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Season 2 - Episode 73 - The good opinion of others · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So, I think if you've listened to me for any amount of time,
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  you know how I have a just absolute love in my heart for
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  dr. Wayne Dyer.
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  He was one of my most favorite speakers that I ever had the
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  pleasure of working with and listening to and learning from.
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  I mean, the man was just tremendous on many, many levels
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  one of his quotes, which is just had such an influence on my
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  life. I want to share with you today.
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  What other people think of me is none of my business One of the
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  highest places you can get to is being independent of the good
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  opinion of other people. So pause, and think about that
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  for a second. How many of us are driven by the
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  good opinion of other people, what got me thinking about, this
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  was some studying that I'm doing and influence and persuasion and
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  there's a whole thing about how we thrive on the idea of likes
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  and how we all are just focused on the like mentality and how
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  because we are so driven as human beings to have other
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  people like us. That's what social media
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  actually uses on us. It wants us to see the little
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  heart, the little like button, the little thumbs up, and it
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  makes us feel like, oh, wow, people like me, but really was
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  like, haunting me ever, since I read all this about it and I was
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  like, wow. Okay, so because I never
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  actually put it together that you know, I know what social
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  media does in the psychology behind it, but I'd never put it
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  together that there was this whole human part of it that was
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  all about the like factor and how because we want someone to
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  like us, that's what's happening in the coast.
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  So when I heard that I was like, wow, I can't believe I never put
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  that together and then I started thinking about Wayne Dyer in the
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  good opinion of other people. And I said, you know what, I
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  just have to share this with everybody because we Get so hung
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  up on what other people think about us.
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  We forget to say, I have to be in check about what I think
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  about myself and how I'm going to have myself focus on for a
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  day, or a moment, whatever it might be.
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  But I can't be worried about what other people are constantly
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  thinking. I have to be worried about what
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  I'm thinking because that's just not the right thing to do to be
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  focused on what other people are thinking and how much it takes
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  us away from. The the good parts of ourselves.
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  So when you start to think about this and you start to really
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  take in what he said in that, quote, when you really start to
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  think about that particular quote and you start to, you
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  know, look at it from the perspective of what other people
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  think of me is none of my business.
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  Wow, that is powerful. It doesn't matter what people
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  think of you and I have to say, I really do.
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  Do subscribe to this ever since I heard it years ago.
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  I was like, you know, that's so true.
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  There was a time in my life when I got hung up and worried about
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  what other people thought of me and it created.
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  So much anxiety in my life to be liked and to be thought of as
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  someone that people could trust or work with or whatever it
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  might be. That I forgot to focus on who I
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  wanted to be as a person when I Let Go.
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  Of that. For the most part, I will say,
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  listen, I do want my husband to have an opinion and give that to
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  me. I want my husband to like, who I
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  am as a person because he is a trusted advisor in my world.
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  He was right behind me. I want my children to look up
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  and say, hey, I'm proud of the person that she is, but other
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  than that, I will tell even tell my son.
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  Now, it doesn't matter that you don't like me, right?
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  This moment because it's more important that I'm your parent.
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  And I think it's so critically important to keep putting those
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  things in perspective for ourselves because if we don't,
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  we're just going to keep going through this cycle of worrying
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  over and over and over what people think of us.
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  And it doesn't give us a healthy environment internally to live
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  and Thrive and be. So I'm going to challenge you
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  guys to really start thinking about this and saying I am I
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  living off of the good opinion of Other people I might just
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  allowing them to dictate all this for me or am I doing the
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  right thing? And reconsidering my ability to
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  let so much stuff in my checking in with myself.
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  And say you know what, I'm just not going to let this stuff in
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  anymore. This is ridiculous, not letting
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  this stuff in my head anymore. I'm not going to pay any
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  attention to it and I'm not going to give it any Credence.
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  So ask yourself that question and really Disconnect from the
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  good opinion of other people. Because unless there are a
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  trusted advisor and you know that they are neutral and giving
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  you the facts, you probably shouldn't be looking at it.
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  So I hope you guys have a very blessed day and I will see you
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  tomorrow. Bye.
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  Disconnect from the good opinion of other people.
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  Because unless there are a trusted advisor and you know
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  that they are neutral and giving you the facts, you probably
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  shouldn't be looking at it. So I hope you guys have a very
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  blessed day and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.