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4 Ways Narcissists Use Social Media · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  So how do narcissists use social media?
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  What are narcissists like on social media?
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  That's what we're talking about today.
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  Y'all from a narcissist that's on social media.
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  From a diagnosed narcissist that's on social media.
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  How do narcissistic people get away with the things that they
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  do on social media? What?
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  What's the point of them on being on social media in the 1st
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  place? If you're new here, my name is
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  Lee Hammock. I'm a diagnosed narcissist and
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  welcome to another episode of The Narcissist Code.
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  Welcome back, folks. Welcome back.
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  Welcome back. Yeah, yeah.
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  Welcome back. Let's get it.
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  Seriously, let's get it. But yeah, narcissist on social
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  media. What you on right now?
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  YouTube, TikTok, Instagram, LinkedIn, Facebook, what other
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  words Snapchat, wherever you are, they will find you.
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  It sound like a scary movie. Wherever you are, the narcissist
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  is going to find you. No, no, but seriously,
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  narcissistic people do love social media.
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  I think we can all agree with that.
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  I think most people would agree with that, that narcissistic
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  people love social media because of a few different reasons.
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  How do they do the the number one reason the narcissist love
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  social media is the narcissistic supply, right?
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  Let's get it out the way. And narcissistic supply, Simply
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  put, is validation. Getting supply means getting
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  validated. So when you hear people talking
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  about narcissistic supply, that's seeking external
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  validation, that's what that is. I know so many people get it
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  twisted and get it tied up and whatnot.
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  And what, what supply actually is.
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  It's like, it's not a physical thing.
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  It's not a physical substance. It's not something, it's just
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  like who I need that supply Squint, squint.
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  It's not, it's nothing like that.
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  Narcissistic supply is validation.
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  So narcissists love social media because it's the easiest way to
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  get validation. It just is because guess what,
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  you can lie. You can pretend to be whoever
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  you want to be. I'm going to cover those later,
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  but getting supply is easy on social media.
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  And that's one of the main questions that so many people
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  ask me. They're like, Lee, you must suck
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  up the validation for being on social media, right?
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  You must love it. You must be bought to your
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  little narcissistic system must be bought to overload without a
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  supply that you get from having millions of people that follow
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  you. Yeah, Could it, was it like that
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  in the beginning? Yeah.
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  I feel like, damn, I got a nice little size supply.
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  I got a nice little size of community online.
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  Like people follow me. People know who I am.
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  Like, damn, I love this. I love getting the validation
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  from helping people, Right. But over time, it gets old.
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  It's the same thing. Just like I told you,
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  narcissistic people. I I said the other videos that
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  narcissistic people suffer from chronic boredom.
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  Yeah, yeah, we tend to get bored like that as well.
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  Again, my life is not boring. It's just like doing the same
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  thing every day. Talk about narcissism every day.
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  You know me to the same people pretty much.
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  It's getting get boring. So it doesn't the validation
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  doesn't hit the same. So I get validation elsewhere
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  for my family, right from doing things, from doing good deeds,
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  from being a good human being. I get validation elsewhere.
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  It's not just like I'm on. I'm on social media pretending
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  to be somebody I'm not. You can the people who come to
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  my workshops in my real life workshops.
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  We just had one in in Durham, NC very recently.
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  Then we had one in Saint Louis. We had two in Texas last year,
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  one in DC. You can ask the people who get
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  in those workshops. The person you see right now is
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  is me. This is who I am, right?
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  This is who, this is literally who I am.
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  I I I talk like this. I act like this.
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  I behave like this in real life before people question me,
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  right? They're like, neither are you
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  faking. You faking.
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  The fuck? No, this is me.
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  I help people in real life. I'm cool in real life.
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  I'm kind in real life. I enjoy being this in real life
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  as well. So the validation doesn't hit
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  the same for me like it does some other people.
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  Yeah, I'll say it like that, but also you get down into the nitty
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  gritty of dealing with the manipulative person.
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  They love social media, like I said earlier, because they can
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  pretend to be whoever they want to be.
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  I'm that one my speechless out. Seriously, social media is the
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  easiest place for narcissistic people to pretend to be whoever
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  they want to be. It's like a form of escapism.
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  You know, you hear me say the narcissists, a lot of
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  narcissists drink, right? A lot of narcissists drink and
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  smoke or do whatever. Some of them might get addicted
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  to illicit drugs, illegal substances and whatnot because
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  it's a form of escapism, just like social media.
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  Social media is damn near like an alcohol addiction, right?
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  It's a form of escapism for that narcissistic person.
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  It is. So that's how narcissists use
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  social media. They give they it's a form of
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  escapism. I can get on social media and
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  pretend to be somebody I'm not. I can pretend pretend to be
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  somebody I'm not. I can absolutely use this to
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  pretend to be somebody I'm not 100% it will be, it will be app
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  y'all just being real and it's not me trying to fake the funk
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  or anything like that. I could absolutely pretend to be
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  somebody I'm not on social media.
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  I, I, it would be easy. So many people do it online in
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  real life every single day. That's why you see this, you see
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  damn near every single day on Twitter or Instagram or fake
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  wherever you get your news from, right?
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  Social media influencer arrested for being fake, for being this,
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  for scamming their audience, for doing this, for doing that,
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  sleeping with their clients, whatever it is.
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  It's crazy how often you see this type of stuff happening
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  because it become, it does become a form of escapism.
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  I can pretend to be whoever I want to be, right?
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  I can pretend to be whoever I want to be.
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  I can get on here, lie, cheat, steal, do all this other stuff
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  or, or or this gonna sound crazy.
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  I can get online and pretend to be a good person in real life.
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  I'm horrible. Not, not me in real life.
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  Y'all, y'all the people who've met me, People come to my
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  workshop. People know me in real life.
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  Y'all got to defend me here. Y'all got to defend me here.
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  Well, Lee, yeah. He, he, he cooled in real life.
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  Y'all gonna say he cooled in real life?
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  Give me that. Yeah, at least give me that,
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  right? But it's real because I could
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  don't, I don't have to get online, pretend to be a good
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  person. Whereas some people do.
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  They have to get online and pretend to be a good person.
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  It's like where they get there. It's kind of like where they get
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  there, get their good karma from.
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  It's like if I'm trying to get good karma from being a horrible
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  person, I just get online and pretend to be a good person.
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  It could be as simple as that for so many people to face right
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  there, y'all. So as we continue to move
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  forward, that's one thing you got to really is one thing you
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  really got to try to adjust to. Social media isn't the
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  narcissist playground. It absolutely is.
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  So that's why I tell people don't believe everything that
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  you see online, man, y'all? I don't know how to come in this
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  in this age where misinformation is king.
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  Misinformation is the law. Damn near like people believe
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  the first stupid ass shit that they see online without
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  questioning it at all. Because you're angry.
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  Because you're mad. Because you're afraid.
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  This shit right here is how people easily get manipulated.
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  This is why we get narcissistic people that make that damn near
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  run the world. Because people are afraid.
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  Like it's a way like narcissistic people.
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  Remember I mentioned earlier how it can be for a form of
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  escapism. It can also be a form of getting
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  power. Like I can get online and
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  pretend who to be whoever I want to be, right?
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  But it's also a place where I can cultivate a community of
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  flying monkeys, a damn near a cult like community.
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  Narcissistic people can use social media to build cults.
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  Let's keep it real. Was it the third reason I gave
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  you those three? They can use it to build cults
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  like magic. Like it it, it's kind of crazy.
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  Could like, let's be real. Could I do that?
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  Yes, but I don't try to do that. I like if I'm wrong, people can
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  correct me. But if if somebody is certain
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  other narcissists are wrong online, they attack you, they
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  try to shut you down, they try to get you taken off the air.
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  You know what I'm saying? They don't like you saying
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  anything bad about them. They send their flying monkeys
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  off of the after you. They don't have to say anything
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  bad about you. They just cultivate this cult
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  like communities online where they can send their flying
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  monkeys after you and they don't have to say a word.
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  The narcissist does not have to say a word.
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  Sometimes they just like and it's their cult comes and get
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  you narcissist. That's how you cultivate power.
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  Like narcissists can use social media to cultivate more power
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  than they would have ever dreamed of if social media
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  didn't exist. That's the truth.
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  They will use that to cultivate as much power as they possibly
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  can before social media existed. So that's why the social media
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  is keen. That's why a lot of narcissists
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  have social media addictions, right?
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  That's why a lot of them. You notice I said a lot of them.
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  Not all narcissists have social media Dicks.
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  I know people were like, yes, they do like no, try to yo we
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  one thing about narcissist. You don't want to speak in
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  absolutes because No2 narcissists are exactly the
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  same. Because if you if you get into
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  your head, every single narcissist does one thing, then
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  guess what? When the narcissist comes out
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  and surprises you and doesn't do that, you're going to start
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  questioning yourself and start questioning whether or not that
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  person is narcissistic. Because I'll say this right
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  here. Y'all a lot of the narcissists
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  use social media. Wasn't the reason before way you
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  the way they use it is not only get power or pretend to be
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  whoever they want to be to get supply.
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  Some of them will get new supply.
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  Some of them are all here actively hunting for our fair
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  partners to cheat with right to to leave their family for they
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  are here ready, willing and able and get ready to get active to
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  leave their entire family behind in order to to do stuff like
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  that. Some of them live double lives.
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  Like I said, you can pretend to be whoever you want to be.
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  Some narcissists get out here and to lead double lives, like
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  and have a whole new relationship that they
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  cultivate. Be flying people out, be getting
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  flued out, right, getting flued out.
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  Get your get your back blued out, get flued out and your back
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  blued out. But that's that's what would be
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  happening. Y'all.
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  It's seriously, it's so it's something that you have to
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  consider, something you have to kind of get into your head about
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  how things go, how the situation is going to manifest itself.
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  Because some narcissists will our own are on social media to
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  find a new supply, not to just get the original validation and
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  whatnot, but to find new supply as well, right?
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  That's four ways. That's four ways that
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  narcissists use social media. And I'll leave you out with this
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  little tidbit, this bonus right here because I said no two
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  narcissists are the same. Not every single narcissist is
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  going to be on social media. I know some real life
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  narcissist, right, who are, who don't use social media at all.
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  They're just not active on social media because they don't
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  want to get caught up, right? They might have social media
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  pages, but they're never on them.
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  They just have them sitting dormant.
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  Their profile pictures from 20/20/17 or something like that,
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  but they be on it. They just don't, they, they,
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  they just don't ever use it like that.
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  They just use it. They don't barely use it.
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  So it's not every single narcissist.
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  It's super active on social media.
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  So I know some of y'all might that might be a prerequisite for
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  some of y'all for out here in the dating world, just like I
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  would love for my partner to not be on social media, I would love
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  to have someone who's not acting on social media.
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  That doesn't mean you're going to avoid an abuser, y'all, just
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  because your partner or your potential partner or one of your
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  prerequisites for dating you is for your partner to not be on
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  social media and not be big into social media.
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  It does not mean you won't get an abuser.
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  It does not mean that you will avoid narcissist y'all, because
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  abusive, manipulative people and not all of them are going to be
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  active on social media. I promise you that, you know, I
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  know some in real life, they were not active on social media.
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  Are you cheating, beating, eating, skating, getting it back
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  blew that whatever your case may be y'all.
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