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How to Break Free From Self-Sabotage & Finally Do What’s Right For You · Terri Messenger's Genius Zone

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Hey, hey, hey, and welcome, Welcome to Terry Messenger's
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Genius Zone. And this is the place and space
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where you are going to have incredible value from a expert
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that is going to help you to really understand the depth of
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who you are at your core. This lady that I'm about to
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bring on board, she is an executive and personal coach,
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trained in positive intelligence, Co active coaching
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and the artist's way. And she really is a natural born
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artist. She's also done firework career
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coaching. So this is going to be
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incredible for men and women who feel that deep inner knowing
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that something just isn't quite right in your career and it's
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time for you to go to the next level.
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So no, with no further ado, let's bring on the gorgeous, the
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incredible Hazel Martin. Hello Hazel, how are you?
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Oh, hello, Terry. I'm, I'm very well.
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Thank you. Great to be here.
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Thank you for inviting me. It's a pleasure.
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And whereabouts are you? So I'm based in southwest London
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and it's sunny today. Hurry.
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Well, it's the opposite to Perth, Australia because we had
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torrential rains here when I was travelling home and it's been
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really cold. So I think I'll just give that
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back to London or the UK and take back the summer weather
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because I love, I love the summer.
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Now this is going to be a really, really valuable teaching
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that we go through together and I want to really encourage
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people to stay to the end because Hazel's going to bless
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us with a self command muscle, not a meditation, but isn't it?
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Would you call it a visualisation?
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It's helping people just to get present to the here and now.
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So I don't know, maybe we should do it now because it's to help
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people to get present to the here and now.
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Well, it's here and now. If you would like to do that, I
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am going to absolutely give you the stage to do it.
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So I'm ready if you are. OK, cool.
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So it's one of the one of the tools in my toolbox that I use
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to help people to get truly present to the here and now.
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And it really helps to calm the nervous system dying.
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So it's especially relevant from we jump from one thing to the
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next and we've maybe been juggling things and maybe we've
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got a bit triggered or hijacked by someone.
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So I would invite you all to soften your gaze or if you're
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happy, to close your eyes and I'd like you to focus on your,
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your breathing. And there's no judgement, you're
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just 100% curious to your breathing, the gentle rising and
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falling of your chest and stomach.
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And if it helps you place one hand on your heart and one hand
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on your guts. So as you're softening your gaze
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with your eyes closed, just notice the gentle rising and
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falling of your chest and stomach.
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And now bring your attention to a sign, the furthest away sign
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that you can hear. And then bring your attention to
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the nearest sign you can hear. And if you can't hear your
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breathing, bring attention to your breathing.
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And then bring your attention back to your fingers.
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So I'd like you to ask you to rub your thumb together with
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your index finger and notice any ridges that you can feel in your
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fingertips. Again, there's no judgement.
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You're being super curious and noticing, simply noticing.
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And then bring your attention to the temperature in your fingers
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as you're doing that. And then bring your attention
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back to the here and now. And I ask you to open your eyes,
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if you haven't done already, and lift your eyes and be here.
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Focus on what we're about to see today.
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Thank you. What an incredible introduction.
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And I believe that maybe I ought to bring the end to the
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beginning every time because that just really sets the mood
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and you know, I, I just love that.
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So thank you so, so much from that and for that beautiful,
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beautiful meditation. I love the way that you also
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created us to anchor our fingertips with the thumb and
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really get into that sensory. You know what, what do you
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believe is behind that? You know, like to to ask people
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to do it is one thing, but I mean, maybe someone out there
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that is very stressed out that just needs to really come back
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into their presence, they can understand that this is going to
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be something very powerful. Can you explain why it's so
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powerful? Yeah, absolutely.
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Thank you for asking the question.
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Here's the thing, I know because I've lived it myself, that
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there's certain people, there's certain situations, there's
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certain events that you get triggered or hijacked, whatever
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you want to call it. But you notice that something's
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shifted and you're not being quite your full self.
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You're maybe not focused or concentrating, but something's
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happened in that moment and maybe train of thought goes off.
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How can they say that thing or what just happened there?
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Whatever it is, I'm not good enough.
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I can't speak up, but something's just happened which
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has triggered you, throwing you off course.
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The simple exercise I just demonstrated is actually
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bringing your attention back to the here and I so that your
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brain can't go off in that whole tangent of thoughts and
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disappearing thoughts, especially because when we're
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triggered, hijacked, that's exactly what's happening.
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Our our train of thinking is going off in a negative
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disempowering pathway. And by bringing attention back
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to the here now we're stopping that because our brain can only
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focus on this thing which is using one of our scents.
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And the brilliance is you can use it in any meeting situation.
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No one has to see it. The rubbing the fingers under
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the deck. Sometimes I ask people to look
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into my eyes, so you could actually look into the other
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person's eyes and notice the colour of their eyes, how long
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their eyelashes are, whatever helps you get back to the ear
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and night because that's all we have.
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That is so true. I love that.
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And in this world that we're living in, I know that I'll
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catch myself out quite often where I realize that I'm not in
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the present because I've obviously been triggered by
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something. And then that causes me to be
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thinking ahead, either thinking about what I'm about to do or it
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will kind of take me back to what happened before.
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But I'm not here and now and I lose my magic.
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And I absolutely know I do. And then you can't relate to
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people in the same way because, you know, and I mean, how many
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people actually get this before they get to go on stage and they
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they do a talk or they may have something important and might be
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even that they're hosting a party or, you know, they want to
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impress their boss and they want to be the best version of
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themself. But all of a sudden they get so
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caught up in what am I going to do?
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And how is this going to be? And then of course, as you know,
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being the expert in this, you know, all those self doubt
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sabotaging voices start jumping into the head that causes us to
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kind of go back. And I noticed that backstage you
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talked about the inner child and tapping into that place and that
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space. So can you open that up a little
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bit for us? Yeah, I believe every single one
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of us has this true essence, IE who we are way back when where
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we didn't have the ego, the judgement, etcetera.
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And we were just ourselves pure with, you know, able to do
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whatever we put ourselves to. And you know, I mean by crawling
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or walking or talking. But we we were able to do that
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from a place of I know I can do that.
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And I think, you know, when I was younger, I was very
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creative, very creative dancing, singing, drawing, arts.
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And I believe a lot of us are like that.
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And for me, it's getting back in touch with that part of us, if
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that part of us is being closed down in any way over the years
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of conditioning by what people tell us is we all have this
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creative part of us as well as the logical part.
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So yeah, the inner child stuff is reconnecting more to who we
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are at our core. Yeah, I'm very right brain
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Hazel. So I'm, I live in my creation
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and I know that that can drive people crazy sometimes.
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And I think I love what you're saying and, and what you stand
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for because I see so many people and I know that burnout wasn't
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the thing really for you. It's more about those people
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that are saying to themself, well, you know, what's next?
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And there's got to be more than this.
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And I know that there's something better.
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But, you know, from my own point of view, I see people that are
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trying to do it all and they just want to be everything to
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everyone. And as a result, that burns them
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out. It waters them down.
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It causes them to be in this kind of a mode where you know,
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this is what they're doing. And you know, I, one of the
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things that I feel that I have accomplished and I feel it very
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much aligns with what you're teaching people is the fact that
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I was that client of yours. The self doubting, the self
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sabotaging the high achiever to the point of OverDrive and hence
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the burnout. Because I felt that that's where
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my kind of like my self esteem was.
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Because obviously something when I was young must have triggered
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me into thinking that, oh, hang on a minute.
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If I achieve this and if I achieve that, then I'm going to
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get the love or the attention or the recognition.
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And you know, I, I feel that for these people that are dealing
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with so much noise, I mean, that's not me anymore.
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In fact, I have to say, and I, and I have my downfalls.
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Don't you worry about that. But the old version of me that
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used to try to do everything, whereas now I will own what I
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can't do. And you know, I know that there
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is a there's, there's, there's parts of our life where, yes, we
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have to do these things logically, but where our focus
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is and where we have a choice. I feel it's so important to live
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by what you're teaching and preaching here, which is about,
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you know, bringing out the best in yourself, you know, and kind
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of like understanding the noise. And also, you know, I want you
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to teach us on how do we become more aware of that noise so that
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that noise in our head, like we wake up in the morning and we've
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got all these things going on in our brain.
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Can you talk me through, you know, because I know there's a
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lot of people out there that are going to listen to this and hear
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it. What would you say would be the,
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you know, some of the most incredible value systems that
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have helped you through getting through the noise and the
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sabotaging thoughts and just bringing yourself back to
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present? Yeah.
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So thank you for asking the question, Terry.
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I can certainly relate to what you were saying about
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Hyperachiever. So I was brought up very much in
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a competitive environment where I competed a lot when I was
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younger. So, you know, hence, you know,
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self worth attached to perhaps achievement and striving for
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more without even stopping to celebrate the achievements that
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you'd already won. And yeah, if you continue to do
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that, eventually, as you see, you will burn out because you're
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not even to swapping to celebrate.
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So here's the thing, all of us, every human has self sabotage
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tendencies. And the first thing is bringing
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awareness to when we may be defaulting to that self sabotage
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pattern, inner critic, gremlin, saboteur, whatever you want to
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call it. But it's the part of us, the
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voice in our head that does not serve us.
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And it it, it impacts our nervous system as well.
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So it's also highly connected that you know, it's, it's so
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fast and it's like that it's impulsive, it's emotional and
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it'll get you and it has so fast in a blink of an eye.
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So for, for me, the first thing I would say is first thing in
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the morning is being super intentional about getting into a
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practice, which is literally, you know, as soon As for me,
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what I do is as soon as I get out of my bed, I literally sit
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in the garden and I will either journal or I will listen to
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nature, watch, observe nature, just to really connect more with
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myself and connect more with my intention around who am I being
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today and who am I meeting today and what are the situations?
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But there's there's definitely something about first thing in
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the morning that really helps us connect back to ourself and to
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connect back to who we want to be in any given moment.
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And so that when these little pesky voices come out, we're
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able to notice it. We're able to be self aware and
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we're able to use an exercise such as I, you know, began the
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session with to bring us back to being present so that we can
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connect with that different part of us who is empathetic, who is
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caring, compassionate, creative, curious, will consider the
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bigger picture, IE what's important here so that we're
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able to take any action or any meeting or any situation with
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that calm, clear headed action. Ultimately that's what every
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single human wants is to be able to operate more from that place
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rather than a place of, you know, the self sabotaging
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patterns that inner critic. So it's a practice and it's like
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fitness. It's my practice.
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It's just like going to the gym. I don't go to the gym
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personally, but it's I do certainly have routines that I
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go through to exercise my body and I have routines that I go
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through to exercise what is happening up here.
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And it is all connected. So yeah, it's, it's a fitness,
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it's a mental fitness. A mental fitness.
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I love that. Yeah.
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Look, I can't agree with you more.
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I, I believe that, you know, even as a clinical
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hypnotherapist, the word diet, I mean, anything with the word dye
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in it, it's got to be bad. You know, that's what my husband
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always says. But the fact is that when you
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feel like, oh, I've got to go to the gym, I've got to do this,
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I've got to do that, you're almost in a sabotaging pattern
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already just because you are either saying you've got to do
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it, which feels like an energy of otherwise it's like, oh, I
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should have done this or I should have done that.
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So as Anthony Robbins says, we're sort of shooting all over
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ourself rather than what you've just said, which is you don't go
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to the gym necessarily. And there's nothing wrong with
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going to the gym. If you love going to the gym and
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that's sustainable for you, that's awesome, You know, much
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blessings, but there's many people that just cannot sustain
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that sort of thing. So what kind of exercises do you
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recommend? I know I've got a a couple and
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if I may share just a couple of the things that I do is even
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just moving the body like getting up in the morning.
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And making sure that I'm putting some water in my body before I
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throw the caffeine down the throat, you know, because I'm a
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bit of a coffee lover in the morning.
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But I know that when you wake up, that first thing that you
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take in is so vital. So I tend to, I love the sun,
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although we're in winter at the moment, so you know, too bad
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about that one. So if there is sun, I'll go out
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and I'll stand in the sun and I'll move my body.
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I won't necessarily do 50 bend backs, 10 push ups, all the rest
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of it. It's just movement, mind to body
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movement. And I've got a couple of
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affirmations as well that I, that I do.
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But what are some of your things that that you would suggest?
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Yeah, I know. Thank you for asking the
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question. I mean, I've got my water here.
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So there's so many people that are simply dehydrated.
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So water, it's not caffeine, it's not tea, it's not fizzy
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drinks, it's pure water. And we are 70% whatever made-up
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of water ourselves. So we need water.
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So I totally relate to that and movement.
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We are designed to move. We need to move our bodies,
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otherwise we start getting back pain.
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Backache. The number of people I know who
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have backache from sitting at a desk behind a computer and not
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moving their body. So many people.
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So movement is fundamental, especially when you're sitting
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down behind a PC. So I love what you said about
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affirmations as well. There is something incredibly
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powerful about the words we tell ourselves.
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So if I say I am stupid, I am useless, I cannot do this.
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Well, guess what? It's sending a message to your
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whole system that you cannot do this.
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Whereas if I'm seeing things like I am smart, I can do
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anything I put my mind to that shifts it that I can do this.
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So there's definitely something around what you tell yourself.
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There's also something around what you consume.
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And I don't just mean water. Also what you put in your body.
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We are what we eat. I could go on going out first
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thing in the morning. Getting your vitamin D from the
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sunshine again is proven you need it, otherwise your system
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gets depressed. We need sunlight, humans need
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sunlight. So it's why I go into my garden
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first thing in the morning to connect with the sun, greet the
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sun. It's another day.
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We don't get to say we're going to be here tomorrow.
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We have no idea when we're going to be here tomorrow.
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We assume we will, but we don't know.
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There's so many things I can say about nature as well.
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The benefits of nature and being out in nature help us to
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literally calm our nervous system and to connect with that
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creative part of us and to connect with that awe and wisdom
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that each of us have if we only slow down to notice it.
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Journaling works for many people.
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Journaling is great because you're getting out what's in the
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head through your heart, into your hand.
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There's just something incredibly powerful about
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getting what's in your head through your heart, through your
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hand. And when you write it down and
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raise, write what's in your consciousness, you get to see
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what you're telling yourself, what your thoughts are.
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So generally for me, I use it for poetry, consciousness,
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writing things. It's just incredible to to help
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to connect with who you are and what you want more of just by
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asking simple questions. Simple questions.
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That's about joy. What brings me joy?
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Good question. Speaking of which, Speaking of
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which, I love that question. What brings you joy?
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I want to talk about one of the first questions you got asked
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when you went in to become a Co active coach.
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Based on the first pillar. What brings you?
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Do you want to say the word? Yeah, fulfillment, fulfilment.
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What fulfils me 100% is what is deep and true to all of us.
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What do we most value? I most value connection.
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I most value helping others one-on-one.
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I most value, you know, bottom line, love health.
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So fulfilment is in any given day what fulfils you?
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And just sitting with that question, dancing.
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Oh my God, I love dancing. I love, there's so many things I
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love and how can you bring more of that into your daily life?
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So dancing for a single? Morning.
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We're sisters. We're definitely soul sisters
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because that and that leads me to sort of opening up on this
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topic as well, because you're talking about what brings you
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fulfilment. And what you're talking about
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here is essentially, you know, helping that person to
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understand, you know, where their intention and purpose is
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really based. And I love that you've done
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that. And then you've talked about
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your creativity. I'm not saying that everybody
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out there that's gonna listen to this is necessarily going to be
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like you and I and love to dance.
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However, I believe that Shahzad touches on this as well.
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And you're obviously certified according to that.
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Positive intelligence is one of your many certifications.
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He talks about sort of getting in touch with that inner child
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and where you did sort of come out and actually feel good.
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It might have been an accidental moment.
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And what I discovered is, Oh my gosh, you know what?
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I came forward when I was on the stage or I was in front of
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people. I was dancing and I was
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expressing myself. Now I Can't Sing for nuts, but
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that's OK. But I, I would, I love to emcee
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karaokes. And I'm like, why is it that all
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of a sudden I'm in my sweet spot?
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And then that took me back to my childhood and I recognized that
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that's where I come out. And even as a coach, being the
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genius zone, bringing people's genius out, helping them to
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really master, you know, what they're all about it.
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It kind of all correlates. But can you talk us through the
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whole, you know, understanding our own creativity and why
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that's so important to sort of tap into perhaps our, our
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childhood of where we may have, you know, found ourselves
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enjoying our lives and really just accidentally having a great
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time and feeling fulfilled? Well, I mean, there's so much it
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does for the body, right? So when you connect more with
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that dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, all these feel good
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hormones, you know, that's just one thing.
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But for me it's just aliveness. It's it's your full expression
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of who you are at your best. And aliveness is probably what I
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would call it you. For me, I just feel so alive and
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vibrant whenever I'm in the outdoors because I grew up on a
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farm, so I love the outdoors. I love nature, I love connecting
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with that. I love dancing.
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It's a freedom of expression and I believe more we can be more
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attuned to that, the more we're able to tap into that
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creativity. And let's face it, in companies,
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what's the number one thing all companies need is innovation.
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And when when companies are looking at innovation, the more
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that people are able to get in touch with that part of
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themselves, that part of their brain where whatever you want to
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call it, the more they're able to define that connection to
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that. The more innovation there is,
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the more disruption there is, the more creation there will,
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because you're connecting with a different part of you, away from
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the analytical, logical mind. And for me, I am more alive as,
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for want of a better phrase, I'm more connected with what's most
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important to me, and me at my best as well.
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It brings me a job, right? That's that's gold.
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I mean, that's just gold right there, you know.
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So what brings you to life, you know, for the listeners out
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there, and what was it that, you know, were those moments in your
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life where you literally maybe accidentally discovered yourself
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feeling like what Hazel is talking about?
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Now, for those of you, incidentally, who are really
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wanting to come to life and really feel that you're at that
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crossroads and, and you want to be able to to take that
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deliberate, intentional, massive aligned action.
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This is your lady. And we're going to put Hazel's
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contact details in the show notes so that, you know, it
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doesn't matter even if you're in a role where you might feel like
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that you're fulfilled, but they might be.
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Well, what's next? You know, Hazel's going to
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really help you to be able to tap into that creative side into
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that creative genius as as well as reprogramming your brain so
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that you can do some of the elements that she has so
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incredibly learn how to do that she's gonna, you know, impart
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with you. Now.
31:20
Balance was another really important pillar and you know,
31:27
oh gosh, like even when I think about my left and right brain,
31:30
that's so imbalanced, it's not funny.
31:33
I don't know whether that's you would consider that I need to
31:36
work on that, but can you talk to me about, you know, balance
31:41
and and what that means in making empowered choices?
31:45
Yeah, balance. So balance for me is the ability
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to come up things with different perspectives.
31:55
So you're you are able to consider different scenarios and
32:01
able to see different perspectives to make an empire
32:05
choice about which is the perspective that's going to best
32:09
serve you in any given moment. And that's super important when
32:13
it comes to relationships. So it could be in the workplace,
32:16
at home, but you're able to have that flexibility and
32:20
adaptability of your mind in the moment to have these different
32:25
perspectives and movement and metaphors.
32:32
There's different ways to access different perspectives, but the
32:36
movement and the metaphors are too ways that help us access
32:42
these different perspectives. And also throwing out different
32:48
items, things you might not think of to help you get into a
32:52
different perspective, to see things from a new angle.
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Because when you're able to do that again, a whole world opens
33:00
up in terms of empowered choices going forward.
33:04
Absolutely. In fact, perception and
33:07
perceptual shifting is probably the number one key that if
33:14
everybody knew how to utilize that, it would change the world
33:19
just in that one thing. So thank you for all the gold
33:23
Nuggets you're sharing here. Now the next part and the third
33:28
pillar that I know you really believe in as a thought leader
33:33
in your field is processing and process and embracing life's
33:38
full experience. So I think you've really covered
33:41
a lot of that, but can you add, is there anything you can add
33:44
there? Yeah, definitely.
33:46
So process for me is about being able to express your emotions
33:53
fully. And so for me, the ability to
33:58
tap into what's really happening in your body sensation wise.
34:05
So it's it's the ability to to notice what is happening
34:11
internally as you're talking about different things.
34:16
So processing is processing emotions.
34:18
Emotions are brilliant because there are signposts to what is
34:23
important and maybe what is a value that's being trampled on.
34:29
So when they cry, they could be crying with joy or they could be
34:33
crying with sorrow or crying because something, some values
34:37
being trampled on. So for me, it's about the full
34:40
expression of processing emotions.
34:44
And it could be difficult emotions, challenging emotions,
34:47
or it could also be emotions which are fulfilling, you know,
34:52
expressive, joyful, etcetera. But it's the ability to process
34:56
them because they are samples to what is actually happening in
35:00
any given moment. Well, I love that.
35:04
That's like your GPS, that radar that is directing you.
35:09
So, yeah, don't kind of like, you know, try and throw away the
35:15
emotions as a negative thing because sometimes they're your
35:18
friend there. That red light on the dashboard
35:23
saying, hey, you need petrol, you better get petrol or else.
35:27
I mean, what would happen if we didn't have that red light on
35:28
the dash, right? So we can look at it like that.
35:33
So, you know, when you're working with your clients,
35:35
obviously you're helping both men and women and you're very
35:40
good at helping them to quieten that inner voice, which you've
35:44
already showcased that. So I would say that's gold.
35:49
And for for those listening in and tuning in, that's something
35:53
you can just do every morning. You could listen in to Hazel's
35:56
short meditation and find that to be so empowering.
36:02
So you know, when you're thinking that this is just not
36:08
quite it. And, you know, you've heard
36:10
something that Hazel has said on the show that really resonates.
36:15
Then get in contact with it. It's going to be in the show
36:19
notes. Hazel.
36:20
You also support people to obviously understand how to
36:27
reprogram their brain from that saboteur to the sage.
36:32
And you're offering assessments and, you know, maybe a call
36:38
where people can jump on a clarity call with you.
36:41
So, you know, there's one last question that I do want to go
36:45
through with you. And, and I guess this is what I
36:48
ask everybody on the show and that is that, you know, when we
36:52
sort of get going, it's when we start to light up and I can see
36:57
you've really lit up and you've just shared gold with what you
37:01
what time you've had to to give to us to today.
37:05
So I would like to ask, is there something for that person that's
37:11
literally out there? They haven't mentioned yet that
37:13
they're praying for you? Is there something that you
37:16
would want to share with a person?
37:19
I mean, based on, even if you go back to what you've already
37:23
shared here already, because you've shared about the
37:27
journaling, you've shared about, you know, tapping into your
37:31
presence and, and, and some excellent ways of doing that,
37:35
You know, you've talked about, you know, coming back to who you
37:40
are at your core. And there's so much here.
37:45
What would you like to share before we close and we let you
37:49
get on with your busy day? OK, cool.
37:52
I think the one other thing I just wanted to close with was
37:56
the power of visualization. So for me, when I realized when
38:03
we're able to tap into our imagination and visualisation,
38:07
how powerful that can be. And as a practice, again, it's
38:12
something that I use personally. So top athletes use it, CE OS
38:17
use it and it's certainly something that I use with by
38:21
coaching clients because when they're able to catch the
38:25
saboteurs, become present and also tap into their imagination,
38:30
visualisation, they're able to tap into that part of themselves
38:35
that sees themselves doing the thing that they want to do,
38:39
whether it's public speaking, whether it's negotiation,
38:42
whether it's dancing on stage, whether it's speaking in front
38:46
of a room of executive boards, etcetera.
38:51
So I would say visualisation is an underutilised part that
38:58
people don't tap into enough. So that's one other tool I want
39:03
to share. And if anyone is out there who
39:07
is not feeling happy, fulfilled in the workplace, and anyone who
39:15
also wants to be top of their game in terms of their own
39:18
performance as a people leader, I would love to hear from you
39:22
because I love helping people like that to navigate what's
39:26
next and be the best version of themselves.
39:30
Wow. Yeah, boom.
39:32
Right there girlfriend. And you know, what Hazel is
39:37
going to also do for you is to help you activate yourself
39:42
Command muscle. So I don't, I don't, I feel that
39:46
that's, that's just really incredibly powerful to do that
39:52
because sometimes it's it's we're not looking for the, you
39:56
know, the things we have to walk to the other side of the world
39:59
and come back again to, to get what you want.
40:03
But it's these incredible, you know, exercises and mental
40:09
fitness and awareness. And yourself command muscle is
40:16
obviously one of your signature techniques.
40:19
So I just want to say thank you so much Hazel, for this time.
40:24
I know that you you're running short of time and for what
40:28
you've given us is absolutely incredible.
40:31
So I want you to just tell us where we can find you, bearing
40:36
in mind we're going to have all of your links in the show notes
40:39
so people can contact you. Where's the place that you hang
40:43
out where if somebody listens to this and says I want to get in
40:47
contact with her right now, where will that be?
40:50
Yeah, so the best way to get in touch with me is on LinkedIn or
40:53
to e-mail me. But as you see, you'll you'll
40:55
share it in the show notes. And I also use Calendly for
40:59
people to set up Discovery taster sessions with me as well.
41:04
So thank you for sharing Terry and the show notes.
41:06
I really appreciate that. Yes, and you're welcome and have
41:10
a beautiful day and thank you so much once again and stay awesome
41:15
everyone and thank you Hazel. And that was an incredible mic
41:23
dropping moment of so much gold right there.
41:28
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41:31
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41:37
And on that note, may the force be with you.
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That's over and out from Terry Messenger, Genius Stone.