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VOTE · Rich Spinster

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  SPEAKER_00: It's just all about love and life and living and freedom.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's what that's what it's all about for me now.
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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to the Rich Spencer Podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want you all to know that I voted.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's an exciting thing to vote because it's exciting to be able to have a say in your government.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you don't vote, then you shouldn't say shit because you don't have a say in shit, because you don't know about shit and you didn't participate in shit.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then what do you end up getting?
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  SPEAKER_00: Shit.
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  SPEAKER_00: There is nothing more important than having your voice heard.
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  SPEAKER_00: You go to your location with your ID.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, mind you, I go with two forms of ID, at least because what y'all are not gonna do is play with me.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is the most important part here.
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  SPEAKER_00: The only thing that you have to remember to do is to look at the ballot and look at the democratic row, and you vote blue all the way down.
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  SPEAKER_00: Blue all the way down the ballot.
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't skip.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then you walk out of that bitch knowing that you participated in democracy.
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  SPEAKER_00: I honestly do not know how you guys are out there living in the world having relationships with grown-ass people who don't vote.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've heard so many conversations and have seen so many clips on the internet for a while now talking about the pressure that voting and the pressure that politics has put on relationships, friendships have ended, family relationships have been severed, and people say it's all due to politics.
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  SPEAKER_00: What a shame that it's all due to politics.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, I have a different perspective on that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yes, I would end any relationship over politics.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't care how much the person has done for me, I don't care about all the good things and experiences we have had.
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  SPEAKER_00: It would be over for me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Listen, I can tell you it would be over for me because I ended a friendship with somebody who told me she didn't like Michael McDonald.
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  SPEAKER_00: She was gone.
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  SPEAKER_00: And now I think about it, I haven't talked to her since.
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  SPEAKER_00: Ending a friendship over politics is not just ending a friendship over politics, this sort of umbrella term.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I think when we use an umbrella term, it allows something that is so serious to seem as though it's so unimportant.
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  SPEAKER_00: How you feel about the poor matters to me.
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  SPEAKER_00: It matters to me that my friends care about the poor in this country.
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  SPEAKER_00: It matters to me that my friends are empathetic enough to say that they believe every child should eat every day at school.
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  SPEAKER_00: It matters to me that my friends care that other people should have health care, even if they can't afford it.
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  SPEAKER_00: It matters to me that my friends are aware of racism and are actively living lives that are anti-racist.
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  SPEAKER_00: All of that matters to me.
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  SPEAKER_00: It speaks to my soul, it speaks to who I am as a person.
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  SPEAKER_00: As hurtful as that can be, and as disappointing as that can be, I think it's information that should be used solely to make a decision.
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  SPEAKER_00: Who do I want to give my life to?
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  SPEAKER_00: Who do I want to spend time with?
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  SPEAKER_00: And who do I want to engage in conversation with?
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  SPEAKER_00: And yes, I am sure some of the people that vote the other way may be a good time at a football game.
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  SPEAKER_00: They may be fun, they may be successful and talented, and they could have all of these great qualities that you may admire in a friend, but what they don't have is empathy.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so it matters to me that people vote and who they vote for.
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  SPEAKER_00: So yes, I would end a friendship over that.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, and when it comes to relatives, people have different thoughts and opinions about relatives.
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  SPEAKER_00: A lot of people love their relatives more than they love their friends.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am not like that.
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  SPEAKER_00: The standard I have for my friends, that's the same standard I would have for a relative.
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  SPEAKER_00: Which probably explains why I have very few relationships with relatives, but lots of friends.
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  SPEAKER_00: But you know why?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because you pick your friends.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think that there's nothing more beautiful than friendship.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's nothing more beautiful than choosing someone while they are choosing you.
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  SPEAKER_00: And whether or not that comes from the fact that you used to work together and you all formed a friendship, or your parents were friends, or your cousins, or whatever it is, if you have a strong and beautiful bond with someone, there's nothing better than that.
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  SPEAKER_00: I used to get to point disappointed sometimes because I'm a person like I give my all.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if I decide that I love you, if I decide that we are friends and that we are important to each other, I operate in that space all of the time.
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  SPEAKER_00: I love my friends and I am blessed to have their love in return.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's important to know that not all friendships need to be deep.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm a person who really values depth.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so it took me a lot longer in life, I think, to accept that depth isn't everywhere.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that it is not my job to bring it out of someone.
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  SPEAKER_00: My job is to really accept people as is.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that so that means that person that you maybe you work with at the job, you know, that that person contributes to your life in some way.
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  SPEAKER_00: That person brings you joy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, you have a good Kiki at work.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so you have that sort of relationship, but you can't confuse that with a friendship.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so I don't have the same expectations of pals or acquaintances that I have of friends because friendship means so much to me, and because other people have been so goddamn disappointing in life when it comes to that, that over the years I learned to accept people as they are, look at them as they are, and to not think that they will ever be more than they are in that exact moment.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because friendships mean so much to me, I am notoriously unforgiving.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like I have a zero tolerance policy at this point in my life when it comes to fuck shit.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I mean fuck shit on every level, but especially fuck shit when it comes to people when there's so many good people out there.
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  SPEAKER_00: So yeah, I would end a friendship over politics because what I'm ending the friendship is over my values that we don't share.
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  SPEAKER_00: So yeah, if if if someone in my life, no matter how much I love them, told me that they voted for Trump, the relationship is over full stop.
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  SPEAKER_00: What else do we have to talk about?
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  SPEAKER_00: The fact that some people still talk to their relatives is crazy to me.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think people have a hard time severing relationships when it comes to their families.
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  SPEAKER_00: But sometimes those are the first people y'all need to sever relationships with.
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  SPEAKER_00: You got this brother who's over there voting for Trump, and y'all are just gonna chill and have Thanksgiving together when he has essentially voted against every person who is not like him in his life.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's not a happy fucking Thanksgiving for me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because I'm sitting there hoping he chokes on every fucking bite.
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  SPEAKER_00: I have so many different types of people in my life, so many types of friends.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you know, when I realized that some motherfuckers didn't care about me, I knew motherfuckers didn't care about me like that when my dad died.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was raised by my maternal grandparents.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when my maternal grandfather passed away, who I called daddy, I learned a lot about what it meant to be a friend, what it meant to actively care about other people and to allow other people to actively care for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: I can say I focused on that time, like who was there.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I think I focused so much about who was there for me, who called to check on me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um not out of some sort of narcissism making it all about me, but it was really out of a sense of loneliness, because grief makes you feel incredibly lonely.
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  SPEAKER_00: Incredibly lonely.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when I looked at the people who reached out to me and people who were there for me and extended so much love to me, I learned a big lesson.
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  SPEAKER_00: That oftentimes the people that we are told in life should mean the most to us don't.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we don't mean the most to them either.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's not saying anything negative about those people, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: We just figure out by their actions what the hierarchy is in their life and if you are on that list at all.
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  SPEAKER_00: I I heard from some people in the family, I heard from most of my friends.
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  SPEAKER_00: Most of my friends showed up and showed out in the ways that you need friends to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: But it also allowed me to focus on like, oh, I hear from any of these people.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh, but that for me severed the idea that we have to be there for people just because we have to be there for people, or that people mean more to us because we're somehow related to them, or that they should mean more to us.
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  SPEAKER_00: That cured me from that.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, my like my biological father passed away in 2022.
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  SPEAKER_00: We certainly did not have a relationship.
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  SPEAKER_00: We didn't have beef, but we didn't have a relationship.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when he passed away, though I did not feel as the same sort of emotions that I felt when my dad passed.
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  SPEAKER_00: When he passed, I did feel something, but not the sort of something that most people feel when their father dies.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm real about that, and I certainly was not going to pretend like we had one and fly to a funeral.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like I wasn't doing all of that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Only one person, one person from his side of the family reached out to me.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is my cousin Carlos.
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  SPEAKER_00: But baby, when I tell you I didn't hear from another soul, not one on either side of my family.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then even when Mama died, who is my maternal grandmother who raised me, she was my mother.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I probably four cousins called on that side, and then I got like a text message from one or something like that, and then that was it.
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  SPEAKER_00: That was it in terms of relatives, but you know who was there for me throughout all of that?
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  SPEAKER_00: My friends.
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  SPEAKER_00: My friends were sending flowers and gift baskets to my house.
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  SPEAKER_00: My sorority sister, Marshay, who I call LT, my sorority sister, her flower delivery was the first one I got.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it always touched me because she told me that she talked to the florists and she said it has to have peonies in there because those are her favorite flowers.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so that those details when I saw the flower arrangement, like that meant so much.
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  SPEAKER_00: It meant so much that people sent gift cards and all of those things, cards and um I don't like pie.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not a big pie eater, but a a colleague of mine sent three mini pies, and I actually enjoyed them.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's when I learned that I actually really love strawberry rhubarb was because of that pie delivery.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because after my dad died, honest to God, I was like, fuck them all.
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  SPEAKER_00: It really shifted me.
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  SPEAKER_00: It really shifted me to think about what's important and who's important.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you know what?
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  SPEAKER_00: The craziest thing is like you you you just learn so much about people's hearts.
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  SPEAKER_00: My I had a cousin, and she and I were very close, I thought.
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  SPEAKER_00: Turns out only I thought we were close.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's another story.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I had a cousin who I um really truly loved.
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  SPEAKER_00: I loved her more like she was my sister, not like she was a cousin, like I loved her.
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  SPEAKER_00: And our relationship, you know, ended uh basically when I found out the bitch didn't love me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Her best friend and I kept in touch.
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  SPEAKER_00: And over the year, we're still in touch, and over the years, even if it's just like um, how are you doing on Facebook or a phone call sometimes or a text message, it means so much to me to have that relationship.
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  SPEAKER_00: Over the years, she has shown me her heart, she's extended her heart to me.
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  SPEAKER_00: I remember it was like six months after daddy had passed, and I was going through such depression and anxiety.
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  SPEAKER_00: Grief had taken over my life.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then I would just wake up one morning and there would be a message from her thinking about you.
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  SPEAKER_00: I know you're going through a lot, I know your family's going through a lot.
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  SPEAKER_00: And like that little thing was such a big thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: It just reminded me how love is an action.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: Relationships can be complicated, especially when you start throwing politics in it and other things in it.
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  SPEAKER_00: But when it comes down to it, it's about who you love and who the fuck loves you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because I don't love anybody who doesn't love me.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, yeah, the midterms are approaching.
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  SPEAKER_00: We'll know this is happening next week, people.
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  SPEAKER_00: We'll know where this country is.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am just puzzled that there, there's there's the fact that there is like more than three people voting Republican, it is insane to me.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, I also think social media plays a big role.
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  SPEAKER_00: And like people, you're in your bubble.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your your algorithm is your bubble, essentially.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so a lot of people are living within that bubble, and that's all that they know, and that's all that they believe.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we don't have a lot of people who say, you know what, I heard that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let me go investigate it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or this doesn't sound right to me.
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  SPEAKER_00: So let me make sure that this information is correct.
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  SPEAKER_00: No, they just take it in and then they say, Oh, you know what I heard.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then someone says, Yeah, I heard that too.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then they take it as truth.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that, ladies and gentlemen, is how we have a lot of dumb motherfuckers in office.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was really gonna let this go because hey, people vote for people vote for whoever they want to vote.
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  SPEAKER_00: They support whoever they want to support, and based on that, we make our decisions about them.
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  SPEAKER_00: Onika Tanya Mirage Petty.
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  SPEAKER_00: Also known as Nikki Minaj.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: So Nikki Minaj was at a Trump rally.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not surprising to those of us who have been following her epic mental decline for the past few years.
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  SPEAKER_00: She was at a Trump rally.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we all know one thing Trump likes to talk about are asses, usually the asses of men, though.
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  SPEAKER_00: But at this particular rally, he talked about hey, speaking of great asses, Nikki Minaj.
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  SPEAKER_00: She's right there.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can't miss it.
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  SPEAKER_00: What an ass.
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  SPEAKER_00: Nikki stand up.
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  SPEAKER_00: This bitch stood up and waved to the crowd, just standing there waving on the motherfucking auction block.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm surprised he didn't tell you to bend over, spread him.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm surprised he didn't want to look at your fucking teeth.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was actually embarrassed for her.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's who y'all want to be pres.
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  SPEAKER_00: Nicki Minaj is a joke.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think she's a grifter.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think she goes wherever the wind blows.
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  SPEAKER_00: She said in one of her songs I used to be by, but now I'm hetero.
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  SPEAKER_00: Really?
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  SPEAKER_00: Now she's like a motherfucking trad wife to a sex offender.
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  SPEAKER_00: Who's encouraging other people to vote for a sex offender?
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe she's trying to help her brother who's in jail because he's a sex offender.
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  SPEAKER_00: Fuck Nicki Minaj and that ass.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, she was clearly on an auction block, so I just want to know how much they paid for her.
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  SPEAKER_00: To sell your dignity.
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  SPEAKER_00: How much did the white man pay for you?
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  SPEAKER_00: I kind of knew that Nikki was slipping when she started talking about Christianity.
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  SPEAKER_00: That she went into this whole Christian psychosis thing and she ain't been right since.
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  SPEAKER_00: Speaking of you Christians, who are y'all voting for?
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  SPEAKER_00: I truly hope that the churches you are attending have been working tirelessly to get people to the polls.
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  SPEAKER_00: I hope you have plans for those days.
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  SPEAKER_00: I hope that your ministers and have been giving sermons about the importance of voting and how you should vote like Jesus, how you should take care of the poor, provide health care and daycare and take care of children, how you should house the unhoused, help those who are incarcerated, how you should give hope to the hopeless, how you should feed the masses.
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  SPEAKER_00: I hope that that is the sermon that everyone will be getting at their churches on Sunday before election day.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you don't get that message, leave that goddamn church.
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  SPEAKER_00: So thank you for listening to the Rich Spencer Podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: Have a wonderful week, everyone, and hopefully next week we'll provide some good news.