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Are you running from growth? · Deep Thoughts

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  Speaker 1: Welcome everyone. I'm really intrigued by this idea of how
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  Speaker 1: our lives are like constantly being shaped by every single
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  Speaker 1: thing we go through, the good, the bad. It's almost
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  Speaker 1: like a sculptor working on us right, chipping away and
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  Speaker 1: refining who we are.
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  Speaker 2: It's a really insightful way to put it. Every experience
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  Speaker 2: adds another layer to the complexity of a person, and
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  Speaker 2: I think that's.
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  Speaker 1: What we're going to dive into today. The material you
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  Speaker 1: sent over explores how these life experiences kind of mold
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  Speaker 1: us into the people we become, and how that impacts
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  Speaker 1: our present behavior and choices, Like how often do we
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  Speaker 1: make decisions based on not wanting to relive past hurts.
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  Speaker 1: It's almost as if we're constantly trying to avoid any
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  Speaker 1: echoes of previous discomfort.
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  Speaker 2: You've hit on a really crucial point. We often talk
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  Speaker 2: about how experiences shape us, and it's true that both
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  Speaker 2: the positive and the negative ones play a significant role.
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  Speaker 2: The positive ones can be incredible catalysts. They boost our confidence,
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  Speaker 2: encourage us to take on new challenges, and really build
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  Speaker 2: up that resilience we need.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, absolutely, But then on the flip side, there are
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  Speaker 1: the negative experiences. They can definitely leave a.
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  Speaker 2: Mark, can't They Absolutely, And it's not always a bad thing.
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  Speaker 2: A degree of caution that comes from negative experiences can
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  Speaker 2: be crucial for survival and growth. But there's also the
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  Speaker 2: potential downside, the tendency to avoid anything that might remind
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  Speaker 2: us of those past hurts.
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  Speaker 1: And that's where this idea of experiential avoidings comes into play.
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  Speaker 2: Right.
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  Speaker 1: This is kind of like internal resistance to facing things
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  Speaker 1: that bring up difficult to motions or memories.
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  Speaker 2: Precisely, experiential avoidance describes a tendency to steer clear of
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  Speaker 2: certain internal experiences like specific sensations, emotions, thoughts, even memories.
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  Speaker 2: It can also involve efforts to alter these experiences or
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  Speaker 2: the situations that trigger them.
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  Speaker 1: So essentially, it's like we're trying to dodge any internal discomfort.
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  Speaker 1: But it's fascinating because you would think avoiding discomfort would
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  Speaker 1: make you feel better, but often it does the opposite.
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  Speaker 2: Why is that It's a bit paradoxical, isn't it? The
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  Speaker 2: very act of avoiding something can inadvertently give it more power.
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  Speaker 2: Think about it. Each time you sidestep a situation or
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  Speaker 2: an emotion that makes you uneasy, you're essentially reinforcing the
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  Speaker 2: fear associated.
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  Speaker 1: With it, So it's almost like a self fulfilling prophecy.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, this avoidance creates a cycle where even neutral situations
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  Speaker 2: can start to seem threatening because you're prying to anticipate discomfort.
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  Speaker 2: And the more you avoid, the less equipped you become
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  Speaker 2: to handle life's inevitable curveballs. It's like trying to learn
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  Speaker 2: to swim without ever getting in the water.
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  Speaker 1: That's a great analogy. So, knowing all this, how do
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  Speaker 1: we move forward in a way that allows us to
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  Speaker 1: learn and grow from our experiences, even the tough ones,
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  Speaker 1: without getting trapped in this cycle of avoidance.
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  Speaker 2: There are a number of really valuable tools and strategies
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  Speaker 2: that can help. I'm all yours mindfulness is a great
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  Speaker 2: starting point. It's about developing a non judgmental awareness of
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  Speaker 2: your thoughts and feelings in the present moment. By simply
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  Speaker 2: observing these internal experiences without immediately reacting or trying to
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  Speaker 2: change them, you can decrease that.
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  Speaker 1: Urge to a so it's about creating space between the
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  Speaker 1: feeling and the reaction exactly.
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  Speaker 2: Then there's cognitive behavioral therapy or CBT. It focuses on
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  Speaker 2: identifying and changing negative thought patterns that contribute to unhelpful
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  Speaker 2: behaviors and emotional distress. By restructuring these thoughts, you can
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  Speaker 2: create a more adaptive and positive way of responding to challenges.
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  Speaker 1: And what about actually facing our fears.
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  Speaker 2: That's where gradual exposure therapy comes in. It involves gradually
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  Speaker 2: and safely confronting the situations you fear. This systematic approach
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  Speaker 2: helps to reduce avoidance behaviors and build resilience over time.
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  Speaker 1: It sounds like taking small steps towards what makes you
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  Speaker 1: uncomfortable can make a big difference.
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely, and finally, don't underestimate the power of clarifying your values.
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  Speaker 2: When you have a strong sense of what matters most
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  Speaker 2: to you, it can provide the motivation to push through
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  Speaker 2: short term discomfort in pursuit of those meaningful long term goals.
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  Speaker 1: No, it seems like the key takeaway here is that
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  Speaker 1: embracing the full spectrum of life experiences, even the difficult ones,
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  Speaker 1: is crucial for per small growth and resilience.
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely, life is full of highs and lows, twists and turns.
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  Speaker 2: It's the totality of these experiences, both positive and negative,
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  Speaker 2: that contribute to the richness of who we are.
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  Speaker 1: It's almost like we're weaving a tapestry with all these
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  Speaker 1: different threads, the dark threads, the light threads, they all
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  Speaker 1: come together to create something beautiful and unique.
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  Speaker 2: I love that analogy. And by acknowledging and working through
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  Speaker 2: all these experiences, we can develop into more authentic and
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  Speaker 2: resilient individuals. We can live with a greater sense of
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  Speaker 2: purpose and fulfillment. It's about reframing those past negative experiences
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  Speaker 2: not as roadblocks, but as potential stepping stones on the
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  Speaker 2: path to a more enriched and meaningful life.
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  Speaker 1: What I'm taking away from this is that every experience,
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  Speaker 1: and no matter how big or small, how positive or negative,
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  Speaker 1: has played a role in shaping who we are today.
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  Speaker 2: That's a powerful realization, and the exciting part is that
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  Speaker 2: we have the power to choose how we approach future experiences.
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  Speaker 2: By embracing them all, even the uncomfortable ones, we open
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  Speaker 2: ourselves up to immense growth and the possibility of a
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  Speaker 2: truly remarkable journey. It's something worth reflecting on. How have
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  Speaker 2: your own past experiences, both the light and the shadowed ones,
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  Speaker 2: shaped your character, and how might embracing future experiences, even
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  Speaker 2: those that initially seem daunting lead you to an even
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  Speaker 2: richer and more meaningful wife.
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  Speaker 1: Definitely food for thought. Thank you so much for this
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  Speaker 1: insightful conversation.
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  Speaker 2: It's been a pleasure, and to.
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  Speaker 1: All our listeners out there, keep exploring, keep growing, and
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  Speaker 1: keep embracing the incredible tapestry of your own life experiences.
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