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28 | Man Gets Sent to Prison 13 Years Late?! · Let's Talk! An Our2Gens Podcast

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Let's talk. Hey y'all, welcome back episode
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28. Let's do it.
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Yes, before I get into it, I just wanted to say thank you to
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I got a Reddit relationship advice.
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I told my boyfriend I sometimes miss the freedom of being single
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and he broke up with me on my birthday.
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What is up with these dudes messing with women on their
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birthdays? On their birthdays?
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Yeah. The last one was triggering.
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So this one, it's lighter, but still.
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OK. We're starting off with a bang.
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Let's go. She said I 26 female have been
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with my boyfriend, 26 male for about 2 1/2 years.
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A couple of nights ago we were lying down together and having a
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really open conversation about different things going on in our
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lives. The conversation felt safe and
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honest and I had a really good feeling about it.
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At one point I told him there was something I wanted to share
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but asked him to promise not to get mad and just listen first.
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I told him that he is the love of my life and when I say what
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I'm about to say it doesn't mean I miss other guys or want other
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men in my life. Immediately had the preface that
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like. Immediately, he said.
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She wants every guy. She hates me, yes.
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I love that she knew that she had to say that beforehand,
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before she started what she was saying.
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She said in fact, the idea of being with anyone else actually
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makes me uncomfortable. However, I told him that
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sometimes I miss being single not because of dating other
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people, but because of the freedom that comes with it.
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When you're single, you don't have to think about any other
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person and every decision you make and life feels like it has
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less responsibility. I also told him that I don't
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want to break up with him and that I was sharing this because
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I want to be honest instead of hiding feelings and eventually
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building resentment. He got extremely upset.
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Of course he did. Of course.
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That night he left my place. I begged him to not give you the
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silent treatment especially because the next day was my
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birthday. After he left, I called him and
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texted him but he didn't respond.
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The next day which is my birthday, he finally answered
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and he was still very angry. He told me he was breaking up
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with me and said that he didn't care that it was my birthday.
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He said he felt used and accused me of wanting to break up with
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him just so I can hang out with other.
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Guys, Oh my God, Oh my God, he. Kept saying I wanted to be in a
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relationship but also be single. He didn't listen to a.
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Word, he said. It's just in one ear out.
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We had finally actually planned a birthday trip to Niagara Falls
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that he was supposed to take me on, but instead he cancelled
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everything and didn't celebrate with me at all.
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During our phone call I tried explaining that the reason I
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sometimes miss being single is also because I often feel like
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I'm walking on egg shells around town.
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I was waiting for that part. Yep.
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He can be very strict and when he gets angry he sometimes gives
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silent treatment or holds things over me for a long time.
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I tried apologizing and explaining that I was sharing my
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feelings because I wanted to fix things, but he kept insisting
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that the only reason I said that was because I want other guys.
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I ended up crying most of my birthday and felt really awful.
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I understood that what I said could hurt someone's feelings.
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If someone said that to me, I might feel upset too, but I feel
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like I would ask more questions about why they feel that way
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instead of reacting like I caught them cheating.
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How would you interpret a partner saying they miss the
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freedom of being single but still want to stay in a
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relationship? And what would be a healthy way
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for both partners to handle that conversation?
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Well, I know this is your mom speaking.
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Uh oh. It's been a minute since we had
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one of these, Yes. What you were feeling was his
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insecurity drowning you because clearly she I was waiting for
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the part where she was like walking on it shells.
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I can't say anything to him. He hates, you know, the man I
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work with, he keeps me away from my family.
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It's like it's just like a checklist of these kind of
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behaviors. And so in her in trying to be a
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good girlfriend and make sure that it's her responsibility to
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judge how he feels, she was like, OK, well, I'm feeling this
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way, but I want to be open and honest with you, which is true.
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You want to be open and honest. But what she didn't realize is
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that she was with the guy who was drowning her, was smothering
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her with his insecurities. She kept mentioning the freedom,
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like if you no longer have the freedom to do anything, that's
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what you're missing. She's like, I still love you,
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but you're suffocating. You were in prison.
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OK. It's OK to feel certain way.
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It's like you were single and the whole like, I don't have to
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talk to anybody before making any kind of choice.
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I totally get that. But being like, I have no
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freedom and I miss that. Is a different story, which
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sounds like what you were saying.
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So maybe it seems horrible right now.
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Maybe, just maybe, let me float it by you, but him breaking up
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with you might actually be good for.
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Both of y'all, yes, maybe I'm going to say give it a little
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time because he did that on purpose.
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I mean, we'd already mentioned it, but there's been several
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stories that I've read or we've talked about that things happen
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on people's birthdays. Like they go out of their way to
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hurt their feelings. It's like, yeah, this will hurt
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just a little. Bit more if I do it on your
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birthday like evil human being. You could have waited a day like
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Niagara Falls. You tell me you don't want to go
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to Niagara Falls. Like he would have pushed her
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in. Don't go to Niagara Falls to
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somebody who don't like you. I listen to a lot of true crime,
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OK? No.
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Don't go hiking, don't go to a cabin in the middle of the
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woods. Don't do none of that stuff, OK?
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If he doesn't like you, stay home that far.
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So maybe it worked. Out exactly how it was supposed
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to so it was well, good for you, good for you.
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It hurts, but good for you. Yeah man, all right.
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Am I the asshole for not staying behind after my niece got
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arrested? Uh oh.
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Contacts please. My family was going to be flying
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back from another family member's wedding.
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A bunch of us were on the same flight that got cancelled.
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We were able to get tickets for another flight but it had a
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layover. My sister sneakily got a direct
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flight and she basically left us with her 17 year old.
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That's messed up. She said she had to get back,
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get back home for work. We know she didn't tell us about
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her separate flight and leaving her behind because she knows
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that we would not have agreed. We all think her daughter is a
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pain in the ass with her chest, with her chest.
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But anyway, with no other options, we took her with us to
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the airport and she was her Moody, difficult self the whole
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time. While we were waiting in the
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airport during our layover, she got up to supposedly go to the
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restroom. When she got back, the airport
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police came up and arrested her for shoplifting.
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Girl. Are you kidding me?
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No sense. Sit.
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Down and do nothing. This is the airport, Calm down.
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The police said that since she was 17, she would be charged as
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an adult there and transferred to the county jail.
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They said that she could be out tomorrow or it could take longer
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depending on how busy they were. We all had our own places to be
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and we're tired from dealing with travel stuff.
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It's so funny when you know where this is going.
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Most everyone except me had younger kids that were all so
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tired and cranky. No one wanted to change their
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flight again and get a hotel for what might be multiple nights so
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they could stay and wait for her.
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And at this point we were just fed up with her.
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We talked to the police about it and they said it would be OK if
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we took our flight. So we relayed the information to
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my sister over text. She was upset and demanded that
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someone stay saying we couldn't just abandoned her there.
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Babe, you. You left your own you.
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Mean like you did, Yeah. Like I'm following your.
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Footsteps by the way, we did check to see and there were
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multiple flights my sister could have taken to get there by the
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next day and she said she couldn't because she had work.
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We said we do too and we got on our flight period.
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When we got home my sister was freaking out because we all
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left. She's mostly mad at me for
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leaving since I don't have kids like the others and she thinks
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my work is much more flexible compared to hers and they would
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have believed me if I had just lied about flight issues or used
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some days off Am I the asshole? I don't think so.
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You got to learn eventually she's going to remember that
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this girl was looking for mess. You went to the bathroom so you
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lied saying you're going to the bathroom when you knew you was
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about to go steal some stuff. Didn't even attempt to ask
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anybody. Hey do you have 5 bucks or
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whatever so I can go get this? Thing nothing she decided she
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was going to steal and when she finally got caught it's like Oh
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well girl now you're going to deal about the the issues FO.
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Seriously, I feel like. This one was not BA because the
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other situation and the other story read where the brother
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forgot the passport. They didn't leave him, but I
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felt like that's more of a reason to leave anyway.
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They both should have left, you know what I mean.
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This. No, she's going to learn.
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She learned that what you do has consequences.
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That part stay in the county jail.
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Catch a flight back, we'll see you.
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What did we learn exactly? And mom also needs to learn
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because the whole sneaky let me go find a side flight that I
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could find a direct and didn't say anything to.
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Anybody. She was irritated with her
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daughter too, and she finally wanted some time to just be
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like, I'm gonna leave her. It's your problem now for a
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couple of. Hours.
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Oh well, either come back or your daughter is just going to
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have to spend the weekend in the county jail.
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I don't understand what this what the problem is, What the
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problem is? Thank you.
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That's irresponsible to think that other people should be
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responsible for your child. That is your child.
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You know your child too. You know her, you know, and you
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know what she does and everybody clearly already does cuz they're
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like, she gets on our damn nerves.
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Well, I don't think so. I think you were in the right.
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Get on that flight, not the asshole.
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Period. All right, so if you've been on
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the Internet, you've seen this 20 year old guy, don't know his
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name, but if we can go to my screen, this is him.
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He already looks like he's going to irritate me and I think he's
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going to irritate you too. So let's just get into it.
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Basically, he had an argument. He said that basically because
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he didn't consent to his own birth, he shouldn't have to work
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and that his parents should have to take care of him for the rest
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of his life. I went.
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I need to pause there. It's not going to be the type
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that you want. It's not going to be the type
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that you want. I don't understand.
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What the hell do you mean? I have to take care of you for
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the rest of you, for the rest of your life.
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That's crazy. So when I first saw this, it
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started off the header was basically like be I didn't
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consent to birth. And I was like, Oh yeah, for
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sure. I agree with that.
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I did not consent to being here. And then he proceeded to be
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like, then I shouldn't have to work.
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And I was like, OK, I sort of agree with that.
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And then when he wrote the parents and that's when I was
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like, Nah bro, Nah because technically 18 years is all they
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owe you basically. And you're still.
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Living at home at 21. So they're giving you what, how
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many extra years? And he said this in response.
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Clearly his parents were like, you need to get a job.
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And he was like, actually, no, I don't because I didn't consent
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to any of this. That's crazy.
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At one point, yes, but another point, what?
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None of us did. None of us.
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Is there a way to consent to being bored?
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That part, nobody consented to this.
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I can understand. You're like, you know what?
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This sucks. Like, I am unhappy.
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I don't want to have to get a job and do none of that.
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But but you're staying here. You're going to have to survive,
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you know, And I bet he's reaping the benefits of life, you know,
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music video. Games, you know, life without.
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Yeah. Reading life without rent, I
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know you ain't paying rent. There's no way because he
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doesn't have he doesn't have a job.
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He didn't consent to this. So I was looking through the
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comments section because you sent an Instagram where we saw
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this. I was upset with how many people
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were on his side who were basically saying, yes, I don't
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have children. If you don't consent to take
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care of them forever, forever, no.
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I. Agreed to this.
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Arrangement thinking that 18 years was all that I needed to
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give you. You're an adult at this point.
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That's why we break it up. You're a baby, you're a toddler,
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you're a preteen, you're a teen, you're a young adult and you are
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an adult. When you become an adult, you
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are no longer my problem. And this thing, you're always
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there. It's not like I'm not.
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Here for you. I'm going to guide you.
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Exactly. But I'm It's not my job to hold
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your hand for the rest of your life.
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No, I don't want you to hold my hand.
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I want you to support me. I need a monthly check.
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Oh, every month. Oh, so we making demands now?
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That's what we're doing, he said.
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I need my support for the rest of my life.
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That's ridiculous. I don't even understand how that
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comes. But I need to know.
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I need updates on this guy. Yeah, like I wish he had written
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into Reddit so we could follow for it.
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Follow up or at least let him like.
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What do you mean? I don't I I could see having a
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an opinion about this. Thank you.
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But then what did your parents say?
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And then what? What do you know?
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If he said that, I would have kicked him out ASAP.
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Oh, yeah, We're done. We're done.
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Yeah. It's ridiculous.
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Yeah. He's irritating.
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Thank you. You know what?
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I can see a pattern already. Because these stories, some of
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them are kind of like rage. A little rage, baby.
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Just a little bit. So mine, if you would go to my
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screen. All right, so this man, it's a
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horrible picture. OK, No.
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I think it's a great picture. I think it's a great picture.
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So apparently somewhere in the UKA lawsuit was filed by Tony
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Finn. OK.
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He worked for a company for 24 years before being fired and he
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claimed, among other things, that he had been a victim of sex
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related harassment after the supervisor, Jamie King, a male,
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called him, quote, a bald cunt. I wrote, I wrote it down because
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I was like, I need to make sure I get this right.
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First of all, I love how other countries use the C word.
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It just flows up out of them so wonderfully every time.
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It's not an American. We don't say that all the time,
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but it's like, perfect. Sometimes, and they're just
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like, And I love that. It was another man, too.
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Flowed right out of his mouth. You're not just that, you are a
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bald. So basically this tribunal, this
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employment tribunal or whatever, which was, I'm sorry, this is so
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ridiculous. You're going to I apologize All
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right so it was there the people who made a ruling on this was 3
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bald men They. Said a bald court.
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It was a bald court who said who said yes you are correct and I
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highlighted this because I had to see it, He said the the
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ruling made by a tribunal panel of 3 bald men and found that
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commenting on a man's baldness in the workplace is equivalent
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to remarking on the size of a woman's breast.
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No, it is not. No, it's not.
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No, it's not. I don't understand how you make
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that distinction. A bald head and woman's breasts.
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Me commenting on a woman's breast is the same as me saying
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you're bald like. It's.
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Right, I don't. Why?
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Get it? See.
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No correlation. Well, according to them, because
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I wrote all of this down, because I was fascinated Mr.
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King uttered those words. This is the the cunt.
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The cunt caller, Mr. King, uttered those words with the
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purpose of violating Mr. Finn's dignity and creating an
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intimidating, hostile, degrading, humiliating and
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offensive environment for him. In our judgement, there is a
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connection between the word bald on the one hand, and protected
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characteristic of sex on the other.
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Still. Still.
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Why? What is the connection?
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No clue what he said was offensive.
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It was, and that was a thing. He should have been in trouble,
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especially because he was his supervisor.
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Saying that in the workplace that was unprofessional and that
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was offensive, but it was not sexual harassment.
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No, it was not. He wasn't coming for a part of
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your body that is often associated with sexual
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tendencies or manners. It wasn't.
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No, it's a fact. Yes, you can wear your bald head
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in my office. I can't wear my bare titties in
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the office. OK.
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Stop it. I don't see the correlation.
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I love to. Wear your bond because you can
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pick how bold do you want to be Because you can't, because the
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picture. Oh my God.
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Oh my God. OK, we got to keep going.
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That's amazing. OK, so I think there's room for
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argument here if we had more time to discuss.
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Then I maybe can see his point of view.
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I cannot. I'm sorry, I just can't.
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There are certain parts of your body that are OK for being out,
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right? Because even a male and not in
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the office, but a male could have his shirt off and it's not
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considered sexual. You know, he's at the gym, he's
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at the beach, whatever. A woman can literally never have
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her top off without it being considered sexual.
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So I don't understand how you made this correlation, but he
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did. He went to three other bald men
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and they rolled with him. And yeah, he won, I think.
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It's dumb. I'm sorry.
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I think it's so dumb. I'm sorry he offended you.
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I really am. That was inappropriate and that
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was wrong. What he did was wrong.
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However, you're, you're, you're doing extras right now.
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I don't think that it has anything to do with anything
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sexual. No.
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That's just me though. Before.
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We finish this one. Can you say say?
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What? Oh, Oh my God, they're giving
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me. They're giving me permission.
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Y'all OK? He called him a bald.
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Cunt I'm giving so much permission because you guys hold
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this podcast as it was a quote. It was right there.
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On a less funny note, unfortunately, I wanted to bring
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up this guy, Cornelius Anderson. If we can go to my screen, this
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is him right here. And basically the heading of the
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news article was that this man was sent to jail 13 years late,
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which is odd because how does that happen?
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So back in 2000, he committed a crime.
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It was armed robbery. He got, you know, convicted.
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He went to, He went to what court?
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Yeah, He went to court about the whole situation.
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They convicted him. They said, OK, we'll get back to
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you on when we're going to take you to jail.
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They never did. They never checked in, they
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never did anything. They never came for him.
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He said OK. He reminded them that I'm still
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waiting on your orders and which jail to go to.
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Essentially, he never ran. He never ran.
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He never changed his name. He never did anything.
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He proceeded to go on 13 years. He got married.
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He had two kids. He divorced.
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He got married again. He started businesses.
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He paid his taxes. He renewed his driver's.
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License and they still did not come for him until until 2013.
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They were going through the whole case and they're like, OK,
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this guy has almost reached the end of his sentence until they
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realized he ain't never been in jail.
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He's never. Been.
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He didn't go. He didn't.
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Go he out there free as a bird, like he is fine.
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And they're like wait, hold up. And so they bring like armed,
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fully armed individuals, SWAT to go to his house and arrest him.
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In front of his three-year old. In front of his family, which is
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wrong. And so he was sentenced to jail.
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He's serving his time. He think he went ten months, I
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think 10 months behind bars and they had a petition that got
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35,000 signatures. He decided to challenge this and
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go back to court and be like, hey, I'm not this person
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anymore. It's been 13 years.
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How can we fix this? The judge basically was like, I
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understand this is wrong. We should make sure that you get
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out of jail. Shout out to the judge.
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So he made it so that it wasn't. He didn't set out on bail or
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something. Yeah, he got time served
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basically. So he didn't actually serve it.
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But because of the amount, the things that he had done while he
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was at home, he basically had paid his debt to society because
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he was a good person. He was doing everything that he
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was supposed to do. Yeah, that was judge discretion.
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But the way I look at it as the goal of jail, even though we
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know this is bullshit, it's supposed to be rehabilitation,
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yes, right. And so this person did something
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wrong. Nobody got hurt too.
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I don't know if you read like what the thing was, there was a
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bank teller who was about to deposit the money into the, you
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know, which is so I used to work at a bank.
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They give you a bag of money and they're like, walk over here to
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this bank and put it in this outdoor little slot, which is
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the dumbest thing ever. But he took the money and
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bounced, right? And they got his license plate
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and that's how they caught him, right?
22:33
But after that, he was a model citizen.
22:37
Perfectly great like he had. I mean, didn't he like,
22:40
volunteer for school? This is his family.
22:42
By the way, he volunteered at a school, he helped coach some
22:45
kids, started multiple businesses.
22:48
His family loved him. Like he was a great, you know,
22:51
member of society, as they say that you're supposed to be.
22:54
But a lot of those things I will say he was able to do because he
22:58
did not have this criminal record.
22:59
And it's not exactly discounting what he did.
23:02
What he did was wrong, but in this situation situation, he was
23:05
the perfect person to have never been called to jail.
23:07
I mean. How does that happen though?
23:09
I'm so confused how that happens.
23:11
How do you just don't? They said it was like clerical
23:14
error. That actually happens all the
23:16
time, but it normally doesn't take 13 years to find it.
23:19
OK that makes sense but he reached out to y'all.
23:23
I wouldn't have done that. She said you have to find me.
23:27
I would have been outro but he lets y'all know hey, I've never
23:31
been picked up. I need to go to jail like right.
23:33
And he stayed in the same city like he didn't even leave.
23:36
He stayed right there and just built a life.
23:40
And I still didn't pick him up. So I'm glad that the judge sort
23:43
of ruled in his favor and been like, OK, time served.
23:46
You're good. Yeah.
23:48
Yeah, people make mistakes. They do.
23:50
And I would have signed that petition if it had come across
23:52
me. Absolutely.
23:53
Absolutely. So we were happy to hear about
23:55
that. I had a had a happy ending, but
23:57
also 13 years, pretty good ending.
23:58
And I mean, like, you know, you didn't have to go, Right.
24:04
Thank you. OK, so this story confuses me a
24:08
lot. So apparently hundreds of people
24:11
in Los Angeles are strapping cameras to their bodies to do
24:14
chores because tech companies are trying to train their future
24:19
humanoid robots. Pause.
24:22
I've seen this movie. I've seen.
24:24
OK, well, since you brought it up, I made a list.
24:27
Let's start with the list of humanoid movies that didn't go
24:30
well. You're kidding.
24:31
You're kidding. I robot.
24:32
Yes. Literally every Terminator OK,
24:36
eagle eye 2001, a space odyssey Ex Machina Megan Megan
24:42
companion. I'm sure there's even been a
24:45
Black Mirror episode in there or two like come on, this is there
24:48
has been ideas out there that show you movies that show you
24:53
this does not end well. This is not going well.
24:55
These are warnings. But anyway, I'll go back.
24:58
Sorry. They are trying to create these
25:02
humanoids and they need these humans to train their AI.
25:08
So basically you're going home and you're doing laundry, you're
25:11
taking out the trash, you're washing dishes, you're doing
25:14
chores around the house so they can train these bots.
25:16
So sometime in the future you can have a robot in your house
25:21
that does all your chores your. Chores for you?
25:23
How do you feel about that? I don't feel good with that.
25:25
People are already lazy as it is.
25:28
This is horrible. This is horrible.
25:30
It's giving Wally, yes, that. Was on my list too but I was
25:35
like Wally was adorable. Really, really cute, but it's
25:38
giving Wally having everyone or like these robots do everything
25:42
for you to the point where you just literally don't even stand.
25:45
You don't do anything. There's a reason why you have
25:47
your children do chores like they.
25:50
It teaches something. It's hard work, y'all, It's hard
25:53
work. So the AI chat bots that are
25:55
everywhere now, they stole information from online, right?
25:59
And so, but these robots, they can't train them with what they
26:02
were able to find online. And so there's places that are
26:05
giving people these, these cameras that they put on their
26:08
head and on their hands and you keep it for two hours, they pay
26:12
you $80.00 to just go home and do some chores.
26:15
And so a guy that they asked on the article, he was just like,
26:18
well, I'm going to do the chores anyway, so might as well make
26:20
$80.00. I understand you're right.
26:24
But there's forecasted that the market for humanoids could reach
26:28
$38 billion by 20352035. Yes, so that's what, So there
26:35
has been an influx of AI tech companies that are trying to get
26:38
this right. And there's these things called,
26:41
what did they call them, ARM farms in other countries where
26:46
humans are just in a huge warehouse and they're recording
26:49
first person footage of them doing chores so they can just
26:52
feed it into these. Programs.
26:55
Wait, that's scary. That is so scary and they want
26:59
to get in on this because this is a team.
27:02
Billion dollar business. Yeah.
27:03
And they're like let me be the first, let me be the best or
27:06
whatever. So pretty soon we're going to
27:08
start seeing some kind of no tech being revealed.
27:12
No, I'll pass I'm good. I've seen this movie literally.
27:17
I'm so good over and over and over again.
27:21
My God, they're going to start like gaining consciousness and I
27:25
don't like this at all. I see no good ending to this.
27:29
That's creepy. I understand you're like let me
27:30
do the chores, get a quick buck or whatever it's like.
27:32
But you are contributing to what?
27:36
Are we OK with that? I and you know, and a lot of
27:40
times it's hard to even put that friend of mine when you're just
27:43
like, hey, I just need to pay a bill, which I completely get.
27:46
And they get it too. That's why they're sitting on
27:48
the side of the road, literally, in Los Angeles, handing out
27:51
cameras. Looks like they sell it to us
27:53
because they got a black duffel and.
27:54
Everything they like and just like, here you go, I'll see you
27:56
in two hours. You know, it's just, it's the
27:59
weirdest thing. But they are really just like
28:03
they're not in Beverly Hills handing that out.
28:06
So good point. I it's, it's very, there's a lot
28:11
about this that I don't like. And so, yeah, pretty soon.
28:16
I don't like that. Humanoids, humanoids, but.
28:18
OK, so since we're talking and since you decided to say it,
28:21
well, let's go. So they're not doing this in
28:25
Beverly Hills. These people, these certain type
28:27
of people are contributing to this.
28:29
But I'm sure that the humanoids are going to cost so much.
28:32
They're not going to be given to those people.
28:34
They're going to be given to the people in Beverly Hills, girl.
28:36
No, Go home. Come and do your own chores,
28:37
basically. OK, that's crazy.
28:40
We'll be in certain households. That's crazy.
28:44
That is crazy. Because you know what?
28:47
I have a problem with this. It's.
28:48
Like the more I think about it the more it pisses me off.
28:51
Literally the more I think. No, I have a problem with this.
28:53
I think it's wrong. Agreed.
28:56
Agreed. And we didn't want to leave
28:59
without talking about something really quickly because they're,
29:03
if you are familiar with the term Florida Man, right?
29:07
And the game where you can type in into Google into the Google.
29:12
Into the Google. Your birthdate and Florida Man
29:16
and an article will pop up. I've literally never seen
29:19
anybody who didn't have an article pop up.
29:22
Yeah, like every day of the year y'all are tripping like.
29:24
Every single year there's a Florida Man article, but now
29:27
there is an official Florida Man website so you can search it up.
29:31
It's super easy to find, but we thought it would be funny just.
29:34
To talk about what happened on our Florida Man birthday.
29:37
Aw, man, I'll go first because I think 1 is crazy, but I don't
29:40
have a lot actually. Thank you.
29:44
All right, so on my birthday, Florida Man with half a head was
29:48
arrested for attempted murder and arson, and he's there.
29:54
So Carlos Rodriguez, he Carlos, come on now, be for real.
29:58
He lit a mattress on fire, basically endangering the lives
30:02
of the people that was living in the duplex that he was in.
30:05
But that's not how he his his head got like that.
30:09
He said don't drink and drive, y'all, because his car and the
30:12
telephone pole met up and Oh my God, who is this goal?
30:17
He whoa, I don't know how you achieved that and still and
30:21
still alive. So Carlos, you're crazy.
30:24
But then also why are we lighting a mattress on fire?
30:27
What is for what reason? There was nothing else in the
30:30
article was literally he lit, he lit a mattress on fire.
30:33
He endangered some lives. He got arrested.
30:34
Boom. Yeah, what he has left came up
30:39
with that idea. What he has left Carlos do
30:44
better. Come on, Carlos.
30:49
All right. And this was mine.
30:50
On my birthday, a Florida teen who was filmed shotgunning
30:53
Twisted T with an alligator was criminally charged for doing
30:57
that. So if you were familiar with
30:59
shotgunning, you have the Can you bite into it and take it to
31:04
the head? But he had the alligator bite
31:07
into it for him. Why was he criminally charged?
31:10
I guess that's animal cruelty. Yeah.
31:14
Because the animal. Didn't consent to being.
31:17
I think in a Hardy's parking lot.
31:20
This is so chaotic like. Every single Florida Man
31:25
birthday article is. Chaotic like I what are y'all
31:29
doing? So we want to hear from you.
31:31
OK, put in the comments section. What's your Florida Man birthday
31:34
article headline was we want to know.
31:36
We got to know. Thank.
31:40
You all right, getting back to the Reddit's everyone's favorite
31:43
part. I have a Reddit off my chest.
31:46
The weird obsession men have with women they don't find
31:49
attractive. I know I'm so sorry but I'm
31:52
going to do this every week if you let me.
31:55
You're like I know how to rage Vader so I'm going to do it, She
31:59
said. I swear most men who are
32:01
insecure are very very annoying. Like most healthy men.
32:05
We know you guys have preferences.
32:07
Women know that you have preferences for skinny women,
32:10
thick women, whatever you like. We know you guys tell us
32:13
everyday on the Internet what you like, but when someone you
32:19
don't find attractive comes on your screen you could just
32:21
scroll or watch and move on. Instead, some men will make a
32:25
whole video or leave a comment saying that they don't like her
32:28
and that she needs to lose weight to fit their body
32:30
standards or their vision. Right.
32:33
And I don't get it. Why do men do that?
32:36
Why do men want women to change for them?
32:39
People don't want to admit it, but plus size women get the most
32:42
hate. Skinny women get their share of
32:44
criticism too. They do, but plus size would
32:47
make it treated worst. That's just a reality.
32:50
And honestly I feel like you have to be a little rebellious
32:52
too because the people who rebel against society are the ones who
32:56
make the biggest impact. Nobody really respects people
32:59
who are trying to please everyone, so sometimes you just
33:02
have to come in confident and exist in your body.
33:05
If you're insecure and constantly trying to change
33:07
yourself for people, no one will respect you.
33:10
You have to show up in your body, live your life, and stop
33:13
shrinking yourself just to make other people feel comfortable.
33:15
Sometimes simply existing confidently is what triggers
33:18
people the most. Man, that last part and I wanted
33:23
to. Read that because I was like
33:24
yes, I want to break down why men feel the need to just
33:29
comment even though they don't have to.
33:34
I feel like there is a certain certain bit of ownership over
33:37
everybody and everything. And so if you are scrolling and
33:42
you see something that you're like, oh, I don't like that.
33:44
Instead of just thinking it, you were just like, you know what,
33:47
I'm going to let everybody know I don't like this because
33:49
everybody deserves to know what I think.
33:52
And that's the problem because who cares if you don't like
33:57
that? Who cares?
33:58
But you're going to let her know that she needs to go to the gym.
34:02
She needs to eat a sandwich, like whatever it is, it's your
34:04
preferences. So, so she can match you, match
34:07
you. But hey, I forgot to tell you,
34:09
you are watching her. She's not watching you.
34:13
I didn't reach out to you exactly.
34:15
So it comes. That's crazy.
34:18
Well, and that's the point if I post it, If you just like
34:22
anything else, I see bad takes, hot takes, things I don't agree
34:25
with all day every day. You know what I do?
34:28
Scroll past. Keep on scrolling because it's
34:30
free. And it takes. 2 seconds but they
34:33
have to stop and let you know that they don't like it.
34:36
And that's what she's asking. Like why?
34:38
What is it that makes it so you have to do that?
34:41
And on top of being like, I would actually even be more
34:45
inclined to be like. OK, you don't like that.
34:47
That's your opinion. We all have our opinions, but
34:49
it's not the I don't like it, It's the I don't like it.
34:52
Here are here's what I need you to do to change that for me,
34:56
Right, right. And that's the problem.
34:58
And I find that fascinating because I see a lot of times
35:00
because the conversation has been had about conservative men
35:04
who are looking for liberal women in these dating apps.
35:08
Instead of getting conservative women, they want to get a
35:11
liberal woman and like, change her to quit your job, you know,
35:18
have my babies, forget about your dreams and everything that
35:22
you said you wanted to do this thing that I want you to do,
35:24
Like it's something to conquer. And so that kind of ties into
35:29
that, you know what I mean? And it's like you would be
35:32
perfect if you did XYZ because then you will match my image of
35:38
what I want instead of just like being like she's not for you.
35:43
So many people in the world find the one that's for you and
35:46
that's what women do. We're like, that didn't work,
35:48
OK, that didn't work. And we go when we find what we
35:50
need. But trying to change the
35:53
situation to be exactly what you need?
35:55
That's a lot of work y'all. That's a lot of work and takes a
35:59
certain level of narcissism. Exactly.
36:01
You know, And it's just like, why does somebody have to
36:04
change? Why can't you just find the
36:05
person who's already that thing that you want instead of being
36:10
like, you know what I'm going to do?
36:12
Change everything about you. That's insane.
36:15
And that really makes me think it's like, do you like being
36:18
with a woman or do you like changing the woman?
36:21
Do you like the process of changing her or do you like
36:23
actually being with the person? Conquering her instead.
36:28
All good questions and these are just questions y'all Like I'm
36:31
genuinely curious, why does that happen?
36:33
Why do you feel the need to you know what I mean?
36:36
And her saying that, it's like all these comments in the Reddit
36:39
were like, yeah, I've had that too.
36:40
I've posted things and people were like, you need to do this.
36:43
You need to change. And no matter if you change,
36:46
some people were like, I changed too for my boyfriend.
36:49
And there were different things that he needed me do at that
36:52
point. Yeah, it's never, it's lose
36:53
weight. I lose it, gain weight, I gain
36:55
it. It's always something.
36:57
It's never perfect. And it's like, OK, what is
36:59
perfect now? The prize is always a man.
37:00
Right. So to get.
37:02
Me and any. Other man you need to do what we
37:05
want you to do as opposed to we're equal and you're a prize
37:13
I'm a prize it's not that right there's no equality it's you do
37:18
what I need you to do to be to come over here exactly we don't
37:22
meet in the middle no at all because.
37:25
I in the best thing that you could get.
37:28
It's king over queen. Oh my gosh.
37:29
Well. The reason why you don't have a
37:33
man? That he said his favorite quote
37:37
is the reason why you don't have a man.
37:39
Okay, like I'll stop you right there.
37:40
Makes you think I want one. Exactly.
37:42
Or you're gonna die alone with your cats.
37:45
First of all, women don't die alone because they cultivate.
37:47
They cultivate relationships outside of romantic.
37:50
Thank you. Okay.
37:51
Thank you. Speak to anybody who works in
37:55
elderly homes, retirement homes, anything like that Hospice.
37:59
They will tell you that men die alone and women are surrounded
38:03
by people who love them because they cultivated those
38:05
relationships. So that's not the flex you think
38:08
it is when you say that to a woman.
38:10
And also we I love my cat, so bye whatever.
38:18
That's good one. Thank you.
38:20
Thank you for having a discussion with us.
38:23
Am I overreacting? My neighbor apparently spies on
38:26
me when my husband is away. Whoa whoa.
38:32
My husband took a weekend trip with our kids.
38:34
During this time, my brother came over to discuss some
38:37
cognitive decline our mother has been showing signs of.
38:39
We purposely waited to have this conversation while my kids were
38:42
away since it wasn't something they should be hearing or
38:44
worrying about. Later that same evening, our
38:47
cousin also stopped by. We had some drinks and our
38:50
cousin ended up driving my brother home.
38:52
Apparently when my brother arrived, the neighbor was
38:54
outside and gave him a smile and a wave.
38:57
When my brother's car spent the night in our driveway, my
39:00
neighbor snapped photos of it and texted my husband with the
39:03
description of the man who he assumed spent the night telling
39:06
my husband I was cheating on him.
39:09
Really. Really.
39:12
How? Why are you noticing things?
39:14
Yeah. All of them have business.
39:18
My husband of course laughed it off and told our neighbor that
39:20
was my brother's car and he left it there because he had a few
39:23
beers. My husband also showed me his
39:25
text history with the neighbor where the neighbor has been
39:27
texting him random observations like this on and off for a
39:30
while. At no point does my husband
39:33
encourage this. He actually told the neighbor
39:35
several times that this isn't necessary, he trusts me and he
39:39
needs to stop surveilling me. The neighbor laughed it off and
39:42
insisted they need to look out for each other.
39:44
Excuse me? Is that a threat?
39:47
Like what? If he does it again, I'm going
39:51
to make an online police report. I don't expect the police to do
39:54
anything, but if I make an online report it's assigned a
39:56
case number that I can follow up with if anything else does
40:00
happen. Right?
40:01
At this point I'm feeling creeped out and mad at the
40:03
neighbor and want to confront him.
40:05
My husband prefers to just keep texting back saying there's no
40:08
need for this and overall ignoring it.
40:10
No am I overreacting? You're not and your husband
40:13
needs to be doing more. What do you mean texting back
40:16
like? This is a normal conversation
40:17
now, right? You're making it normal every
40:19
time you reply. Very right, like because this
40:22
has been going on for a long time apparently and now I'm
40:25
running around just living my life and he's his little nosy
40:28
ass is over there texting you. That's insane.
40:32
That's insane. First of all, why did it take
40:34
him so long to tell her? Tell me, why aren't you more
40:37
disturbed about this? That this man, that this man is
40:40
stalking me? Basically he is stalking me.
40:45
There's an update, a little update.
40:47
So she said, well, to add, it's not constant surveillance.
40:50
It seems to be only when he knows my husband is away.
40:54
The last message was seven months before this incident.
40:58
And then the edit too is my husband's going to text him
41:01
using stronger words to tell him to stop it and clearly saying he
41:05
finds it inappropriate and it makes us both uncomfortable.
41:09
Respectfully, your husband is a punk who doesn't like
41:12
conversation. Go over there, go over there.
41:17
What are you doing? Because you saying you don't
41:20
have to do this. I trust her and you need to
41:21
stop. He was like don't worry about it
41:23
bro, we need to stick together. That's insane.
41:25
He's like if you. Don't got your wife?
41:26
I do like and I don't like the idea of some strange man across
41:31
the street watching me. Thank you.
41:34
Live my life because you have to have already been watching me to
41:37
know when you need to thank you. Report to my husband.
41:41
That's insane. I can understand if it was just
41:44
a random like like this. This would make sense if you
41:47
know I'm out of town and you just happen to be outside and
41:50
you were like hey bro, I don't know if you know but there's a
41:52
strange car in your driveway pro code.
41:53
I would actually expect you to do that.
41:56
But the fact that this has been going on, anytime he goes out of
42:00
town, you are watching me. Watching me.
42:03
No. Is the husband cool with that?
42:04
Is he like he just giggles? And laughs it off like it's
42:07
fine. It's not cool.
42:08
And also if you think it's fine and if the general situation is
42:12
fine based off principle. If your wife is uncomfortable,
42:15
you need to do something about that.
42:17
Just off that, why aren't you? Go talk to this man.
42:20
Go over there physically. Why are you?
42:23
Talking on the phone like I don't understand.
42:26
That part, people. Don't like confrontation as much
42:29
as I want them to. As much as you want them to,
42:34
she's like I am here for. It like I need you to do.
42:36
Stuff. Yeah, In this situation, yes.
42:39
If I feel uncomfortable with our neighbor, I would expect you to
42:41
go over there. Yes, you should.
42:44
Not over your crazy work. No.
42:48
All right, Read it off my chest. I found out my father was
42:51
cheating, but he said to me afterwards.
42:53
Still haunts me sometimes. The people who are supposed to
42:57
protect you the most end up being the ones who hurt you the
43:00
deepest. I wish I could forget what my
43:02
father said to me, but even after a year, those words still
43:05
echo in my mind. I live far away from my parents
43:08
for college and stay with my twin sister who helps take care
43:11
of me. Our relationship with our dad
43:13
really sweet, right? Our relationship with our dad
43:16
has never been easy, but last year, something happened that
43:19
completely changed how I see him.
43:21
His account has been logged into my phone and that was how I
43:24
discovered he had been cheating. Seeing it with my own eyes felt
43:28
like the ground disappeared beneath my feet.
43:31
But her even more was realizing that this wasn't his first time.
43:34
When I was very young, he already had another child
43:37
outside the marriage. In a painful way, it meant that
43:39
this pattern had been a part of our family for a long time.
43:43
What? When I confronted him, I didn't
43:45
expect things to suddenly be OK. I was just hoping for honesty,
43:49
maybe maybe even some accountability.
43:51
Instead, everything turned to anger.
43:54
Our conversations quickly became arguments.
43:56
My phone started filling up with long messages from him, full of
43:59
insults and blame. Wait, wait.
44:01
OK what? So now you are deflecting onto
44:05
me because so did he tell mom that this is my fault?
44:09
Wait for it, I'm invested. But one day he completely
44:12
exploded and sent a flood of messages that I will probably
44:15
never forget. He told me I was a terrible
44:18
child. He told me I would fail in life.
44:22
He cursed at me over and over and over again.
44:24
Then the messages became darker. He said he wished I would die.
44:31
He said he should have unalived me when I was younger.
44:34
He said he would unalive me if he ever saw me.
44:36
He said I would end up as a single mother.
44:39
What? Yes.
44:41
I remember staring at my phone in disbelief, rereading the
44:44
messages again and again because I can't believe a father would
44:47
say things like that to his own child.
44:49
Because I caught your ass cheating.
44:51
You're in the wrong, but you're coming for me.
44:54
After that, I fell into a really dark place emotionally.
44:57
I would spend hours crying in my room, sometimes entire days.
45:01
Being alone with my thoughts felt unbearable.
45:04
Eventually I went to stay with my grandparents for a while
45:06
because it was the only place where I could feel some peace
45:09
and warmth again. For months I struggled just to
45:11
feel normal. It's a strange kind of pain when
45:14
the person who is supposed to love you unconditionally becomes
45:16
the source of your deepest hurt. I keep asking myself the same
45:20
question over and over. How can a parent say things like
45:22
that to their own child? Now it has been a year since
45:25
that happened, but the memories still feel fresh.
45:28
Recently I heard he might be coming back for a family event
45:31
and just hearing that brings all the memories rushing back.
45:34
I don't know if you will ever acknowledge the damage those
45:37
words caused. I don't know if you ever
45:39
apologize. Maybe writing this is just my
45:41
way of finally letting some of that pain out.
45:43
If anyone else has experienced something similar with a parent,
45:46
how did you cope with it? Yeah, that's a that's that's
45:51
valid reason to go no contact forever.
45:54
Forever. Did I black out?
45:57
Did did you tell me whether he told or this?
45:59
Person told the mom. Does the mom know?
46:01
No, I we don't know any of that. We we don't know.
46:04
I think the poster just wanted to acknowledge the fact that the
46:07
dad threatened her life because she found out about his mess.
46:12
Yes that is so dark is so dark and disgusting and not OK.
46:18
You are habitual. You do this habitually because
46:22
there was already a child, the child out of wedlock when you
46:24
were young. And now he's continuing to do
46:26
this. He wants to be able to do this
46:28
free and clear and nobody say shit to him.
46:30
And the fact that you called him out made him wait and
46:34
immediately started going for you like that.
46:36
And the fact that she's like forever scarred for just saying
46:40
something exactly that. Whoa.
46:42
That makes you never want to say something again.
46:45
And you thought, OK, this is the time when I could come to you
46:47
like, you're my dad. You may not be doing something
46:51
the right way. And nobody wants to be told
46:53
about their shit, right? No one.
46:54
But. But what you just did was
46:57
horrendous. I could never see myself saying
47:00
that to my child. Exactly.
47:02
And it doesn't even seem like his child was coming to him
47:05
being like, why are you doing that?
47:07
No, thank you. No, that's not my child.
47:10
It doesn't seem like the poster was coming to this man.
47:14
About the fact that you're cheating and was blaming you, it
47:17
was just like a be honest with me.
47:19
You've made this mistake before. I'm not judging you.
47:22
I'm just saying, could you come clean?
47:24
And he came for her like threatened her life.
47:27
I want to say that again. He did threaten her life.
47:29
Let's remember. That multiple times like in
47:32
multiple ways, yes. Insane.
47:35
And I really hope that you told your grandparents, your mom,
47:38
your twin. I hope you told so they know
47:41
that he is insane. He's dangerous.
47:44
Yes, he will protect whatever he has going on.
47:47
His secret? Life with his child's life.
47:49
Yes. Wow.
47:51
I know. No, it's not OK.
47:53
No, that's disgusting. Yeah.
47:55
Oh my goodness. So sorry, but I saw that one and
47:57
I was like, that is insane. Wow, yeah.
48:01
What's up with these parents? I got an interesting parent here
48:04
too. OK, am I overreacting for
48:08
locking my bedroom door because my mother-in-law keeps walking
48:11
in without knocking? No, yeah, that's a #1 pet peeve
48:16
of mine. I'm.
48:16
Sorry, valid. The reason I'm asking if I'm
48:20
overreacting is because my husband thinks it's normal and
48:23
says I'm making it into a bigger deal than it is.
48:26
For context, my mother-in-law is staying with us for two weeks
48:29
while some work is being done at her house.
48:31
She's mostly fine as a guest, but she has this habit of just
48:35
walking into our bedroom whenever she wants to ask
48:37
something or show me something on her phone.
48:40
No no you you don't do that to a married couple.
48:43
I don't know what is wrong with you.
48:45
See, some you don't want to, some you don't want to sleep.
48:55
I'm not repeating that. Last night she casually walked
49:01
into our bedroom while my husband and I were lying in bed
49:03
watching a movie. No knock, no warning.
49:06
She just opened the door and started asking where the extra
49:08
towels were. I was so startled I actually
49:11
jumped. It's happened several times
49:13
already. At first I tried to ignore it
49:16
because I didn't want to make things awkward, but it honestly
49:18
makes me uncomfortable not knowing when the door might
49:21
suddenly open. So today I started locking the
49:24
bedroom door when we're in there.
49:25
About an hour ago, she tried to open the door, realized it was
49:29
locked, and started knocking loudly.
49:31
Really really. When I opened it she looked
49:35
really hurt and told me locking the door felt quote exclusionary
49:40
and like I was hiding things from her in her son's house.
49:44
Whoa, pause. OK, you should have just married
49:50
your son then if you want to be all.
49:52
Boy moms, that's the worst. My husband says that's just how
49:58
she is and that locking the door comes across of us as
50:01
aggressive. But at the same time it's our
50:04
bedroom and I feel like wanting basic privacy isn't
50:07
unreasonable. But now I'm second guessing
50:10
myself. Am I overreacting for locking
50:12
the door instead of just letting her walk in whenever she walks?
50:15
Absolutely not. What?
50:17
Absolutely not. I don't understand why she's
50:21
just like. Why are you locking the door in
50:24
your own House of your own room? You're excluding me.
50:26
It's like you're meant to be excluded.
50:29
You have our. Bedroom, you have your own
50:31
bedroom for a reason and you're temporarily staying here.
50:35
Don't get comfortable. She is mad comfortable.
50:38
And he's like, this is normal. This is how she is.
50:40
Oh no, you not saying anything is making it worse.
50:43
We have come across so many of these people who were raised a
50:46
certain way and don't realize the toxicity of it.
50:49
And so they come across their partner and they're like, oh,
50:52
this, no, this is not right. It's not this is wrong.
50:54
Your mother should not be walking into your bedroom.
50:56
I stopped doing that to my teen son.
50:59
I was just like, well, I don't know what I'm a walk in on.
51:02
I'm a knock a little bit with. You, I'm coming in, you know,
51:04
like, why would you just open the door, walk in Grown people,
51:08
a married couple, a married couple too.
51:11
You ain't got no place of business up in this room.
51:13
Why are you in here? She does want to see it.
51:17
She wants to know what's going on.
51:18
And that's the thing some of these boy moms are they go a
51:21
little too far. And so did you see the video of
51:25
that woman when they had the gender reveal and they had to
51:27
hold back the mom because she was about to interrupt?
51:30
No, you're not. Yeah, she was about to
51:32
interrupt. What was going on this beautiful
51:35
moment because we have seen so many of those where the mom runs
51:37
in and jumps on the sun. The father.
51:40
This has nothing to do with you. But they held her ass back so
51:44
hard that. But she was yanking.
51:45
She's like, I want to get in there.
51:46
Like, let them have their do I need to leash you?
51:49
Yes. She was basically leashed.
51:51
They grabbed her by her bag. They wouldn't let her buy.
51:55
Goodbye. You're not involved in this.
51:58
Every relationship doesn't need your little ounce of in your
52:02
incense. Yeah, like, no, But this is her
52:05
son's house apparently so that's crazy.
52:07
She has free reign to go wherever she wants.
52:10
No, you don't. No you don't not all right, we
52:16
have another story submission to the show.
52:19
Yes. I'm so glad that y'all are
52:21
sending these in and thank you for feeling comfortable with
52:23
sharing your stories with us again.
52:25
If you don't know how to submit them, please, we want the tea.
52:27
So please go submit them. We love your stories.
52:31
And he said don't make novels. Look, give us all the
52:33
information we need, but only. The information we need.
52:38
To determine whether or not it's important or not, That's all.
52:42
Thank. You all right?
52:44
Story submission Am IA bad friend for refusing to play
52:48
along and choosing to stay out of her drama?
52:51
Maybe. My best friend.
52:54
Fanny and I, Rita, are 38 years old, born and raised in Mexico.
52:59
We have been friends since childhood.
53:01
Over time, I moved abroad, but that didn't stop us from staying
53:04
close. A little context, We are both
53:07
professionals in our career. Fanny is ACEO and has a very
53:11
dominant personality. She likes to be in charge and
53:15
tell people what to do. Basically, the kind of person
53:17
who believes what I say goes. We need more ladies like that.
53:21
Yeah. So I'm not even mad at her.
53:25
I'm a psychologist. I tend to listen more and
53:27
analyze situations before reacting.
53:30
I got a divorce some time ago and recently moved back to
53:33
Mexico. I'm now engaged to a man who
53:35
treats me like a queen. Good for you, love that for you.
53:38
Good for you. Fanny, on the other hand, has
53:41
never had a serious relationship.
53:43
She has mostly dated men casually, the typical F boys.
53:47
Some time ago, she met a man named Jose who seems like a
53:51
genuinely good person. I get along well with him.
53:54
At one point, Fanny started telling me what was going on
53:57
between them, and I noticed that she was acting very immaturely.
54:00
She would spy on him, get jealous, and throw tantrums like
54:03
a spoiled child. Oh no.
54:05
I tried to help her understand that she needs to be patient,
54:08
especially since she has never been in a serious relationship
54:10
before. In the past she has always had a
54:12
very toxic mindset which is probably why it took her so long
54:16
to find someone decent. Me you talking?
54:20
You know what? Your best friend knows your shit
54:21
better than anybody. At one point she told me that I
54:27
should talk to Jose and tell him that she is an amazing woman.
54:31
Oh, she wanted you to run interference.
54:33
Oh. And that I should tell her
54:34
everything he tells her. That's when I realized she had
54:39
forgotten that I'm not one of her minions, the friends who do
54:42
whatever she says because otherwise she excludes them from
54:45
the group. She forgot that I didn't involve
54:48
in her games. On one occasion, Fanny, her
54:51
niece Jose and me went out. I get along well with her niece,
54:54
so I knew that we would have fun with her.
54:57
When we arrived, we were enjoying the day, but of course
54:59
Jose took the opportunity to talk to me privately, which was
55:03
clearly something she had probably encouraged him to do.
55:06
At the same time, he knew that I might end up telling Fanny
55:09
everything. The truth is, is that this poor
55:12
man doesn't really have many friends because she has isolated
55:16
him from his family and social circle.
55:17
She's the toxic one. I told him that if he needed a
55:22
vent he could talk to me and that he had the right to decide
55:25
what things he wanted to share with her and what things he
55:27
preferred to keep private. The more Jose told me about
55:30
their arguments, Fanny's tantrums, and her immature
55:33
behavior, the more I realized that she is still the same
55:36
person she has always been. I had convinced myself that she
55:39
had changed, but now that I see it's mostly an act to keep him
55:42
around. He truly loves her and wants to
55:45
improve their relationship, but she insists that he is the one
55:48
who needs to change because according to her, he's lucky
55:51
that I even gave him the privilege of being with me.
55:54
Girl. I hate when women make me go
55:56
against them. Dang it.
55:59
Don't prove what's wrong, damn it.
56:03
As soon as we finish talking, Fanny immediately demanded that
56:06
I tell her everything from beginning to end.
56:09
I told her that I would only share what Jose had given me
56:11
permission to share. She got upset and told me that
56:14
as her best friend, my loyalty should be with her, not with
56:17
him. I explained to her that he also
56:20
needs someone to talk to. As expected, she got angry not
56:24
only with me, but also with her niece because she didn't go
56:27
along with Fanny's pressure to make me reveal everything.
56:30
Fanny became distant and turned her back on me simply because I
56:33
refused to give her the information she wanted.
56:36
So now I'm wondering, am I the bad friend for refusing to play
56:38
along and choosing to stay out of her drama?
56:41
No, I don't think so. And also, she's a therapist, so
56:44
she takes this very seriously. Psychiatrist.
56:47
Yeah. He spoke to her under the guise
56:51
of basically faith, like doctor client privilege.
56:54
Like he said there's things that I would prefer you don't say.
56:58
So she already takes that very seriously, but also she like.
57:02
Took it back a little bit. Her friend's toxic and she can
57:05
recognize that. You know, it's like you have a
57:07
toxic friend. Like you're good as my friend,
57:10
but as a partner you're not great, not the best.
57:13
And instead of improving yourself as a partner, you're
57:17
asking me to. Essentially lie.
57:20
Tell Jose that you're actually amazing, just deal with the
57:22
issues and then report everything back to you.
57:25
She wants you in on her gaslighting like she she wants
57:28
you to gaslight this poor man after you've already isolated
57:32
him from his. Friends, no, his friends or
57:34
family. He needs to run Jose, you know.
57:40
You could do. Better.
57:41
See, this is horrible, but I'm gonna give a red flag to your
57:43
friend Fanny. Yeah, usually these are reserved
57:46
for men on this show, but it's true.
57:49
But I'm sorry. She deserves it.
57:52
She deserves it. She is doing everything.
57:54
If you just switched genders you would be like run.
57:57
Why? Are you even with?
57:58
Him all this stuff like no, it goes both ways.
58:01
It does. Toxicity is toxicity, yes, and
58:03
what she's doing is wrong and I don't think that you are wrong.
58:06
Poster for sending that in because or for not going.
58:10
With her plan, No. Yeah, You were there for Jose as
58:14
a decent human being, which you're still there.
58:16
She doesn't know it yet, but what you're doing is good for
58:19
Fanny as well. And no, I don't think you're a
58:21
bad friend. I think you're a great friend,
58:22
actually. Actually, yeah, because it's not
58:25
always about doing exactly what the person wants you to do.
58:28
It's about doing what's best for them.
58:29
Exactly. And this would be best for her
58:32
if she just kind of changed it up a little bit.
58:35
Get your act together. Yeah.
58:37
Yeah. So no.
58:38
And damn you for making me go on the man's side.
58:41
Why would you do this? We had a great streak all this
58:44
episode. 'S been men just being terrible,
58:47
yeah, but now we got to even it out.
58:50
That's right, because you're wrong.
58:54
Thank you for sending that. In Thank you so much.
58:56
That was great, all right. Am I the asshole for spending
59:00
money on stuffed animals instead of bills?
59:04
OK. So no, yeah, of course you would
59:07
say no. I love my stuffed.
59:08
Animals love your stuffies. OK to start with I'm a stay at
59:11
home mom. I quit my my dream job to care
59:14
for the kids as childcare was expensive and my husband didn't
59:17
want us to pay for it. He said I'd have to find
59:20
something else to do with the kids, so this is starting off.
59:24
Yeah, you're irritated already. I started cleaning and
59:28
organizing family members homes recently for spare money since I
59:32
could take the younger kids with me while the older are in
59:34
school. I'm not making much, around $200
59:37
a month. All of our bills are already
59:39
paid for with a decent amount of money left for groceries and
59:42
necessities, so I figured I'd use the $200 for myself since I
59:46
don't normally get to get myself anything.
59:48
I use it towards specific stuffed animals I've really been
59:51
wanting for a while, with sometimes going towards getting
59:54
lunch with a friend or going for coffee, or sometimes stuff for
59:58
the kids, and even Valentine's Day gifts for my husband.
1:00:02
However, my husband got mad at me when he noticed I kept buying
1:00:06
stuff and when I said I was only using the money I had made, he
1:00:09
said that's not any better and that if I have money I should be
1:00:12
using it to pay bills, not on stupid stuff.
1:00:16
I didn't. OK wait, sorry.
1:00:19
I am spending it on you. So are you calling yourself
1:00:22
stupid? I didn't really have any counter
1:00:27
to that as it's true I'm not contributing at all.
1:00:31
So I underlined that I will be coming back to that.
1:00:34
Oh, I just wanted to finally get to go out if I wanted to and buy
1:00:38
stuff I like. I also didn't feel like the
1:00:40
little bit of money would do anything for us financially.
1:00:44
So am I the asshole or is it reasonable to keep it for
1:00:46
myself? Or should I pay one of the small
1:00:49
bills that are about $150.00 and just keep 50 for myself each
1:00:52
month? I feel like you have something
1:00:56
to say, so I'm gonna allow you to.
1:00:58
Yeah, that's some stays home and takes care.
1:01:00
When you say I'm not contributing at all, is what are
1:01:05
you talking about? Because I know.
1:01:09
I am so mad because I know I'm supposed to give you a chance to
1:01:15
talk, but I can't. OK, so stay at home parents.
1:01:18
I get you know, she said stay at home mom.
1:01:19
A lot of times they put it only on the mothers.
1:01:21
A lot of mothers stay home, but sometimes men do as well.
1:01:25
Stay at home parents is what we're going to say here.
1:01:27
But to say that somebody isn't contributing because they're
1:01:30
staying home is the most disrespectful thing I have ever
1:01:35
heard. And so I looked it up because I
1:01:37
like having receipts. OK, so if a stay at home parent
1:01:40
were paid for what they do at home, economists in 2022 said
1:01:46
they should earn about $126,000 for the 18 jobs that they do at
1:01:53
home. Some of those include childcare,
1:01:56
cooking, cleaning, being a chauffeur, being an assistant,
1:02:00
being a tutor, project management, bookkeeper, the list
1:02:04
goes on and on and on. And they have to do all of those
1:02:07
wrapped into one. And if you were to pay them for
1:02:10
the amount of time they spend doing those individual jobs,
1:02:12
that comes up to about 126 grand per, which is probably more than
1:02:16
he's making. That's what I'm saying.
1:02:17
So to teach, to try to teach this woman that she is not
1:02:23
contributing and she's going and cleaning, she has to go clean
1:02:27
houses just to have a little bit of extra money to be able to get
1:02:30
a coffee to treat herself and then buy a stuffed animal that
1:02:34
she likes, forbid. And he's like, no, you need to
1:02:37
put it towards bills that are already paid for.
1:02:39
What were we going to do with that extra money?
1:02:40
If I go, if I cover a bill, what are you going to do with that
1:02:44
money? That's what I'm saying.
1:02:47
Because if we have extra money, I know he's running around
1:02:50
getting a coffee or going on a lunch or something like that.
1:02:53
So don't. No, no, this is dumb, so stupid.
1:02:58
Don't spend it on things that you enjoy.
1:03:00
Exactly. She deserves it.
1:03:02
She deserves it. She's the same.
1:03:04
She's like, I don't spend money on myself.
1:03:06
And I remember that when we were young parents, we didn't spend
1:03:08
money on ourselves at all. All our money went to y'all and
1:03:11
so. To be like, oh, I have a little
1:03:13
bit of extra money that I earned, mind you right, she's go
1:03:17
get your little stuff. Absolutely.
1:03:18
And I don't like that he doesn't respect everything that you're
1:03:21
doing for this family, essentially keeping it together.
1:03:24
And I don't like when people disrespect stay at home parents,
1:03:27
Yes. Like it's not the hardest job
1:03:29
you could ever. Literally ever do please.
1:03:33
And he made her quit her career that she loves.
1:03:35
Let's go back to Oh yeah, let's go back to that.
1:03:37
I totally forgot about that. So she probably could have paid
1:03:40
for daycare with just what she makes.
1:03:42
If we're covering all our bills and have extra with him.
1:03:45
She could have paid for daycare even if it's not full time.
1:03:48
But he was like, no, you have to quit your job because I don't
1:03:51
want you to. I don't want our kids in
1:03:53
daycare, right? Right, he's a bad team player.
1:03:57
Bad team player. Thank you.
1:04:02
Yes, To undermine what somebody is doing actively.
1:04:05
And what I think that the the spouses who work don't think
1:04:09
about about the stay at home parents is you can't do what you
1:04:13
do. If they don't do what they do
1:04:15
exactly 'cause you have children.
1:04:16
Thank you. And if you had nobody watching
1:04:18
your kids, cooking your meals, all that stuff, you would have
1:04:21
to pay somebody for that. This is unpaid labor.
1:04:25
Essentially, she's a slave. Oh my God that escalated so
1:04:33
quickly. I'm just like, I am hot.
1:04:37
She is. And she deserves better than
1:04:39
this, so let her take her $200. He's acting like she's making
1:04:43
thousands of dollars. Dollars a week. $200 Why you so
1:04:46
pressed? Oh my God, let her take that and
1:04:49
treat herself once. That would make her happy
1:04:52
because what she needs to do is leave.
1:04:54
But she's not even talk about that.
1:04:56
But she's like, I just want to buy stuffed animals.
1:04:58
Thank you. We're not even going all the way
1:05:00
in. Leave you with the kids.
1:05:01
Figure out how you going to do this because do you even know
1:05:04
how to take care of your kids? Nope, sorry I went there.
1:05:08
But like she's doing all of this work.
1:05:09
It needs to be respected. That's the point.
1:05:11
Yes, it is. She's not asking.
1:05:13
She's not asking. She's not even asking here for
1:05:15
200 bucks. I'm not.
1:05:16
Yes, she's cleaning houses for the money on my own and you're
1:05:20
trying to tell me what to do with my money?
1:05:23
No, no, no. So that was my last one.
1:05:29
But before we go, I was able to find an update on am I
1:05:34
overreacting? The janitor gave my child a
1:05:36
gift. Oh yeah, seriously yes.
1:05:40
And so if you are not familiar, first go to TikTok because it
1:05:44
went crazy over there. But this woman went to pick up
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her elementary school aged child and when the kid came out, had a
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bear found out that she has this friendship with the janitor, the
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night janitor mind you and he gave her a gift.
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Found out that they hug front to front and that he took a picture
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of her. Yes, yes, no absolutely not.
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So it's super short but it is an update.
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She said she reached out to the school principal today to ask
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for the update as it's been almost two weeks since this
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happened. Right.
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She sent an e-mail to the principal.
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I've been informed that the custodian will not be returning
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to my child's school. This is all the information I'm
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allowed to have. I'm assuming that whether he had
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innocent intentions or more sinister, violating the employee
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handbook twice with my child is grounds for permanent removal.
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Also, my child is no longer left unattended in the hallway and
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has become a car rider to prevent a similar incident from
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happening with another adult. Thank you.
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I mean, that's bare minimum, yeah.
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Bare I'm actually very happy with that update yeah I don't
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care what intentions he had he had to know what that looked
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like right exactly like there was a lot of conversation about
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well maybe it you know I had a really.
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Great. You know, janitor when I was a
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kid and there was no unintentioned, but you have to
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get to the point where the decision is made whether he's
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going to be a bad guy. We're a good guy.
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Because the actions he was taking was grooming.
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Yes, it was textbook grooming. Thank you.
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And so I'm not going to sit back and let my child exactly be his
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victim, just in case. Exactly.
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Like I'm not going to take the chance.
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People are like, you didn't know.
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It's like you're right, I didn't know, but I'm it's the
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prevention that I'm talking about.
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I'm not going to let it get to the point where I'm like, oh,
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no, I missed something, right? I'm not letting it get to that
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point because I care about my child.
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Like I'm not going to do that not happen.
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So he could be a nice guy. We don't know that yes, but my
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child comes first. Absolutely.
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That's how it is so positive update to a very triggering
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story. Oh my goodness, Oh my goodness.
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I was so shocked when people in the comments are saying check
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the bear for cameras because. I didn't even think about that
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or a tracking device. What are you talking about?
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Oh my goodness. Oh my God.
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And a lot of people are sharing their traumatizing stories of
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being, you know, child sexual assault of, you know, survivors
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and like, how common. It's so common.
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So she was not overreacting to to snatch up her child and call
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about potentially getting because the janitor could
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potentially lose his job and people were coming for her
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because of that. I don't care.
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He lost his job. Yeah.
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What are we going to do about it?
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Right. Inappropriate.
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All right, y'all, thank you so much for tuning in.
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We'll see y'all next week. We love you.
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Peace.