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From Heartbreak to Healing Grief: Sandy Falter’s Journey of Faith · Arise Women of God

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  God just, that was the message he kept giving me is you need to help women heal.
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  But then Satan was like, well, who do you think you are?
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  But he loves to come in that, in that side door and whisper and say, oh, nobody's gonna listen to you.
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  And.
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  And so I think the first thing is that I had to really recognize the voice of God and recognize the voice of the adversary.
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  That was.
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  That has been really important to me.
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  And one tool that I use to help me and I use this daily is affirmat.
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  I need to be reminded every day of who I am and of my purpose.
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  Are you a woman who knows God is calling you to something more, but you're unsure where to start or how to grow it into something impactful?
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  You are not alone and you're in the right place.
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  Welcome to the Arise Women of God podcast, a show for Christian women who feel called to shine his light and step into their divine purpose.
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  Each week you'll hear stories of faithful women, both from the Bible and today, who heard God's voice and chose to say yes even when it felt uncomfortable or uncertain to step with faith into the unknown.
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  You'll walk away with encouragement, spiritual insight and practical steps to follow those holy promptings in your own life.
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  So let's arise together as women warriors of light.
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  Let's do it God's way.
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  God strong.
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  Hell and welcome to another episode of the Arise Women of God podcast.
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  I'm your host, Tamara K.
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  Anderson and I am so excited to that we have another women warrior spotlight today of a woman who has done just as this podcast suggests.
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  She has arisen and is walking as a woman of God.
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  But it hasn't come super easily.
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  So welcome Sandy Falter.
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  It's good to have you on the show.
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  Thank you.
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  I'm so happy to be here.
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  All right, so let me do a quick intro on Sandy and we will dive into why she is here.
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  And I'm.
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  I'm just so thrilled.
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  So.
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  Sandy Falter is a certified grief coach and a certified speaker who equips her clients with sound principles, practical tools and Christ centered guidance to heal and rebuild after life's deepest losses.
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  Drawing from her own experiences with divorce and the loss of loved ones, Sandy leads others to the master healer, empowering them to find peace, restore hope and create a joyful, purposeful life with Christ.
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  She specializes in relationship conflicts and divorce recovery and embraces authenticity, vulnerability, creating a safe space for transformation.
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  For over a decade, she has captivated and inspired audience from small intimate gatherings to large conference stages.
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  With her Heartfelt storytelling and practical wisdom.
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  Sandy's newest venture, her upcoming podcast will extend her mission of offering hope, healing and faith filled encouragement to listeners around the world.
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  So exciting, Sandy.
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  So I just can't wait to ask this question, but tell me about this new podcast that is launching the same week as this episode.
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  So just, just give me a quick, exciting update on that.
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  Well, it's called From Heartbreak to Healing.
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  And the mission of the podcast is to bring hope sound principles, practical tools, and hope centered in Jesus Christ, the master healer.
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  So I'm so excited to.
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  In fact, this morning I got a text from the editor who is working on getting it ready for me to publish.
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  And just the intro helped this editor across the country, across the world actually, who was going through a divorce and, and he felt hope.
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  And that is what I'm hoping, is that people can go away inspired.
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  They can go away with tools and connection to Christ and the strength and power that we can draw from him.
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  Well, and there's such need for that, don't you think?
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  I mean, this is what we.
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  Let me, let me just back up.
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  Why don't you tell me how you feel God called you into this mission of extending hope and healing to others because I know it was quite a journey, right?
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  It was a journey.
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  And, and I, you know, I was broken.
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  I became very broken.
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  I lost my dad in 2018, and in 2019, my husband left me and married my best friend.
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  And then in 2020, my mom was diagnosed with cancer.
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  And I took care of my mom and my canc.
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  My mom and my brother, who both passed in 2021.
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  And I hit rock bottom and I, I needed help.
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  And I actually wrote a poem about how I was a rock, I was solid, people could count on me.
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  Maybe I was a little proud too, right?
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  Maybe.
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  Maybe I needed to be humbled.
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  But I was pulverized.
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  And I was sand.
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  And sand, it can't be strong on its own.
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  It requires, you know, tools.
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  It requires others to make it strong.
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  And that was a good lesson for me, that I need to reach out and I need to allow others, and especially the Savior, to give me the strength.
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  And what I love about sand is it can be refined into glass.
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  And, and so I've been through this refining process and I've been able to see God's purpose in me as he's refining me and, and creating things for me that I never expected it.
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  My story really is a beauty for Ashes story, how he can take all this tragedy and turn it for his purpose.
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  And for my good, it's been a beautiful experience.
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  So after all this heartbreak and finding a grief coach that walked me through the healing process, my life was transformed.
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  And the spirit called me to, you need to help other.
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  Other women who are struggling.
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  You need to help bring them to the master healer.
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  You need to equip them with good tools and empower them.
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  And so it was not what I had done before.
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  This is all new.
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  And I've never felt so much joy in the work that I do.
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  Oh, wow.
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  That is such a powerful inspiration.
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  It really, really is.
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  Because.
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  And.
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  And I think this is something that in our minds, anytime we've been through a severe grief or a trauma, we often feel like we are stuck in such a deep, dark hole.
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  Right.
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  And we wonder, is it even possible to heal from that?
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  There's a lot of people out there that say, no, you will have that weight on your shoulders, that pain and stabbing in your heart for the rest of your life.
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  What would you say to that, Sandy?
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  I would say that is God's.
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  Not God's purpose for us.
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  His joy is for us, or his purpose is for us to find joy in this life.
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  And he's created our bodies to be able to heal, and he's created opportunities for us to be able to grow.
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  And all of this is a growth experience.
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  And I believe we can stay stuck.
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  I was, for quite some time, stuck.
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  I was stuck in victim mindset.
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  I was stuck struggling to forgive.
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  I was just stuck.
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  And I needed some help to help me move forward and to be able to see hope, to see how I can heal and move forward.
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  But he offers that to us.
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  It is there.
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  And we don't have to feel the weight of grief for the rest of our life.
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  We will feel sadness.
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  We will miss those that we loved that are gone.
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  That is true.
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  But it doesn't have to be the heavy weight of grief that just binds us down.
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  And I didn't think I would ever be happy again.
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  I.
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  I truly didn't.
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  I thought my life was.
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  The good of my life was over.
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  And that's not true.
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  And that's not his plan for us.
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  Wow.
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  That is a beautiful reminder to us.
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  And.
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  And it gives us hope, right?
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  It gives us hope that, okay, circumstances like divorce or death or anything else that can trigger grief.
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  That.
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  That does not mean your life is over.
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  But I like how you also emphasize that it's okay to be stuck, because a lot of people feel stuck for a while.
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  And I guess my question to you, you obviously found somebody that Helped you.
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  Helped you kind of start moving in the right direction.
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  What.
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  What tip would you share with someone who is stuck right now and they're like, oh, my gosh, Sandy, I.
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  That is where I am.
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  What one tip would you share with them to start moving through the grief?
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  Well, I think the first thing is to know that it's okay for you to be right where you are.
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  Mm.
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  It's part of your journey.
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  And it's okay, because I think if we get down on ourselves, you know, I should be.
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  That just causes shame.
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  Right.
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  So what if it's okay that you're right where you're at?
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  And what if there's hope for healing and.
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  And the ability to move forward?
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  So I think the first step is just this acceptance of where we are and that it's okay.
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  And I get to choose how I move forward.
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  I get to choose to heal.
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  And making that choice, I had to reach out.
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  I got to the point where I knew I couldn't do this any longer, and I had to reach out for someone who knew how to guide me.
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  So I would say find someone who can guide you to healing.
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  Find someone who has experienced healing, who is inspiring, who will lead you not only to proper skills and tools, but also to the master healer, because ultimately he is the one who can heal our hearts.
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  I think time alone is.
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  Is important.
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  So if you're fresh, give yourself grace.
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  It is going to take time, and that's okay.
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  It is part of the journey.
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  But time alone doesn't heal correctly.
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  Right.
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  We need to go get our.
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  Our bones splinted or whatever it is.
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  Right.
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  We do need effective tools.
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  We need sound principles so that we can heal correctly and.
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  And.
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  And move forward in a happy, joyful, purposeful way and not stay stuck.
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  Yeah, that's.
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  That's very wise.
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  I love that.
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  Oh, those are heavy things, Sandy.
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  My goodness.
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  But it.
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  But it does give us hope.
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  Right?
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  Okay.
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  So if you're stuck, there is hope.
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  We'll start with that.
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  So, Sandy, let.
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  Let's kind of go back to this journey.
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  You.
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  You feel you've been called to help other people.
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  Tell me exactly what your calling is that God has called you to do some obstacles that you've encountered as you have stepped or tried to step in and now are stepping into it more fully.
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  This.
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  This calling of helping others who are struggling.
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  Well, I think Satan knows our weakness as well.
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  And so the first was after I had experienced healing and my life had shifted.
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  Everything in my life had changed after divorce.
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  And so I needed to find A new career.
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  And I felt called to help other women who were experiencing this and not just women.
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  I've had.
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  You know, I've had conversations with men, too, but I feel called to help women.
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  And the thought on my heart is that if you can help a woman heal, you're helping not only her, but her family and generations.
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  And God just.
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  That was the message he kept giving me, is, you need to help women heal.
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  And.
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  But then Satan was like, well, who do you think you are?
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  Like, this isn't your background, right?
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  And so, you know, I went through and I became certified.
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  But he loves to come in that.
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  In that side door and whisper and say, oh, nobody's gonna listen to you.
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  And so I think the first thing is that I had to really come to this space where I could turn that off and.
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  And recognize the voice, right?
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  Recognize the voice of God and recognize the voice of the adversary.
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  That was.
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  That has been really important to me.
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  And one tool that I use to help me, and I use this daily is affirmations.
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  I need to be reminded every day of who I am and of my purpose.
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  And so I have a list of affirmations that are stuck to my mirror that I remind myself.
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  I set myself up every day to.
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  To be able to live in my purpose.
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  And that has been a huge shift for me and has really helped me, like, fight the adversary and those voices that want to say, who do you think you are?
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  But God knows who I am, and he's given me this.
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  This opportunity to experience really hard things and then be able to use that to glorify Him.
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  And I just have to remember that.
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  So that's the first thing.
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  And then the great thing about God is that he loves to see us grow.
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  And that means he loves to see us, like, stretch and step into discomfort.
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  And so I thought, okay, I'm just going to be a coach, and that's it.
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  And then I started helping teach grief coach certification courses for my mentor.
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  And now I do that.
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  I teach grief coach certification.
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  And that was a big stretch and growth.
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  And then my latest was this.
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  You know, you need to start a podcast, and who am I?
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  Right?
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  It's the voices again.
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  Satan knows that's a good attack on me.
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  And so I had to be so intentional.
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  And a lot of times it's easy to be busy doing stuff that makes you think you're being productive and moving towards the mission, but I finally had to just be so intentional.
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  Today I am going to.
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  And then I picked what I'm going to do.
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  To move forward to the calling that he's put on my heart.
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  Yes, it's scary and it's uncomfortable.
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  And listening to my house self talk and editing myself, like, that's uncomfortable.
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  Right?
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  And.
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  And I can nitpick it or I can go into it with prayer and just say, God, please help me say the words that I need to say that will reach who you need it to reach and.
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  And trust him.
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  And so that has been a big thing is trusting.
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  He's put this on my heart.
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  He knows I'm not perfect.
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  He's not looking for perfection in any of us.
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  And I think that's where we get often caught up is in this perfectionism.
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  I didn't start the podcast for, like, five months because I knew it wasn't going to be perfect.
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  That's not okay.
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  He doesn't expect perfection.
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  I love thinking about the creation.
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  Right.
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  He didn't expect the world to be created and everything done in one day.
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  Every day something was done.
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  And that is good.
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  And the next day.
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  And that was good.
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  And it was enough.
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  And it was.
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  It was.
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  It was good enough for him to do a little bit every day.
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  And.
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  And so I just started to like, okay, what am I going to do today?
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  And.
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  And I'll do that, and that is enough.
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  And then I'll work on it again tomorrow.
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  And so kind of changing my perspective of, I don't.
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  It doesn't need to be per.
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  I just.
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  My best is all he's asking for.
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  And that shift has been helpful, too.
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  Oh, my goodness.
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  You just shared several really good nuggets there.
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  Just restating a few of them.
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  When the adversary whispers those doubts in your mind, that imposter syndrome, it is so, so common.
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  Right.
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  Anytime we're stepping into something new and different, the adversary is right there to, nope, you can't do that.
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  You're not smart enough.
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  You're not strong enough.
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  I love that you countered that with affirmations.
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  Would you mind sharing a few of the affirmations that you say to on your mirror?
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  I would, as you were doing that, I'm like, I need to put my affirmations on my mirror.
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  You know, and they change.
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  I will say that.
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  So in the beginning, my affirmation was, I can do all things through Christ.
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  Like, I would repeat that throughout the day.
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  And I would say, I choose hope.
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  Like, in the beginning, that's what I needed to tell myself.
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  And so I think affirmations, knowing that they can change and they can be what you need to know right now.
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  And being Flexible to shift them when you need to.
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  When you need to grow a little bit more.
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  And so now my affirmations are, I am an empowered woman here to glorify God and to share hope with others.
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  That's one of my affirmations.
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  I say every day, like, I need to be reminded that this is the call he's put on my heart.
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  And with Him, I can do this.
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  Oh, I love that.
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  I love that so much.
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  Now, you also mentioned that now that you're stepping into this podcasting and it's been new and scary, and again, the adversary is attacking you.
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  You used prayer.
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  I heard you say that, you know, praying through it.
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  I also love that you reminded yourself that God doesn't expect us to produce perfect things all at once, you know, and.
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  And nothing we are going to do is ever going to be perfect.
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  Right.
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  But I also loved how you said it took me about five months to do that, because sometimes I think it takes our brains time to process that and go, okay, I'm going to do this.
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  It's scary.
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  And.
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  And working through that process, through prayer.
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  Because that's what I had to do as well.
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  I had that.
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  I had a time period before I launched my podcast, my first podcast, where I had to kind of battle it out and deal with some personal issues first so that I could feel comfortable sharing my voice and my
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  story with the world.
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  And I had to realize that my voice was worth listening to, you know, and that is hard.
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  And the only way you get through it, again, it's, we're pointing back to Jesus.
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  This whole podcast, right, is through Christ.
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  I love, love, love that.
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  Not only in your grief coaching do you point back to Christ, but in your.
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  In stepping into your calling, you've had to lean on him, you know, and.
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  And that has really been my anchor.
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  And from when I was just too weak to stand to now.
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  I think one of the scriptures that I love that has really helped me is, um, in proverbs, lean not to your own own understanding.
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  And that's where I find myself.
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  I find myself.
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  Oh, I should, I should, I should, right?
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  But when I.
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  When I start grounding myself in him, centering myself in the Savior and not leaning, because if we're leaning to our own understanding, we're off center, right?
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  And so if I recenter myself in Christ, the promise of that scripture is that he will guide us, he will direct our paths.
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  And so I've had to really focus on turning back to him in prayer and being in his word to say, okay, what, What Is it you want me to know what is it you want me to say?
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  How should I move forward?
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  And we're promised that we'll get that direction.
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  And so trusting that if I lean on him and not lean to my own understanding and get out of balance, that I will get the direction that I receive.
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  And that has been so help.
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  Oh, my goodness.
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  I absolutely love that analogy.
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  I've never thought of that verse of Scripture as an actually leaning off balance, but that makes so, like, that visual image in my mind.
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  That is so true.
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  Right?
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  Yeah, I love that.
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  All right, I'm going to ask you to tell me a story.
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  Take me to a point where.
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  Where you really had to lean on God and tell me a story of what that looked like and how he helped you move forward in.
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  In.
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  In this journey, in this calling of doing hard things.
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  I think probably one of the biggest transitional moments of my life was when I was really struggling to forgive.
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  And after experiencing divorce and betrayal, I was struggling.
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  And God's word tells us we need to forgive.
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  If we want to be forgiven, we need to forgive.
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  And.
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  And I truly wanted to.
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  And.
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  And I'm a very visual person, just like visualizing that Scripture.
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  And so I just remember visualizing just kneeling at the Savior's feet.
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  And this weight was heavy.
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  I'd been carrying it a long time, and I didn't want to carry it, and it wasn't fair.
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  And sometimes it's really hard to forgive when you're a victim.
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  And so I was trying to wrestle with this, trying to figure out how to do this.
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  And I just remember praying and just putting it at his feet.
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  I just visualized kneeling at the Savior's feet and just giving him all of it and just praying that he would take it from me and.
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  And allow my heart to be free of this, because I didn't know how to do it.
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  I wanted to do it, but I didn't know how.
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  And so that visual of just.
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  I mean, I just sobbed and just pictured him right in front of me, and me at his feet and crying and giving it to Him.
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  And when I finished praying, that darkness in my heart was gone.
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  All of a sudden, my heart was filled with light and love.
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  And, like, there was a weight lifted.
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  And I.
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  And I will say that in.
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  When you go through hard things and you've been a victim of something, often you pick it back up, right?
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  And you go, wait, wait, wait.
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  I've already.
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  I've already.
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  I've already said I was going to forgive this.
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  And so.
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  But I Got really good at practicing because that's what he wants us to do, is practice, not perfection.
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  It's not a one time I forgive and I'm done.
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  That's why it says 70 times 7, right?
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  Because it's something we get to practice over and over.
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  And so I got to continue to practice going to the Savior and not just forgiveness, but all of my heavy burdens instead of carrying them.
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  He's told us he'll carry our burdens.
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  One of my other favorite go to scriptures when I'm struggling is Matthew 11:28 through 30, which is, come unto me, all you that are weary and heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
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  And when you're weary, that's all you want is rest.
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  And so learning how to just be at his feet and give him my burdens has transformed my life.
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  That is probably one of the biggest transformative experiences of my life.
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  And now I continue to use that visualization to bless me so that I can free my heart again and again so that I can feel his light and love.
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  Oh, that.
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  Thank you for sharing that tender and sweet experience.
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  It is so helpful to know that no matter where you are in life, because we're all carrying burdens of some kind.
• 24:06
  Right.
• 24:08
  That we can give those burdens to the Savior and probably ask for a little bit of help not to pick them up again.
• 24:17
  Yeah, absolutely.
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  Because I've done that same thing.
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  I'm like, here, take this and kind of you leave and kind of dragging it a little bit back with you.
• 24:27
  You know, just, no, no, I'm leaving this.
• 24:29
  I don't want to take it back with me because it is so much easier to say that you do it versus actually doing it.
• 24:38
  Right.
• 24:40
  Yeah, well.
• 24:41
  And I think it's important to understand what that looks like.
• 24:43
  I had a woman come to me the other day, just so sad.
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  She said, I just feel like I am not trusting God.
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  I can't just give it to him because I keep worrying about it.
• 24:53
  And I said, okay, well, let's talk about this.
• 24:54
  Because I don't think he means give it to him and don't think about it again.
• 25:00
  I think it's when we're thinking about it, it's like if we're shopping for, you know, a red blazer, we're going to see red blazers everywhere, a red car, whatever that is.
• 25:07
  Right.
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  I don't think it means we don't think about it again.
• 25:11
  I think it means we trust that he's going to give us an answer and he's going to Help us, because he doesn't expect in.
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  In our broken abilities that we can just forget all of our worries.
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  I don't think that's the expectation.
• 25:26
  And this poor woman was so down on herself because she was praying for help and she was praying that she could trust him with this, but she was still thinking about it.
• 25:35
  I said, well, is that wrong?
• 25:37
  And what if in the thinking about it, you're able to come up with solutions and you're able to find the solutions because it's present in your mind.
• 25:45
  So I think we need to be careful a little bit.
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  Sometimes we think giving it to him means that we don't think about it anymore, and that's.
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  That's beyond our ability in our minds.
• 25:56
  So giving ourselves lots of grace, that we just keep doing it.
• 26:00
  We keep turning to him and he'll give us answers.
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  And little bit by little bit, line upon line, it'll come.
• 26:09
  I think that is true personally and also in business, right?
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  In whatever we're doing that.
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  I've gone to God so many times, too, as a businesswoman and said, here's what I'm dealing with.
• 26:22
  You know, this.
• 26:23
  This challenge with setting up this business or this podcast or whatever it is, and how do I.
• 26:30
  How do I solve this?
• 26:31
  You know, giving those problems to God, whether it's the heaviness of grief or the heaviness of challenges that we're dealing with in.
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  In school, in work, in whatever, that we can give that to him and say, help me.
• 26:54
  Help me figure out the right solution, you know, and then listening for those answers.
• 26:58
  Or maybe different times, they come in different ways.
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  Sometimes it's through a friend talking to us that, you know, the little light bulb moment happens.
• 27:07
  You're like, oh, my gosh, that's totally it right there, you know, and other times it's in the scriptures that we'll find the answer.
• 27:15
  Or, you know, they come in different ways.
• 27:18
  But what a blessing it is.
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  I love that you shared how.
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  How it is that we can turn to him, give him what we're struggling with, and then it's a partnership almost.
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  Don't you think?
• 27:34
  I do.
• 27:35
  I think it is.
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  And I think, you know, he tells us to.
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  To ponder on it, to think about it like he tells us to.
• 27:42
  I mean, he wants us to use what we have and to be thinking about it.
• 27:46
  But the.
• 27:47
  The balancing act is not leaning on our own understanding, right?
• 27:51
  It's trusting that he will provide the answer.
• 27:54
  And the way he is the way.
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  And his ways are higher than ours.
• 27:58
  And if we Trust that he'll provide the answer, the direction, all of that.
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  And so it is a partnership.
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  Instead of just doing it my way, it's a partnership.
• 28:07
  And if we do that, the blessings come.
• 28:09
  The answers come so often through friends or through a sermon or through the scriptures, or it could even come through a song.
• 28:17
  Right?
• 28:18
  It's so amazing how many ways he can speak to our hearts and give us the answer and the comfort and the guidance that we need.
• 28:26
  So, so wise.
• 28:27
  Thank you.
• 28:28
  Sandy, question.
• 28:31
  You have shared a lot about how, who you have become through this process and what you do.
• 28:38
  Would you mind sharing with us where people can find you?
• 28:42
  Because I'm sure there's some people at this point going, well, wait, Sandy does grief coaching?
• 28:46
  I want Sandy to grief coach me or I want to learn more about Sandy for my friend who's going through this, you know.
• 28:52
  So would you mind sharing with us where people can go to find you and tell us about the services you provide and again, share the new podcast title.
• 29:02
  Okay, awesome.
• 29:04
  Sandifelter.com is where you can find my resources.
• 29:07
  I have.
• 29:08
  If you go to coach.sandifelter.com it'll take you a page just for resources.
• 29:13
  You'll put in your email address and I'll send you a PDF with 20 tools that really helped me and they help my clients in that, that step by step moving forward and healing after heartbreak.
• 29:24
  And that can be any heartbreak.
• 29:26
  I've coached clients that have experienced a variety of heartbreak and because grief comes when we've experienced loss and that looks different for everyone and so just giving ourselves that grace that it your loss isn't less than someone else's
• 29:44
  if it looks different.
• 29:45
  So you can go to my website, find free resources there.
• 29:49
  And I do have coaching packages and things like that.
• 29:53
  I love the opportunity to share my message, which is why I now have my podcast, which is From Heartbreak to Healing podcast.
• 30:02
  You'll find me on YouTube, you'll find me on all the other platforms that you can listen to your podcast and I'll share messages of inspiration, of hope, principles, tools, and we'll have guests come on and share their stories
• 30:17
  and the things that they've learned in their life's journey as they have come to heal through Christ and in different ways and tools that they have.
• 30:27
  So I'm, I'm super excited just to bring more hope to the world.
• 30:33
  Oh, I love that.
• 30:34
  Now, Sandy, are you also on social media?
• 30:38
  I am, And it's just Sandy Falter underscore coaching is how you'll find me Sandy Falter, coaching on social media.
• 30:44
  Oh, wonderful.
• 30:45
  Thank you.
• 30:46
  Thank you.
• 30:46
  Thank you so much.
• 30:48
  Before we conclude this podcast, I have one final question I'd love to ask you, and that is for the woman out there who is maybe a little bit nervous about stepping into her divine calling, what would.
• 31:04
  What message of hope would you share with her?
• 31:09
  Well, I think one of my mantras and from the scriptures is I can do all things through Christ, which strengthens me.
• 31:18
  And so I would say, if you're feeling called, know that you can do anything you're called to do.
• 31:23
  This was way beyond what I ever thought my life would look like.
• 31:27
  And I.
• 31:28
  I mean, who wants to be a grief coach?
• 31:30
  Like, let's start there, right?
• 31:32
  I never thought when I grew up I want to be a grief coach.
• 31:34
  But God.
• 31:36
  God provides a way.
• 31:37
  And whatever he calls you to do, you will find joy and purpose in that because of Him.
• 31:44
  He will.
• 31:45
  He will guide and direct and strengthen.
• 31:48
  And it's exhilarating to glorify Him.
• 31:54
  There's no other word to describe it, just the opportunity to.
• 31:58
  To share a message of hope and bring others to Christ and glorify him brings so much joy and strength and power into my own life that when we step into the.
• 32:11
  The call God has given us, there is greater love and joy and light and sense of purpose than I ever imagined.
• 32:19
  So don't be afraid of the scary next steps and the discomfort, because I feel like God compensates tenfold for those who are willing to step into this space of.
• 32:32
  Of stepping up to do things for Him.
• 32:36
  Oh, my goodness, Sandy, thank you so much.
• 32:39
  Those are just perfect words to end on.
• 32:43
  And oh, my goodness.
• 32:45
  Thank you for sharing your story.
• 32:47
  Your story being brave of walking through kind of a crazy time period during your life, but also sharing how God gave you such hope and such purpose that this is now what you do for others.
• 33:02
  It is so inspirational.
• 33:04
  So thank you for sharing your amazing story of hope.
• 33:07
  And for those of you listening, may you arise.
• 33:12
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• 33:19
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• 33:20
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