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Worth Repeating: The Wisdom of Revisiting What Matters · Live Your Legacy

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SPEAKER_01: Welcome to Live Your Legacy.
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SPEAKER_01: Where every story holds a turning point.
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SPEAKER_01: And every turning point holds the power of legacy.
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SPEAKER_00: Grace and greetings and welcome to Live Your Legacy.
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SPEAKER_00: That's right.
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SPEAKER_00: And this is a Mystery Graham production, a conversational podcast where we explore how life's defining moments shape the legacy we leave behind.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm your host, Patricia D.
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SPEAKER_00: Feudenberg, also known as Patty from New York.
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SPEAKER_00: I am the founder and CEO of Mystery Graham.
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SPEAKER_00: And as a grief consultant, my area focus is legacy, empowering you from grief to a life to be remembered.
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SPEAKER_00: And this show is rooted in one simple truth.
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SPEAKER_00: Sometimes it comes through life's changes, losses, detours, and new beginnings.
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SPEAKER_00: And here we speak with entrepreneurs, authors, leaders, and creators who have turned life-defining moments into meaningful work and lasting contributions because legacy is not only what we leave behind, it's what we are shaping right now through vision, impact, and purpose.
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SPEAKER_00: In this thought-provoking solo episode of Live Your Legacy, as your host, I invite listeners to reconsider what it means to move through grief, embrace change, and rediscover life's possibilities.
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SPEAKER_00: Today's conversation is inspired by my latest Legacy Cafe, a grief recovery newsletter.
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SPEAKER_00: It is complimentary.
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SPEAKER_00: So if you go to missyugram.com, that's M-I-S-S-H-N, the letter U, hyphen G R A M.com, it is complimentary.
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SPEAKER_00: Today's newsletter is titled Worth Repeating and The Wisdom of Revisiting What Matters.
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SPEAKER_00: I've been often wondering why certain words, memories, and life lessons keep finding their way back to us, right?
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SPEAKER_00: It is because we haven't learned it yet.
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SPEAKER_00: Has anybody felt that way?
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SPEAKER_00: Like you've heard this a million times, but you just haven't learned it yet?
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SPEAKER_00: Or perhaps we've grown enough to understand something we couldn't quite grasp before.
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SPEAKER_00: I believe there's a difference between revisiting the past and living in it.
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SPEAKER_00: And sometimes when we revisit, it isn't meant to hold us back, it's meant to remind us how far we've come and how we've grown.
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SPEAKER_00: And grief and healing and rediscovering ourselves, even in the most familiar experiences, can take an entirely new meaning.
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SPEAKER_00: And that's what I want to explore with you today.
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SPEAKER_00: We'll talk about the wisdom of the repetition, the power of choices, and how gratitude can shift our perspective even when life doesn't unfold the way we imagine.
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SPEAKER_00: Sometimes we plan things the way we want, and we think we got it all together, and then it life happens, right?
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SPEAKER_00: Life be life.
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SPEAKER_00: I think I'm cool when I say it.
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SPEAKER_00: You be you, boo.
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SPEAKER_00: Whatever makes you feel good.
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SPEAKER_00: But all kidding aside, sometimes it's the lessons worth repeating, are the very ones that remind us who we are.
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SPEAKER_00: So today, what matters truly, and who are we becoming in this, right?
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SPEAKER_00: Sometimes, again, we revisit something, and all of a sudden we are becoming.
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SPEAKER_00: I think we're always becoming each day, each moment.
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SPEAKER_00: We're becoming we're we are it's inevitable and it's impossible to always remain exactly the same.
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SPEAKER_00: And a lot of times people will repeat the same thing for a lifetime, but they're still aging, right?
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SPEAKER_00: There's still degeneration in that.
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SPEAKER_00: When there's no change, that there is degeneration.
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SPEAKER_00: But I don't want to get too off course, I want to go back to the topic here uh things worth repeating.
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SPEAKER_00: And again, talking about who we are becoming, right?
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SPEAKER_00: And remember, a legacy isn't just what we leave behind, it's what we choose to live today.
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SPEAKER_00: So let's get into it.
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SPEAKER_00: I want to share the screen, and this is what the article will look like if you go to mysterygraham.com, and this is the newsletter, Legacy Cafe.
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SPEAKER_00: Again, it's complimentary if you sign up for the newsletter.
4:33
SPEAKER_00: And I take these newsletters also, and if you follow me on social and you come to some of the events that I have, and some are just public forums, right?
4:43
SPEAKER_00: One of them being Clubhouse, LinkedIn, YouTube, all those are wonderful, even here where I'm live broadcasting live, but these are more intimate settings, even though they are public, and there's a platform called Clubhouse.
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SPEAKER_00: So shout out to Clubhouse.
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SPEAKER_00: I've met great, amazing people, I've had great opportunities.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm creating my own legacy there, and people say, What is Clubhouse?
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SPEAKER_00: and people that knew what Clubhouse was when it started, they might even and are not on there anymore.
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SPEAKER_00: They'll say something like Clubhouse is still around?
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SPEAKER_00: It's very much around, and it's a great place to meet with people from across the world, right?
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SPEAKER_00: Across the world, and have conversations.
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SPEAKER_00: I have a couple of spaces that I moderate, and when I say moderate, there's one space called Breakfast with Champions.
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SPEAKER_00: I met a lot of great people there, and they talk about everything, it's very business savvy, right?
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SPEAKER_00: But at the same time, we talk about wellness, we talk about life, and it's a great space to just network and gain an understanding for the topic, and it changes pretty like pretty much every hour on the hour.
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SPEAKER_00: Sometimes it's a little shorter, sometimes it's a half an hour segment.
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SPEAKER_00: You have a variety of people, and usually they start at 4 a.m.
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SPEAKER_00: Eastern time in the European room, and they call it the European room because the hosts of those segments are in London, and then it transitions to the 5 a.m.
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SPEAKER_00: and it ends on or about 10-ish, sometimes 11.
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SPEAKER_00: And there are other rooms that open up around the afternoon, the weekends.
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SPEAKER_00: There's another room that we just started doing as a partnership with other moderators called Podcasts with Purpose.
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SPEAKER_00: And of course, I want to highlight this podcast, this show, because I think it's so great and important, right?
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SPEAKER_00: We have awesome guests, and when we don't have guests, I like to reflect on the newsletter I write, and it is a grief recovery newsletter.
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SPEAKER_00: But this is what's so great about this newsletter.
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SPEAKER_00: Yes, it's it's intentions are for the griever of life, but it also applies to grief in life, and that's what actually brought me to start this show and have guests on because when we hear stories, we get inspired, and we sometimes could hear a million stories, and all of a sudden we hear that one story that lands, that resonates, that you look at that person and you see yourself in them somehow, and you're like, wait a minute, if they can do it, I could do it too.
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SPEAKER_00: Ooh, that's interesting.
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SPEAKER_00: Okay, this is this is what's fun about the live.
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SPEAKER_00: This is what's so fun about the live.
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SPEAKER_00: I have a little visitor.
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SPEAKER_00: Say hello to my guest.
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SPEAKER_00: Can you s can you say hello to my guest?
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SPEAKER_00: Come say hello to my guest.
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SPEAKER_00: There we go.
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SPEAKER_00: Okay, okay.
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SPEAKER_00: This is not the norm, but why not?
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SPEAKER_00: Why not?
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SPEAKER_00: This is my love, my baby, Milo.
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SPEAKER_00: Say hello, say hello, Milo.
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SPEAKER_00: Okay, and uh yeah, this is what happens on lives, right?
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SPEAKER_00: And I didn't have to open the door, but he would have kept scratching, and I say, why not?
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SPEAKER_00: Why not, right?
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SPEAKER_00: Let's get back to the article and at hand.
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SPEAKER_00: Let's go back here.
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SPEAKER_00: Hey, we got some comments.
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SPEAKER_00: Let's just break it up a little bit here.
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SPEAKER_00: Hello, and hopefully she'll be my next guest, Malika Star.
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SPEAKER_00: And I was just talking about Clubhouse, which I normally don't do on the show.
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SPEAKER_00: And hey, hello, my friend.
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SPEAKER_00: She's saying, Hey Patty from New York, and thank you.
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SPEAKER_00: And we're just doing raw and real and live.
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SPEAKER_00: I want it just to be a little fun and playful because life sometimes can be so heavy.
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SPEAKER_00: And as a grief consultant, trust me, I hear it all.
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SPEAKER_00: And my objective is that you always have light and love and peace when you walk away, even if it's a little bit, even if it's that little bit of oh, and thank you for the love.
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SPEAKER_00: Hey Milo, you got some love.
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SPEAKER_00: He ran off already.
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SPEAKER_00: He's like, Okay, enough of that, but thank you for that love.
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SPEAKER_00: And I was gonna read behind the scenes, but then I'm looking at the screen like from the side of my eye, and I'm like, it looks like this show just went dead.
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SPEAKER_00: I was not gonna say that word, but it that's felt so thank you for the love, thank you for participating.
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SPEAKER_00: And uh Milo's back, he's like, wait a minute, I have a friend who said hello.
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SPEAKER_00: So going back to the article, and I'm reading now.
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SPEAKER_00: This reflection is an opportunity to revisit a message that remains close to my heart, and although originally inspired by a thought shared in the past, it purposes its purpose remains relevant today.
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SPEAKER_00: After all, wisdom does not come with an expiration date.
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SPEAKER_00: When does that say it all?
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SPEAKER_00: I love to reference this book that I'm going to mention, which is, I believe, like the greatest book ever written.
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SPEAKER_00: However, that's controversial.
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SPEAKER_00: But the idea is it's called the Bible, and the wisdom that is in this book called the Bible, which some people say, Oh, it's religious.
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SPEAKER_00: Okay, I'll give you that.
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SPEAKER_00: Whatever.
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SPEAKER_00: It's I'm talking about the wisdom right now, people.
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SPEAKER_00: The wisdom in that book, if you could just put aside all that, all those, like it's religious, it's this, I that if you could just pull the wisdom from the stories, the metaphors, okay, the causes and effects, it's just so marvelous, and that those are things worth repeating, right?
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SPEAKER_00: Yeah, thank you so much for again for the love.
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SPEAKER_00: I appreciate you so much.
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SPEAKER_00: And while we're here, let me just do this and put the the website on so you know where to find this article.
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SPEAKER_00: Again, this newsletter is complimentary, and then what happens why I brought up clubhouses because I have workshops in there, or sometimes I just talk for an hour about the topic at hand, which is the newsletter, and I carry it through, and then I have a community on school, S-K-O-O-L, and it's also complimentary unless you want to level up and take it to the next level.
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SPEAKER_00: There are a bit other tiers that we can meet more privately and work on things.
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SPEAKER_00: But again, as a grief consultant, my area of focus is legacy, and that's not only honoring what was, that's putting the light on you, the person who is in the land of the living.
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SPEAKER_00: Yes, we will honor your loved one.
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SPEAKER_00: But if you want to honor your loved one like all day long, go to MissyGram.com, go to Miss YouGram, you can go to MissyGram.com also, you'll see what the app is.
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SPEAKER_00: But if the Miss You Graham, the app on the app store, that's where you could post tributes to loved ones.
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SPEAKER_00: So the honoring will always be there.
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SPEAKER_00: But you're still in the land of the living.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna shift gears and turn it around to you so I could guide you to live a life to be remembered.
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SPEAKER_00: Again, I'm not a medical doctor, I don't fix bones, I also am not a licensed therapist, I don't diagnose.
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SPEAKER_00: What I do is I share resources that work.
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SPEAKER_00: And you might not like my resources, so I may not work for you, but what I share and what I've learned through my certification as a grief consultant, there are things that work, they're proven to work.
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SPEAKER_00: So that's what I share.
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SPEAKER_00: And I bring you my pizzazz, which is a little light and love and excitement and playfulness, and that's the channel I'm on.
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SPEAKER_00: That's the channel I'm on, and it's not for everybody, and God bless, that's what makes the world so beautiful, it's so abundant, and just there's so many ways to look at things, and there's so many styles of things, and I always refer back to the shoe store, but we're gonna get back to the article.
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SPEAKER_00: This is again especially true when navigating grief.
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SPEAKER_00: What am I talking about?
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SPEAKER_00: I was saying how wisdom doesn't have an expiration date, and neither does the opportunity to grow from it, and this is especially true when navigating grief, loss, and the many transitions life places before us.
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SPEAKER_00: There's so many.
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SPEAKER_00: Could we agree on that?
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SPEAKER_00: There's so many.
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SPEAKER_00: Even let's go back to babies going from like diapers to like the potty.
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SPEAKER_00: That's like grief.
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SPEAKER_00: I don't know if anybody ever did potty training.
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SPEAKER_00: Oh my gosh, there's so much grief in there.
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SPEAKER_00: That's a transition, but anyway, I don't know if that was a good example.
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SPEAKER_00: But life has transitions from start to end.
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SPEAKER_00: Yeah, life places a lot of things before us.
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SPEAKER_00: What offered comfort yesterday may offer clarity today.
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SPEAKER_00: Okay, what offered comfort yesterday offers clarity today.
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SPEAKER_00: And Patty, what's the difference?
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SPEAKER_00: And you tell me.
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SPEAKER_00: I want to learn.
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SPEAKER_00: You tell me I want to learn.
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SPEAKER_00: All kidding aside, like comfort is great as as long as it's and again, there's no right or wrong.
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SPEAKER_00: It's either works for you or doesn't work for you.
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SPEAKER_00: However, there's been a lot of conclusions made from a lot of books I've read from the goats, right?
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SPEAKER_00: And it all it all points to one same concept.
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SPEAKER_00: Like the comfort will get you nowhere real fast if you stay there.
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SPEAKER_00: The only way to change is to get discomfort, right?
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SPEAKER_00: And I'm not saying, oh, go look to be discomfort.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm suggesting that when life brings you discomfort, know there's something on the other side.
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SPEAKER_00: In fact, last episode we had a change in schedule.
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SPEAKER_00: Today's episode was a change in schedule, and I pop on here, and this is what I do.
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SPEAKER_00: I reflect on these articles, just like I do in my groups or my workshops, and I stop midstream like I am doing now, but to make a point, because I think it's an important point that when you stay somewhere too long, it's stagnation, and that leads to degeneration, and that leads to you know, I want to say disease, dis-ease.
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SPEAKER_00: It's not always, oh, a disease like I don't know.
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SPEAKER_00: We there's so many, I don't even want to name one.
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SPEAKER_00: But the idea is what I'm trying to emphasize is that there's only we live in a dual world, right?
15:40
SPEAKER_00: Oh, here I go.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm going down a rabbit hole, stay with me.
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SPEAKER_00: Things either work or don't work.
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SPEAKER_00: They either are or aren't.
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SPEAKER_00: And if there's that in-between, that in between, that's the in-between, that's the transitional time.
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SPEAKER_00: And when you are transitioning into something, discomfort sometimes can be the best thing that could happen to you because on the other side of discomfort there's the win, right?
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SPEAKER_00: And then that's it gets exciting, and then it's new, so it's not necessarily comfortable because it's new.
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SPEAKER_00: So anything new is okay, but so comfortable to navigate something that you know inside out and backwards.
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SPEAKER_00: Let's say a new phone, let's say a new phone.
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SPEAKER_00: Do you guys remember?
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SPEAKER_00: Now I'm aging myself, but going from the flip to the blackberry, and then the blackberry to the touch of a finger.
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SPEAKER_00: It was exciting, right?
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SPEAKER_00: What was on the other side, however, that discomfort of oh my god, I can't navigate this because I don't know that there was discomfort there.
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SPEAKER_00: So I don't know if I'm making my point clear, but that's the point I have to share today.
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SPEAKER_00: And again, thank you if you're staying with me.
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SPEAKER_00: Thank you.
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SPEAKER_00: Because we want to take this show to the next level.
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SPEAKER_00: And again, I'm excited to say that the guest that was going to be on had was able to reschedule.
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SPEAKER_00: And if you want to look, go on the website and check it out.
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SPEAKER_00: Yeah, he will be coming on November 2nd.
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SPEAKER_00: That's Paul Hel I how do I pronounce his last name?
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SPEAKER_00: Helbas.
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SPEAKER_00: Helbas.
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SPEAKER_00: Hold on, let me tell you right now, I'm going to try to pronounce this properly.
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SPEAKER_00: Let me get to November sec third.
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SPEAKER_00: I see, I messed up.
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SPEAKER_00: November 3rd.
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SPEAKER_00: And he's just Paul's baby.
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SPEAKER_00: I just call him Paul.
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SPEAKER_00: Paul is an author, speaker, husband and father, and he's going to really rocket out.
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SPEAKER_00: H laps.
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SPEAKER_00: Paul H Labs.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna say it a million times now.
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SPEAKER_00: Paul H laps.
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SPEAKER_00: Apologize if I'm mispronouncing.
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SPEAKER_00: I do that a lot.
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SPEAKER_00: I end up making my own words up.
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SPEAKER_00: That's common for Patty.
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SPEAKER_00: But again, that's okay, right?
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SPEAKER_00: And in fact, after I'm done reading this article, if I ever get through it, I want to share something worth repeating.
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SPEAKER_00: The wisdom of revisiting what matters.
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SPEAKER_00: Yes, I have a story.
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SPEAKER_00: I think we all have stories, but anyway, what offered comfort yesterday may offer clarity today, and what once seemed impossible may now appear within reach.
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SPEAKER_00: And what we thought we had already learned may return to remind us that growth is not always about discovering something new.
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SPEAKER_00: Sometimes it is about remembering what we already know.
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SPEAKER_00: Oh my gosh, this happens it's so much now.
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SPEAKER_00: I guess because I'm very aware about it, so this happens so so much now.
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SPEAKER_00: Let's see some more comments as I keep interrupting myself.
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SPEAKER_00: Katherine Palmer, hello, another another clubhouse member.
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SPEAKER_00: Thank you.
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SPEAKER_00: She says, Great to see you, Patty.
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SPEAKER_00: And the Pis and Claire is a great resource as she's been on the radio and given large gallery readings.
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SPEAKER_00: Oh, cool.
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SPEAKER_00: Thank you for that.
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SPEAKER_00: Appreciate that.
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SPEAKER_00: Birds of a feather flock together.
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SPEAKER_00: Thank you for that.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm going to get back to reading the article.
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SPEAKER_00: We live in a world that consistently encourages us to move on to the next thing, the next opportunity, the next chapter, the next accomplishment.
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SPEAKER_00: Yet there is value in revisiting the lessons that brought us here.
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SPEAKER_00: There is wisdom in repetition, particularly when it serves us as a reminder of our resilience, our choices, and our capacity to begin again.
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SPEAKER_00: And we got another comment here.
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SPEAKER_00: Within reach, yes, absolutely.
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SPEAKER_00: Thank you for that.
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SPEAKER_00: Appreciate that.
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SPEAKER_00: Consider how many times we have heard familiar expressions such as this too shall pass, or one day at a time.
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SPEAKER_00: These words may sound simple, perhaps even overused, until life presents the circumstances that give them an entirely new meeting.
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SPEAKER_00: Meaning, suddenly, what once seemed like an ordinary saying becomes a source of strength.
20:08
SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna pause right there.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna pause right there because this okay, I wanted to share it to the end, but I just want to pause right there.
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SPEAKER_00: So about it's gonna be almost a year now.
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SPEAKER_00: I remember because it did it for me.
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SPEAKER_00: I've heard the saying a million times.
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SPEAKER_00: I'll tell you the saying in a second.
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SPEAKER_00: I've heard the saying a million times.
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SPEAKER_00: And back in December of last year, 2025, so we're coming up on a year now, I was going through some stuff, some big choices I had to make, and I didn't want to make them.
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SPEAKER_00: So I was stuck in just the comfort because I didn't want to make decisions that were putting me in an uncomfortable position.
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SPEAKER_00: Okay, fair?
20:53
SPEAKER_00: And the person I was going to for mentoring guidance said to me, Patty, it's not the end of the world.
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SPEAKER_00: And I've heard that saying, that expression one million times, at least.
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SPEAKER_00: Maybe more, at least, maybe more.
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SPEAKER_00: But the idea is this, okay?
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SPEAKER_00: This one time, and it it planted a seed, okay, and when he first said it to me, I was like, I was with my sister, she remembers, and I looked at her, and she looked at me, she's like, he's right, and I was like, You're crazy.
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SPEAKER_00: What is he talking about?
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SPEAKER_00: Don't say that to me.
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SPEAKER_00: It is the end of the world, and I'm like, okay, I can go home, and that stayed with me, and then I was like, now talking to Patty, and Patty was like, He's right, it's not the end of the world, it's not the end of the world, and then What keeps us uncomfortable is not making a move, and sometimes, like I said, uncomfortable is good, you don't want to stay there, right?
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SPEAKER_00: Just like comfort, comfort is good, you don't want to stay there.
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SPEAKER_00: There another sidebar down the rabbit hole with Patty.
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SPEAKER_00: Thank you again.
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SPEAKER_00: I'll post the comment in a minute.
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SPEAKER_00: I see the comments coming in.
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SPEAKER_00: Thank you so much for being here.
22:23
SPEAKER_00: But this is the thing again.
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SPEAKER_00: The goats, Martin Luther King.
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SPEAKER_00: If you can't fly, run, if you can't run, walk, if you can't walk, crawl, but by all means, keep it moving.
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SPEAKER_00: Keep it moving.
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SPEAKER_00: And that's what it's about.
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SPEAKER_00: Staying fixated on anything is not good.
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SPEAKER_00: Okay?
22:46
SPEAKER_00: And it's just one of those things.
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SPEAKER_00: I want to call it laws.
22:49
SPEAKER_00: Laws, but whatever.
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SPEAKER_00: That's controversial and debatable and subjective.
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SPEAKER_00: But the idea is keep it moving.
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SPEAKER_00: If so many amazing people that we could all agree are amazing, right?
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SPEAKER_00: Because they've changed lives in profound ways and their legacy still continues, even for years and years.
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SPEAKER_00: And if they say such things, there must be truth to it.
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SPEAKER_00: So that's my point here.
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SPEAKER_00: That's my point here.
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SPEAKER_00: We got some more comments coming in.
23:15
SPEAKER_00: And uh, thank you so much.
23:18
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah, in the eye of the storm, yep.
23:21
SPEAKER_00: Where I'll read it, I'll read this.
23:22
SPEAKER_00: You guys could read, but my Catherine says, my friend Peter Roth gave me coaching to stay in the eye of the storm where it's quiet rather than the whirlwind of the hurricane, and and tune into my intuitive wisdom, that's right, and allow the flow not to feel pressured or overly responsible to make things happen.
23:40
SPEAKER_00: Yep, that's right.
23:42
SPEAKER_00: In agreement, totally in agreement.
23:45
SPEAKER_00: And with that being said, let's keep it moving.
23:48
SPEAKER_00: Grief has a way of changing our relationships with time, memory, and understanding.
23:53
SPEAKER_00: We may find ourselves revisiting familiar emotions, asking questions we thought we had answered, or experiencing moments that remind us of what we have lost.
24:04
SPEAKER_00: But revisiting grief doesn't necessarily mean we have lost our progress.
24:09
SPEAKER_00: It may simply mean we are encountering it from a different place in our journey.
24:14
SPEAKER_00: There's a difference between repeating a pattern that keeps us stuck and revisiting a lesson that empowers us to move forward.
24:22
SPEAKER_00: One can keep us circling the same the same destination while the other offers an opportunity to for renewal.
24:31
SPEAKER_00: I'm like stuttering here because it's I want to get it out to to say it.
24:36
SPEAKER_00: I want to get it out to say it.
24:38
SPEAKER_00: Again, in in the show, when I have this show, when I have a guest on, one of the questions I always ask is about hindsight.
24:48
SPEAKER_00: And this is exactly what I'm referencing to.
24:52
SPEAKER_00: If instead of going back and being in it, going back to learn from it, and that's again just beautiful, beautiful.
25:02
SPEAKER_00: A lot of times we don't want to see it, we want to keep the fog in the mirror, we don't want to see what we did wrong, or or somebody that hurt us because we want to love them so much.
25:12
SPEAKER_00: There's so many different circumstances, but the idea is when you go back and look at it from a distance instead of being in it and getting like triggered and getting all the feels and getting all the blah blah blah.
25:23
SPEAKER_00: No, look at it from a different angle from a from an outside view.
25:28
SPEAKER_00: That's why hindsight is so beautiful to me, anyway.
25:32
SPEAKER_00: Perhaps this is where the power of choice enters the conversation.
25:35
SPEAKER_00: Of course, we cannot always control what resurfaces in our life.
25:39
SPEAKER_00: We can begin to recognize how we respond.
25:43
SPEAKER_00: We can, and now again, I'm a work in progress.
25:47
SPEAKER_00: Hopefully, till the last day I take a breath on this earth, and hopefully that's a long time from now.
25:52
SPEAKER_00: But the idea is that I'm choosing to want to be a student of life.
25:57
SPEAKER_00: I don't claim to know it all, I just claim to share things that work, and I'll share things that didn't work, and again, it's not one size fits all.
26:07
SPEAKER_00: What works for me might not work for you.
26:10
SPEAKER_00: Okay, let's go down the rabbit hole again.
26:13
SPEAKER_00: Let's just totally use real world stuff, okay?
26:16
SPEAKER_00: And I'm not talking about like situations now.
26:18
SPEAKER_00: I'm going to talk about yogurt, Chibani yogurt.
26:22
SPEAKER_00: Chibani, hey, I'm out here.
26:24
SPEAKER_00: Little plug.
26:25
SPEAKER_00: My family loves it.
26:26
SPEAKER_00: I buy the huge boxes at Costco.
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SPEAKER_00: Everybody in my family eats it.
26:31
SPEAKER_00: It's great.
26:31
SPEAKER_00: Chibani yogurt.
26:33
SPEAKER_00: Shout out.
26:34
SPEAKER_00: Chibani yogurt.
26:35
SPEAKER_00: You want a healthy life?
26:36
SPEAKER_00: Chibani yogurt.
26:37
SPEAKER_00: I'm not a grief consultant, but Chibani yogurt, when you need good nutrition, it's good for your digestion.
26:44
SPEAKER_00: Anyway, I don't care for it.
26:48
SPEAKER_00: My whole entire family does.
26:50
SPEAKER_00: So Chibani yogurt, you're amazing.
26:53
SPEAKER_00: Patty doesn't like it.
26:56
SPEAKER_00: So anyway, trying to be funny.
26:58
SPEAKER_00: It's probably not funny.
26:59
SPEAKER_00: Chibani's probably not gonna call me now.
27:01
SPEAKER_00: But the idea is this that thank you again.
27:05
SPEAKER_00: We got some more comments, and yeah, we got a lot of coaching going on.
27:10
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, that's like the new world, right?
27:11
SPEAKER_00: People helping people, and I love that.
27:14
SPEAKER_00: Nothing's better than people helping people.
27:16
SPEAKER_00: But the idea is it's not one size fits all, but I share things that work, and they may not work for you, but they might work for somebody else.
27:22
SPEAKER_00: So bring it to your friends, bring it to your family.
27:24
SPEAKER_00: Let's talk about it.
27:25
SPEAKER_00: And I think a lot of these conversations are important when I have the workshops, they're conversations that people find like a release, they're not holding it in because they're internalizing, and then that causes like chaos and confusion, and there's no peace there because if there's chaos and confusion, there's no peace.
27:43
SPEAKER_00: But we all I think can relate to what peace feels like, right?
27:47
SPEAKER_00: And I think peace is like a place that you could just take a breath, take a breath, and yeah, I feel when you sometimes have things that you're thinking about, it's nice just to be able to have a space to talk about it.
28:01
SPEAKER_00: And in my rooms, in my workshops, it's exactly where, and we do it here too, but I'm gonna keep it going here.
28:08
SPEAKER_00: Sometimes the greatest revelation is realizing that we do not have to abandon yesterday to make room for tomorrow.
28:16
SPEAKER_00: Our experiences, our memories, and even our losses can become part of the foundation upon which we build a meaningful legacy.
28:24
SPEAKER_00: And legacy is not simply what we leave behind, it's also what we choose to carry forward, the lessons we share, the values we demonstrate, the kindness we extend, and the wisdom we pass along, all you know, who contribute to the story, and we continue writing it.
28:41
SPEAKER_00: If you're living and breathing, you continue writing the story.
28:44
SPEAKER_00: Again, time doesn't stop for anybody.
28:46
SPEAKER_00: So if a message finds you, it's way back into your life, perhaps there's a reason to listen again.
28:53
SPEAKER_00: Not every repetition is a setback, and some are reminders, some are invitations, and others are opportunities to discover how far we have come.
29:04
SPEAKER_00: Because sometimes life does not need to tell us something different, it simply needs to remind us of something worth remembering.
29:12
SPEAKER_00: And that, my friends, is why some things are worth saying again.
29:16
SPEAKER_00: And I always say this quote maybe a million other people said it, but I say this all the time.
29:22
SPEAKER_00: Pardon the pun.
29:24
SPEAKER_00: Things worth saying are worth repeating.
29:27
SPEAKER_00: Things worth saying are worth repeating.
29:29
SPEAKER_00: With that being said, let's see some more comments.
29:32
SPEAKER_00: Thank you, Catherine.
29:34
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, absolutely.
29:35
SPEAKER_00: We got more resources about seniors, dementia, preventing calamity, and yep, perfect.
29:41
SPEAKER_00: Thank you.
29:42
SPEAKER_00: I appreciate that very much.
29:44
SPEAKER_00: That is today's newsletter.
29:48
SPEAKER_00: Things worth repeating.
29:50
SPEAKER_00: And also when you go back, and I shared earlier in the article, and I was chopping it up a little bit because I kept interrupting myself, but that's okay.
29:59
SPEAKER_00: I want it just to be raw and real, and that's why I love these lives.
30:05
SPEAKER_00: It reminded me also writing this article and reading it, that some things we've heard and we haven't grown yet.
30:13
SPEAKER_00: I briefed on sometimes you heard something a million times and you just don't understand.
30:17
SPEAKER_00: I talked about hearing a million times it's not the end of the world, but then there were I understood it, but I really didn't appreciate it, right?
30:28
SPEAKER_00: I didn't appreciate it, the value of it, even though I heard it a million times.
30:32
SPEAKER_00: Then there's other things that I remember I heard it a lot of times, and I just I didn't get it.
30:39
SPEAKER_00: I didn't get it.
30:40
SPEAKER_00: I'll tell you a story.
30:41
SPEAKER_00: My grandmother used to say, My grandmother used to say, you can't cover the sun with your thumb, right?
30:51
SPEAKER_00: And I would be like, Okay, grandma, and I would walk away, not even thinking twice of that.
30:56
SPEAKER_00: I didn't even think twice of it, and then she would say it periodically, and then as I got older, she says it again and again, and one day I'm like, What does that mean?
31:09
SPEAKER_00: And she's like, try to put your thumb up to the sun.
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SPEAKER_00: Can you cover it?
31:15
SPEAKER_00: Or does the light still come out?
31:17
SPEAKER_00: And I was like, Oh, and then I got it.
31:21
SPEAKER_00: It's and she was referring to the truth.
31:23
SPEAKER_00: I was always in regards of truth if somebody was lying to me, or if I dared lie, when now I'm like, you know what?
31:30
SPEAKER_00: Like I learned my lesson.
31:32
SPEAKER_00: Lying is easy.
31:34
SPEAKER_00: Nope, no, thank you.
31:35
SPEAKER_00: Not doing it.
31:36
SPEAKER_00: I don't care if you believe me or not.
31:38
SPEAKER_00: That's the truth.
31:39
SPEAKER_00: Again, pardon the pun.
31:41
SPEAKER_00: But my grandmother used to say, the lie will always come out.
31:44
SPEAKER_00: The lie will always come out.
31:45
SPEAKER_00: Sometimes it takes longer, but trust you me, the lie will always come out again, and that's in the book of the Bible, too.
31:52
SPEAKER_00: So be careful.
31:53
SPEAKER_00: But the idea is just things like that, right?
31:56
SPEAKER_00: Or another one I remember, and I love cliches because they're just there's truth at the base of all of them.
32:03
SPEAKER_00: They might be annoying because we've all heard them a million times, but they're worth revisiting, they're worth repeating.
32:10
SPEAKER_00: They are, you can't have your cake and eat it too.
32:13
SPEAKER_00: I remember not knowing what that was.
32:16
SPEAKER_00: Oh my god.
32:17
SPEAKER_00: And then one day I'm like, oh, okay, you have to pick one or the other.
32:23
SPEAKER_00: It's like, okay, you can't have your cake and eat it too.
32:25
SPEAKER_00: So I got that one, and and it's funny now because now I have a granddaughter who's in middle school, and now I'm like teaching her all these little cliches and things, and I'm kind of looking like, when is she gonna get it?
32:37
SPEAKER_00: Did she get it?
32:38
SPEAKER_00: It's it's fun, and that's what I invite you to be playful.
32:43
SPEAKER_00: Life is very wonderful, it's also very challenging.
32:49
SPEAKER_00: But I promise you, if you're in a position of grief, there is another side is if you don't resist, don't resist, but also keep it moving, keep it moving, because it's 100% possible to get to recovery.
33:08
SPEAKER_00: It's a hundred percent possible, but uh if it's probable, that's up to you, and that's when practice and repetition make a difference.
33:19
SPEAKER_00: Because when we practice things that work, we practice new things that at first are uncomfortable, eventually become comfortable.
33:29
SPEAKER_00: And again, it's and it's a it's a cycle, right?
33:31
SPEAKER_00: You're like, oh Patty, you told me not to stay comfortable, not to stay comfortable.
33:37
SPEAKER_00: I'm not saying not to be comfortable, okay?
33:39
SPEAKER_00: Again, it's growth.
33:41
SPEAKER_00: And why is the world like this?
33:43
SPEAKER_00: Why is this a human dilemma?
33:45
SPEAKER_00: And why?
33:46
SPEAKER_00: I could promise you this.
33:48
SPEAKER_00: I promise there's so much more to be known that will ever be known.
33:54
SPEAKER_00: And there's so much more to be seen that will ever be seen.
33:59
SPEAKER_00: And sometimes we can't answer the question.
34:03
SPEAKER_00: And I invite you to be comfortable in the not knowing and lean into curiosity, wonderment, and think of such things that bring joy.
34:18
SPEAKER_00: Okay, and that's the message for today.
34:21
SPEAKER_00: That's the message for today.
34:22
SPEAKER_00: I'm your host again, Patricia D.
34:24
SPEAKER_00: Fortenberg, also known as Patty from New York.
34:26
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34:28
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34:32
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34:36
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34:56
SPEAKER_00: All right, until next time.
34:57
SPEAKER_00: Well, we got one more comment coming in here.
35:00
SPEAKER_00: Thank you so much.
35:01
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, we got, yeah, we got things worth saying are worth repeating.
35:06
SPEAKER_00: That's right.
35:08
SPEAKER_00: Thank you so much, Catherine.
35:09
SPEAKER_00: I appreciate you participating and being a big supporter of the show and also of the workshops and the community.
35:18
SPEAKER_00: And with that being said, again, until next time, live your legacy.