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Are You The Asshole Of Your 20s? · Two Broke Chicks

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Speaker 1: This podcast is recorded on gadigal Land, Always was, always
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Speaker 1: two break Checks, the show that shares life lessons and
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Speaker 1: tips to make you rich in life. And we are
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Speaker 1: back in the studio. Mock is in hand, fruit salad consumed,
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Speaker 1: and we're ready to rock and roll.
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Speaker 2: Okay.
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Speaker 3: My obsession of the week is a post that I
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Speaker 3: saw on Data but make it fashion, and it's four
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Speaker 3: signs that we're heading into a recession. According to Fashion,
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Speaker 3: When popularity of maxi skirts is up three hundred and
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Speaker 3: ninety three percent, apparently shorter hemlines mean that everybody's a
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Speaker 3: little bit more carefree and not as concerned, whereas longer
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Speaker 3: hem lions mean that we're buckling down.
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Speaker 2: We're getting nervy.
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Speaker 1: Right.
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Speaker 3: When popularity of lipstick is up one hundred and eight percent,
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Speaker 3: Apparently every time that we've gone into a recession, lipstick
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Speaker 3: purchases have increased while other things go down. So lipstick
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Speaker 3: remains an essential purchase even during an economic down.
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Speaker 1: For me, it's an essential right. I love that we're
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Speaker 1: not stalking up on toilet paper, We're stalking up on
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Speaker 1: mac velvet. Ten.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, Honestly, when popularity of corporate fashion is up thirty
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Speaker 3: nine percent makes sense.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, but that's been up for like five fucking years,
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Speaker 1: you know. Yeah, people have been talking shit about the
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Speaker 1: business casual asthetic flight five years and I'm let him live.
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Speaker 2: The office siren. Yeah.
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Speaker 1: Yeah.
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Speaker 3: And finally, when the popularity of minimalist fashion is up
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Speaker 3: thirty eight percent.
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Speaker 1: That one is probably the main one that I'm like, Yeah,
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Speaker 1: that makes sense because causey lips exactly where it pulling
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Speaker 1: things back.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, simplicity is key.
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Speaker 1: Yeah. I do think there is this very interesting and
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Speaker 1: we discussed it last week about how the political escape
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Speaker 1: at the moment is influencing you know, a very more
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Speaker 1: conservative aesthetic and old money and tread wife and blah
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Speaker 1: blah blah.
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Speaker 4: I'm like, get your tits out, let's get sluty tits.
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Speaker 4: Let's be a slutty little slut. I want a dirty,
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Speaker 4: slutty little outfit from everyone this weekend.
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Speaker 3: I honestly, if we're going into a recession, the least
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Speaker 3: we can do is get a little slutty.
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Speaker 1: That's my obsession. Is nowhere near as good as getting slutty.
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Speaker 1: You're like, that wasn't the obsession and I'm like, no, no, no, no,
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Speaker 1: that's mine. So my obsession of the week is that
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Speaker 1: an Austrian study found that having a cat in the
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Speaker 1: house is emotionally similar to having a ronvantic partner eooo b.
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Speaker 1: So research shows that cats actively seek interactions with humans
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Speaker 1: and remember acts of kindness, often reciprocating them later. So
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Speaker 1: if you want those people that's there and freaking hand
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Speaker 1: kid and naked, shut up mooring Agrey narrative. Anyone that's
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Speaker 1: like I hate cats, I'm like, you just told me
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Speaker 1: that you've got nothing else interesting to hate, Like, really, cats, Yeah,
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Speaker 1: that's the thing you chose to hate.
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Speaker 2: That's where you draw the line. Draw the line.
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Speaker 1: But I wanted to evolve on that because this week
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Speaker 1: we had we had a birthday in the office.
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Speaker 2: Oh yes we did.
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Speaker 1: We had a little pissy's baby girl's birthday. Sally turned sixteen.
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Speaker 1: Sixteen I think he means sixty. Yeah. I was trying
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Speaker 1: to be nice and for Sal's birthday, I take her
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Speaker 1: to play with the bunnies and the kittens and puppies
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Speaker 1: at Sydney Dogs and Cats Home. Like getting a pet
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Speaker 1: in my twenties was like the best thing I've ever done,
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Speaker 1: and I just am obsessed with her. And with the
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Speaker 1: it doesn't work out they're getting adopted or they're so chill,
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Speaker 1: like you can be like it's too much, like they
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Speaker 1: need to come back. Like I've fostered a dog once
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Speaker 1: and he was a fucking demon, Like all he did
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Speaker 1: was bite me, and I was like, go wait, he
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Speaker 1: was a puppy as well. He was so cute, but yeah,
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Speaker 1: like he got adopted in like a wik so it
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Speaker 1: was fine. And it's just so nice like being able
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Speaker 1: I honestly cannot recommend them enough. And there are so
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Speaker 1: are thinking about a pet, plea, please think about adopting
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Speaker 1: because there are so many beautiful babies that need a home.
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Speaker 3: We'll put a link in the description so that you
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Speaker 3: can browse some of the beautiful babies that are up
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Speaker 3: for foster and adoption.
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Speaker 2: Because yeah, like EL said, there are so many.
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Speaker 1: All right, shall we get into the episode?
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Speaker 2: Woo?
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Speaker 1: I just realized we didn't tell you guys what we're
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Speaker 1: talking about today, and we are discussing are you the
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Speaker 1: asshole of your twenties and beyond? Yes, but we asked
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Speaker 1: you chicks to send in your am I the asshole situations?
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Speaker 1: And boy, are there some newsies?
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Speaker 2: So shall I kick us off?
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Speaker 1: Yeah? Sure, I knew there was going to be at
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Speaker 1: least one wedding. Yeah, there always is, and I think
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Speaker 1: this one's very interesting. Okay, So am I the asshole
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Speaker 1: for not inviting my fiance's best friend to our wedding? Oh?
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Speaker 2: My god? Yeah?
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Speaker 1: Context is, my fiance has heaps of wonderful friends. One
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Speaker 1: of these friends has a boyfriend who low ki sucks.
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Speaker 1: I've met him at two social events so far and
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Speaker 1: found that he's quite cold, won't join in on group
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Speaker 1: combos or activities, is withdrawn, and tried to drag his
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Speaker 1: partner away early or take her away from the group
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Speaker 1: in general. The most recent interaction was actually at a
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Speaker 1: friend's wedding, and it made us all feel pretty uncomfortable. Okay,
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Speaker 1: so it's not his best friend it's his best friend's partner.
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Speaker 1: Oh yeah. The issue is she absolutely adores this guy
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Speaker 1: and brushes off how he treats her and other people.
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Speaker 1: Fast forward and then now engaged. That's in the message.
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Speaker 1: By the way, that was not an ad lib bracket
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Speaker 1: she said. Rip. So our wedding is in October, fabulous
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Speaker 1: forul marc O callender's my.
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Speaker 3: God looking out for the invites coming soon.
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Speaker 1: I'm sure we are constrained by budget and brackets, aren't
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Speaker 1: we all, and given we're paying for the whole thing ourselves,
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Speaker 1: I just don't feel like forking out a couple hundred
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Speaker 1: dollars for this bloke to attend. So we sent an
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Speaker 1: invite to her but not to him. Are we the
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Speaker 1: assholes for going against normal wedding conventions of inviting couples,
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Speaker 1: especially fiances, and likely causing unintentional drama?
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Speaker 2: O this is such a juicy one.
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Speaker 1: I know. I think you could argue two sides to this.
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Speaker 3: I completely agree because my first instinct is you're not
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Speaker 3: an asshole. It's your wedding and you're entitled to invite
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Speaker 3: whoever you want, even if it wasn't about the money.
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Speaker 3: You want people there who are going to be supportive
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Speaker 3: and who have been involved in your relationship, and like,
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Speaker 3: you don't want to be walking down the aisle and
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Speaker 3: smiling at all the people you love and then just
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Speaker 3: seeing this and I.
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Speaker 1: Scrolled on on its phone.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, there that you don't even like, Like I personally
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Speaker 3: wouldn't like that. Yeah, But then I also do understand
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Speaker 3: the money side of it too. You're like, well, it's expensive,
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Speaker 3: that money could go towards somebody else. However, I also
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Speaker 3: think that you have to then accept the repercussions of that. Yeah,
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Speaker 3: the repercussion and the very likely outcome that your friend
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Speaker 3: is going to be upset and offended.
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Speaker 1: I agree with you on the money aspect, being like,
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Speaker 1: I think that's probably the biggest like hump that I
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Speaker 1: agree with, being like, like, you don't talk to us,
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Speaker 1: we don't know you. I don't want to pay four
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Speaker 1: hundred dollars for you to come. That's fair, I think.
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Speaker 1: On your wedding day though, and this is where I'm
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Speaker 1: being like Devil's advocate here, right, You're going to be
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Speaker 1: so happy and so in love and so like wrapped
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Speaker 1: up in the fact that you're marrying your partner. I
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Speaker 1: don't actually think she would notice that he's there. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: like you there are so many people at your wedding.
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Speaker 1: There are so many people to talk to and see,
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Speaker 1: and you're going to be sitting at your you know,
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Speaker 1: at the table with all the people and getting ready
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Speaker 1: that day that I actually don't think like him being
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Speaker 1: there you'd notice that much like you'll be so swept
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Speaker 1: up in the madness of the day in like a
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Speaker 1: good way, And I think it would be very rare
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Speaker 1: for anything like that to you know, bring you down.
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Speaker 1: But in saying that, the invites are vincent, So I
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Speaker 1: just think, no, you're not the asshole. It's your wedding.
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Speaker 1: You get to decide who comes. Like I kind of
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Speaker 1: do find this whole notion of like you have to
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Speaker 1: invite partners a bit odd sometimes, Like I've been invited
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Speaker 1: to weddings and my partner hasn't been invited, and I'm like,
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Speaker 1: that's okay, Like you've never met him, so like, no dramas,
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Speaker 1: But I just think when they get married, which they
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Speaker 1: are because they're engaged, there may be a certain repercussion
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Speaker 1: to that because he might be like, well, if I
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Speaker 1: wasn't invited to your wedding, mom, you're not coming to moor. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: so yeah, that's so true. But to answer the question, no,
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Speaker 1: you're not the asshole.
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Speaker 2: I would love an update please.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, has the friend said anything? Yeah?
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Speaker 3: And I want to know if you get invited to
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Speaker 3: their wedding weddings?
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Speaker 2: Huh?
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Speaker 3: Am I the asshole for sleeping with him when he
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Speaker 3: was freshly single?
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Speaker 1: Oh?
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Speaker 4: Hi?
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Speaker 2: Girls?
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Speaker 3: Am I the asshole for sleeping with someone three years
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Speaker 3: ago who was freshly single? We both were and he's
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Speaker 3: in the friend group, so we slept together a few times.
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Speaker 3: And now he has been back with his ex for
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Speaker 3: a year now with an eight month old son. Mind you,
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Speaker 3: he didn't tell her that we had history until November
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Speaker 3: last year. And now I am the most hated person
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Speaker 3: alive by the girlfriend and some other girls in the
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Speaker 3: group for sleeping with him. I have been made to
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Speaker 3: feel like an absolute asshole. And I would have told
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Speaker 3: her earlier. I just didn't think it was my place.
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Speaker 3: Do you think I'm an asshole?
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Speaker 2: Thank you? Girls?
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Speaker 3: I live with this guilt every day, and from what
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Speaker 3: I've heard.
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Speaker 2: He's got off scot free. Typical unfair?
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Speaker 1: Was she friends with the girlfriend?
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Speaker 3: They're in the same friendship group. I think so it
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Speaker 3: sounds like they're all friends and she was friends with
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Speaker 3: the guy and then he's broken up with his ex,
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Speaker 3: she's broken up with hers, they've slept together. To me,
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Speaker 3: it sounds like she was closer with the guy than
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Speaker 3: with the girlfriend, but it's unclear.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, submission, I think one, it's just like typical and
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Speaker 1: so standard for like the girl to be villainized, whereas
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Speaker 1: the man is just like gets off scott free as
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Speaker 1: she said, Yeah, and I just find that narrative so tiring.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I agree.
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Speaker 1: Yes, The only thing is I'm like, were you Are
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Speaker 1: you friends with the girlfriend? Because then I'd be like really,
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Speaker 1: But I don't actually think it sounds like they were.
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Speaker 1: Now she would say we were friends, So I don't
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Speaker 1: actually think that girlfriend is within the friendship group. I reckon.
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Speaker 1: What's happened is that the boyfriend has then started dating
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Speaker 1: his ex again, and then she's started hanging out with
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Speaker 1: all the friends again. Yeah, and then she's then been
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Speaker 1: like this happened and blah blah blah blah blah. But
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Speaker 1: it's also not her place to say anything. No, Like
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Speaker 1: imagine if she did say something, then she would be
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Speaker 1: the asshole for that exactly it is a shitty, uncomfortable
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Speaker 1: situation that I think is potentially a lose or lose
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Speaker 1: in terms of like what's gonna happen, because she's gonna
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Speaker 1: like it would be lovely if she was like, look,
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Speaker 1: he was single. I understand you were single. I obviously
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Speaker 1: am not the biggest fan of it, but it's fine
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Speaker 1: like that, that's the idea situation, you know. But I
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Speaker 1: also would get the girlfriend's perspective of being like, so,
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Speaker 1: do you still want to fuck my boyfriend?
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Speaker 2: Yeah?
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Speaker 1: But in set like that's me again, devil's advocate. I
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Speaker 1: do not think she is the arthhole. No, or you
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Speaker 1: were both single? Yeah, you were both single.
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Speaker 3: And it's his role in the relationship to fill his
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Speaker 3: partner in on things that could potentially upset her. So
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Speaker 3: the fact that they've been together for a year or
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Speaker 3: so now again and then it's taken him until November
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Speaker 3: to tell her that they slept together, like he should.
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Speaker 1: Have told her when they were getting back together.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, being like, by the way, just so you know,
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Speaker 3: because I think that's what would have hurt I was
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Speaker 3: probably not the most, but a lot.
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Speaker 1: Yeah. I wonder if she's tried to talk to the
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Speaker 1: girlfriend about it. But I do think sometimes in that situation,
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Speaker 1: like she's like they just don't even want to hear
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Speaker 1: what you have to say.
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Speaker 2: They're just like.
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Speaker 1: Nope, yeah, maybe that's just like I think it's just
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Speaker 1: like coping mechanisms sometimes that it's like they don't want
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Speaker 1: to be mad at their their partner for what they
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Speaker 1: feel as a betrayal, so it's easier to be mad
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Speaker 1: at you.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, and because they've got a baby, so if they
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Speaker 3: need to have a united front as well.
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Speaker 2: But yeah, this.
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Speaker 1: Is situation say three years ago.
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Speaker 2: Yeah over it.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I know, and for all the friends who are
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Speaker 3: also now turning on having me, I don't.
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Speaker 2: Think that's just me.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, you were single, it was three years ago. They
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Speaker 1: need to grow up move on. Like if it was
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Speaker 1: like a month ago, I'd be like, yeah, she's probably
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Speaker 1: gonna be a bit whiffy.
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Speaker 3: Or continued to like pursue it when they were getting
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Speaker 3: back together.
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Speaker 2: But like, that's not.
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Speaker 1: You've done nothing wrong the case. You do not need
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Speaker 1: to feel guilty for that.
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Speaker 2: Honestly.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think their hold onto it which is making
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Speaker 3: you feel guilty, But you also have the power to
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Speaker 3: forgive yourself and let it go.
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Speaker 1: I reckon the best course of action is to just
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Speaker 1: be like the most bright version of yourself, Like, don't
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Speaker 1: carry this guilt to the forefront, because it validates, you know,
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Speaker 1: maybe the nastiness that is happening. And if you are
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Speaker 1: coming into friendship experiences, being like hi, blah blah blah,
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Speaker 1: stay hi to the girlfriend, stay high to the girls,
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Speaker 1: act as if nothing is wrong, because nothing should be wrong.
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Speaker 1: So like, if you just carry on your merry way
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Speaker 1: and like embody brightness within that situation, I actually think
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Speaker 1: it would really help.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, definitely.
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Speaker 1: Okay, am I the asshole for wanting to break up
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Speaker 1: with my boyfriend.
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Speaker 2: Because of who he voted for.
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Speaker 1: Oh hey, chicks, I've been listening to the show for
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Speaker 1: a couple of years and I love, love, love you too.
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Speaker 1: You guys are absolutely killing it. Why thank you? I
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Speaker 1: love that we read these bits out. We really could
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Speaker 1: just cut them, but I'm like, no, no, no, no,
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Speaker 1: I think I should do this. We just make it up.
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Speaker 1: No one said that. It actually just started with I
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Speaker 1: have a dilemma. Yeah, okay, I have a dilemma, and
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Speaker 1: I would love some of your wisdom to help me
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Speaker 1: make a decision. I'm Lindsay from the US and just
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Speaker 1: found out last night from a friend that my boyfriend
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Speaker 1: lied to me about who he voted for in the
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Speaker 1: latest election. Yes, it was the Orange jump scaredt quote.
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Speaker 1: He knows how strongly I feel about my hatred towards
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Speaker 1: that man, and so decided to lie to my face
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Speaker 1: the day after election about who he voted for.
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Speaker 2: What should I do?
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Speaker 1: Is this worth breaking up over? Anything? Helps? Thanks?
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Speaker 2: Chicks, love ya?
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Speaker 1: I think so dump his ass?
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Speaker 3: Yeah, I just think that with with politics, of course,
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Speaker 3: you can have differences of opinions on certain things, and
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Speaker 3: it's good to have constructive conversations.
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Speaker 2: But that's the thing.
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Speaker 1: There was no constructive conversation.
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Speaker 2: But there was no conversation.
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Speaker 3: He lied because he knew that it would upset you.
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Speaker 3: But also it shows that he couldn't even justify his
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Speaker 3: own decision with chest yes, and especially with this instance
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Speaker 3: with Donald Trump, so many of the things that he
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Speaker 3: believes in go against so many values that are so
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Speaker 3: core to a lot of women, especially that I would
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Speaker 3: not feel comfortable being with somebody who voted for someone
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Speaker 3: who just didn't care about my existence at all, and
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Speaker 3: also about the existence of so many other groups that
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Speaker 3: deserve support and to be uplifted.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think even the fact that you found this
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Speaker 1: out from a friend is also incredibly hurtful and deceitful,
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Speaker 1: and like, obviously everyone's political perspectives are different, but kind
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Speaker 1: of backing what you were saying, that is just so
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Speaker 1: far away from like where I say that, I'm like, well,
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Speaker 1: there's no future there because the way that you know,
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Speaker 1: if you wanted to have kids, the way we would
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Speaker 1: raise our kids would be so different, like the ways
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Speaker 1: that we would just grow old is just so far
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Speaker 1: away from each other. If that's where you stand. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: So all we can say is that if it was
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Speaker 1: us and what we would do, and I would absolutely
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Speaker 1: fucking broake up with them. Yeah, And I just it's
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Speaker 1: I just the lying.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's the lying.
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Speaker 3: And yeah, obviously voting is private, but the fact that
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Speaker 3: he just lied about it as well, Like.
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Speaker 2: It's just, yeah, that's not okay.
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Speaker 3: I wouldn't want to lay next to somebody knowing that
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Speaker 3: that's what they voted for. Yeah, am I the asshole
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Speaker 3: for cutting off my friend because they reversed into my car?
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Speaker 3: Am I the asshole? A bit of a backstory. I
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Speaker 3: moved into State for work and so did a friend
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Speaker 3: and her partner. Over the last few months, we'd become
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Speaker 3: really close. Originally I was going to find my own place,
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Speaker 3: but I ended up asking them if they had a
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Speaker 3: spare room. They did, and rent was cheap, so I
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Speaker 3: was happy. As our rosters are all opposite and they
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Speaker 3: line naars up as a couple, I hardly saw them. However,
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Speaker 3: here's where problems started. Once I started work, I realized
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Speaker 3: it wasn't feasible as it was almost one hundred dollars
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Speaker 3: for an uber to the airport, which I had to
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Speaker 3: pay for every second week there and back.
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Speaker 2: Then every time I did see her partner or her
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Speaker 2: he would always.
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Speaker 3: Call me mean names around how I looked. At first,
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Speaker 3: I'd love off, then it started to really hurt. From there,
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Speaker 3: the problems kept going. I moved in and she left
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Speaker 3: me no room in the house for any linen or
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Speaker 3: kitchen stuff, not even in the fridge did I get
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Speaker 3: a shelf, and they'd eat my food as they'd get confused.
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Speaker 2: Fast forward, they were.
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Speaker 3: Both on holiday and I was at work and they
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Speaker 3: had family staying over. My car stayed in a small,
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Speaker 3: tucked up spot near the driveway, so it wasn't in
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Speaker 3: the way. When I was at work for the week,
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Speaker 3: I get a lengthy message one day basically saying she
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Speaker 3: reversed into my car. Okay, so this must be the
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Speaker 3: family member has reversed into a car. I asked when
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Speaker 3: it happened, and she said Thursday afternoon. When she told
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Speaker 3: me it was Saturday night. She had taken it upon
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Speaker 3: herself to go get it fixed at a dodgy panel
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Speaker 3: beater and it was not fixed at all.
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Speaker 2: I was so unhappy.
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Speaker 3: I don't care that it happened, but at least own
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Speaker 3: up to it in the first place and tell me
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Speaker 3: straight away so I can go through insurance. Anyways, I
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Speaker 3: tell her I want to go through insurance, and she
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Speaker 3: was pissed. Put through my claim, kept her updated and
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Speaker 3: my car has been all fixed. After this, I stated
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Speaker 3: straight away that I wanted to move out after only
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Speaker 3: a few months. She was again pissed and felt used,
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Speaker 3: which I wasn't using her. But in my head, if
21:19
Speaker 3: she didn't tell me straight away about this, what else
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Speaker 3: could she not be telling me about? Staying there felt
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Speaker 3: problematic for me and I needed to get out. Since then,
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Speaker 3: I've moved into the loveliest home with a lovely housemate
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Speaker 3: and feel so at peace. I've barely spoken to my
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Speaker 3: so called friend, and I'm wondering am I the asshole
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Speaker 3: for basically cutting her off after this? She made herself
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Speaker 3: out to be the victim the whole time when I was.
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Speaker 3: I feel it was the right choice, but I'd love opinions.
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Speaker 1: Oh so I'm a bit confused. Was it the family
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Speaker 1: that reversed into the car or her home mate, because
21:54
Speaker 1: I don't think we get a distinction. Yeah between that. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: first off, I hate the like boyfriend like calling her
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Speaker 1: like mean names, but like in the whole home I'm
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Speaker 1: just kidding way.
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Speaker 2: Like yeah, it's really inappropriate.
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Speaker 1: It really gross and really inappropriate, and like obviously like
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Speaker 1: i'd be like, yeah, move out after that, so I'd
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Speaker 1: be like, that's the last straw.
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Speaker 2: For me, you know.
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Speaker 3: And I'd also be hurt if my friend didn't stand
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Speaker 3: up for me to like the boyfriend being like, hey,
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Speaker 3: don't say that.
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Speaker 2: It's not funny. It's actually really inappropriate.
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Speaker 3: Because it can be really awkward for you as the
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Speaker 3: friend to call out the boyfriend. And sometimes I do
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Speaker 3: think in those instances, like you know, the partner should
22:38
Speaker 3: say something yes.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, and I also think like the lack of space
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Speaker 1: for you in terms of like no room in the
22:47
Speaker 1: linen closet, no room in the fridge, and it would
22:51
Speaker 1: basically feel like you're just there to like cheapen their rent. Yeah,
22:56
Speaker 1: and like you it's like I hate this narrative with renting,
23:01
Speaker 1: and like when you move in with couples or you
23:03
Speaker 1: move into a place that it's like they have the
23:05
Speaker 1: lease and you've got the room, and it's like you're
23:07
Speaker 1: renting the room. It's like no, no, no, you're renting
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Speaker 1: the apartment or the house. The room is just one
23:13
Speaker 1: part of that. And like the space needs to be communal,
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Speaker 1: communal and equal. And I eating your food is like
23:21
Speaker 1: where I draw the line, Like that's diabolical. Yeah, that's evil.
23:24
Speaker 1: That's evil. There's nothing worse than when you have like
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Speaker 1: leftovers and you're coming home and you're so excited to
23:30
Speaker 1: eat them and you open the fridge and someone's eating them.
23:33
Speaker 1: But then we get into the car car dilemma. I
23:38
Speaker 1: think it is absolutely diabolical to reverse into someone's car
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Speaker 1: and take it upon yourself to then take it to
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Speaker 1: a repair shop repair it yourself without even telling the
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Speaker 1: person who owns the car.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's so wrong, because then if you do want
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Speaker 3: to put it through insurance, that could significantly impact what
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Speaker 3: you can claim and what you can do if you've
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Speaker 3: gone and taken it to a dodgy panel beater first, Like,
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Speaker 3: that is so not your decision, That is not your place.
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Speaker 1: You should message as soon as it happened, being like,
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Speaker 1: I'm so sorry, I've just reversed into your car. It
24:21
Speaker 1: was a complete accident. That's fine, accidents happen. You apologize,
24:24
Speaker 1: you own up to it, and like send a photo
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Speaker 1: and say how would you like me to fix it.
24:31
Speaker 1: I'm more than happy to pay for it, obviously because
24:33
Speaker 1: it was my fault.
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Speaker 2: That's what should have happened.
24:38
Speaker 1: So I think it's obviously not just this one thing,
24:42
Speaker 1: like it's there's been a bit of a story here
24:46
Speaker 1: that you've gone on and very evidently. I think it's
24:51
Speaker 1: a very good choice that you moved out.
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Speaker 3: One and I think with stuff like that, it could
24:57
Speaker 3: be really tricky moving in with a friend. It can
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Speaker 3: be really hard not to carry on some of that
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Speaker 3: animosity into your friendship after that if you have had
25:07
Speaker 3: conflict when you've lived.
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Speaker 2: With a friend.
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Speaker 3: So I don't think that you're the asshole for cutting
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Speaker 3: them off. I don't think it sounded like a very
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Speaker 3: healthy and rewarding friendship anyway.
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Speaker 1: Oh, this is a good one. Am I the asshole
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Speaker 1: for not wanting to go to a male strip show
25:23
Speaker 1: for my friend's birthday? So? I didn't want to go
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Speaker 1: to my best friend's oh birthday hosted at a male
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Speaker 1: strip show slash bar as it's not my thing, But
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Speaker 1: she chucked a hissy fit because I missed her birthday?
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Speaker 1: Am I a bitch for this? I really didn't want
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Speaker 1: to go. No, No, I don't think. I don't think
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Speaker 1: either if.
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Speaker 3: You're not comfortable going to a male strip show, or
25:50
Speaker 3: if you're not comfortable going to any sort of scenario,
25:53
Speaker 3: you should not have to go just because it's somebody's birthday.
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Speaker 1: I agree, And I also think if you're planning your
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Speaker 1: birthday at something like that, which people can feel a
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Speaker 1: little bit uncomfortable with it. And I also want to
26:08
Speaker 1: preface this by saying that like sal and I completely
26:11
Speaker 1: earn one hundred percent like support all forms of work,
26:14
Speaker 1: including sex workers, So it's not coming from a place
26:17
Speaker 1: of judgment or anything. People just have different levels of
26:20
Speaker 1: comfort with what they want to go to and that's fine. Yeah,
26:24
Speaker 1: but I think like with that scenario, there are going
26:28
Speaker 1: to be people that don't necessarily feel comfortable with that,
26:30
Speaker 1: and that's okay, and you kind of have to expect
26:33
Speaker 1: that if that's what your birthday plans are. Yeah, kind
26:37
Speaker 1: of like with anything. It's like if you were planning
26:39
Speaker 1: something that's really expensive, Like if you were like, Okay, guys,
26:42
Speaker 1: we're going to Bali for my birthday, there's going to
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Speaker 1: be people that aren't comfortable spending that money or aren't
26:48
Speaker 1: comfortable going there, like that's just the situation.
26:52
Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 3: Or if you don't drink alcohol and your friend is
26:56
Speaker 3: having a birthday party at.
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Speaker 1: A boss brunch. Yeah, there's so many scenarios that you
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Speaker 1: can pull in to be like I'm not comfortable doing that.
27:05
Speaker 1: Like I wonder if she did maybe try to say,
27:08
Speaker 1: like I'm not comfortable going to this show, but can
27:12
Speaker 1: I take you out for dinner and we'll spend some
27:15
Speaker 1: really good quality time together And maybe that's like the
27:19
Speaker 1: result here in terms of being like I understand, but
27:23
Speaker 1: like I really don't think she can get mad at
27:26
Speaker 1: you for not being comfortable going to that show.
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Speaker 3: No, But I think as soon as somebody says, I'm
27:32
Speaker 3: not comfortable with something, whether it's your birthday or your
27:36
Speaker 3: hens night or whatever. That's where you just have to say, Okay,
27:39
Speaker 3: I understand.
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Speaker 1: I haven't ever been to one of those like magic
27:45
Speaker 1: Mike esque shows. Yeah, but I've seen some things on
27:48
Speaker 1: TikTok and in a lot of the shows they pull
27:51
Speaker 1: people up on the stage. Yeah. So I also like
27:55
Speaker 1: think that plays a massive part in it, because like
27:58
Speaker 1: if like imagine if she got pull it on the stage,
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Speaker 1: she'd be so uncomfortable.
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Speaker 2: I don't know what, like the what the show was.
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Speaker 1: Specific know what the show was, but I don't know
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Speaker 1: what like the protocol for that is. So I'm like,
28:09
Speaker 1: when they pull people up on stage, do they have
28:11
Speaker 1: to be like yes, I content, yeah, surely there's a
28:14
Speaker 1: lot of touching, and I would be like, don't fucking
28:17
Speaker 1: touch Yeah, I'm sure. Flipped, yeah, flipped.
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Speaker 3: I don't know.
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Speaker 1: Like, honestly, you've got like fucking sixty more birthdays at
28:28
Speaker 1: least if shes one, it's fucking fine, it'll be okay.
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Speaker 1: And yeah, I think when you're choosing something for your birthday,
28:36
Speaker 1: in any scenario, you run like the risk of people
28:41
Speaker 1: needing to align their values to that. Whether that's their
28:44
Speaker 1: values of spending, whether that's their values of what they're
28:46
Speaker 1: doing in their life, it doesn't matter.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, but yeah, you're not the asshole.
28:51
Speaker 1: No, no one's the asshole. Yeah. I don't think I
28:54
Speaker 1: could tell.
28:54
Speaker 2: Anyone they're the asshole.
28:55
Speaker 1: Maybe we would be able to dish out some tough love.
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Speaker 2: But head kiss. Well, that was fun. That was fun.
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Speaker 1: I can't wait to read through the rest of them.
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Speaker 2: I know Juicy part two.
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Speaker 1: Let us know if you liked this episode and we
29:08
Speaker 1: could do a part two.
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Speaker 2: Because there were so many more.
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Speaker 1: All right, chicks. Well, that is a wrap for today's
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Speaker 1: episode of Two Broke Two yolks, and thank you so
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Speaker 1: much for having us in your ear holes. We love
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Speaker 1: to be here. Am I the artshole for being in
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Speaker 1: your ear hols. Sorry, and thank you to MKA Made
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Speaker 1: for making this episode of two broad Chicks happen. We
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Speaker 1: love to be here. We'll see you one Thursday, and
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Speaker 3: We love you, love you, Bye bye bye