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Rabbi Moshe Haber Anxiety, Faith, and the Modern Jewish Experience 11.5.25 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  In 2020 week here, let's say 10 years old, eleven years old.
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  He spends a year at home with unbelievable level of trauma,
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  tension, fearful life. The sirens that pass out when
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  they're telling you that you're hunkering down, you don't know
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  what's coming. And then they wake up after the
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  holiday and they hear all the memes and they give you a pile
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  on the names of people assembly without No Longer Alive and the
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  whole scene and the graveside funerals and all the talk.
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  And it was a little bit dramatic.
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  And the kids picked up on everything.
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  Every kid had access to an iPhone.
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  And every kid, I don't care what level of religious or what, they
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  all have access to every detailed news.
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  It does not pertain only to the community or only to the
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  mainstream community. It pertains to every child.
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  OK, unbelievable level of Trump. Then they come out of that and
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  then you have whatever life brought along with the AIBLM,
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  people moving to deal during the time, people hunking me down for
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  months on him, their masks, attention, all that.
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  Then he got a little while later of a few years later, yeah,
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  October 7th. There was something in between.
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  I forget 'cause it was October 7th, like I said, October 7th of
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  you walking into your shoe. And that's what I remember, the
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  scene of the security guard. I remember the tension in shoe.
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  You were there. The fear, the unbelievable
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  chaos, the anxiety it can build for a 1213 year old child have a
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  7-8 year old child is beyond. They dealt with that for years,
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  two years, literally on and off. The idea of hostages, the fact
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  that they're watching videos of hostages.
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  Could you imagine what a kid thinks?
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  The fact that they're seeing soldiers and they seem, like I
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  said, these sharp, normal looking boys passing away one
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  after the other. And you see the names and they
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  see the ages and the seed, the Jewish names and they see where
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  they came from. And we're adults.
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  We can forget about the kids. OK, Why?
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  And then they see the hostages get free and they see, they come
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  out of skeletons and they see and talk about the horrors and
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  the kids are picking up on this. I would delete on my WhatsApp
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  any video of any of these things before my kids touch my phone.
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  Imagine I had to be like a put on a screen or any video of
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  these things because they'd pick up and they go straight to them.
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  Then they had to deal with the elections right 24 and all the
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  hysteria and the sense that if he would lose the world would go
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  completely crazy. That was a sense right?
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  And that was our feeling and that's emotion that we give over
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  fair true great. Now you have this this for the
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  kids the last month build up and looking at the guy like he
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  literally is going to represent evil or his words evil.
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  They therefore dangerous. Is it a scary for
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  representation? Absolutely it is.
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  There's a lot of realities that step in that can protect us.
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  And one of the big ones is the fact that anything she says she
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  can do, he can't do. And a bigger one is the fact
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  that God exists. All right.
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  And really we should have told our children the whole time we
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  have to look at things with wise, you know, one eye open, I
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  got it sleeve with one eye wide open.
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  Have to be aware. You have to be on top of things.
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  You have to be responsible that much.
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  Yes, we can tell our children from COVID until now, but the
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  tension that they live with is impossible.
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  I do not expect any child to go without anxiety right now.
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  I can't How they how is it possible?
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  How can they not have anxiety? How can a child focus on school?
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  How can they have a regular day where they just enjoy their
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  family? I say this all the time.
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  I grew up in the 90s right? In the 90s everything was easy.
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  I don't remember any of this right.
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  It's the same Hans Shamble as the world seem exact Hashem.
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  You want to tell us he's telling us to go to Israel.
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  Well, look, Israel's not a piece of cake.
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  It's not that simple, not a basic cake.
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  There are kids on the front line.
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  There are sirens. There are fears.
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  It's a life that the people there accept the chaos a little
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  more and they can live with it. They can handle it.
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  You can have as really cab drivers making jokes while
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  they're, you know, dealing with whatever's going on.
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  You can have people functioning while the kids are even on the
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  front lines. It's a different head.
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  Absolutely. It's.
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  It's equally disturbing because they have the We're in the
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  middle of the Civil War. You have both.
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  Then you have that too. You have that.
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  Sorry. I saw that million man walk.
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  We have that too. And also I said the chaos.
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  There's a lot there. We're fine.
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  You want to say go there, are you?
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  That's that part of the gallow that I hope is light really is.
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  Attention that we're. Feeling the whole idea is to
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  accept the galut and they recognize we are living in it.
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  And at times we get pockets of outward calm and at times we
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  don't get that luxury of outward calm.
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  But at the same time, we are always able to have the inside
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  calm. We're always able to have it.
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  And the fear and the concern of what's going to happen tomorrow
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  is not really something that's supposed to ruin today.
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  Because ultimately all these things are really, in my humble
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  opinion, they really all a very strong representation of the et
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  cetera, et cetera. Says, I guess I got these
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  beautiful Jewish people. They have a good mind, they have
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  good families, they have good upbringing, even have good
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  faith. The wonderful people.
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  Let me do something to them. Let me upset their entire life.
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  So let me show them a, a image of something that happens in, I
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  don't know, in a different country, some sort of attack and
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  let that be on there in front of their eyes.
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  Let me show them something else happens in another side of this
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  country. And then let me once in a while
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  even show them something happens in that backyard like this just
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  happened. And that's really, really scary.
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  And let's put that together. And then people paint the
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  picture and then you start having this mindset of tomorrow
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  and the next day and what's going to be and what's going to
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  come. And then you function with a
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  light. Well, you can't really accept
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  building your home and you can't really accept the idea that your
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  children are going to set up shop over here and you really
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  have a hard time moving forward. And you really have a difficult
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  time thinking about the beauty of our Georgia getting married
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  all the summertime, all the holidays coming, whatever it is
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  as beauty in our lives. They have a little bit of a
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  damper on that beauty because Allah, a little damper on the
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  beauty because, oh, something's going to be tomorrow.
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  I think it was tomorrow. We all live until 120 years,
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  right? It's a very limited amount of
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  time. It's not that long.
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  And God gave us a beautiful life within them.
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  And it is, in a certain sense a bubble life.
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  It doesn't even have to live in a bubble.
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  It means it's a bubble life now. Life is beautiful among this
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  chaos. I went to a wedding last night
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  and people are dancing by the wedding.
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  And we already knew who won. And my mindset was at the time
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  be myself. They're dancing.
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  They might know too, but it's a funny thing.
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  They're dancing. They're so excited.
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  If you follow the words in the news and you follow our
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  approach, there's no dancing. Follow our approach is the
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  opposite. It should be very should be
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  crying. It should be very upsetting.
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  I said this morning, I have an emotion that only hits me a
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  couple of times, OK? You know, honestly, it's a
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  sports emotion. A double S loss to the Rangers
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  in 1997. OK, He was 97.
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  I remember this like yesterday. I was a teenager when I was a
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  young, young teenager. I was a young kid and I was on a
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  teenager before we under that and you lost.
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  And I remember like yesterday, Messier cheated, OK, He ranged
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  your fans. And why not agree with me?
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  He cheated. He got into the crease and he
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  scored a goal while being in the crease, which is a penalty.
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  He was in the crease and he pushed the goalie around.
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  He pushed the goalie around. I remember crying.
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  I remember sitting there crying, all right, as a double face.
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  It's not a fear. He was in the crease.
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  He was in the crease. He's in the crease.
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  And that emotion, that feeling of the morning after that has
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  hit me a couple of times. It hit me then 97 in him when
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  the Yankees lost the World Series, I believe in 2001.
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  OK, that was also a very upsetting feeling when they had
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  that the that they call it shock and awe with the I remember this
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  2 will it was against the Yankees.
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  Barry, Arizona, yes, Arizona. I have only the feeling and they
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  lost and then we had this feeling when in 2008 when he was
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  Mitt Romney, he lost to Obama. Same feeling.
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  Sorry, an emotion. All right, this emotion has been
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  done a couple of times. And this morning I woke up.
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  I think I woke up every hour. That's not actually maybe this
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  is the reason why. And I woke up with the same pin
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  on my son like like I'm not in the mood to go into the day.
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  I'm not in the mood for this. That feeling like you usually
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  have the bravado of the Trump bravado.
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  Hey, I've like the oh, everything in the news is, you
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  know, say things are going in. So oh wait, all that mindset.
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  So we're uncomfortable feeling and then you pile on what
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  happens you. Sounded like Hitler in this
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  speech. Yeah, you're gonna get it.
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  His under strong wasn't. We're not.
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  Alert. So then how does a person in his
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  life learn, right? So people always right?
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  You have to remember, like what happened with Hitler was the
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  real life, right? It wasn't propaganda, sure.
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  Jews. Were you know so?
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  But who's to say because we don't know.
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  Hush 1 Shamain. Maybe this is a Dallas sign.
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  Yeah, maybe this. Is the sign get out or or pay
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  the price later like? First of all, there's two things
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  it's very practical for. One is that, like I said, we're
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  going to which will we saw some Israel because it's a Florida
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  thing's a joke. Also Israel because anyway, we'd
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  rather be in Israel. That one is super duper
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  complicated in a lot of ways, right?
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  And it will destroy in a certain sense.
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  I know if everyone goes together, it won't destroy them.
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  If everyone goes separate, which is very practical, some people
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  go to you, shall I go to Rananas and we'll go to I.
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  These are the places and we'll go to talk about the practical
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  place people are going to today. These are the places people are
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  going to and that right there that loosely can be.
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  And I really firmly believe that nothing can penetrate is the key
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  point. Nothing can penetrate our
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  strength of total that we have today.
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  And it's a bit special riding with M1 idea.
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  The strength of total that we have today is stronger than
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  ever. That you want to call a bubble
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  doesn't mean that's a bubble where you ignore the world.
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  It's a bubble where you build up this road and even as the world
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  around you gets crazy, right, So it's still stronger than there.
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  And the key difference is a very important point.
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  The key difference between Germany and this world today,
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  besides the fact that it's a democratic country and many of
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  the things that people think they'd say they can do, they
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  can't do. And all that's true, all right?
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  And we are in a very heavily Jewish populated place.
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  The big difference is, is that the Jewish people at that time
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  were slipping terribly. And today we're not slipping at
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  all. And that means in every area, it
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  means religion, it means, it means and being together, it
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  means and having one voice, all those things are slipping.
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  So if they were slipping, the only thing that made the Jews
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  know that they were Jews, most of them were the Nazis.
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  We have so much going on for us. And again.
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  They voted and then both voted as a blocking together and it.
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  Does and the things, yeah, even whenever, right.
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  So that's both a faith idea and it's also an encouraging idea.
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  Tells us with not that type of structure where it's falling
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  apart and the only thing that's vulnerable is them.
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  We're quite vulnerable. We're actually more formal than
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  these crazies. We have more money, we have more
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  blessing, we have a lot more Hashem, and we have a much
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  greater, stronger structure than these crazies do.
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  Even within the situation and even though it's democratic and
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  even though they're not, we're never going to win.
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  And all that's correct, it doesn't take away from our
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  current structure. So therefore you tell yourself,
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  I have a beautiful life. The Itzada is very gifted and
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  the Itzada decided, let me scare people.
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  What is scaring people do it takes away your ability to
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  enjoy. So you go to a waiting list.
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  Now you're not so happy, you're happy for them.
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  You're not, You're not have the same feeling like you might be
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  if you're going with the etcetera, right?
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  Your kids wake up in the morning and you look at the kids with a
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  beautiful sight. All right, see your grandkids.
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  What a unbelievable gift that we have.
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  We have Torda, we have Shabbat, we have our marriages, we have
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  our homes, we have our deal homes.
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  We have everything going on. The only thing we don't have is
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  that thing out there in the distance that we're watching on
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  the news or maybe even our backyard this morning that's
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  meant to scare us. You know, what that's trying to
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  do is try to take away from your beauty.
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  Accept, enjoy, live your beauty. Sure, there's one eye open.
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  Yes, you have to double down on security.
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  Let's have to be more careful a little bit, absolutely.
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  But the tension, the fear, the cracking of our existence based
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  on this, first of all, it's silly.
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  Second of all, it's totally a representation of the Sahara.
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  And you're feeding it to the animal.
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  You're feeding it to the other side's animal.
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  All they want is fear. All they're looking for is try
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  to get us crazy. OK, I'll give you a classic
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  example. Maybe it's an extreme example.
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  The Shiba that I learned is right now some Benson has 80
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  seconds, Champion Bay Parkway, one of the classic, and she was
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  old fight for the last seven years.
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  It's still going on. There's a building on the corner
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  being built, a very big building.
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  What is this building? Mosque.
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  It's a future mosque. OK.
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  Is that really a mosque? It's an Arab Medical Center,
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  whatever you call it. But they all know it's gonna be
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  a mosque. Now, are they hysterical?
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  No. Did they try with all their
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  might and all the lobbying to to discourage another religious
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  center on the corner to try to use their legal right?
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  This topic? They did.
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  Did it work? Eventually.
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  It didn't work. It failed.
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  So now what does that mean? I look at them every day as I
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  live in, you know, over here, I don't live there.
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  I look at them. These guys are buying homes in
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  the area or they're renting it. I say, what's wrong with like,
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  what are you doing? First of all, it's taking this
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  mosque a million years to build. Was it was.
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  Every moth bed. Or no that their mind cities and
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  their mind cities they cannot the.
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  Good one. That's the good one.
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  Exactly. So do you go buy a $4 million
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  home now, right? Then my first of all, if you do,
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  you can sell it. That one you do, you can sell
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  it. And that's another value
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  because. We're all the customers.
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  It does because the Chinese are buying anyhow, right?
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  They'll buy it for more. But their mindset is right, you
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  know, especially over there. Their mindset is, I'm here, all
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  right? I look at them and I say their
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  mindset is, I don't know, I have tomorrow.
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  This thing is not being built in.
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  A year should take a long time for this to get through the
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  ground. And somehow I'm watching him.
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  I'm there. I'm watching this scene for I
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  think it's seven years already. And they leave those seven years
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  without that feeling. Every time I walk by that spot,
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  I get a bit of my stomach. They don't and the kids are
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  running right by it. So what does that mean That
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  means you leave it to eyes 11 eye open absolutely go to sleep.
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  You have one aisle that same time you function perfectly.
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  You prepare somewhat you think about other places if you can
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  afford it call a couple of get an apartment in Israel will have
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  a plan. I'm with you, but at the same
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  time, at the same time you living and enjoying and digging
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  into this world and you got to because all the incident are
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  trying to do is destroy our beautiful existence.
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  It's a shame when I told you about those kids, 'cause these
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  kids are growing up in a rich life.
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  They're growing up in a life where they're protected, they're
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  safe. They're going up a life with
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  more Torah, more family, more fun, more Jewish beauty, better
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  schools, everything they have better.
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  The only thing they don't have is that the witness is going
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  outside the roads. And that's a shame.
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  And that's something you have to get rid of.
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  And as you have to be able to create a feeling and a sense of
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  calm to kings. None of this should matter for
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  adults one eye open, but we still should enjoy our lives.
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  That's really my opinion and I believe if you have faith and
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  have and when others the approach and we do not compare
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  it to 1930s Germany for a lot of reasons.
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  The number one reason is, like I said, because the Jewish people
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  at that time were broken. The Jewish people today are not
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  broken. I'm never let that happen.
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  X one, number one, number two, that's maybe that's the biggest
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  thing. You never can say that baby.
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  You never can say it fully because we don't know.
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  Hashem allowed that when he got out, Hashem, when he got out of
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  it, again, that we can say. But from our event point, like I
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  said, the big difference is the Jewish people at that time were
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  broken everywhere here. The Jewish people everywhere are
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  strong in every sense. We may not control the outcome
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  of the election or have the ability to vote enough to
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  control that outcome. He may not have that sense of
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  control. And the reality is, and I felt
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  this the whole time Trump won the first time he came to visit
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  the community. Remember when he came for the
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  reelection, there was all sorts of jumping over yourself,
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  excitement to get a seat to see him right?
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  At the time, my humble opinion was, are we doing you guys?
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  You know, we're doing it. He's a human being, wonderful
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  guy. He's a lot of fun attainment
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  every day gets his entertainment.
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  I love it. It's very good.
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  He makes us happy every day with his words.
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  Be overdoing it. It's not to be or end off
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  anybody. OK, fine.
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  Then whatever happened with COVID and all these things that
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  he lost and the sense that I had then when he lost was that this
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  is so clearly the hand of Hashem.
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  Hashem is telling us stop handing control to these people.
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  And I think Hashem did it. Again, Trump won.
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  He's great. By the way, not everything's
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  great because they're tariffs. Let's be real.
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  OK, keep that aside. Fine.
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  A lot of fun again, very entertaining.
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  Again, fight, fight, fight. Again.
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  My kids can jump up at any point and they'll do this fist.
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  And they know, I know exactly what they're talking about.
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  All right, My son made an image, I think he made AI image of
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  himself, and it looked like that.
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  OK, fine, I got it. And then once again, him says
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  round two. Once again, I'm in control.
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  Chill out. Back to this situation, Chill
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  out. That doesn't mean we're going to
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  go through all this process again, but it does means, again,
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  let's chill out with the control.
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  It's not about us being control. It's about us being control of
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  ourselves, us enjoying the light and the gift that we live.
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  We need to step into our own zone.
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  It's a humble opinion, all right.