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Voddie Baucham - The Importance Of Biblically Preparing For Marriage · Voddie Baucham Sermons

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  Speaker 1: His wife, Bridget have been married since nineteen eighty nine.
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  Speaker 1: They have six children, all of whom we are delighted
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  Speaker 1: to have with us.
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  Speaker 2: And they are.
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  Speaker 1: Jasmine, Trey, Elijah, Asher, Judah, and Micah. And we are
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  Speaker 1: you adopted another seven? And what is the new one's name?
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  Speaker 1: Praise the Lord. We are delighted. As a matter of fact,
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  Speaker 1: So we are glad here to have all seven of
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  Speaker 1: the tribe of Balcom here. The Balcams are committed home educators.
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  Speaker 1: I'm sure everyone here knows that. And we are humbled
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  Speaker 1: that he would agree to come to our small congregation
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  Speaker 1: and spend the next few days with us. Brother Vote,
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  Speaker 1: would you please come and preach the word of God
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  Speaker 1: to us?
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  Speaker 2: Wonderful. While they're fixing that, let me just say that
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  Speaker 2: I am indeed grateful for the opportunity to be here. Jeff,
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  Speaker 2: I I will say I I took a gamble in
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  Speaker 2: in preparing to come. As you know, we're on our
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  Speaker 2: way to vacation, so we leave from here going to vacation.
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  Speaker 2: I thought, you know, we're having the conference for a
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  Speaker 2: couple of days it's gonna be during the day. I
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  Speaker 2: doubt if anybody would be wearing a suit. So I
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  Speaker 2: come today and I see you on the monitor and
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  Speaker 2: you have your suit on, and and uh and and
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  Speaker 2: I don't and I won't accept the Lord's day. So
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  Speaker 2: if that offends anybody, I'm I'm not sorry. Uh No,
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  Speaker 2: I do not mean it at all as a disrespect.
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  Speaker 2: I just I took a gamble and I couldn't bring everything.
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  Speaker 2: And uh so we'll be more casual during the day.
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  Speaker 2: All right, we're trying to get things plugged up here.
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  Speaker 2: We'll fine, we'll get started in this first session. I
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  Speaker 2: should work.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, right, If it doesn't work.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, we're good, Thank you, Thank you. My assignment is
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  Speaker 2: to address the issue of the importance of biblically preparing
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  Speaker 2: for marriage. Why is it important that we prepare biblically
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  Speaker 2: for marriage? Is most people would assume. Here's the assumption
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  Speaker 2: in our culture about marriage. Marriage is not something you
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  Speaker 2: prepare for. Marriage is something that you happen upon. If
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  Speaker 2: if you look at movies in our culture, read books
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  Speaker 2: in our culture, and I don't mean just now, you
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  Speaker 2: can go back quite a ways and see the trend
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  Speaker 2: start to change. In our culture over one hundred years ago,
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  Speaker 2: from marriage being something that we thought about soberly, something
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  Speaker 2: that we went into for very specific and biblical reasons,
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  Speaker 2: to this sort of romantic idea of something that we
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  Speaker 2: happen upon. And so as a result, there's been a shift.
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  Speaker 2: And again it's not something that happened in recent days.
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  Speaker 2: It's not something that happened in the fifties. This is
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  Speaker 2: over one hundred years old. There is a shift, and
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  Speaker 2: that shift is to the idea of Cupid hitting you
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  Speaker 2: with your arrow, you falling in love, finding the one,
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  Speaker 2: and then getting married, and that love carrying you through
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  Speaker 2: to the end. And so that phrase and they lived
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  Speaker 2: happily ever after that fairy tale idea. This is the
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  Speaker 2: concept that we have as it relates to marriage. So
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  Speaker 2: because of that, when most people think about marriage, Christian
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  Speaker 2: or non Christian, what they think about is that moment
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  Speaker 2: where God again Christian people, here's our Christian people think
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  Speaker 2: about it. That moment where God, not Cupid, because we
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  Speaker 2: don't believe in that pagan myth of Cupid, but where
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  Speaker 2: God hits you with the lightning boat instead of Cupid
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  Speaker 2: hitting you with the lightning boat. So that you know
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  Speaker 2: somewhere down in your gut that this is the one.
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  Speaker 2: It's the same concept. We've just changed the players, but
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  Speaker 2: it's the exact same concept. And so we do not
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  Speaker 2: think about marriage as something that you would prepare for.
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  Speaker 2: In fact, in our day and age, it is actually
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  Speaker 2: offensive to think about marriage as something that you prepare for,
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  Speaker 2: because that's unromantic. And everybody knows that marriage is all
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  Speaker 2: about romance. That is, until you've been married for longer
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  Speaker 2: than a week. All the married people in the house
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  Speaker 2: said amen, okay. And so what this has done is
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  Speaker 2: a number of things, not the least of which it's
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  Speaker 2: caused much turmoil within marriages. For example, if we believe
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  Speaker 2: that marriages, that Christian marriages are about God supernaturally hitting
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  Speaker 2: you in the lightning bolt and letting you know that
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  Speaker 2: this is that one that He has for you, and
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  Speaker 2: then you're getting married to that one that He has
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  Speaker 2: for you. By the way, if let's just backtrack for
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  Speaker 2: a moment, Okay, there's some ideas that we have to
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  Speaker 2: sort of connect here, the difference between the right one
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  Speaker 2: and the wrong one. And this is a theological construct
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  Speaker 2: as well, you see, because of the ideas of romanticism,
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  Speaker 2: marrying the right one means that for the next forty
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  Speaker 2: fifth years, every day you wake up with a smile.
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  Speaker 2: Being married to the right one means just marital bliss constantly.
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  Speaker 2: Being married to the right one means you may occasionally
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  Speaker 2: have a hiccup where you say something perhaps not quite
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  Speaker 2: as kindly as you should have, but you know within
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  Speaker 2: seconds there is reconciliation because it's the right one. That's
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  Speaker 2: the picture that we have of marriage, and we just
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  Speaker 2: sort of hum along smoothly. Well, marriage does it work
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  Speaker 2: like that? So if I have that construct, when I
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  Speaker 2: find the right one, that's what my marriage is going
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  Speaker 2: to be like. Then I get married in the real world,
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  Speaker 2: and within a week those things that I thought were
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  Speaker 2: just so adorable I now find annoying. That person with
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  Speaker 2: whom I thought I would never disagree, I'm now perhaps
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  Speaker 2: in a knockdown, drag out what's my immediate thought based
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  Speaker 2: on that construct? It must be the wrong one. Why
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  Speaker 2: because the romantic notion of marriage makes no room for
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  Speaker 2: the difficulties that must follow when two sinful, selfish, egocentric,
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  Speaker 2: narcissistic people enter into a covenant relationship with one another.
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  Speaker 2: And so because it makes no room for that. It
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  Speaker 2: has only one explanation for that, and that one explanation
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  Speaker 2: is this must be the wrong one. And so in
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  Speaker 2: our culture, what do you then do? Well, if this
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  Speaker 2: is the wrong one. I'm talking again. I'm talking about
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  Speaker 2: Christian people. We're not talking about people out there who
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  Speaker 2: don't know God, don't claim to know God. I'm talking
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  Speaker 2: about people who say that they're born again, blood washed
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  Speaker 2: followers of the Lord Jesus Christ. Their response then, is
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  Speaker 2: something like this, Well, I'm unhappy. I am in a
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  Speaker 2: marriage that makes me unhappy. Of course, God's design and
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  Speaker 2: intent for me was to be with the one where
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  Speaker 2: I would be fulfilled and happy. He has let me
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  Speaker 2: know that this is not that one. I did a
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  Speaker 2: bad thing, married the wrong person. I need to get
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  Speaker 2: a divorce so that I can then go out and
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  Speaker 2: find the one that God intended me to be with.
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  Speaker 2: That's Christian people. And I'm not telling you what i've heard.
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  Speaker 2: I'm telling you what i've experienced as a pastor. I'm
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  Speaker 2: not telling you what somebody told me. I'm telling you
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  Speaker 2: what has made my jaw drop. I'm telling you what
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  Speaker 2: I've seen with my own eyes. I'm telling you what
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  Speaker 2: i've pleaded against, argued against, railed against personally in one
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  Speaker 2: on one meetings where I sit down and ask men,
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  Speaker 2: do you have any idea how much of the Bible
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  Speaker 2: God would have to change for what you just said
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  Speaker 2: to be accurate. I'm talking about meetings where statements like
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  Speaker 2: that are responded to with you know what, don't talk
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  Speaker 2: to me about what the Bible says. I've prayed about it,
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  Speaker 2: and this is what God's telling me to do, all
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  Speaker 2: from this faulty construct. So why is it important that
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  Speaker 2: we prepare biblically for marriage? We give you this statement
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  Speaker 2: and then we'll unpack it in the time that we
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  Speaker 2: have remaining. It is important to prepare biblically for marriage
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  Speaker 2: because marriage was designed by and for God, and therefore
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  Speaker 2: He will vindicate marriage from all perversion, misrepresentation, and abuse
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  Speaker 2: for the sake of Him, his name, and his glory.
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  Speaker 2: Say that again, it is important to be prepared biblically
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  Speaker 2: for marriage because marriage was designed by and for God,
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  Speaker 2: and therefore He will vindicate marriage from all perversion, misrepresentation,
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  Speaker 2: and abuse for the sake of His name and glory.
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  Speaker 2: Let me give it to you one more time, because
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  Speaker 2: some of you haven't written it down yet, and you
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  Speaker 2: need to because this is all we're talking about in
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  Speaker 2: this session, and really, really, when it comes down to it,
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  Speaker 2: it's all we're talking about all weekend. Okay, it is
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  Speaker 2: important to prepare biblically for marriage because marriage was designed
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  Speaker 2: by and for God. Therefore He will vindicate marriage from
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  Speaker 2: all perversion, misrepresent and abuse for his name and his glory.
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  Speaker 2: Sand So let's look at that and unpack it. First,
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  Speaker 2: marriage is designed by God. Marriage is designed by God.
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  Speaker 2: That seems like a simple statement, It seems like a
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  Speaker 2: no brainer. It seems like something that just ought to
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  Speaker 2: be assumed. Unfortunately, it's not. Marriage was not man's idea.
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  Speaker 2: That's very important to note. Marriage was not man's idea.
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  Speaker 2: It did not originate with man. It did not come
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  Speaker 2: from man. It was not invented by man. Man is
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  Speaker 2: not the architect of marriage. God is the architect of marriage.
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  Speaker 2: God is the architect of marriage. Therefore man does not
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  Speaker 2: have the right or the authority to tinker with the
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  Speaker 2: design of marriage. Okay, follow that marriage was not man's idea. Secondly,
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  Speaker 2: God is actually the architect of marriage. Therefore man does
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  Speaker 2: not have the right or the authority, Or you could
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  Speaker 2: add the wherewithal to tinker with the design of marriage.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not the architect of marriage, and unless I understand
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  Speaker 2: it from God's perspective, I don't need to go messing
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  Speaker 2: with it. Amen, it's just you. It's like going into well. Anyway,
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  Speaker 2: we'll talk about that momentarily. Just let's look at this
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  Speaker 2: marriage before the fall. Genesis chapter two, verse eighteen. Then
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  Speaker 2: God said, it is not good that the man should
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  Speaker 2: be alone. I will make him a helper fit for him.
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  Speaker 2: Very important not to rush past that phrase. Okay, there's
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  Speaker 2: been a pattern in creation for six days. Let there be.
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  Speaker 2: Then there was, it was good. Let there be, Then
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  Speaker 2: there was. It was good. Let there be, Then there was.
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  Speaker 2: It was good. Let there be, then there was. It
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  Speaker 2: was good. Let there be, then there was. It was
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  Speaker 2: very good. Then all of a sudden we come to
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  Speaker 2: Genesis chapter two and verse eighteen. It's the first time
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  Speaker 2: that God says something is not good. That's important. That's
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  Speaker 2: very important. It's the first time God says something is
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  Speaker 2: not good. Now we need to understand this contextually, within
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  Speaker 2: the context of the overarching teaching of the Bible about marriage.
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  Speaker 2: When the Bible says here, when God says it is
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  Speaker 2: not good that the man should be alone. Notice a
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  Speaker 2: couple of things. Notice grammatically, he doesn't say it's not
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  Speaker 2: good for any man to be alone. He's talking specifically
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  Speaker 2: about Adam. I want you to know that this statement
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  Speaker 2: does not mean that every man is supposed to be married.
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  Speaker 2: How do I know this well? I know this number
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  Speaker 2: one because the First Corintheans, chapter seven, Paul talks about
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  Speaker 2: this supernatural, spiritual gift from God of singleness. By the way,
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  Speaker 2: Jesus also speaks about it in Matthew chapter nineteen. It
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  Speaker 2: is a supernatural gift from God for certain individuals. They
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  Speaker 2: are few and far between, but it is a supernatural
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  Speaker 2: gift from God for certain individuals to be single. It's
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  Speaker 2: a calling from God to his praise and to his glory.
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  Speaker 2: So not every individual is called to be married. Not
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  Speaker 2: every individual is supposed to be married. There are some people,
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  Speaker 2: there are very few of them who have this gift
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  Speaker 2: of singleness. Now let me put a footnote here. I
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  Speaker 2: don't have time for this excursion, but we have to
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  Speaker 2: take it okay, because here's what has happened in modern days.
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  Speaker 2: In modern days, as we push adulthood further and further back,
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  Speaker 2: as we see our children getting married later and later
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  Speaker 2: and later. Outside of the church, people are just being
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  Speaker 2: more honest about that. I'm selfish and I don't trust anybody.
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  Speaker 2: Inside the church, we're not being honest about it. And
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  Speaker 2: one of the ways we're not being honest about it
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  Speaker 2: is we're saying we're giving pious reasons. And so there
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  Speaker 2: is this idea that people are called to singleness for
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  Speaker 2: right now, that's not a biblical concept. If you had
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  Speaker 2: this calling and this gift, according First Greeting Each chapter seven,
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  Speaker 2: and according to Matthew chapter nineteen, is a calling for life.
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  Speaker 2: It is not an excuse to put off marriage while
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  Speaker 2: you go do other things. In many instances, that is
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  Speaker 2: quite frankly tempting the Lord, your God. I can't say amen,
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  Speaker 2: y'all say ouch, okay. And so you have people, for example,
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  Speaker 2: whose son or daughters are ready to be married, but
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  Speaker 2: they're not ready for their sons their daughters to be married.
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  Speaker 2: There's other things that they want them to do, and
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  Speaker 2: so they say no, no, no, right now, you need to
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  Speaker 2: go and serve the Lord, because you know, according to
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  Speaker 2: the First Fetey chapter seven, singleness is a great gift
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  Speaker 2: that you can use for ministry. So right now, you
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  Speaker 2: use that for ministry and push that on pisch marriage,
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  Speaker 2: on that into the future, so that you can use
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  Speaker 2: your singleness for ministry. Well, I agree that every individual
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  Speaker 2: who's single ought to be using that to the glory
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  Speaker 2: in honor of God for ministry. But to take that
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  Speaker 2: and intentionally extend your singleness is an abuse of the text.
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  Speaker 2: It's also a perversion of marriage. Because here's ultimately what
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  Speaker 2: we're saying to our children, specifically to our sons. Listen, son,
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  Speaker 2: here's what I want you to do. I want you
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  Speaker 2: to go, and I want you to live, and I
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  Speaker 2: want you to do all those important things. I want
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  Speaker 2: you to serve God with everything that you have. And
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  Speaker 2: then one day later on in your life, I want
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  Speaker 2: you to come up to a young woman, look her
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  Speaker 2: in the eye and say, I have sucked all the
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  Speaker 2: joy and meaning out of life. Now I'm ready to
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  Speaker 2: marry you and die. That's what we're communicating people, that's
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  Speaker 2: what we're communicating. You need to go do ministry now,
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  Speaker 2: because you certainly can't do ministry when you're married. You
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  Speaker 2: need to go do important things for God now because
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  Speaker 2: being married is certainly not an important thing. For God,
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  Speaker 2: you need to go and fulfill yourself and reach your
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  Speaker 2: dreams now, because certainly marriage cannot be a part of that.
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  Speaker 2: And then one day after you have profaned marriage for
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  Speaker 2: the sake of all these self gratifying things, then you
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  Speaker 2: go and give it your all. Wake up, people, wake up.
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  Speaker 2: I know this is Florida, but it's barely Florida. So
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  Speaker 2: I'm gonna go ahead and say this, okay, and you'll
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  Speaker 2: na because we're close enough to Alabama that dog won't
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  Speaker 2: hunt all right. But that's what Christian families are communicating
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  Speaker 2: to their children, that there are so many more important,
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  Speaker 2: vital things for you to do. Put marriage off as
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  Speaker 2: long as you possibly can, because it will be a
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  Speaker 2: hindrance to your enjoyment, to your service to God, and
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  Speaker 2: to your ability to have meaningful existence. And an actor
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  Speaker 2: communicating that for twenty twenty five thirty years, we think
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  Speaker 2: people ought to be able to get into marriage and
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  Speaker 2: give it everything to God. It's not good for the
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  Speaker 2: man to be alone. I'll explain this in a few moments,
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  Speaker 2: but what's being referred to here is not the idea
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  Speaker 2: of loneliness. The idea of a loneliness as it relates
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  Speaker 2: to the image of God as it relates to the
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  Speaker 2: purposes for which God gave us marriage. And we'll explain
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  Speaker 2: that momentarily. I'll make him a helper fit for him. Now,
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  Speaker 2: out of the ground, the Lord God formed a wife
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  Speaker 2: so that he wouldn't be That's what you would expect
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  Speaker 2: to be next, right, but it's not. Now out of
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  Speaker 2: the ground, the Lord God had formed every beast of
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  Speaker 2: the field and every bird of the heavens, and brought
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  Speaker 2: them to the man to see what he would call them.
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  Speaker 2: And whatever the man called every living creature, that was
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  Speaker 2: its name. Why this parentheses, It's not good for the
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  Speaker 2: man to be alone. I'm going to make him a
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  Speaker 2: helper suitable for him. Okay, make him a helper suitable
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  Speaker 2: for him. Name the animals. Okay, wait a minute, what
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  Speaker 2: just happened. Well, there are a couple of possibilities. Let
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  Speaker 2: me give them to you. Number one. Marriage is God's idea,
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  Speaker 2: not man's. However, God does give man the idea. God
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  Speaker 2: does give man the idea. And this is one way.
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  Speaker 2: Adam named the animals. Okay, fine, Adam goes about naming animals. Now,
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  Speaker 2: these animals don't have the problem that he has he's
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  Speaker 2: naming these animals, and he sees he cats and she cats,
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  Speaker 2: He dogs and she dogs. He primates and she primates.
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  Speaker 2: Everybody's got somebody stept Adam. There's a concept that he's
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  Speaker 2: introduced to the concept of being alone and of that
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  Speaker 2: not being a good thing. Think about it. Adam is
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  Speaker 2: created by the hand of God. He has no concept
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  Speaker 2: of want or need whatsoever. God introduces a yearning. There's
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  Speaker 2: another thing that we see here though, in the naming
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  Speaker 2: of the animals. By the way, again, another prince is here.
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  Speaker 2: My formal training and much of my work and teaching
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  Speaker 2: everything else in the area of apologetics. And so I
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  Speaker 2: just can't help it. I really can't. I'm just apologetics
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  Speaker 2: just all the time. So I read it passes like
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  Speaker 2: that immediately in the back of my head. You know,
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  Speaker 2: there's that guy on the college campus that I've talked
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  Speaker 2: to a thousand times. She goes, you know, you believe
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  Speaker 2: that God created the earth, you believe granting the world
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  Speaker 2: six days? Well, yeah, I do. Well, that's not possible
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  Speaker 2: a lot, because Adam couldn't have named all the animals
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  Speaker 2: in the world, and one plenty for our day. Talk
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  Speaker 2: to that guy lots to it. I just have to respond, Okay,
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  Speaker 2: let me just help you really quick, all right, because
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  Speaker 2: that's really not an important question. But I can answer
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  Speaker 2: that question for you, and I'm not even gonna answer
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  Speaker 2: it with, well, it could have been longer than twenty
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  Speaker 2: four our day, because I don't believe it was longer
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  Speaker 2: than twenty four our day. I really don't. I believe
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  Speaker 2: it was twenty four our day. I believe he named
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  Speaker 2: all the animals, but I believe he named category of animals.
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  Speaker 2: He didn't have to name millions of animals because there
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  Speaker 2: weren't millions of animals all he would need. For example,
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  Speaker 2: he doesn't have to name lion and tiger and house cat.
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  Speaker 2: There's one representative cat with all the genetic makeup that
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  Speaker 2: could eventually derive or from which you could eventually derive
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  Speaker 2: every kind of cat. He didn't have to name the
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  Speaker 2: dog and the wolf and the fox. No one representative
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  Speaker 2: canine from which you could get because of the genetic
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  Speaker 2: material present in that one representative canine, all the different
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  Speaker 2: types of canines. By the way, if you have a
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  Speaker 2: problem with that idea, then you also have a problem
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  Speaker 2: with the flood. Is why who went on the boat
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  Speaker 2: shim Ham, Jayfath, Noah, and their wives. How do we
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  Speaker 2: get all the different ethnicities of people from just shim
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  Speaker 2: Ham and Jafyth. Way, we got all the different types
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  Speaker 2: of dogs and cats from representative dogs and cats. So
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  Speaker 2: you got a problem with that, You got a problem
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  Speaker 2: with ethnicity. By the way, this is not just in
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  Speaker 2: the Bible. We recognize from genetic studies that all human
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  Speaker 2: beings were derived from a pair of human beings and
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  Speaker 2: share common genetics and DNA in order to prove that.
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  Speaker 2: So Adam was not naming every conceivable animal. He's naming
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  Speaker 2: categories of animals. Why is that important. Here's why it's important.
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  Speaker 2: Because when he names his wife the first time, he
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  Speaker 2: does not name her Eve. He gives her a categorical name,
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  Speaker 2: because that's the kind of naming that he was doing. Now,
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  Speaker 2: why is this important? Because it proves male headship in
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  Speaker 2: marriage before the fall. When you say that again, this
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  Speaker 2: little naming exercise that is then carried over to Eve
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  Speaker 2: proves male headship before the fall. So male headship is
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  Speaker 2: not a product of the fall. Male headship is part
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  Speaker 2: of the original creation order. That's important. Okay, that's important.
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  Speaker 2: He goes on the man gave names to all the
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  Speaker 2: livestock and to the birds of the heavens into every
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  Speaker 2: beast of the field. But for Adam there was not
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  Speaker 2: found a helper fit for him. So there's that first argument.
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  Speaker 2: Adam didn't know anything about needing. A corresponding part. He
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  Speaker 2: names the animals, and derived directly from naming the animals.
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  Speaker 2: Is this idea that has not found one for him?
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  Speaker 2: So the Lord God calls the deep sleep to fall
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  Speaker 2: upon the man, and while he slept, took one of
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  Speaker 2: his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. So
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  Speaker 2: here's what we've learned so far. Number one, we've learned
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  Speaker 2: that the woman was made for the man. That points
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  Speaker 2: to male headship. It's not good for the man to
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  Speaker 2: be alone. I will make him a helper suitable for him.
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  Speaker 2: The woman was made for the man, thus male headship. Secondly,
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  Speaker 2: the woman was made after the man. He's there first.
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  Speaker 2: She's made after him, thus male headship. Thirdly, we've already
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  Speaker 2: seen now that the woman is made from the man,
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  Speaker 2: which points the male headship. Reard that the Lord God
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  Speaker 2: had taken from the man. He made him to a
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  Speaker 2: woman and brought her to the man. Then the man
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  Speaker 2: said this is at last bone of my bones and
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  Speaker 2: flesh of my flesh. She shall be called Eshah because
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  Speaker 2: she was taken out of h he gave her a
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  Speaker 2: categorical name. This is at last bone of my bone,
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  Speaker 2: flesh of my flesh. He is now pointing back to
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  Speaker 2: his naming exercise earlier. She's one of me, which points
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  Speaker 2: to the equality of the man and the woman, and
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  Speaker 2: yet again points the male headship. So in the Bible
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  Speaker 2: before the Fall, we have male headship and complete equality,
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  Speaker 2: not egalitarianism. There is a difference. Egalitarianism you get no
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  Speaker 2: head you have complete equality, and yet male headship. Okay,
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  Speaker 2: the woman's made for the man, she's made after the man,
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  Speaker 2: she's made from the man, she's brought to the man,
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  Speaker 2: and she's named by the man. All of these point
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  Speaker 2: the male headship in the creation order. This is incredibly important.
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  Speaker 2: Remember we're talking about marriage being designed for God. Marriage
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  Speaker 2: is designed to give glory and honor to God. Marriage
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  Speaker 2: is designed to give glory and honor to God, and
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  Speaker 2: marriage is designed for god honoring purposes. Let me give
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  Speaker 2: you the three basic ones. The three basic ones number
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  Speaker 2: one pro creation, number two illustration, and number three sanctification
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  Speaker 2: procreation illustration sanctification. These are the three basic purposes, the
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  Speaker 2: three overarching purposes for marriage. And again, remember why is
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  Speaker 2: it important for us to prepare biblically Because marriage is
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  Speaker 2: designed by God. It's designed for God, and God will
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  Speaker 2: vindicate it because it's designed by Him and for him,
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  Speaker 2: so we have to understand its purposes. Let me briefly
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  Speaker 2: explain these three purposes. Number one, procreation. We're talking about procreation,
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  Speaker 2: We're not just talking about having children, and this is
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  Speaker 2: incredibly important. It's God's first command demand be fruitful and multiply.
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  Speaker 2: And it's almost not fair to say it that way
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  Speaker 2: because the command to be fruitful and multiply was not
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  Speaker 2: a command in the sense of, you know, we think
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  Speaker 2: about command. We think about, you know, a marine sergeant,
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  Speaker 2: you know, under machine gun fire looking at a man
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  Speaker 2: saying go take that machine gun. Nest. It's an order,
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  Speaker 2: you know, like a command that you usually we think
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  Speaker 2: about commands and being commanded to do things that we
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  Speaker 2: don't necessarily want to do. Amen, this command to be
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  Speaker 2: fruitful and multiply was not a command that God was
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  Speaker 2: giving to Adam against Adam's wills and desires. It is
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  Speaker 2: as though God says to him, now you have all
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  Speaker 2: you need. Go be fruitful, go multiply. It's permission. It's
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  Speaker 2: not hey, you know, Adam, I know that you really
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  Speaker 2: don't want to do this, but just suck it up
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  Speaker 2: and go. It's not what's being said there when he
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  Speaker 2: says be fruitful and multiply, not at all. That is
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  Speaker 2: why I love the way the esv renders someone twenty seven.
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  Speaker 2: You know not children are a blame from the Lord.
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  Speaker 2: And blessed is the man whose quiver is filled with them.
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  Speaker 2: But it captures the Hebrew beautifully. But it says, and
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  Speaker 2: blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them,
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  Speaker 2: not the man who just wakes up one day and goes, well,
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  Speaker 2: how there's a lot of arrows in my quiver. No
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  Speaker 2: warrior does that. No warrior goes out to battle. Hey man,
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  Speaker 2: how many arrows you got in your quiver? Really? Not sure? Man,
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  Speaker 2: just kind of picked it up and I'm going to fight.
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  Speaker 2: No a warrior goes out to battle, how many you got?
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  Speaker 2: You know? All I could stuff in mind was, you know,
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  Speaker 2: and if I had room for one more, out to
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  Speaker 2: put one more in there? Why? Because I'm going out
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  Speaker 2: to battle, and I want to receive as many arrows
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  Speaker 2: as I can in order to go out to the battle.
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  Speaker 2: That's the idea. That's the idea presented in scripture. It
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  Speaker 2: involves bearing and training children. You see this for example
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  Speaker 2: in the Phesi in sixty four and again some of
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  Speaker 2: these I'm just for the sake of time, I'm trying
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  Speaker 2: to lay foundation here. We're going to talk in more
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  Speaker 2: depth about some of these passages. So I'm just gonna
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  Speaker 2: give you some of them. Okay, involves bearing and training children.
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  Speaker 2: That's important. It involves bearing and training children. Procreation is
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  Speaker 2: not just about having kids. It is connected to the
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  Speaker 2: dominion mandate. It's same verse. The go and exercise dominion
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  Speaker 2: part is right there with the be fruitful and multiplied.
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  Speaker 2: It's connected to one another. And so understand this. You
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  Speaker 2: need to go and subdue the earth. You need to
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  Speaker 2: go and exercise dominion over the earth. You need to
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  Speaker 2: go and make of the earth everything that you can
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  Speaker 2: make it with everything that I've given you, and be
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  Speaker 2: fruitful and multiplies. Part of that which assumes that when
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  Speaker 2: your children are born to you, will you would communicate
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  Speaker 2: to them the dominion mandate. Otherwise they won't know why
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  Speaker 2: they're here. Do you follow that? So it's not just bearing,
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  Speaker 2: it's training with a kingdom purpose and mindset the next generation.
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  Speaker 2: And thirdly, it's spreading the image of God throughout the earth.
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  Speaker 2: That's the goal that the amagul day, that the image
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  Speaker 2: of God would be spread or brought throughout the earth.
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  Speaker 2: So when we talk about procreation, that's what we mean.
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  Speaker 2: Why is this important again the apologist Okay, just let
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  Speaker 2: him out one more time for just a second here,
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  Speaker 2: because one of the arguments against homosexual marriage, for example,
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  Speaker 2: is that homosexual marriage and negates the possibility of procreation. Well,
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  Speaker 2: the homosexual crowd has sort of gotten slick, and they said, well,
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  Speaker 2: then do you believe that two people who are beyond
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  Speaker 2: childbearing years, whose spouses have died, shouldn't get married because
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  Speaker 2: they can no longer procreate? Procreation is not just about
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  Speaker 2: having children, it's about bearing, raising, training them to the
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  Speaker 2: glory and honor of God. So there are two answers
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  Speaker 2: to that question when it comes to homosexual marriage. Number One,
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  Speaker 2: procreation is a purpose for marriage, categorically categorically, So we
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  Speaker 2: mean as a category, people who get married married up
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  Speaker 2: fro opposite sexes because categorically it's for the purpose of procreation. Secondly,
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  Speaker 2: procreation is about more than having children. It is about
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  Speaker 2: modeling for them through your marriage, raising and training them
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  Speaker 2: to go out and subdue the earth as they've been
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  Speaker 2: called to. I can be married to my wife for
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  Speaker 2: forty years, my life dies. Another woman who's married to
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  Speaker 2: her husband for forty years, her husband dies. We get married,
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  Speaker 2: we can no longer have children, but we are still
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  Speaker 2: in the process of raising, training, and discipling children and
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  Speaker 2: grandchildren and great grandchildren to the glory of God, to
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  Speaker 2: the ends of the earth. Do you follow that. That's
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  Speaker 2: extremely important for the homosexual marriage debate, which is the
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  Speaker 2: debate on the horizon when it comes to marriage right
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  Speaker 2: now in our culture. And we got to be able
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  Speaker 2: to say more than just well, you know, God made
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  Speaker 2: Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve. And you know
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  Speaker 2: that one's not working anymore, not that it ever did
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  Speaker 2: at first. Okay, but we've got to be a little
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  Speaker 2: more sophisticated than that. Okay, we need to understand why
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  Speaker 2: this is a problem. Secondly, illustration a physical model of
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  Speaker 2: a spiritual relationship. We see that in Ephesians chapter five.
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  Speaker 2: It was read earlier this picture in Ephesians chapter five
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  Speaker 2: of the relationship between Christ and his church. But also
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  Speaker 2: remember I said, I explain more about that phrase. It's
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  Speaker 2: not good for the man to be alone. God creates
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  Speaker 2: man in his image, and the image of who the
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  Speaker 2: triune God, father, son, and Holy Spirit Adam by himself
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  Speaker 2: is limited. But when man has issued from him wife,
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  Speaker 2: who has issued from them children, and that comprises the
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  Speaker 2: biblical nuclear family, we have an earthly representation of the
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  Speaker 2: triunity of God in the form of husband, wife, and child.
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  Speaker 2: Our God exists and has existed and will continue to
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  Speaker 2: exist throughout all eternity, his Father, Son, Holy Spirit, and
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  Speaker 2: perfect unity. And that picture is carried forth in the
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  Speaker 2: human family, which is why the male in the human family,
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  Speaker 2: who is the head of the household, is given the
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  Speaker 2: title Father, which I want to just make us weaken
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  Speaker 2: the knees man, amen, just the idea that God would
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  Speaker 2: call us by that title. Thirdly, sanctification sanctification. Now, when
• 34:42
  Speaker 2: I talk about sacification, talking about active sanctification and passive sanctification.
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  Speaker 2: So remember the purposes of marriage. God gives us marriage
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  Speaker 2: for procreation, God gives us marriage for illustration. We illustrate
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  Speaker 2: the image of God and the relationship between Christs and
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  Speaker 2: the Church. But he also gives us marriage for sanctification,
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  Speaker 2: active sanctification, like avoiding sexual im morality and enjoying god
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  Speaker 2: honoring sexual relationships. We see that in First Corinthians chapter seven. Again,
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  Speaker 2: our romantic culture didn't like to hear that, but that's
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  Speaker 2: one of the purposes for which God gave us marriage.
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  Speaker 2: Britan and I got married the summer between my sophomore
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  Speaker 2: and junior year in college. And I remember, now, non
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  Speaker 2: Christian people had no problem with us getting married while
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  Speaker 2: we were still in college, because they're like, y'all are Christians,
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  Speaker 2: You're weird, y'all do weird stuff makes sense. Christian people
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  Speaker 2: were up in arms that we were getting married while
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  Speaker 2: we were still in college because evidently we hadn't read
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  Speaker 2: over in Second Hesitations where it says thou shalt not
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  Speaker 2: marry until after graduation, okay, And so here we were
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  Speaker 2: we were generating to get married. And now I mean
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  Speaker 2: that was pressure. There was pressure from Christian people for
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  Speaker 2: us to not get married until after graduation. Nobody could
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  Speaker 2: point to anything in the scriptures, you know, And I'm
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  Speaker 2: just going man, when I finds a wife, he finds
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  Speaker 2: a good thing. I found my good thing. I'm not
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  Speaker 2: gonna let it get away. We got it, you know.
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  Speaker 2: And the one thing that just got all over people,
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  Speaker 2: they didn't have an answer for it, but they really
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  Speaker 2: didn't like it was, you know, I'm just saying, listen,
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  Speaker 2: the wisest man in the Bible, the strongest man in
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  Speaker 2: the Bible, and the most godly man in the Bible
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  Speaker 2: all fell the sexual sin. I am not wiser than Solomon,
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  Speaker 2: I am not stronger than Samson. I am not more
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  Speaker 2: godly than David. I'm getting married. And their only response
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  Speaker 2: to that was, well, that's just not very romantic, really,
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  Speaker 2: So you'd rather me tempt the Lord, my God for
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  Speaker 2: the sake of romance, I think not. That's one of
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  Speaker 2: the active sanctification roles in marriage. God has given us
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  Speaker 2: some natural desires. They are wonderful desires, they are beautiful,
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  Speaker 2: God honoring desires, but they can be abused. And marriage
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  Speaker 2: is a context the fire in the fireplace, the analogy.
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  Speaker 2: Put fire in the fireplace, it'll warm the room. You
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  Speaker 2: let it outside of the fireplace, it'll burn down the
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  Speaker 2: whole house. Amen. Sex is like that. Washing with the
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  Speaker 2: water of the word the Ephesians five twenty six. It's
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  Speaker 2: interesting that when you look at the man loving his
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  Speaker 2: wife as Christ loved the church, the picture there is
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  Speaker 2: clearly expressed as one of sanctifying her speaking the truth
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  Speaker 2: and love. Why, according to Pietis chapter four, do we
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  Speaker 2: speak the truth and love that we might be built
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  Speaker 2: up in every aspect into Him who is the head.
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  Speaker 2: By the way, no mistake that that's connected to the
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  Speaker 2: household coldes that we find in chup to five. This
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  Speaker 2: is the active sanctification that we see. There's also passive sanctification,
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  Speaker 2: and so we see actively that there are things that
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  Speaker 2: we do in marriage that work toward our sanctification and
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  Speaker 2: the sanctification of our spouse. But passively passively marriage sanctifies
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  Speaker 2: us as we learn to live with another imperfect sinner. Amen, Hallelujah,
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  Speaker 2: Praise the Lord. It's a sanctifying work. You don't get
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  Speaker 2: your way, you don't get to live for you anymore.
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  Speaker 2: There are things in you that need to be chiseled off,
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  Speaker 2: and marriage is the most power. You know. Listen, there
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  Speaker 2: are a lot of things out there in the world
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  Speaker 2: that God uses to sort of chisel you know, sinful
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  Speaker 2: habits off of you, sinful desire, sinful taste. You know,
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  Speaker 2: they're little things, and it's like, you know, Michelangelo with
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  Speaker 2: a piece of marble. You know there are other things
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  Speaker 2: in your life, though, where God needs a jackhammer. Amen.
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  Speaker 2: Your job is like Michelangelo. Your marriage, it's like a jackhammer. Amen.
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  Speaker 2: People ask me where'd you grow up? Well, I grew
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  Speaker 2: up some in Los Angeles, but mostly when I got married.
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  Speaker 2: It'll grow you up like nothing else in the world will.
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  Speaker 2: It'll sanctify you like nothing else in the world will. Okay,
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  Speaker 2: and that's one of the Biblical purposes. Here's the great irony.
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  Speaker 2: Listen to this. Let's go back to where we were earlier.
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  Speaker 2: The romantic view of marriage gets in the marriage and
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  Speaker 2: marriage is difficult, and it immediately says this must be
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  Speaker 2: the wrong one. The Biblical view of marriage. One of
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  Speaker 2: the purposes of marriage is sanctification. I get in marriage,
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  Speaker 2: and those difficulties are chiseling away at me, conforming me
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  Speaker 2: to the image of Christ. If I try to get
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  Speaker 2: away from that, here's what I'm saying to God. God,
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  Speaker 2: you are using my marriage to break me and to
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  Speaker 2: conform me to the image of Christ. And because of
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  Speaker 2: the difficulties that I'm experiencing, I'm looking more and more
• 39:40
  Speaker 2: like Jesus every day. You make it. Stop now, and
• 39:43
  Speaker 2: I mean it. Do you catch that perspective? Is everything,
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  Speaker 2: isn't it? These hardships, I'm making me look more and
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  Speaker 2: more like the one who died did for his bride.
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  Speaker 2: You stop that right now. I don't want to look
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  Speaker 2: that much like him. I want him to lay down
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  Speaker 2: his life for me, but I don't want to do
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  Speaker 2: that as I represent him in this marriage. It's the
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  Speaker 2: real culture war. Listen to this from John Calvin. Moses
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  Speaker 2: now relates that marriage was divinely instituted, which is especially
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  Speaker 2: useful to be known for since Adam did not take
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  Speaker 2: a wife to himself at his own will, but received
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  Speaker 2: her as offered and appropriated to him by God. The
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  Speaker 2: sanctity of marriage, hence more clearly appears because we recognize
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  Speaker 2: God as its author. The more Satan has endeavored to
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  Speaker 2: dishonor marriage, the more should we vindicate it from all
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  Speaker 2: reproach and abuse that it may receive its due reverence. Amen.
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  Speaker 2: After the fall, Now what happens. Roles are reversed, the
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  Speaker 2: offenders accursed, and a Redeemer is promised. This is what
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  Speaker 2: happens after the fall. But what you need to know
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  Speaker 2: is this marriage is created. Remember back to our statement,
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  Speaker 2: why is it important for us to prepare biblically for marriage?
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  Speaker 2: Marriage is created by and for God, and therefore He
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  Speaker 2: will vindicate marriage from all perversions, misrepresentations, and abuses for
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  Speaker 2: his glory and his namesake. Which means if I enter
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  Speaker 2: into marriage with ideas that are perversions, misrepresentations and abuses
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  Speaker 2: of marriage, God will vindicate marriage against me. So I
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  Speaker 2: had better know what marriage is, better know why marriage
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  Speaker 2: was designed. I had better know what my role is
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  Speaker 2: in marriage, otherwise I end up working against God and
• 42:12
  Speaker 2: God will resist me. Do you see that? So what
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  Speaker 2: does it look like? Well, God comes to the man
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  Speaker 2: and to the woman. He finds that they have sinned,
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  Speaker 2: that they have fallen. When he begins to lay down
• 42:33
  Speaker 2: these curses, first the serpent, the Lord God said to
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  Speaker 2: the serpent, and here's what I want you to see.
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  Speaker 2: I want you to see these areas where marriage is
• 42:43
  Speaker 2: being perverted and where it's being vindicated by God, the
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  Speaker 2: Lord God said in the serpent, because you have done
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  Speaker 2: this curse to you above all life thought and above
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  Speaker 2: all beasts of the field. On your belly you shall go,
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  Speaker 2: and dust you shall eat all the days of your life.
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  Speaker 2: I'll put enmity between you and the woman, in between
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  Speaker 2: your offspring and her offspring. He shall bruise your head,
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  Speaker 2: you shall bruise his heel. This is the proto Yuangelion,
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  Speaker 2: the first proclamation of the Gospel, the serpent and the seed.
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  Speaker 2: The serpent gets this, by the way, the serpent understands
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  Speaker 2: this clearly he and he immediately responds as though he
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  Speaker 2: understands this. That's chapter three. Where do you get the
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  Speaker 2: first murder? Chapter four? What is the first murder? Well,
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  Speaker 2: the first murder is the seed of the serpent, Cain
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  Speaker 2: killing the seed of the woman. Able why because God
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  Speaker 2: declared war and the serpent believed him and acted upon it.
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  Speaker 2: Now I'm not the one saying that Cain is seated
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  Speaker 2: the serpent. John says that one John three twelve, we
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  Speaker 2: should not be like Cain, who was of the evil
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  Speaker 2: one and murdered his brother. And why did he murder him?
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  Speaker 2: Because his own deeds were evil and his brother's righteous. Cain,
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  Speaker 2: who was of the evil one, which is, by the way,
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  Speaker 2: why in the next chapter In Genesis chapter five, we
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  Speaker 2: are introduced to Seth, who was born in the likeness
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  Speaker 2: of his father Adam, in order to let us know
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  Speaker 2: seed to the woman restored. Is it the ultimate seed
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  Speaker 2: of the woman? No, not the ultimate seed of the woman.
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  Speaker 2: But we get ten generations from Seth down to Noah.
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  Speaker 2: Why is that important? So that we know that when
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  Speaker 2: Noah gets on that boat with sham Ham Jfef and
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  Speaker 2: their wives, that we have a direct descendant representing that
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  Speaker 2: seed of the woman who has survived the flood. We
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  Speaker 2: are then introduced to Abraham. Abraham promised in Genesis chapter
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  Speaker 2: twelve to be the father of many nations, so we
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  Speaker 2: have the idea of the promised seed. He goes on
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  Speaker 2: his own. There's Ishmael, promise seed. Nope, Ishmael's gotta go.
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  Speaker 2: Not a seed. Thus seed Isaac. Isaac has twins, which
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  Speaker 2: one's promise seed the older Nope, the older will serve
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  Speaker 2: of the younger. It's Jacob. Then we go on to
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  Speaker 2: these twelve tribes. At the end of Genesis, we come
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  Speaker 2: to the Book of Exodus, and in Exodus chapter one,
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  Speaker 2: here's what we read beginning of verse fifteen. Then the
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  Speaker 2: king of Egypt said to the Hebrew midwives, one of
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  Speaker 2: whom was named Schiffra and the other Puah. When you
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  Speaker 2: serve as midwife to the Hebrew women and see them
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  Speaker 2: on the birse tool, if it is a son, you
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  Speaker 2: shall kill him. But if it is a daughter, she
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  Speaker 2: shall live. What is that? It's the war between the
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  Speaker 2: serpent and the seed. Jeremiah, chapter thirty two. When God
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  Speaker 2: tells Israel that I am bringing the Chaldeans in in
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  Speaker 2: order to lay waste to this place, and you're going
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  Speaker 2: into captivity. Why is it we're beginning of verse thirty four.
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  Speaker 2: They set up their abominations in the house that is
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  Speaker 2: called by my name to defile it. They built the
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  Speaker 2: high places of Baal and the valley of the Son
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  Speaker 2: of Hinem to offer up their sons and to Molech.
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  Speaker 2: Though I did not command them, nor did it enter
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  Speaker 2: into my mind that they should do this abomination to
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  Speaker 2: cause Juda des sind. What are they doing? What are
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  Speaker 2: they doing? They are offering up the seed of the
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  Speaker 2: woman to a foreign God who promises them prosperity in exchange.
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  Speaker 2: Then we get to the New Testament. By the way,
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  Speaker 2: in the New Testament, where do we begin? We begin
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  Speaker 2: with the genealogy of Jesus Christ, the son of David,
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  Speaker 2: the son of Abraham, in order to do what Let
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  Speaker 2: you know that the promise that was made in Genesis
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  Speaker 2: chapter three and verse fifteen came to fruition in the
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  Speaker 2: person of Jesus Christ. He is the promised seed who
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  Speaker 2: will crush the serpent's head. But then what happens immediately after? Then? Herod,
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  Speaker 2: when he saw that he had been tricked by the
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  Speaker 2: wise men, became furious, and he sent and killed all
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  Speaker 2: the male children in Bethlehem and in all the region
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  Speaker 2: who were two years old and under, according to the
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  Speaker 2: time that he had ascertained from the wise man, kill
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  Speaker 2: the seed of the woman. Kill the seed of the woman.
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  Speaker 2: By the way, it hadn't stopped. We have a picture,
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  Speaker 2: for example, at the end of the Bible Revelation twelve
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  Speaker 2: three and four, another sign appeared in heaven. Behold a
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  Speaker 2: great red dragon with seven heads and ten horns, and
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  Speaker 2: on his head seven diadems. His tail swept down a
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  Speaker 2: third of the stars of heaven and cast them to
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  Speaker 2: the earth. And the dragons stood before the woman who
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  Speaker 2: was about to give birth, so that when she bore
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  Speaker 2: her child, he might devour it. From the beginning of
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  Speaker 2: the Bible to the end, there is this picture of
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  Speaker 2: enmity between the serpent and his seed and the woman
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  Speaker 2: and her seed. But then you ask, once Christ is born,
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  Speaker 2: doesn't the war cease. No. Here's why, child that comes
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  Speaker 2: forth from the womb bears the image of God and
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  Speaker 2: potentially potentially is a co heirr with Christ upon hearing
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  Speaker 2: and receiving the Gospel. So the serpent still wants to
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  Speaker 2: destroy the seed of the woman because with every child
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  Speaker 2: who is born he sees the image of God and
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  Speaker 2: potentially potentially of her dean son and daughter. She wants
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  Speaker 2: them destroyed. What does that look like in our coach today?
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  Speaker 2: Abortion murder, you murder somebody. You're basically giving God an
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  Speaker 2: effigy orphans child abandoned that starvation. You know, the overwhelming
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  Speaker 2: majority of the victims of starvation in this world of children, homosexuality.
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  Speaker 2: Think about it. Talk about a coup a'ta I hate
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  Speaker 2: the sea of the woman. I want to destroy the
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  Speaker 2: seed of the woman. That's great, Let's do it through abortion.
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  Speaker 2: Let's take it one step further. Let's cause people to
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  Speaker 2: embrace relationships that negate even the possibility of child bearing,
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  Speaker 2: intentional childlessness, which is the next best thing. Let's get
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  Speaker 2: people who can have children to get married and mutilate
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  Speaker 2: their own bodies so that they cannot bring forth seed fatherlessness. Again,
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  Speaker 2: these are perversions of marriage. God makes marriage for his purposes,
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  Speaker 2: his glory, his honor. And then here's what we do.
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  Speaker 2: So what will God do? He will vindicate marriage. Secondly,
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  Speaker 2: the woman, the woman, he said, I will surely multiply
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  Speaker 2: your pain and child bearing and pain. You shall bring
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  Speaker 2: forth children. Your desires shall be for your husband, and
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  Speaker 2: he shall rule over. You're careful there. Your desires shall
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  Speaker 2: be for your husband doesn't mean that that eve is
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  Speaker 2: going to just time over. Adam oh adam. No. Same
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  Speaker 2: phrase is used in chapter four. King Sin is crouching
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  Speaker 2: at your diss at your door. It's desires for you.
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  Speaker 2: You must rule over it. This desire is usurpatient. This
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  Speaker 2: desire is usurpatient. What does that look like? Looks like feminism, right,
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  Speaker 2: looks like radical egalitarianism and again intentional intentional childlessness and abortion.
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  Speaker 2: It looks like something else. It looks like statism. You
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  Speaker 2: know what statism is. Statism is basically the state saying
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  Speaker 2: we will reorder the fabric of society, and the state
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  Speaker 2: will replace the man at the head of households. It's
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  Speaker 2: asion of marriage. Finally, the Adamy said, because you have
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  Speaker 2: listened to the voice of your wife and have eaten
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  Speaker 2: of the tree which I commanded you, you shall not eat
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  Speaker 2: of it. Cursed is the ground because of you and pain,
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  Speaker 2: You shall eat of it all the days of your life.
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  Speaker 2: Thorns and thistles it shall bring forth for you, and
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  Speaker 2: you shall eat the plants of the field. By the
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  Speaker 2: sweat of your face, you shall eat bread till your
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  Speaker 2: return to the ground, for out of it you were
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  Speaker 2: taken for your dust, and the dust you shall return it.
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  Speaker 2: What does this look like? Sloth? Sloth Men who don't
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  Speaker 2: want to work, Men who are thirty thirty five years
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  Speaker 2: old and will not go out and get a job
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  Speaker 2: because they can't find the perfect one. By the way,
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  Speaker 2: what's the perfect one? The perfect one is something that
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  Speaker 2: they love so much that it doesn't feel like work.
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  Speaker 2: There's another word for that, sloth, sloth. That's a new idea.
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  Speaker 2: You gotta go out and find the perfect thing that
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  Speaker 2: will fulfill you. Go out and find what you love
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  Speaker 2: and do it. Then it won't seem like work. No,
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  Speaker 2: go find something to do and love it because God
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  Speaker 2: gave you the privilege of doing it. Looks like a
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  Speaker 2: leadership vacuum looks like passivity, And men, by the way,
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  Speaker 2: talk about a perfect storm. Women who because of the
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  Speaker 2: fall rail against the headship of their husbands and men
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  Speaker 2: who because of the fall are passive looks like delayed
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  Speaker 2: marriage and extended childhood looks like absenteeism, and again statism. Now,
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  Speaker 2: these are things that from the Fall have reinterpreted and
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  Speaker 2: redefined marriage in ways that are complete perversions of the
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  Speaker 2: God ordained purpose for marriage. If we aren't aware of this,
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  Speaker 2: if we aren't speaking to this, if we aren't shaping
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  Speaker 2: the way our children think about this and the way
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  Speaker 2: we think about this, what do we automatically do? We
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  Speaker 2: automatically drift toward marriages that don't look like this God
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  Speaker 2: honoring relationship, but they instead look like the self gratifying
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  Speaker 2: relationships that are the exact opposite of what God intended
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  Speaker 2: the covenant of marriage to be. And God will vindicate
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  Speaker 2: marriage better He do it through you than against you.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know about you. I don't know about you.
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  Speaker 2: I'd rather you do it through me than against me,
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  Speaker 2: and even when he does it through me, he's got
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  Speaker 2: to do it in spite of me. Know this, and
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  Speaker 2: when we know this, it will forever, I believe, eradicate
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  Speaker 2: this idea that we need to just sit by passively
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  Speaker 2: and wait for that magic stroke, whether it be from
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  Speaker 2: Cupid or whether you redefine the characters and say that
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  Speaker 2: it's from God, absolutely not. We need to be thinking
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  Speaker 2: about this from a biblical perspective and the way that
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  Speaker 2: it's designed to honor God, and ask ourselves how we
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  Speaker 2: can join God in the vindication of marriage as opposed
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  Speaker 2: to being part of that against which marriage needs to
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  Speaker 2: be vindicated. Let's pray, Father, thank you for your goodness,
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  Speaker 2: for your goodness expressed in your clarity. That you have
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  Speaker 2: not left us to wander aimlessly trying to figure things out.
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  Speaker 2: But you have made yourself absolutely clear. And though we
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  Speaker 2: fall woefully short, we recognize that sanctification is one of
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  Speaker 2: the purposes for which you gave us marriage. So as
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  Speaker 2: we fall short, you use it to sanctify us and
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  Speaker 2: conform us to the very image of Christ, so that
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  Speaker 2: even our shortcomings bring glory and honor to you as
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  Speaker 2: you reshape us. Through them, help us to grasp these realities,
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  Speaker 2: help us to embrace these truths, and help us to
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  Speaker 2: raise a generation of young men and young women who
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  Speaker 2: are so immersed in them that they recognize the fraudulent
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  Speaker 2: portrait that the culture has painted, and instead seek earnestly
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  Speaker 2: after the true covenant of marriage that brings glory and
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  Speaker 2: honor to you, our King, our Master, our savior, and friend.
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  Speaker 2: This we pray in Christ's name and for his glory. Amen.