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Exploring energy healing, trauma, and practical grounding techniques with our guest expert · Authentic Living

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Hi, everyone.
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It's Rob Sander Hodge.
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Thanks for tuning in again this week.
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Today I have a colleague, so they're plaster silk, who's does go to spend some time today
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with us, speaking about healings.
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Let me tell you a little bit about her Her and I have been, in a professional speaking
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organization together called Capps, and we have a lot a very similar background in a lot of
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ways.
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So I think gonna have some fun talking today.
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She's an author.
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She's a second time author.
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She's written 2 books and we'll talk about the most current 1.
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And she's an intuitive counselor who integrates traditional therapy, with energy work, to help
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individuals just to transform their life and live fully on purpose.
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The most recent book, which is the 10 things you need to know to heal.
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And that was just released.
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What was that, Solia?
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Oh my goodness.
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Last week.
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Amazing.
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Amazing.
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Well, congratulations.
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What a what a big feat because the first 1 was in 2013.
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So quite a while.
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Quite a while.
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What what was that process like again for you writing a second 1 that long after?
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In some ways, felt like I needed that long after to recover from writing the first 1.
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This 1, felt easier, probably because I'm sharing more from my heart in this 1 in terms
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of my experience of being a long term therapist and what do I know?
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And what am what are the 10 things that I think are most important to hearing?
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Of course.
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And I think like I was saying to Sylvia my year has been long and I'm gonna love this
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conversation today because I want some new tips myself.
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So let's let's taught let's jump right into, what do you find that most people think about
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healing generally?
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When you talk to people, the average lay person, to the people that come to you, for
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healing, what what is a misconception that people have about healing?
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Healing is hard and healing is painful.
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Yeah.
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So sometimes people want to come to you and they want you to kind of just wave a magic wand
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and everything will be better versus knowing that there's a lot of work involved in in
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healing.
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Actually, the way that I work is a bit different, in that people it doesn't have to be
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so hard.
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Like, I remember when I first started working as a therapist, we told people that they had to
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tell their story to get their power back, and that's not the case.
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Not the case at all.
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I've helped people, work through, sexual abuse.
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I still don't know who their abuser was I don't know the absolute details of the abuse, and yet
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I've helped them come to terms with it feel the emotions of it, understand what it doesn't mean
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about who they are, as in to remove it from their core identity, so that they can move
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forward in a more peaceful way.
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And I do that in such a act well, it go I go deep very quickly, but every step of the way I
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keep them grounded.
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Right.
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So I think so is the is the fear that people feel like they have to, tell every, you know,
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maybe potentially shameful detail that have nothing to do with them.
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So that they shy away from save dealing with that kind of trauma.
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Exactly.
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Yeah.
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I don't wanna have to.
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And I think for so many years, that's what we had people do, was share those details, and
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they didn't get relief from them.
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It often triggered more traumatic experience because they'd walk out of a session with all
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this fresh wounding versus helping them come to the core of it and understanding what that
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means.
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So let's talk a little bit about what we know now about healing.
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To your point, when we graduated a couple years ago, right, so maybe not too
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many ago.
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Maybe 3 years ago.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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It was that whole concept that you had to, you know, you had to regurgitate.
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You had to purge all those things.
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And we're finding that in fact, you know, what what I love about what you do in reference to
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energy and I don't think a lot of people know a lot about energy healing especially in the
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corporate environments that I might work in or you've you've done a fair amount of work.
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So I want you to kind of break down what traditional healing is.
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Right psychotherapy, social work.
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I know your background is social work from Ryerson.
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Mine's psychotherapy from UT.
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What's the difference or I should say difference, but some of the ways that the
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approaches have changed to in integrate energy medicine and what is energy, healing, or energy
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medicine?
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Okay.
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So again, traditionally, we thought you needed come in and talk.
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And what we're learning about the brain is as you talk and relive those memories again and
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again, it actually hardens the connections with the neurotransmitter.
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So it actually kind of blocks in the trauma more.
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And so when I'm working with energy, I'm using my intuition.
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I'm helping the bot helping my client use their own, what I call body wisdom.
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That knowledge, where is when when I even think about this issue, where does it show up in my
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body?
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Because I think the energy when we are For me, when I think it, when I use the word trauma,
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what I mean by that is you've had an experience at some point in your life where you were
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unable to express and get support for the emotions that you were experiencing.
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Mhmm.
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And to me, that's what creates trauma.
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So those mon those energies of those emotions get stuck in our bodies.
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They stay in our bodies, and that's what this new work that that they're calling somatic work
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is.
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And I did somatic work before it was a thing.
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Oh, yeah.
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And, and so it's really helping the client be so present in their own experience and finding
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it in their bodies and experiencing just the emotion of it without going through all of the
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details.
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Because as we have those emotion, strong emotional connections that we can't talk about,
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We subconsciously create a lot of meaning about who we are, whether the world is safe, and it
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plays out everywhere in our lives.
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It plays out majorly in our in our workplaces.
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Like, I think about some of my early work experiences as a I was a temporary secretary in
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Toronto while I was working my way through university, and I think about how I reacted in
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the place at that point was a lot about what I thought about myself because of the trauma I'd
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endured, and it was long before I started to heal.
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So for me, it's really helping you understand because often we have aches in those areas.
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Right?
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And people go to doctors to try and find out what what the ache is because it feels very
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physical.
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I remember years years ago having a woman come in and talk about this feeling, and now I'm an
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path so I can actually feel energy from another person and feel what it feels like.
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And she's like, I have this sensation in my belly and And so I kind of tuned into it.
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And I said it feels like when you've eaten too much bread too quickly, and you can't digest
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it.
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She goes, that's exactly what it feels like.
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And it was stuck energy.
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So then we worked at it from an emotional energetic point you of what's the meaning of
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this for you, and she was able to get relief from that feeling.
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Interesting.
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So so kind of I know we're jumping right in because I, to me, I wanna I wanna know the
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process.
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Right?
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Mhmm.
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So when you work with somebody like Obviously, you develop trust.
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You know, the person feels safe with you.
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They they intuitively would kind of, you know, feel grounded to be able to proceed.
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Is it that you're having them dialogue with that part of themselves in order to understand
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what narrative that or or story they're telling themselves about that part of their, body, like
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what what's what's kind of a process that you go through.
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So my process is very intuitive.
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So each person, it's slightly different Roxanne.
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And, So what I do is I have them think about the experience.
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Just think about it.
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And then I'll ask them where does that show up in your body?
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And they'll and I say torso because my to me, your emotions started torso.
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And for the first thing that I teach, every client, I just wanna say this is how to ground
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themselves.
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Right.
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Okay.
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And that's chapter 1, because you need to stay grounded in the work.
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If we can't keep a client safe, they can't process stuff.
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Right?
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They're going to fall into that fight or flight kind of response.
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So in keeping them safe and grounded, connected to the earth, connected in their bodies, what
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does that feel like?
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And then we'll go in and we'll we'll I may ask, what does that, if it if it had a voice, what
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would it say to you?
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Then I might ask where where, you know, is that familiar to you?
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When do you first remember thinking that way?
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I may use a pendulum, and get an age of caught, but I call age caused.
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So I'm going back to the first experience.
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So for example, I had a woman who I was working with, and she was an extreme caretaker.
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She did everything for everyone at her own expense all of the time.
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She came into me absolutely exhausted.
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And we went in to do some work together and, we got to the physical issue in the body, and then
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I got age 2.
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And I said to her, okay.
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I'm getting age 2, and I don't expect that you'll remember it.
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She goes, I know exactly what happened.
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I said she said I've been told many times.
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So and then but as she started to talk about it, she started to remember it as well.
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And what happened was She was 2 years old.
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Her parents weren't paying attention.
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Her brother who was a number of years older to he was in his teenage years.
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Went to off to school in the morning.
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Doing what a teenager's supposed to do was kinda self involved, didn't notice her
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following him as he shouldn't have.
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And she followed him and got lost.
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A kind lady picked her up, took her to the police station, the police knew whose child it
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was because a small town And they called the parents.
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When her mother came to the hot to the, sorry, police station, she was angry And in that split
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second, that 2 year old child thought and came to believe the only way to be safe is to make
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sure mom is happy.
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And then she started her life of over care taking.
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Wow.
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That impressionable little baby, Randy, you would say, kind of figured out figure out a way
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that in order to make mom happy, somewhere read the connection that I'm just gonna do and do
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and do to gain that love.
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Pretty powerful stuff.
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And I think a lot of people always say, you know, that's people minimize.
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I'm when I would practice.
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Right?
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It's like, yeah.
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It's like, oh, yeah.
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Well, what's a big deal, Roxanne?
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We've all been through stuff.
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Right?
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Mhmm.
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But until it kinda gets to the point where, like you said, she's coming to you.
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She's probably depleted at every level and wanting wanting wanting the help.
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How did it show up somatically for her?
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Where did it show up for her?
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Oh, that that client was a few years ago and that they got.
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And when you work intuitively, you don't remember a lot of stuff.
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I'm so confidential in my work because if I don't take notes, I don't remember what's
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happened.
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I don't remember, but I'm going to probably say in her in her root shock for a secondary shock
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for us.
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So in her lower tummy.
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Her lower tummy, which would make sense.
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And for little ones too, developmentally, you know, when I would practice with kids, you
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know, people would bring them in and, you know, they would say, well, you know, they're having
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really, really upset stomach.
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You know, they don't wanna eat.
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Or, you know, they're they're saying they they're sick.
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They're sick.
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And that's generally the part of the event that they're connected with the most So it would
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make sense developmentally for her too.
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So let's let's, you know, for a lot of people that are in corporate They're not sure of the
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styles, right, Sylvia?
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And I think that's why when you and I, we actually spent some time in Quebec City at our
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convention and were able to try to kind of talk about that thing.
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And at that point, I should let you know that this amazing woman had she had not talked to me
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about writing a book.
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So this is like 6, 7 months later, and it's out, which is just truly amazing.
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So going back to 10 things you need to know.
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You you talked the first 1 about grounding.
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So I want you to just break down for, you know, because I, you know, a lot of times when I talk
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to people, I we assume that they know what we mean.
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And for the HR professionals or the leaders or the senior people that may be listening to
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this, explain to them what that means what what is grounding from chapter 1?
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So ground, maybe describing grounding as the that's to go the opposite.
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When you're not grounded, you tend to be reactive, you tend to be a little bit more
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emotionally sensitive than you ordinarily would be.
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You tend to say things, blur it out things that you maybe go, oops, did I really say that with
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my outside voice?
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So what grounding is, and maybe it's just as simple just to do that grounding exercise here.
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Sure.
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I'm I'm I'm in.
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Okay.
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So what I encourage people to do is put their feet flat on the ground, sit up as straight as
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is comfortable for skin on the balls of your feet.
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And imagine out of that balls of your feet, roots growing deep, deep, deep, down into the
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core of the earth.
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And as you get closer to the core of the earth, you notice a great big boulder, and you allow
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those roots to grow around the boulder.
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Nice.
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Now how are you feeling Roxanne?
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Great.
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I'm not.
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Yeah.
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More more grounded.
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I have 1 of those things that my feet.
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So I mean, it's there's a little bit of striation under it.
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So I could I could really feel it at my desk.
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Really, really nice.
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So that's a great example.
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So you could really do that anywhere, and I'm always talking about, when I when I train and
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speak about those micro, breaks that people need to do often, right?
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Because a lot of times I just did a couple of trainings last week And the the, of course, the
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first thing people talk about is a lot, you know, I was, dealing with the management team
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and out of the room of about 15, 7 of them don't take lunches.
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Yeah.
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You know, so even something as basic as this, to be able to do that, you know, would would
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help them.
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But so that containment, that ground days, That safety and coming back to the present is really
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what you want people to do, you know, as they start the the journey with you.
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Absolutely.
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And and it's something that I think it's a skill.
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I use it every day.
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Yeah.
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I think it's a perfect skill to be using every single day of your life.
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Yeah.
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And, you know, 1 thing and I often, you know, I don't know if you know, we probably know I
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would grow up in Trinidad.
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So we I was joked around that when I kid we ran around bare feet because it was tropics.
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So, you know, what I often do now still, like, in my back here as I walk around in my yard,
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you know, even when I'm watering my plants or whatever because of that element of of that
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grounding and what they've shown in the research about the elements of getting
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connected to the energy from the earth as well.
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So, you know, again, it's something so simple that people could do anywhere as well.
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Exactly.
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Yes.
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So grounding is 1.
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Another core 1 that we do not well do well in our culture in North America is we do not feel
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our emotions.
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We're taught to calm down.
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Oh, it'll be okay.
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They're there.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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And so the next 1 for me is really getting in touch with your emotions.
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And feeling where they are in your body.
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So I go through my entire process on how to do that and how to practice that on a daily basis
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so that we know exactly where we're at because when feelings become our friends and not
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something to be pushed away, we process things in the moment.
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Yeah.
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We don't build up.
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We don't have what I call trauma.
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Because you can talk about them with a trusted person that doesn't say they're there.
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It'll be okay.
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Now now the you know, there's other fish in the sea and all those platitudes, but we'll just
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sit with you and allow you to feel whatever you're feeling.
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Know, I was actually thinking about last week when I spoke it.
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I was saying when I came to Canada, like, I was 16.
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And the 1 thing I remember a Sylvia was when I would say, how are you?
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And I'm great.
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How are you?
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And I'll be like, because in Trinidad, the way I grew up, if things weren't good, people would
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tell you.
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Oh, I'm having a good, bad day.
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I'm having a bad day.
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How about you?
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I came to Canada and it was, you know, of course, I'm quite young, still, and I'm like,
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everybody's great.
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I'm out here.
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Oh, good.
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I'm great.
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How are you?
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And I'm like, And I was, kitting around with that leadership team and they said, you know,
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it's it's not interesting, right?
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That, you know, but if I were to stop someone, say, you know, really, really, I'm having a
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tough time, how comfortable would they be with that?
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And most of the leadership team were not comfortable.
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Right?
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So that element.
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Yeah.
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Imagine being a leader who can say I'm having a bad day today.
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And it's not a big deal.
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Yeah.
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Right?
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When we humanize the workplace, it's so much better.
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Because we're allowed to have a bad day.
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We're not hiding it and making secondary mistakes.
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Bring more compassion for ourselves and for other people into the workplace.
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And frankly, there's not enough compassion out there.
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Right?
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Because mental health, like, I, you know, is on a continuum.
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Right?
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It could be that, you know, I am having difficulty with you know, my young child to,
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you know, my mom's been put in the hospital to something a lot more significant, right?
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So all of us at any given point and when we look at the data around mental health and for
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instance, anxiety being so high the staff has gone through the roof.
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So that's 1 of the 2 potentially people in any given room.
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They're having an issue.
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Could be small.
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But on on address to your point, it's the suppression that ends up being a mental health
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concern.
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Right.
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And that hiding Like, how much energy does it take when you're having a really bad day to
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hide it and act like everything's fine?
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Yeah.
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But it isn't.
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Right?
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And we so we're so distracted.
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I remember when I first started speaking way back in the in the nineties, and I would be so
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nervous when I took the stage.
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And if I didn't acknowledge it, and I just started to speak, and I tried to push through
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it, I would choke on my words, I would be like that, and I couldn't speak.
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And then when I started to do was I started to say to the crowd, whoever I was speaking to the
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audience, I'd say, I'm nervous.
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Yeah.
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People would lean in and have this compassion for me that here I was nervous sharing this
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stuff.
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Like, I didn't have it altogether.
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T.
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I don't already still.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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And and then
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I would find that I was much more eloquent in how I spoke.
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Because I took 10 seconds to acknowledge how I was feeling.
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Yeah.
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So important to you know, and suppression of emotion.
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You know, if we look at it, you know, from a really a health perspective, of, you know,
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people will suppress until the bodies stretch to fall apart.
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I you know, most people and this is known and you probably know this from practice as well.
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That 95% of these issues that go to family adults are in fact psychological and emotional
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But most people, like, I, you know, they could bat around the away the thoughts, you know,
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really easily, right, the emotions, same thing.
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Emotions get started to get a little bit thicker and harder.
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But when the body says I'm topping out now, and I'm gonna give you high blood pressure.
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I'm gonna make you prediabetic.
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You know, I'm gonna give you insomnia, TMG, TMZ RJ, that there's no negotiate because now you
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can't function.
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And then that's when the body in my opinion, takes control and says, I'm gonna shut you down
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because I gotta take it myself.
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Right?
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It's like the body saying, you weren't listening to me.
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So let's have a conversation right now because we need to do something differently.
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Absolutely.
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And going back again to that whole element, of of energy, right, and blocks, right?
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Which is really what you're talking about.
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Which is which is really, really amazing.
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So I want to make sure we get through most of the steps, and and don't get lost for time.
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So tell me about some of the other steps.
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So there's there's 9 more but so you you you tell me you tell me what they are and then
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let's let's decide which ones we wanna focus on or even demonstrate something that so that
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people and and I really, you know, for clinicians or people that are in the field,
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they're gonna get this stuff.
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Right?
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Mhmm.
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But it's for the average person that's sitting there at work that's list that would be listed
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as they go.
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Wow.
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I mean, I can do this thing.
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I can think about this differently.
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I can, you know, put my feet on the ground and and think of it roots of a tree going up and me
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see myself get energy.
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These are the practical things, Sylvia, that I think oftentimes A lot of people don't realize
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that when they see the proper practitioner, and it may not be a traditional kind of, you know,
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you know, psychotherapist social worker that they get with the deed, which is basically
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lifelong training strategies for taking care of their own health.
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Right.
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Absolutely.
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Okay.
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So, everything is energy as a first chapter.
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So everything is energy.
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Our emotions are energy.
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Our physical ailments are energy.
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How do we address those?
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Dealings are fluid.
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So they I talked about that.
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When we feel them, they pass.
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It's amazing.
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It's unbelievable.
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You're not what happened to you.
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Yeah.
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And I often say, you know, in my First book, I will say you are not defined by the by the pain
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that you have experienced in your past.
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Right?
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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So I talk about a little mind trip to get through that.
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Patterns are created.
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So what I talk about is I work on patterns and patterns are intertwined emotions, thoughts,
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often subconscious beliefs that are tied up that we often don't have awareness of how play
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how they're play how excuse me, how they play out in our lives.
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And so it's helping you understand what a pattern is and how it's created and starting to
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look at some of the patterns that you have.
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And patterns are wonderful until they're not anymore.
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Right?
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Yeah.
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And being able to see them, right?
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Because, you know, I don't know about you, but I even, myself and my personal life, people
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say, do you realize you do blah blah blah?
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And then this happens and I go, I do.
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Right?
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Because we're so unaware, especially people closest to you.
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And then then you go, oh, I guess I do do that.
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I didn't realize I did it to that extent because we're just like that automatic pilot's
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bitch.
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Right?
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Yes.
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Yeah.
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Fed by our unconscious or subconscious.
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Anxiety is a mind sport.
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I like that.
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So tell me more about that.
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Anxiety lives in the mind.
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So absolutely, yes.
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The physiological symptoms that we feel when we have anxiety feel very real, and they are
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happening.
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I believe anxiety happens when we're out of touch with our emotions.
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You know, I hope that I hope you've coined that anxieties that might because that is a 1 liner
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that I think would stop a lot of people.
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Like, I I love it because it's making me think when, you know, when you know, you have you're
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juggling a lot and and then you realize it's a little bit more because it's lingering.
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You kinda you do the thing and then you calm down and fine again, but when it kinda stays
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elevated, right?
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And then like you said, then it ends up in your head Right?
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So it it's really it's a it's a sport you're practicing in a way, and you're getting really,
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really good at.
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Yeah.
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And anxiety's never real.
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What I mean by that, it's never in the moment.
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It's always the mind going to somewhere else what's going to happen, what could happen in
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catastrophesing.
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So never present in the moment.
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We do not feel anxiety in the moment.
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Right.
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So it's about the future projection and what could potentially happen and what what what's
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it saying 99.9% about of what we worry about.
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If you look back really didn't happen until it's something critical and then you're like, I
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should have saved up all of the energy for this time.
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Because I really need it now because this is real and this is needing my energy.
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Right?
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Yes.
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Yep.
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Yeah.
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So then I share with you a master patterns process on how, that I created to help release
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some of the old patterns that aren't working for you in your life anymore.
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We talk about empaths, but what happens to you, what we often call sensitive, overly sensitive
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to emotional, pick me than 1 of them empaths.
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And what that means and how to release other people's energy that we may be holding on our
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bodies and not even aware of.
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Intuition.
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Intuition.
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How do we use our intuition?
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Imagine using intuition more effectively in the workplace.
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Think about the weird inventions that have happened.
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How did people come up with using horse urine to as a hormone for replacement for women?
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Like, who thought of that?
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It had to be an intuitive thing.
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Yeah.
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Because it doesn't make sense.
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And so I talk about the difference between intuition and being able to be aware of
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emotion, when it's an intuitive hit versus a mind thought.
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You talk a little bit more about that because I'm I'm intrigued by that.
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Right?
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Like,
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So when we think something might happen, it tends to have a heaviness to it.
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When it's an intuitive, what I call, hit or intuitive information, it feels uplifting.
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It generally comes very quickly.
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And is gone.
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It's like often like a little tiny whisper.
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You know what?
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It's that's so interesting because I know what?
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I have those, but it's often when I'm very relaxed.
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I have have them happen.
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I'll have a narrative in my head.
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And, I'll give you an example because this now I think about it.
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Right?
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You know, our market here in the falls has gone through the real estate market.
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And I remember I would leave bed and think, oh my goodness, you know, you know, being on my
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own and starting over, all that stuff.
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And then this voice would say, well, it's you're gonna be fine because, you know, your
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home is gonna be worth, you know, whatever the number was.
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And it's all gonna just happen.
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And I'd be like, am I making that up?
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Because I'm thinking I would like it to be like that, but then it would be it would be a kind
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of a recurring, not obsessive thought, but it would just be kinda it would come in.
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And then it will go out.
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And then that being said, 10 years later, guess what?
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It comes out there,
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and I was sitting back going, wow, that unfolding, that whatever that you know, what
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would would do to call it, clear
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audience?
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A clear audience when we hear it.
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When you hear it.
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I obviously, there was something that that intuitive.
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And I'm like, wow.
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Look at what happened around here.
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So it's interesting.
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But you could only with those hits, Sylvia, I think, you can only have them when you're
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completely present, right?
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Well, when you're present in your body, yeah, when you're grounded, I think you're more like,
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I think you have them all the time rocks in, I think it's like when you're not grounded and
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the old radio stations, and yes, I am aging myself, I suppose, in this.
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With this static, And so you just don't get the signal as clearly.
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Yeah.
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Yes.
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Not as easy to hear it.
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When you get grounded, there's less interference.
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And and it's easier to hear it or to listen.
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So that's 1 of the amazing things.
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So in the book, you're saying that you teach people how to kind of delineate between when
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it's a a thought which is more anxiety driven and then what it's just I'm gonna say you
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listening on a deeper level to really what's in your best interest for your healing.
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Yes.
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And it's not just for healing.
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It's life decisions.
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And, And sometimes our mind and our desire can take over, and I share an an experience of
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looking for an office space.
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And how I had made my checklist of everything I wanted and went to this office and it checked
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every box off.
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But there was something about the landlord.
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It
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was just something about the landlord.
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I over read it.
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I overrode my intuition because my mind was like, no, it's got everything and my excitement
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took over.
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Oh, because it's kind of the inspiration.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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And I'm sure anybody listening could could really relate to times like that and you go, I
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should have.
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I knew it.
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I knew it.
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But then again, that's the learnings from going through things like
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that.
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Absolutely.
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And then recognizing your strengths Right?
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We talk about that a lot.
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And forgiveness and letting go.
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And when I'm talking about forgiveness, it feeling the emotions and working through the
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emotions and then choosing to forgive yourself for any role you played in something.
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Even though you often didn't play
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a role in it at all.
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Of course, right, because those are intense emotions.
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Obviously wrapped into, you know, thinking back to your your lady that she wasn't even probably
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aware of the of the heaviness of what she was carrying And then like you said, and I know a
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lot of the language out there is the core blocking beliefs, but really it is some of the
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core things that or blocking you, but it's like that like white noise machine that you're
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you're not attuned to, but it's running your life.
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Until, like you said, she comes through your door and says, I'm completely well, hopefully
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not sick, but that's what ends up happening.
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With people either physically emotionally or, you know, spiritually sick where they they now
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say I can't I can't do this anymore.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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I'm exhausted.
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I'm exhausted.
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Worn out.
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I'm tired.
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I'm frustrated or angry all the time.
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Whatever it is, It's going to show up, and it's just learning to listen to ourselves.
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What if we are our own wise 1?
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I What if we are our own experts?
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Because all I do is pull the expert out of my clients, whether it in in my office is in a
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therapy session, whether I'm doing coaches with executives or when I'm on the stage speaking
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with people, It's about pulling out your own excellence and getting realizing it because
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it's so easy for us to say, oh, I didn't do this well and I should've done this.
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Hold it a second.
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What do you do well?
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What do you love to do?
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Yeah.
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Where do you excel?
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Over that stuff.
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Celebrate yourself.
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And then allow yourself to let go of stuff that's no longer serving you and allow yourself
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to have that freedom.
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So for for people that are like senior executives or or I'm gonna use the word kind of
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driven, right?
34:59
Mhmm.
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And they know they know they have to slow down.
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They know they have to triplet listen.
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What are some simple simple things that they might start to consider doing?
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Maybe 1 or 2 things that you think that they could be even start to do and obviously we'll
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tell them what to get the book, but just before they, you know, just to practice some things
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that they can do now.
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Well, I think look at what, like, so to be being driven as a pattern.
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So what are the wonderful parts of that pattern that are working and what aren't working
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anymore?
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Yeah.
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Right?
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And even just sometimes just having that awareness and making a choice and just thinking
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and and as I say go to the universe, say to the universe, I want this.
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Or I want this instead.
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So the thought of, okay, I wanna change how driven I am so that I actually have a healthy
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lunch every day.
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Alright.
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Simple as that.
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Something as simple as that because when we eat, we nurture our bodies.
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Our bodies are what we have are our vessel for this lifetime.
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And so we need to honor.
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We need to respect that vessel.
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So what are you feeling?
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Getting in touch with the emotion.
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Learning, you know, when did I first start this driven pattern?
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Because yes, there's parts of it that were wonderful, but there are parts of it that are
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probably wearing you out, that are causing you to do things that you really don't wanna do.
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I think this is the basis of addiction.
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And mental health challenges.
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We do things that are against our values at a core level because we think we have to act in a
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certain way to have success.
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Yeah.
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And and you're using whatever that is to achieve that goal.
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And I often say, you know, it's the misuse of anything.
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Right?
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Could be working.
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It could be shopping.
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It could be, you know, eating.
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Yeah.
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We need to eat to live, but still it could be, you know, buy, you know, buying the homes, the
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the the the cars, the all that stuff just to kinda create that illusion so that we hide from
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what's inside.
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Right?
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Right.
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And at some point, like we said, the the the body's the boss.
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He just says, it helps you out.
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And you have to come and talk to somebody like you to start to do the work.
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Mhmm.
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Yeah.
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And we're not that scary.
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Are we boxing?
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Well, I don't think you're scary at all.
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It look just like everybody else.
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We, you know, uh-uh, it it doesn't matter.
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So I always say it's whoever you align with, you know, oh, gosh.
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Yeah.
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It's so important.
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And so if you are listening to this, you know, whether it's is a therapist or a coach or
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somebody that has that ability to create that container that where you kinda You go around
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them and you go, I can I can just release then that allows your body to intuitively listen to
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the person that you're in presence with and that allows a space to be able to create the
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healing?
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Absolutely.
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You've got to find the right person.
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If you have another purse if you go to a person, that you don't have that core safety
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you're talking about, don't try and force it to work.
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Find another person.
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Find your person.
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Absolutely.
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So tell us about, you know, what kind
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of work
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you're doing and, you know, what kind of spaces you'd like people to reach out to you in, with
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with the, this amazing new book.
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So I'm gonna continue to work with people individually and I do that in my office here in
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Guelph Ontario and also through zoom.
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And I'm looking to do more speaking because I think at time, we really get a different
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message in a different way.
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And I want to teach people from this stage, things that they can take away and do that day.
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Amazing.
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So actionable things, actionable things.
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So the book where can people, get a hold of the book?
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So the book you can purchase through Amazon, and you can purchase purchase it through 1000
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trees dot com, which is my editor's website.
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And, yeah.
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So that's where it currently is available.
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So for all of you out there, your executives or your frontline or you're the CEO, maybe you're
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listening.
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Right?
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And you're thinking, wow.
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How do we support our people?
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What services do we have?
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And in our services in your, benefits programs, do you are you aware of the type of support and
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the support people that work for those benefits providers to give the right support for people.
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On your teams.
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And if you don't know, I would suggest you march down to your HR department.
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To have that conversation because I think we are in a world where we're recognizing after
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the last couple of years the need to get the right fit for what people are needing.
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And I loved, I loved what Sylvia said about the fact that we are in fact our own sages for our
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health, but we have to find the right conduits to help us there.
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So my hopes is that you've gotten a couple of little tips from Sylvia today.
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Please, Sylvia, where can they get a hold of you?
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And, reach out, have a conversation, or have her come out and speak to your team.
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So my the easiest way is my website, which is, on purpose transformations, dotca.
40:51
And the links will be in the show notes as well.
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Again, Sylvia, thanks so much.
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Always a pleasure talking about healing.
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I'm gonna go out and walk around the backyard right now for a little bit just to get some
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energy and for everyone if you're needing more information on authentic leadership, for you,
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you and your teams, go to roxanderhodge.comforward/quiz do a really quick
41:14
quiz either on your home relationships or your, work relationships.
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We'll send you back a little bit of results with some next steps for Okay, Sylvia.
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Thanks so much, and everyone will chat with you again next week.
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Take care.