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Rabbi Moshe Haber Orchot Saddiqim: The Measured Compass 7.13.26 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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And what he's really doing to me, which is eye opening, is
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analyzing different kinds of people, all related to character
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traits, the different types of paths people may take.
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So for example, last week, last time we went Thursday, the
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analysis was that there are people who want to do good.
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They really are dedicated to becoming good people.
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They just don't know how. And he said because of that,
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they make serious mistakes and they take the wrong paths and
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they give people like they put themselves through a lot of pain
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and a lot of work. And a lot of, you know, they,
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they're trying to control themselves and they just do not
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have any understanding of what's good and what's not good.
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And they end up on the wrong side of a lot of issues.
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I gave examples of sometimes when there are disputes and
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people get involved and they're the wrong people to get
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involved. You've seen this.
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And they side with the wrong God and they just ought to be nice.
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So they what happens is they go to the victim because we're
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always inclined to protect the victim, the underdog.
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We all like the underdog, We like the victim and they make
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things worse because they don't understand that victim might not
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have been actually been a victim.
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That victim might have been really the aggressor.
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Typical stuff. And that all comes because of
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their do gooders. They would love to do good their
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horrors in the right place, but they do not know how.
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So he says that's why a person needs to have not only a good
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inclination to grow up, we're also in the right direction of
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how to develop. And let's see how he says over
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here on the bottom of 14. Are we born bad and we have to
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chisel ourselves to become good? We're going to see this every
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say it. Yes, Christian mom, I weren't.
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In sin not because I know, I know, I know babies.
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We'll see. We'll see a similar concept in
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that some degree. Yes, it's in in that concept
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somewhat similar. The Haines Lachmol Nashim had to
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win by the shop is therefore she filled their their people who
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whose lives have sunk in meaninglessness.
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This, therefore is connected to a different point.
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Lambdam said the commercial the ocean was dying.
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People have to understand and weigh their values Lord Yam, but
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not to kiss it. They need to be learnt and be
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taught. What is the justness of scales.
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In other words, they need to learn put on balance.
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Now the same we're saying you have a very good, you know, do
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good or guy. A guy was hard in my place.
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There's no clue he's doing because there's no balance.
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They need to learn the right pass.
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The Manchevra Adam, it's Chila Tavratomisila presents to choose
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the right path. Ashita Viejo le mekomra Anon
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with Ashen Shasham Kotova to bring him to a beautiful place.
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He that's based on the fear of heaven.
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That's really the finish line, the Ashela Shasham and is the
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goal. That's what Ashem wants, as he
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started with this concept somehow, as we'll see, plays a
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major role in this idea of doing things the right way.
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In other words, In other words, the way it works is, is that if
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people have proper fear of heaven, they're going to realize
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a lot of times I'm trying to do good, but it's not really a good
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thing. And they're going to say to
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themselves, basically, what does God want from me in this
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situation? OK, I'll give you an example.
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Yesterday I went to a funeral of my 10th grade rabbi, and that's
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an Edison yeshiva, my 10th garaba.
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And there was a theme that was steady throughout all the
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speeches. The speeches were in the, in the
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she, what he taught, what I went to.
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And there was a steady theme. It was an underlying theme
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because they could not say this openly.
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So you could tell from the from the kids and from the other
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rappers that spoke is that a lot of times in his life, he made
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decisions that were decisions about doing the right thing,
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even if they meant turning down a better offer.
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Now you're in the yeshiva that he taught.
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So you don't want to speak about the fact that he had
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opportunities to leave. So you don't want to say it
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openly. You're also talking about the
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fact that we're talking about Torah offers.
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So you don't want to, you know, put other people down.
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So it's very clear there was reading the lines type thing,
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but they basically insinuated the fact that he had got offers
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to positions that are better, you know, more procedures than
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technical teacher happens to be in that world, a very position
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position. But he got offers, it seemed
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like, to open up his own institutions.
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And his overall perspective was always the same thing.
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Am I stepping on someone else's toes or am I not?
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If I am, I'm going to turn it down.
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And it sounds like he never chose a different position
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because he did not want to step into those toes.
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And to me, that was a took away to take away message, which is
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you're doing good, you're in the field of doing good, you're
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teaching Torah. Nothing better than that and yet
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this on the overwhelming mindset was am I hurting somebody else,
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Am I not and that is the definition of balance.
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Definition of balance is you're doing something good, you're
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trying to be a good person. You still need to say to
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yourself, am I hurting someone or am I not even though I'm
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doing something good And that's the same thing over here.
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You have people who are do gooders to have to tell
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themselves basically, what would God want the way the children
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and his brothers and said, what would God want?
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What's ever Hashem, You know, one of them said to this point,
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we have three things Al Tudah, al waddah, gimu Khazadim, the
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world stands. Tudah is teaching Tudah learning
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Tudah Al Waddah is praying in service and and they said, you
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know why we say all these three because if someone is failing in
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one of these three, it's an indication that the other two
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might be sketch. So let's say he's a big Tudah
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person and he's a big prayer, but he doesn't care about other
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people. They said maybe he just likes
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learning. Maybe just like Spring, he
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doesn't really care about this and the other way too.
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They said you have to have all three.
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You have to have an equal balance to prove that you're
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genuine and you're real. Notice there's a constant
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consistent theme to maybe 8 speeches.
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That was a consistent theme over over again, the same idea
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underlying, but it was real and hate home to me because balance
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and understanding that the right from wrong is not as simple as
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we think as a real constant. That's why he says, that's why
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he says the end of the road is your out your mind.
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Because asking yourself all the time, if God were in this
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situation, would God be this aggressive or would God be
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considerate about what other people are feeling?
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Would God act this way or were you not?
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That's a really important feeling.
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That's a mindset that's based on balance.
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The end Shuma said Nahshaab, there's nothing, there's no deed
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more valuable than your out your mind sense of presence of
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Hashem. That's why I call you out.
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Shumain la Chen yeshlo dia la Co never We need to tell everybody
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kiko ishara TSE la vie nafshola de milot to vote.
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If a person wants to have proper character sarika arabiya shamaya
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he needs to mix in fear of heaven.
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Kirata hashemiya keshit sense of the presence of Hashem is a
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common bond show. Marzi cola midot.
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It fortifies all character traits.
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With domela hoot. It's like a strange.
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Then you put two pearls, the cashew cachet tartiot.
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You put a strand through all the pearls, Right?
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You ever tried? My kids tried so many.
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Three times. My daughters, They wanted me to
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help them do that beating thing. Ever try?
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Yeah, my hands are. You don't have the hands for it.
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My kids keep asking Doc and you're writing my name and put
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it through and I get the name backward and that it's a test,
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but it's a very fine art. And he's saying Gerard Shamayim
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is that same art is that same bond that exactly putting the
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needle through it helps you bond all good characters together.
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That's the idea. And the concept is, is that
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overall people want to be good. Like we're saying people are
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dedicated to a certain area. You never want to be the guy, by
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the way, if you're a 1 trick pony, that's a weakness, which
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is if a person is very busy with 1 character tree and he is the
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guy that always talks about, I don't know what the character
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is, humility or always talks about a strada, even though it's
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very important to be good at certain areas.
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But if you're 1 trick point, it means you're not weaving
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everything together. You have to speak about a
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Sharada. But you know, once in a while,
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once in a blue moon, you might need to tell your wife that so
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and so is not a good person. Even though you're very anti
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Sharada, right? You have to speak about your
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Moody. Trust me, I'm a big immunity
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guy. But at the same time, once in a
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while, you got to be and have a sense of we have to stand up for
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this. We have to have, we have to have
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a sense of pride in certain areas, even though we're very
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humble. Everything requires a balance.
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And when you're a 1 trick pony, you're indicating that's not
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really that I have that balance. It's just that I like that area.
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You never want to be a person who's involving my own feelings
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into character. No character is a development
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weaving together all different concepts.
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Why is it weaving together? Because sometimes I'm you're
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going to be very strong in a certain area, you're going to
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allow certain bad things to develop.
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Take for example, I don't speak. Someone says I don't speak or
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shine ever. Good, I'm with you, don't speak
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or shine ever. But what if your brother is
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about to hire an associate who is a problem?
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You don't speak or shine a lot, but you know what?
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You're going to save your brother.
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What if your niece is about to get engaged to a guy who's a
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disaster? Right?
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You don't speak of Shana, but you better Piper.
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But those other? Games.
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There's other. Games to protect people get to.
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Right. For the legal reason.
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There's so much more attached to it, like it's you've never heard
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it and it's like pure form that it was like that the rabbi's
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tell you you're allowed to do it.
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People will be like. OK, I.
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Don't know. Are you saying there are
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situations that people allowed to speak?
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Yeah, like there was a case where there was there was a
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couple and they said that I can't, bad guy.
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But on top of it, the mother also felt like her class was
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above the guy's class. So this was for her the perfect
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storm. You know, the fact, the fact
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that they, you know, they said that he's that he vaped in, in
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yeshiva or whatever it was. Right, right.
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And you know. So it's like people use it as a
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what was an excuse? Well, he's what excuse not
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thinking, right? Because the same thing, the same
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thing, the same idea of balance over and over again, which is if
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you're just heavily fixated on a concept and you're not focusing
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the overall picture, there's a danger of a lack of balance.
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It's always the danger of that. That's the idea of you're not
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showing, you're not showing the overall umbrella that makes you
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say, I, I don't, I don't know everything that God wants.
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I don't know yet, but I know that I have to start thinking
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like him, which means I have to think what's the right thing,
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not simply what's that topic and what you know.
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That's an overall mindset and that's balance.
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That's idea what you're saying. There are situations where where
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different permitted if someone is.
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Permanent. Obligate.
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All right, someone is stealing money and and you know and you
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don't know and you're because the incomes up you're obligated.
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I know this is person is stealing.
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You know the and it's not it's not no, no, he's you need to
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know that you're don't you don't know that.
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Yeah. It's a misunderstanding of the
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topic when people say I never, ever speak.
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Now again, it's not a licensed speaker.
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No, it's licensed to understand. And sorry, that is a balance and
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balance is so key and so strong that when you're a do gooder
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that's only only busy with doing good and being Mr. Sweet and
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nice, sometimes you can be very dangerous, really lethal person.
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Whereas if a president recognizes I have to do the
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right thing, the right thing means I have to protect people.
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I also have to again. But sure, that leads to
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negativity, leads to a lot of disasters, leads to a lot of
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fights, creates a lot of problems are unnecessary for
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sure. The balance also, I'm sorry,
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lack of balance also create the same problems as a Sean I would
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create. The only way a person is
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complete is if they know when yes and when no.
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Want to be strong, want to be nice, want to be tough, want to
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be soft. It's all part of the makeup of a
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real person. And that's the idea of this
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strand that weaves all. Like he says, we've all the
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pearls together. If you only have one Pearl and
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all the other pearls, you don't kind of.
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You don't have a bracelet or anything.
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If a person has only one character tree and doesn't have
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the others, doesn't have that complete picture, you got your
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mind, the umbrella of telling you to do the right thing, get
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you to do everything together. It makes you great.
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That's the idea. So the picking and choosing that
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the they we do today. No, it's no.
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I'll give you an example. No, I'll give you an example.
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When they talk about the Shabba Al comes right?
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And they speak about Sanat Khanam, right?
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The only reason why it's OK that we speak about, of course the
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ground tells us it's a source of the destruction.
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The little is why, in my opinion, it's OK talk about one
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topic is only if you address the fact that it's not really one
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topic. It's really an umbrella topic.
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Sonat Kanam is really an offshoot of all our lack of
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character today. It comes from jealousy and
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fighting on Sharda and hate and all these different things and
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have a person really. Sonat Kanam is a finish line.
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Really they they've done over the recent years, they've
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changed it to start speaking about specific topics because of
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the fact that that's only the finish line.
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So it's a combination of a bunch of things, but if you only focus
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on the one thing you're not getting the job done.
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That's the overall idea he's telling you.
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Let's see a little more over here.
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Call on me dot or vote without what I want to have one point,
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by the way, just to understand this.
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I just kept telling the paragraph just understand this.
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That's why the word me dot is the word that we use for
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character. What does me dot mean in English
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measurements? Character is measuring
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something, weighing it, saying when yes and one no, how much is
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and how much I need to pull away from that.
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That's me thought. That's character.
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It's measurements. And that's why a person who
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weighs everything that he does weighs his thoughts.
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I'll give you another example. Just come down my mind from
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yesterday. I was debating back and forth.
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I knew that the rabbit passed away on Friday afternoon.
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So I know it's going to be a Sunday morning funeral in
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Edison, right? Sunday morning for me is like I
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just sit and learn I'm I'm free and the burial was going to be
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in Lakewood, which where I was Sunday afternoon.
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So I was waiting the whole time. What's the right thing to do?
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Should I go to the funeral and that is in New Jersey or should
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I just stick it out and link when I go to the burial?
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No one know anything by the way, by these Eschenadas funerals,
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you don't really even see the family.
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I happen to be I did. You don't really see the family.
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So you're not getting credit for it.
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Should I write and it sounds like a funny thing to say, but
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should I go or should I not go? And I was debating this back and
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forth. What's the right thing to do?
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Go what? Do you think it's?
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The right thing to go. Yeah, but you know.
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You wouldn't be torn. You wouldn't be torn if it was
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the wrong thing. I understand, but you could say,
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listen, I do have, you know, four or five hours of learning.
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Actually, it was more than that that I'm taking away, number
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one, OK, I can understand. Fine, that's fine #2 I will be
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by the burial instead. Something it seems like that
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like the going would be the better thing to also it's it's
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an effort and but it's taking away from other things that you
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could be doing with that time and the hoot of you know of
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right. You can change precinct.
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Or you put the shoe on the other foot, right You stands out in
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your mind when you when you went through it, who was there?
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Oh, so there's the thing. The reason, exactly the reason I
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ended up going is because I thought to myself, one second
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I'm thinking about, let's see, 5-6 hours of total, right?
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This is my 10th grade teacher. He for me, in reality, he was
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one of the most influential rabbits step by step through
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high school. Everyone had a very big impact.
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And he was the one who gave me a some sense of clarity.
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He's very smart and very deep and also very, very clear.
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And it was a very beautiful mix. So one second a year of learning
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impacting so far over 20 years of learning and I'm waiting a
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few hours. Am I out of my mind?
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Doesn't make any sense. It's a silly conversation,
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right? But you have to go through that
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and you have to process it and you have to figure out what's
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right from wrong. I definitely believe after the
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fact I made the right decision. Aside from the fact that I'm
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paying respects. Also the impact of the speeches
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and the mindset and the perspective was very impactful,
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impactful. But the reality is you need to
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weigh that. And some people, if you ask
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them, I'll give you another example.
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There's a friend of mine that's involved right now and a little
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bit of an issue in his business, in his job, OK, And he asked two
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types of people advice. One person told him there's
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other people that are upset at you, that are getting nervous at
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you. They're wrong.
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Don't listen to them, Take the sensitive, they're wrong.
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And yes, by the way, relatively prominent people, one person
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told them that. Another person told them you're
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dealing with life and death, you're hurting other people.
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You better be careful. You better watch what you do and
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try to figure out as best as you can, OK?
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These are the two sides of the coin.
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When I heard the first opinion, I was very bothered.
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I was a very positive because this friend of mine was asking
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me what I think. I was very positive because
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someone gave them their opinion as if they're coming based on
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Twitter oriented opinion and they're giving very dangerous
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information. They're telling a person to just
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go on, continue hurting people, continue impacting people on
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negative light. You're not doing anything wrong
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because anything is doing the right thing.
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And I said to myself, where is that balance?
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Where's the understanding of me thoughts?
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Where's their recognition? They don't just, you know,
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charge on and hurt people in the process.
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Just drive right through people. You have to recognize it is if
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there's a constant over here, there's a very delicate people
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and delicate situations and it requires a lot of weighing.
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And by the way, if you're right in the fact that you should
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continue going, maybe you're right.
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Don't just say it flippantly. Think about it, weigh you, talk
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about other people. And my friend actually went to
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his boss. He's involved in a certain job.
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He went to his boss and he said, you're telling me just to go on,
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go on. And just it's OK.
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I'm telling you right now, we're hurting another person.
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If you continue this, it's life and death.
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And I do not feel comfortable going on unless the situation is
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settled. And I told him, bravo, it's the
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right thing. Even though my friend was in a
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certain sense hurting his own job a little bit in the process
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because he's, he's very successful in his job and, and,
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and, and therefore he's hurting somebody else.
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But the right thing is to do is go figure things out.
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Recognize that there's a balance.
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Recognize there are a lot of things going on and 1st needs to
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weigh it properly. Go ahead.
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The only way to do this is to have a foundation of, you know,
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of clarity of, of a moral compass 100.
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Percent, 100%. A person can't just say I'm
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always going to do the right thing.
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You don't know what the right thing is right.
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A lot of times the right thing we said is something to be
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aggressive. It's also, like I said, I said
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it could be a very dangerous, very dangerous thing.
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You think you're doing something good for somebody and you're
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you're now, you know, like, oh, let me let me help this guy in
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business. And, you know, it's very simple
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and you know, I'm sure you've all been in that situation where
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you have to it's very easy to just write a check.
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Sometimes it's not the right thing to do for the person is
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better off maybe figuring it out and having to, you know, and
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it's a very difficult thing to do.
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But but he said, is are you really helping somebody or you
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just, is that the easy way out? Absolutely the same makeup, same
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makeup, which is when it comes to Hasid, we are always not sure
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you have a give you a classic, you have a very difficult guy.
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It's an extreme case. Difficult guy is married and
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he's very difficult to his wife and you're a has a person.
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So you keeping the marriage together, which in a sense is a
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great thing, but she's being abused now.
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It's the right thing. They got to figure it out right.
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And sometimes I'll give you a classic exam.
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I follow up, I show them was involved in a couple of of those
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original major divorce complicated cases, aguna cases.
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He's very involved in them. And in fact he got up once a
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bunch among a bunch of rabbis and he made like made a stance
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and he said no one's doing anything about this and it's
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bothering me. Fine.
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He was very involved and people at the time were there was some
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people saying, you know, there's too much being out there being
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pro divorce. And if I was the last person, he
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proved the divorce last person. But this woman was being abused,
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literally being abused, and he was trying to save her life.
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And people had this stance. And I remember thinking to
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myself at the time, these guys out of their mind, they don't
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know the first thing was going on.
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They they're allowing a woman to go through torture just because
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they think that they are pro, you know, peace.
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They don't know what pizzas deep.
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By the way, just FYI, these peace Nicks.
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There's the biggest fighters out there in that situation.
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Literally annotation. The biggest fighters out there
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were those who were making peace.
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They would make problems left and right, but they decided to
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know what pieces. It's literally Mike.
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It's it's a representation of what we're learning right now.
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And you're right. You need to have that compass.
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You need to know what's right and what's wrong.
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That's it is a perfect example. It's just a.
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Terrible does. Divorce is hated by God.
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Who said that it's common? It's a pro, So no, it could be.
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Of course, divorce is a very big challenge.
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We know it's a big issue. We know that we always fight
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tooth and nail to make sure. My father created an
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organization should go with Harmony for Shalom.
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By it I mean he was heavily involved while he was the main
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rabbi involved in making peace. But in that situation, any smart
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person who could tell a woman's being abused, time to get this
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out right? So this is a process called
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having the level of balance and understanding of right from
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wrong. Seem literally the same point as
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you're saying about Khasid. You give a person charity and
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the guys has a drug addiction. Getting a charity, you're
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feeding a problem. You find out that he's able to
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control himself. You find out that the money is
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not going through those things. Then you get involved.
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That's called an understanding of balance.
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And this is really what a person has to realize for the good, for
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the soft, and sometimes for the tough and the strong.
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Same, literally the same mentality to have the balance.
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And the best way to do it is if a person has a yachamayim.
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Now again, yachamayim is a very vague word.
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We don't really know what it means, fear of heaven, but it
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really means as a compass, some degree of a compass stronger
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than just my own mind driving myself.
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Because my mind is guided by my heart, is guided by my feelings,
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is guided by my emotions, and very often guided by my ego,
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whether I know it or not, or my interest in having a certain
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outcome. You never see certain people get
22:18
involved in an organization. It's not a bad thing, it's a
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good thing. They get involved in
22:21
organizations for the sake of their child, which means they
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had a child that was 7 years old and there was no good school for
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that kind of kid. So they open up a school,
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literally open up a school. So what is that?
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And Hashem, the outcome is great.
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What is that? Is that a personal intuition?
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Is that a personal interest? Is that an understanding of a
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need? Because they have that child?
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What is that? We don't know what that is, but
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that could be a combination of all those things.
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Now, a lot of times that creates good.
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A lot of times it does. But a person there realizes I am
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motivated by my own personal motive somewhat, and that's
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perfectly fine because overall they're creating a good thing
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for the world. It's a fine one, absolutely
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major line and it's very much, I'm sorry, very.
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Line it's crystal clear 99.9% yeah guy helps daughter shul why
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it's close to his house right or whatever reason and.
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That's not in that scanning, no, by the way, that's not a bad
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thing. You're right, but it's not a bad
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thing. It was understanding that I have
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a personal motive. I have a little bit of a, I'm
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selfish in a sense. I I like for myself.
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It's not a bad thing at all. And sometimes it creates good,
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but you see from that, you see from that, that a lot of good
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things that are a lot of people doing good out there have their
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own personal motives. And once you see that, you're
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conscious of motives and that's where you got your mind comes
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back in. You got your mind comes back in
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and says, now you wait, is it the right thing or is the wrong
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thing whatever you're doing your life?
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Is it the right thing or the wrong thing?
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If you take that second step, you still won't always know.
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You can never be fully sure of ourselves right from wrong.
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We need to have some help from my sham for sure.
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I'll figure it out. We need to have advice on our
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parents. We need people with some
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background. We need to have an understanding
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right from wrong. But at least we're trying.
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So motive is OK or no? Motive is definitely OK.
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Drives the world. Motives.
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Who drives the whole world? You look at things that are
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created, most of them are built on motives.
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She votes right, 100%, yeah. Good or bad?
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It definitely drives the world. Is she vote tools organizations,
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I said all these things combination.
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I'll give you a classic example right I mean we this is shoes an
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example. I'll give you an example right
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that's all I remember It's one of the most beautiful existence
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in the world all right more sense they get up there they
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leave their house 4 in the morning all the time They don't
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have a normal holiday normal Shabbat.
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They're ready to go on it when it's wild what they are Javerim,
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a certain sense. Same thing, all these different
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things, right? Different levels.
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But I don't know about it yet. I know growing up, because a lot
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of my friends became Hatsala guys, a certain type, the makeup
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of a Hatsala guy, especially in Ashana's world, a guy you can
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define that kid is a future Hatsala guy.
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What does that mean? It means that it's seven years
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old. He has a radio, right?
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It means he's he's excited about things and, and, and, and Ashley
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has to use the term Mahara. He's like a busy guy, right?
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That means he likes that. He's not, he likes action.
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He's not sitting down. He's not the type that wants to
25:26
sit through something. He probably wasn't so in the
25:29
mood for all his classes. He had a certain type.
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He fixed things for his rabbi. He took care of things.
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He organized the parties. He's a type and that's not a bad
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thing. He channeled the video.
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That is a motive. And that's, that's, that's how
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it works. His drive that's being channeled
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and that's a motive. That's perfectly fine.
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God created a need out there for these members.
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These are some members and they are saving the world.
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These people, they're unbelievable.
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And the same thing you shoot in so many different areas.
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You have a drive and use it for the good, but it's only proper.
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Once a person has an understanding of a compass.
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That's the whole point. Go ahead.
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All right, that's the idea. I tell the members, rabbis
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learning all these different things, you have a drive they
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need to understand. Same drive the good and bad,
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right? Sure.
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Same drives like the Star Wars. It's the the Force.
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Exactly the force. That you want to talk about,
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Yes, the question you got me, of course.
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I know the force with you. I've been there and.
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It's good or it's the same drive.
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It's it can be used for good, can be used for bad.
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In fact, the next barrack of which I will do tomorrow is
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literally that he says all good on me dot good and bad.
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A great person can use them for good and an evil person use them
26:38
for bad. You look at anything that you
26:40
know that has created the world. The idea that you know, dynamite
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and all these different things I use for weapons and also use to
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build all all engines and all, all energies and all forces out
26:55
there in the world are used to build and I used to destroy.
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Money is the greatest thing in the world and the worst thing in
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the world. You name what we have in the
27:02
world they use for greatness and use for terrible things.
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And the main defining factor is now once you have bad people
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involved, that already money is the word.
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But if you have good people and you want to know right from
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wrong, the compass is the key, the balance is the key.
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Never just jump in and say it's the right thing or jump and say
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it's the wrong thing. Stop and think overall, is this
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what God wants? Is this what I should be doing,
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should be getting involved in? I mean, so many examples of
27:29
people that get involved in community work that are taken
27:31
away from their family. So many people who are maybe too
27:34
friendly oriented, family oriented, and don't really care
27:36
about the overall community. This is a major, major, endless
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thing that a person has to figure out the right from wrong,
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right? Yeah, That's that's.
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That's that's. How easy you'll see once you
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focus on having a compass, you end up overtime finding the
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right thing. And usually you find some on the
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right side of of most situations.
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And you say yourself, I see that situation and I see how they got
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involved. I could tell why it's wrong and
28:02
you could see exceed from a distance.
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That's that's what happens to accomplice.
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Usually we'll stop with this.