.
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  A person gets angry at a family member.
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  The problem #1 is that they got angry.
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  Problem number 2 with that act is that they were close to
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  Asham, all very close to Asham. When you get angry, you become
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  wider and separated further from Asham.
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  That's how it works. A Jew starts off very close.
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  Every misdeed that they do, as long as it stays with them,
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  separates them, separates them, separates.
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  Maybe greater than the sin itself is the distance that that
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  issue causes. You think of anything that
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  you've done or anything that a person does that's wrong.
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  It's not just the ACT, it's also the distance that it causes
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  that's the issue. The same way physically, when
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  you wrong somebody, right? Have you insult someone?
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  He had a good relationship, was all right.
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  Guys are very close. All of a sudden they find out
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  they, you know, you said something about them behind
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  their back. What happens to relationship?
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  What happens to relationship when you say something behind
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  someone's back? Automatically it becomes
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  separated. Sometimes with the without the
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  ability of return. That's not big news.
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  Now, if God sees that we we do something wrong to them, to God,
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  or to anybody else, it's a sin. It's a separation, it's a
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  distance. A person's got to absorb that
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  concept. You don't want that distance to
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  your friends or your family, nor do you want that distance to God
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  and that's what his sin is. It's a separator more than
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  anything else. It's a perude.
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  It's a separation. Some of our punishments, I'll
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  give you a classic example. We have a punishment that we
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  talked about, we're going to talk about much, but the Torah
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  does, it's called cut it. Everybody cut it.
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  What's cut it? Cut off?
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  What does that mean? That means the person can do
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  certain things and they're considering some.
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  I'm caught off from the connection.
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  How's that work? It's a crazy punishment.
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  It's a wild punishment. But the idea is, is that by
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  sinning or by doing anything wrong, they became so separate
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  from God that they cut off. That's the mindset.
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  So that's the negative. The positive is, is that when
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  you do good, you're getting closer, you're getting a strong
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  relationship, you're building. That's why a sin is distance and
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  it's var is closeness. And the Shiva, the word for the
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  Shiva is returning. Returning means you're getting
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  closer. Guys come away from a long, you
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  know, very long time he's been away.
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  Now he's coming close. That's a Shiva.
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  And when a person does it the right way, you know if your kids
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  were away for a while, right? Kids are in Israel or they're in
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  college, whatever it is, they wait for a while, they come
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  home. What's the feeling when they
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  come home? You excited, you're waiting for
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  the day, you're getting ready. Anticipation is a beauty.
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  They come in, you have the dinner together, you take them
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  out. You have a good time because
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  they came back as a return. The process of a person who
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  mends his ways, who works at something, it's a recognition of
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  the point. In the morning, God gave me a
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  gift. Why in the world would I want to
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  let that gift go, to wait for this month and let it pass?
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  I want to lose out. It's an unbelievable gift.
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  Who wants to lose out? That's the concept.
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  And with the method of the gift is to Shiva is to come close, is
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  to recognize the idea that anything you know that's off in
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  my character or in my system, my schedule is not just off.
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  It's also a separation. And my goal is to get close.
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  My goal is to get rid of that and return to our shanim and
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  return to his way. This is the focus of the
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  mindset. close this point. Now we say that angels are kulam
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  de Urim. What does it mean kulam al Veim?
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  They all are beloved to our sermon.
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  They love each other. Angels are very strong, which
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  means they can serve with might. What does it mean de Baroud?
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  What does it word baroud mean? You know what it means Baroud,
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  Harry? Clear baroud means clear
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  clarity. What does it mean?
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  Kulam berlim. They have clarif.
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  The idea is I've had this problem.
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  Maybe you can help me with this problem.
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  I speak a lot as the rabbi speak a lot.
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  I don't know how people speak so much.
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  What bothers me? Here's my issue.
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  We have a Twitter. You want people to do the right
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  thing. You're speaking about doing the
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  right thing. Usually there's not that many
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  different ways to say the same point, which means being a good
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  person, do the right thing and just understand truth from
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  falsehood, good from bad understanding.
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  That's it. There's not 1000 ways to say
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  that same point. How do you speak 1000 times?
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  I've always had this problem and I've heard speakers do it and I
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  found that they're very creative in their methods.
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  They talk about this, they talk about that, but in reality, in
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  reality, if you are clear in life, you don't need a million
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  speeches. If a person is Barud and their
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  way of thinking, they don't even need to be told a million ways
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  from Sunday how to be a good person because if you have
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  clarity, you recognize, I know there's a lot of areas of life
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  to talk about. That's not usually what speeches
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  are about. Usually speeches are different
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  ways of saying the same point, which is you can be a good
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  person, you should be a good person.
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  You have the capability of being a person and it's good for you
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  to be a good person. That's usually the structure of
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  a speech. That's about it.
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  So let's take that mindset and use it for the topic of tissue
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  Val. It's easy, it's simple, and it's
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  clear. It's a gift from God that can
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  change our ways. And it's a gift from God that
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  can get rid of separation. That's how beautiful this gift
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  is. You have a distance, you have
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  something that makes you not so close and hey, you are like
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  this. You can have a very close
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  relationship, as close as it gets, and he's offering it to
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  you even though he's been re wronged thousands of times.
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  That's the beauty of the Shiva. So the constant we're taking
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  from this book was #1 it's a tovah.
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  It's a gift, probably the greatest gift of all time.
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  The time for the Torah itself is a gift of the Shiva.
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  It's a contrast and a it's a free gift and it's a conflict to
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  everything that the world runs on judgement right from wrong.
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  All that is wiped away with the Shiva.
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  That's why it's a contrast. It's a crazy gift #1 and #2 to
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  recognize what it does, feel it brings you back.
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  It's term is called to Shiva. That's his name.
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  Because it brings you close. And it literally elevates us
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  from any sort of darkness and distance that we had, straight
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  back to closeness, straight back to relationship.
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  And why would a person want to let they give go?
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  If a person is about who like an Angel, they're going to top into
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  that gift because the same way about who they know right from
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  wrong. We are clear that it doesn't
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  make any sense to allow this kind of gift in Torva to just go
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  by the wayside when it's in our hands for the taking.
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  All it takes is a recognition of the existence of its gift.
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  Or stop with this.