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Here Comes the Bride with Kaity Biggar and Zach Shallcross · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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  Speaker 1: This is the Almost Famous podcast with iHeartRadio.
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  Speaker 2: Hello, everyone, welcome to the Almost Famous podcast. This is
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  Speaker 2: not Ben nor Ashley. I'm Caitlyn Bell and I am
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  Speaker 2: taking over for Ben and Ashley. We are in NAPO
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  Speaker 2: with iHeart and we're here for Live in the Vineyard
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  Speaker 2: with a bunch of other Bachelor Nation members, including Katie
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  Speaker 2: and Zach.
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  Speaker 3: Welcome. Hello, Hello there.
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  Speaker 2: Great to have you guys, Yeah on my podcast. I'm
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  Speaker 2: excited to chat about weddings and your lives and everything
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  Speaker 2: you guys are up to.
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  Speaker 3: Same.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, wait, I'm sure all of your followers know this,
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  Speaker 2: but I don't particularly know this. Where are you guys
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  Speaker 2: living right now?
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  Speaker 4: We're in Austin, Texas, and we've been in Austin since
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  Speaker 4: we wrapped up everything with the show ever since.
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  Speaker 2: Do you feel like that's permanent.
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  Speaker 3: For now?
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  Speaker 1: I think we will definitely like raise our first kid
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  Speaker 1: in Texas and kind of just like feel it out
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  Speaker 1: from there. But I know, I think we were telling
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  Speaker 1: some of Bachelor Nation, or at least on my platform,
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  Speaker 1: that we were thinking about moving to the Carolinas, whether
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  Speaker 1: it was like north or South, but that hurricane came
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  Speaker 1: through and kind of just like made me like really
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  Speaker 1: iffy about it.
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  Speaker 3: So yeah, what he laughed about.
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  Speaker 4: No, nothing, because we we were like kind of dead
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  Speaker 4: set on North Carolina, both of us have never been
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  Speaker 4: before and were it just sounds and feels right. Yeah,
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  Speaker 4: and then you know, things change and we're like, no,
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  Speaker 4: we're sticking in Austin. We're gonna buy here, we can
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  Speaker 4: see a future here.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it just felt good and we were like, I mean,
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  Speaker 1: at least me, you already had a community, but I
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  Speaker 1: was like building like friendships and it just finally felt good.
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  Speaker 1: So yeah, and it's yeah, I think Texas is great
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  Speaker 1: for now, but who knows what's gonna happen.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, Okay. I lived in North Carolina for
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  Speaker 2: a bit. It is a beautiful state.
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  Speaker 3: I hear, I hear.
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  Speaker 1: It's amazing that oh in the mountains, you get the season,
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  Speaker 1: it's and it's also closer.
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  Speaker 3: To my home, like my family in Canada.
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  Speaker 1: So that's why many reasons why we gravitated towards that.
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  Speaker 1: But I think right now we're just kind of center
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  Speaker 1: our ways in Austin.
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  Speaker 2: And yeah, okay, I have a question before I get
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  Speaker 2: into the list of questions I have. I was talking
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  Speaker 2: about this with a friend, what natural disaster do you
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  Speaker 2: think you can live through? Earthquakes? Fires? What are the
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  Speaker 2: mall you first, Well, there's earthquakes, fires, What else are.
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  Speaker 3: Uh, hurricanes, hurricane.
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  Speaker 4: Lava, lava la?
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  Speaker 3: Okay, okay, what do we think we could like?
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  Speaker 4: What?
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  Speaker 2: Everyone has to pick one, you know, because like North
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  Speaker 2: Carolina hurricanes, Texas, Tonada's.
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  Speaker 1: Well, I just feel like that the least fatal would
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  Speaker 1: be an earthquake because there's different degrees to it.
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  Speaker 4: Hmm, yeah, so earthquakes. I was gonna say earthquakes by far,
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  Speaker 4: because like in California, I grew up in California, tons
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  Speaker 4: of earthquakes all the time. They're like kind of a
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  Speaker 4: natural occurrence. It doesn't like spook you too much until
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  Speaker 4: they say, oh, the big one's coming. But I'd say.
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  Speaker 3: I've never experienced up in Cana.
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  Speaker 4: Probably the worst would be lava because.
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  Speaker 1: The worst Yeah, I've never heard someone bring up lava
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  Speaker 1: in this conversation. But fair point, I feel like lava
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  Speaker 1: is just a thing, not a natural disaster.
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  Speaker 4: Why would you say that?
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  Speaker 1: Okay, So basically because it's like it's a volcano erupting,
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  Speaker 1: that's a natural disaster, which leads to lava, so.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, so we take it back volcano eruption, okay with lava.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, so you have to pick one. You have to
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  Speaker 2: pick one natural disaster and that's what you're sticking with
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  Speaker 2: that we can live through. Yeah, and it is it earthquakes?
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  Speaker 3: I feel like that's the least fatal, right or do
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  Speaker 3: you want to My friends and I talk about this
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  Speaker 3: all the time.
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  Speaker 1: Or we can risk it and think that we could
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  Speaker 1: live through lava.
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  Speaker 4: We're not living through lava. Earth takes a great one
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  Speaker 4: and I think hurricanes.
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  Speaker 2: So okay, this settles it. North Carolina or California for
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  Speaker 2: where you should live. Oh oh yeah, mm hmm.
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  Speaker 3: Sit on that.
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  Speaker 1: So you're saying we should move to California because they
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  Speaker 1: have earthquakes. North Carolina had the hurricanes.
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  Speaker 3: Guys, we're moving. It's a good game.
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  Speaker 2: Where should we move? You know?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: Zactis needs to become a billionaire before we moved California.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, So let's chat about weddings. Do you guys have
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  Speaker 2: a wedding update? Are you still eloping?
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  Speaker 3: We are still eloping?
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  Speaker 2: How small do you think it would be with an elopement? Literally,
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  Speaker 2: there is in people that's amazing.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, very intimate, very personal, and that's it just fits
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  Speaker 1: our personality so well.
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  Speaker 3: And I feel like, you know, we.
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  Speaker 1: Had the big contract, we had the big wedding venue,
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  Speaker 1: the you know, the all of it was big, and
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  Speaker 1: it was I think we were quoted like eighty k
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  Speaker 1: for the wedding, and we had the contract in our
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  Speaker 1: hands and it was like, this doesn't feel right. It
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  Speaker 1: doesn't feel like us, like you know what I mean.
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  Speaker 1: So we just kind of like looked at each other
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  Speaker 1: and it was just like, you know what, let's not
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  Speaker 1: sign this and just like take a step back. And
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  Speaker 1: we ended up deciding on a looping And honestly, we
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  Speaker 1: when did we think of the date, Like back in January,
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  Speaker 1: we were like, hey, should we get married this day?
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  Speaker 3: This makes sense? And we're like, yeah, let's do it.
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  Speaker 1: Oh wow, And then it all just kind of fell
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  Speaker 1: into place till it be pressure off.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Oh I can imagine. Would it be abroad or in
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  Speaker 2: the States?
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  Speaker 3: Austin?
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  Speaker 2: Austin nice, We're staying in Austin, amazing. So you have
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  Speaker 2: a date, you have a location.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like thirty minutes away from our home. Our
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  Speaker 1: family's flying in. It's gonna be an hour ceremony if that, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: and call it a day, go for dinner.
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  Speaker 2: That's amazing.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, very chill.
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  Speaker 2: You guys are very smart someone who got mad a
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  Speaker 2: year and a half ago.
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  Speaker 3: That we keep hearing that it was a great day.
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  Speaker 2: But it's just the cost, doesn't it's it's it's crazy.
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  Speaker 2: But I do want to know who had more opinions
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  Speaker 2: about the wedding vibe between the two of you, who
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  Speaker 2: had more like opinions on the wedding, like the vibe
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  Speaker 2: of the wedding like everything.
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  Speaker 3: Me, yeah, yeah, me for sure.
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  Speaker 1: Doak is so amazing. He was like, baby, if you
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  Speaker 1: want the big wedding, let's do it. If you want
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  Speaker 1: the small wedding, let's do it. You want to go
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  Speaker 1: to Italy, We'll make it work. Like he's so amazing.
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  Speaker 1: But I think, yeah, when it at the end of
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  Speaker 1: the day, like the eloping just was just perfect for us,
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  Speaker 1: and just it's our vibe and we're so like chill
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  Speaker 1: and just like we don't need the limeline or anything
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  Speaker 1: like that. We don't need like a big wedding, we
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  Speaker 1: don't need the attention. We've had it and it's honestly,
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  Speaker 1: this is just perfect. For us, and we're not telling
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  Speaker 1: anybody the date because we just we want to just
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  Speaker 1: like soak it in ourselves, Like I don't want anybody
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  Speaker 1: to know until we're ready to like let people know
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  Speaker 1: and we can share about it. But like.
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  Speaker 2: I think that's why people are so drawn to you guys,
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  Speaker 2: is because some people from this show are drawn to
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  Speaker 2: that spotlight, you know, and drawn to the limelight and
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  Speaker 2: drawn to whatever it may be. And you guys just
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  Speaker 2: feel very real and natural and like natural as a
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  Speaker 2: couple too. This is my only second time spending time
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  Speaker 2: with you guys, but you guys do feel like real.
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  Speaker 4: You know.
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  Speaker 3: I appreciate that. We get that a lot too, and
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  Speaker 3: it's such a huge compliment. Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah. Like one thing like we always like focus on
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  Speaker 4: is like what we did was crazy, what you've done
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  Speaker 4: is crazy, Like we all lived through it. But what's
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  Speaker 4: most important that we find for each other is like
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  Speaker 4: all right, let's just let's focus on each other and
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  Speaker 4: like that this all this extra stuff, it's it's so fun.
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  Speaker 4: You never know like when it's gonna change, but like
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  Speaker 4: what at the end of the day, that Kate's all
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  Speaker 4: that matters, and like our relationship is all that matters,
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  Speaker 4: and that kind of transpired into like how we view
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  Speaker 4: when we get married. Just keep it simple and yeah
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  Speaker 4: about our love. That's it in our family.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's like the healthiest approach that you can have.
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  Speaker 2: And yeah, I'm just so happy for you.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you. I appreciate that. We're so excited.
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  Speaker 1: Like literally every day I'll look at him and I'll
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  Speaker 1: be like, I cannot wait to marry you.
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  Speaker 3: And I'm not even I'm not even lying. I literally
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  Speaker 3: do it so probably more than once a day, no,
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  Speaker 3: at least once.
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  Speaker 1: Every time I look at him, I just like see
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  Speaker 1: my husband in my future, I see everything, and I
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  Speaker 1: just get so excited.
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  Speaker 3: I just have to tell him, like, I cannot wait
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  Speaker 3: to marry you.
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  Speaker 4: Honestly, the best feeling when you're like, I'm marrying my
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  Speaker 4: best friend. Yeah, and we're doing it the way we
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  Speaker 4: want to do it, and we're having fun with it.
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  Speaker 4: That's it.
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  Speaker 3: That's right.
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  Speaker 2: And it's been two years, right, two and a half
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  Speaker 2: and a half and a half years. That's a really
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  Speaker 2: good amount of time. And again, I don't know when
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  Speaker 2: you're getting married, but that's that's a good amount of
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  Speaker 2: time where you can really feel out the relationship outside
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  Speaker 2: of the show too, Oh totally yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, living together and all that good stuff.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and we're buying our first home this year.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah this year.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, we got to start house hunting. Audit to the
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  Speaker 1: list of things.
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  Speaker 4: Thank you.
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  Speaker 2: Wedding planning and house hunting is a lot on your plate.
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  Speaker 3: But that's crazy. Yeah, oh my god.
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  Speaker 2: Well, okay back to the wedding. Are there any non
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  Speaker 2: negotiables for the wedding, Yeah, for either of.
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  Speaker 4: You, like things that need to happen.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, like I must have this or I can't have this,
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  Speaker 2: or I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: Honestly, Okay, not really, because like we were originally gonna
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  Speaker 1: have a courthouse wedding, literally just go in, no videographer, nothing.
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  Speaker 1: We were gonna go inside the paper and just like maybe.
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  Speaker 3: Do like a family like some photos.
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  Speaker 1: Here and there, and then go for dinner. And then
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  Speaker 1: my mom was like, hey, have you thought about a
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  Speaker 1: chapel And.
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  Speaker 3: I was like no, no, no. And literally it wasn't
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  Speaker 3: until like I want.
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  Speaker 1: To say, four or three weeks ago where I was like,
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  Speaker 1: wait a second, I think the chapels a great idea.
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  Speaker 1: I want a videographer. I do want to document this.
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  Speaker 1: And then it's kind of transpired into something bigger. But
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  Speaker 1: to answer your question, there really isn't any because it
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  Speaker 1: all started so yeah, we were just like we were
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  Speaker 1: just gonna go to the courthouse. There was no floorals,
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  Speaker 1: there was no big wedding dress, there was nothing. So
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  Speaker 1: I mean we've just kind of worked our way up
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  Speaker 1: to like make it a little bit more elevated in
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  Speaker 1: a chapel setting. But like I'm not like, baby, we
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  Speaker 1: need this. It's just kind of like, hey, does.
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  Speaker 4: This sound like a fun idea or not? Or is
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  Speaker 4: this like a dumb idea? And then we'll wait this,
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  Speaker 4: we'll like spit it back and forth, and sometimes we'll
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  Speaker 4: be like, yeah, I'm probably not worth it, or yeah
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  Speaker 4: that's a good idea, let's run with it. But like overall,
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  Speaker 4: it's a small.
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  Speaker 3: It's so small.
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  Speaker 1: But I will say I'm really adamant on getting like
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  Speaker 1: a vintage car. Yeah, I really want like kind of
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  Speaker 1: like old money vibes to it.
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  Speaker 3: So I'm trying to like hone in on that. But yeah, like.
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  Speaker 4: We're in a good like photographer and videographer just like
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  Speaker 4: having that moment for life, like you want to look
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  Speaker 4: back on that. Yeah, that isn't really important.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, so it's all like long winded answer, but like
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  Speaker 1: it's all just kind of escalated a little bit.
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  Speaker 3: But at the same time, it's like, no, not really,
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  Speaker 3: it's seven people.
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  Speaker 4: That's really something. So yeah, house wedding.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah no, I mean there is really no non negotiables.
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  Speaker 2: I'm really fascinated by this. Were you guys both like
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  Speaker 2: growing up? Because I was, I don't know, obsessed with
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  Speaker 2: princesses and like my wedding day obsessed over it. Did
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  Speaker 2: you guys have that period of your life or not? Really?
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  Speaker 1: I mean I always dreamed of like having a wedding,
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  Speaker 1: and I think as I got older and since meeting Zach,
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  Speaker 1: i'd like thought about more of like a wedding day.
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  Speaker 1: But my mom never got married, so like I think
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  Speaker 1: growing up, I was like, oh, like, you know, if
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  Speaker 1: I get married, that's awesome. If it doesn't happen for me,
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  Speaker 1: I know, I'll be okay. Like, I never really fantasized
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  Speaker 1: about having a wedding. Honestly, what I fantasized about was
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  Speaker 1: having a good man in my life, not an extravagant wedding,
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  Speaker 1: nor like what my dress was going to look like.
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  Speaker 1: But yeah, yeah, I never really for that.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean I don't know, like I don't want
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  Speaker 4: to like pun it off to like the typical I guess,
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  Speaker 4: like maybe a typical guy answer, but it's like for me,
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  Speaker 4: it no, Like I didn't ever think like, oh I
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  Speaker 4: need to have a big wedding and et cetera. Like
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  Speaker 4: for me, what was most important at the end of
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  Speaker 4: the day is like the person I marry, the person
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  Speaker 4: I want to wake up to every morning, Like that
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  Speaker 4: matters so much more than like this day that costs
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  Speaker 4: a lot of money. Like in my mind, like that
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  Speaker 4: was like like a high priority. Was more like I
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  Speaker 4: just want to find that person to where we make
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  Speaker 4: it official and you know we're going to the end
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  Speaker 4: of days with Yeah, so that's that was more important
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  Speaker 4: than even thinking of like what kind of florals am
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  Speaker 4: I going to have? Or was the color of my
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  Speaker 4: suit or tucks? Like I never actually ever thought of that.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. Ever, the way that you guys talk about marriage
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  Speaker 2: and like the wedding, not marriage. The wedding is so
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  Speaker 2: impressive compared to I don't know, it's like people don't
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  Speaker 2: talk about weddings or marriage or anything like the way
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  Speaker 2: that you guys do. So it's really special because it's
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  Speaker 2: so much focus on like, oh, the dress was really stressful,
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  Speaker 2: the guest list was really stressful, and it's like stress, stress, stress,
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  Speaker 2: and you guys feel very like calm and at peace.
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  Speaker 1: Oh we are, And it's cause we're not, like you
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  Speaker 1: said this perfectly the other day. It's like we aren't
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  Speaker 1: doing this for other people. It's not like, hey, we
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  Speaker 1: should get this type of catering because these people are
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  Speaker 1: coming or you know what I mean.
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  Speaker 3: It's not about that, like you know what I mean,
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  Speaker 3: it's just like it's just for us. We're doing what
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  Speaker 3: is for us exactly.
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  Speaker 4: And like that's to say, like we did meet with
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  Speaker 4: a planner, you know, months ago, and we went through
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  Speaker 4: you know, a lot of the the loops to try
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  Speaker 4: to figure out like what could this look like, and
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  Speaker 4: we were seeing that stress that like you know a
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  Speaker 4: lot of people go through, and we're like, we don't
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  Speaker 4: need to do this because like at the end of
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  Speaker 4: the day, it's not about that, And then we reminded ourselves, yeah,
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  Speaker 4: what it is. Yeah, So.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm so happy Dean isn't here. When you guys
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  Speaker 2: are talking, I'm like, thank god, he's not here.
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  Speaker 3: Because he'd be.
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  Speaker 2: Like, we should have eloped.
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  Speaker 3: This sounds so beautiful. Honestly, I'm really happy for you guys.
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  Speaker 3: It's crazy how much money goes into that wedding industry.
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  Speaker 3: It's insane.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, no, it's really disgusting, and you guys are so smart.
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  Speaker 2: But seriously, like, I really do mean it. The way
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  Speaker 2: that you guys speak about this, it's so beautiful and
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  Speaker 2: that's what marriage should be and that's what a wedding
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  Speaker 2: should be about. So I'm so excited.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you, thank you. We're so excited, and.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you guys for coming on the Almost Famous podcast
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  Speaker 2: without Ben and Ashley. I really appreciate it.
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  Speaker 3: Of course, thanks for having us