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Here are some of the Traps that narcissists set · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  So what kind of traps do narcissistic people set in the
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  relationship after the relationship, before the
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  relationship? What kind of little narcissistic
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  toxic little mousetraps, little empathetic mousetraps, traps for
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  impacts. Do they sit?
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  That's what we're talking about today.
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  I'm sorry if you do hear it. My name is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a clinically diagnosed narcissist.
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  And welcome to another episode of The Narcissist Code.
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  I'm sorry, y'all, I'm sorry be I look y'all beef, y'all follow me
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  because this is yeah, I I got to bring levity to it.
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  I got to make it that I got to, I got to bring it.
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  I got to bring it. So sorry, not sorry.
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  No, I'm joking. But yes, let's talk about the
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  traps that some narcissistic people set because they do and
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  they can and they will set some traps.
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  You know that right there, right Lee, when you say, OK, Lee, we
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  got you. But when you say traps, what do
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  you mean by traps? Like what, what, what are you
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  talking about? What are you talking about for
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  my my Canadian folks? I love, I love when you say that
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  I do my when I'm talking to some people, like some Canadians over
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  over zoom and they'll say a boot.
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  I'll be like, where where you from?
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  Never like, Oh, Toronto, I'm like, oh, I I knew it.
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  I knew it and they could tell by my southern drawl that I'm from
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  like the southern United States. And so it's funny.
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  Appreciate it. My, my, my Canadian folks.
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  Shout out to y'all. But yes, the traps they said can
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  be it's manipulative, y'all. They really, really do say
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  traps. And a lot of times they set
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  these little traps to test your loyalty to them or to see what
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  they can get away with, right? One of the main traps that so
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  many people encounter is when you're with this person, right?
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  You're with them and they always threaten to leave you if you wit
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  or they threaten or they threaten to kick you out, right?
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  Or break up with you, whatever. They're always threatening to
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  end the relationship in some way, shape or form.
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  That's a trap. That's a little mousetrap.
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  There's a little impact trap right there.
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  That's literally what that is. They're setting that trap for
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  you to test your loyalty or to test to see what they can get
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  away. They what they feel like they
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  can get away with. That's literally what they're
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  doing right there when they just like, well, if you want to see
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  right here, argue with me. I'm just going to leave you and
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  you like, wait, what you going to leave for Why you why you
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  want to leave? I haven't done anything to you.
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  You like if you if all we're going to do is argue, I'm just
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  going to pack my stuff up and leave.
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  And you like what? What the hell?
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  Why you why you want to leave so hard like we I haven't done
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  anything to you. Like they try to do that.
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  They threatened to leave you in order to try to keep you there.
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  They threatened to leave you in order to try to get you to shut
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  the hell up in the in the words of a of a lot of narcissists,
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  they want you to be quiet. They want you to back off of
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  whatever, whatever you're accusing them of or whatever the
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  conversation that you're having, whatever that's about.
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  They want you to leave. They want you to cut the topic.
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  They want you to stop it right. So they're threatened to leave.
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  They say trap. Y'all think about it.
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  And how many times has that trap worked?
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  How many times have they set this little trap right here and
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  it worked And it's not me trying to trying to pick on you.
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  I'm just trying to wake you up to let you know the narcissistic
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  people are setting traps for you.
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  They are, y'all. They absolutely are.
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  They're setting traps to test you.
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  They're setting traps to mess with you.
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  Sometimes like it is not even to test you or to mess with you,
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  not even to test your loyalty or anything like that.
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  Sometimes they set that, They'll set that trap that they're
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  threatening to leave. Sometimes they'll just say
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  they'll just do that just to mess with you because they know
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  if you have abandonment issues or you have trouble, like not
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  necessarily just abandonment issues, but if you have trouble
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  just connecting to people or you afraid that somebody's going to
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  leave, like this is your first relationship, you're trauma
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  bonding to them. Like sometimes they just try,
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  they threaten this, they set this particular trap just to try
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  to get a reaction from you because they want to see their
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  reaction from you. They want to see you just lose
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  it. They want to see you start
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  screaming and cussing. They want to see you.
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  They want you to have a reactive abuse incident in front of them.
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  This is just going to be part of the truth right here, y'all,
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  When you're dealing with this personality type, they're going
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  to keep doing this type of stuff because yeah, does it work?
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  Yeah. Yeah, it works.
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  And this is not me trying to say this.
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  That is y'all need to buckle up and stop letting it work.
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  No, it's going to work out. It's been going on for so long.
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  It's going to work sometimes, but you have to be careful.
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  Be nice to you. Be nice to you, be nice to
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  yourself because you have to because it's the necessity in
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  this space right here, y'all. So that's one of the traps that
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  they'll set. Another trap that narcissistic
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  people will set is like if y'all have broken up, right?
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  Think about this right here. Y'all broken up and they will
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  create fake profiles to test to see if you talking to somebody
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  else. And yes, I've hear of people
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  going through great links with this fake profile stuff.
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  Well, Lee, I will kind of know it when we know it's them.
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  If it's a fake profile with no followers and no profile
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  picture, yeah, you probably would know it's them.
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  But sometimes they'll go through great lengths.
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  I've seen people buy social media platforms.
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  Buy what the there's there's sites that you can search for
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  this. This person told me there's
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  sites that you can search to buy active social media platforms
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  with somebody else's pictures on them.
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  Couple $100 you get a you get a profile with a with 1000
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  followers on YouTube or Instagram or something like that
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  with some with a budget post. So it looks like an active
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  profile. It doesn't look fake.
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  They'll do that type of stuff right there to test your loyalty
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  to them or not to test your loyalty to them so much so but
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  to test to see if you moved on. There's a trap.
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  There's a trap Willie. How the hell we supposed to know
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  if they're a real person? Get them to send you a picture
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  with today's date like a like y'all remember the old, the old
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  videos back in the day, the old hostages when somebody will get
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  kidnapped, they'll have they'll send a picture with them holding
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  up today's newspaper or like a, a letter cut out a a letter that
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  was written through a newspaper like a magazine clippings.
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  You know what I'm saying? They'll make them send a send me
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  a picture of today a today's newspaper pointed at it with
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  your name. Hold up, you got to get real
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  with them, y'all, because they will try to set that trap in
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  order to get you in order to try to make it seem like you've been
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  cheating or lying to them this whole time.
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  You've been you've been the manipulator, you've been doing
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  this, you've been doing that. A lot of them will do this type
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  of stuff to mess with you. You see what I'm saying?
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  Because they get jealous, they get controlled and they get
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  super. Some of them are just.
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  Yeah, So just be real. Some of them are just crazy,
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  right? Some of them crazy lately.
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  You could say it. You could just say it.
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  Make some of them crazy. Yes, some of them are absolutely
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  crazy, right? Some of them are, it is scary,
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  it really is scary. But that's a trap that they will
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  set as well. Other traps.
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  Another trap is they they will send their friends and family.
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  They will sit like the hour they got flying monkeys.
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  They'll turn anybody. They will send their flying
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  monkeys after you, but not as enemies, as double agents.
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  They will send the flying monkeys after you.
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  If y'all, even if y'all still together together all broken up,
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  they will send their flying monkeys after you in order to
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  just try to test you like in order to try to get information
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  from you, they'll send fly monkeys.
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  But Lee, why the Lee OK, why the hell would someone agree to be
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  the fly monkey of a narcissist when you don't get anything from
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  it? Sometimes they think they are
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  getting something from it. Sometimes let's keep it hot.
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  Fly monkeys just like the drama. They really do.
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  Sometimes the fly monkey bats just like the drama.
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  They just enjoy the drama. They just enjoy doing this crazy
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  ass stuff because they like mess with people's heads.
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  Like I said, let's keep it hot and ready.
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  Sometimes the fly monkey absolutely just enjoys the
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  drama. They just get that's what they
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  get from that's their their look.
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  Their their paycheck is drama and chaos is like look at the
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  chaos that I've caused. Sorry, but sometimes the fly
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  market doesn't get anything out of it, right?
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  So another trap y'all trapped before is the kids trap the
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  kids. They will use the kids in order
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  to not only in order, the kids can be a different kind of trap,
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  right? They can use kids to trap you in
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  a relationship with them. They can use marriage to do the
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  same thing, right? They can use kids to trap you in
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  a relationship with them, or they can use the kids to get
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  information from you about you, right.
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  They just try to use the kids as double agents, as spies or
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  something like that, which is horrible.
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  Yeah, let's keep it real. Let's keep it real.
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  Using the kids in this way is horrible.
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  It's damn near evil. And it to use the kids as a tool
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  of your manipulation or your tactics or whatever is evil.
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  They'll just. But they won't.
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  The kids won't even think about it like that, especially if
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  they're young. Has mommy had anybody over there
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  in her bedroom with the door closed?
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  Has mommy said I love you to anybody else?
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  Yeah, you tell me. They'll do that type of stuff
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  and kids will know. The kids get older.
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  They can kind of pick up on the right.
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  But young kids, they're like, they think they're just helping
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  out Daddy. They think they're just helping
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  out Mommy, right? That's a trap right there.
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  They happen so much out, but also, and this is the last trap,
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  the last bait or whatever I'm gonna talk about y'all I'm gonna
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  y'all know I like to kill. I keep the videos around 1113
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  minute more. I don't like to go crazy.
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  The last trap y'all is the threatening to unalive
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  themselves trap threatening to threatening to go meet their
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  maker trap. They were threatened to go meet
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  their maker. I need, since you can't talk to
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  me, She she not talking to me. I gotta go see God.
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  What do you mean by go see God? God is calling me Hope.
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  Since you want to leave. God is coming, calling me home.
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  Since you don't want to be me. Since you don't want to be with
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  me anymore. I guess I got to go see God.
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  What? That's not insane.
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  It is Now will some of it. Now let's keep it real.
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  And I'll joke a lot. Will some of them go see God?
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  Yeah. There's very small percentage
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  that would will actually follow through with it, but the
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  majority of people that say that are not going to go through with
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  you. They're just trying to trying to
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  say that to manipulate your feelings.
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  They're just trying to say that to manipulate you to hurt your
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  to guilt trip you, right? They're just trying to say that
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  to make you feel guilty and whatnot.
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  So that's what you have to understand as well.
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  That's the big piece of it, you know, So I would say that to say
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  this like don't fall for that. If they're threatening to
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  unalive themselves and you want to think you can go save them,
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  you get you just giving them another target.
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  Let's just say they are really serious about it.
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  If they threaten to unalign themselves, call the police,
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  call the helpline or something like that.
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  Because if you go over there, if you rush over there, you're just
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  giving them another target to take out.
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  I know that's morbid, but there's that's what it is y'all.
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