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Don't be the Tuna Sandwich lady! · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places for chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So let's talk self-awareness today.
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  What do I mean when I'm talking self-awareness while I'm talking
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  about all of your being, how you show up, how you act, how you
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  speak, how you carry yourself? It all affects everyone around
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  you and we often talk about self-awareness so we can improve
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  ourselves in our self-improvement exercises.
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  But today I really want to talk about self-awareness with how
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  this affects everyone. Around you.
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  So I've had multiple conversations with multiple
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  people this week from a particular client, that I'm
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  working with, and his company. And we keep having a very
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  pointed discussion about lack of awareness.
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  Nobody recognizes what they're doing, that are affecting other
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  people, and it keeps looping back to a conversation about
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  well, You know, I'm supposed to be responsible for myself.
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  I'm supposed to be responsible for myself, and it's, that's not
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  fair. And other people should be
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  responsible for themselves and everybody's pointing fingers and
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  I thought, you know, this is a great time to have a
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  conversation just like I'm having with them have a
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  conversation with all of you about, you know, it's very true.
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  We are 100% responsible for ourselves.
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  We're 100% responsible for what we think and how we Act and the
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  Is we make everything that's going on around us is going on
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  around us but we ultimately are responsible for ourselves how we
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  think and how we choose to show up at the same time, there is a
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  part of us and our Humanity that has to look at how what we are
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  doing. Is affecting other people and
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  when we don't do that, we are being very selfish because we do
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  affect other people when you are in an office.
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  Office and you are working with other people and you show up a
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  certain way, it does affect other people.
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  So I'll give you a silly example but very true.
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  I was on a plane once and I was on my way to from Boston to San
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  Francisco San Francisco to Hawaii.
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  And I was going out to work an event in Hawaii and I had a long
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  flight obviously, six hours and then I had a layover and then I
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  had another six hours to jump over to Hawaii.
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  And I was pretty tired by the time I got from boss.
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  The San Francisco and got on the plane.
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  And the next thing, you know, I sit down and this very nice
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  older woman comes and she sits next to me and she opens her bag
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  and she takes out a sandwich and it's a tuna sandwich.
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  And I'm saying to myself, she's not going to really eat a tuna
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  fish sandwich on this plane. I mean the whole planes going to
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  smell like tuna fish and for those of us who don't travel
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  well with stomach issues, which could very well, be a lot of us
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  and I just don't like to eat while I'm Flying, especially
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  over the ocean. She's eating a tuna fish
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  sandwich which now is going to remain on this flight for 6
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  hours because it's all. We're all going to smell and
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  everyone around the seat is sitting there.
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  Looking at her. Like are you deranged with
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  you're going to eat the sandwich.
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  It was my very first moment of really thinking that I
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  distinctly remember thinking how incredibly selfish that this one
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  person will say this is what I'm going to do in this is going to
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  affect other people or not. Think it's going to affect other
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  people. But again, I say it's a silly
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  example, but it's a really good one because it makes you think.
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  And I will often say to clients. Well, are you being tuna fish
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  sandwich in the room? Are you being the stench?
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  Are you causing the problem? Because we're so unaware of the
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  things that we do that affect other people?
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  You know, I am what my husband would say is I am Abed hog, like
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  I have a big bed, we share a bed but I am constantly moving into
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  his space and I don't I'm doing it but apparently I am doing it
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  so he's constantly like, okay, you got to give me a little bit
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  more space. I'm a big guy.
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  I don't have enough room here and it affects him.
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  Now I could sit there and say which I do and I tease him and
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  I'm going on on your side but I really am on his side.
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  I could be aware of it, I could say, I'm trying to do better
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  with this and actually do better with it but we have to pay
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  attention to how our actions. Our words, our language, how we
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  show up, Affects other people, the things that we don't think
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  about actually affect other people, and not a little, a lot,
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  a lot. So, I'm I'm saying, as I go
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  through this company and I work with these people individually
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  and I work through this, this executive team I have to ask
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  everybody, do you think there's anything that you're doing?
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  That's affecting other people on your team and I will tell you
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  the funniest answers. Come out because they will all
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  say, you know, I don't think so I'm pretty good and that lack of
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  awareness just shows such a lack of growth because let me be very
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  honest. With all of you.
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  We all do shit that affects other people.
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  I'm serious we do and we have to make sure that we stop that as
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  much as we can. Is it ever going to be
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  absolutely neutral? No, because we always do, but we
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  have to do better at looking at. Yes, we are 100% responsible for
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  ourselves. And we do do things that affect
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  other people and we have to consider that it's not going to
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  be perfect, but the better job you do with this, especially in
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  your family, in your work environment.
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  I promise you things get only exponentially better when you
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  pay attention to that and when you really work on that piece of
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  it. So have a little bit of kindness
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  have a little bit of awareness and hopefully you can look at
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  something today and say you know what, I'm going to do a Lil bit
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  better today. So I hope you guys have an
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  awesome day and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.