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101. Living Without Fear - He’s Read 26,000 Hands — Here’s What They Reveal | With Brent Bruning & Esther Buerki · LIVING WITHOUT FEAR

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Hi, I'm so glad you're here. Welcome to the 101st interview
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on this podcast. I'm your host, Esther from
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Switzerland, author of Living Without Fear and Co creator of
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the Amazon bestseller Inspired Journeys.
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You might be needing a moment to pause, to breathe, to feel seen.
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Whatever brought you here, we are honored to be with you.
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And if today's interview speaks to you or brings someone to
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mind, please pass it on. Let's keep spreading light.
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And I'm so excited to introduce you to Brent Bruning from
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Switzerland. He has already analyzed more
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than 26,000 hands in over 50 countries.
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Hands from leaders, artists and entrepreneurs from all over the
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world. Brent is a professional hand
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analyst who looks at how fear, shame and the survival
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strategies we pick up early in life shape our nervous system
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and how how they can quietly limit how we show up and express
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ourselves. He helps people gently dissolve
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fear based patterns and reconnect with clarity,
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resilience and the meaner sense of direction.
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Welcome to the show, dear Brent. Thank you, Esther.
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I love working with you. I've seen you do self
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development work now for how many years?
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So 678 when you first got your hand analysis back in when you
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were doing a book that my kids love.
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So it's, it's great to have your audience.
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And I love what your how things have been opening up for you
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with your increasing involvement with Tony Robbins.
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And it's it's awesome to see you so empowering and being a
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visionary. Thank you so much, Brent.
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So let's start with my favorite question.
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What has been your turning moment in life?
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The the the turning moment was to be a hand reader.
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I, I was in 20 years of software robotics working in the, the
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companies in Switzerland and in Austin, TX.
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And I knew when I had my hand read back in 2007 that there was
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a systematic way in which you could understand your nervous
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system and what you're here to do.
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Like neurologically, what you seem to be amazing at.
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And it wasn't software robotics. You can see that I was good at
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it, but it wasn't so fulfilling. And so it was with their
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encouragement, they said at some point you're going to realize
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that you can't serve 2 masters, All the things you love doing in
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the spiritual realm, like all the money that I was spending on
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self development while working an IT job.
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At some point you're going to have to choose and you're going
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to have to go fully into that world and it's going to be risky
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because there's no real for what we see for you.
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There's not really anyone doing it in the world.
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So it's going to be like asking you to go and be AB 52 bomber in
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World War 2, knowing that 90% of the people aren't going to come
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back. And that's what you're meant to
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do and you should do it and figure it out.
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Just be one of those people that comes back.
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So that transition was very hard for me.
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It was very anxiety driven because I, you know, had a job.
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I was doing very well in my job. I was speaking in Las Vegas
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about software robotics and, and so when I have a father who is a
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Colonel and a sister is a diplomat in Geneva and straight
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A students and all that and they're seeing their, my mom's
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seeing her son going. I'm now going to be a hand
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reader. That raised some alarms and
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you'll be a hand reader in Switzerland, which is already
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expensive and you're going to, and you're a father and you have
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two kids. I don't know what you're going
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to do with your pension and all of that.
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You're going to be a hand reader, OK.
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And maybe you should just make that into a hobby and stay
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there. And that's what the problem was.
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I believe that as well. And I made it a hobby.
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And so I, it took forever for me to transition to that, but I
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did. And thanks to having some
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savings and going through a period of unemployment, I would
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I finally said, let's do this. And I I got into full operation
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believing that I now am good enough to read people.
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So yeah, that was my transition. And.
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What? What's written in your hands
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besides? Well, if you're listening you, I
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have to explain what I'm, what I'm saying here a little bit.
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Try to understand that when you're at seven weeks as a
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fetus, when your soul comes into your body, or if you're a
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scientist, you would say your heart is beating now for the
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first time, an electromagnetic signal is going out to the rest
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of your body. Your hands are really, really
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tiny because you're really tiny at 7 weeks and you're just
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water. Essentially.
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You're a water being even more than you are now.
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So any electric signal comes out, it comes out and it
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expresses A biological destiny. This is proven by twins
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separated from birth. They didn't even know they had a
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twin. And they have these patterns
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that they seem to be neurologically turned on with
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and that those patterns that the heart goes and expresses into
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with the brain and the limbic brain at that time, which is all
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you have, you don't have a prefrontal cortex, the limbic
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brain saying I want this particular area of life and it
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goes out into the hand and it makes a preference between each
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of these areas. Maybe you weren't maybe a world
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success and you end up getting a big amount of stem cells in that
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area. Big ball, it looks, it's called
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a volar pad. It looks like a surgical glove.
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And somebody went, and at the end of it, this gecko finger you
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got there now stays, and it's bigger here or maybe here for
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you. And as it stays that way for
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four months, eventually you get the fingerprints that come
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around it. And each fingerprint pattern
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tells us how you are around that domain in life.
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All right, I have a big ball in the domain called Make Things
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Happen and Manifest Things for People.
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Maybe so do you and you have a circle there which is let's
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think this maybe this manifest. Some people have a fear of
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failure. So it told thing contracts.
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So I don't have that. I have a need to.
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If I don't do I get really upset with myself If I didn't achieve
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an impossible To Do List everyday accomplishment, I got
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to do it. So it's kind of my life purpose
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in another domain called being a visionary leader and another
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domain called making money. I'd rather analyze.
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That's a fingerprint pattern. We call it tenant arch.
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It goes up like that. So if you look at your, you're
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looking at your fingers, the circle in the thumb is that big
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ball. All right.
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And when it goes like that, then that's an analytic.
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Your brain is analyzing that domain in life all the time,
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which is why I went and became a nerd and software robotics
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because I was also doing good doing financial analysis and
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business analysis and all that. So who's a nerd who loves
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analyzing all the time, who loves manifesting big projects?
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And so it's not a big transition for me to go from building up
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big program for UBS to suddenly building up people's life and
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not helping them understand their nervous system and how it
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functions so that they can operate in the domain of their
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zone of genius. So that's what my fingerprints
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say. World success, wisdom, leader
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hopefully and empowering people to understand their design.
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Great. And what struck you the most
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during your hand analysis research?
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What can you give some examples from people?
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Yes, I was very skeptical, even though it was handed to me with
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a golden platter by Richard Unger.
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That hand analysis is showing our life pattern because it's
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too convenient. It's hard for people to
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understand it because the person normally who's trying to tell
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you they can read the life pattern already knows you a lot.
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So that bias makes it really difficult going, well, you know
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that about me. You know that I'm an artist,
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right? So that's the part that people
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have a very difficult time seeing.
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Is that the energy of how you are as a person?
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Well, you see that with me a lot.
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You just asked me, right? But what you're not seeing is
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the long term longevity patterns and aging patterns.
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So that's what intrigued me the most is to prove it because I'm
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a guy that needs proof and I didn't like these way in which
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it was presented to me. I, I was about to pull out of
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it. I'm not going to do it, but I
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got these big binders are like, and there are thousands of pages
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that the institute had me go through and thousands of hands
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in order to let me out in public to say and show people what I
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can do. I didn't like that.
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So I wanted a simple way to just teach people that this is so.
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So as I was researching it, it became really fun to get into
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people's life story. And it was like coming out gay.
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I'm a hand reader and I am now going to read the an astronaut
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in Switzerland. You think an astronaut cares
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about a hand reader? And that's all of my fear that I
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had to go through. Yeah.
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And. And when I would get his
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handprint, I would test two people who understood the system
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for years, decades. And I would see if they had the
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same result. And that was fascinating that
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they would say exactly the same thing.
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This guy wants to reach the stars.
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You can't just be happy just being a pilot.
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He wants to just go and constantly explore everything.
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So when they were doing that, they were often weighing into a
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language of the nervous system that you could see in the
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fingerprints. And I was still skeptical about
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it until they were able to guess that not only they had the film
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director, both of them guessed that, but they were both that
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this guy was a horror film director.
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And that killed me because these guys didn't see them.
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They, they never knew it. All they had was a handprint. 1
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was in California, the other ones in Switzerland.
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Both recorded interviews. How did they know that this guy
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has a biological destiny to be create horror films or be a
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circus director? Like seriously?
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So those that just kind of weirded me out and it wasn't it.
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It became not only that they can do this, but why is the nervous
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system set up so that we do these things so much?
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You can guess what we do in the fingerprints.
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And how much are we living in a biological destiny?
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How much free choice? Obviously, I had that question
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that everyone asks me is, do are you reading my future?
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And so, yes, I am I, I'm reading your future until your future
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changes. OK, You have a biological
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destiny until I tell you. And then you can choose
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something else, right? You do have free choice, all
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right, but it's really hard when you're biologically ingrained in
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a habitual pattern. So that's what fascinated me.
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The next thing that fascinated me is that you can see your
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aging pattern and you can see when I show it to you why you're
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aging and how long you're. And when you go into it, you'll
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see for yourself. You'll just look at your
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pictures and go, you know what? That was a period I if love is
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my rocket fuel and that I went through that breakup and you see
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what I look like for the three years afterwards.
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I look like I gained 10 years. OK, That's your aging pattern
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also. That's your longevity pattern.
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Some people, it's not love, by the way, money issues or you
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know, family conflicts and stuff like that.
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So there's gazillion of them. But that also fascinated me.
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That opened up a whole new world.
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Can you give some other examples from people we know?
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Of hands, I've read, yes, people that you know.
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We know or. OK, let's see, Early on I read
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Tony Robbins hands. I jumped up on stage because I
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was signing up for one of his programs and he happened to be
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just walking around with a security guard on his back, you
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know, shaking hands, thanking the people that have just signed
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up. And as he did, I grabbed his
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hand and I was like, you have a simian crease.
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You have a headline and lifeline headline and the head and the
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heart line. These two lines come up here.
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The way you think and what your emotions, they all get
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interwoven because they grew at the same time called the simian
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crease. It makes you radical.
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Now look at your fingerprints. Why, Sure.
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Yeah. And so I'm sit there and I've
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got an entire audience of 5000 people and they're seeing me for
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5 minutes. It was amazing.
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I know the pressure, but I had the eyes of all 5000 people
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while I'm telling, including the security guard getting
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increasingly nervous, and I was telling them, well, you've got a
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need to serve. You have all these.
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If you can imagine, I told you I had a circle in one area, which
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was a bull's eye of neurology that says go do that.
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What happens if you have 4? You got to go do all four.
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For you to be happy doesn't make you a better person.
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That just makes you a more obsessive compulsive person and
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you can't relax because you can't just sit there and read a
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book from Friday to Sunday. You got to do 4 things all the
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time for you to get your dopamine.
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And Tony, I saw arguably 7, and I also saw areas in him around
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trust, around value. That word did not grow very
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well. That created an insecurity
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pattern of not feeling valued in a relationship as also dealing
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with trust issues and being blind to sometimes the truth.
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So that was something that I could see and contribute and
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seeing his need for contribution.
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It was awesome. It was being it was great.
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And when I saw him when I we did the fire walk couple years
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later, he remembered me. It was like, hi, how are you?
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It was great. It was wonderful.
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I know he's got thousands of people, so it really makes a
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difference because you know when I read your hands, I'm reading
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your life pattern so personal that this conversation sticks
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for the rest of your life. I loved reading Eminem, being
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backstage and holding up him from performing in front of
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50,000 people at the Reading Festival because I'm inking up
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his hands in front of us, a very nervous staff going, what are
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you doing? He's due out now and I was
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going, what are you doing? You're supposed to be out.
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Why are you with me? I can't believe God is giving me
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this blessing to be able to, you know, who has time to have your
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hand read when you have that responsibility?
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And he had just cut out BBC, right?
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He said you guys can't film, so why would he care about a hand
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reader? But that's the privilege.
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It's the psych. God has given me some access to
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people. And when I read his hands, I
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asked him what his biggest strength was.
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And he said, well, my middle finger, such a funny thing that
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he would say. And I could see his entire
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pattern of the needing to be an artist in his ring finger
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because he has a circle there, both of them.
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And I could also see his wrestling with self esteem and
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not feeling good enough by this contraction in this index finger
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that creates a long term pattern or a thinking pattern of shame
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and having to prove yourself all the time in the in every
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relationship that he's been in and every song, pretty much a
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rap song that he's it's all about.
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I am good enough in a relationship.
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And it's because in his fingerprints, it says that I'm
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trying to find I'm good enough in this lifetime in a
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relationship. So that's the beauty of this.
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I love that Ben Stiller. I've read a lot of celebrities
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hands. In fact, I have a book of all
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the people that I've got Beyoncé and all of those people.
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And that's the the illustration that we all are in kind of
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different inspiring past. But the more your hand looks
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like Beyoncé, I bet the more your life is going to look like
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Beyoncé's. And what is interesting and I
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learned that only recently that the the lines change because you
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raise my hands if two weeks ago I think and you compared it to
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the six years back and you said, oh, there are some lines which
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disappeared because I was working on some issues, right.
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How does this work? Yeah.
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So why is that? So this is the most phenomenal
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aspect of this work. It's that people, in fact, I
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love reading hands, OK, but 90% of my work and 90% of my time is
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not reading hands, even though I love it. 90% of my time is
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showing people that after they understand the blueprint and the
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hand analysis, how they can evolve out or through that
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blueprint. Because that's what I've been
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doing for when I for 10 years, since 2007 is interviewing
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people. How did you get to be that when
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you were that? All right, How many people dream
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to be a rap star but never did? But something in Eminem got that
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chance, but it wasn't just chance, it was a biological
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destiny too. Like he was able to go into his
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self esteem pattern and make it something as a as a gift of
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paying his purpose. When somebody is able to fully
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understand the negative patterns that I see broadcast in their
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hands, I'll give you an example. Most people have these lines
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that come across here. I don't have them because I've
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resolved them, but you have these.
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A lot of people have these stress factors.
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You can look at them. They can be very minor.
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Can you say it? Because we have listeners, not
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only people who watch. Which lines are you talking
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about? So if you look at your thumb and
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index finger where you hold the hammer, that is the part of you
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that produces no apophen and cortisol and adrenaline that is
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broadcast into the sympathetic nervous system that is taking
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the blood flow into your muscles that is causing you to confront
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and engage. The thumb is the reason why we
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have rockets in space if you're an anthropologist.
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So it's our willpower, our drive.
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The more that you activate that part of your nervous system over
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and over and over, you are generating cortisol and
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adrenaline pathways that ultimately signal the nervous
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system over and over to create tension patterns within the
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skin. And ultimately from the thumb
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leading all the way to the middle finger.
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Or if you have a relationship problem, the thumb leading all
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the way over to the little finger.
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Or if you have a problem trying to be seen and a fear of
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exposure, a line going from your thumb going to your ring finger.
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Those things if or you're going to a divorce as you are stuck in
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a stress pattern, you get these horizontal lines as you learn
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what it is and you understand the emotion around it.
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The amygdala stops tagging it as a threat and it begins to finish
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its processing. And now that you've said what is
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unsaid, which is largely going, well, I thought I resolved that,
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but I guess I really have some feelings now that you mentioned
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about it. And you feel what you're
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feeling. It comes out on your face.
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Most of the trauma that you have from chronic stress, just stuff
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that just never got on your face.
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It got into a shocking response and got suppressed and you lost
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the words to deal with it. So when you find the words and
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the feeling you your brain processes a sense of meaning and
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you're saying well this is an injustice, but instead of being
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triggered by I can now master it.
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Today I'm a human being, I'm learning.
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Then the amygdala in your brain no longer sees it as a threat
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and a very long standing aging stress pattern is released in
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your face, now looks relieved and begins to regenerate into
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youthfulness. And you look about five years
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younger to 10 years younger, depending on how many I'm
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letting you go, letting you release.
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And then you move into a life that's no longer blocked by that
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because you've been avoiding it for years because you don't even
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like the topic of talking about that confrontation or talking to
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your dad. And then I invite you to go talk
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to your dad and say I've now see something and I would like to
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move through this. Well, that takes a lot of
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courage. So yeah, the lines come and go.
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So those horizontal lines are there to for your nervous system
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to keep the biological memory that you have unfinished
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business in the same way that when you have 10 things, you put
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nine of them on the back burner. Where do you think those
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memories and the feelings of those memories go?
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But in your nervous system, some of them aren't pleasant.
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So the more that you can get out, the more released you are,
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the more freer you are, the more empowered you are.
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So according to Doctor Carol Dweck, we have two parts.
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We have parts that are constantly growing called a
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growth mindset that says I'm happy.
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I'm living a life of vision. That's all Tony Robbins it I can
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believe. If I believe it, I can do it.
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Go listen to him and you're going to be in a growth mindset
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while being sabotaged quietly by all your resignation and all of
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your biology that says you have no idea the problems I have.
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And I keep sabotaging. I keep saying I'm going to do
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it, but I'm not waking up and I and working out and I can't talk
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to these people because they just trigger me and on and on.
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That is a biological destiny called a fixed mindset.
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And most of the people, even though Switzerland is a very
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happy place, right? Most people are about 80% in a
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fixed mindset. That's very, very neurologically
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depressing, suppressing, oppressing, habitual.
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You do anything, according to Joe Dispenza, for more than six
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months, you call the temperament.
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And then after a couple years, you, we no longer call it a
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phase you're going through. We call it you.
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It's you. And you go to your high school
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reunion, you see that that person is still in the same
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chronic problem. That's him.
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So being able to understand that problem and being able to
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release it and understand that that's an area that requires
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both a release and growth. It's not enough to know about it
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or read a book about it or attend a seminar.
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You must go through an experience.
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And that is the growth pattern that we see.
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We have a growth and a fixed. And I can get people down to a
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healthy 25% of the fixed pattern because I'm not going to get rid
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of pain and stress because we like it, but it should not be
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70%. And to the people that do that,
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they tend to look increasingly more lively and more happens in
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that year than that it happened the 10 years before.
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And how can people change fast? That's what we all want.
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So it's done through compassion first, right?
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So what most people are doing vision boards and I, I like the
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vision board. I've been honing this thing
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called the vision board for a while in order to find the right
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way to express your mind, body and spirit and soul in those
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four areas. But I don't get people to do a
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vision board first because it's going to be hit with a lot of
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resignation and incongruent energy within your nervous
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system going, yeah, I'd love to be able to, you know, have 10
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clients, but I also need to call them.
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And I don't like that aspect, but I like, I'll just match the
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law of attraction of 10 clients. That's what the vision board
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does, but it doesn't allow you to get operationally effective.
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So you have to deal with your stuff.
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So the way that I do it is, it's called a shift.
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And I help you understand first all the times that you were
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awesome and your health and your relationships, even though he
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cheated on you and your career, even though they fired you, even
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though you're learning, even though you don't play the piano
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anymore. So you understand first that you
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can grow in these areas. Maybe you don't want to grow in
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algebra today, but you have grown in algebra, right?
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So I have to first help you understand that you have a
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mindset that is growing if you just honor it, get out of the
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way. The second is I need to help you
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understand the inherited destiny that you are carrying from your
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ancestors. When I'm reading your
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fingerprints, recall that I said they happened at 7 weeks and
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they create a pattern that says I'm not enough.
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For example, in a relationship most people try to do inner
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child work and they go well I just remember how I was in 3rd
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grade and I remember and I healed that person.
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Not a chance. Sorry it doesn't work that way.
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It helps. I I'm guarantee you it helps.
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I'm not dismissing family constellation all that, that's
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really important, but you've only got gone 50% of the way the
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the history. 50% the other one. The other 50 is what happened
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when you were in the womb and what happened in the three
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generations before you. If you look at a mouse and you
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see and you separate that mouse from the OR a baby mouse that
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has a baby mouse, it creates a shock so strong within that baby
30:19
mouse. It's like a heroin addict that
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no longer has an heroin. It's such a withdrawal that it
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shocks the body so deep that when that baby mouse finally
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grows up, it says, you know what?
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You know this whole thing, mother child thing is painful.
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It goes in and has a child or a baby mouse, and that mouse does
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not bond with the mother at all. And it continues for three
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generations until you give it enough of the positivity in the
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culture, but it still takes 3 generations for that mouse to
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begin bonding again with them. With the mother.
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You have a whole history of shocking moments, whether your
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grandparents were had their chicken farm burned down and now
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they have to figure out how to feed 5 kids or World War 2.
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Those things are stored as shocking moments within the time
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when you were still in your grandmother as an egg and your
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mother and your mother. And that just somehow that gets
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biologically carried out through both the sperm and through the
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egg, and they carry these signals that are still survival
31:31
signals until you get that at that level, you're only still
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scratching the surface. So you must be able to
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understand in the way that I said, say, what was the
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ancestral pattern of pain and make that pain OK of what they
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went through without needing to fix it, not rushing to find a
31:55
solution. So if you come from a whole
31:58
family that can't make money, I'm not saying immediately jump
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in and make money. I'm saying first get connected
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to the compact compassionately to what they went through and
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make what they went through OK. Don't make them a victim.
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Make the feelings of what they have OK, because you're carrying
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them today. You have, if you make them a
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victim, you're carrying a victim mindset.
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So you need to be able to make them the feelings of what they
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went in the pain, even if they went through Auschwitz, the
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feeling has to be OK, even if it's sad and terror, OK.
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And then understand what was the need that was met and honor that
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need. That is a whole shadow board and
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they're literally putting pictures of everything of their
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grandparents and everything for half the board.
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Then they start with the time that they're born and then they
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show me the stress patterns. Then we can release it, but not
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until then. Because trying to trying to
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release you from a stress pattern you were born with while
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you're doing inner child work about, about what happened is
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only showing that you have healed a, a representation or
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the reaction of a pattern, but not the root cause.
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And you need to honor that 'cause those feelings or that
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amygdala that you have is going to be there tomorrow still
33:22
trying to tell you it's dangerous out there with money.
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And so out of that, you need to retrain it going.
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I get it's dangerous, but it's not really as dangerous as
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Auschwitz anymore. OK, so can we just chill out?
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And then that gives you the meaning of your life to now
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create a vision board that you have earned from honoring the
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needs. So it's not just a bunch of law
33:47
of attraction stuff. It's a it's a generational
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process that you're going through that finally says, I'm
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now ready to meet these needs. And if you feel like you have
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really earned it, then if you desired enough, it will come
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naturally. How many generations are you
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going back normally? Three, OK, if you can go. 3,
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awesome. Some people don't even know
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their father, so they just have to locate it and going well.
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As far as I know, they were in Czechoslovakia and he was a
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bartender. That's all I got.
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OK, so that's you. Do the best what you can.
34:30
Very interesting. And what would you tell our
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audience, our listeners, how to get away from this fear based
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being to a more loving and trusting being?
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So great question, it's a complex answer.
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First off, you knowing my fear pattern did not help necessarily
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at first when I understood it. Help me judge everybody, Help me
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judge my wife a lot better because I was judging her
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because I could see her in her fingerprints and she's just
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running the same fear pattern that I see.
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That does not make it easier. In fact, being a hand reader is
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really tough because you're seeing the pattern and you get
35:26
so judgmental going. Guys, I've just told you just
35:29
knock it off right? So but that never the mental
35:33
never shifts anybody. So to move fully through the
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fear pattern is a is a place of courage.
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So I asked people to go on a hero's journey, right follow
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what is Joseph Campbell did who surveyed 2000 cultures and he's
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hero with 1000 faces and he said, look, every culture has an
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initiation. Are you ready for an initiation
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today? So once you understand what your
36:06
avoidance pattern is in your fingerprints, does that mean
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that you're going to stop avoiding it?
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No, you just understand you avoid it.
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You can still going to avoid it. So what you do in order to
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breakthrough your avoidance pattern to be I had an avoidance
36:22
pattern of being a hand reader. OK, I had an avoidance pattern
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working with people and sending them an invoice invoice.
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I thought that was the most terrifying thing is I could
36:31
talk, but asking them now can you pay?
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That's right in my fingerprints and telling me that I have that
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makes it worse. So what causes people to make
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the breakthrough is compassionately looking into the
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fear and listening in the same way to the fear making the fear.
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OK, thank you for sharing. And we got work to do.
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We have to be masters now. We're not going to be victims of
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it. So as a master, I have taxes to
37:02
do. Master them.
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Grow up. Grow up through that pain.
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So in the hero's journey, I, once I identify your pattern,
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you come up with a vision and you're going to also see all the
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things you're going to avoid that you don't want to do, but
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you're going to have to do if you're going to get that vision.
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It's Achilles heel until you don't.
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And you'll be only able to manifest a nickel's worth of
37:27
manifestation until you deal with that fear.
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So in order to do that, you create a vision of you creating
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mastery over that fear and I make you accountable to it.
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So first we get you a good in your body.
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We make sure that you are operating the highest amount of
37:46
dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin. We make sure that you are
37:51
neurologically in abundance. You do that by making yourself
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happy with gratitude, with exercise, with being able to
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wake up in structuring your life so that there's consequence and
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you have a beginning and an end to the day and to when you're
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going to stop having these problems and honor your evening
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and go for a walk and make sure you're running and and those
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things. OK, Then then you go into the
38:23
relationship and you have crucial conversations with
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people that you don't want to have, but you know you need to
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have. And as you do, that's called the
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trial period of Joseph Campbell's hero's journey.
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And you begin to reinvent your life in each trial that you go
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through. You're like, actually I feel so
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relieved. I see as I lead this group of
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people of heroes, when somebody has done that because they show
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up on the on our Zoom session as bright as a Daisy after they've
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done it. It's so neurologically it is an
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incredible healthy, happy place. And afterwards I see them
39:04
manifest their dreams and all the people that hem and Haw not
39:08
having a conversation with somebody that they're shut down
39:11
with or going into an area they have shut down.
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No progress. So you got to be able to face it
39:19
with kindness. And you, we can do it in stages.
39:24
So you go through it and then you might do baby steps and then
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you face the fear and you keep going and you make sure you're
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doing at least an hour of eating that frog every day.
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And doing that every day begins to open up that area.
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So it's no longer an avoidance pattern.
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I'm not shy to say that I'm an internationally successful hand
39:45
reader, but I had to go through a hell of a lot of fear to go to
39:50
be that place. I had to go through an addiction
39:53
pattern of self soothing myself with whiskey because it works.
39:58
It's like, great, I'll just have a whiskey.
40:00
It doesn't work after a while so that basketball keeps dropping,
40:03
but it worked. It worked to be able to handle
40:06
the the bills. It just made me terrible in my
40:08
energy the next day and the next day after that.
40:11
So I was like OK well that does not going to work.
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So I had to face that anxiety and I had to own it.
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But The thing is, the more that you're able to go in gratitude
40:21
and then build evidence with pictures and build up a photo
40:27
album of the month of all the things that you have
40:29
accomplished. What it does is it reinforces
40:34
the neural pathways of agency and mastery so that when the
40:40
opportunity to come, to avoid that same thing comes, you don't
40:44
go into what is called the low Rd. of anxiety.
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You go into the High Road of mastery.
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And that's what I'm training, Confidence.
40:55
Beautiful Brent, what are you parting words for our audience?
41:02
Well, if you're interested in getting a hand analysis, go to
41:05
www.thepowerinyourhands.com. You'll see it's all
41:11
neurological. So if you're skeptical mind
41:13
wants to read about it, read my page and book a hand reading
41:17
session. And in that I'll give you an
41:22
hour and a half plus leave you with a diagram.
41:25
I'll ask you to send photos of your hands out in the sun where
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I can see your fingerprints clearly, because we don't need
41:31
handprint paper anymore. iPhones do great jobs.
41:35
So you just say, give me a few close-ups of your fingers and
41:39
the full shape of your hand and your face so I can show you what
41:43
your face looks like after I make an hour and a half worth of
41:47
progress, just to give you a sense of what I can do.
41:51
And then if your face starts to change and you understand that
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you have only scratched the surface, try to shift.
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And then the shift is 1500. And yes, I've earned that 1500.
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And you will see where that 1500 goes because you're investing
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probably in 1500 and other things.
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And those things will not shift your life.
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But they're really fun, aren't they?
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You know, all those mind Valley classes, they're great and
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they're really improving and making you a better at whatever
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you're going to do. And one day you're going to be
42:22
ready for it, but it doesn't shift your life pattern.
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So when you're ready to evolve faster, do the shift and then do
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the hero's journey. If if you're ready for me to
42:35
have me with a kicking your ass for three months going, go do
42:39
it. You're amazing.
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You're just amazing. You don't understand your
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potential ten extra stuff. That's the hero's journey.
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Wonderful friend. So thank you so much for
42:51
sharing. Just a little bit.
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I think we scratch the surface only but we could go on talking
42:59
for hours about all this hands and shifts so but thank you so
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much. You're welcome.
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And I'll see you guys at either Tony Robbins or Biohackers or
43:11
I'm always at Longevity event. So come by my booth and say you
43:15
heard the podcast and that's awesome.
43:20
I'll give you a discount. And thank you, dear listener,
43:24
for spending your precious time with us.
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You're amazing and you are a gift to everyone who crosses
43:32
your path. If no one has told you this
43:35
today, let me say it again. You are worthy, you deserve to
43:41
be loved, and you matter. Have an amazing day and I'll
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talk to you next Thursday.