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152. Emily Skye, Fitness Trainer & Expert @EmilySkyeFit · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: You cannot please every single person, and if you try
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  Speaker 1: to, you only sacrificing your own happiness.
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  Speaker 2: Hey everyone, Emily a body here bringing you Episode one
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  Speaker 2: fifty two of Hurdle, a wellness focused podcast where I
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  Speaker 2: sit down with inspiring individuals to talk about their big ones,
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  Speaker 2: tough moments, and everything in between. On the show, you
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  Speaker 2: can expect vulnerability, motivation, and candid discussions with everyone from
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  Speaker 2: top athletes and CEOs to aspiring entrepreneurs and what it
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  Speaker 2: really takes to follow your passions. My mission is simple
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  Speaker 2: to inspire you to be your best self, move with intention,
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  Speaker 2: and have some fun along the way. Today I am
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  Speaker 2: chatting with Emily Sky. She is a person train are
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  Speaker 2: known to her more than two point five million Instagram
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  Speaker 2: followers as Emily sky Fit. In our chat today, she
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  Speaker 2: gets really open and honest talking to me about growing
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  Speaker 2: up in Australia and the hurdle moments that came with
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  Speaker 2: her teenage years, including a few abusive relationships that ultimately
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  Speaker 2: made her question or value. Sky gets real about trying
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  Speaker 2: to enter her life around age eighteen and how that
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  Speaker 2: experience made her determined to help those with similar struggles,
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  Speaker 2: eventually empowering her journey into the fitness industry and creating
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  Speaker 2: her online programming. As I mentioned, she's now got more
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  Speaker 2: than a couple million followers on Instagram, but her online
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  Speaker 2: community is greater than fourteen million women, and with that
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  Speaker 2: level of exposure, as I'm sure you can imagine, it
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  Speaker 2: comes with a fair amount of criticism. So we talk
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  Speaker 2: about that today. We talk about how she handles the
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  Speaker 2: naysayers and the individuals who inspire her to be better
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  Speaker 2: so that she can be more present both online and
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  Speaker 2: with her family. We also talk about her life as
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  Speaker 2: a mother of two. She actually recently had her second
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  Speaker 2: baby on her bathroom before and she also shares what
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  Speaker 2: she's looking forward to in the coming months, including the
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  Speaker 2: recent launch of her fit post pregnancy program. As I mentioned,
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  Speaker 2: we do talk about some sensitive topics in today's episode,
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  Speaker 2: So if you or someone you know have had similar
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  Speaker 2: thoughts of self harm or are struggling, you can always
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  Speaker 2: reach out to me over a DM or email over
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  Speaker 2: to get in on both. With that, let's get to
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  Speaker 2: hurdling today. I am sitting down with Emily Sky. More
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  Speaker 2: than two point five million people follow her over on
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  Speaker 2: Instagram for her fitness programs. Her name is known around
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  Speaker 2: the world. And how you doing today?
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  Speaker 3: I'm good, thank you. It's nastin early here and light
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  Speaker 3: there is it?
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  Speaker 2: Well, that's what I was gonna kick us off with.
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  Speaker 2: What time is it where you are? What is it?
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  Speaker 1: Name?
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  Speaker 3: Light thirty or something?
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  Speaker 2: You height?
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  Speaker 3: Thirty?
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  Speaker 2: Oh wow, okay, eight thirty is not so bad. For
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  Speaker 2: some reason, it's five thirty New York time. I always
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  Speaker 2: get the New York Australia like conversion a little backwards.
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  Speaker 1: A huge difference, isn't it. Whenever I go over there,
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  Speaker 1: I get really jet lagged. It's just horrendous. I would imagine, so,
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  Speaker 1: I would imagine so So. I mean, I just threw
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  Speaker 1: into the mix two point five million Instagram followers, but
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  Speaker 1: that is a drop in the bucket compared to the
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  Speaker 1: fourteen million women worldwide that train with you, fifty percent
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  Speaker 1: of which are in the United States. I know that
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  Speaker 1: this isn't something that happened overnight. So I'm really excited
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  Speaker 1: to dive into your backstory today and get to know
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  Speaker 1: a little bit more about the woman behind all of
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  Speaker 1: this programming.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, let's do it.
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  Speaker 2: Let's do it. Okay, So talk to me about growing
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  Speaker 2: up in Australia.
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  Speaker 1: Well, I was probably the complete opposite to what I
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  Speaker 1: would seem to be now. I mean, deep down, I'm
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  Speaker 1: still that little girl, but I've come a long way,
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  Speaker 1: and I think everyone does growing up, but I was
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  Speaker 1: really shy, like extremely shy that I couldn't talk to people.
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  Speaker 1: If I was at school and had to do something
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  Speaker 1: in front of the class, I would be vomiting with fear.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't have any confidence at all. I had no
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  Speaker 1: self worth. I was really insecure, and I'd struggled with
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  Speaker 1: in my teens anxiety and depression and it was pretty bad,
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  Speaker 1: and I tried to end my life when I was eighteen.
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  Speaker 1: So yeah, I've come a long way since then. Because obviously,
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  Speaker 1: being in front of all these people online you sort
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  Speaker 1: of have to have some sort of confidence, and I
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  Speaker 1: do a lot of TV stuff, so doing things like
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  Speaker 1: that is just it's crazy for me because I couldn't
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  Speaker 1: even stand up in front of the class at school
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  Speaker 1: back in the day. So if I went back and
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  Speaker 1: talked to my teachers, they'd probably be shocked at what
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  Speaker 1: I'm doing now compared to then.
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  Speaker 2: I know you mentioned in a Woman's Health interview that
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  Speaker 2: you had a difficult childhood when it came to some
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  Speaker 2: family stuff, and obviously you just mentioned the trouble that
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  Speaker 2: you went through in your teens. Talked me through a
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  Speaker 2: little bit about what that environment was like growing up.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, well, my mom's always been loving and caring, and
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  Speaker 1: she did such a good job. She was a single
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  Speaker 1: mum and she raised my sister, was gonna say daughter,
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  Speaker 1: my sister and I on her own, with not much
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  Speaker 1: support from anyone else. And she, I guess she also
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  Speaker 1: suffered with mental health issues too, and she had her
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  Speaker 1: own problems and things being a mother on her own.
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  Speaker 1: And then we sort of grew up in that environment
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  Speaker 1: and I'm very similar to her. And then we didn't
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  Speaker 1: have much in the way of money, and we lived
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  Speaker 1: in community housing.
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  Speaker 3: And yeah, it was just it was very different to now.
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  Speaker 3: But I think because I.
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  Speaker 1: Had no father figure, I didn't really I couldn't really
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  Speaker 1: talk to guys very well. I didn't really have a
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  Speaker 1: good relationship with men. I kind of feared them, but
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  Speaker 1: I craved love from them. I wanted to be loved
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  Speaker 1: and it was more of a fatherly love that I
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  Speaker 1: was searching for. So I ended up looking for relationships
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  Speaker 1: with guys that were like I wanted to have a father,
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  Speaker 1: but obviously that's the wrong way to go about it.
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  Speaker 1: I'm a teenager, and no teenage boys going to be
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  Speaker 1: able to feel that spot or any man really. But
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  Speaker 1: I ended up attracting these sort of men that I
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  Speaker 1: guess they saw that I was really vulnerable and I
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  Speaker 1: was desperate for love and they were I had a few, well,
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  Speaker 1: I had two really abusive boyfriends, but one was really
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  Speaker 1: severely abusive and I ended up getting a restraining order
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  Speaker 1: on him.
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  Speaker 3: And I think I was twenty by this stage.
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  Speaker 1: But yeah, I just because I had no self worth
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  Speaker 1: or I didn't have any love for myself, I sort
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  Speaker 1: of searched for it externally to try and fill that
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  Speaker 1: void and search for it in the wrong places obviously,
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  Speaker 1: and ended up having a terrible relationship and being abused
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  Speaker 1: emotionally and physically.
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  Speaker 2: So you said that that was around twenty and you
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  Speaker 2: mentioned at eighteen trying to kill yourself. What was going
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  Speaker 2: on at that time that led you down that path.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, at that stage, I had my first boyfriend. I
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  Speaker 1: was with him for four years, and he was abusive
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  Speaker 1: in not so much in violent sort of ways, like
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  Speaker 1: not so much physical, but he was very emotionally abusive
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  Speaker 1: to me, and he was just a very toxic relationship,
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  Speaker 1: and he was just threatening to go off and basically
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  Speaker 1: sleep with other girls, to put it like straight. And
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  Speaker 1: then I was just really really upset, and I wanted
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  Speaker 1: to be with him forever because I had that fairy
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  Speaker 1: tale idea that you know, you'd be with the one
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  Speaker 1: person forever, and he was my first boyfriend, and he
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  Speaker 1: just wanted to go off and be with other people.
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  Speaker 1: And he didn't like the fact that I was modeling,
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  Speaker 1: because I was modeling back then, and it was more
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  Speaker 1: because I wanted to try and get confidence, and I
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  Speaker 1: loved I did like the creative side of modeling, but
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  Speaker 1: it just was another toxic thing. So he was just
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  Speaker 1: very threatened by everyone else, and he didn't want me
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  Speaker 1: around any other guys and accused me of cheating and
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  Speaker 1: he was off doing it. And then it's usually those ones,
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  Speaker 1: isn't it, The ones that are cheating accuse you of
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  Speaker 1: doing it.
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  Speaker 3: And then the.
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  Speaker 1: Night that I tried, I just I can't even I
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  Speaker 1: don't even know what exactly set me off, but it
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  Speaker 1: was just probably a combination of things that were happening.
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  Speaker 1: It was building up over the years, and I just
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  Speaker 1: didn't want to do it anymore, and I took some
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  Speaker 1: panadine for which is a really strong panotole, and drank
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  Speaker 1: a bottle of vodka trying to end it, and thankfully
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  Speaker 1: it didn't work. I woke up because I did it,
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  Speaker 1: and then went to bed, and then I woke up
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  Speaker 1: with severe stomach cramps and I felt like I was,
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  Speaker 1: you know, my time was now, like I thought, it's happening,
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  Speaker 1: and then I crawled out to the laundry because I
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  Speaker 1: didn't want to wake my mum and sister and went
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  Speaker 1: out there and just dispuwed, and it was yeah, it
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  Speaker 1: all came up, thank God, And I remember I was praying.
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  Speaker 1: I was saying, I'm sorry for doing this, like my
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  Speaker 1: life's worth more, Like something in me told me that
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  Speaker 1: you're worth more, Like you can't end this because it's
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  Speaker 1: going to get better. And it's just as a strange feeling.
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  Speaker 1: But I ended up pulling through, and I feel so
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  Speaker 1: grateful that it didn't happen, and then then I sort
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  Speaker 1: of came good, I guess, and then I was still
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  Speaker 1: quite depressed and anxious and still suffered for a number
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  Speaker 1: of years after that.
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  Speaker 3: But I think it was my mid bit before my
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  Speaker 3: mid twenties.
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  Speaker 1: I was probably around about twenty three when I started
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  Speaker 1: making small changes and I realized that I had to
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  Speaker 1: take control of my life. And I always thought that
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  Speaker 1: someone would come along and save me. That's the mentality
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  Speaker 1: I had, But that doesn't happen. You've got to save yourself.
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  Speaker 1: And I sort of just realized that. And it wasn't
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  Speaker 1: an overnight thing. I didn't say, Okay, well, I'm going
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  Speaker 1: to change things now and get better. It took time,
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  Speaker 1: and I still work out now. Like you can't just
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  Speaker 1: do it and think it's going to be changed forever.
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  Speaker 1: You've got to work on it constantly and not go
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  Speaker 1: back to the way you were. You've got to be
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  Speaker 1: aware of it and aware of the signs of going
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  Speaker 1: back to being depressed. And then when I was twenty four,
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  Speaker 1: nearly twenty five, that's when I started I found health
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  Speaker 1: and fitness. So it was around a similar sort of time.
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  Speaker 1: I decided to make changes in all areas. So I
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  Speaker 1: got healthier, I started moving more, I started changing who
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  Speaker 1: I surrounded myself with. I got rid of a boyfriend
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  Speaker 1: that I was with, and I started having I changed
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  Speaker 1: my perspective so I started having gratitude and appreciating what
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  Speaker 1: I did have and focusing on what I did have
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  Speaker 1: rather than what I did.
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  Speaker 3: And what I lacked.
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  Speaker 1: And then I met my current man now, who I've
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  Speaker 1: been with for eleven years and I have two kids with,
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  Speaker 1: and I was almost twenty five, and he's really into
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  Speaker 1: fitness too, so he supported He was the first guy
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  Speaker 1: that I had who actually supported me. And because I
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  Speaker 1: loved fitness, and I fell in love with it and
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  Speaker 1: the lifestyle and how it made me feel. And it
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  Speaker 1: wasn't about the body, it was about my mind, and
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  Speaker 1: it made me feel strong and powerful and capable of
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  Speaker 1: achieving anything. And he said to me, you can do
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  Speaker 1: anything you want, and I said, I want to do
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  Speaker 1: something in fitness, and I want to reach as many
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  Speaker 1: people as I can and help help them change their
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  Speaker 1: lives in some way, like obviously they have to do
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  Speaker 1: the work, but if fucking inspire them, then I want
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  Speaker 1: to do it. And I just had this really strong
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  Speaker 1: passion for it, and I couldn't stop talking about how
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  Speaker 1: good it made me feel. And I told my friends
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  Speaker 1: and family, you've got to start exercising and eating healthy food.
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  Speaker 1: You feel so good and that's when I started getting
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  Speaker 1: more into fitness and building my online profile. And we're
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  Speaker 1: going back eleven years now, so this is when it's
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  Speaker 1: sort of all kicked off. Fitness wasn't really popularpecially for
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  Speaker 1: women lifting weights, right. I think women did a lot
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  Speaker 1: of the cardio stuff and aerobics and things like that,
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  Speaker 1: and a lot of running and bike and all that,
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  Speaker 1: cross trainers and things. There's nothing wrong with them, but
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  Speaker 1: the benefits of weightlifting are just incredible. And I think women,
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  Speaker 1: well I know women feared lifting weights because it would
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  Speaker 1: make them bulky, but I actually really loved the look
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  Speaker 1: of it. But I loved how it made me feel
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  Speaker 1: so powerful. That's when I started to my journey. I
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  Speaker 1: guess to reach as many as people as I could
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  Speaker 1: around the world. And yeah, I couldn't imagine I get
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  Speaker 1: as far as I have done, but I feel very
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  Speaker 1: grateful for it. But I'm still so passionate about reaching
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  Speaker 1: as many people as I can.
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  Speaker 2: Of course, and there is a fair amount to unpack here.
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  Speaker 2: The first thing to unpack would be you mentioned that
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  Speaker 2: there was a toxicity when it came to getting into modeling,
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  Speaker 2: So talk to me a little bit about what getting
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  Speaker 2: into it at first was like for you and why
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  Speaker 2: you seed in it? Time went on.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I think when I was about fourteen, I was
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  Speaker 1: really shy, and I think my mum just thought if
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  Speaker 1: I did something.
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  Speaker 3: I actually did a modeling and deportment.
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  Speaker 1: Course that was called and she put me in it
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  Speaker 1: and my sister, hoping that it would give us confidence.
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  Speaker 3: And I was worse than my sister. She was a
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  Speaker 3: bit more confident than me, and I just I liked it.
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  Speaker 1: I liked the I guess, to be honest with you,
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  Speaker 1: I liked the attention because I needed I thought the
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  Speaker 1: attention was love, and we all know it's not, because
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  Speaker 1: it's a completely different thing between loving yourself and people
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  Speaker 1: truly loving you and belonging or fitting in. There's a difference.
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  Speaker 1: So I desperately wanted to fit in and have people
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  Speaker 1: love me. But really what I needed was to belong
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  Speaker 1: with the right people who loved me for me, you know,
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  Speaker 1: and the right reasons. But anyway, I liked getting the attention.
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  Speaker 1: I liked people saying that I was pretty or looked
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  Speaker 1: atod in photos.
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  Speaker 3: I had no.
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  Speaker 1: Self worth at all. I thought I was hideous, So
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  Speaker 1: it was really horrible. And I think because I had
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  Speaker 1: a boyfriend that wasn't very nice. He said some horrible
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  Speaker 1: things and always used to tell me I wasn't good enough.
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  Speaker 1: That's what I've always struggled with, not being good enough.
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  Speaker 1: So the modeling sort of, I guess it made me
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  Speaker 1: feel like I could be at the start, but then
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  Speaker 1: I soon found out how toxic it was because it's
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  Speaker 1: so competitive, obviously, and when you're going to castings and
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  Speaker 1: you're getting knocked back ninety five percent of the time,
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  Speaker 1: that's just the worst thing for someone who has no
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  Speaker 1: self worth.
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  Speaker 3: So it just made things worse and worse.
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  Speaker 1: And then I had friends who were in the industry
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  Speaker 1: who were also struggling with self worth issues, so then
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  Speaker 1: when you're competing with them as well, it's just a
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  Speaker 1: horrible environment. So I stayed in it for probably about
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  Speaker 1: twelve years, and then around that time, I think it
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  Speaker 1: was around my mid twenties, that's when I started going
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  Speaker 1: into fitness and I sort of said goodbye to the
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  Speaker 1: whole modeling world and chose being healthy and fit over
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  Speaker 1: just trying to be skinny and trying to look good.
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  Speaker 3: But I'm glad I did.
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  Speaker 1: I decided to get out of it because it really
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  Speaker 1: I mean It's not like this for everyone, I don't think,
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  Speaker 1: But for me, it was just the worst thing for
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  Speaker 1: me to do. Yeah, but I did enjoy I enjoyed
• 17:16
  Speaker 1: doing photos. I love the creative side of it. I
• 17:18
  Speaker 1: do photography as well, and I just I love all that.
• 17:21
  Speaker 1: So it was a love hate relationship really.
• 17:24
  Speaker 2: And then you mentioned making a series of small changes
• 17:29
  Speaker 2: that empowered you to pivot from that negative self talk,
• 17:35
  Speaker 2: that lack of self worth. Talk to me about what
• 17:38
  Speaker 2: some of those small changes were.
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: Yeah, So I call this my toolbox, and I have
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: things that I go to when I'm feeling down, or
• 17:47
  Speaker 1: I'm feeling overwhelmed, or I start having those negative feelings
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: or those feelings of I don't believe in myself and
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: don't think I'm worthy or good enough. I always access
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: that toolbox and I pull those tools out and work
• 18:00
  Speaker 1: through them because it helps me. And what's in that
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: toolbox for me. It's different for everyone, but I have
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: a few different things. Obviously moving, exercising, lifting weights. I
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: nourish my body with healthy foods. But then on top
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: of that, I do things like diaphromatic breathing, which is
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: a deep breathing and slowing my breath down. Then I
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: work on being present and not getting overwhelmed by it,
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: because I have a crazy mind and it never stops
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: and it's just so out of control that I've got
• 18:29
  Speaker 1: to calm it down otherwise I go crazy. And then
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: just I focus on what's around me. So i might
• 18:34
  Speaker 1: go outside, which is the best thing to do, and
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: I'll go out barefoot and I'll put my feet on
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: the ground, and even better if you can get to
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: the beach and put it your feet in the sand.
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: But as long as your barefoot on the earth, I
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: feel like I can sort of download all the crap
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: and all everything that's making me feel negative and then
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: recharge with positive things. And I imagine doing that, and
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: then I'm breathing, and then I'm looking around at nature
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: and the trees, and if I'm near water, I'll look
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: at the water and birds and just try to be
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: present in the moment. And now I've got kids, so
• 19:07
  Speaker 1: obviously I play with them, and I'm being with them
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: and truly with them, not on my phone, and half
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: with them and getting off social media, getting off anything
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: like computers, phones and things like that. Just having a
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: break from it is amazing. Also practicing gratitude thinking about
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: all the amazing things I have in my life, because
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: we've all got things we don't have or we'd like
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: to have, but there's no point focusing on it. There's
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: a difference between wanting it and having a goal and
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: working towards it. Or you're getting feeling down because you
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: don't have these things and it's affecting you negatively. So
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: I just look at everything I've got and how grateful
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: I am and how blessed I am to have these things.
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: And they're not things, funny enough, they're people, my family
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: and friends.
• 19:51
  Speaker 3: And then another thing I do.
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: I'll go for a walk, or my favorite is dancing,
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: and I'm not a good dancer at all.
• 19:58
  Speaker 3: I'm probably the worst dancer.
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: I put my favorite music on and dance around the
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: house and just anything that makes me feel.
• 20:03
  Speaker 3: Good is what I do. And I love Brene Brown.
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: So she's a researcher and storyteller and she's done ted
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: talks and she's amazing. She's got many books now, and
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: she's just someone that I relate to a lot, and
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: she really really helps me. So if I'm really feeling down,
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: I'll put one of her talks on and she has
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: audio books as well, which I love, and then I'll
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: listen to her and after five minutes I'm feeling better already.
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: So there's a few different things I do, and I
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: work through each one until I'm better.
• 20:34
  Speaker 2: Basically well, I too, huge fan of Brene Brown. I
• 20:38
  Speaker 2: know many of the hurdlers. Are you talked about putting
• 20:42
  Speaker 2: your feet in the sand, going out barefoot. So much
• 20:45
  Speaker 2: research on the benefits of what's commonly referred to as grounding,
• 20:49
  Speaker 2: I mean, fighting off chronic fatigue, fighting off chronic pain,
• 20:53
  Speaker 2: dealing with anxiety and depression, managing sleep disorders, fighting against
• 20:57
  Speaker 2: cardiovascular disease. I mean so much. It's so much benefits
• 21:01
  Speaker 2: to just being out in nature a calming thing, especially
• 21:05
  Speaker 2: for me, like that early morning run, getting out, even
• 21:08
  Speaker 2: how I'm in New York City or whirled away from
• 21:11
  Speaker 2: any naceand or a bitch, just getting out and hearing
• 21:15
  Speaker 2: nature and finding some stillness before the entire world gets
• 21:18
  Speaker 2: to move. Oh, it's just one big deep ax.
• 21:22
  Speaker 3: How it's the best, isn't it.
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: So many people start the day by picking up their
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: phone and they're going they go straight into social media,
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: and it's so busy and everyone's on there. It's overloading
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: the brain, and then you're feeling overwhelmed and not really
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: positive because a lot of stuff isn't positive and you're
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: not even noticing a lot of it. It's all just
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: it's going into your brain, but you're not really aware
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: of it, and it's too much. So I like to
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: start the day by not just getting my phone straight away.
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: Obviously I'll check if someone's message or try to call
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: it's important, but then I put it down and I
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: just start my day. Usually I do a bit of
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: skincare because I've got James Cosmetics that I own, and
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: I put my masks on.
• 21:58
  Speaker 3: It makes me feel good.
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: I have my routine in the more, I do my
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: breathing exercises and spend time with my kids, and then
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: I'll pick up the phone. I think it's the best
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: way to start rather than just straight on that phone.
• 22:08
  Speaker 2: Oh for sure. And I'm sure that. I mean. Over
• 22:10
  Speaker 2: the years, as you have Garner, quite the following you
• 22:14
  Speaker 2: probably went through different feasas where you felt like you
• 22:17
  Speaker 2: had a lot of control with your relationship with the
• 22:21
  Speaker 2: social media, versus like maybe feeling like things were a
• 22:24
  Speaker 2: little out of control. Talk to me a little bit
• 22:26
  Speaker 2: about that.
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: Yeah, well, social media has come a long way since
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: the beginning. And when I first started, the algorithm was
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: a lot different and you could control what you're doing,
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: and the people that were following you would see what
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: you're doing. And now not many people see it, and
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: it's so big too, So I mean, like my following,
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: there's so many people there, so it can get really
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: overwhelming for me because everything that I put out there,
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: and I'm sure a lot of people get this with
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: large followings, when you put it out there, it's out
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: there and everyone's seen it, and there's so many judgments
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: and criticisms and people always have something to say and
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: we always want to voice their opinions and their opinions right.
• 23:05
  Speaker 3: And it can be a lot.
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: So if you're not prepared for that, then yeah, it
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: can be really bad for you.
• 23:12
  Speaker 3: And you've got to make sure that you're strong enough
• 23:14
  Speaker 3: to be able to deal with it and resilient. That's
• 23:16
  Speaker 3: something that I've worked on for years.
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: So I think I work on it in my real
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: life offline as well as online, being resilient, working on
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: not worrying about what other people think of you, which
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: is so hard and it's easier said than done.
• 23:30
  Speaker 3: But everyone's got an opinion.
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: And once you put yourself out there, and this is
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: what I learned through Brene Brown as well.
• 23:37
  Speaker 3: If you put yourself out there and you're going to be.
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: Seen in the world, there are going to be judgments
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: and criticisms. You can't avoid it. And if you want
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: to avoid it, you've got to stay at home and
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: not do anything. And then even then, if you're online,
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: you're still out there, you know what I mean. So
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: social media has given everyone this way to be out
• 23:55
  Speaker 1: there in front of everyone's eyes all around the world,
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: but you have to know that you're going to get
• 23:59
  Speaker 1: thesems and you've got to be prepared for it. But
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: it's just part of being out there and being seen
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: and taking that step and having the confidence to put
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: yourself out there. And that's something that I've dealt with
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: a lot, and I've come a long way, and I
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: still have times when I feel like it's too much. Actually,
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: when I was pregnant the last time, towards the end
• 24:18
  Speaker 1: of my pregnancy, I was getting really overwhelmed with a
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: lot of stuff that was happening online. I mean, we've
• 24:23
  Speaker 1: had a crazy year and a half, haven't we. With
• 24:26
  Speaker 1: everything that's gone on, and I'm very sensitive and I
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: take a long I take on a lot of stuff
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: that's happening and other people sort of I get messages
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: and people need help all the time, and I want
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: to help everyone, and I get so overwhelmed by it
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: because you cannot help everyone and you can't please everyone.
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: So I ended up just saying, Okay, I need to
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: have a break from this because I'm I'm at the
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: end of my pregnancy.
• 24:48
  Speaker 3: I'm getting really stressed out.
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: I couldn't breathe properly, and I thought, I've got to
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: make changes here.
• 24:54
  Speaker 3: So I got off social media for a couple of
• 24:56
  Speaker 3: weeks and.
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: It was the best thing I ever did, and I
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: felt so freshed and recharged, and I felt like when
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: I came back on that I was capable of I
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: could sort of deal with anything that was sort of
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: throwing my way, and I was strong enough to I
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: sort of veat off topic there.
• 25:11
  Speaker 2: But no, no, I think it's important. And with the
• 25:15
  Speaker 2: magnitude of what you're doing over on social like, is
• 25:19
  Speaker 2: this you the person that's running all of this or
• 25:22
  Speaker 2: how do you navigate that?
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: Yeah, So I don't let anyone touch my Instagram. I've
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: got a Facebook page. I think it's eleven million or
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: something like that on there. I'm not on there as
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: much as I used to be. I used to be
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: on there a lot myself, reading all the messages, but
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: it got too much, and a lot of them are
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: customer service questions about my fitness program. So I do
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: have a customer service team that manage all that for me,
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: but I won't let them touch my Instagram. It's too
• 25:48
  Speaker 1: personal and I feel like I need to be on
• 25:51
  Speaker 1: there myself doing it. But I mean, you can't have everything,
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: so if it is just me, then I'm the only
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: one that's dealing with everything. And obviously I can't get
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: through all the dms, but I try so I sort
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: of scheming through and try to. I try to answer
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: as many as I can, but yeah, sometimes some days,
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: depending what I do, especially in my story, you know,
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: people can reply to stories, there's sometimes several thousand and
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: there's no way anyone can.
• 26:15
  Speaker 3: Get through that.
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  Speaker 2: back to your purpose and understanding that if you want
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  Speaker 2: to affect change, which you said as you came into
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  Speaker 2: your mid twenties with something that you really came to
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  Speaker 2: understand was part of your purpose and part of your mission,
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  Speaker 2: that you're going to have to get comfortable with being
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  Speaker 2: a little bit uncomfortable and understanding Heerberne Brown that you're
• 29:30
  Speaker 2: not going to be a person for everyone.
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: Yep, you cannot please every single person, and if you
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: try to, only sacrificing your own happiness. And that's something
• 29:40
  Speaker 1: I learned to and I always used to do that.
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: I actually put a few quotes up recently. It's funny
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: we're talking about it now, But yeah, I feel like
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: I need I always feel like I need to please everyone.
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: I don't know why I'm a people pleaser and That's
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: why I have to be aware of it and make
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: sure that I'm not sacrificing my own happiness to make
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: everyone else ha which you can't achieve anyway.
• 30:02
  Speaker 3: And there's nothing wrong with wanting other.
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: People to be happy if the people you love like
• 30:06
  Speaker 1: your family. But there's a difference between giving up your
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: own happiness for people that you barely know you know,
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: especially people on social media.
• 30:15
  Speaker 3: It just can't be done.
• 30:16
  Speaker 2: It cannot be done. And I actually think that's a
• 30:19
  Speaker 2: really great point, is that a lot of the time,
• 30:21
  Speaker 2: the individuals that may be coming at you with unsolicited
• 30:24
  Speaker 2: feedback or criticism, these are people that you don't know personally,
• 30:29
  Speaker 2: whether you know you do again have one hundred followers
• 30:33
  Speaker 2: or millions of followers. Something that I've really thought a
• 30:36
  Speaker 2: lot about myself in the past year is like, am
• 30:39
  Speaker 2: I putting enough energy into the the people I know
• 30:42
  Speaker 2: dearly in my own life as I am putting energy
• 30:46
  Speaker 2: into the people that I do not know in my life.
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: Yes, and energy can be even just thinking about it
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: or letting them affect you in some way. And I've
• 30:55
  Speaker 1: had this sort of I guess it was a realization.
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: It was a couple of weeks ago, and I go
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: through these cycles of sometimes I'm really strong and resilient,
• 31:05
  Speaker 1: I don't care what people say, I'm fine, and then
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: other times, if I'm at a lower point, everything affects
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: me and I just I can't even deal with it.
• 31:13
  Speaker 3: So if you get that, if you get me.
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: In that moment where I'm feeling a little bit down
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: or maybe haven't been exercising for a week or something,
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: because that definitely affects me too, and my confidence and
• 31:22
  Speaker 1: my resilience. The other day, so I was like two
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: weeks ago, some people were saying some things and I
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: sort of let them get to me. And you've got
• 31:31
  Speaker 1: to understand, too, people need to be responsible for the
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: way people affect you, for the way you allow them
• 31:36
  Speaker 1: to affect you. You can't control what they do, but
• 31:39
  Speaker 1: you can control how you let them affect you, or
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: if you let them, And you've got to take control
• 31:44
  Speaker 1: of that and not use it as an excuse and
• 31:47
  Speaker 1: let them beat you down and keep you there. So
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: this is something I've been dealing with for many years,
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: and it came up again two weeks ago and people
• 31:55
  Speaker 1: were saying these things and I was really grumpy and
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: I was taking it out of my kids and my partner,
• 32:01
  Speaker 1: and I was just feeling horrible and those depressive kind
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: of feelings, and then I thought, what am I doing.
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: I'm allowing this person who I've never met, who doesn't
• 32:10
  Speaker 1: know me or care about me, affect me and affect
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: my real life and the way I am with my kids,
• 32:16
  Speaker 1: and they're taking that moment away that I could have
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: with my kids and have a great time that you
• 32:22
  Speaker 1: can never get back.
• 32:22
  Speaker 3: You can't get that.
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: Time back, and I'm letting them hijacket and take it away.
• 32:27
  Speaker 3: And I thought, I'm not going to do this.
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: I'm not allowing them to and I have this process
• 32:31
  Speaker 1: and this might sound silly, and you can find your
• 32:34
  Speaker 1: own way of dealing with it. This is what I do,
• 32:36
  Speaker 1: and there's probably some name for it too, but I
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: don't know it. But when these people put their negative
• 32:41
  Speaker 1: comments or they throw those horrible negative things my way,
• 32:45
  Speaker 1: I imagine them like cords and they're attached to me
• 32:48
  Speaker 1: in my chest and they're taking away all my positive energy.
• 32:51
  Speaker 1: And then I imagine cutting it like my arm's a knife,
• 32:55
  Speaker 1: and I cut the cords, and then I envision this
• 33:00
  Speaker 1: them getting sent away, so I actually push them away
• 33:02
  Speaker 1: and I send them back to where they came from.
• 33:05
  Speaker 1: And if I get those feelings back to where I'm
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: letting them get to me again, I do it again.
• 33:09
  Speaker 1: I'll keep doing the same process and push it away
• 33:11
  Speaker 1: and just visualizing that that like, being able to see
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: that process helps me so much and I feel like
• 33:17
  Speaker 1: I'm set free. So I'll do that. And there's so
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: many ways you can do that too. You get to
• 33:22
  Speaker 1: find what works for you.
• 33:23
  Speaker 2: Such a helpful tool and such a helpful visualization. I
• 33:27
  Speaker 2: think also something that you were mentioning before that once
• 33:31
  Speaker 2: you started to move your body, you discovered or perhaps
• 33:35
  Speaker 2: rediscovered a sense of self worth that had been lost
• 33:39
  Speaker 2: along your journey. And that's something that I can certainly
• 33:42
  Speaker 2: relate to as well. When I was in college, I
• 33:46
  Speaker 2: was very much overweight. And that wasn't problematic because of necessarily,
• 33:53
  Speaker 2: you know, looking out at the scale and seeing a
• 33:55
  Speaker 2: certain number, but more so because I looked in the
• 33:58
  Speaker 2: mirror and I wasn't happy. I felt, I didn't love
• 34:01
  Speaker 2: how I felt, I didn't feel confident. In fact, at
• 34:04
  Speaker 2: times I would say that I was definitely depressed. And
• 34:07
  Speaker 2: so for me, when I started to move my body,
• 34:10
  Speaker 2: I started to discover similar as to you, a sense
• 34:14
  Speaker 2: of self worth that I didn't feel before, and it
• 34:17
  Speaker 2: encouraged me and motivated me to then go after other
• 34:21
  Speaker 2: things that I wanted in my life, whether that was
• 34:24
  Speaker 2: to perform better in my academics, or to go out
• 34:27
  Speaker 2: of my comfort zone and try to make new friends,
• 34:29
  Speaker 2: or perhaps connect with someone romantically in a way that
• 34:32
  Speaker 2: maybe I wasn't comfortable doing before. So I think that's
• 34:35
  Speaker 2: really important and a really big point to stress is
• 34:37
  Speaker 2: that for so many movement really can be that gateway
• 34:42
  Speaker 2: for more so for you. As you started to move
• 34:45
  Speaker 2: your body, as you started to feel similarly what doors
• 34:49
  Speaker 2: started to open up.
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: Yeah, And this is what I'm always telling people to it.
• 34:54
  Speaker 1: When you start moving, that feeling, the pawerful feeling that
• 34:58
  Speaker 1: you capable of so much, translates into other areas of.
• 35:01
  Speaker 3: Your life and you feel like you can do anything.
• 35:04
  Speaker 1: And it did for me, and I got this confidence
• 35:06
  Speaker 1: I never had before. I felt because obviously you getting
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: doorphins and all the hormones that are released when you exercise.
• 35:14
  Speaker 3: It makes you feel so amazing.
• 35:15
  Speaker 1: And I notice the difference when I haven't been exercising
• 35:18
  Speaker 1: for a little bit, which is it's rare. It was
• 35:20
  Speaker 1: more around when I was pregnant, I couldn't even string
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: a sentence together. I mean, I struggle now too, but
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: I blame that on baby brain. But I just I
• 35:28
  Speaker 1: didn't feel like I could. It was almost like I
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: was living under a cloud and I was all foggy.
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: But exercise removes all that for me. And I know
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: a lot of people are the same, and you just
• 35:37
  Speaker 1: said before, but I just felt like I'm so powerful,
• 35:42
  Speaker 1: I'm so strong, I'm so capable, and I tell myself
• 35:45
  Speaker 1: these things, and when I'm exercising, I go really hard,
• 35:48
  Speaker 1: and I even tell myself that while I'm exercising, to
• 35:51
  Speaker 1: push me to my limits, and that I can achieve
• 35:54
  Speaker 1: so much more than I think I can, and we
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: are so.
• 35:57
  Speaker 3: Amazing and powerful.
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: And after I had my kids, I felt even more
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: more amazing and powerful. And then I felt like I
• 36:02
  Speaker 1: could do anything. Anything that I wanted in my life,
• 36:05
  Speaker 1: I could actually do. And that's when I started my
• 36:08
  Speaker 1: fitness business. Easily a decade ago, I think it was,
• 36:12
  Speaker 1: Oh no, was it a decade ago? Maybe eight years
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: ago something like that. I actually started a business. So
• 36:17
  Speaker 1: I started building my profile around fitness. But then I
• 36:21
  Speaker 1: made it a business roughly seven or eight years ago,
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I lose track a while ago, and
• 36:27
  Speaker 1: I loved it. I love I still love what I do.
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: My program has evolved so much since back then. It
• 36:33
  Speaker 1: used to be a PDF, and now it's an app
• 36:35
  Speaker 1: that's got everything you could imagine in it. It's got
• 36:38
  Speaker 1: pregnancy post and atal it's got things for beginners.
• 36:41
  Speaker 3: If you're at a higher level training, you can do that.
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: There's so many different programs and challenges on there now,
• 36:47
  Speaker 1: and I just feel like I wouldn't have been able
• 36:49
  Speaker 1: to do any of that if I hadn't unlocked.
• 36:52
  Speaker 3: Like you're saying, you sort of unlock.
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: I don't know what you call it, but it opens
• 36:57
  Speaker 1: yourself up to being able to achieve these things that
• 37:00
  Speaker 1: I thought you could do before that you didn't think
• 37:01
  Speaker 1: were possible. It's like it gives you more possibilities.
• 37:04
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, you're I mean, you're unlarking your own potential.
• 37:08
  Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly. That's the best way to put it, much
• 37:12
  Speaker 3: better with words than me.
• 37:13
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 37:13
  Speaker 3: So I started that and I thought, this is like incredible.
• 37:18
  Speaker 3: I loved it. I was passionate about it.
• 37:19
  Speaker 1: Don't get me wrong, though, it was a lot of
• 37:20
  Speaker 1: hard work, and it still is anything you don't when
• 37:23
  Speaker 1: you do your passion, like when you have your passion
• 37:25
  Speaker 1: as a job, it's not like this dream job. There's
• 37:28
  Speaker 1: still a lot of hard work, and I think people
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: aren't misunderstand that you still have to work really, really hard.
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: But I knew I could do it because I got
• 37:35
  Speaker 1: through my mental health issues and I train really hard
• 37:38
  Speaker 1: and I can do all these other things.
• 37:40
  Speaker 3: I can do this too.
• 37:41
  Speaker 1: And I started James Cosmetics with my friend and my
• 37:44
  Speaker 1: manager Sam, and we've had that for four years now,
• 37:47
  Speaker 1: and so like it's sort of I've gone into different things.
• 37:50
  Speaker 1: But when people ask me what's my biggest accomplishment, it's
• 37:53
  Speaker 1: not getting on I've been on how many magazine covers
• 37:58
  Speaker 1: like Women's Health many many times different magazines. Or it's
• 38:01
  Speaker 1: not being on TV or being on the Forbes list,
• 38:04
  Speaker 1: or it's not these things, which don't get me wrong,
• 38:06
  Speaker 1: they're still amazing. But for me, my biggest accomplishment is
• 38:10
  Speaker 1: overcoming my own mental health issues and my confidence and
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: make my self worth issues. So I've been able to
• 38:16
  Speaker 1: come so far personally that that outweighs anything else. It's
• 38:21
  Speaker 1: so much better than any other achievement I could achieve
• 38:24
  Speaker 1: in my career.
• 38:26
  Speaker 2: For someone who may be struggling with their own mental
• 38:31
  Speaker 2: health battles, what would be one jumping off point, one
• 38:36
  Speaker 2: piece of advice that you would offer to them to
• 38:39
  Speaker 2: be a life raft, to be the lifeboat that helps
• 38:42
  Speaker 2: them make a change.
• 38:45
  Speaker 3: You have to be the lifeboat.
• 38:47
  Speaker 1: Seriously, like I had to realize that it was up
• 38:50
  Speaker 1: to me to make those changes. Don't wait for anyone
• 38:53
  Speaker 1: else to do it. Of course, you can get support
• 38:55
  Speaker 1: and don't be ashamed to get support from people who
• 38:58
  Speaker 1: are either close with you that can about you and
• 39:01
  Speaker 1: know what they're doing, because you can get the wrong
• 39:03
  Speaker 1: person too, that can hold you back. They may love you,
• 39:05
  Speaker 1: but they might not be the right person. But that's
• 39:08
  Speaker 1: where professionals come into. So get professional help and don't
• 39:11
  Speaker 1: be ashamed. That's one of the biggest things. But you
• 39:14
  Speaker 1: still have to do the work. So you have to
• 39:17
  Speaker 1: when you go home. It's like training. If you want
• 39:19
  Speaker 1: to get fit, you can't go once a week or
• 39:21
  Speaker 1: once a fortnight and expect to get changes. You have
• 39:25
  Speaker 1: to be consistent and go five times a week or
• 39:28
  Speaker 1: whatever that number is. You've got to do it many
• 39:31
  Speaker 1: times and then you'll see changes and you'll feel changes
• 39:33
  Speaker 1: and you'll get fit.
• 39:34
  Speaker 3: But if you're.
• 39:36
  Speaker 1: Just going once every now and then, you're not going
• 39:38
  Speaker 1: to get anywhere. So it's the same with your mental health.
• 39:40
  Speaker 1: You need to be consistent with it and work on
• 39:42
  Speaker 1: it every single day. And I still work on it.
• 39:45
  Speaker 1: So I went through depression years ago, I went through anxiety.
• 39:47
  Speaker 1: I still get anxiety every now and then. Now it
• 39:50
  Speaker 1: doesn't completely go away. You just stay on top of
• 39:53
  Speaker 1: it and you become aware of when you're starting to
• 39:56
  Speaker 1: get dragged back down, and you can make changes and
• 39:58
  Speaker 1: you can do things that that help you move forward.
• 40:02
  Speaker 3: And overcome it. I guess, and stay on top of it.
• 40:05
  Speaker 1: But yeah, the biggest thing that I can say is
• 40:07
  Speaker 1: that you have to realize that you have to do
• 40:11
  Speaker 1: the work, but you are worth it.
• 40:13
  Speaker 3: You are worth it like you are worthy. You are
• 40:16
  Speaker 3: meant to be here.
• 40:17
  Speaker 1: You're born for a reason, and you can have whatever
• 40:21
  Speaker 1: you want in your life and obviously within reason, but
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: you just have to And this is what I would
• 40:27
  Speaker 1: tell myself if I went back and spoke to myself
• 40:30
  Speaker 1: as a teenager, to hang on, to keep going forward
• 40:35
  Speaker 1: and believe in yourself that whatever there is out there
• 40:39
  Speaker 1: that you want. You can achieve it, but you have
• 40:41
  Speaker 1: to do the work. No one else can do it
• 40:43
  Speaker 1: for you. So there's people that struggle with these issues,
• 40:48
  Speaker 1: mental health issues, and they just always go to someone
• 40:51
  Speaker 1: else expecting them to help them, which they can, but
• 40:54
  Speaker 1: they can only support.
• 40:56
  Speaker 3: You have to do it. I think I've stressed that enough.
• 40:58
  Speaker 3: Do you think to do it?
• 41:00
  Speaker 2: I totally understand. I totally see where you're coming from.
• 41:03
  Speaker 2: I recently had a conversation with Alexi Papas. She's a runner,
• 41:06
  Speaker 2: and she's very vocal about dealing with her own depression
• 41:09
  Speaker 2: and mental health struggles, and something that I think is
• 41:12
  Speaker 2: super valuable that she said to me, which I'll share
• 41:14
  Speaker 2: with you, is thinking about depression is having an injury
• 41:19
  Speaker 2: on your brain, and just as though with any sort
• 41:22
  Speaker 2: of physical injury, where you would talk to a physical
• 41:25
  Speaker 2: therapist and get a sex set of exercises and start
• 41:28
  Speaker 2: doing rehab, and then learning from that experience that when
• 41:31
  Speaker 2: you have injuries going forward, you can go back to
• 41:33
  Speaker 2: those exercises knowing that if you put in the time
• 41:36
  Speaker 2: and if you put in the work, you can help
• 41:39
  Speaker 2: your body get better. The same thing goes for mental
• 41:43
  Speaker 2: health and depression and dealing with the difficulties that come
• 41:48
  Speaker 2: hand in hand with that understanding that we have the
• 41:51
  Speaker 2: power to establish and come up with, as you called it,
• 41:55
  Speaker 2: a toolbox, and then use that toolbox when things feel hard,
• 42:00
  Speaker 2: regardless of whether it's a few days in a row,
• 42:03
  Speaker 2: if it's different. So a few years apart, going back
• 42:06
  Speaker 2: to that toolbox and realizing that there are things in
• 42:08
  Speaker 2: yours to help you get to where you want to
• 42:10
  Speaker 2: be and get to a better place.
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, definitely, And you need to sit there, like
• 42:17
  Speaker 1: even today and write a list of things or in
• 42:20
  Speaker 1: your phone or wherever somewhere you can access easily, and
• 42:23
  Speaker 1: write a list of things that make you feel better,
• 42:25
  Speaker 1: that you enjoy doing that you can then go to
• 42:28
  Speaker 1: and that can be your toolbox. So if you're feeling shitty,
• 42:30
  Speaker 1: you can go to that and work through it. But
• 42:32
  Speaker 1: you have to do it and stay on top of it.
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: And when you start having those feelings, act before it
• 42:37
  Speaker 1: gets too too late. And it's never too late, but
• 42:39
  Speaker 1: you want to get on top of it sooner rather
• 42:41
  Speaker 1: than later.
• 42:42
  Speaker 3: But we all have struggled.
• 42:44
  Speaker 2: I love what you said there about having a list
• 42:47
  Speaker 2: that you can go to of things that make you happy.
• 42:49
  Speaker 2: I remember during COVID and we're talking about how the
• 42:52
  Speaker 2: past year, year and change has definitely been a difficult time.
• 42:56
  Speaker 2: I remember as many of my friends were leaving New York,
• 42:59
  Speaker 2: I needed to sit down and make a list of
• 43:01
  Speaker 2: the things that I can do in my life on
• 43:03
  Speaker 2: my own that I can rely on myself for that
• 43:05
  Speaker 2: bring me joy.
• 43:07
  Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly, if you're feeling good too, you know those feelings,
• 43:11
  Speaker 1: so it'll flow and come easily. When you're feeling down,
• 43:14
  Speaker 1: it's hard to come up with things that make you
• 43:17
  Speaker 1: feel good. So you've got to do it when you're
• 43:18
  Speaker 1: in a good sort of place. I mean, there's any
• 43:20
  Speaker 1: any times better than no time. But when you're feeling
• 43:23
  Speaker 1: good and you know what makes you feel good, then
• 43:26
  Speaker 1: write the list down and say, if you have a
• 43:27
  Speaker 1: good day and you go out and I don't know
• 43:29
  Speaker 1: what you do ab sailing or something crazy, write it
• 43:31
  Speaker 1: down and go, this made me feel good, and then
• 43:33
  Speaker 1: you can access it.
• 43:35
  Speaker 2: Definitely, access is important. So you have talked about the
• 43:39
  Speaker 2: growth of your presence and transitioning from your beginnings and
• 43:44
  Speaker 2: fitness to now having a thriving APP. I think what
• 43:48
  Speaker 2: could be really helpful for individuals listening who are maybe
• 43:52
  Speaker 2: in the fitness and wellness industry interested in either following
• 43:55
  Speaker 2: a similar path or just gaining some more understanding about
• 43:57
  Speaker 2: how it is that you got to be in this
• 44:00
  Speaker 2: position to shut a little bit more late on going
• 44:03
  Speaker 2: from those early stages and what those look like to
• 44:06
  Speaker 2: getting to our point now where or getting to this
• 44:10
  Speaker 2: point as the years went on, where you were in
• 44:12
  Speaker 2: a place to launch an out like this.
• 44:15
  Speaker 1: Yeah, So I guess when I first started to I
• 44:19
  Speaker 1: wanted to create something for other people, and I wasn't
• 44:22
  Speaker 1: sure exactly what that was because we're going back when
• 44:25
  Speaker 1: there was no such thing as a fitness program, like
• 44:28
  Speaker 1: there were things you'd see on those infomercials or something.
• 44:32
  Speaker 1: I wanted something that would be it would make fitness
• 44:35
  Speaker 1: accessible and there was no barriers for entry, so people
• 44:38
  Speaker 1: could just do something that would make them feel good.
• 44:41
  Speaker 1: And that's when I started building my Facebook and my
• 44:44
  Speaker 1: Instagram because I was posting a lot of free workout
• 44:47
  Speaker 1: videos and helpful sort of posts like things that were
• 44:50
  Speaker 1: for free. And this is a mistake a lot of
• 44:52
  Speaker 1: people make too when they're starting businesses. They want to
• 44:54
  Speaker 1: hold everything back and make sure everyone pays for everything,
• 44:57
  Speaker 1: but you've got to put out things for free that
• 45:00
  Speaker 1: are going to help people, because otherwise you're not really
• 45:03
  Speaker 1: achieving anything. Or not for me anyway, I'd rather just
• 45:06
  Speaker 1: give a lot of free stuff that people can can
• 45:08
  Speaker 1: do that will make them feel better, and then if
• 45:10
  Speaker 1: they want more, they can then enter into your program
• 45:14
  Speaker 1: whatever it is that you're selling. So every single day
• 45:16
  Speaker 1: I was putting out a workout video so people could
• 45:18
  Speaker 1: just get fit at home and not have to spend
• 45:21
  Speaker 1: a cent. And then I guess that sort of they
• 45:24
  Speaker 1: built trust in me, and they realized that I had
• 45:27
  Speaker 1: good workouts and I was someone that they could trust,
• 45:30
  Speaker 1: and they wanted more. And then I developed my program
• 45:34
  Speaker 1: that had so it was a PDF back in the day,
• 45:36
  Speaker 1: and they'd access everything on my website. And then I
• 45:40
  Speaker 1: created an app that was a free app as well,
• 45:43
  Speaker 1: because I mean, I'm not really good at business, to
• 45:45
  Speaker 1: be honest with you, because I want to give everything
• 45:47
  Speaker 1: away for free. But it was an app that had
• 45:51
  Speaker 1: it was called Daily Workouts, so they'd get a workout
• 45:54
  Speaker 1: every single day that they could do and follow along
• 45:56
  Speaker 1: on the app, and it was really easy to use.
• 45:59
  Speaker 1: And then as years went on, I wanted to make
• 46:02
  Speaker 1: the app have more and more in it, so they're
• 46:06
  Speaker 1: are meal plan so to this day, there's meal plans
• 46:08
  Speaker 1: that are customizable, so you can pick and choose what
• 46:11
  Speaker 1: you want to eat. You can choose how many people
• 46:13
  Speaker 1: you're cooking for. It spits out a shopping list to
• 46:15
  Speaker 1: make it easy, and if there's something you can't eat,
• 46:18
  Speaker 1: you put that in there and you can do like
• 46:20
  Speaker 1: dairy free or vegetarian or whatever. And then there's multiple
• 46:25
  Speaker 1: challenges and programs. I think there's about seven now. So
• 46:29
  Speaker 1: there's the daily workouts in the app. Then there's the
• 46:32
  Speaker 1: Start Strong program, which is for beginners. It's a really basic,
• 46:36
  Speaker 1: fundamental program that will go back to basics and teach
• 46:39
  Speaker 1: you how to do form for each exercise. Then I've
• 46:42
  Speaker 1: got the pregnancy program with different stages of pregnancy, the
• 46:45
  Speaker 1: three trimesters and two different intensities that.
• 46:47
  Speaker 3: You can choose from.
• 46:48
  Speaker 1: Then there's the post natal program that's each it's got
• 46:52
  Speaker 1: six week blocks, so it goes through each phase so
• 46:56
  Speaker 1: as you get stronger. It's sort of getting women strong
• 46:59
  Speaker 1: enough to get back into normal fitness because there's a
• 47:02
  Speaker 1: lot of obviously a lot of changes that happen when
• 47:04
  Speaker 1: you're pregnant with your ab separation and your pelvic flow
• 47:08
  Speaker 1: not being as strong or functioning as well as it
• 47:10
  Speaker 1: was before. And you've got relaxing, which is a hormone
• 47:12
  Speaker 1: that softens all your ligaments, so you've got to do
• 47:16
  Speaker 1: certain sort of training that takes that into account. So
• 47:19
  Speaker 1: it goes through all that, and I've got experts that
• 47:21
  Speaker 1: work on it as well. Then there's the Booty program,
• 47:23
  Speaker 1: there's ABS to Core, there's Body sculpt which is the
• 47:27
  Speaker 1: most recent one. That's a full body workout, which is
• 47:30
  Speaker 1: at home stuff. So I've really made sure there's a
• 47:32
  Speaker 1: lot of at home workouts, especially because of COVID and
• 47:35
  Speaker 1: people can't get to the gym, so there's no excuse.
• 47:38
  Speaker 1: You can get fit at home, in your laundroom or
• 47:40
  Speaker 1: in your backyard. So it's pretty much got everything now.
• 47:44
  Speaker 1: I mean there's always more. I'll keep adding, but it's
• 47:47
  Speaker 1: just it's endless and they can choose what they want
• 47:49
  Speaker 1: to do and what their goal is, whether it's to
• 47:51
  Speaker 1: build strength and muscle or lose body fat. Yeah, it's
• 47:56
  Speaker 1: pretty much all song and dance. Very happy with it.
• 47:59
  Speaker 1: It's come a long way.
• 48:00
  Speaker 2: And you mentioned nutritional programs and of course the diversity
• 48:04
  Speaker 2: that happens within the app in terms of the programming
• 48:07
  Speaker 2: and working with other experts. I think that this is
• 48:10
  Speaker 2: a really important chord to make sure that we hit
• 48:13
  Speaker 2: on here, is that you are working with experts outside
• 48:16
  Speaker 2: of being a certified personal trainer yourself.
• 48:20
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and I can't do everything. I'd like to think
• 48:23
  Speaker 3: I can, but I can't.
• 48:24
  Speaker 1: And I've got doctors on there as well, and physios,
• 48:27
  Speaker 1: I've got mental health experts. I don't want to be
• 48:30
  Speaker 1: the person that sits there going, oh no, it's all
• 48:32
  Speaker 1: me and I'm the only one that can help you
• 48:34
  Speaker 1: here I need to. I think it's so important to
• 48:37
  Speaker 1: have many people working together and everyone's experts in their
• 48:40
  Speaker 1: own field, and together we can help people. And I
• 48:44
  Speaker 1: also love the idea of having because they're all women too,
• 48:47
  Speaker 1: And I love that we're all women that are all
• 48:50
  Speaker 1: good at our different things and we're all supporting each
• 48:52
  Speaker 1: other like this is in the app. Like the people
• 48:56
  Speaker 1: that work on the app and part of my fit fit.
• 48:59
  Speaker 1: I don't know what you can like the fit fam that,
• 49:02
  Speaker 1: like the doctor's experts, all those people. I love that
• 49:04
  Speaker 1: we're all working together and supporting each other, and it's
• 49:07
  Speaker 1: really empowering as well as also having my fit fam
• 49:11
  Speaker 1: as in the people that are part of the program
• 49:13
  Speaker 1: that have bought into it. They're all so amazing. We're
• 49:16
  Speaker 1: all women that come together. We want to see each
• 49:19
  Speaker 1: other succeed, and we support each other, and we have
• 49:22
  Speaker 1: different goals but similar We want to get better and
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  Speaker 1: about the feeling. How you feel so much more important
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  Speaker 1: So it's hard when you're making changes in your life.
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  Speaker 1: And I went through this myself. When I first started
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  Speaker 1: getting into health and fitness, I had people around me
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  Speaker 1: and they were the wrong people and I ended up
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  Speaker 1: removing them from my life, which was hard, but I
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  Speaker 1: had to do it. When I was lifting weights, I
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  Speaker 1: was starting to get muscle, and some of my friends
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  Speaker 1: were saying, you're taking this too far and you're looking
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  Speaker 1: manly and oh, it's disgusting. And I had a friend
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  Speaker 1: of mine, he was supposed to be my best friend.
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  Speaker 1: Look at my arms and I was doing boxing.
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  Speaker 3: I was trying to get.
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  Speaker 1: look at your arms.
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  Speaker 3: You look like a man.
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  Speaker 1: And I thought, I feel the best I've ever felt
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  Speaker 1: in my life. And I love this feeling. I love
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  Speaker 1: what it's doing for my mind and my body. And
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  Speaker 1: you're here telling me that I look manly, and I'm
• 50:31
  Speaker 1: taking it too far. So I realized she wasn't right
• 50:35
  Speaker 1: for me and the right sort of friend to have around.
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  Speaker 1: But it is hard when you're making changes if you
• 50:40
  Speaker 1: feel like you're on your own and you don't have support,
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  Speaker 2: to me a little bit about getting pregnant with your
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  Speaker 2: daughter and how that impacted you and your mental health
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  Speaker 2: and your family.
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  Speaker 1: I think it did so many wonderful things for me,
• 54:41
  Speaker 1: obviously on my journey. I've been getting stronger mentally over
• 54:45
  Speaker 1: the years, and I'm still getting stronger to this day.
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  Speaker 1: But that was a real turning point for me as well,
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  Speaker 1: because even though I'd come so far, I was still
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  Speaker 1: sort of caught up in the perfection thing, and it's
• 54:57
  Speaker 1: something I always struggled with. I thought perfection existed, and
• 55:00
  Speaker 1: I always aimed for that. Obviously it doesn't, but I
• 55:03
  Speaker 1: still wanted to be that. So when I fell pregnant
• 55:07
  Speaker 1: and I gained twenty five kilos, I'm not sure how
• 55:09
  Speaker 1: much that is in pounds, but it's a fair bit.
• 55:11
  Speaker 2: That's fifty five pounds.
• 55:13
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I was going to say a bit below sixty,
• 55:16
  Speaker 1: so a fair bit, especially because I was a small
• 55:18
  Speaker 1: frame and then having that much weight on. I guess
• 55:24
  Speaker 1: people assumed, and I sort of assumed because I was
• 55:27
  Speaker 1: in the fitness industry and I'd been fit for so long,
• 55:30
  Speaker 1: that I would not gain so much and I'd sort
• 55:33
  Speaker 1: of be one of those super fit pregnant women that
• 55:36
  Speaker 1: would have the baby and they're back in their skinny
• 55:39
  Speaker 1: jeans and.
• 55:40
  Speaker 3: The weights will gone and they're back to normal.
• 55:42
  Speaker 1: So I sort of thought that maybe that would be me,
• 55:45
  Speaker 1: and a lot of people, I guess thought the same thing.
• 55:49
  Speaker 1: And then because I did gain all the weight and
• 55:51
  Speaker 1: had my daughter, And don't get me wrong, I wasn't
• 55:55
  Speaker 1: ever feeling bad about my body or anything. I just
• 55:58
  Speaker 1: I loved being even though pregnancy, I was in a
• 56:01
  Speaker 1: lot of pain. I had back problems and psiatica and
• 56:03
  Speaker 1: all the things that come with it, all those wonderful things.
• 56:06
  Speaker 1: I still was so grateful for it because I wanted
• 56:08
  Speaker 1: a baby so badly, and I would overlook all that
• 56:11
  Speaker 1: other stuff. And I guess I probably thought i'd lose
• 56:14
  Speaker 1: the weight very quickly anyway, that it'd be fine, And
• 56:17
  Speaker 1: then so I.
• 56:17
  Speaker 3: Had had her, and the weight didn't drop off fast.
• 56:21
  Speaker 2: It was.
• 56:22
  Speaker 1: It was very hard to get rid of and I
• 56:24
  Speaker 1: had to work extremely hard, and especially when you've got
• 56:28
  Speaker 1: a new board. Anyone who's got babies knows what it's like.
• 56:31
  Speaker 1: I was training every day at midnight. By the time
• 56:35
  Speaker 1: she got to sleep, it was midnight, so I had
• 56:37
  Speaker 1: to just do it when I could, and I worked
• 56:40
  Speaker 1: so hard, and eventually I started losing the fact that
• 56:45
  Speaker 1: i'd gained.
• 56:45
  Speaker 3: But it wasn't just overnight.
• 56:47
  Speaker 1: It took time, and that was a lesson that I learned,
• 56:50
  Speaker 1: and I'm so glad I went through it and experienced it.
• 56:53
  Speaker 1: That it's harder for some people, and this is why
• 56:56
  Speaker 1: we can't compare. I'm huge on not comparing with other
• 56:59
  Speaker 1: people and making sure you're focusing on your own life
• 57:01
  Speaker 1: and your own journey and just being grateful for what
• 57:04
  Speaker 1: you've got and make your own achievable goals that you
• 57:08
  Speaker 1: know that you can that are attainable, and not getting
• 57:10
  Speaker 1: distracted by other people because it's the worst thing you
• 57:12
  Speaker 1: can do. And I sort of went through it too,
• 57:16
  Speaker 1: because social media is full of these perfect bodies, or
• 57:20
  Speaker 1: they appear to be perfect, and we know it doesn't exist,
• 57:22
  Speaker 1: but there they are in our faces. And I remember
• 57:26
  Speaker 1: seeing some other fitness professionals who had had a baby
• 57:30
  Speaker 1: around the same time as me, and they were back,
• 57:32
  Speaker 1: you know, with their six pack abs, And don't get
• 57:35
  Speaker 1: me wrong, I think it's amazing and good for them.
• 57:38
  Speaker 1: But the worst thing I could do was compare and
• 57:41
  Speaker 1: say why aren't I like that? Which I said to myself,
• 57:43
  Speaker 1: I thought, why am I not back like that? What's
• 57:46
  Speaker 1: wrong with me? People are going to think I'm not
• 57:48
  Speaker 1: really a fitness expert, like I should be back back
• 57:51
  Speaker 1: to that. Like I sort of put that pressure on myself,
• 57:53
  Speaker 1: But then I'd say to myself, no, am practice what
• 57:56
  Speaker 1: you preach, it's not about that.
• 57:57
  Speaker 3: Don't compare.
• 57:58
  Speaker 1: We're all in our own journ were all different, and
• 58:02
  Speaker 1: I'm I'm not gonna beat myself down because I don't
• 58:05
  Speaker 1: look like the way they are looking.
• 58:07
  Speaker 3: So that's when I just did my work.
• 58:10
  Speaker 1: I worked hard on getting my fitness back, and I
• 58:13
  Speaker 1: focused on how I felt over how my body was changing.
• 58:16
  Speaker 3: And it's not it doesn't come naturally to me.
• 58:18
  Speaker 1: I don't just go I don't care how I look,
• 58:20
  Speaker 1: and I just I just want to feel good. Of
• 58:22
  Speaker 1: course I want to look good too, but I just
• 58:24
  Speaker 1: kept focusing on how I was feeling, and even when
• 58:27
  Speaker 1: it came to how when I was losing the body fat,
• 58:30
  Speaker 1: I wouldn't worry about the scales and what I was weighing.
• 58:33
  Speaker 1: I just would look at how my clothes were fitting
• 58:36
  Speaker 1: and how you know, I was changing. My waist was changing,
• 58:39
  Speaker 1: it was getting smaller, and those sorts of things. But
• 58:41
  Speaker 1: I always went back to how I was feeling mentally
• 58:44
  Speaker 1: and making sure that I was healthy, and I didn't
• 58:46
  Speaker 1: do anything too extreme to get there. So I learnt
• 58:48
  Speaker 1: that in the first pregnancy, and then the second time around,
• 58:52
  Speaker 1: I could deal with it a lot better because I
• 58:54
  Speaker 1: knew what I was in for and I knew.
• 58:56
  Speaker 3: That i'd probably gain a lot, which I did.
• 58:58
  Speaker 1: I gained pretty much the same sort of wait, and
• 59:02
  Speaker 1: I'm on that journey now to get getting back to
• 59:05
  Speaker 1: being strong and super fit and healthy again. And I'm
• 59:08
  Speaker 1: eight months postpartum today actually, and yeah, it's taken. It's
• 59:12
  Speaker 1: been actually even harder this time, and I guess being
• 59:14
  Speaker 1: older hasn't helped.
• 59:16
  Speaker 3: But that's the thing, Like.
• 59:17
  Speaker 1: I think it's good and I'm actually grateful that I've
• 59:21
  Speaker 1: been able to go through this. Of course to have
• 59:23
  Speaker 1: my babies, because they're just miracles, but also to show
• 59:26
  Speaker 1: other women that it's sort of been an example to
• 59:29
  Speaker 1: them and show them that I can love my body
• 59:32
  Speaker 1: through everything, through putting on the extra way, through having
• 59:36
  Speaker 1: the wrinkly skin and the cellulate and stretch marks and
• 59:38
  Speaker 1: all that stuff that I still and I truly do.
• 59:41
  Speaker 1: I'm not just saying that I love my body. I've
• 59:43
  Speaker 1: never loved it more than I do now. I think
• 59:46
  Speaker 1: it's incredible for what it's done. And whether you've had
• 59:48
  Speaker 1: a baby or not, our bodies are amazing what they
• 59:51
  Speaker 1: do every single day for us that we don't even
• 59:53
  Speaker 1: think about. We are so lucky to have that, to
• 59:57
  Speaker 1: be here and have our health, and that's why health
• 59:59
  Speaker 1: is so we important.
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 3: And yeah, here I am eight.
• 1:00:03
  Speaker 1: Months later, still training very hard, but I'm enjoying it.
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 1: And it's not because anyone else expects me to or
• 1:00:09
  Speaker 1: I've put pressure on myself.
• 1:00:11
  Speaker 3: It's because I want to be my best.
• 1:00:13
  Speaker 1: I want to feel my best for me, for myself
• 1:00:15
  Speaker 1: and for my family, so I can be the best
• 1:00:17
  Speaker 1: mother possible and the best person, and the best friend,
• 1:00:21
  Speaker 1: and just.
• 1:00:22
  Speaker 3: The best that I can possibly be.
• 1:00:24
  Speaker 2: What piece of advice would the Emily that's in this
• 1:00:28
  Speaker 2: headspace now offer that Emily that was back in her
• 1:00:34
  Speaker 2: late teens early twenties in the modeling industry.
• 1:00:40
  Speaker 1: I would say, learn as much as you can and
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 1: make sure you're taking something. Not everything's going to be positive,
• 1:00:47
  Speaker 1: but try to see something positive out of every situation.
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 1: And I truly believe even if it's a really terrible situation,
• 1:00:53
  Speaker 1: and I've been through many of them, there is something
• 1:00:56
  Speaker 1: to learn from that and grow as a person.
• 1:00:59
  Speaker 3: But the biggest thing for me is to.
• 1:01:02
  Speaker 1: Know your worth and you are worthy of being loved,
• 1:01:07
  Speaker 1: and you're worthy of achieving things, of achieving whatever it
• 1:01:11
  Speaker 1: is you want to do. Because I always used to
• 1:01:13
  Speaker 1: think I wasn't good enough or I can't do that
• 1:01:15
  Speaker 1: because I'm not good enough. And my partner Declin helped
• 1:01:18
  Speaker 1: me a lot to believe in myself and to know
• 1:01:20
  Speaker 1: that I am capable and worthy of it. But the
• 1:01:23
  Speaker 1: biggest thing is your self worth and knowing that things
• 1:01:26
  Speaker 1: can get better and no matter no matter how bad
• 1:01:28
  Speaker 1: it gets at the time, there is a way out
• 1:01:32
  Speaker 1: and things will get better. So push through, push through,
• 1:01:35
  Speaker 1: keep going, don't give up.
• 1:01:38
  Speaker 2: Right now. When someone comes to your Instagram page, they
• 1:01:42
  Speaker 2: see a woman that is a mother of two, well
• 1:01:45
  Speaker 2: versed in fitness. She's got a handful a couple of
• 1:01:49
  Speaker 2: million followers. When you look in the mirror, what is
• 1:01:53
  Speaker 2: it that you see looking back at you?
• 1:01:57
  Speaker 1: I see an amazing woman who has achieved so much,
• 1:02:01
  Speaker 1: especially mentally. I see a body that's carried my two
• 1:02:06
  Speaker 1: babies and kept grown them, kept them alive, breastfed. I've
• 1:02:12
  Speaker 1: I'm extremely strong mentally and physically because the strength, like
• 1:02:16
  Speaker 1: we're talking about before, translates into other areas. But the
• 1:02:20
  Speaker 1: physical strength of my fitness for me, translates into my
• 1:02:25
  Speaker 1: mental health. And I feel like I'm so strong and capable.
• 1:02:28
  Speaker 1: I feel like I'm super woman, and I'm appreciative. And
• 1:02:32
  Speaker 1: I'm not even just saying this because I think it's
• 1:02:34
  Speaker 1: what I should say. I'm saying it because this is
• 1:02:36
  Speaker 1: how I truly feel. And there was a moment after
• 1:02:39
  Speaker 1: I had my son. I actually had my son on
• 1:02:41
  Speaker 1: the landroom floor at home because I didn't make it
• 1:02:44
  Speaker 1: to the hospital. It happened so fast, and this was
• 1:02:47
  Speaker 1: something that also made me feel like I'm so strong
• 1:02:51
  Speaker 1: and amazing because my body and so many women do this,
• 1:02:55
  Speaker 1: I know, but I actually had this feeling myself.
• 1:02:58
  Speaker 3: My body did it.
• 1:02:59
  Speaker 1: My body burn him on its egn and I didn't
• 1:03:01
  Speaker 1: have to do anything, and he's healthy, and everything sort
• 1:03:06
  Speaker 1: of went how it should go, I guess, or how
• 1:03:08
  Speaker 1: you would hope it would go. And I didn't have
• 1:03:11
  Speaker 1: any sort of medical support to write. At the end,
• 1:03:13
  Speaker 1: he was already half out and I had the ambulance
• 1:03:16
  Speaker 1: officers come and then I got taken to the hospital
• 1:03:18
  Speaker 1: in the ambulance. But I did it all and I
• 1:03:20
  Speaker 1: felt like, wow, I am capable. I had this really strong,
• 1:03:24
  Speaker 1: powered sort of feeling. And then when I got to
• 1:03:26
  Speaker 1: the hospital and I had my first shower, so you
• 1:03:29
  Speaker 1: go in and wash off because it gets pretty messy childbirth.
• 1:03:32
  Speaker 1: I went into the bathroom and I looked in the
• 1:03:36
  Speaker 1: mirror and I had this smile on my face, because
• 1:03:40
  Speaker 1: after you've had a baby, you still have the big
• 1:03:42
  Speaker 1: tummy and you've got extra skin.
• 1:03:44
  Speaker 3: It's all sort of hanging and it's very different.
• 1:03:47
  Speaker 1: And I could see how women would be very they
• 1:03:49
  Speaker 1: could get upset by it.
• 1:03:50
  Speaker 3: But I felt the opposite.
• 1:03:52
  Speaker 1: And I thought, because I went through all those years
• 1:03:55
  Speaker 1: of hating myself and hating my body and always criticizing
• 1:03:58
  Speaker 1: it and I'm not enough or to this, or I'm
• 1:04:00
  Speaker 1: too skinny, or I'm I don't have enough of this,
• 1:04:02
  Speaker 1: there's always something that's not that wasn't enough.
• 1:04:04
  Speaker 3: It was always I was lacking.
• 1:04:05
  Speaker 1: It's as scarcity sort of mentality, I don't have enough
• 1:04:08
  Speaker 1: of something, or I'm you know, just not right. But
• 1:04:13
  Speaker 1: I had that feeling of wow, look what my body
• 1:04:16
  Speaker 1: has done.
• 1:04:17
  Speaker 3: Isn't it incredible?
• 1:04:18
  Speaker 1: And I had this overwhelming love and appreciation for it.
• 1:04:21
  Speaker 1: And I put my hands on my tummy and I
• 1:04:24
  Speaker 1: and I said thank you. I actually said those words
• 1:04:26
  Speaker 1: out loud, thank you so much. Look what you've done.
• 1:04:29
  Speaker 1: You've birthed my baby boy and he's healthy and we're
• 1:04:32
  Speaker 1: both fine. And I felt so powerful, like I was
• 1:04:36
  Speaker 1: actually wonder woman or superwoman or something like that like
• 1:04:39
  Speaker 1: a superhero. And then I said to myself, don't ever
• 1:04:43
  Speaker 1: hate yourself again, Like, don't ever have that hate for
• 1:04:46
  Speaker 1: your body ever again. And if you do, you got
• 1:04:49
  Speaker 1: to remember this moment. And I haven't yet had to
• 1:04:52
  Speaker 1: remind myself because I just I am so grateful for
• 1:04:54
  Speaker 1: what my body does. And this is what I'm all
• 1:04:56
  Speaker 1: about to I tell women that focus on what your
• 1:04:59
  Speaker 1: body does for you, not how it looks.
• 1:05:01
  Speaker 3: And again, it's it's all good to want to look good.
• 1:05:05
  Speaker 1: That's okay, but don't sacrifice your health to get there,
• 1:05:07
  Speaker 1: and don't beat yourself up. And we're not trying to
• 1:05:09
  Speaker 1: get perfection here. We just want to feel the best
• 1:05:12
  Speaker 1: we can. But we have to remember that we are
• 1:05:15
  Speaker 1: amazing and our bodies do so much for us, and
• 1:05:18
  Speaker 1: have gratitude for it.
• 1:05:19
  Speaker 2: What excites you right now?
• 1:05:25
  Speaker 1: This is going to sound so weird and stupid, but
• 1:05:27
  Speaker 1: going to the gym that stupid, Isn't it strange? But
• 1:05:31
  Speaker 1: people think, oh, you know, you don't you don't wake
• 1:05:34
  Speaker 1: up and you want to get to the gym to
• 1:05:35
  Speaker 1: be excited.
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  Speaker 3: No one, no one feels like that.
• 1:05:37
  Speaker 1: But I actually do feel like that now because I'm
• 1:05:39
  Speaker 1: at that point I've pushed through the start where it's
• 1:05:42
  Speaker 1: horrible and you don't want to do it and you
• 1:05:43
  Speaker 1: feel unmotivated.
• 1:05:44
  Speaker 3: I've pushed through all that.
• 1:05:45
  Speaker 1: Now and I've started feeling really strong and capable, and
• 1:05:51
  Speaker 1: I feel like I've pushed my fitness further than I
• 1:05:54
  Speaker 1: ever have because my mental strength now is so strong,
• 1:05:57
  Speaker 1: and like we'll say before, it translates into other areas
• 1:06:01
  Speaker 1: of our lives, and I feel just amazing, on top
• 1:06:04
  Speaker 1: of the world. And this is what I felt when
• 1:06:06
  Speaker 1: I first started health and fitness. I felt like I
• 1:06:08
  Speaker 1: was on top of the world, and I wanted other
• 1:06:10
  Speaker 1: people to feel that way. So that excites me, that
• 1:06:12
  Speaker 1: feeling of I'm pushing myself further, obviously listening to my
• 1:06:17
  Speaker 1: body too and not going too far, but we can
• 1:06:21
  Speaker 1: do so much more than we think we can. And
• 1:06:23
  Speaker 1: then I get excited because I've achieved this, and then
• 1:06:26
  Speaker 1: I know that other people can achieve it too, and
• 1:06:28
  Speaker 1: I know that all the women doing my programs. I've
• 1:06:31
  Speaker 1: just launched another one the other day, body sculpt and
• 1:06:34
  Speaker 1: I'm seeing people posting about that and they're excited and
• 1:06:36
  Speaker 1: they're doing workouts and they're saying it's really hard and
• 1:06:39
  Speaker 1: laying who's sitting next to me here is doing body
• 1:06:41
  Speaker 1: sculpt and she's saying, I hate you and this is
• 1:06:43
  Speaker 1: it's so hard today, And I say, yeah, well it's
• 1:06:46
  Speaker 1: going to get better as you get stronger, it's going
• 1:06:48
  Speaker 1: to feel easier and you're you're going to love it.
• 1:06:50
  Speaker 1: But the start's really really hard. But that's what excites me,
• 1:06:53
  Speaker 1: and that's when I started. That's what made me want
• 1:06:56
  Speaker 1: to do what I'm doing now and start my programs.
• 1:07:00
  Speaker 1: Still get that feeling now, I still get excited about it,
• 1:07:02
  Speaker 1: So that's probably something that I'm most excited about. But
• 1:07:06
  Speaker 1: of course there's many things coming in the future that
• 1:07:09
  Speaker 1: I don't even know a lot of them yet, but
• 1:07:11
  Speaker 1: a lot of things are coming to the app this
• 1:07:13
  Speaker 1: year and James Cosmetics, my other business, which is a
• 1:07:17
  Speaker 1: beauty business. There's so much happening that I think the
• 1:07:20
  Speaker 1: main thing for me is that it has a positive
• 1:07:23
  Speaker 1: impact on women.
• 1:07:24
  Speaker 3: Even the beauty business.
• 1:07:25
  Speaker 1: We're all about spending a few minutes per week just
• 1:07:30
  Speaker 1: on yourself. It's really important that you put that time
• 1:07:32
  Speaker 1: aside and you do something for you that is showing
• 1:07:36
  Speaker 1: yourself love. So whatever you need to do, whatever makes
• 1:07:39
  Speaker 1: you feel good, You've got to make that time. Otherwise
• 1:07:42
  Speaker 1: we just get so caught up in life because we're
• 1:07:44
  Speaker 1: so busy. But if you just spend even ten minutes
• 1:07:47
  Speaker 1: a couple of times a week on doing something, whether
• 1:07:49
  Speaker 1: it's you can even do a quick workout for ten
• 1:07:51
  Speaker 1: minutes at home, or or you can do a facial
• 1:07:54
  Speaker 1: or something that's taking that time out that you're investing
• 1:07:56
  Speaker 1: into yourself will make you feel so much better. And
• 1:07:59
  Speaker 1: that's what I'm all about, and that's what my businesses
• 1:08:00
  Speaker 1: are about.
• 1:08:01
  Speaker 2: For sure, And I think that's something could be really helpful.
• 1:08:04
  Speaker 2: You're talking about feeling so excited to work out, But
• 1:08:07
  Speaker 2: for the person that's not there yet, for the person
• 1:08:09
  Speaker 2: that really is closer to the start of their journey,
• 1:08:12
  Speaker 2: the person that's struggling to find that motivation to either
• 1:08:17
  Speaker 2: do something un demanded in their living room or go
• 1:08:20
  Speaker 2: to the gym or go for a run, what piece
• 1:08:22
  Speaker 2: of advice do you offer to them at the beginning.
• 1:08:26
  Speaker 1: Yeah, this is a good point and I need people
• 1:08:29
  Speaker 1: to realize, which if you follow me, you'll see that
• 1:08:33
  Speaker 1: I've posted this a lot, and I've posted it.
• 1:08:35
  Speaker 3: From the start and me really struggling.
• 1:08:38
  Speaker 1: But the biggest thing is the motivation people think, or
• 1:08:41
  Speaker 1: they say to me, I wish I had your motivation,
• 1:08:44
  Speaker 1: or I need to find motivation. You don't find it,
• 1:08:47
  Speaker 1: you create it, and it sucks at the beginning. It
• 1:08:49
  Speaker 1: really does, and it does for me too, and I'm
• 1:08:52
  Speaker 1: not exempt from that. I still went through the tough
• 1:08:55
  Speaker 1: times of not feeling motivated, especially after having a baby,
• 1:08:58
  Speaker 1: and you're tied and real I have a todd live
• 1:09:01
  Speaker 1: a three year old and a eight month old now,
• 1:09:04
  Speaker 1: but earlier on he was really difficult because he's got
• 1:09:07
  Speaker 1: severe reflux, so's he cries a lot.
• 1:09:10
  Speaker 3: He's vomiting multiple times a day, and it was really hard.
• 1:09:13
  Speaker 1: But I knew that if I started exercising, because I'd
• 1:09:16
  Speaker 1: been healthy and fit before, I know how good it feels.
• 1:09:20
  Speaker 1: So I sort of have that to remind me and
• 1:09:24
  Speaker 1: give me that motivation, I guess.
• 1:09:25
  Speaker 2: But I just.
• 1:09:26
  Speaker 1: Focused on I'm going to feel so much better for this,
• 1:09:28
  Speaker 1: and I'll be able to handle so much more in
• 1:09:30
  Speaker 1: my life. So I wanted to sit on the couch
• 1:09:34
  Speaker 1: all day every day and watch TV and watch Netflix
• 1:09:37
  Speaker 1: and have my baby and cuddle my baby and just
• 1:09:40
  Speaker 1: not do anything. And I thought, I've got to go.
• 1:09:42
  Speaker 1: I've got to start exercising. I just have to start moving.
• 1:09:45
  Speaker 1: And then I thought, well, what do I tell other people?
• 1:09:47
  Speaker 3: Let's do that? Maybe I should practice what I preach.
• 1:09:50
  Speaker 2: So I just.
• 1:09:50
  Speaker 1: Started one foot in front of the other and started walking.
• 1:09:54
  Speaker 1: So don't over commit. Don't think, oh, I've got to
• 1:09:57
  Speaker 1: train an hour and a half every day, six days
• 1:09:59
  Speaker 1: a week too much. You've got to make it achievable.
• 1:10:02
  Speaker 1: So start small, create these smaller goals. Don't have a
• 1:10:05
  Speaker 1: huge goal like I want to be ten percent body fat,
• 1:10:09
  Speaker 1: and I want to I want that in six months.
• 1:10:11
  Speaker 1: Like you've got to be realistic here and not look
• 1:10:14
  Speaker 1: at anyone else on what they're doing. Like I was
• 1:10:15
  Speaker 1: talking about before, you're not comparing. You're making your own
• 1:10:18
  Speaker 1: goals and you're focusing on your own journey there and
• 1:10:21
  Speaker 1: make those smaller achievable goals. So I went for walks
• 1:10:24
  Speaker 1: at the start. Then i'd do a little bit of
• 1:10:26
  Speaker 1: a slow jog, and I started lifting weights. But I
• 1:10:29
  Speaker 1: obviously dropped the weights that I was lifting. It wasn't
• 1:10:32
  Speaker 1: anywhere near as heavy as it used to be. And
• 1:10:34
  Speaker 1: I had to not compare to how I used to
• 1:10:36
  Speaker 1: train because before I fell pregnant.
• 1:10:38
  Speaker 3: The second time, I was at my peak.
• 1:10:40
  Speaker 1: I was fitter and stronger than I'd ever ever been
• 1:10:42
  Speaker 1: in my life, and I had moments where I thought, oh,
• 1:10:45
  Speaker 1: this is horrible.
• 1:10:46
  Speaker 3: I can't even do one knee push up anymore.
• 1:10:48
  Speaker 1: And I used to do full ones and do thirty
• 1:10:51
  Speaker 1: of them in a row, and I'm never going to
• 1:10:53
  Speaker 1: get back there. And I had to get rid of
• 1:10:55
  Speaker 1: those feelings and go, Okay, I'm starting from scratch here.
• 1:10:59
  Speaker 1: I'm starting at the body, and it's all about progress
• 1:11:02
  Speaker 1: and I need to remember that.
• 1:11:04
  Speaker 3: So I just do what I could and get uncomfortable.
• 1:11:08
  Speaker 3: That's a huge one.
• 1:11:08
  Speaker 1: You have to get uncomfortable to make changes, get out
• 1:11:11
  Speaker 1: of your comfort zone, make it challenging. And then each
• 1:11:14
  Speaker 1: time you exercise, obviously listening to your body, and if
• 1:11:18
  Speaker 1: you really need a break, you've got to take one
• 1:11:20
  Speaker 1: and get enough sleep as well, and make sure nutrition's good.
• 1:11:23
  Speaker 1: There's a lot of parts to this, but you slowly
• 1:11:26
  Speaker 1: work your way up, and that's the point. It takes time,
• 1:11:29
  Speaker 1: but the start is the hardest.
• 1:11:31
  Speaker 3: It truly is.
• 1:11:31
  Speaker 1: I did not start feeling motivated and jumping out of
• 1:11:34
  Speaker 1: bread bed excited to go to the gym, and because
• 1:11:37
  Speaker 1: I started training at home as well, so I was
• 1:11:39
  Speaker 1: doing a lot of stuff at home and walking around
• 1:11:41
  Speaker 1: my neighborhood. Now I've just started going to the gym,
• 1:11:44
  Speaker 1: probably about two months ago, because our gym's all opened up.
• 1:11:48
  Speaker 3: Luckily. We're very grateful for that here.
• 1:11:52
  Speaker 1: But yeah, it's about progress and just move and stop
• 1:11:55
  Speaker 1: thinking about it. I go into robot mode. So that's
• 1:11:58
  Speaker 1: what I like to call it. You don't think about
• 1:12:00
  Speaker 1: it because you'll talk yourself out of it.
• 1:12:02
  Speaker 3: Just just do it.
• 1:12:03
  Speaker 1: Put your gym clothes near your bed, get up, put
• 1:12:06
  Speaker 1: them on, have you banana or whatever you have in
• 1:12:09
  Speaker 1: the morning, and big drink of water, and just start
• 1:12:11
  Speaker 1: moving and adding to it over time. But don't expect
• 1:12:14
  Speaker 1: results too soon, because it's consistency that will get you there.
• 1:12:18
  Speaker 3: And I've done the same thing. I'm not perfect.
• 1:12:21
  Speaker 1: I still at the start thought why aren't I dropping? Like,
• 1:12:24
  Speaker 1: why aren't I losing the fats? This is going to
• 1:12:27
  Speaker 1: be really hard what I'm going to do. I'm supposed
• 1:12:29
  Speaker 1: to be Emily sky Fit on Instagram.
• 1:12:31
  Speaker 3: What am I going to do? I'm not fit?
• 1:12:32
  Speaker 1: And I had those feelings, but I just I push
• 1:12:35
  Speaker 1: it away and kept pushing forward and kept being consistent
• 1:12:38
  Speaker 1: and kept going. You can do this, and you're stronger
• 1:12:40
  Speaker 1: than you think you are. And I tell myself all
• 1:12:42
  Speaker 1: those things, and now I'm feeling amazing, And like I
• 1:12:45
  Speaker 1: said before, I do jump out of bed looking forward
• 1:12:48
  Speaker 1: to my training session because I'm starting well. I started
• 1:12:52
  Speaker 1: to probably about two months ago. Now I started to
• 1:12:54
  Speaker 1: feel the results. I started feeling stronger and fitter, and
• 1:12:58
  Speaker 1: I started losing fat and getting light and it pays off.
• 1:13:02
  Speaker 1: But it's like I always say, persistence pays off. You
• 1:13:05
  Speaker 1: have to be persistent with it and then you'll get there.
• 1:13:07
  Speaker 1: And I feel incredible now and I don't want to stop,
• 1:13:09
  Speaker 1: and you'll get the same too. Like if for you
• 1:13:11
  Speaker 1: guys out there that want to embark on this fitness journey,
• 1:13:14
  Speaker 1: you've got to realize that this has got to be
• 1:13:16
  Speaker 1: a lifestyle change. It's not short term. So start making
• 1:13:20
  Speaker 1: changes that you know you can keep doing, and you
• 1:13:23
  Speaker 1: can you can maintain and believe that you can do
• 1:13:26
  Speaker 1: it as long as you can just get past the start,
• 1:13:28
  Speaker 1: keep pushing through.
• 1:13:29
  Speaker 3: I love and get the Emily Sky feed up.
• 1:13:32
  Speaker 2: I love all of that advice, and I think what's
• 1:13:35
  Speaker 2: really beautiful in there is that you articulated that yes,
• 1:13:38
  Speaker 2: there may be one time that you think like this
• 1:13:41
  Speaker 2: is going to be the only time in the beginner.
• 1:13:44
  Speaker 2: But this is a journey and there are going to
• 1:13:46
  Speaker 2: be different chapters in it, and there are going to
• 1:13:47
  Speaker 2: be different points where, whether it's because of something that's
• 1:13:51
  Speaker 2: going on physically or mentally, that you feel as though
• 1:13:54
  Speaker 2: that you are back at square one. But the reality
• 1:13:57
  Speaker 2: is is that once that you know what you feel
• 1:14:00
  Speaker 2: like to be a beginner, that means that you also
• 1:14:02
  Speaker 2: know what it feels like to get to that next
• 1:14:04
  Speaker 2: step and that next step and that next step. So
• 1:14:07
  Speaker 2: understanding that with time it gets easier, and that there
• 1:14:10
  Speaker 2: are going to be a lot of other people in
• 1:14:12
  Speaker 2: the world who understand exactly what you're going through, and
• 1:14:17
  Speaker 2: that you are never alone in that final question for you, Emily, you.
• 1:14:21
  Speaker 3: Ready, Yes, I'm scared right now, And.
• 1:14:25
  Speaker 2: I know you touched a little bit on this before,
• 1:14:28
  Speaker 2: but I'm going to give you an opportunity to expand
• 1:14:30
  Speaker 2: upon it again. You have an opportunity to offer yourself
• 1:14:34
  Speaker 2: a piece of advice going through that hurdle moment when
• 1:14:39
  Speaker 2: you are thinking about and attempting to take your own life.
• 1:14:46
  Speaker 2: You have an opportunity to give yourself a piece of
• 1:14:48
  Speaker 2: advice looking back on that hurdle moment right now, what
• 1:14:51
  Speaker 2: do you tell yourself?
• 1:14:53
  Speaker 1: It would be that you are worth so much more
• 1:14:58
  Speaker 1: than you think you are. You're meant to be here,
• 1:15:01
  Speaker 1: and you're here for a reason, and there's something amazing
• 1:15:04
  Speaker 1: that you're going to do in the future, and you're
• 1:15:06
  Speaker 1: going to be able to help other people through it,
• 1:15:09
  Speaker 1: especially through this experience, because this is the worst that
• 1:15:13
  Speaker 1: you can feel. You're at the absolute worst point of
• 1:15:17
  Speaker 1: your life and it's horrible, and I know it is,
• 1:15:20
  Speaker 1: and it's painful, but there's always a way out, and
• 1:15:24
  Speaker 1: the only way now is up, because you can't get
• 1:15:27
  Speaker 1: any lower. But you have to save yourself and you
• 1:15:31
  Speaker 1: have to believe that you're worthy of saving and searching
• 1:15:36
  Speaker 1: for love from everyone else is not the way. You've
• 1:15:38
  Speaker 1: got to learn to love yourself. And this is such
• 1:15:41
  Speaker 1: a difficult thing to do, and I totally get it.
• 1:15:43
  Speaker 1: It's really hard to love yourself, but I truly do now.
• 1:15:46
  Speaker 1: But I think the first step is just knowing that
• 1:15:49
  Speaker 1: you are worth living, You're worth living for and you're
• 1:15:54
  Speaker 1: so blessed to be able to be here. I mean,
• 1:15:56
  Speaker 1: even just conception is miraculous, isn't it. Keep pushing through
• 1:16:00
  Speaker 1: and keep going back to I'm worthy and I'm lovable
• 1:16:03
  Speaker 1: and you will get there, and you've got to believe
• 1:16:07
  Speaker 1: in yourself.
• 1:16:08
  Speaker 3: But yeah, there's a way out. That's something I would
• 1:16:11
  Speaker 3: tell myself.
• 1:16:12
  Speaker 1: There's always a way out, and don't feel ashamed to
• 1:16:15
  Speaker 1: seek help. And it's take one step at a time.
• 1:16:19
  Speaker 1: When you make changes. It's not an overnight thing. Even
• 1:16:22
  Speaker 1: when you realize I'm going to do this now, it's
• 1:16:25
  Speaker 1: consistent effort.
• 1:16:27
  Speaker 3: Every single day you have to put in.
• 1:16:29
  Speaker 1: You can't just go, Okay, I'm going to make changes
• 1:16:31
  Speaker 1: now and work on myself and then you think you're
• 1:16:35
  Speaker 1: going to be automatically changed. Every single day you have
• 1:16:38
  Speaker 1: to wake up and go, no, I've chosen to make
• 1:16:41
  Speaker 1: changes and to live this day differently to what I
• 1:16:43
  Speaker 1: have in the past because that hasn't served me. It
• 1:16:46
  Speaker 1: hasn't made me happy. So you can do it. You
• 1:16:50
  Speaker 1: can do it, you can get through it.
• 1:16:52
  Speaker 2: I think all of your takeaways are just so beautiful,
• 1:16:54
  Speaker 2: and I just I want to reiterate from my end
• 1:16:58
  Speaker 2: that I'm appreciative of your time, and what I'm really appreciative,
• 1:17:03
  Speaker 2: to be honest, is that it's very clear in the
• 1:17:06
  Speaker 2: way that you speak about your journey and in the
• 1:17:08
  Speaker 2: way that you speak with me that you're very present
• 1:17:11
  Speaker 2: here in this moment, and I think that is It's
• 1:17:15
  Speaker 2: awesome because with so much going on and being a
• 1:17:18
  Speaker 2: mother of two and owning this business and showing up
• 1:17:22
  Speaker 2: for your community, I know that it can be a
• 1:17:25
  Speaker 2: little challenging at times to just fully show up somewhere,
• 1:17:29
  Speaker 2: especially for an hour and change. So thank you so much.
• 1:17:33
  Speaker 2: It means the world to me, and I know that
• 1:17:35
  Speaker 2: it's going to mean the world to the Hurdlers as
• 1:17:37
  Speaker 2: they listen to this episode.
• 1:17:40
  Speaker 1: Thank you so much for having me, Emily. And you
• 1:17:42
  Speaker 1: know what, I actually really love talking about all this stuff.
• 1:17:45
  Speaker 1: I am very passionate about it and if it can
• 1:17:47
  Speaker 1: help someone, even just one person, then it's worth it.
• 1:17:50
  Speaker 1: But even for me to reflect on how far I've gone,
• 1:17:53
  Speaker 1: it's really important to stop, I think, in your life
• 1:17:56
  Speaker 1: because it is so busy, insane, but stop and realize, hey,
• 1:18:00
  Speaker 1: I have come so far. Because a lot of us think, oh,
• 1:18:03
  Speaker 1: I've got so far to go, but look how far
• 1:18:05
  Speaker 1: we've come. I think it's the only the only time
• 1:18:07
  Speaker 1: we should really look back is to see how far
• 1:18:09
  Speaker 1: we've come. And it's true, definitely should be proud of ourselves.
• 1:18:13
  Speaker 1: Every small step we take, we should be proud of ourselves.
• 1:18:16
  Speaker 2: Emily, how do the hurdlers keep up with you? Give
• 1:18:19
  Speaker 2: me all of your details?
• 1:18:20
  Speaker 1: So Instagram is Emily sky Fit, make sure you've got
• 1:18:23
  Speaker 1: the E on the sky and Facebook is Emily sky
• 1:18:27
  Speaker 1: Model and I was back in my modeling days, so
• 1:18:29
  Speaker 1: I haven't been able to change the names.
• 1:18:31
  Speaker 3: It's stuck with.
• 1:18:31
  Speaker 1: The model and my website's Emily Skyfit dot com.
• 1:18:35
  Speaker 2: I love it. I'm at Emily Aabardi and at Hurdle
• 1:18:38
  Speaker 2: Podcast Another Hurdle. Can't go catch you guys next time